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To hug or not to hug? That is the question for a lot of people. Recently I was thinking about the later days of the pandemic, going to a couple of conferences when we were still wearing masks and sitting six feet apart. The conference organizers offered two versions of the badge lanyards to signal whether you were comfortable shaking hands or not.
At the time I was like, oh, what a bummer that this is what we have to declare but in hindsight I think it was probably a big relief for people who, as a rule, don’t like that physical contact and wish they could walk around always with a little sign that says, “Please don’t touch me.”
Personally, I’m a hugger. To me, hugs are more than just squeezes; they're like little happiness boosters with a dash of oxytocin. But let's not kid ourselves, hugging ain't always a walk in the park for everyone.
With cultural quirks and personal preferences in the mix, figuring out when to go in for the hug can be a bit of a head-scratcher. Whichever side of the hug you’re on, you don’t want to offend, right?
In this episode of Real Confidence I’m sharing some tips on how to read the room, pick up on subtle cues from the person in front of you to determine if you’re going to go for it or opt for a cozy, two-handed handshake instead.
The bottom line? Let’s be more mindful of one another’s physical comfort zone and share that confidence through some good old-fashioned kindness.
Listen in to hear more about how to confidently navigate the hug highway and foster human connection!
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Ever wonder which episode or season you’d make it to if you were a character in The Walking Dead? How you’d protect yourself, find shelter, get food? Whom you could trust? What about whether you could trust yourself to do the right thing if your life were under threat or your loyalties were tested?
These questions aren’t just fun party conversation starters – they’re actually a sneaky way to get a handle on how self-reliant you are, and in turn, how confident you feel about taking care of yourself and your loved ones in an actual state of emergency.
Topics like emergency preparedness, self-defense, and home safety and security bring up fear for a lot of people. There’s the Fear with a capital F around the need for these things becoming reality, but also the fear that we won’t know what to do or how to do it if someone isn’t there to help or guide us.
The more self-reliant we are, the more confidence we can have that we have the skills, tools or abilities we need to manage these kinds of serious situations. That doesn’t guarantee a good outcome of course, but the alternative – keeping our heads in the sand – almost promises that things won’t go as well as they could.
Enter John Brewer, my guest on this episode of Real Confidence. John spent 10+ years in Army Special Forces defending his country, his family and his life. Our conversation about the relationship between self-reliance and confidence was riveting. It doesn’t matter if you’re avoiding learning how to program a new remote control or putting go-bags together in case weather events force you to evacuate your home – this episode has something for everyone.
Highlights from our conversation include:
How self-reliance and teamwork fit togetherThe cost of not being more self-reliantHow it’s our belief that something is beyond our learning grasp that makes it soWhy foundational – not expert – knowledge is enough to build self-trust and relianceThe three levels of confidence that are always at play at work or at home, whether you’re a leader or contributor to the teamJohn Brewer is the author of Fight For Your Best Life: The Step-By-Step Self-defense Guide to Personal Empowerment, Protecting Your Loved Ones, and Living Fearless and the founder of Mind, Shield and Spear Consulting group, an organization focused on delivering not just the physical techniques, but also the mental strategies to navigate challenging situations with confidence. Learn more about John at mindshieldandspear.com.
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Listen, life is A LOT and has been for the last four years. I’ll be the first one to tell you that what we lived through changed not how we lived, but how we experienced our lives. We’re not going back to before. We’ve got to live where we are NOW.
And where we are now is emotionally exhausted. The question is why? Are we truly burned out or are we just bored? And how do we know the difference?
One of the problems I see is that (once again), when the way we feel is validated by the media and everyone around us, we’re compelled to label it as a syndrome.
Yes, it helps to know we’re not alone in what we’re feeling or dealing with but giving it a “diagnosis” like that makes it way too easy to put the blame outside ourselves.
So I’m going to ask again: are we truly burned out or are we just bored?
This is top of mind for me because I am craving sleep like it’s my job. It’s not a health issue (I had my doctor look into it) and what I discovered when I got curious about this sleepy malaise might surprise you.
In this episode, I get into that and share my own personal process for identifying what’s draining, exhausting or otherwise sapping my life energy. Listen in to hear what I learned and see if you’re up for a little challenge of your own.
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The human brain is a marvelous thing. All day long it’s tasked with protecting us from anything it perceives as a threat, and it takes that job seriously.
So seriously, in fact, that it actually can’t discern the difference between real, life-threatening situations and getting a vague, last-minute meeting request from our boss.
Whatever the danger, our brains sound the alarm bell, stress hormones begin to flood our system and our amygdalas – that primitive part of our brain – go into overdrive.
We fight, we flee, we freeze or we fawn, all in the name of creating safety and security.
With biology at play like that, is it possible to be confident in a crisis?
The answer is yes, but it’s more accurate to say we can learn how to be MORE confident in a crisis.
My guest on this episode of Real Confidence knows firsthand from her time in AmeriCorps what it’s like to live in a war zone and how we experience threats to our lives and threats to our status, income or relationships in pretty much the same way.
She also has some excellent strategies for how to come back to center and anchor our perception in reality so we can operate from a calmer, cooler place when a crisis (real or perceived) hits.
Takeaways from our conversation include:
Why it’s easier for men to compartmentalize than it is for womenHow to prevent a full-on amygdala hijacking when you feel it starting upThe role curiosity can play in teaching your brain what it is and isn’t a crisisJust how much choice we all really have when in a moment of crisisKristine Scott developed her conflict response and training skills over years directing meal programs for the house insecure. Her monthly training sessions soon started drawing people from all over, leading her to found Seattle Conflict Resolution. Kristine is now a nationally recognized trainer and internationally lauded speaker on conflict management. Her mission is to help people bring their best selves into hard situations. You can learn more about Kristine at seattleconflictresolution.com.
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A lot of people ask me what the opposite of confidence is. On some level I think they already know the answer isn’t insecurity or a lack of self-esteem otherwise why ask the question.
And they’re right. The opposite of confidence is neither of those things.
It’s guilt.
Guilt is quite a tool. Most often we think of it as a tool other people use against us. My mother likes to say, “I didn’t know your phone was broken,” to guilt me into calling more often.
In those situations, when someone’s bullying us, guilt can feel bad, stir up feelings of shame or worthlessness. And I have some things to say about that, too.
But sometimes guilt can be good. I don’t mean that it makes us feel good, but that it’s a sign that we’ve violated our own values, needs and wants.
When we can recognize that, then we also recognize that just like confidence, guilt is a choice. We can wallow in it, or we can use it to address what we did – or didn’t do – and come back to what’s most important to us and then act from THAT place.
Listen in to learn how to spot the different flavors of guilt and what you can do when you feel the weight of it pulling you down, so that the next time it shows up you can rise up confidently to face it.
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Any St. Jerome fans here? Saint who, you’re probably thinking but you may be familiar with some famous words of his:
Good, better, best. Never let it rest. ‘Til your good is better and your better is best.
But living inside a culture obsessed with overnight success and a social media landscape that lures us into the self-comparison trap, many of us stop before we even start, well, anything new or different.
It’s like if we aren’t already The Best, why bother trying, right? And yet there are some people who seem to have cracked the code. By all appearances it looks like mastery – being the best – comes easy to them.
Not exactly true.
My guest on this episode of Real Confidence has won awards, received accolades and set records that would cause anyone’s jaw to drop. And more interesting still, you wouldn’t think that filmmaking, scuba diving or racing in a Veladrome are connected in any way.
But they are.
So, if you’ve been holding yourself back from pursuing your real passion, changing careers or exploring a different way of being in the world, you’re going to want to listen to the conversation Jeff Seckendorf and I had about what it takes to be your best.
Highlights include:
Why settling for quick success is like eating empty caloriesHow your past informs not just your present, but your confidence to create your futureThe incredible concept of overlap and how it allows failure to be okay; andThe magical paradox of being risky in a conservative way and what that has to do with successJeff Seckendorf is a life-long adventurer, filmmaker, and educator – flight instructor, scuba instructor trainer, mentor to scores of up and coming film directors, and instructor for hundreds of film workshops. Learn more about Jeff at jeffreyseckendorf.com.
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Relatives, friends, strangers, colleagues, bosses, store clerks, customer support reps. People who intimidate us come in all shapes and disguises. And it doesn’t matter if they’re in a position of authority or sitting across from us at the dinner table: interacting with them leaves us feeling less than, not good enough or otherwise awful.
Is it better or worse when you know you’re going to see someone who intimidates you? Probably better.
When you anticipate seeing that person, at a holiday gathering or a meeting, you’re going to worry. If you remember the movie Monsters, Inc. it's like going to visit Roz in accounting, right? You know they're going to say something that makes you feel lousy, that's just not going to be welcoming or inclusive. You might be full of angst, but you know what’s coming.
It’s when you don’t anticipate the encounter and you’re unprepared that things get majorly uncomfortable. This “sneak attack” is very, very, very disarming, discomforting and horrendously stressful. In this situation, everything is lined up for us to respond directly from our fear-abiding lizard brain.
Whether expected or unexpected, that’s what happens when we’re faced with someone who intimidates us. It’s part of being human in a world of other human beings.
Short of avoiding those people altogether – tempting, but impossible by the way – there are measures you can take to regain your composure, manage your emotions and gain back whatever power your brain thinks you’ve lost.
Listen in to this episode to learn what they are so the next time someone makes you quake in your boots or question yourself, you tame that trigger and respond as your best self.
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One of my favorite things about the podcast is when everything clicks with a guest. That’s what happened when I got together with Rahul Karan Sharma, author of Habits 4 Miracles, to talk about how we can leverage the power of neuroplasticity at any age to experience confidence and create new habits.
If you’re here for the first time thinking, yeah right, I’m not sure about this and I’m to old to start now? We’re here to tell you it’s not too late and you’re never too old.
There are hundreds if not thousands of books on the subject of habits, a lot of them fall into the “so what” category or send the message that productivity is only the path to fulfillment. Rahul takes a different approach, one that intersects with the work I do at the Institute grounded in values, needs, and wants, which together form the foundation for making confident choices.
He and I could have talked for hours, but this episode is an enlightening and encouraging 20 minutes or so.
Highlights from our conversation include:
Why it’s so much harder to develop habits for the “shoulds” versus the “wants” in our livesHow analysis paralysis isn’t just unproductive, it can reinforce the very things we want to changeWays to limit the time you spend overthinking; andThe role literal and figurative noise play in the quality of the decisions we make and what we can do about itRahul Sharma transitioned from a 20+ year corporate career to inspiring others towards excellence and high performance. Believing that if there is a will, there is a way, Rahul has dedicated his entire adult life to proving that one mind shift can make all of the difference. To learn more about Rahul and his gem of book, Habits 4 Miracles, visit www.habits4miracles.com.
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Irving Berlin is known for saying “Life is 10 percent what you make it and 90 percent how you take it.” The same could be said for words, although how we take them – their impact on us or others – is probably closer to 100 percent.
Yes, we have dictionary definitions to fall back on, but I believe the true power of words lies in our personal associations with them. Maybe that’s why I spend a good third of my cognitive energy stores on choosing the right ones to speak, write and share.
Because what a particular word means to me, may carry a completely different message for you and lately, I’ve seen this play out again and again.
Words like “kind”, “shameless,” and even my beloved “confidence” can be taken – or received - as a compliment or criticism.
These words - which incidentally, are all words we can think of as ways to describe a person’s character or personality - are highly nuanced. Delivered with or without thoughtfulness, they can be clues or hints as to what rattles or rallies our confidence in the moment.
But when we’re certain enough about our values, needs and wants these trickster words become a little easier to navigate and we’re better able to stay grounded in and own our personal truth. And that kind of “ownership” may be one of the most confident things we do for ourselves and everyone around us.
Listen in as this self-proclaimed word wonk unpacks the labels and phrases that trip me up and what I do to remember that real power - and confidence - comes from within.
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I’d say every 10th podcast pitch or so I get is from somebody who uses the word “unstuck”. They want to help the world and people to get unstuck. It’s noble and for some, you might say a calling, but it’s talked about so much that I tend to avoid it.
Until now.
When I connected with CK Collins, otherwise known as Kelly, author of The Swipe Right Effect: The Power to Get Unstuck, her story and her wisdom were something I had to bring to our audience.
This state of being we refer to as “being stuck” is often reduced to situations where we can’t make a decision, can’t motivate ourselves to move forward and leave a job or relationship. We’re “stuck” in place.
What we’re talking about in this episode of Real Confidence is stuck with a capital S. When upheaval and trauma leave us immobilized, mired in grief and anger and pain. When we’re STUCK in that place between what life was like before and can’t see, never mind move toward, “the after”.
No one person’s way out will be another’s. Not exactly. But there’s something we can all learn from the connection Kelly made between forgiveness and confidence that’s why I’m sharing this conversation with you today.
C.K. Collins, aka Kelly, was an award-winning publisher and owner of a hyperlocal news publishing company in the Nashville area. She sold her company and retired from the industry in 2021. Her divorce following a 31-year marriage led her to completely up-end her life and start over. Believing that travel feeds the soul and grows the heart and mind, Kelly embarked on a two-year travel sabbatical to write her first book. Learn more about Kelly and her book, the Swipe Right Effect, at ckcollins.co.
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I’m going to call BS on something we probably all heard as kids: sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me.
I know we were all taught this rhyme to shut bullies up, but words do matter, and we don’t always appreciate how much.
Especially when they’re coming out of our mouths and we mean well – we truly do – but how they land has the opposite effect.
I’m as guilty of this as anyone. And it took me a really long time to realize how my good intentions could take someone’s confidence down instead of building it up, not just because of what I said, but how I said it and in what context.
I’ve been thinking about this a lot and I’ve zeroed in on five phrases that have the ability to kill our confidence when we hear them, and kill someone else’s when we say them.
These phrases seem benign but even when they’re offered in the spirit of support or helpfulness, can create fear. Fear of failure, regret or rejection – the three fears that really make us all question our confidence.
Listen in to find out what the phrases are, what you can say instead and/or respond confidently when someone says them to you. That way we can all try and be a little more compassionate to ourselves and to other people who do intend well, but don't always have the right words to tell us.
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There’s a certain magic that happens when we coach someone on confidence at the Institute. We experience it regularly in our coaching certification practica and in our Pitch workshops and even informally, in casual conversations outside the coaching bubble.
It’s not supernatural or mystical by any means, but it IS powerful.
So often, maybe even 99% of the time, the confidence problem we think we have isn’t the one we need to solve so we can move forward. It’s the “problem behind the problem”.
I’ll give you an example: A lot of people come to me wanting to feel more confident about their presentation skills. They hate presenting. When I say to them, “Okay, so don’t present. Problem solved,” they freak out a little bit.
Because if presenting were the actual problem, they wouldn’t freak out when I say that – they’d feel some relief instead and go on their way.
But that little freak out interrupts the story they’re telling themselves about their presentation skills and opens up some space in their brains for us to get to the heart of the matter together.
What are they really struggling with? What are they scared of? What’s the real source of the fear?
Then we’re able to work on the next right step they can take to gain control of their brains and start moving toward what they want and if you’ve been following my work for a while you already know what I’m about to say: this process is effective because confident isn’t what you think – it’s HOW.
In this episode, I take special guest Eti Moskowitz, one of ACI’s confidence coaches, through the process to find out what’s holding her back from showing the world what a talented and devoted coach she is.
I hope you’ll listen in and hear the magic for yourself.
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In talking with a friend recently, I was stunned when she told me she was totally overwhelmed but was completely uncomfortable asking for help.
I was like, what? I guess because I ask for help all the time and it doesn't faze me. But I was perplexed and asked her to elaborate a little bit more on how and why she felt that way. She replied that the way she was brought up it was not okay to ask for help. Asking for help shows you were weak, incapable or failing. Instead, she was told to buck up, just persevere, get through it, deal with it, figure it out.
And that was the way her brain and her behavior subsequently worked.
My beautiful friend has gone through some major life trauma so even more, we all want to support her in any way. And I don't just mean emotionally, but help with extra hands or heads to handle home and life. She's now a single mom raising four kids, managing a household, trying to stay connected to other family and friends. But she doesn’t feel ‘entitled’ to ask for help and instead thinks well, if I ask for help, I’m taking advantage, setting a bad example or admitting I am incompetent.
No. No. No.
Absolutely not.
And then I said something to her, and her face lit up. Her behavior not only changed but her confidence shot through the roof. Wanna know what? Well…you’re going to have to listen to this episode!
But I’ll drop a small spoiler: I give three points of specificity you can use not only when you ask for help, but when you offer to help someone else so that everyone on both sides of the conversation feels really good about what’s being given and what’s being received.
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I was taught to schmooze. You know what I mean, even if you don’t speak Yiddish: I can walk into any room, anywhere and strike up a conversation with anyone about anything.
Sometimes those conversations turn out to be meaningful and other times it’s just a bunch of polite chit chat or small talk.
But it wasn’t until I spoke to this week’s guest, Michelle Tillis Lederman, that it really hit me that not only are not all conversations created equal, but in most of these cases I was conversing versus connecting.
What’s the difference exactly?
Connecting is more than an exchange of information, it’s learning about another person and allowing them to learn about you. It’s uncovering shared interests, values, experiences, causes, passions – all the things that make people want to build relationships with one another.
Let’s be clear: there is nothing WRONG with having casual conversations. But somewhere between shooting the breeze and baring our souls lies the opportunity to be interested and interesting in a way that’s satisfying that what we think of as networking rarely is.
The good news is, finding that sweet spot is neither difficult nor mysterious and Michelle shares her top tips for connecting that won't leave you feeling fake, phony or gross.
Takeaways from this episode include:
How to make yourself comfortable first, so others are comfortable around youWhy making a conversation all about them is the same as making it all about youWhat the best questions for connecting – not conversing – have in commonThe importance of knowing how you want to follow up before you finish that first conversation; andHow to gracefully let someone know when you don’t want to connect as much as they doMichelle Tillis Lederman is an accomplished speaker, trainer, coach, and author of four books including The Connector’s Advantage, The11 Laws of Likability, Heroes Get Hired and Nail The Interview – Land The Job. You can learn more about Michelle and her work at michelletillislederman.com.
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Overwhelmed. Who doesn’t feel these days, right? This feeling of not knowing where to start, where to focus - or sometimes not even being able to focus at all - is a real confidence killer.
Why? Because when we have too many things to do, what we also have are too many choices in front of us, and if you’ve been following my work for a while, you know i talk a lot about how over-choice consumes a huge amount of cognitive cycles. The less brain power we have, the more even small or simple choices overwhelm us.
The next thing we know, 10 minutes an hour or an afternoon has gone by, and we’ve accomplished nothing.
But the problem doesn’t stop there, because if you’re like me, then you’re probably layering in some guilt about what didn’t get done, why it didn’t get done and how it still needs to get to done.
And guilt, my friends, is truly the opposite of confidence.
So how can we get more strategic about how we use our time and energy when we’re staring at a mountain of work and personal commitments so that when we reflect back a week or month later, we can feel confident that we gave and did our best?
That’s what I’m talking about in this episode of Real Confidence. And I’m going to give you an inside look at the method behind my madness that finds people asking me at least two or three times a week how I get it all done.
But while this episode might be a little more tactical than you’re used to, I went for it because I’m confident it will help you make faster, quicker decisions that lead to very intentional, deliberate and strategic ways to use your precious and limited resources to get things without doing yourself in.
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Nope. You are not tripping or hallucinating. We ARE talking about acid, ‘shrooms, and other forms of psychoactive drugs.
I think psychedelics are a very underrepresented topic but rapidly gaining ‘speed’. First, because psychedelics were politically shamed back in the 60s despite the scientific evidence they can really help mental illness. We were all told to ‘just say no’ with no scientific data but many myths used to scare us. Second, microdosing is today on trend being used to improve individual focus and innovation.
I am personally curious about psychedelics because there are studies that confirm psychedelics can help prune unnecessary or false neural pathways that trigger destructive beliefs and behaviors (including addiction). And when safely administered, psychedelics appear to generate new connections and rationalize beliefs by opening someone’s mind to learn and grow - yep, my fav neuro-word: neuroplasticity!And while I have long advocated that we can all “choose to change our brains”, I had been more plugged into the assistive tech than considering anything organic.
Check out this episode to increase your psychedelic awareness and confidence.
Please note that neither Alyssa or ACI is not advocating the use of psychedelics. If you are interested in using them, please consult a qualified medical professional.
Sherry Rais is the co-founder and CEO of Enthea, a mental health company dedicated to providing access to safe and affordable psychedelic-assisted therapy. You can learn more about Enthea and Sherry at enthea.com. -
I've been an Elton John fan for almost 50 years and my favorite song in his massive catalog is “Sorry, seems to be the Hardest Word.” But as much as I love Elton and that song, I'm going to say that I'm not sure he’s right.
I think it’s harder to tell somebody that they hurt you, that they made you sad or angry or frustrated; that they did something that genuinely they shouldn’t have, or you want them to know that they shouldn't have.
I’ve been thinking about this a lot because recently I had a situation with two of my best friends and it was something so petty, but they forgot to invite me to something that they had organized with some other people. And I was really hurt by that. I suspected that maybe they just forgot and were so busy or maybe they thought that I didn't want to go, or it could have been 100 other reasons.
But the fact that they didn't invite me just made me so sad, like, very left out. And I was like, how can I communicate that and do it confidently?
Because showing that kind of vulnerability is hard. It feels like admitting to some kind of weakness. There’s a lot of “emotional stew” going on - you might already be questioning their intent, whether they like you, why they did what they did, and maybe even whether you deserved it - plus the uncertainty of how the person who hurt you will respond, which is a confidence kicker on its own.
In this episode of Real Confidence you’ll learn how to tell someone they’ve hurt you that actually gives confidence to both of you.
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You know that voice in your head that tells you all the reasons you can’t reach your goals or go after what you want? Maybe you call it your inner critic or inner saboteur – it doesn’t really matter, because we all have one. Its job is to get us to maintain the status quo because to our brains, change – even positive change – is a threat.
If you’re human, then it’s pretty much a given you’ve experienced situations where your brain tells you not to ask for or do something because you might fail, or be told no or rejected and then regret taking that action.
But what happens when your inner critic or bully turns the volume up to 11? Makes it deeply personal? Tells you the reason that XYZ can’t happen, is because there’s something wrong with you?
My guest on this episode of Real Confidence calls that “abusive brain chatter” and that’s a phrase, that the first time I saw it, jumped off the page at me.
Because there’s a difference between the chatter telling you that you’re a sucky public speaker – a skill you can improve upon – and telling you that you have nothing worthwhile to say and you add no value so you might as well keep your mouth shut.
The former might rattle your confidence, but the latter? Destroys it. The good news is you can learn to spot when your brain chatter is abusive and take steps to heal it.
Listen in as life, relationship and spiritual coach Jacquie Elliott and I talk about:
How to know if your brain chatter is being helpful or harmfulThe relationship between your core beliefs and the unhelpful messages your brain gives you on repeatPractical ways to cut through the noise and connect with the part of you that truly wants to succeedHow to negotiate with and integrate your inner saboteur so all parts of feel heard and get what they wantJacquie Elliott is a certified life, relationship and spiritual coach who helps people heal the abusive brain chatter in their heads and realize their full potential. You can learn more about Jacquie’s work and retreats at healingabc.com.
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The research over and over again at the Institute shows that our confidence peaks when we're 60 years old. We’ve leaned on that statistic for almost a decade now, saying we’re all a (confidence) work in progress until we get to that magic point, that peak of confidence, where we finally don’t care what other people think about us.
I’ve been thinking about this deeply because recently, I’ve been dealing with a lot of things that are making me question, is that really true? But more importantly, why is it true?
Is it because our social circles have narrowed (i.e., fewer people’s opinions to worry about)? Because we have more experience to draw on? Or is it because with each passing year, we get a little clearer on what our priorities are and start living life and expressing ourselves based more on the personal codes we’ve developed than family or social ones?
And can we hasten the process to be confident sooner? More easily? Less scarred?
It turns out that it doesn’t really matter how old you are or how much life experience you accrue.
It’s a matter of HOW you think. Confidence is a result of how conscientious you are of your decisions. That comes with experience but can be accelerated through education and self-awareness.
And a key part of this conscious choice is not just accepting all the advice other people give you – including me – that tell you what you should or could do.
But I do have some things you’ll want to consider based on the research and thousands of people I’ve confidence coached - plus my own (almost) 60-year confidence journey!
Ready to hear real confidence hacks? Listen in.
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You know, I say it a lot – confidence isn’t what you think, it’s literally HOW you think. So, when I sat down with broadcast voice coach Susan Murphy to talk about communicating confidently, I found myself nodding along when she confirmed what I already suspected.
Confident communication – that is, communicating in a way that captures and keeps your audience’s attention and gets your message across – is less about what you say, and all about HOW you say it.
It seems obvious, right, but what exactly is the HOW?
What I learned from Susan during our chat is that the HOW may not be what you think it is. That tone goes beyond intent or emotion, and not only that, but our tone is also influenced by multiple things that thankfully are under our control.
Listen in as Susan shares some time-tested secrets and techniques that will help you start sounding and speaking with more confidence before you know it, like:
A specific definition of authenticity that might be why we like to we’d event listen to some people read the phone bookWhy pauses aren’t just for dramatic effect, but tools we can use consciously to enhance our delivery and engage our audience, whether that’s one person or a thousand.A simple shift in posture that brings the body and breath into alignment so your voice can be at its most authentic and confident bestThe number one thing you should do the minute you open your mouth to speakSusan Murphy is a veteran radio news director, TV news reporter, talk show host, producer and voice artist turned broadcast voice coach. Drawing from over 40 years of on-air work, she now helps on-air anchors and reporters polish the sounds of their voices. You can learn more about Susan at susanmurphyvosot.com and even check out a clip or two of her own work.
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