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Hey friends, it’s Chelsea, and in today’s episode of *Better Relationships After Baby, we’re discussing the five must-have conversations every couple should have before bringing a baby into the world. Having a baby is one of the most life-changing experiences, but if you’re not communicating about the big stuff—division of labor, sleep schedules, finances, parenting philosophies, and even boundaries with family—it can bring unnecessary stress into your relationship.
I’m sharing my insights on why these talks are so essential, plus practical tips on how to approach them without feeling overwhelmed. Trust me, you don’t want to wait until you’re knee-deep in dirty diapers and sleepless nights to hash these things out!
If you’ve been feeling like you and your partner could use a little extra support in navigating these conversations, I also touch on how coaching can play a huge role in guiding you through it all. Remember, you don’t have to be 100% prepared to be great parents—you just need to open the door for clear communication and adaptability. Let’s talk about how to do just that.
So grab your partner and tune in, because these are the conversations you *need* to have before that baby arrives!
03:35 Preparing for Parenthood: Key Conversations
06:37 Division of Labor and Parenting Roles
09:18 Navigating Sleep Schedules and Nighttime Responsibilities
12:05 Exploring Parenting Philosophies
15:18 Financial Planning and Budgeting for New Parents
17:58 Setting Boundaries with Extended Family
21:04 The Role of Coaching in Parenting Conversations
Do you want to have these conversations with the guidance of expert support? Schedule a free exploration call with me to learn more about how I help couples prepare for a baby by building strong communication and teamwork:
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When was the last time you really, intentionally showed appreciation to your partner?
Are there times you ASSUME they know what you love and appreciate about them, but haven't displayed or talked about it?
In this episode, we'll explore how easily we can take our partners for granted and how learning to show appreciation, in our partner's preferred way, can shift the dynamic towards a more fulfilling connection. Chelsea breaks down the process of building a culture of appreciation, discussing the role of communication, love languages, and coaching in fostering emotional connection and personal growth within your marriage or relationship.
Listen in and reflect on your patterns, explore the balance between resentment and appreciation, and begin the journey towards a more intentional, joyful relationship.
Whether you're looking to improve communication or deepen your emotional connection, this episode offers valuable insights and actionable steps toward personal and relational fulfillment.
Chapters
00:00 The Gift of Journaling and Reflection
05:11 Appreciation in Relationships
09:50 Building a Culture of Appreciation
12:25 Navigating Resentment and Appreciation
14:29 The Journey to Self-Appreciation
16:37 Rediscovering Beauty in Everyday Moments
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In this episode, I dive into the importance of couples' friendships and how they can have a huge impact on both your individual well-being and the overall health of your relationship. I talk about how crucial community support is and the incredible value of having friends who are truly invested in your family. I also share practical tips for building those meaningful couples' friendships, like setting goals together, finding local networks, hosting gatherings, and showing genuine interest in getting to know other couples.
Whether you feel insecure about making new connections or you're not sure where to start, I encourage you to take small, intentional steps today. And if you need a bit more support along the way, I offer coaching to help you work through any feelings of insecurity or disconnection. It’s all about making the effort and embracing vulnerability to foster those meaningful connections that can enrich your life and your relationship.
Learn more about coaching with me: www.calendly.com/chelseaskaggs/coaching-exploration
00:00 The Importance of Couples' Friendships
06:05 Building a Supportive Community
08:53 Positive Role Models for Your Children
11:41 Tips for Building Couples' Friendships
16:18 Taking Small Steps Towards Building Friendships
17:13 Coaching Support for Insecurity and Lack of Connection
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In this episode, I sit down with my eight-year-old son, Emerson, for an honest chat about family, business, and marriage. We dive into the ups and downs of being both a mom and a business owner, exploring how I’ve learned to set boundaries and prioritize what truly matters. I also share some personal insights from my journey and offer a free workshop on building a business that supports your marriage. We talk about finding the balance between chasing your dreams and being present for your family, and how to create a business that aligns with your values and strengthens your relationships.
Tune in to hear how we navigate the unique challenges of motherhood and entrepreneurship, and why making memories with your family is just as important as pursuing your passions.
Register for the (Free) Workshop: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/1004597727847?aff=oddtdtcreator
Schedule a free call to learn more about coaching:
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00:00Introduction and the Importance of Including Children in the Conversation
08:25The Challenges of Being a Mother and a Business Owner
09:49Chelsea's Journey and Lessons Learned
12:42Creating a Business that Supports Your Family
13:34Setting Boundaries and Knowing Your Values
14:32Join Chelsea's Workshop on Building a Business that Works for Your Marriage
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In this episode, I dive into the critical topic of parental stress and its profound impact on both individuals and families. Drawing attention to the U.S. Surgeon General's recent statement, I discuss why parental stress is recognized as a significant public health issue.
I've been there—feeling overwhelmed and constantly comparing myself to other moms online, which only fueled my stress and sense of inadequacy. Through my own experiences, I’ve learned the importance of prioritizing self-care and building a strong support network. Letting go of the unrealistic pursuit of perfection and instead embracing what truly works for your family is key to finding peace and joy in parenting.
In this episode, I encourage open conversations about the real challenges we face and advocate for a much-needed cultural shift that values and supports parents, recognizing the vital role we play in society.
https://www.hhs.gov/surgeongeneral/priorities/parents/index.html
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Surprise Surprise! I asked my husband, Mike, to join me for this episode as we discuss modern masculinity.
In this episode, we discuss the topic of masculinity and its portrayal in society. We explore how masculinity has evolved over time and the differing opinions on what it means to be a man.
We also discuss the impact of societal expectations on relationships and families, and how they navigate their own roles as parents. Mike shares his personal journey of self-discovery and how he has learned to embrace his true nature and be a gentle and supportive father.
03:12 Exploring the Changing Definition of Masculinity
10:25 The Impact of Politics on the Perception of Masculinity
20:40 Navigating Societal Expectations in Relationships
21:08 Creating a Safe and Loving Environment for Children
35:25 Embracing Self-Discovery and Personal Growth
40:02 Reviving the Value of Family and Connections
Do you and your partner need to improve how you work together as parents and partners? Do you want to explore more about how societal expectations like masculinity are impacting you?
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In this episode, we will discuss the power of personal values in relationships. I'll let you in on a personal story about my husband stepping in for me at a speaking event.
I will highlight the importance of values in co-creating a fulfilling life together and just how to do that.
Be ready to learn about how values shape our behavior, expectations, and reactions, and when both partners are aware of and honor each other's values, it creates a foundation of mutual understanding and respect. I'll also provide examples of how values can be used to resolve conflicts, make joint decisions, and prioritize resources in a relationship so you can apply today's episode right away!
00:00Introduction and Personal Experience
05:26The Power of Personal Values in Relationships
12:07Using Values to Resolve Conflicts
15:26Making Joint Decisions Based on Values
17:22Prioritizing Resources with Values
Are you and your partner ready to enjoy more of the life you have built together? I can help you get out of a rut, build stronger teamwork and connection, and be intentional about your life together. Learn more:
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Have you ever found yourself wanting to have a serious conversation with your spouse, your partner, but the moment you start, you feel flustered and the words come out all wrong?
Our brains bless them, but our brains are perceiving the situation as a threat. So then we go into this fight or flight response, making it harder to think rationally, making it more difficult to articulate our thoughts.
If you are having the same arguments, the same conversation over and over again without resolution, something has to change. This episode will help you do just that.
00:00 Introduction
03:24 Understanding the Impact of the Stress Response on Communication
07:11 Creating a Filter for Urgent Issues
10:06 The Importance of Regular Check-ins
18:27 Navigating Communication Styles and Tendencies
21:42 Practical Tips for Effective Communication
27:14 The Benefits of Coaching Support for Communication
Ready to become a better communicator and team with your partner? The first step is to schedule a free exploration call with me here.
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Hey mamas! In this episode, I'm diving into something close to my heart: the importance of modeling healthy relationships and communication for our little ones.
From the moment they're born, our kid are like sponges, soaking up everything they see and hear. Did you know that even newborns can mimic our facial expressions and gestures? It's wild! As parents, we have this amazing opportunity to shape their future interactions by intentionally modeling healthy communication, emotional regulation, and problem-solving. By doing this, we're helping them develop essential skills for effective communication and better social interactions.
I'll be sharing insights on how conflict resolution and repair in our relationships can positively impact our children's emotional intelligence and their ability to manage their own conflicts. Let's get into how we can invest in our children's futures by showing them what strong, loving relationships look like!
Episode Breakdown:
00:00 - Investing in Our Children's Futures: Modeling Healthy Relationships
04:20 - The Power of Observation: Children Learn Through Modeling
11:53 - Intentional Modeling: Healthy Communication and Emotional Regulation
16:04 - Conflict Resolution and Repair: Building Strong Relationships
Tune in, and let's chat about how we can be the best role models for our kids!
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In this episode, Chelsea Skaggs discusses the concept of identifying glass and plastic balls in the context of managing responsibilities and tasks as parents. Glass balls represent crucial tasks that have significant consequences if dropped, while plastic balls are less important and can be put aside or dropped without major issues. Chelsea emphasizes the importance of prioritizing and working together with your partner to determine what truly matters. By distinguishing between glass and plastic balls, couples can reduce stress, improve communication, and create a more balanced and resilient partnership.
02:28 Identifying Glass and Plastic Balls
04:17 Examples of Glass and Plastic Balls
06:14 Prioritizing Glass Balls
10:03 Working Together to Prioritize
18:02 Regular Check-Ins and Reevaluation
22:44 ConclusionLearn more about working with me:
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In this "off the cuff" episode, I'm walking you through a personal practice I did recently to evaluate why helping moms become less overwhelmed really matters. We're talking about the immediate and long-term impact of women's leadership and how a healthier distribution of the mental load would be better for society as a whole.
This method I used with myself is one I also use with clients to make sure they're living in line with their values and goals.
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Go beyond the "bounce back" narrative and explore how societal expectations have shaped our understanding of women's worth and identity. We'll discuss the physical changes that occur during pregnancy and postpartum, and how these changes can affect intimacy and connection with your partner.
What You'll Learn:
Societal Influence: How historical and modern-day societal pressures impact women's body image, especially after childbirth. Body Changes Education: Detailed insights into the physical changes that happen to your body during and after pregnancy, including breasts, belly, skin, and pelvic floor. Healing Steps: Practical steps to improve your body image, such as educating yourself about postpartum changes, finding clothes that fit and make you feel confident, and communicating openly with your partner. Intimacy Tips: Strategies for maintaining and enhancing intimacy with your partner by fostering a supportive and understanding environment.Tune in for an empowering conversation that will help you embrace your postpartum body, heal your self-image, and strengthen your relationship. Whether you're a new mom or supporting one, this episode is packed with valuable insights and actionable advice.
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While I'm chasing my children around on vacation (basically parenting in a prettier place,) I am digging back into season 1 with the most popular episode of the podcast.
If you feel like becoming a mom is a lot like puberty, find out why in this episode!
And if you listen and realize you want to work through the changes motherhood has brought you and get to know yourself again, I help moms do just that with coaching.
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In this episode, we discuss the physical, emotional, and mental challenges that new parents face, including hormonal shifts, sleep deprivation, and evolving identities. We discuss the importance of understanding your unique turn-on needs and offer practical tips for introspection and reflection.
Listen in to learn:
The impact of childbirth and parenting on libido and intimacy How to identify and understand your mental, emotional, and physical needs Effective strategies for communicating your needs to your partner Practical tips for reigniting physical and emotional intimacy The significance of self-care and addressing body image after babyWhether you're a new mom or dad, or you've been at this parenthood thing for years, this episode provides valuable insights and actionable advice to help you reconnect with your partner and navigate the beautiful yet challenging transition into parenthood. Tune in and take the first step towards reigniting the spark in your relationship.
Learn more about how you and your partner can work with me to take these lessons and apply them in ways that bring you back together on the same team and stronger than ever. Book a free consult call.
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Do you ever feel like you and your partner are speaking different languages when it comes to intimacy? One of you might need to feel emotionally close to engage physically, while the other feels the need for physical connection to open up emotionally. This dynamic is especially common in the postpartum and parenthood period and can lead to misunderstandings and frustration. In this episode, we'll explore:
- The science behind emotional and physical connection in relationships.
- Real-life examples of how these dynamics play out and create tension.
- Actionable steps for balancing emotional and physical needs in your relationship.
- Strategies to communicate effectively and find a satisfying compromise.
Join us as we dive deep into the world of intimacy and provide you with the tools to strengthen your bond with your partner.
Ready to take your relationship to the next level? Join our free Better Relationships After Baby Facebook group for more tips and support from a community of parents like you. Or, book a call with me to learn more about personalized relationship coaching and how we can work together to enhance your connection.
Tune in now and start your journey towards a more balanced and fulfilling postpartum relationship!
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In this episode, we dive into the often overlooked experience of being "touched out"—when the constant physical demands of parenting leave you feeling overwhelmed and disconnected.
Discover how touch out can impact your mental, emotional, and physical well-being, and learn practical strategies to manage these feelings. We’ll explore expert insights, personal stories, and actionable advice on reclaiming your body autonomy and rebuilding intimacy with your partner. Join us for an empathetic and informative discussion on how to find balance and joy in your life as a new mom.
Download our Relationship Jumpstart Bundle or schedule a call with me for personalized coaching to further enhance your journey.
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The podcast for expecting, new, and seasoned parents to stay connected and grow their teamwork.
In this episode, you'll learn:
- How to identify your core needs using the Enneagram as a tool
- The core needs of each Enneagram type and how they show up in relationships
- Exercises and strategies to improve communication and connection with your partner
Join the Free Facebook group for resources and monthly workshops, including 3 Days to Fighting Better.
https://www.facebook.com/groups/better.relationships.after.baby
Ready to understand yourself better and deepen your connection with your partner? I can help. Schedule a free call with me here to discuss your goals and how coaching can help you get there:
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In this episode, you'll learn:
How to identify your core needs using the Enneagram as a tool The core needs of each Enneagram type and how they show up in relationships Exercises and strategies to improve communication and connection with your partnerJoin the Free Facebook group for resources and monthly workshops, including 3 Days to Fighting Better.
https://www.facebook.com/groups/better.relationships.after.baby
Ready to understand yourself better and deepen your connection with your partner? I can help. Schedule a free call with me here to discuss your goals and how coaching can help you get there:
https://www.calendly.com/chelseaskaggs/coaching-exploration
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In this episode you'll learn:
-How to manage defensiveness in relationships, especially for new parents
-Why and when defensiveness comes up
-Examples and strategies to build a more supportive partnership without the drama
Join the Free Facebook group for resources and monthly workshops including 3 Days to Fighting Better.
https://www.facebook.com/groups/better.relationships.after.baby
Ready to get your relationship back on track? I can help. Schedule a free call with me here to discuss your goals and how coaching can help you get there: www.calendly.com/chelseaskaggs/coaching-exploration
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Recently, I was working with a few new parents who were feeling overwhelmed by the disconnect and misunderstandings that often arise when a new baby enters the picture. It’s incredibly easy to get caught up in the stories we tell ourselves—stories based on our fears, assumptions, and limited perspectives.
The thing is… those stories might not be true.
- They might make you feel unwanted or unloved.
- They might make you doubt your partner’s commitment.
- They might make you avoid important conversations and misunderstand each other's actions.
Not every story we tell ourselves accurately reflects our partner's feelings or intentions.
The more we let these false narratives guide our feelings and reactions, the more complicated our relationships become—and the worse off we are as partners and parents.
In today’s episode of the Better Relationships After Baby podcast, we’re diving into “The Story I’m Telling Myself.” We’ll explore how these stories form, how they impact our relationships, and practical steps to align our narratives with reality.
YOU’LL LEARN:
- Why we often live in different narratives than our partners
- How these mismatched stories can build unnecessary resentment and negative feelings
- Practical tools to start conversations with clarity and align on values
- Real-life examples of how these narratives play out and how to address them
Join me as we uncover the stories we tell ourselves and learn how to create a more honest, connected, and understanding relationship.
Ready to stop the miscommunication and strengthen your relationship? Join my FREE Fighting Better Challenge inside my Facebook group, Better Relationships After Baby. We’ll tackle the top reasons new parents fight and develop strategies to fight with more respect and solutions.
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