Episodes
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Welcome back, friend! I'm so glad you're joining me for today's episode, which dives into a deeply personal topic I’ve had to walk through myself. This isn’t something I talk about lightly—it's a question I hear often from my one-on-one coaching clients: "Why doesn’t God heal me?"
While I’m not addressing physical healing today, I want to talk about healing in terms of emotional pain and brokenness, and how it relates to our beliefs about God’s love for us. If you’ve ever wondered why you still carry pain or questioned if God is withholding healing, this conversation is for you. We’ll explore what it means to open our hearts and invite God into those difficult places, because healing starts with surrender.
Rooting for you,
Jessica
Next steps:
Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/
Work with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.coachjessica.com
Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop
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In today’s episode, we’re tackling a powerful and often misunderstood belief: the idea that God is punishing us for the challenges we face in life. Many of us feel guilty, thinking we deserve the hardships we're going through. But God's boundaries are set out of love, not punishment. Together we’ll explore the difference between discipline, consequence, and punishment, and how to break free from the cycle of self-condemnation. If you’ve ever felt like you need to "fix" yourself before coming to God, this episode will offer clarity, encouragement, and a fresh perspective.
Rooting for you,
Jessica
Next steps:
Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/
Work with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.coachjessica.com
Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop
Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal
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Have you ever set a boundary and then felt guilty afterward, wondering if you were now the "bad person" in someone else's story? In today's episode, we dive deep into that exact feeling—the guilt that comes with standing up for yourself. We explore why this happens, how pain and self-worth play a role, and what you can do to move past it. Setting boundaries is less about keeping people out and more about creating healthier, more respectful relationships—even if it sometimes feels uncomfortable.
Rooting for you,
Jessica
Next steps:
Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/
Work with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.coachjessica.com
Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop
Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal
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If you’ve ever found yourself saying, “I forgive them,” but still feel weighed down by lingering anger or hurt, this episode is for you. This week, I dive into the often-overlooked factor that keeps us stuck in the process of forgiveness: blame. As someone who struggled to forgive for years, I know this is a hard topic, but my story has offered me valuable insight into how we can move beyond blame and take responsibility for our healing journey.
Forgiveness doesn’t have to include carrying hurt with you forever. By releasing blame and taking responsibility for our healing, we can move forward with clarity and peace.
Rooting for you,
Jessica
Next steps:
Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/
Work with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.coachjessica.com
Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop
Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal
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If you've been dealing with mood swings, irritability, difficulty focusing, and/or chronic fatigue, there's a good chance that your nervous system is dysregulated. In this episode, I explore what it means to have a dysregulated nervous system, the signs to watch out for, and practical strategies for healing. I’ll also share some personal experiences and bonus tips to help you regulate your emotions and maintain your overall well-being.
Rooting for you,
Jessica
Next steps:
Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/
Work with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.coachjessica.com
Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop
Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal
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Are you tired of trying to keep everyone else happy while feeling like you’re losing yourself in the process? In this episode, I dive deep into why so many of us feel consumed by the need to make others happy, often at the cost of ourselves. I also explore the complex dynamics of people-pleasing, from both a psychological and spiritual perspective and offer practical insights on how to break free from this exhausting cycle.
Remember that your worth isn’t tied to how much you do for others. You matter because you are made in God’s image.
Rooting for you,
Jessica
Next steps:
Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/
Work with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.coachjessica.com
Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop
Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal
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If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by your feelings or unsure how to navigate them, this episode is for you. In this chat, I dive into the complex topic of processing emotions. We’ll explore practical, faith-based approaches to understanding and managing your emotions, and provide actionable steps to help you gain clarity and peace.
There is no one-size-fits-all approach, but if you write down your thoughts, name your feelings, and seek the truth of God's Word, you can begin to change your relationship with your emotions.
Rooting for you,
Jessica
Next steps:
Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/
Work with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.coachjessica.com
Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop
Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal
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“I bet you thought life wasn’t fair.” If you're a regular listener familiar with my family history, you can understand why someone would say this to me. And they're right - life isn't fair. But here's a different perspective: life in a broken world isn’t guaranteed fair or painless. However, God promises to be with you through it all.
This doesn’t mean your pain isn’t real or that life has been easy. It means you’re not chasing fairness; you’re pursuing righteousness. The world often tries to make us choose sides and see things in black and white, especially regarding pain and healing. But sometimes, healing can coexist with moments of pain, joy can mix with sorrow, and grief can accompany hope. You can transition from seeing yourself as a victim to recognizing yourself as a survivor.
Your heart changes when you focus on pursuing righteousness and what God calls you to do, rather than trying to understand everything. Faith isn’t about understanding; it’s about standing with God.
Rooting for you,
Jessica
Next steps:
Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/
Work with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.coachjessica.com
Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop
Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal
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I want to talk about something that is tough, but super important - forgiveness, reconciliation, and repentance.
For years, I struggled with what others expected me to do versus what God told me. It was a constant battle because these opinions came from people I deeply respected. But every time, something inside me stopped. It took years and some recent experiences to realize that this hesitation was God protecting me.
People often confuse forgiveness and reconciliation, thinking they’re the same thing. But they’re not. And repentance isn’t just about saying sorry to excuse bad behavior—it’s about truly changing. Forgiveness starts with God — it’s not just about saying, “I forgive you.” It’s about letting go of resentment while still acknowledging the pain.
Reconciliation, on the other hand, is like two people with drawbridges. Both have to be willing to lower their bridges to rebuild the connection. Trust isn’t instantly restored; it has to be earned and maintained.
Repentance means turning back to God. It’s a genuine response to godly sorrow, which is a profound recognition of our sins and shortcomings. This sorrow leads to repentance, changing our minds, hearts, and direction. It’s redemptive and life-giving, making us more receptive to God's grace and compassionate towards others.
No matter the relationship—whether it’s with a friend, family member, partner, or spouse—these three elements will always be part of the process if both people are willing to work on it.
Get my biblical study on forgiveness here!
Rooting for you,
Jessica
Next steps:
Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/
Work with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.coachjessica.com
Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop
Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal
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Are you dealing with pain, but you feel like no one acknowledges it? Maybe someone tells you that you're the problem, or someone you care about manipulates or gaslights you. It's easy to feel like you're the issue, thinking you're a burden or no one cares about you. When bad things happen, the last thing you want to do is face them head-on. It's much easier to shut down, isolate yourself, and distract yourself with food, movies, or endless scrolling.
Escaping reality feels better than dealing with pain. I know this because I used to escape pain by holding onto anger and pretending everything was okay. I kept myself busy to avoid thinking about it, hoping time would make it go away. But time alone doesn't heal; healing comes when we actively work through our pain over time.
In this episode, I share three key things I've learned about processing pain in a healthy way with God. Remember, there's a loving Father who cares deeply about your pain and is with you through every step of your healing journey.
Rooting for you,
Jessica
Next steps:
Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/
Work with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.coachjessica.com
Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop
Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal
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This episode is special because it's very personal—it's about me and my mom. For those of you who've been following me, you might know a bit of my story, but today I'm diving deeper. She and I had been estranged for 14 years, but that changed last month when I became her medical power of attorney. I hope my experience resonates with those facing similar struggles and offers insight into the importance of setting boundaries, managing expectations, and trusting God through the difficult process of forgiveness.
Rooting for you,
Jessica
Next steps:
Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/
Work with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.coachjessica.com
Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop
Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal
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The topic of today's episode is very personal because I've been learning lately through my relationship with God about letting go of offenses. It's about not letting myself think poorly of someone just because of how they react to my pain. It's tough, but our expectations of others often set us up for disappointment.
Sure, it's healthy to have expectations in relationships, but when I start needing others to fulfill my needs before turning to Jesus, things get tricky. Often, when we have expectations, we want others to fill a void or a need. But some days, I don’t even know what I need or feel, so how can I expect someone else to meet a need I haven't identified yet?
In relationships, it's natural to expect to be seen, heard and loved. However, relationships can be messy because they involve two imperfect people with different experiences and beliefs. Remember, their response to your decision is not yours to carry. What matters is how you respond.
Rooting for you,
Jessica
Next steps:
Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/
Work with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.coachjessica.com
Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop
Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal
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If you're a Christian, or even if you've just considered it, you've likely wrestled with feeling like you need to get better before God will accept you. Why would you expect God to forgive you if you can't even forgive yourself?
This mindset leads to isolation from God and others who might hurt us again. However, when we forgive ourselves, we heal through compassion—not self-centered compassion, but one led by the Holy Spirit. A healthy relationship with ourselves begins with a healthy relationship with God. If we judge ourselves based on our performance rather than His grace, we end up living under guilt and condemnation.
It's about finding the balance—being kind to ourselves without being self-indulgent, being proud without being prideful, and saying kind things about ourselves without being conceited. Practically speaking, as we practice receiving God's compassion and grace, we'll see His goodness in our daily efforts.
Rooting for you,
Jessica
Next steps:
Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/
Work with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.coachjessica.com
Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop
Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal
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Ever found yourself letting someone say or do whatever they wanted to you, even when it felt wrong? Or maybe you’ve kept someone or something in your life longer than you should have because confronting it felt too overwhelming. It’s often easier to endure the pain of staying silent than to face the discomfort of speaking up.
Setting boundaries requires understanding who we are in Christ, dealing with our pain, and communicating clearly. They are essential for true, genuine love in relationships, allowing us to connect while protecting our well-being. It’s not about making rules but fostering healthy, respectful relationships.
Rooting for you,
Jessica
Next steps:
Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/
Work with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.coachjessica.com
Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop
Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal
Email me at >> [email protected] -
Have you ever felt that what people say or do to you defines who you are? We often conflate actions — whether ours or others’— with our identity. For example, if you make a mistake, you might think that makes you a bad person. This is a natural, but misleading way to view ourselves. What if you viewed yourself through the lens of God's love rather than your actions? In this episode, I talk about understanding shame, personal growth through humility, the role of negative emotions, and processing guilt and repentance.
Think about how you’ve internalized comments or actions. What would it look like to separate your actions from who you are? Recognizing this distinction can lead to a healthier self-view and a deeper relationship with God.
Rooting for you,
Jessica
Next steps:
Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/
Work with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.coachjessica.com
Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop
Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal
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Generally, we spend a lot of time and energy thinking about what we eat. But have you considered that you might not be eating enough? In this episode, I delve into the profound impact of food on our mood and overall well-being with Leanne Vogel, a certified holistic nutritionist and functional blood chemistry specialist.
Our conversation includes the prevalence of under-eating, how nutritional deficiencies affect our mental health, the impact chronic stress can have on adrenal function and cortisol production, and the emotional challenges tied to eating. We also offer some practical steps to increase caloric intake and discuss how mineral supplementation can help get your system back in balance.
Rooting for you,
Jessica
Next steps:
Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/
Work with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.coachjessica.com
Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop
Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal
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Have you ever thought, "I'm doing the right thing. Why is this happening to me?" Many of us believe that being a Christian shields us from suffering, but that is not the case. In this episode, I dive into why pain still occurs, how to navigate grief, and the importance of forgiveness in the healing process.
Pain is inevitable, but it doesn't have to turn into resentment. Embrace the journey of forgiveness and trust God's presence through every trial.
Rooting for you,
Jessica
Next steps:
Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/
Work with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.coachjessica.com
Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop
Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal
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We often find ourselves burdened by the weight of responsibilities, expectations, and fears, striving to "keep it all together." But what happens when we allow ourselves to acknowledge that we might not be okay? What if we let go and trust that God is with us through it all?
Letting go and trusting God is a journey that requires faith and intentionality. By acknowledging our limits, seeking God's presence, and taking care of our physical and emotional health, we can find the peace and strength to stop trying to hold it all together.
Rooting for you,
Jessica
Next steps:
Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/
Work with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.coachjessica.com
Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop
Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal
Email me at >> [email protected] -
God doesn’t tell us never to have emotions. However, when we choose to abide in our emotions and listen to them without reason, we learn the fruit of that is strife, jealousy, anger, and things like these as shared in Galatians.
In this episode, I talk about how we move through our feelings so our emotions don’t control us. Navigating our emotions biblically and practically involves blending spiritual wisdom with tangible actions. This means taking time to honestly reflect on our feelings, allowing us to address them with humility and openness.
Integrating biblical principles with practical strategies empowers us to handle our emotions with grace, resilience, and a firm trust in God's plan.
Rooting for you,
Jessica
Next steps:
Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/
Work with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.jessicahottle.com/mental-health-coaching
Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop
Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal
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Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you desperately needed to take care of yourself, but the overwhelming feelings of guilt and shame held you back? This struggle is real, and many of us have experienced it. But why do we find it so hard to prioritize our well-being?
A healthy relationship with ourselves stems from a healthy relationship with God. What we believe about God we will believe about ourselves and then live as though we believe it.
In this episode, I discuss how misunderstanding scripture has led us to deny our emotions, feelings, desires, and wants - especially with our bodies. I also give you a few questions to process throughout the week to help reframe your thinking around the meaning and value of true self-care.
Rooting for you,
Jessica
Next steps:
Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/
Work with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.jessicahottle.com/mental-health-coaching
Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop
Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal
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