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Trauma from abuse can show up in many ways, some might seem very obvious and some might not
The truth is if we ignore the affect that the trauma has on our life it doesn't go away it just gets worse
We can try to hide it by overachieving or appearing to be so in control
But often the affects will show up in ways that we aren't aware of and they can be very devastating to our mental and physical health and this can also affect our relationships
It is not uncommon that when we address our trauma and start to get healing that survivors will also find that some of the physical ailments that they had will also get better
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For so long I did not want to share about the abuse that happened to me because I did not want to feel that people would pity me
It felt like because I was a survivor of abuse that my life was tragic
Once I started addressing what happened to me and working on the issues that I had, it started to become easier to share because I felt better about how I was dealing with it
The more that I worked at it, the more that I began to feel triumphant about what I overcame
If you are a survivor and are working on overcoming the issues that you have because of the trauma that you experienced than you are being triumphant over all the things that happened to you that were trying to wreck your life
And you should be proud of that
Just a note- we recorded this episode right after our friend Dan had his heart attack and before he passed away so we waited to post this because we wanted to have the tribute to him first so that is why we talk about his heart attack in this episode
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We are re posting this interview to honor the memory of our friend Dan who we had the pleasure of getting to know from his interviews and the panels that he participated on
This interview was very memorable because of how much impact it had for Dan to share his story of being an abuse survivor the first time we interviewed him
His perspective about what changed for him after sharing his story was very revealing and it confirms so much of how important it is to a survivor to have a voice
We miss you dearly Dan and I wish we had your wisdom and wit on more of our show, but we are so thankful that we did get to know you and all of the wonderful work that you did in supporting others who were struggling
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It is with great sadness that we are saying goodbye to our friend Dan Hillman who we had the honor to interview over three years ago and have had on panels and interviewed again a year after the first time
Dan had a heart attack in November and this led to him going into a coma which he did not recover from
Dan's story was very impactful for both of us and for all who his life has touched
He went through so much pain and suffering which was a reason for so much of the struggles that he had in his life but through the grace of God he overcame so much and after becoming sober was able to help so many others to heal and have hope
We will miss you greatly Dan but we will never forget you!
So in your memory we are re-posting your first interview now and then we will run the last interview next week
God rest Dan
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We are not trying to be controversial by praying every week
and we really don't want to offend anyone or force our beliefs on anyone
What we want most of all is to offer hope to everyone who is listening
That is all that we want, it is the reason that we are doing this podcast to offer hope
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We are so excited to have our guests Mike Chapman and Luke Wiersma with us to talk about the treatments that they have had in their therapy and the new treatments that are available now for survivors of trauma
We also discus what it has been like to share our stories and why that has been so important for our healing
EDMR stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing, a psychotherapyhttps://www.emdr.com/what-is-emdr/Brainspottinghttps://brainspotting.com/Comprehensive Resource Model (CRM)https://comprehensiveresourcemodel.com/Hunahttps://www.huna.com/what-is-huna/CBT - Cognitive Behavioral Therapyhttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cognitive_behavioral_therapyInternal Family Systems - IFShttps://ifs-institute.com/
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Automatic Negative Thoughts are something that can make our lives miserable
Especially for survivors of abuse we have often been taught so many of these thoughts from our abuse and we might not be aware of them when they are happening
So what can we do about them when they happen?
Dr. Daniel Amen teaches that there are ways to counter these thoughts and it starts with recognizing them and then there are techniques that you can use to change them
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We have talked about the importance of healing from abuse and why healing matters not only for us the survivors of abuse, but to our relationships
But we haven't really talked about what it means to be healed
How do we define healing and being healed?
After reading about Internal Family Systems (IFS) Kevin recognized that this is a subject that we haven't gone into detail about and how meaningful a subject it is
So in this episode we discuss What is important to Heal and what does healing mean for a survivor of abuse
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We're very excited about interviewing Johnny because it gave us both such hope
The reason that his interview gave us hope is that he is young (20 years old) and he is already working on his healing from the abuse that he experienced
This is such a positive sign that things are starting to change as far as there is more resources available now for survivors and these resources are easier to find
Johnny found our podcast and after listening to some episodes he felt that he wanted to share his story hoping that his story would help other survivors find their voice and have the courage to share their own stories
He also wants to be available to other survivors if they need someone to talk to and we are including his Instagram handle for anyone who would like to reach him
Johnny Braun (@itsjohnnybraun) • Instagram photos and videos
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I(t's easy to feel like an "other" when you are a survivor of abuse
To feel different but not in a good way
What does it take to embrace the good in being different?
What are our traits that set us apart in a way that others notice
How do we turn those traits into our superpower
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Since this is the time of year when there is so much youth sports happening we decided to re broadcast our episode about abuse and misconduct in youth sports
In this episode we interview Kevin's wife Charnell about the research that she has been doing about the issues of sexual abuse in youth sports
Her research has led her to the Dordulian Law Group who specialize in sex abuse and other offenses and to "SafeSport" which is an "independent nonprofit committed to building a sport community where participants can work and learn together free of emotional, physical and sexual abuse misconduct"
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It's almost that time of year again so what better time to revisit our episode about the holidays
For survivors of abuse navigating the holidays can be difficult especially if the perpetrator is a relative
So it can be helpful to plan ahead for ways of dealing with the issues that can come up when we are preparing for holiday gatherings
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Cynicism is toxic in our lives and it spreads through our relationships
As survivors of abuse it is hard to trust others when we have been taught they want to hurt us
It can be easy to hold on to that cynical point of view of others because we think that we are just being protective
It is possible to unlearn our cynicism which will enable us to have healthier relationships and heal
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So often as survivors of abuse we cope with triggers and depression and anxiety with methods that are unhealthy for ourselves and for those that we care about
Sometimes we aren't even aware of the ways that we are coping
They might not even seem to be that unhealthy to anyone else
But if our coping mechanisms are controlling us than we are just using them as a crutch that prevents us from actually progressing
But there are ways of finding other ways of coping that are healthy and help us in our journey to healing
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So many times we hear that therapy is so important
But for most of us who have never experienced therapy it can be a really scary thing to try
The only time we experience therapy is what we see on TV or movies
So we don't know what to expect
But it's so important to get good counseling to help you get through the experience of being a survivor
How do we know what is good therapy going to be like
It is important to know that everyone is different so therapy is going to be a different experience for you
So how do you know if you are doing it right
You try it with an open mind and the courage to be vulnerable
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The pain that comes from being abused doesn't just go away
But what happens to it?
Our pain as survivors evolves as we explore it and learn where it comes from
Expressing our pain helps us to learn how to accept it and handle it in ways that we can grow from
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Luke first came on our podcast over three years ago on episode 24
Since then he has been on our podcast several more times and on many other podcasts
So we wanted to catch up with Luke and find out how things have been going and what has changed for him now since he first came on
And also why he thinks it was so important for him to share his story with us the first time and why he still finds it so important to keep sharing
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One of the hardest things for survivors to realize is how the affects of the abuse on us is affecting those around us
The issues that we have because of what happened to us can affect all of our relationships
But we feel that we are the only one that is suffering
So if we don't want to get help because we don't think we need to than we are are ignoring the problems we could be having with our relationships
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Our mental maps are the shortcuts that our brains use when it is in the default mode
Unfortunately for survivors of abuse our maps can be faulty and even unhealthy for us
The good news is that we can change our mental maps for the better
By becoming aware of the mental maps we have when we go into default mode we can intentionally work on changing the unhealthy ones and learn healthy new ones
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