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Welcome to episode 9, season 2 of the Woman Uncaged podcast! This week's episode was inspired by the book The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control by Katherine Morgan Schafler. This episode is especially for you uncaged women out there who have ever been called "perfectionists" (and not in a positive way) or who have struggled with letting go of this aspect of yourself. What if you didn't have to?
We dive into:
- What if perfectionism isn't an obstacle that we need to overcome?
- How men are rarely, if ever, called perfectionists in a derogatory way
- How perfectionism relates to exceptionalism and how our society tells women it's better to embrace being mediocre
- Maladaptive vs. adaptive perfectionism
- How perfectionism can be a strength, if we work with it
- What is needed for those who have experienced or seen their perfectionism as an obstacle to transform it into an ally?
- Setting intentions vs. goals and why we need both
- How society benefits from maintaining our focus on end goals and ignoring the pleasure of the process
- The 5 different types of perfectionism as identified by Ms. Schafler
- The importance of creating nourishing structures in our lives
- The problem of seeing maladaptive perfectionism as a immutable identity
- Why both Laura and I hate the idea of "how you do one thing is how you do everything"
- How Laura's new offering of Stop Hitting Snooze with Laura and Suze is perfect for perfectionists who struggle with starting or finishing new projects
Resources:
The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control by Katherine Morgan Schafler: https://www.amazon.com/Perfectionists-Guide-Losing-Control-Peace/dp/059332952X
Ira Glass: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=91FQKciKfHI
Laura's New Offering:
Stop Hitting Snooze with Laura and Suze: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1uF_cdWN_nrV2Crtk3ry6TOFaoyHQaeIXw6Etg0FWCoc/edit?usp=sharing~Linda's website: https://singingbirdcoaching.com/ ~Laura's Monday Money Missives: https://goodwithmoney.substack.com/
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Welcome to Episode 8 of Season 2 of the Woman Uncaged Podcast.
We talk about the lifestyle and aesthetic of #tradwife.
Why has it become so popular?
Why is this a choice that women are making?
What aspects are appealing?
What is the role of the patriarchy here?
We reference:
Trevor Noah's podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-trad-wife-paradox-with-anne-helen-petersen/id1710609544?i=1000666979786
Anne Helen Peterson's substack Culture Study: https://annehelen.substack.com/
The book: Myth of Normal by Gabor Mate.
How about you, dear listener? What do you think about #tradwife. Text us or email us and let us know your thoughts: [email protected].~Linda's website: https://singingbirdcoaching.com/ ~Laura's Monday Money Missives: https://goodwithmoney.substack.com/
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Welcome to Episode 7 of season 2 of the Woman Uncaged podcast! In this week's episode we have a very special guest joining us: The Nope Coach herself, Suzanne Culberg, speaking about how to create a truly uncaged business.
We dive into:
- When Suzanne felt like she lost the fun in her business and how she reclaimed it
- Why we leave the 9-5 only to work 24/7
- How getting busy with clients can lead us to us forgetting to market, creating seasons of feast or famine
- Going from a cog to CEO (Chief EVERYTHING Officer)
- Why it is imperative to know why you are going into business to begin with and remembering that throughout the journey
- How so much of coaching feels like it has become an MLM
- The nature of exchange and why we might want to question the modern dream of making boatloads of money by doing nothing
- Finding your own sustainable rhythm
- How work can easily start to fill all your hours as an entrepreneur and other traps we fall into
- The importance of finding right-fit clients and the perils of having an agenda for our clients
Books Mentioned:
Helen Luke, The Woman of Woman: Awakening the Perennial Feminine
Rob Bell, Where'd You Park Your Spaceship Series Book 2
Where to find out more about Suzanne:
Website: https://www.suzanneculberg.com/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@suzanneculberg~Linda's website: https://singingbirdcoaching.com/ ~Laura's Monday Money Missives: https://goodwithmoney.substack.com/
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Welcome to the Woman Uncaged Podcast Season 2, Episode 6!
Today we're talking about what makes for a well-lived life, which was inspired by the article "The Mondays We've Got Left" on We're all Getting Older, a substack Laura reads regularly, by Lou Blaser. You can read that article here: https://open.substack.com/pub/loublaser/p/how-many-mondays-left?r=blsi2&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web (Laura mistakenly referred to the source as "Oldster" which is another Substack she reads regularly.)
We refer to Jodi Wellman and her work. Her website is: https://fourthousandmondays.com/
We talk about:
-our own definitions of living wide and deep.
-Jodi's axes and where we fall
-what does it mean to be astonishingly alive and when have we felt that way?
-the role meaning making plays
-experiencing our lives fully
-the role of softness
-how we feel about the idea of counting our Mondays
-where does our feeling of vitality come from?
-the joy of recognizing glimmers
What are your thoughts? Are you meaningfully bored or astonishingly alive? Write to us, and tell us! We would love to hear. Text us at the link above, or email us here: [email protected].~Linda's website: https://singingbirdcoaching.com/ ~Laura's Monday Money Missives: https://goodwithmoney.substack.com/
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Welcome to episode 5, season 2 of the Woman Uncaged podcast! This week's episode was inspired by a song called Healing is Not My Purpose by Toni Jones (available via Spotify here: https://open.spotify.com/track/3YjTY55wEzj5PJXexonZPj?si=7b28501a392c49a3 )
"The healing should be in service to living." - Laura
In this episode, we explore:
- How our addiction to self-improvement leaves so much joy and life on the table
- Why so many of us get stuck in healing and how it is perpetuated in our culture
- How healing can be a distraction. What is it a distraction from, and in what way?
- Why it's not enough to talk about what we are shifting, we actually have to embody and experience it
- How small talk and inane conversation can be meaningful and connecting
- Letting go of needing everything to be a growth experience
- Why labels, personality tests, astrology etc. can be terribly constraining of our human experience
- The distraction of "why"
- Making friends with the continually unfolding journey and how this relates to healing and holding our potential lightly
The other song mentioned was Closer to Fine by Indigo Girls: https://open.spotify.com/track/7rKyITVLEwldhdXIy7P6Vw?si=67d976c78fec40fa~Linda's website: https://singingbirdcoaching.com/ ~Laura's Monday Money Missives: https://goodwithmoney.substack.com/
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Welcome to episode 4 of season 2!
The pressure to choose one area of focus, or one passion, can have a paralyzing effect, and therefore, become part of the patriarchal cage. In this episode we talk about what it means to be multipassionate, and why it's important to embrace your multipassionate self.
We explore:
-Why is purpose almost always tied up with what we do for work?
-Why is "what do you do?" the predominate question we ask others when we meet them? (and how do you answer that if you're multipassionate)
-Linda's experimentation with being an unapologetic Renaissance woman.
-What makes something a business vs. a non-business income stream.
-How our inner good girl interferes in our getting our need met in barter relationships.
-The gentle idea of titration vs. constantly throwing ourselves in the deep end.
The book Laura references is The 4 Hour Work Week by Tim Ferriss.
Link to Monday Money Missive about asking for money that Linda references: https://goodwithmoney.substack.com/p/is-it-right-to-charge-someone-for.
What are your thoughts? Are you multi-passionate? How have you made it work for you? Write to us, and tell us! We would love to hear. Email us: [email protected].~Linda's website: https://singingbirdcoaching.com/ ~Laura's Monday Money Missives: https://goodwithmoney.substack.com/
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Welcome to Episode 3, Season 2 of the Woman Uncaged podcast! In this episode, Linda speaks with artist and coach Karen Light about Why Creativity Matters (beloved co-host Laura was on vacay while this episode was recorded!).
"Relaxation is the best friend of creativity." - Karen Light
Karen and Linda dive into:
- Creativity and how it often overlaps with being multi passionate
- How Karen defines creativity (hint: it includes, but goes beyond, art)
- Why Karen believes every creative act is a revolutionary act
- What do we receive as individuals and collectively from unleashing our creativity
- How we are enlarged through the PROCESS of creating
- The relationship between creativity and agency, and WHY creativity is crucial as we begin to move out of our Good Girl energy
- Why visuals can help us to dismantle our inner cages
- What if we came into the world naturally wanting to be creative and make art, but it is blocked over time
- Why creativity requires a sense of safety and how do we cultivate that for ourselves and others
- How creativity allows us to meet one another as human beings
- Why creativity isn't always "on" and how to recognize that and step back into a more creative space
Where to Find Karen:
Website: HowDoodle.com and make sure to sign up for the newsletter
LinkedIn : Karen Light
Resources Mentioned:David Whyte quote from Consolations: "What is worthy of a life's dedication does not want to be known by us in ways that diminish its actual sense of presence."
Karelian Lament Singing: https://www.yesmagazine.org/democracy/2017/05/16/how-an-ancient-singing-tradition-helps-people-cope-with-trauma-in-the-modern-world
~Linda's website: https://singingbirdcoaching.com/ ~Laura's Monday Money Missives: https://goodwithmoney.substack.com/
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Welcome to Episode 2, Season 2 of the Woman Uncaged Podcast! In today's episode we dive into the topic of relationships and are they as much work as we are led to believe?!
Topics and questions we discuss include...- What if relationships are not meant to be work, but rather the antidote to it?
- Laura's perspective as a former therapist (where many come to work on their relationships)
- Replacing "working" on our relationships with "cultivating" more joyous relationships, and how those two things feel different
- Tending our relationships and how life's seasons may shift what that looks like
- Finding rest in relationships that are working
- Why do women tend to speak about working on relationships more often than men?
- How do we grow nourishing relationships in our lives?
- Getting out of practice at this whole relationship thing during the pandemic!
- Relationships are inconvenient and perhaps they are supposed to be..
- Getting clear on what really matters to you and how that impacts your relationships
- A lack of community is not your fault, but it is your responsibility
Resources Mentioned:
Pulling the Thread with Elise Loehnen
Interview with Carol Gilligan: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2TNciETcalMFKKFETgRjKi?si=cccfb186dc844820
Interview with Niobe Way:
https://open.spotify.com/episode/2SbfE8m0hJvMm4ODs9KYk0?si=a2e7731a799d4bd6Learn More About Blue Zones: https://www.bluezones.com/
Sign up for the Sistermind Roundtable here: https://sistermindroundtable.substack.com/. You won't be added to any business lists, and we keep our emails to a minimum.
~Linda's website: https://singingbirdcoaching.com/ ~Laura's Monday Money Missives: https://goodwithmoney.substack.com/
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in the midst of being bombarded by patriarchal messages like "women shouldn't be allowed to get an education until they've had two babies" and if you're a single woman, you have "no direct stake in the future" of the US, how do we cultivate and maintain our own unwavering self-belief and self-worth?
That's what we dive into in Season 2, Episode 1.
We talk about:
The two types of goals and how we can use one of them to cultivate and strengthen our self-belief.
How we can create conditions in which it's more likely that we're going to arrive at our outcome goals.
Why doing is an important component of mindset work.
How perfectionism gets in the way of creating, and can block us, and how important it is to allow your creations to suck (especially at the beginning).
Linda's recent experimentation with water color painting, and her revelation about enjoying the process.
Ira Glass's video "The Gap." (Google it- it's awesome!)
How identity and self-belief are intertwined.
Bringing relationships from Zoom into the real world, and the challenge of meeting people in real life.
How the unrelenting criticism of women makes all of this harder, and what we see as the antidote.
The Simone Biles documentary on Netflix, and how smiling and laughing impacts performance.
What are your thoughts? How do you nurture your self-belief? Write to us, and tell us! We would truly love to hear. Email us: [email protected].~Linda's website: https://singingbirdcoaching.com/ ~Laura's Monday Money Missives: https://goodwithmoney.substack.com/
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Welcome to the 23rd episode of Woman Uncaged with Linda Katz and Laura Gates-Lupton
For kids, fun is a priority and their main motivator. So where does that go? Why, as adults, does fun have be slotted into "left over" time? Where did the freedom, that our younger selves thought we'd have as adults, go?
What is worth doing just for you? With no need for a particular outcome?
How does striving for a specific end goal strip our lives of fun?
How do we create fun in our adult lives? What are the conditions that allow for fun and spontaneity?
How do we re-envision adulthood?
Linda mentions Bill Plotkin's book Wild Mind: A Field Guide to the Human Psyche.
While we take a break between this season and the next, we invite you to join us in being flowful! Let's all make more space for fun and please let us know what you did with that space. We would truly love to hear. Email us at [email protected].
Thanks for being with us for Season One. We'll be back in a few weeks with Season Two!~Linda's website: https://singingbirdcoaching.com/ ~Laura's Monday Money Missives: https://goodwithmoney.substack.com/
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Welcome to episode 22 of the Woman Uncaged Podcast!
We discuss:- Recent examples of the invisibility of women
- How women's invisibility impacts our physical wellness
- How patriarchy attempts to control women in myriad ways, including the how a bill was blocked that would protect access to contraception
- How certain people's opinions DO matter more depending on the issue
- Women and the medical system (the mystery of menopause, the success of female surgeons, and more!)
- The invisible and unconscious bias against women
- A hidden perk of being invisible to the patriarchal gaze
- The invitation to step into greater assertiveness as we age and why this can be so difficult
- How we are taught to be disempowered
- The stripping away of choice is a stripping away of power
Resources Mentioned:
Article by Lyz Lenz: https://lyz.substack.com/p/axis-of-snivel
And some actual info on the representation of women's issues in health research funding: https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/underfunding-research-female-health-leaves-huge-money-mesk%C3%B3-md-phd/
As always, we'd love it if you would share your thoughts about this episode with us. You can email us at [email protected].
We love hearing from you!~Linda's website: https://singingbirdcoaching.com/ ~Laura's Monday Money Missives: https://goodwithmoney.substack.com/
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Welcome to episode 21 of the Woman Uncaged Podcast!
We discuss:- Linda shares how she has started bringing the energy of work into so many areas of her life (working on ourselves, our bodies, our pets, our kids, our relationships...so much work!)
- How a desired end state that we are trying to engineer our way towards can infuse life with that work energy
- How work can be addictive even when it leads to burnout and exhaustion
- Allowing play to spontaneously emerge from boredom
- How the drive to treat everything like work is both an inner cage and outer cage
- Wanting others to see us as hard workers
- Feeling like our time and money don't belong to us and how that restricts our sense of agency
- Our implicit expectations of life when we've been doing everything "right"
- Laura shares the Comfy Chair Exercise by Michael Neill and how she used it in her own life
- How the energy of work blocks not only play, but also intuition, connection, magic, and synchronicity
Resources Mentioned:
The Artist's Way by Julia Cameron
Finding Meaning in the Second Half of Life by James Hollis
As always, we'd love it if you would share your thoughts about this episode with us. You can email us at [email protected].
We love hearing from you!~Linda's website: https://singingbirdcoaching.com/ ~Laura's Monday Money Missives: https://goodwithmoney.substack.com/
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Welcome to episode 20 of the Woman Uncaged Podcast!
We discuss:
-Is it a midlife crisis or a midlife questioning?
-How failing to listen to the deeper questions and the deeper yearnings, may move us into crisis mode or physical symptoms.
-How does the male version differ from the female version?
-What are the opportunities of this stage?
-And what are the questions?
-How stuff doesn't make up a life.
-The difference of grief as an emotion vs. grief as a story.
-Midlife as its own developmental phase.
-Looking for role models.
-The myth of fixed identity.
-How to ride the wave of change.
-Bringing some adventure into mature adulthood.
As always, we'd love it if you would share your thoughts about this episode with us. You can email us at [email protected].
We love hearing from you!
Linda's website: https://singingbirdcoaching.com/
Laura's Monday Money Missives: https://www.dearlaura.net/letters~Linda's website: https://singingbirdcoaching.com/ ~Laura's Monday Money Missives: https://goodwithmoney.substack.com/
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Welcome to episode 19 of the Woman Uncaged podcast! In this week's episode, we use a topic that has been popping up in several of Laura's coaching sessions recently as a jumping off point to talk about money, relationships, reenvisioning work, and more.
We cover:
- Women in heterosexual marriages where the husband works a full-time job that he feels trapped in and the response is to want his wife to get a job and jump in the trap too
- Different work configurations Laura and Linda have experienced in their relationships, including Sophie's wisdom regarding the split between money and meaning
- What cultural drivers and gender biases could be contributing to husbands' desire for their wives to get back to a traditional "job" (when the finances don't require it)
- How the idea that "more is always better" keeps us trapped and adhering to the status quo
- How the fear of the unknown plays a part in our lives and relationships and how that relates to identity
- The issues around our current model of putting off joy till retirement aka when the work is done
- Redefining the whole darn idea of work and opting out of the matrix!
As always, we'd love it if you would share your thoughts about this episode with us. You can email us at [email protected].
We love hearing from you!~Linda's website: https://singingbirdcoaching.com/ ~Laura's Monday Money Missives: https://goodwithmoney.substack.com/
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In our 18th episode of the Woman Uncaged Podcast, Laura welcomes a special guest to the Woman Uncaged Podcast. Julie Falatko is an award-winning, prolific children's author, who also teaches online classes, and writes a fabulous newsletter on Substack called Do The Work.
Julie and I discuss:
-what counts as "work"
-does work have to be hard and unenjoyable?
-why do we feel guilty when we enjoy work?
-why do we value the misery of work over the joy?
-the question Julie asked herself that has led to her joyful productivity
-Julie's writing process and the challenges of writing
-how writing takes time, including that Julie's next book Help Wanted: One Rooster took 10 years to be published
-Julie's desire that we get off social media and write those great books we're always thinking about writing
-how your writing, and your creativity, is not a corporate agenda
We mention these books:
Sacred Success by Barbara Stanny Huson
Filterworld: HOW ALGORITHMS FLATTENED CULTURE By Kyle Chayka
I also mentioned an article I thought was called "The Blanding of America." I was wrong about that. I confused the article with another I had read in the NY Times called "America, the Bland" and another in the Boston Globe called "The Blanding of America." The actual article I was referring to is called "The Age of Average" by Alex Murrell. It's fascinating and worth the read!
Julie's website: https://juliefalatko.com/
Julie's Substack (which I highly recommend): https://juliefalatko.substack.com/
Laura's Monday Money Missives: https://www.dearlaura.net/letters
As always, we'd love it if you would share your thoughts about this episode with us. You can email us at [email protected].
We love hearing from you!~Linda's website: https://singingbirdcoaching.com/ ~Laura's Monday Money Missives: https://goodwithmoney.substack.com/
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Welcome to episode 17 of the Woman Uncaged Podcast. This conversation was prompted by newsletter that Laura wrote, of which the subject line was very similar to this episode! (You can read that Monday Missive here, if you wish: https://us17.campaign-archive.com/?u=ed5e7ea6928f28b2d95ef8fb3&id=d77933f7a0.)
We talk about:
-the struggles we've had as women in business when it comes to promoting ourselves, and why it is that every single time we do, people unsubscribe from our lists.
-why it's important that we acknowledge and embrace the fact that, yes, we are in business to make money
-how we can all move past the idea that it's virtuous as a women to be self-less
-why our circle of care needs to include us and isn't a binary choice
-the discomfort of having needs
-how we've separated money from the relational
-how having models helps and normalizes asking for money
-the ways we've been taught to let others reward us, rather than asserting our needs
-how we can support other women in business
-how important it is to fill our cups in order to face unsubscribes (or other "rejection")
-the truth about entrepreneurship (it's not as glamourous as IG might have you believe)
-Helen Luke's book: The Way of Woman
If you missed our Sistermind Roundtable on Visibility for Women in Business, at which we both spoke, you can listen to the private podcast replay: https://podcasts.bcast.fm/sistermind-private-podcast/fd9ba910-bb21-11ee-a5eb-836300e9cabb
or watch us (and our fellow presenters) here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y3piDKTWxL8.
Linda's website: https://singingbirdcoaching.com/
Laura's Monday Money Missives: https://www.dearlaura.net/letters
As always, we'd love it if you would share your thoughts about this episode with us. You can email us at [email protected].
We love hearing from you!~Linda's website: https://singingbirdcoaching.com/ ~Laura's Monday Money Missives: https://goodwithmoney.substack.com/
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Welcome to the 16th episode of the Woman Uncaged Podcast with Laura Gates-Lupton and Linda Katz! Today we are diving into women DOING. SO. MUCH.
In this episode, Linda shares why she fell apart when Ursa's dog food order was late (as her husband said, "I don't think this is just about the dog food...") and Laura speaks about feeling proud of herself for cancelling brunch.
Other topics we explore include:
- When you're you doing so much and yet it still never feels like enough
- Why we need to carve out space to ADD what feels nourishing and exciting
- Why time management isn't enough and might actually be problematic in itself!
- The fear of letting balls drop
- What are the expectations that we put on ourselves and that society puts on us that lead us to a place of burnout?
- Why talking about "perennial problems" isn't just complaining and is actually vital
- Looking to male models doesn't work (sorry Cal Newport!)
- How we need the flexibility to meet what arises and what that has to do with releasing control
- Discerning and knowing what matters to us is key to preventing doing too much
We refer to:
- This song by Trevor Hall and Emory Hall about letting go of the old story: https://open.spotify.com/track/0yjJg8qTkgYuD2bvt4kKZl?si=15416ee86fca4dc3
- Slow Productivity and Deep Work by Cal Newport: https://calnewport.com/
Come see us live at our next Sistermind Roundtable!
We will be speaking, along with four other amazing women, on the topic of Visibility for Women in Business. The six of us will each present for 10 minutes, followed by 15 minutes of Q & A.
When: April 24 at 3:30 - 4:45 pm EDT
Where: via Zoom
Register here: https://larisanoonan.myflodesk.com/roundtable
This is a free, no-pitch, no-sell event and you will not be added to any other business email list. Please spread the word! We would love to see a world in which women are no longer afraid to be fully visible.
As always, share your thoughts about this episode with us! You can email us at [email protected]. We'd love to hear from you!
Linda's website: https://singingbirdcoaching.com/
Laura's Monday Money Missives: https://www.dearlaura.net/letters~Linda's website: https://singingbirdcoaching.com/ ~Laura's Monday Money Missives: https://goodwithmoney.substack.com/
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Welcome to the 15th episode of the Woman Uncaged Podcast with Laura Gates-Lupton and Linda Katz! This episode was inspired by this quote:
"Men are afraid that women will laugh at them. Women are afraid that men will kill them." Margaret Atwood, 1982
We dive into:
Why the fears you feel, as a woman, aren't irrational.
Why it's so hard to be brave and be seen.
Why this isn't an individual issue.
What the root of the fear is.
What "feel the fear and do it anyway" really means.
How can we more fully resource ourselves.
Who is allowed to be visible?
What are the costs of our fear?
Who is worthy of protection?
Our thoughts regarding Martha Stewart on the cover of Sports Illustrated in a bikini.
How power has been divorced from feelings.
How the power women desire looks different, and how to further redefine it.
What does power with and power to look like in the workplace?
How do we redefine leadership?
How do we step into our power?
How do we safely increase our visibility?
Linda's "code word" story.
We refer to:
Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers, PhD (sorry, Susan! I misspoke and pronounced your last name as "Jeffries" in this episode. My apologies! ~Laura)
Come see us live at our next Sistermind Roundtable!
We will be speaking, along with four other amazing women, on the topic of Visibility for Women in Business. The six of us will each present for 10 minutes, followed by 15 minutes of Q & A.
When: April 24 at 3:30 - 4:45 pm EDT
Where: via Zoom
Register here: https://larisanoonan.myflodesk.com/roundtable
This is a free, no-pitch, no-sell event and you will not be added to any other business email list. Please spread the word! We would love to see a world in which women are no longer afraid to be fully visible.
As always, share your thoughts about this episode with us! You can email us at [email protected]. We'd love to hear from you!~Linda's website: https://singingbirdcoaching.com/ ~Laura's Monday Money Missives: https://goodwithmoney.substack.com/
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Welcome to the 14th episode of the Woman Uncaged Podcast with Laura Gates-Lupton and Linda Katz! In this episode we talk about how to cultivate radical self-trust and why that is such a pivotal part of living an uncaged life.
We explore and discuss:
- The role that self-trust plays in claiming our own freedom
- How patriarchy breeds distrust in ourselves that has us outsourcing our knowing
- Being sold someone else's formula for life
- How unearthing your own rhythms relates to self-trust
- Why hearing our own deepest, most soulful voice clearly is vital (and why coaching can be a powerful aspect of that!)
- How our sense of self-trust is eroded, by ourselves or others
- Keeping promises to ourselves
- THE BEST question to ask to lead us back into our self-knowing and self-trust
- The cycle of self-trust and how we can strengthen this muscle with two simple, daily practices
Resources Mentioned:
Laura's Content Writers' Creation Circle: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1a6cGwg1ttpSciUwVyYrzT3XNFXTT0Jkk4tafMjHJUpE/edit
Quotes Mentioned:
"Don't talk about being true to myself
until you are sure
to what voice you are being true."
- Marion Woodman from Coming Home to Myself
Questions? Thoughts? Emails us at [email protected]. We love to hear from you!~Linda's website: https://singingbirdcoaching.com/ ~Laura's Monday Money Missives: https://goodwithmoney.substack.com/
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Welcome to the 13th episode of the Woman Uncaged Podcast with Laura Gates-Lupton and Linda Katz! In this episode we talk about how necessary it is to center our own happiness and success, in order to be uncaged, and how difficult that can be in heterosexual relationships.
"What I’m asking women to do is to center their own happiness and center their success in a way that is radical. And probably going to be deeply destabilizing for their relationships.” Lyz Lenz
We explore and discuss:
-How do we center our own happiness and our success, in the context of relationships?
-What does this mean for our partners?
-How do we find freedom in the context of our relationships?
-The metaphor of keeping our own candles lit.
-How do we create a sense of wholeness for ourselves?
-What role does self-defining play?
-Why the notion of "stolen moments" and "guilty pleasures" piss us off!
-How do we still value relationships and also center our own happiness?
-How do we know what we most want and claim that?
-How do we split the load (both visible and invisible) with our partners without phrasing it as "asking for help?"
Linda talks about setting up her life in a way that furthers her goals and what she loves.
"And the truth is, if your doing so rocks the boat, then you are in somebody else's boat. You're not the captain of your boat." ~Laura Gates-Lupton
Laura tells the story of the time she confused her family with her Mother's Day plans.We mentioned (and recommend):
This American Ex-Wife by Lyz Lenz
Virginia Sole-Smith's Substack: https://virginiasolesmith.substack.com/p/is-heterosexual-marriage-a-diet
How about you? Where do you struggle with this? What have you figured out that works for you? What terms do you use instead of "asking for help?" We'd love to hear from you. Email us: [email protected]~Linda's website: https://singingbirdcoaching.com/ ~Laura's Monday Money Missives: https://goodwithmoney.substack.com/
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