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This week we are deep diving into this term that is popping up everywhere, Gaslighting. Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation that attempts to make individuals question their own reality in order to gain power and control over them. And, the scary thing is- it can happen to anyone. There is good news though and Kat is going solo this week to make sure we all know that there is a way to get out of these kinds of tangled webs. Listen this week to gain a better understanding of what Gaslighting actually is, how to spot it, and what to do when you feel like you are being gas lit.
Links for episodes and articles that were talked about:
11 Red Flags of Gaslighting in a Relationship
Stephanie Sarkis, Ph.D. Book
Narcissism Episode
Love Addiction Episode
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Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to [email protected]. This week, Kat gives her thoughts on online therapy platforms like Better Help and Talk Space.
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This week, Kat dives into the lies that we tell ourselves. It’s something that we all do for one reason or another… we lie to stay comfortable, we lie to avoid, we lie because it can feel good, and we can lie to continue a narrative that we want ourselves and others to believe. The tricky part is, sometimes we lie so well that we can convince ourselves that we aren’t even lying anymore. So, in this episode, Kat dives into some of the most common lies we tell ourselves, why we might use them, and how they might be hurting us.
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Produced by: @HoustonTilley
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Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions that listeners send to [email protected]. This week, Kat responds to a listener question about a complicated, secret relationship that has suddenly come to light, leaving her to face painful fallout and deep self-doubt, as well as struggling with feelings of guilt, loss, and fear of judgment from those around her.
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Produced by: @HoustonTilley
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Who remembers their first time? This week, Kat, Josie, and Julia reminisce on the first time they ever went to therapy. And surprise! All of their experiences were a little bit different. Kat refused to speak in her session, Julia's may have told her therapist what she didn't like about her, and Josie was wishing her therapist was "cooler".
Kat wanted to have a conversation that talked about what it is like to go to therapy for the first time and what you may experience yourself because doing new things can be super intimidating. While we can't tell you exactly what it will be like- we can give you three perspectives from three different therapists. In this episode we answer listener questions including:
What happens if I don't know what to talk about in session? How many sessions will it take to know if your therapist is the right fit? What kind of questions does a therapist ask during the first session? As a therapist, how do you prepare for a new client and what are some ways you try to ease the discomfort of a first timer? How do you get over the fear of embarrassment knowing you will cry the whole time? AND MORE!Follow Kat on Instagram: @KatVanburen
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Produced by: @HoustonTilley
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Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions that listeners send to [email protected]. This week, Kat responds to a listener who's feeling crushed after her therapist suddenly announced she’s leaving. Kat dives into why saying goodbye can feel so intense, whether it's normal to feel so attached, and how to keep going in therapy even when it feels hard to start over.
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This week, Kat is helping us differentiate between having a heated debate and having a respectful conversation. Every human is going to find themselves in a conversation where they do not agree with some of the other parties involved. While that may not be fun or ideal— it doesn’t mean you have to fight them! In this episode you will learn how reframing the goals of your “disagreements” allows you to understand your peers, friends, and partners better and vice versa.
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Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions that listeners send to [email protected]. This week, Kat replies to an email about someone who finds a box of their boyfriend’s ex’s things while cleaning his house.
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In this episode, Kat recalls a haunting jail tour from years ago that left her feeling trapped in more ways than one. Though she isn’t a fan of scary attractions, the experience reminded her how real "stuckness" feels in relationships, jobs, finances, and more. Kat explores why making logical decisions can be difficult when emotions come into play, how our wiser selves often go missing in tough moments, and why the scariest thing is sometimes just feeling stuck.
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Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions that listeners send to [email protected]. This week, Kat responds to a listener question about how her long-term boyfriend asked for time alone to process stress but didn’t give a timeline for reconnecting, and how she's struggling with uncertainty and wondering how to respect his need for space while expressing her own needs.
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Kat welcomes Crystal Lunenschloss MS, RDN, LDN, CEDS-C back to the podcast for a conversation about digestion and some of the trends impacting it today. They explore the resurgence of laxatives and discuss why they can do more harm than good. Crystal breaks down the truth about supplements—why overloading on them often just results in wasted nutrients, and how diet teas may dehydrate your body, making digestion even more difficult. They also highlight the importance of staying hydrated and why flashy supplement packaging can sometimes mislead people into thinking they'll live longer by taking unnecessary products.
Visit Horizon Nutrition Counseling's website HERE!
Find on Instagram: @horizon_nutritioncounseling
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Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions that listeners send to [email protected]. This week, Kat dives into Onsite's newest journal, exploring the seven types of rest and what each one means for our overall well-being. She breaks down the causes that might be making you feel like you need specific kinds of rest and helps you reflect on which type of rest might be missing from your routine. Whether you're feeling drained emotionally, mentally, or physically, Kat offers thoughtful guidance on how to find the rest you need most!
Check out Onsite and the journal HERE!
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This week, Kat dives into the rise of golf with her husband Patrick, and its booming popularity in recent years. Is it the skill of the players or just luck that drives the excitement? Are golfers relatable, or is it all about the thrill of watching the pros in action? Kat also explores the question everyone’s been thinking: Is golf really a sport, or just an excuse for some much-needed time away from home? And out of all the sports, why has golf captured such a dedicated following? Plus, how does anyone even sit through a full game on TV?
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Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions that listeners send to [email protected]. This week, Kat talks about how to confront someone without coming across as aggressive or blaming. Instead of turning into a bully during tough conversations, she explores how to handle conflicts in a way that actually works toward finding solutions. Whether it’s at home or at work, Kat shares tips on shifting your approach so you can communicate better and work things out in a more positive way.
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This week, Kat dives into the topic of burnout, exploring what it is and how it affects different areas of life. While burnout is commonly associated with work, she highlights that it can also arise from other sources. She helps listeners recognize the signs of burnout, from physical and emotional exhaustion to a sense of detachment. Kat also shares tips and strategies for alleviating burnout, focusing on how to prioritize self-care, set boundaries, and restore balance.
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Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions that listeners send to [email protected]. This week, Kat dives into two thought-provoking questions that touch on the current climate: Can you be in a relationship with someone who has different political views? And as a therapist, how do you navigate your own beliefs when working with clients who hold opposing views? Kat explores different perspectives and provides helpful insights to consider, to help gain a deeper understanding of these complex topics and reflect on how they might show up in your own life and relationships.
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This week, Kat dives into the concept of "normal" and how certain behaviors or trends become normalized over time, even if they aren't always what's best for us. Why do we start wanting to wear or do something just because we see it everywhere? Kat unpacks the idea of fitting in and questions whether we've begun to use the word "normal" to justify things that maybe shouldn't be. She explores how, when the abnormal becomes normal, things can take a turn for the worse. With the help of listener submissions, Kat also highlights some everyday habits that seem normal to us now, but we might not have thought that a few years ago.
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Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions that listeners send to [email protected]. This week, Kat answers a question about handling conflict before a big celebration. After a fight with a friend, the listener is torn between addressing the issue right away or waiting to cool down, which ultimately affected their experience at the event. Kat explores how to balance processing emotions with minimizing impact on others, offering insight on navigating tricky situations like this in the future.
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This week, Kat brings back licensed marriage and family therapist Staci Buford from Three Cords Therapy to tackle an insightful question from a listener about self-education. The listener asks how to navigate learning about sensitive topics—such as race, sexuality, and the experiences of war veterans—without placing the burden on those who live these experiences. Kat and Staci dive into the complexities of this issue, focusing particularly on racial dynamics. Staci shares her journey of learning during her therapy training, and the two provide practical resources and advice for those who want to educate themselves on these important topics.
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Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions that listeners send to [email protected]. This week, Kat responds to a listener question about staying present during stressful moments. She shares her favorite technique to help when feelings of overwhelm or anxiety start to creep in—the 5 Senses Technique (Something you can Taste, See, Hear, Feel & Smell). Whether you're struggling with anxiety, feeling overwhelmed, or just need a break from it all, this simple yet effective exercise can bring you back to the present. Kat explains how you can use this method in everyday life and even create a go-to "sensory kit" to keep on hand when things get tough.
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