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In our pursuit of a healthier and happier society, it is vital that we recognize the often-overlooked struggles faced by men concerning their emotional well-being. Despite living in a world brimming with technology and constant communication, an alarming number of men silently battle feelings of loneliness and disconnection. It's a subject that deserves our attention, empathy, and understanding.
This week on "On This Walk," my walking partner is Jed Diamond, founder of Men Alive. We discuss men's health and well-being, particularly the issue of male loneliness and the importance of connection.
Jed shares his personal experiences and journey to becoming a hands-on father and promoting healthy fatherhood. We explore the concept of the shadow self, the need for balance between outer success and inner fulfillment, and the historical context of male-female relationships. We also discuss personal responsibility, the role of men's groups in fostering connection, and Jed's work with Men Alive and the Moonshot for Mankind project.
In This Episode
(03:18) Jed’s journey to becoming a hands-on father
(11:18) The dichotomy between success and connection.
(14:14) The historical perspective on male and female roles
(21:33) The tendency to project our own unresolved pain and wounds onto others
(24:05) The need for a new paradigm to understand disconnection, trauma, and healing
(26:05) The importance of personal change and self-reflection in addressing societal issues
(33:28) Recognizing and addressing male loneliness as a fundamental need for connection
(33:28) Reconnecting to aliveness and purpose: Advice for men seeking fulfillment and overcoming loneliness.
(36:28) Men's historical need for connection and the importance of male companionship and support.
(43:13) The concept of a new paradigm shift and its potential impact on creating positive systems for mankind and humanity.
(47:06) Jed's work with Men Alive and the Moonshot for Mankind project
Notable Quote
“Our sons and our daughters are not saying, ‘Dad, I wish you would be more successful and spend more time away and make more money. They want your presence. And so my journey, what I've been teaching and writing about is to help men and the women who love them, the families that are connected, to find the way to be a full, complete whole man, which for me includes being successful in the outer world and making a good living and doing something that we believe in, but also being able to be a hands-on dad and a hands-on husband and a hands-on mate, and a hands-on person that is present to himself and other people.” – Jed (12:07)
Our Guest
Jed Diamond is a prominent expert in gender-specific healing and men's health, with 17 books to his name, including bestsellers The Irritable Male Syndrome and Surviving Male Menopause. He holds a Ph.D. in International Health and has practiced psychotherapy for over 50 years. Together with his wife, Carlin, they have five children, 17 grandchildren, and 2 great-grandchildren. For more information, visit http://www.MenAlive.com.
Resources & Links
On This Walk
https://www.facebook.com/dlukeiorio
https://www.linkedin.com/in/lukeiorio/
https://instagram.com/dlukeiorio
https://instagram.com/onthiswalkshow
https://www.onthiswalk.com/alignment
Jed Diamond
https://menalive.com/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/jed-diamond-a1580b/
https://twitter.com/menalivenow
https://www.facebook.com/MenAliveNow/
https://menalive.com/about/my-moonshot-mission/
Mentioned
12 Rules for Good Men- https://www.amazon.com/Rules-Good-Men-Jed-Diamond-ebook/dp/B07Z1FBG74 -
Are you tired of drifting through life, yearning for something more? Deep within us all, there's an insatiable craving for purpose and meaning that ignites our souls and drives us to make every moment count. But in today's fast-paced world, it's easy to get lost in the chaos, losing sight of what truly matters.
This week on "On This Walk," my walking partner is Ryan Matthew. We dive into a deep conversation about personal journeys and finding purpose in life. Ryan shares his experiences of seeking external solutions to his problems, only to realize that the root of his issues was internal. Through self-discovery and facing suppressed emotions, Ryan undergoes significant changes, including divorce and loss of financial wealth.
Ryan shares a profound story about a transformative experience he had, which symbolizes personal and collective transformation. We also discuss the fear some men have of embracing their feminine side and the importance of integrating both masculine and feminine energies. We challenge the notion that exploring emotions and self-discovery is solely feminine and advocate for a holistic approach to personal growth. We invite you to reflect on your own journey and how you may be locking yourself away from experiencing the fullness of life. The journey to self-discovery is a personal one, but it's also a journey we all share as human beings.
In This Episode
(03:30) Ryan’s struggle to find purpose and meaning in life
(05:19) His journey of deconstruction and self-discovery
(08:32) Finding greater purpose and resilience through deconstruction and divine guidance
(12:23) The fears and needs that arise when making a major life change.
(13:12) The story of the man in the cage
(20:55) How Ryan showed love and compassion to the broken man in the story
(22:00) The man's transformation from being wretched.
(28:25) The symbolism of the man's loss of his wife, daughter, and mother
(34:11) The man's de-evolution and carrying the weight of pain
(43:21) The transformation that occurred in Ryan’s life when pouring love into the man in the cage
(45:37) The fear of losing joy and love
(48:14) The fear of merging in relationships
(49:11) The individuality and collectivism pendulum swing
(50:24) Fear of losing masculinity in personal growth
(52:51) The transformation journey and the reunification of self
(59:16) The universe's bigger signs and ignoring inner whispers
Notable Quote
“I had just lost all of my financial wealth. I had just lost my marriage. My band had just ended all of these big things, and so there was a lot of turmoil in my life at the moment. But as I was pouring love into this man, I was pouring love into myself. The impact that those losses had on my life started to lessen. And it was like I was able to feel the emotion. And I was also able to feel a ton of joy. I realized that so much of what I was running away from in my life was this joy. This joy that was growing inside of me, and I'm still experiencing it today. The more I sit out in nature, the more this joy just continues to bubble up in me.” – Ryan (43:51)
Our Guest
Ryan Matthew is a tenacious truth seeker, certified professional coach, lightning protection master installer, and a powerful musician/songwriter. He has spent the second half of his life dedicated to unlocking his deeper purpose here, bringing his healing music to the people and becoming a lover of life and all things alive.
Resources & Links
On This Walk
https://www.facebook.com/dlukeiorio
https://www.linkedin.com/in/lukeiorio/
https://instagram.com/dlukeiorio
https://instagram.com/onthiswalkshow
Ryan Matthew
https://www.facebook.com/RyanPolingLLC
https://www.instagram.com/ryan_matthew_official/
https://www.facebook.com/ryan.poling.355/ -
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What does it mean to be a man in a world where divorce rates are soaring? Are we missing a vital piece of the puzzle, a key ingredient that can unlock the secrets to successful relationships? It's time to confront these questions head-on and embark on a journey that steps in between the current, conflicting notions of masculinity.
This week on "On This Walk," my walking partner is Elliott Katz. We discuss the challenges men face in relationships and explore the importance of leadership, decision-making, and taking responsibility in relationships.
Elliott shares his personal journey of realizing the need for these qualities after his divorce. We also discuss the impact of gender roles, media stereotypes, and the importance of respect in relationships. We emphasize finding a balance between vulnerability and strength, as well as the significance of personal growth and communication.
In This Episode
(02:28) Elliott’s journey of self-discovery
(06:45) Navigating the path towards seeking and finding timeless wisdom for personal growth and leadership development.
(10:30) The shift in gender roles due to industrialization.
(12:23) How negative stereotypes in the media can affect men's behavior and lead to relationship issues.
(13:48) Understanding warning signs for personal introspection and relationship assessment in men's lives.
(21:37) The balance between strength and vulnerability
(24:35) The importance of men taking charge and making decisions in relationships
(27:00) Reflecting on experiences and integrating new ways of showing up.
(30:33) Why do men need to trust their own judgment?
(33:03) Effective communication in relationships
(37:31) The evolution of masculinity and the future of manhood
(39:07) Elliott’s guide for men to follow on their personal growth journey.
Notable Quotes
“You see a difficult situation, step forward, take charge, and it makes the woman feel so safe and protected. It makes her love you so much. That's what she wants. She wants a man who takes charge and the decision to be made. You're not imposing your decision. You can say, “Well, I think we should do this here. What do you think?” Instead of asking, “What should we do?” Don't say that. Come forward. Don't come empty-handed. Make a decision. And if she has input, that's great, but don't just leave it to her. Don't think you're being too passive. Don't think, well, I'm showing her I believe in gender equality. To me, the main thing is leadership.” – Elliott (18:32)
Our Guest
Elliott Katz is an accomplished author, penning two books, including his remarkable debut titled "Being the Strong Man a Woman Wants: Timeless Wisdom on Being a Man." Not stopping there, he has also graced the airwaves, making appearances on over 200 radio shows and television broadcasts. Utilizing his expertise as a coach and guide, Elliott has established himself as a prominent figure for men seeking personal growth and self-discovery.
Resources & Links
On This Walk
https://www.facebook.com/dlukeiorio
https://www.linkedin.com/in/lukeiorio/
https://instagram.com/dlukeiorio
https://instagram.com/onthiswalkshow
Elliott Katz
https://www.elliottkatz.com/
[email protected]
https://twitter.com/elliott_katz?lang=en
Mentioned
How to Get Your Man to Wear the Pants ... So You Don't Have To: Inspiring him to make more decisions, take the lead and STOP LEAVING IT ALL TO YOU!: https://www.amazon.com/Your-Wear-Pants-Dont-Have-ebook/dp/B09SVLHPN6
Being the Strong Man a Woman Wants: Timeless Wisdom on Being a Man: https://www.amazon.com/Being-Strong-Man-Woman-Wants/dp/0973695102 -
In the realm of human existence, one difficult truth continues to show itself: trauma, a seemingly relentless force, can grip our very souls and leave an indelible imprint on our physical form. It weaves its tendrils through our thoughts, actions, decisions and our relationships.
This week On This Walk, my walking partner is Jennifer Wallace. We dive deep into the world of trauma and its impact on our bodies and minds. We also explore the concept of post-traumatic growth and the importance of working with the nervous system to release trauma and facilitate healing.
Jennifer shares her personal journey of overcoming a kidnapping and a rare form of breast cancer and how healing her nervous system has been crucial in finding safety, joy, and self-expression. This episode helps listeners break free from the chains of trauma and rediscover their unique path to true freedom.
In This Episode
(00:29) The concept of trauma and how it affects the body and mind, regardless of its intensity.
(06:46) Jennifer's journey: Trauma, breast cancer, and healing
(09:58) The impact of trauma on the nervous system
(20:00) Jennifer’s belief that trauma, emotions, and memories are stored in the water in our bodies.
(23:39) Jennifer's journey of finding healing through neuro-somatic approaches
(29:38) How trauma healing allows for the return of joy and aliveness
(31:30) How men tend to dissociate from their feelings and emotional experiences
(39:05) The impact of repressed emotions and anger as a coping mechanism
(40:22) The importance of expressing anger and rage
[43:45] Creating safe spaces for emotional expression and regulation
[48:20] The transformative potential of anger and how it can be used as a tool for communication and self-awareness.
[51:04] Initial steps to regulate the nervous system
[53:45] The transformative power of somatic and nervous system work
[57:05] The burden of complex trauma
Notable Quotes
“When people begin these journeys, there can often be these thoughts of like, there's something wrong with me. I'm the bad one. Like that's what complex drama teaches us. Like it's me, I'm the one who needs to change, and that's not true. Whoever's listening like that is not true. You are not broken. You are buried under complex trauma. You are buried under stories and emotions that just do not serve you anymore. And I think a lot of times on this journey, it is about the uncloaking of the soul. It is about the you that is you, to come forward and be fully self-expressed, to feel safe in your body to be whatever it is that you wanna experience, but you're just buried and it doesn't have to stay like that.” - Jennifer [57:09]
Our Guest
Jennifer Wallace is an expert in neuro-somatic intelligence coaching for promoting brain-based wellness and is also a knowledgeable psychedelic integration coach with a trauma-informed approach. Through her podcast, Trauma Rewired, she aims to emphasize the idea that by establishing a secure nervous system, it is entirely feasible to achieve healing, and behavioral transformation, and ultimately create the life one desires.
Resources & Links
On This Walk
https://www.facebook.com/dlukeiorio
https://www.linkedin.com/in/lukeiorio/
https://instagram.com/dlukeiorio
https://instagram.com/onthiswalkshow
Jennifer Wallace
https://www.linkedin.com/in/jennifer-wallace-13b42b186
https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/trauma-rewired/id1537602643
Mentioned
Unbroken: The Trauma Response Is Never Wrong: And Other Things You Need to Know to Take Back Your Life: https://www.amazon.com/Unbroken-Trauma-Response-Never-Things/dp/1683648846 -
In the hustle and bustle of our modern lives, we often get caught up in the daily grind and forget to prioritize ourselves. It's so easy to lose sight of what truly brings us joy and fulfillment. But picture this: a life where we're no longer held captive by our own unconscious thoughts and behaviors. A life where we can tap into those hidden parts of ourselves that hold the key to happiness, beauty, and a sense of playfulness.
This week On This Walk, I welcome back Tim Corcoran – previously on Episodes 15 & 16 – as we discuss the benefits of parts work and the ecology of self, and how it can help you rediscover your unique path to true freedom. Tim shares his personal experience with parts work and how it has transformed his life, emphasizing the importance of understanding and loving all parts of ourselves, even the destructive ones. The conversation also touches on how to discover your purpose through vulnerability, stillness, and connecting with nature and the importance of judgment as a tool for self-growth.
In This Episode
(06:17) How parts work transformed Tim’s life
(06:28) Three primary benefits of parts work
(10:05) What is parts work and the ecology of self
(12:55) The invention of the practice of voice dialogue
(16:17) The power of identity formation through the use of "I am" statements
(23:23) Understanding and loving destructive parts
(25:07) Reclaiming vulnerability and its importance in self-love
(32:47) How parts work can help individuals rediscover their aliveness
(35:29) How the lack of polarity in relationships can actually hurt them
(40:51) How parts work can be used to improve relationships
(47:05) How the parts of ourselves that we show up with can create our reality
(51:03) 2 keys to discovering purpose
(54:31) The importance of stillness and connecting with nature to access the soul and intuition
(58:47) How judging others can be a tool for self-growth
[01:03:26] Vision quest as a way to encounter the deepest parts of oneself
[01:04:28] The significance of childlike parts in accessing the soul
[01:06:56] How Tim received guidance from a dead Joshua tree
Notable Quotes
“All parts serve and all parts deserve love. Even if they are destructive parts, even if they are parts that have caused great damage and great pain, a part cannot exist without a function. They don't just exist randomly and they all serve the self in some way. It might get really twisted and sometimes it does, and the key is not to kill the part, the key is not to throw it away. That just leads to more pain and suffering. The key is to understand it and ultimately to love it. And it's through that embracing that we can really experience transformation.” - Tim (22:36)
Our Guest
Tim Corcoran is the founder of Purpose Mountain, where he offers Nature Based Purpose Guidance to support people with a love for wild nature who feel a deep yearning to discover their purpose. Tim also serves as co-Director of Twin Eagles Wilderness School, an organization he co-founded with his wife in Sandpoint, Idaho in 2005 dedicated to facilitating deep nature connection mentoring, cultural restoration, and inner tracking.
Resources & Links
On This Walk
https://www.facebook.com/dlukeiorio
https://www.linkedin.com/in/lukeiorio/
https://instagram.com/dlukeiorio
https://instagram.com/onthiswalkshow
Tim Corcoran
https://www.linkedin.com/in/timcorcoran4
https://www.purposemountain.com/
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Are you tired of constantly feeling like you're not enough? Do you find yourself yearning for a deeper sense of well-being and connection in your life? If so, then we have great news for you. A transformative practice called effortless mindfulness can help you unlock a world of inner peace and profound connection.
This week On This Walk, my walking partner is Loch Kelly, an award-winning author, licensed psychotherapist, and recognized leader in the field of meditation and awakening. He is the founder of the nonprofit Effortless Mindfulness Institute. The institute is dedicated to teaching direct methods to access awake awareness, living from a flow state, nondual mindfulness, and heart mindfulness.
We discuss the concept of effortless mindfulness and how it differs from conventional mindfulness. Loch shares his journey toward mindfulness and how his father's passing led him to explore and develop effortless mindfulness. Loch provides a simple five-minute practice to help listeners access this more spacious awareness. The conversation also covers the importance of acknowledging the different parts that makeup who we are and how being aware of these parts can help us make more conscious choices.
In This Episode
(00:53) Introduction to Loch and his approach to mindfulness
(04:15) Loch’s first glimpses that led him toward mindfulness
(10:28) What is effortless mindfulness?
(17:09) The glimpse practices that are part of the effortless mindfulness tradition
(18:14) How effortless mindfulness helps people feel relaxed and calm
(19:57) The deeper sense of well-being that exists within us and how it can be difficult to connect to it
(24:43) Optimal functioning from a non-worried being
(27:54) How effortless mindfulness leads to deeper well-being and a more fulfilling life
(29:51) How parts work helps you be present to all within you that needs to speak
(33:56) The importance of acknowledging and holding all parts of ourselves in our awareness
(36:55) Building awareness and recognizing the capacity to hold challenging experiences
(38:11) What is non-dual feeling
(40:17) Benefits and an example of effortless mindfulness in relationships
(47:02) Waking up: accessing awake consciousness and deconstructing the ego
(54:30) Upgrading our operating system
(56:21) The practice of letting go of the problem solver
Notable Quotes
“One of the unique premises of effortless mindfulness is that you're remembering to remember that the peace, love, freedom, clarity, and the optimal sense of self is already here within us and it's just uncovering, discovering, or remembering that it's not like other skills or knowledge where we need to use our mind to read a lot of books or develop a skill called meditation that will lead us to a cleaner mind. It's literally just like opening up to find a dimension that's subtler and more spacious, but more pervasive and more interconnected. And when we find that sense of being, then that's the goal of what we're looking for because there's a sense of wellbeing, bliss, and clarity that's already here within us.” - Loch (11:10)
Our Guest
Loch Kelly, M.Div., LCSW, is an award-winning author, psychotherapist, and meditation expert. Founder of Effortless Mindfulness Institute, he collaborates with neuroscientists, teaches nondual pointers, and promotes open-hearted awareness to reduce suffering and support personal development.
Resources & Links
On This Walk
https://www.facebook.com/dlukeiorio
https://www.linkedin.com/in/lukeiorio/
https://instagram.com/dlukeiorio
https://instagram.com/onthiswalkshow
Loch Kelly
https://www.linkedin.com/in/loch-kelly/
https://lochkelly.org/
https://www.facebook.com/LochKelly1/
Mentioned
The Way of Effortless Mindfulness https://www.amazon.com/Way-Effortless-Mindfulness-Revolutionary-Awakened-ebook/dp/B07FDR6M2T
Zen in the Art of Archery https://www.amazon.com/Zen-Art-Archery-Eugen-Herrigel/dp/0375705090 -
Are you feeling stressed out and overwhelmed? Do you find yourself suppressing emotions and putting on a brave face, even when you're struggling? If so, you're not alone. In today's fast-paced world, it can be hard to find the time and space to truly connect with our emotions and process what we're feeling.
This week On This Walk, my walking partner is Fish Fischer, co-founder of Somatic Breathwork™️, an emotional wellness modality designed specifically to help people clear out suppressed emotions, trauma, stress, and anxiety.
We discuss Fish’s journey from being a caddy in the PGA to discovering the benefits of somatic breathwork in helping him overcome stress and anxiety. We also explore the use of breathwork and somatic practices in helping men move through deeper blocks and feelings of being stuck. Furthermore, we emphasize the importance of emotional intelligence and embracing our emotions to become more grounded and powerful leaders.
In This Episode
(03:02) - The benefits of somatic breathwork
(06:02) - The repression and suppression found in the golf world
(08:54) - Fish’s journey as a former caddy in the PGA and how a sudden end to a relationship led him to his discovery.
(12:14) - The importance of allowing emotional cycles to fully complete and how to support this process.
(15:19) - Conforming to expectations
(17:44) - How to overcome stress and anxiety by releasing pressure and expressing one’s self
(21:10) -The importance of somatic literacy and getting into the body
(27:47) - The benefits of emotional release
(31:43) - The distinction between somatic breathwork and other types and styles
(34:06) - The importance of re-patterning the emotional body after clearing out blocks
(39:01) - How breathwork allows us to tune into what's going on in our body and connect to our inner space.
(43:21) - The importance of turning toward our emotions
(46:07) - How our bodies have a unique relationship with trauma and emotions
(52:03) - The importance of connecting with our bodies
(53:59) - The movement of Somatic Breathwork
Notable Quotes
“To feel your life is like a living death. To feel your life is to actually be alive. Once you start to feel emotions, maybe a little bit of sadness, maybe a little bit of tears, maybe a little bit of anger, that is to truly feel alive. It's not to repress it. It's to know that it's there. See that is an actual feeling that's coming up in your actual body and then recognizing that there's a story with that. And really what that is, reading your body is the ability to actually understand somatic literacy. Can you be fluent in your own body sensations, feelings, and emotions, and can you know the story behind those? If you can do that, you can become fluent in your own body and the vessel that you have had your entire life is the vessel that has moved you. – Fish (20:00)
Our Guest
Fish Fischer is a visionary co-founder of Somatic Breathwork. His expertise in breath work merges ancient wisdom with modern science, empowering individuals to heal and transform through conscious breathing.
Resources & Links
On This Walk
https://www.facebook.com/dlukeiorio
https://www.linkedin.com/in/lukeiorio/
https://instagram.com/dlukeiorio
https://instagram.com/onthiswalkshow
Fish Fischer
https://www.linkedin.com/in/fishfischer/
https://somaticbreathwork.com/
https://www.instagram.com/fish.fisher/
https://www.instagram.com/somaticrelease/
Mentioned
Book: https://www.amazon.de/-/en/MaryCatherine-Ph-D-McDonald/dp/1683648846
Alignment Workbook: https://onthiswalk.com/alignment
Gabriel Writer https://www.instagram.com/golfinfluencer/?hl=en -
Have you ever felt like you were alone in your journey as if you were left to make things work on your own? It's a common feeling that many of us experience at some point in our lives. But what if there’s a much larger story that you’re a part of? A story that is bigger than you, bigger than your problems, and bigger than your wildest dreams.
This week On This Walk, my walking partner is Jeff Harmon, founder of Brilliance Within Coaching, an innovative training and coaching firm. We talk about his journey toward realizing that he is part of a much larger story. We explore the importance of intentional connections with people who support and speak truth into our lives, regardless of whether they are part of a church community. We also touch on the concept of benevolent detachment, detachment out of love, and deep care. We conclude our conversation by delving into the importance of choosing from love, instead of fear.
In This Episode
(05:33) - The enormous story we are part of
(13:48) - The idea of co-creation and partnership with a divine presence
(17:54) - Connecting to nature and bigger wisdom
(19:30) - The bigger story: Jeff’s journey towards realizing the larger story and how he found his mission.
(20:24) - The importance of being in service of something bigger than oneself
(32:42) - How we can better pay attention to the signs in our lives
(37:10) - Freedom and benevolent detachment
(39:22) - Apprenticeship and a safe container
(44:13) - Counterintuitive truth: When stakes are high but the pressure is low
(49:06) - Supportive circles in the journey of doubt
(50:01) - The importance of support
(53:03) - Choosing love over fear
Notable Quotes
“I'm not the hero of my story, and that's a relief. I think you said in our group last night, so many of us act as Atlas to put the world on our shoulders. And to have this moment, and it's not just one moment, it's over time to be able to say that it's not up to me, life is not up to me. I'm an active participant, or partner even. But it's just a big relief. And so that's the invitation that is available for everyone. And that's the conversation that I love to have because, you know, religion today, by its own doing, has such a horrible rap. But this isn't about going to church on Sundays or being part of an organization, just that it's the farthest thing from that. This is about entering into this love affair, this relationship, this bigger, and thereby this enormous story."- Jeff (09:58)
Our Guest
Jeff Harmon, a brilliant coach with 20+ years of relationship-building experience, empowers leaders to achieve their goals. Faced with a degenerative nerve condition in 2006, he embraces each day's value. Jeff's mission is to elevate leaders through innovative solutions, fostering high-performing teams that prioritize commitment and mutual respect.
Resources & Links
On This Walk
https://www.facebook.com/dlukeiorio
https://www.linkedin.com/in/lukeiorio/
https://instagram.com/dlukeiorio
https://instagram.com/onthiswalkshow
Jeff Harmon
https://www.linkedin.com/in/brilliantcoach/
https://brilliancewithincoaching.com/
Mentioned
Jayber Crow - https://www.amazon.com/course-Miracles-Foundation-Inner-Peace/dp/1883360269
The Lion Tracker's Guide to Life - https://www.amazon.com/Lion-Trackers-Guide-Life-ebook/dp/B07LC9C7Q4 -
What is it like to live your life from a place of love instead of fear? Imagine the impact it could have on your relationships, your sense of fulfillment, and your overall well-being. In today's fast-paced and often stressful world, it's easy to let fear creep into our decisions and actions. But what if we chose love instead?
This week On This Walk, my walking partner is David Henzel, CEO of the online coaching platform, upcoach. Our conversation revolves around the significance of living with love instead of fear, and how it can influence our relationships and overall sense of fulfillment. We also delve into the importance of the narratives we create for ourselves, as they shape our life experiences, and explore how vulnerability and transparency build trust and strengthen team bonds. Stay tuned for more!
In This Episode
[00:01:24] The impact of love not fear
[00:09:11] David’s self-discovery and impact project
[00:13:21] How David overcame his fear
[00:16:36] How David manages his life and business
[00:18:03] Love not to fear in spiritual traditions
[00:25:41] The importance of finding a balance between accountability and empathy in leadership and personal relationships.
[00:28:39] The impact of fear on our lives
[00:33:31] The different manifestations of love and how it can show up in our lives
[00:35:37] The importance of self-care and self-love
[00:40:32] The concept of building a muscle when it comes to choosing love over fear
[00:48:18] Gratitude and changing perspectives
[00:49:12] The power of storytelling
[00:50:00] The idea that life is happening for us, not to us.
[58:13] The importance of trust in building a successful business
Notable Quotes
“All the extreme things that happened to me in my life, I can grow from and learn from them. If you change the way you look at things, for example, my mother passed away 10 years ago and she was an amazing person. Not because she was my mom, but because she was really an outstanding, phenomenal person. And if I look at it from the standpoint like, ‘oh, poor me, I don't have her anymore. She would be retired by now living in our other house here on the property. Our daughter would learn so much from her, suck so much. She's not there’. Then I'd drag myself down versus if I turned around and see it from a place of gratitude. I had this amazing person in my life that I learned so much from. I'm so grateful that I had her, it's unbelievable how lucky I consider myself that I had this amazing person in my life. Then it just completely changed the story.” – David (48:10)
Our Guest
David Henzel is a veteran entrepreneur with over 20 years of experience building successful companies. He is the CEO of upcoach, leading a portfolio of businesses with more than 500 employees.
With a personal mission to help individuals and organizations reach their full potential, David’s passion project is ManagingHappiness.com, an online platform dedicated to personal development akin to Toastmasters, and LoveNotFear.com, a community-driven initiative focused on helping people and organizations to act out of love and not fear.
Resources & Links
On This Walk
https://www.facebook.com/dlukeiorio
https://www.linkedin.com/in/lukeiorio/
https://instagram.com/dlukeiorio
https://instagram.com/onthiswalkshow
David Henzel
https://www.linkedin.com/in/davidhenzel/
Mentioned books
A Course in Miracles - https://www.amazon.com/course-Miracles-Foundation-Inner-Peace/dp/1883360269
Conscious Capitalism - https://www.amazon.com/Conscious-Capitalism-New-Preface-Authors/dp/1625271751
Napoleon Hill's Outwitting the Devil - https://www.amazon.com/Outwitting-Devil-Secret-Freedom-Success/dp/1469259036 -
The mental well-being of men has received some more attention of late—but not in a good way. Brace yourself as we share some painful truths about the stigma surrounding male mental health… And discuss the way back to true well-being.
This week On This Walk, my walking partner is Tim Perreira who shares his personal journey with mental health. After hitting a plateau in his life and being fired during the pandemic, he faced depression, weight gain, and a serious reconsideration of what matters. However, these challenges became a turning point for him to prioritize his well-being.
We delve into men's challenges when seeking support and the importance of morning routines for productivity and mental health. Please join us as we break the silence on men's mental health and much more!
In This Episode
(08:22) Tim's shift from external to internal orientation
(11:07) Men's pursuit of external peace
(13:11) The challenges men face in seeking help for mental health issues
(15:16) Transformation and understanding of the human mind
(17:26) Depersonalizing mental health
(22:23) Reasons why men are not seeking help
(26:30) Men's struggle with societal norms
(35:48) The benefits of joining a men's group
(37:33) The importance of having a supportive community
(40:48) Men’s reluctance to explore emotional and mental health
(41:00) Creation of narratives and limiting beliefs in the mind
(42:20) Seeking fulfillment in core human emotions
(48:17) Tim's modalities for mental well-being
(50:54) Creating a morning routine
(59:10) Micro-commitment for meditation
(01:03:32) The importance of intention
(01:09:47) An advice for those struggling with mental health
Notable Quotes
“Strength is recognizing that something's off and doing something about it. You know, strength isn't bearing it like that's easy to bury it and to cover it and sweep it under the rug. It is hard to stare at your deepest fears and insecurities in the face and say, I'm going to do something about this, I don't know what it's going to be, I have no idea what I'm doing. Like extremely vulnerable to even step into that world but just to reinforce that, it takes such a massive amount of strength.” – Tim (01:10:35)
“External peace has been so much what we've been taught to chase. We're told that this is the image of what it means to make it in the world as you maybe turn towards family and things. This is what it means to be the provider and the protector of that family. And this is what you got to do to prepare yourself for that role. And so we get so oriented and caught up in that external there to flip it and say, actually, no, you've got to build a life from the inside and then bring it out. It literally feels like flipping our whole world upside down.” – Luke (00:11:07)
Our Guest
Tim Perreira is a former college athlete turned tech sales pro who struggled to find purpose after sports. Despite achieving sales success through job hopping, he felt unfulfilled and realized something was missing. After being fired during the pandemic, Tim decided to pursue his passion for mental health and wellness. He founded PER, a company focused on improving men's health and crushing stigmas.
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Tim Perreira
https://www.linkedin.com/in/timperreira/
Mentioned
Atomic Habits by James Clear - https://www.amazon.com/Atomic-Habits-Proven-Build-Break/dp/0735211299
Unbroken: The Trauma Response is Never Wrong by MaryCatherine McDonald, PhD - https://www.amazon.com/Unbroken-Trauma-Response-Never-Things/dp/1683648846#:~:text=%22Unbroken%22%20by%20Dr.,a%20demonstration%20of%20its%20strength.
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Are you afraid of suffering? What if we told you that suffering is not a curse, but a true gift?
This week on On This Walk, my walking partner is Boaz Feldman. We dive deep into the theme of suffering and the freedom that comes from its alleviation. We explore the power of group work and social interaction in facilitating healing and growth, as well as the importance of somatic expression and co-regulation. We also discuss the societal and cultural factors that impact individual experiences of suffering and the role of group processes in addressing these patterns.
Get ready for an enlightening conversation filled with insights and much more!
In This Episode
(08:16) - Boaz’s motivation to alleviate suffering and promote liberation
(12:53) - The healing power of social engagement and interaction
(18:07) - The Social Baseline Theory
(31:29) - How connecting to a wider system can lead to healing
(34:02) -The impact of community and tribal leaders on mental health and wellbeing.
(36:50) - The effectiveness of groups in facilitating healing and recovery from trauma.
(45:12) -The principle of encouraging embodied action in group therapy
(57:28) -The importance of relationships for happiness, well-being, and longevity
(01:00:01) -The lazy person's way to happiness
(01:00:18) -Why shame and social exclusion are like a physiological death.
Notable Quotes
“Gratitude is a pretty cool and enjoyable feeling. And so when there are these enjoyable feelings that are particularly sort of low arousal like gratitude, because you can also have joy and ecstasy and excitement and all that, that's a bit more difficult to go into the body then. But when you have low arousal and positive energy, a really interesting question could be, oh, you feel gratitude now Luke, how does that gratitude manifest in the body? What's the felt sense of that in your experience right now? And maybe they don't even describe a physical sensation because maybe they're not ready to go into the body, or maybe that's not what's most present. But at least there's the invitation, and again, it's like a ritual quality of the deepest way in which we can land things in the present moment is through our somatic experience.” – Boaz (49:45)
“The more that we cannot only deepen the way in which we use our presence, things like deep listening and things like that with others, that's certainly true in the way that it changes. But when we get that present, we become more present to what our experience is in relation to others. And that usually is going to surface things of helping people recognize some of maybe what they're struggling with or what are some of the things that come up for them when they're out and about in their other relationships the rest of their life. But if that can begin to come up as part of these interactions inside of a container that's been crafted, we can talk about those things, we can surface those things, we can explore those things and people feel safe and accepted and not judged while they're doing that because of the container that's been created.” – Luke (13:49)
Our Guest
Boaz Feldman is a practical visionary, experienced psychologist, keynote speaker, and trainer for worldwide positive change. He is a Somatic Experience Practitioner, Organic Intelligence core faculty, and Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy graduate. Boaz founded NeuroSystemics, a somatically-centered approach for meditation training, therapy, and group therapy.
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This week on "On This Walk" my walking partners Debra Hess and Matt Hogan will challenge your thinking as we examine the influence embodiment has on our feelings and sense of self-alignment connecting with our bodies and finding inner peace.
We go into the concept that embodiment is the key to experiencing genuine vitality, and how letting go of inhibitions and embracing every sensation may free our full potential. Debra and Matt share rituals and advice that might help us feel comfortable expressing our feelings and tapping into our intuition.
Listen as we help you overcome your inhibitions and see your feelings as a force for a positive change in your life.
In This Episode
(13:35) Overcoming the fear to find inner alignment.
(16:09) Is embodiment the key to feeling alive?
(19:48) Embracing vulnerability and shedding fears
(25:15) Unleashing the power of emotions
(32:11) Discovering inner guidance and the hallmarks of an embodiment for a lighter life
(43:53) What are we really after?
(47:48) Unleashing creative solutions through love, and exploring uncertainty
(49:43) The path to co-creation and inner wisdom
(57:52) The journey of threading versus the journey of evolving
(01:05:35) Uncovering the hidden forces behind our emotions
Notable Quotes
“A big piece of this is restoring the balance that our systems naturally have, but have then lost their way because of all the holding, all the suppressing. And so in that vein, something that's been really useful for me to create safety and create my willingness to move forward and trust this path is having time devoted like a ritual, a container in my morning that I said this time is for me to feel everything that I need to feel and literally put it all on the table and literally have this demarcation point into this container and out of this container.” Matt - (37:40)
“There's an infinite amount of possibilities within us. And once you come in and realize that there are resources, there's an inner resource designed by your divinity to help you access and co-create these solutions that are far beyond what your mind could come up with. Your mind has knowledge, experience, and buffers. Your intuitiveness and your wisdom don't feel those risks, and so it presents them as you take that dive in, knowing there's mystery and unknown, and being comfortable with the unknown as this place of possibility.” – Debra (48:38)
Our Guests
Debra Hess is a sacred midwife who helps others navigate the Narrow Gate of Love. With years of psychotherapy, 500 hours in yoga teacher training, a Bachelor's degree in Music Therapy, and certifications in Laughter Yoga and Yoga Nidra, Debra has honed her skills in guiding individuals toward peace, wholeness, and happiness. Through her own healing journey, Debra has discovered that all of existence flows through us, and she considers it an honor to serve others with the joy that overflows from her own awakening.
Matt Hogan is a self-mastery enthusiast and coach who has dedicated his life to living in alignment. From battling depression and attempting suicide to reaching the heights of corporate success and traveling the world, Matt's personal journey has inspired his work in helping prominent entrepreneurs, executives, and change-makers bring their full selves into their work and relationships.
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Debra Hess
https://www.lightseekersyoga.com/
Matt Hogan
https://www.linkedin.com/in/matt-hogan-44b5b869/
https://www.facebook.com/Theworldwidefearconversation/
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This week on On This Walk, I’m joined by my walking partner, David Mehler, as we discuss how he is helping men overcome internal despair and disconnection to become the kings they were born to be.
In this episode, David shares his first conscious awakening experience when he was 26 years old and experienced his fifth session of NSA. He describes the experience as a cathartic experience where he felt like he came home to himself and was embodied by the experience of grace and gratitude.
Listen as we discuss what David’s journey from the head into the body and back into the heart, which is an opportunity to experience the full array of different emotions that are afforded to us as human beings. He also explains that the more we allow ourselves to face and feel, the more we can experience joy, pleasure, awe, and all of the beautiful things within our life.
In This Episode
(09:31) – The idea of a safe haven.
(14:04) – How our traumas create a distortion in our posture
(23:58) – The distortions in our frequencies
(29:57) – What if your reality is just a tiny fragment of a much grander scheme?
(31:55) – Identifying the distortions behind our patterns
(34:47) – Masculine and feminine energies
(38:11) – How our patterns, traumas and hurts are unique
(40:02) – Who exactly are we?
(43:29) – How do we make that shift when we find the energy?
(54:59) – What is a man’s purpose and how does he find one?
Notable Quotes
“A spiritual journey for anyone is really to drop out of the head, back into the body, back into the heart, where you actually could start feeling again, come back into the safe place… What if you could go into the center of the pain and actually use it as fuel, as leverage for transformation and growth in your life? What if the pain, hurts, wounds, and traumas were not an accident, but were divinely placed there and planned by your soul, so you ultimately one day would have the leverage to discover more of who you are and give your gifts out to the world? This journey from the head into the body, back into the heart is an opportunity to experience the full myriad, full array of different emotions that are afforded to us as human beings.” – David (10:14)
“The mind can be a beautiful and powerful tool for us, but it can also ensnare us as it wants to keep us safe, certain, and focused on problems for the sake of either solving those problems or because of perceived danger. It's the interpreter of our nervous systems, which are all too often dysregulated and on overdrive. These practices, among many others, help us to move back into a regulated, regenerative, more conscious and more mindful state. From there, we can receive information from our bodies, hearts, energy, as well as our minds in a clear and calm state. This opens us up to many more great possibilities for how we can navigate our lives, and in particular, our relationships. Now, more than ever, we need those calm and clear minds, and the best way to get there is through your body, and most definitely through your heart.” – Luke (30:09)
Our Guest
David Mehler created Man on Fire in 2015 to help men who, on the outside, seem to have everything going for them—they're running at top speed in their career or business—but on the inside, they're drowning in the monsoon trenches of internal despair. His passion, power, and purpose are to save these men and help them become the kings they were meant to be.
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https://manonfirerising.com/
https://www.instagram.com/manonfireofficial/
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This week on On This Walk, we're talking about helping people go on a deep inner journey to find themselves, their deepest truth, and the fulfillment they've longed for their whole life. My walking partner today, Jennifer DePascale, understands this all too well.
Jennifer DePascale is a self-realization expert, international speaker, coach, and RTT therapist. She believes that each and every one of us has unique gifts, a powerful intuition, and a call from life that only we can connect to. She is a student of life and has studied at the Marisa Peer School, the Four Winds Society, Vesica Institute, Mind Valley, and many others.
Listen in as we discuss a variety of topics including a recent Oxford Talks she participated in, the process of internalization and the concept of radical responsibility, and how she brings her clients back into alignment with their inner knowing so they can live to their full potential.
In This Episode
(06:54) – When we talk about our power, what do we mean?
(09:28) – Explaining the process of internalizing and how it happens.
(14:12) – Clearing out and arriving at a more empowered place.
(16:04) – The little voice, the inner guidance system calling you to your true self.
(20:36) – The idea of how we learn to listen within.
(27:22) – Going deep into nature to receive deeper messages.
(30:06) – The path of speaking up and staying true.
(34:35) – Creating space to relate and work with life differently.
(36:51) – Changing the collective by working on ourselves.
(43:22) – The concept of radical responsibility.
(52:31) – Jennifer on coming full circle and how her life is different now.
Notable Quotes
“There is so much hurt and pain that we are walking around with at any given time and we are projecting that out onto the world. But if we want to actually change that collective, we don't change the collective by working on the collective. We change the collective by working on ourselves so that we show up differently, so that we let different information in, we let different experiences in, and then we begin to shine that light, that consciousness, that awareness back out. But it's not by trying to fix the other, but by trying to heal ourselves, by trying to create that space within us.” – Luke (36:19)
“The more that you come into alignment with your soul and what your purpose is and what your higher self wants from you, the more of all of those above-the-line emotions you feel. The peace, the joy, the happiness, the fulfillment, the ‘I don't know what tomorrow is going to bring’, ‘I don't set goals the way that all the business people do’, we're much more open to life and knowing that I am on the right path, it's like life happens for us. Everything around you, all of the forces are like cheering you on and saying, yes, we've got your back. And you start seeing signs of it in your life and synchronicities, and all sorts of amazing things happen.” – Jennifer (53:28)
Our Guest
Jennifer DePascale believes that each and every one of us has soul gifts and a unique call from life. After years of unlocking her own truths, she was called to teach and coach others on how to quiet the noise of their inner and outer worlds to find the messages hiding in the depths of stillness within. She has been helping people go on a deep inner journey to find themselves, their deepest truth, and the fulfillment they've longed for their whole life.
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Jennifer DePascale
www.jenniferdepascale.com
https://www.linkedin.com/in/jdepascale/
https://www.instagram.com/jdepascale/
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Oxford Talks - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CiBh3CrqukQ&ab_channel=OxfordTalks -
This week on On This Walk, we're talking about thresholds — big life thresholds —and how to cross them. We are brought to moments and experiences that when we step into and through them intentionally, we create change. These changes aren't about becoming something different. In fact, they're about becoming more of who and what we really are. I've been dancing around these thresholds for many years with my clients; talking to you, the audience, about the inflection points that I have faced and many of us will face on this long walk back home to ourselves. Joining me today are two amazing walking partners, Kristina Marie, and Aaron Rose, who know this subject very well, personally and professionally.Listen in as we talk about the New Myth, the Last Temptation, and the difference between living for compared to living from. In fact, there are two main sources we tend to draw from but one leases to suffering while the other to liberation. My interaction with Kristina and Aaron hit home on many occasions and I am certain it will for you as well.In This Episode(05:54) – Creatrix of the new myth helping authors and writers.(11:44) – The cycle of weaving of different energies that embody within.(14:56) – Kristina talks about all the thresholds up to the Last Temptation.(20:38) – Aaron and Kristina reflect on their experiences with the last threshold.(24:48) – Discussing temptations disguised as sneaky invitations.(35:59) – How do you know it’s time to move forward as you arrive at the last threshold?(40:39) – The reality vs the blind faith leap from the outside looking in.(53:26) – How we live mythically.(1:00:31) – Living for something vs living from.(1:06:03) – Connections between the means and the ends.(1:11:17) – Kristina and Aaron’s advice for people who are at the threshold.Notable Quotes“If you're listening to this right now, if you're resonating with this, you're exactly where you need to be on your path. And there are more or less aligned choices, but all of it is data collection. We only know about what the know feels like because we've done the know and then we've seen what the result is. So, I would invite Courage to make the choice, you know, you need to make. I would invite compassion for yourself within the process, and I would invite gentle awareness of where you are on your path.” – Aaron (1:11:15)“I wish someone would have said to me then when I was really flailing around and had nobody even to talk to about this kind of stuff, let alone guide me. I was very much a fish out of water doing my own thing, and I feel like the simplest, truest thing I could have heard then is, be still. Just create one minute of silence with yourself. Every day. One minute. Anyone can do anything for one minute. I don't care how busy you are or what you got going on. One minute is possible.” Kristina (1:15:15)Our GuestsKristina Marie is a transformational story mentor and the creatrix of the New Myth. She worked as a journalist and an editor at top national publications, such as The New York Times for more than a decade. Now she combines her publishing skills, intuitive gifts, and creative wisdom to mentor transformational leaders, visionaries, and storytellers.Aaron Rose is a writer, mentor, and teacher. He combines transformational coaching, subconscious reprogramming, meditation, and prayer to support leaders and visionaries in discovering their divine mission, following their inner authority, and co-creating their wildest dreams with God.Resources & LinksOn This Walkhttps://www.facebook.com/dlukeioriohttps://www.linkedin.com/in/lukeiorio/https://instagram.com/dlukeioriohttps://instagram.com/onthiswalkshowMentionsEMERGE — Voyages of the Spirit - https://www.voyagesofthespirit.com/emergeSacred Passage - https://www.the-sacred-passage.com/
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This week on On This Walk, we cover a lot of ground — leadership, love, culture, and our walks towards deeper Truth.
My walking partner for today is Ryan Hartley, father of two and host of the globally popular podcast, Always Better Than Yesterday. Ryan has been a featured guest on over 30 podcasts and is regularly invited to speak at events internationally. His podcast is currently listened to in over 140 countries.
Listen as Ryan and I really get into it. We talk about what it means to live from love as opposed to for love. We discuss the influence of society and how it actually makes us feel incomplete and inadequate. We even touch on faith, religion, Christ consciousness, and spirituality. It’s all happening right here On This Walk.
In This Episode
(04:01) – Evolving into the heart-centered leadership style.
(11:40) – Changing course and steering into leadership.
(16:22) – Living from love, not for love.
(22:39) – Why culture is not our friend.
(25:50) – What are our desires based on?
(31:00) – Ryan describes the challenge with the pursuit of happiness.
(34:12) – Talking about faith and seeing through a Christian lens.
(41:23) – On relating to the energy that is God.
(46:12) – Luke on the feeling of being separate.
(52:39) – Heartset - Loving with all of your minds.
(58:51) – Reflecting on what it means to be human.
(1:02:33) – The masculine and feminine views of heart-centeredness.
(1:04:44) – How the journey has changed Ryan as a father.
Notable Quotes
“The reason I say culture is not our friend is because sometimes we have to take a step back and go, where are my desires coming from? Because you might say from a heart-centered perspective, should we follow our heart's desire? And I've had to get my head around this. I try every single day to get to Psalm 23, which starts with ‘The Lord is my shepherd. I have all that I need’. And I think that is the perfect scripture to remind myself every single day that in this moment I have all that I need. I do not lack anything. And when I do that, when I truly feel blessed, grateful, appreciative, that I can look around and choose my life, then whatever I do becomes an expression of that love and gratitude.” – Ryan (24:04)
“Anytime you feel lost, separate or lacking, close your eyes. Breathe, slow down and feel. Feel for that breath that runs through you and runs through all things, all of life. You're a part of that great mystery. Source yourself from that knowing, from that love and connect to that playful, creative, rambunctious, curious, loving, generous, even weird little inner child that you are. And this again, is a practice. This remembering doesn't always happen overnight, but taking the time to feel it, to breathe with it, to touch it within us and around us. Doing this as a practice allows us to remember, it's always been there. It will always be there, and we always have access to it. No need to think your way there. Just feel for it.” – Luke (49:33)
Our Guest
Ryan Hartley is the Chief Heart Officer of Always Better Than Yesterday, a company that develops heart-centered leaders through coaching, consulting, community building, and podcasting. Before that, he served as a local police force for 12 years in a variety of leadership roles. Founded in 2017, Always Better Than Yesterday survived the global pandemic and thrived by helping many leaders and businesses to do the same. He's the host of the podcast with the same name that's listened to in over 140 countries.
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Letting Go by David Hawkins - https://www.amazon.com/Letting-David-Hawkins-M-D-Ph-D/dp/1401945015 -
This week on On This Walk, we are talking about empowerment and upgrading the human operating system. Accompanying me today is a very special guest who has been working in this field for more than 30 years and has published many books on the subject. I have spoken before about the challenge of breaking away from engrained recurring patterns that keep us stuck where we are and referenced the work of Steven Karpman, who proposed the Drama Triangle and its 3 chief roles, the victim, the perpetrator, and the rescuer. In this episode, I sit down with David Emerald Womeldorff to talk about the roles in more detail; especially the rescuer role which actually perpetuates these recurring patterns, and together we try to answer the ultimate question: how do we switch to a new and different paradigm in order to upgrade our human operating system?In This Episode(07:01) – Upgrading our operating system for humanity.(12:46) – The need for new paradigm thinking ideologies.(14:10) – Dissecting the disempowering dynamic in more detail.(17:12) – Elaborating on the role of the victim mindset.(25:59) – The outcome of the empowerment dynamic.(31:07) – Anything that challenges us is a stimulus.(41:00) – How do we switch dynamic?(47:44) – Compassion-based medication and empathy. (50:22) – Connecting with someone on an empathetic level.(52:55) – Developing the capacity to see the creator's essence in the other.(55:43) – Economic growth as the center of our outcome orientation.(58:44) – The seven generations perspective.(1:02:22) – On humanity being on the verge of an inflection point.Notable Quotes“Empowerment is not that you are giving power to somebody. It is that you are reminding them they already have the power in the first place. And everybody inside of the empowerment dynamic maintains that as kind of this underlying belief is that each person here that is involved in the dynamic or the situation, there is power that is here and there is power that creates choice. We need to respect that choice and respect the sovereignty of what is involved as well. But the coach is there to support that, not to jump in. Not to solve it for somebody, not to do any of those things, but instead to be part of supporting the container that's been created and with that curiosity, with that openness, with those questions, help people start to connect to the answers that already lie within for themselves.” – Luke (34:27)“The outcome orientation is we put our focus on the outcome or outcomes we wanna create in our lives. And if we care about it, it engages our passion, our sense of purpose, our desire for that outcome, which gives us the energy to engage in what I call baby steps, but in whatever next action is that is gonna help me get closer to or clearer about the outcome they wanna create. So the outcome orientation is the upgrade, the outcome operating system is the upgrade that I think is humanity we're being called to step into. What kind of world do we wanna create? What kind of personal lives do we wanna create? And to be clear about that rather than reacting to what is coming at us.” – David (10:15)Our GuestDavid Emerald Womeldorff is the co-founder of the Center for The Empowerment Dynamic. As director of the center's Organizational Leadership and Self Leadership Practice Areas, David's passion is in supporting individuals, teams, and organizations in leading and working from an outcome-focused and passion-powered orientation. His principles and frameworks are based on his 30 years of study, observation, and application of his lessons of collaboration with a wide range of individuals and organizations.He's the author of the bestselling book The Power of TED, and Three Vital Questions.Resources & LinksOn This Walkhttps://www.facebook.com/dlukeioriohttps://www.linkedin.com/in/lukeiorio/https://instagram.com/dlukeioriohttps://instagram.com/onthiswalkshow
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This week on On This Walk, I am speaking directly to you, my audience.Join me as I talk about second-guessing, sowing fear, and creating doubt; and how the mind plays these tricks on our human design in order to distract us from the obvious truth; that the mind was never meant to be in charge; rather a faithful servant of the heart and soul. This is one episode you don’t want to miss.In This Episode(00:30) – Revisiting my human design.(05:18) – Concerns about sowing the seeds of doubt.(10:25) – Second guessing your wisdom.(12:20) – Listening to the inner voice and where it’s coming from. (15:30) – What part of you is second-guessing?(17:00) – What is the game your doubt is playing?Notable Quotes“I'm asking you to second guess your second guessing. I'm asking you to doubt your doubt. And that's where I want you to use your skepticism. I want you to break free from what limits you and begin to trust the truth that's trying to speak through you, that's calling you to the life that you really wish to create.” Luke (16:30)“More often than not, it's the mind that is afraid and it's projecting its fear onto you and onto what it sees. Because at some point the mind is worried that you might just discover the mind was never meant to be in charge. The mind was meant to be a faithful servant of the heart and of the soul. The mind is meant to be a tool, a powerful tool, but a tool that serves you.” Luke (17:29)Resources & LinksOn This Walkhttps://www.facebook.com/dlukeioriohttps://www.linkedin.com/in/lukeiorio/https://instagram.com/dlukeioriohttps://instagram.com/onthiswalkshow
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What would it mean for you to be without shame? As human beings, as part of nature, we’re naturally drawn to wanting to restore balance and peace within our lives, and there are two ways in which we can do it – the healthy way, or the unhealthy way. In today’s episode, we dig deep into how we can allow ourselves to feel the things we do not want to feel: shame, anger, grief, and so on, and learn to find the deeper message underneath it.
Accompanying me on today’s walk are William Walker and David Bryan, and together we discuss shame from multiple angles and views ranging from shame being a protective shield to shame redefining our masculinity.
In This Episode
(05:54) – Describing the different types of shame.
(08:53) – On being riddled and crippled by shame.
(17:31) – Disempowering patterns, beliefs, and behaviors.
(22:13) – Giving voice to all parts of you, shameful and proud.
(32:36) – Beautifully redefining manhood.
(35:32) – Shame is your protector.
(51:08) – Identifying the definitions of masculinity within you.
(51:33) – David recalls a moment of self-accountability and self-acceptance.
(1:03:00) – William on how men are terrified of knowing who they are.
(1:03:26) – On being accountable to align your souls.
(1:11:18) – Creating a compelling vision to justify the pain of change.
Notable Quotes
“My experience working with a lot of men and also myself is that sometimes men are terrified to know who they are. They're terrified because they built a life in an image around being a certain kind of man, and they're being loved for being a certain kind of man. What if they change what people still love them? Will they still have the status they have? Will their wife still love them? Will their kids still love them? Men are terrified about that because they want to be responsible for their environments and they should be. But there is a part of this I think every man has to face, which is you have to be responsible, but you also have to be true to yourself. If you're not true to yourself, you're going to be miserable. You're going to make people suffer anyway. So you have to do both.” William (1:03:00)
“My father stood in front of them, and he said these words. Every one of you on this committee I've gotten to know personally and each of you has shared intimate details about things that you would not want to be mentioned in this room. So, if you're judging me today and you want to excommunicate me, pull the trigger. I've never been more proud of my father than in that moment because he knew his humanity. He knew who he was. He knew he had failed.” David (56:04)
Our Guests
William Walker coaches men and leaders on their personal and leadership development. Over the past 20 years he has worked with diverse adult and youth populations including men, executives, entrepreneurs, thought leaders, community leaders, inmates, adolescent boys, at-risk teenagers, and university students. He is the author of Walk of Honor and Stories of Sovereign Man and has written several articles on men’s health, organizational learning and leadership, personal mastery, and masculinity.
David Bryan became a father at 21. Throughout much of his life in both white-collar and blue-collar jobs, he struggled to provide financially, wrestled with a victim mindset, and lived paycheck to paycheck. In 2013, David committed to changing his life and was immersed in the teachings of Tony Robbins, and Eric Thomas, among others. Over the next decade, David went from being homeless to building a multi-million-dollar construction management firm, in the halls of Harvard Business School.
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https://instagram.com/dlukeiorio
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My guest on today’s walk has experienced burnout personally and has been on a multi-year journey of healing and compassion that brought her back together again.
Avery Thatcher is the CEO and founder of The Truth About Burnout Podcast and the Flow State Membership. When she started her career as a Registered Nurse working in the ICU she noticed that the majority of the reasons people found themselves in the ICU were because of illnesses and diseases that could be linked to chronic stress. She decided to get out of the reactive side of medicine and now helps highly sensitive high achievers prevent burnout and reverse the negative health effects of stress.
After experiencing a significant change of health and severe burnout in 2018, Avery had to learn to redefine her identity and grieve the loss of who she used to be. Now she shares her story openly to help others realize that they are not alone in their struggles and talk about the strategies that helped her heal along the way.
I sit down with Avery to reflect on the dichotomous way of living, the importance of compassion in her own healing, how she came to terms with the sick and hurt side of her personality and turned her health around.
In This Episode
(05:55) – Reflecting on the dichotomous way of living.
(08:35) – The red flag of a toxic ICU.
(12:09) – How Avery started to numb out.
(15:06) – My experiences with burning out.
(21:40) – Going through the five stages of grief in two years.
(23:39) – Coming to terms and working out stuff with the sick Avery.
(27:32) – On changing her name and telling her family.
(35:31) – Asking yourself: What do I actually need?
(37:13) – Measuring achievement in terms of impact and creating.
(42:25) – Discussing labels and satisfying an underlying need.
(44:49) – Bringing awareness around differing values.
(48:51) – Returning to the wholeness and fullness of who we are.
(52:07) – The role of compassion in Avery’s journey.
(57:47) – What makes suffering so challenging?
Notable Quotes
“This is still a part of me and all of me deserves compassion. And then I wrote to this part of me that is sick. This part of me that is disabled, this part of me that is keeping me from who I used to be, who I identified as. And I said, I love you. Let's figure this out. You are along for the ride. I'm going to work with you rather than against you. And it was at that moment that I realized that I needed to somehow create a fresh start.” – Avery (24:32)
“Compassion and authenticity aren't an end goal. They're not an outcome. They are a path themselves that's creating. When we create with the same energy that we want in the outcome, that's how we actually get the outcome. Both Gandhi and Martin Luther King Jr spoke about how the means and the ends must be one and the same in a sense, and to quote Gandhi specifically, means are ends in the making.” – Luke (37:59)
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On This Walk
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https://www.linkedin.com/in/lukeiorio/
https://instagram.com/dlukeiorio
https://instagram.com/onthiswalkshow
Avery Thatcher
https://becomingavery.com/
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