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We could never have too many ideas about how to cultivate connections between home and school. Author of Light Up the Learning Brain (and Riley the Brave) Jessica Sinarski shares practical ideas that can help parents and schools work together to support kids with vulnerable nervous systems.
In this episode, you’ll learn
Practical, easy-to-implement strategies to create connections between parents and teachersWhy regulation is foundational for learningWhere to find resources that support educators in creating a culture of compassion
Light Up the Learning BrainSupporting Kids Who Struggle with Change www.BraveBrains.comFree Resources
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/improvingconnections
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Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being WithRaising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors is TURNING ONE!
Happy Birthday!!! 25,000+ copies, 4.9 stars- Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors is helping kids and families ALL OVER THE WORLD!
Check out RobynGobbel.com/book to purchase a copy or order in bulk for your team or book study group!Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources!
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Parenting kids with vulnerable nervous systems is practically synonymous with “controlling.” Our kids are controlling and for most of us, if we were honest, we’d notice that the stress of parenting is causing us to get controlling, too.
Why?
In this episode, you’ll learn
Why protection mode almost always leads to an increase in controlling behaviorHow controlling behavior is an attempt to find safety and connectionTips on how to offer co-regulation to a child who is attempting to control you
Connection or Protection??? {EP 7}Scaffolding is a Form of Co-Regulation {EP 82}Stress Response System {EP 94}Exploring Low-Demand Parenting: Shift Power Dynamics and Nurturing Trust {EP 142}
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/controlling
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Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being WithRaising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors is TURNING ONE!
Happy Birthday!!! 25,000+ copies, 4.9 stars- Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors is helping kids and families ALL OVER THE WORLD!
Check out RobynGobbel.com/book to purchase a copy or order in bulk for your team or book study group!Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources!
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Almost every time I teach, especially if there are folks in the audience not already familiar with my work or the concept of co-regulation, someone asks the very valid question of-
“Isn’t this (co-regulation) just coddling?”
Fair question! There are a lot of underlying assumptions and fears in this question that we will deconstruct in today’s episode.
Spoiler: Co-regulation is NOT coddling!
In this episode, you’ll learn
The difference between co-regulation and coddlingWhy asking this question helps us understand some of our fearsWhat trust has to do with co-regulation
Self-Regulation Doesn't Exist!!What Does Co-Regulation Really Look Like? {EP 81}Enabling vs. Low-Demand Parenting {Ep 144}
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/coddling
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Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being WithRaising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors is TURNING ONE!
Happy Birthday!!! 25,000+ copies, 4.9 stars- Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors is helping kids and families ALL OVER THE WORLD!
Check out RobynGobbel.com/book to purchase a copy or order in bulk for your team or book study group!Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources!
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This episode originally aired on November 7th, 2023
Does your child yell, scream, or otherwise refuse to talk about their owl, watchdog, or possum brain?They tell you it’s stupid or tell you to stop talking or get extra silly or just don’t talk?
I hear this from a LOT of parents (and I experienced it a lot in the play therapy room).
This doesn’t mean it doesn’t work for your child. Promise.
The developmental milestones needed before a child can identify or talk about their owl, watchdog, or possum brainHow we can use our kids’ behavior as cues/clues to let us know something about their brain development and what interventions are appropriate (clinical reasoning)The role of distress toleranceSteps to take to scaffold your child in developing self-reflection and mindsight, as well as decrease shame around their behavior
In this episode you’ll learn:Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Can I Teach My Child About Their Brain? {Ep 114}Healing Blocked Care With Melissa Corkum and Lisa Qualls {Ep 123}Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/talkaboutwatchdog
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Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being WithRaising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors is TURNING ONE!
Happy Birthday!!! 25,000+ copies, 4.9 stars- Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors is helping kids and families ALL OVER THE WORLD!
Check out RobynGobbel.com/book to purchase a copy or order in bulk for your team or book study group!Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources!
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This episode originally aired February 17th, 2023
I’ve been listening for a while and the watchdog and possum brain ideas have really helped me. Is it OK to teach this to my kids too? I’m worried they’ll start using it as excuses.I get this question all the time! If we teach our kids about the watchdog and possum brain are they going to start saying things like “My watchdog brain made me hit my sister!”
In this episode, I:
Outline the benefits of teaching our kids about their brain (there are lots)Teach you what to do if your child uses it as an excuseRecommend resources for how to teach your child about their brainWelcome to Fridays in February Q&As! I'll be answering one question every Friday in February.
Additional Resources:
Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior Podcast: https://robyngobbel.com/changebehavior
Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior FREE Webinar: https://robyngobbel.com/webinar
The START HERE podcast: https://robyngobbel.com/starthere
Over on my website you can find:Masterclass and eBook on What Behavior Really Is (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being WithRaising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors is TURNING ONE!
Happy Birthday!!! 25,000+ copies, 4.9 stars- Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors is helping kids and families ALL OVER THE WORLD!
Check out RobynGobbel.com/book to purchase a copy or order in bulk for your team or book study group!:::::
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Does your child with a vulnerable nervous system say mean, hurtful, taunting, or aggressive things to your other kids? You already know you can’t control what comes out of someone else’s mouth, so what do you do??? How do you help your kids deal with their sibling’s verbal aggression?
In this episode, you’ll learn
Steps to help increase your children’s psychological boundariesActivities that will help your children increase their psychological boundaries
Setting Boundaries That Sick - Juliane Taylor Shore's book!Boundaries with Verbal Aggression with Juliane Taylor Shore {EP 115}Setting Boundaries That Stick With Juliane Taylor Shore and Therapist Uncensored {EP 185}Helping Siblings Understand "Unfair" Parenting {EP 186}Teach Siblings about Owls, Watchdogs, and Possums... Without Excusing! {EP 187}Grief as the Sibling of a Child with Special Needs {EP 188}
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/siblingsverbalaggression
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LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being WithRaising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors is TURNING ONE!
Happy Birthday!!! 25,000+ copies, 4.9 stars- Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors is helping kids and families ALL OVER THE WORLD!
Check out RobynGobbel.com/book to purchase a copy or order in bulk for your team or book study group!Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources!
You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation!
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What on earth should you do when you have more than one child dysregulated at the same time? You’re outnumbered, you’re overwhelmed. Now what?
In this episode, you’ll learn
The #1 step to take when more than one kid is dysregulatedWhat to prioritize How to have realistic expectations for yourself
Child Always Dysregulated? Try This! {EP 18}Stress Response System {EP 94}Enabling vs. Low-Demand Parenting {EP 144}Grief as the Sibling of a Child with Special Needs {EP 188}
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/twokidsdysregulated
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LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being WithRaising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors is TURNING ONE!
Happy Birthday!!! 25,000+ copies, 4.9 stars- Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors is helping kids and families ALL OVER THE WORLD!
Check out RobynGobbel.com/book to purchase a copy or order in bulk for your team or book study group!Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources!
You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation!
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If you are a regular listener here on The Baffling Behavior Show, big, baffling behaviors and big meltdowns are no longer surprising in your home.
Even if we can’t predict those moments of 'Back-Off or, 'Attack' Watchdog, "Shut Down' or, 'Play Dead' Possum, we can predict that it is going to happen again.
You can create felt safety for the other children in your home by making a plan.
Key things to consider when making a plan for what siblings should do during a meltdownScripts for how to talk to your other children about the plan How to empower siblings to get help when they recognize lower level cues and clues of the watchdog or possum pathway in their sibling
In this episode, you’ll learn
Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior {EP 84}
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/helpsiblings
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Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being WithRaising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors is TURNING ONE!
Happy Birthday!!! 25,000+ copies, 4.9 stars- Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors is helping kids and families ALL OVER THE WORLD!
Check out RobynGobbel.com/book to purchase a copy or order in bulk for your team or book study group!Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources!
You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation!
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Grief is hard to acknowledge and talk about. The truth is, there is grief involved with being the sibling of a child with a special need. In today’s episode, we’re exploring how to support the siblings of kids with a nervous system disability with behavior-based symptoms with all their feelings, especially grief.
In this episode, you’ll learn
How to validate all your children’s feelings, even when they are really uncomfortableHow to acknowledge the truth that in most circumstances, your other children really are less seen in your familyThe four questions to ask yourself when thinking about how to help your kids with their grief
Grief In Parenting Kids With Vulnerable Nervous Systems {EP 129}Ableism, Parenting, And Trauma Informed Care {EP 85} (Guest Marshall Lyles)I HATE YOU! And Other Big Feelings {EP 168}
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/siblinggrief
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Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being WithRaising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors is TURNING ONE!
Happy Birthday!!! 25,000+ copies, 4.9 stars- Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors is helping kids and families ALL OVER THE WORLD!
Check out RobynGobbel.com/book to purchase a copy or order in bulk for your team or book study group!Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources!
You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation!
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One way we can support the siblings of kids with big, baffling behaviors is to teach them about owls, watchdogs, and possums (or some way to understand the brain and behaviors) as well as to teach them about nervous system vulnerabilities and ‘overactive’ watchdog and possum brains!
In this episode, you’ll learn
Steps to take when teaching siblings about owls, watchdogs, and possums so they won’t feel like you’re just excusing bad behaviorThe importance of validating your kids’ experience that the way you parent their sibling is unfairA couple scripts for talking to your children about their sibling’s watchdog and possum brain (available on my website by CLICKING HERE)Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Helping Siblings Understand "Unfair" Parenting {EP 186}Can I Teach My Child About Their Brain? {EP 114}My Child Won't Talk About Their Watchdog and Possum Brain {EP 160}EVERYONE Has A Watchdog And Possum Brain! {EP 178}Is Understand Behavior Just Excusing It? {EP 109}Enabling Vrs. Low-Demand Parenting {EP 144}
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/teachsiblings
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Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being WithRaising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors is TURNING ONE!
Happy Birthday!!! 25,000+ copies, 4.9 stars- Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors is helping kids and families ALL OVER THE WORLD!
Check out RobynGobbel.com/book to purchase a copy or order in bulk for your team or book study group!Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources!
You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation!
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Do you have kids who feel like the way you parent their sibling (the one with the worst behavior!!!) is unfair?
We’ll be tackling different topics on how to support siblings over the next month.
In this episode, you’ll learn
The five things to consider when thinking about how to help siblings understand ‘unfair’ parentingAre you parenting all your kids thru the lens of regulation, connection, and felt safety?Do all your children know about owls, watchdogs, and possums (or some other way to understand the brain and conceptualize behaviors)Do your school-age and older child understand vulnerable nervous systems and sensitized stress response systems (overactive watchdog and possum brains)Do your children (siblings of kids with special needs) feel really, truly seen by you?Is this actually more about unresolved grief (yours and/or theirs)
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Is Understanding Behavior Just Excusing It? {EP 109}Stress Response System {EP 94}What Does Vulnerable Nervous System Mean {122}Grief in Parenting Kids with a Vulnerable Nervous System {EP 129}Can I teach my kids about their brain? {EP 114}
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/unfair
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LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals:Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors is TURNING ONE!
Happy Birthday!!! 25,000+ copies, 4.9 stars- Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors is helping kids and families ALL OVER THE WORLD!
Check out RobynGobbel.com/book to purchase a copy or order in bulk for your team or book study group!Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources!
You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation!
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Something new and unexpected here on The Baffling Behavior Show!
Setting Boundaries that Stick by Juliane Taylor ShoreTherapist Uncensored Podcast with Sue Marriott and Ann KelleyBoundaries with Verbal Aggression podcast episode #115 with Juliane Taylor Shore
This episode is actually from the Therapist Uncensored Podcast with Sue Marriott and Ann Kelley. Sue and Ann interviewed one of y'alls FAVORITES- Juliane Taylor Shore.
Juliane was on The Baffling Behavior Show a long time ago, talking about psychological boundaries and verbal aggression. This is one of my most played episodes EVER.
Juliane just published a new book on boundaries so when Sue and Ann asked if I wanted to do a podcast feed swap, I knew y'all would LOVE to hear from Juliane.
In this episode, you'll hear Sue and Ann interview Juliane all about Setting Boundaries that Stick.
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/boundariesthatstickFollow Me On:
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Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being WithRaising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors is TURNING ONE!
Happy Birthday!!! 25,000+ copies, 4.9 stars- Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors is helping kids and families ALL OVER THE WORLD!
Check out RobynGobbel.com/book to purchase a copy or order in bulk for your team or book study group!Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources!
You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation!
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Parents of kids with baffling behaviors are CONSTANTLY being judged by others.
How do we get to a point where we don’t care as much about what other people think?
In this episode, we’ll explore:
Some of the most common judgments that parents of kids with baffling behaviors receiveHow it’s actually not possible to not care at all, but we can care LESSThree things we can do so that the judgment from others doesn’t impact us as much as it does nowFor a script on how to set boundaries with folks expressing judgment, go to: https://RobynGobbel.com/notcare
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
How Self-Compassion Changed Things For This Mom {EP 78}Influence Behaviors, Not Control {EP 101}Is Understanding Behavior Just Excusing It? {EP 109}Boundaries With Verbal Aggression With Juliane Taylor Shore {EP 115}Secure Relating With Guests Sue & Ann From Therapist Uncensored {EP 175}Juliane's Book! : Setting Boundaries That Stick
Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/notcare
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Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being WithRaising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors is TURNING ONE!
Happy Birthday!!! 25,000+ copies, 4.9 stars- Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors is helping kids and families ALL OVER THE WORLD!
Check out RobynGobbel.com/book to purchase a copy or order in bulk for your team or book study group!Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources!
You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation!
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“The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.” ~Carl Rogers
You know, one of my favorite things about studying relational neuroscience is discovering the science that proves things we’ve known all along.
Not everyone needs the science, and I know some think the science detracts from the powerful truths that people have been brave enough to say and believe without having science to back it up.
I think both approaches are fine. I just happen to like the science.
And yup, the science backs it up.
Acceptance really is needed if we want behavior to change.
I find this truth to both a bummer and also quite liberating.
How do we accept something without sending the message the it’s ok, no big deal, and there’s no need for it to change?
It’s hard, but possible. You’ll hear my own journey toward this truth and a couple tips on how to do it yourself in this episode.
Read a long summary of this episode here: https://robyngobbel.com/howbehaviorchanges
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Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being WithRaising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors is TURNING ONE!
Happy Birthday!!! 25,000+ copies, 4.9 stars- Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors is helping kids and families ALL OVER THE WORLD!
Check out RobynGobbel.com/book to purchase a copy or order in bulk for your team or book study group!Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources!
You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation!
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Do the Watchdog and Possum pathway only activate in protection mode? Are they always protective?
NO! It is possible to have safe and connected Watchdog energy and safe and connected Possum energy!
Why does this distinction matter?
What safe and connected watchdog energy feels likeWhat safe and connected possum energy feels likeWhy it’s important to remember we aren’t trying to get rid of the watchdog or the possum- we are trying to help them rest and only work hard when they need to
In this episode, you’ll learn
Trauma Behavior? Or Just Acting Up? {EP 30}Focus On The Nervous System To Change Behavior {Ep 84}
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Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/alwaysprotective
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Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being WithRaising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors is TURNING ONE!
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What does my child need for their success to be inevitable?
If I wanted to paint the top of a 20 foot wall, I’d rent some scaffolding. Scaffolding makes the floor higher and would get me as close to the top of the wall as I needed.
The scaffolding would help make my success inevitable. It’s not the only thing I need to be successful (paint would come in handy!), but it’s a really important piece.
In parenting, scaffolding is the support that we put in place that allows our children to be successful. Then, slowly, thoughtful, and sequentially, we decrease the amount of external support needed as our children develop that capacity to be successful on their own.
Read a summary of this episode and access the full show notes at: RobynGobbel.com/Scaffolding
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Janet Nordine is a registered play therapist, adoptee, and mental health activist working tirelessly to improve children’s mental health services, specifically in the state of Nevada.
Janet has an important message for adoptees that I think is relevant to all kids and families who are supporting kids with vulnerable nervous systems:
There is nothing wrong with you. You’ve done nothing wrong. You can be OK.
In this episode, explore
How to help create ‘good parent messages’ for children who feel unloved and unwantedSitting with two conflicting feelings at once The benefits of falling in love with yourselfResources mentioned in this podcast:
Children’s Mental Wellness Symposium- Las Vegas NVSeptember 26 - 29, 2024Details and registration here: https://lasvegasplaytherapy.com/Good Morning, I Love You by Dr. Shauna Shapiro
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Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With
Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors is TURNING ONE!
Happy Birthday!!! 25,000+ copies, 4.9 stars- Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors is helping kids and families ALL OVER THE WORLD!
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Self-regulation is a crucial developmental milestone and I’m thrilled that we are turning our eyes toward self-regulation instead of staying focused on behavior modification through rewards and consequences. At the same time, we must remember that self-regulation is developed through repeated and regular experiences of co-regulation with an attuned, regulated, present caregiver. If children are struggling to use their self-regulation skills, it’s quite possible that they aren’t regulated enough to access those skills. They are getting dysregulated too quickly and need co-regulation before they can be expected to use skills on their own. It is these experiences of coregulation that build the neural circuity for what is ultimately labeled self-regulation...so you don’t need to worry that the continued offering of co-regulation will impede the development of self-regulation- it’s exactly the opposite!!!
Humans never outgrow their need for co-regulation! We all need connection and co-regulation! Which is exactly why I've created The Club- a virtual community for parents of kids impacted by trauma!
CLICK HERE to read about The Club and join the waitlist for the next time we welcome new members!
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Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being WithRaising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors is TURNING ONE!
Happy Birthday!!! 25,000+ copies, 4.9 stars- Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors is helping kids and families ALL OVER THE WORLD!
Check out RobynGobbel.com/book to purchase a copy or order in bulk for your team or book study group!Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources!
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What’s the connected response to {insert difficult behavior here}??
How do I respond to {insert difficult behavior here} in a connected way???
I get some version of this question almost every day. So, let’s answer it here on the podcast!
In this episode, you’ll learn
What most parents are really asking when they ask ‘what’s the connected response’?What a connected response really isHow to trust your own intuition to answer that questionResources mentioned in this podcast:
Felt Safety (Inside) - Part 1 {EP 161}Felt Safety (Outside) - Part 2 {EP 162}Felt Safety (Between) - Part 3 {EP163}What Does Co-Regulation Really Look Like? {EP 81}Boundaries With Connection Part 1 of 3 {EP 111}Building The Tower Of Self-Regulation {EP 9}Stealing {EP 138}Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/connectedresponse
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Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
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Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being WithRaising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors is TURNING ONE!
Happy Birthday!!! 25,000+ copies, 4.9 stars- Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors is helping kids and families ALL OVER THE WORLD!
Check out RobynGobbel.com/book to purchase a copy or order in bulk for your team or book study group!Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources!
You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation!
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It’s normal and common for stress and dysregulation to cause kids to act younger than they really are. This happens to grown-ups too! Simply because it’s normal and common doesn’t mean it’s not very frustrating!
A neurosequential explanation for regressionHow to use regression as a cue or a clue about the state of your child’s nervous systemWays to respond to regressed behavior that may increase regulation, connection, and felt safety
In this episode, you’ll learnResources mentioned in this podcast:
A NueroDevelopmental Approach: Right Intervention, Right Time {EP 47}Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/regression
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Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being WithRaising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors is TURNING ONE!
Happy Birthday!!! 25,000+ copies, 4.9 stars- Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors is helping kids and families ALL OVER THE WORLD!
Check out RobynGobbel.com/book to purchase a copy or order in bulk for your team or book study group!Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources!
You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation!
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