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  • i miss who i was before the internet knew me

    i miss who i was before the internet knew me

    · back from the borderline

    The internet never felt exactly safe, but it did used to feel like freedom. A wild, unstructured frontier. A portal you stepped through to escape family, teachers, and society, diving headfirst into a chaotic unknown. This was before Silicon Valley had perfected the algorithms, before influencers commodified authenticity, before activism became a performance and your identity became data to harvest.


    Now the digital world feels heavy. Notifications pull you from your body, urging you to document life instead of living it. You scroll through a sanitized landscape, endlessly policing your own thoughts, shadowboxing with invisible algorithms. Celebrity culture metastasized, influencer campaigns turned your insecurities into profit, and now your inner life is just another marketplace.


    You don’t want to delete yourself. This is our reality now. But you can still feel the psychic toll every day of your life. Every moment online carries the weight of surveillance, commodification, and division. You miss the person you were before you started watching yourself through a screen, before freedom turned into a cage.

    There is a deeper ache beneath your exhaustion. It calls you back to yourself. Listen closely.


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  • communication mastery series part 1: command your voice, command your life

    communication mastery series part 1: command your voice, command your life

    · back from the borderline

    The way you communicate will either open doors or shut them. It’s time you start mastering it. You’ve been talking your whole life, but what if your words are failing you? What if your communication is costing you relationships, opportunities, and peace of mind? We’re conditioned to think that just “saying what we feel” is enough, but deep down, we know there’s more to it than that.


    In this episode, we’ll start to unravel the truth about why communication is broken for so many of us. The things we haven’t been taught. How to get what we need from others, how to assert ourselves without guilt, and how to create connections that actually last. I’m not here to sugarcoat things. I’m here to show you how you’ve been holding yourself back. What you weren’t told growing up is that communication is power. If you don’t know how to wield it, you give that power away. You let others control the narrative, control your relationships, and control how they see you.


    We’ll take a look at why so many of us struggle to communicate effectively. Why we’re misunderstood, why we feel like we’re always fighting to be heard, and why poor emotional regulation plays a huge role in all of it. I’ll share some of my own painful lessons, too. Times when I let my emotions hijack me and ended up sabotaging the very connections I was trying to build. We won’t just dissect the problem. I’ll also give you tools to fix it. We’re going to explore the lost art of rhetoric. The ancient skill that the best communicators used to reshape their reality and influence everything around them. You’re not broken, but your communication could use some serious work. And that’s where we’ll start.


    We’ll also talk about the difference between manipulation and assertion. Many people get scared to speak with power because they fear they’ll be labeled manipulative, but learning how to communicate powerfully is not the same as trying to control or manipulate others. You’ll learn how to take back control of your own voice without crossing that line. I’ll show you exactly how your emotions have been controlling your interactions and how to break free from that. It’s time to stop reacting and start communicating from a place of strength. I’ll walk you through real examples. Where I messed up, and how you can do it differently.


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  • you're sleepwalking: it's time to wake up to what's ACTUALLY real

    you're sleepwalking: it's time to wake up to what's ACTUALLY real

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    You’ve been sleepwalking. Moving through your days as if reality is fixed, inevitable, and happening TO you. You’ve felt hijacked by the comments, opinions, and energies of others, as though your peace and power are at the mercy of everything outside yourself. But what if this isn’t the truth at all? What if reality is not fixed, but fluid, symbolic, and entirely shaped by the way you see?


    In this episode of The Consciousness Stream, you’ll discover how to ACTIVELY participate in shaping your own experience. Not through hollow manifestation techniques or superficial affirmations, but by deeply engaging with symbols, archetypes, and the hidden currents that shape your inner world. 

    Together, we’ll explore how subtle yet profound shifts in your perception ripple outward, changing how others respond to you, how synchronicities multiply, and how life itself begins to feel more meaningful, more alive. It’s time to stop letting the world dictate your inner reality and reclaim your sovereignty. It’s time to see beyond the illusion you’ve mistaken for truth and step into the powerful, symbolic alchemist you’ve always been. Are you ready to wake up? Once you hear this, you’ll never see your life the same way again.


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  • why you crave chaos in love

    why you crave chaos in love

    · back from the borderline

    Why does love feel most real when it hurts? When the tension, the pull, the rupture are the only things that makes you feel alive? If you’ve ever found yourself confusing emotional chaos for connection, this one’s for you.


    In this episode, we’re diving beneath the surface of your craving for intensity. The kind of love that leaves you anxious, off-center, and chasing closeness like a fix. This isn’t love. It’s a nervous system wired for unpredictability. It’s the echo of past wounds that made love feel unsafe, volatile, or earned through over-functioning. We’ll unravel the deeper patterns. The ones that don’t just keep you tied to toxic dynamics, but make the stillness of real intimacy feel foreign. We’ll talk about why safe love can feel boring, why peace can feel threatening, and how to start seeing these cravings for what they really are: old survival scripts dressed up as romance.


    This isn’t a self-help pep talk. It’s an invitation to see your pain clearly. To stop making a home in heartbreak. And to remember: stability isn’t the absence of passion. iIt’s the soil where real love finally has the chance to take root.


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  • the demons you bury are the lessons you need to learn

    the demons you bury are the lessons you need to learn

    · back from the borderline

    The same problems keep showing up in your life, don’t they? The same struggles, the same emotional triggers, the same conflicts that feel like they’re stalking you no matter where you go. What if they weren’t random? What if they weren’t about other people, or the situation, or even bad luck? What if they were the mirror of something deeper? Something unresolved within you, constantly showing up in the world until you face it?


    In this episode, we’re diving into the demonic forces that don’t just exist outside of you, but within. We’ll explore how unresolved psychic forces project outward, manifesting in your relationships, your career, your sense of self. These forces, often experienced as externalized “problems,” are really the unacknowledged shadows of your own psyche trying to get your attention.


    We’ll unravel the nature of these inner forces, and how they show up in our lives not as punishments, but as opportunities for transformation. But transformation doesn’t come from avoiding these forces, it comes from facing them. When we stop resisting the chaos, when we stop fighting the shadow, we begin to transmute it.


    So what if your struggles aren’t things to fear? What if they’re invitations to integrate and reclaim your own power? What if you could finally see the forces behind your recurring struggles, and choose to transform them? Sit with that. Press play. Let the transformation begin.


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  • how the energy you carry is secretly controlling your life

    how the energy you carry is secretly controlling your life

    · back from the borderline

    You think you’re moving through life as yourself, but something is running beneath the surface. A frequency, a pattern, a program that shapes everything around you. It’s invisible to the naked eye - and even your conscious awareness - but it’s there, shaping your world, your relationships, your opportunities.


    But you’ve been blind to it. You’ve been living inside it, mistaking it for reality itself. Until now.


    In this episode, I’m not here to comfort you. I’m here to wake you up. To reveal the energetic archetypes that have been shaping how the world meets you without your knowledge. These archetypes - the Armored One, the Eternal Girl, the Unseen One - they aren’t who you are, but they’ve become how you move, how you interact, how you exist in the world.


    These patterns don’t define you. They never did. And the moment you see them for what they are, you can start to step outside of them. No more surviving on autopilot. It’s time to reclaim your sovereignty. Because the moment you see the program, you’re no longer just a character in it. You’re the one writing the story.


    Something is already shifting as you read this. The real work begins now. Press play. 


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  • you say you've changed — so why does your life look the same?

    you say you've changed — so why does your life look the same?

    · back from the borderline

    You tell yourself you’ve grown. That you’ve done the work. That you’ve broken the cycle. So why does everything still feel the same? Why do the same frustrations, the same dynamics, the same patterns keep showing up, wearing different faces but delivering the same lesson you swear you already learned?


    In this episode, we’re cracking open the 'as if reality': the hidden belief shaping your life without your consent. The unconscious pattern that’s been scripting your choices, your relationships, your limitations. Not because you consciously believe it, but because it’s been running the show from below. We’ll unravel the illusions of control, the survival pacts you never realized you made, and the archetypal roles you’ve been unconsciously playing — The Wounded King, The Solitary Sovereign, the version of you that mistakes isolation for protection. And then, we’ll step into something new. The moment of rupture. The shift that happens not when you fight the pattern, but when you finally see it.


    So here’s the real question: If you woke up tomorrow and the belief was gone — if you were no longer living as if something false were true — what would be different?

    Sit with that. Press play. And let it land.


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  • the truth about healing: you’ll never be who you were

    the truth about healing: you’ll never be who you were

    · back from the borderline

    They taught you to fear your scars. To see them as proof of failure. To believe that if you could just erase the marks, you could go back. Back to before, back to whole, back to some untouched version of yourself. But purity is a myth. A story designed to keep you chasing something that never existed.


    This episode dismantles the obsession with being unmarked, untouched, unscarred. It traces how purity culture seeps into our relationships, our bodies, our self-worth - how we are sold the idea that healing means erasing the very things that shaped us.


    But you were never meant to stay the same. Your scars are not the weight you carry. They are proof that you are still here.


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  • what you lose when you share too much

    what you lose when you share too much

    · back from the borderline

    You’ve been taught that vulnerability is the path to intimacy. That the more you reveal, the closer you become. But does sharing everything really bring you closer? Or does it just leave you more exposed, more drained, more empty?


    In this episode, we’re pulling apart the myth of oversharing and exposing the unconscious drive behind it. The need to be seen, to be validated, to offload your pain onto someone else in the hope that they will carry it for you.


    We’ll dive into the Wounded Oracle, the part of you that mistakes your pain for your identity, that believes being vulnerable is the only way to prove you’re real. We’ll explore the Shadow’s Bargain — how oversharing becomes a transaction, where you exchange your secrets for the illusion of connection. And we’ll unpack the hidden cost of being so open, so raw, too soon. The way it creates unspoken power imbalances, how it can distance us instead of drawing us closer, and how sometimes the most vulnerable parts of us are meant to be kept sacred.


    So, what happens when we start sharing consciously? Not because we need someone to heal us, but because we trust ourselves enough to know what belongs to others and what doesn’t? Press play, and let the truth sink in.


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  • why limerence FEELS like love, but isn't

    why limerence FEELS like love, but isn't

    · back from the borderline

    Ever found yourself trapped in a cycle of longing, obsession, and emotional chaos? A constant craving for validation, attention, or affection from someone who never quite gives you what you need? If this feels familiar, you’re not alone. 


    What if this “love” you’re chasing isn’t love at all? What if it’s just a distraction, a survival mechanism to keep you from facing the real emotional work?

    In this episode, we’re shattering the myth of limerence. The obsessive longing that feels like love but is really just a projection of unmet needs. We’ll dive into why limerence isn’t about the other person — it’s about what’s missing inside of you. It’s about the unresolved emotional wounds you’ve been running from, wrapped up in a fantasy of someone else being the solution.


    Limerence is rooted in dependency. A desperate need to feel validated, to feel whole, by someone outside of yourself. But here’s the truth: no one can give you what you’re not willing to give yourself. The real work starts when you stop blaming them for not meeting your needs and start meeting them yourself. This episode is a deep dive into the self-healing process, where we’ll unravel how limerence keeps you stuck in emotional dependency and teach you how to break free.\


    What if the obsession isn’t about them? What if it’s about you? What if you could finally stop chasing and start reclaiming your emotional independence? Press play, and let’s begin the transformation together. 


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  • will AI set you free or control your mind? (psychiatry, mental health, and the machine age)

    will AI set you free or control your mind? (psychiatry, mental health, and the machine age)

    · back from the borderline

    AI isn’t coming for your job. It’s coming for your mind.


    Psychiatry and artificial intelligence are merging faster than anyone is paying attention to. Not to help people, not to bring depth or insight into the human experience, but to categorize, control, and optimize. Mental health isn’t being reimagined. It’s being automated.


    What happens when AI decides your diagnosis before you ever step into a doctor’s office? When machine learning models scan your text messages, search history, and medical records and quietly assign you a psychiatric risk score that determines what access you have to therapy, medication, or even basic life opportunities? This is where we’re headed. The algorithms are being trained right now, absorbing decades of psychiatric frameworks that were never built for healing. Only classification.


    But this episode isn't just about exposing the dystopian path we’re on. It’s about choosing another one. There is a way AI could be used to help people wake up instead of shutting them down. It could be built as a tool for individuation, for shadow work, for shining a light into the blind spots of the unconscious. It could be the initiation modern psychiatry has denied people for decades.


    The inflection point is here. Do we let AI become the ultimate psychiatric gatekeeper? Or do we reclaim it before the machine starts rewriting our stories for us? Press play.


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  • what stories are you telling yourself about your suffering?

    what stories are you telling yourself about your suffering?

    · back from the borderline

    It’s time to get real about the stories you tell yourself and how they shape your emotional, mental, and spiritual well-being. If you've ever felt trapped in an endless loop of self-help content, desperately searching for the magic fix to heal your inner wounds, this episode is for you. I've been there too, and I've learned that there's no magical algorithm that can fix us. In this episode, I'm going to share my own journey through the overwhelming sea of content and the core truths I've discovered. We'll explore how the narratives you create about your past can either imprison you in cycles of suffering or empower you to become resilient and whole. Whether you silently endure your pain or express your distress outwardly, this episode will offer you insights into reclaiming the power to write a new chapter in your life, free from the shackles of your past. Join me as we transform trauma-worlds into narratives of resilience and redemption. Let's embark on this journey together and start crafting the next compelling chapter of your life.


    Click here to read the full piece on my Substack.  


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  • dysfunctional family roles – part 5: hidden agendas (the peacemaker/mediator and narcissistic traits) [preview]

    dysfunctional family roles – part 5: hidden agendas (the peacemaker/mediator and narcissistic traits) [preview]

    · back from the borderline

    Welcome back to our deep dive into the heart of dysfunctional family dynamics. This is the final episode of our series where each segment builds upon the last, further unraveling the complex roles that shape not just family life but our individual paths. If this is your first time joining us, consider starting with Episode 1, "Dysfunctional Family Roles – Part 1: Decoding the Dynamics of Dysfunction," to catch the full scope of our exploration. In this episode, we're capping off our series by examining two pivotal roles in the dance of family dynamics: The Peacemaker/Mediator and those with Narcissistic Traits. In this episode, we delve deep into these roles and their intricate interrelations—exploring how peacemakers often find themselves entangled with narcissistic behaviors, both overt and covert, and the profound impact these dynamics have on family systems.

     

    Why do some individuals take on the role of the peacekeeper, and how might this well-intentioned behavior enable narcissistic manipulation? How does covert narcissism mask itself as peacemaking, complicating the detection and understanding of these traits within familial relationships? We'll dissect these roles to understand the toll they take on those who bear them and the broader implications for the family. Drawing from real-life narratives, including personal accounts from Reddit, we explore the challenges and coping mechanisms of those enmeshed in these roles. From the overt displays of narcissism to the hidden agendas of the covert narcissist, we unpack how these dynamics play out in real-world settings, shaping everything from personal development to family equilibrium.

     

    Join me as we conclude our exploration, aiming not only to unveil the complex layers of these roles but also to provide insights and strategies for recognizing and breaking free from the dysfunctional patterns they often sustain. Let's peel back the final layers of family myths to reveal the stark realities that lie beneath, offering pathways to understanding and healing.

     

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    04:34.69 – 41:32.16: PART 1 (Introducing the Peacemaker/Mediator role, its characteristics, impact on family dynamics, emotional and psychological toll, and common signs to identify peacemakers. Disclaimer on diagnosing personality disorders, understanding narcissistic traits, and discussion on overt narcissism.)

     41:32.16 – 01:21:40.41: PART 2 (Exploration of covert and malignant narcissism, their characteristics, impact on relationships, covert narcissism deception, distinguishing between true peacemakers and covert narcissists, interaction dynamics, real-world implications, strategies for recognition and adaptation, cultural variations, and the impact on family dynamics. Concluding with a segment on healing and breaking free from dysfunctional family roles.)


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  • mind unveiled part 6: the individuation process as spiritual ascent (integrating outer psychology, personality types, and the mystical qabalah)

    mind unveiled part 6: the individuation process as spiritual ascent (integrating outer psychology, personality types, and the mystical qabalah)

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    Have you ever wondered what it truly means to become your most authentic self? To integrate all aspects of your being—both conscious and unconscious—and embark on a profound journey of self-realization? Welcome to the final episode of our 'Mind Unveiled' series, where we explore the transformative process of individuation, as envisioned by Carl Jung. In this episode, I'll guide you through the concept of individuation, defining it as the journey toward becoming a complete, self-realized individual. We’ll delve into how this holistic and spiritual approach differs from traditional models of healing in mainstream biomedical mental health. Discover why individuation is crucial for personal growth and psychological well-being, and learn about the balance and harmony it aims to achieve between the conscious and unconscious aspects of the psyche.


    We’ll also explore the role of outer psychology and personality types in individuation. You'll learn how Jung distinguished between introverted and extroverted personality types and how this distinction plays into the individuation process. We'll break down the organization of personality types according to Jung’s model, focusing on the four faculties: sensing, thinking, feeling, and intuition, and illustrate how these faculties interact and contribute to your journey of self-discovery.


    Furthermore, we’ll dive into the spiritual dimensions of individuation, discussing how Jung viewed it as a spiritual journey and the significance of his use of spiritual terminology. We'll explore how Jung’s system of individuation complements the mystical Qabalah, highlighting parallels like the Tree of Life and the process of spiritual ascent. By integrating psychological and spiritual growth, you’ll understand how to achieve a more holistic and enriched life. Finally, I'll provide practical advice to help you embark on your own individuation journey, encouraging self-reflection, mindfulness, and the exploration of dreams and fantasies as tools for self-discovery. Join me for this transformative conclusion to our series, and take the next step on your path to becoming your true self. Don’t miss out on this comprehensive exploration of the individuation process and its profound impact on your personal and spiritual growth. Tune in and discover how to integrate all facets of your being for a richer, more fulfilling life.


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  • dysfunctional family roles – part 4: avoidance strategies (the mascot/clown and the lost child/rebel) [preview]

    dysfunctional family roles – part 4: avoidance strategies (the mascot/clown and the lost child/rebel) [preview]

    · back from the borderline

    Welcome back to our deep dive into the complexities of dysfunctional family dynamics. You're tuning into Episode 4 of our series, where each segment builds on the last, further unraveling the roles that shape not just family life but our individual identities. If this is your first time joining us, consider starting with Episode 1, "Dysfunctional Family Roles – Part 1: Decoding the Dynamics of Dysfunction," to catch the full scope of our exploration. In this episode, we're examining avoidance strategies within dysfunctional families through the unique perspectives of The Mascot/Clown and The Lost Child/Rebel. Why do some turn to humor as a shield against family tension, while others retreat into silence or rebellion? Together, we'll explore these roles, their development, and the profound impact they have on personal growth and family dynamics.

     

    Drawing from genuine conversations and personal stories shared on platforms like Reddit, we delve into the lives of those who've navigated these roles. From the Mascot/Clown, often seen lightening the mood at their own emotional expense, to the Lost Child/Rebel, hiding in plain sight or pushing back against family norms, we'll uncover how these strategies serve as coping mechanisms that both maintain and challenge family equilibrium. Join me as we dissect how these avoidance strategies not only reflect but also shape the core identities of those who employ them, influencing their interactions both within and beyond the family context.

     

    TIME STAMPS:

     

    00:00 – 20:50.26: PART 1 (Examining how avoidance strategies manifest through humor and withdrawal in dysfunctional families; grouping roles for their commonality in avoiding stress; understanding these strategies in family dynamics. Defines Mascot/Clown role, its origins in family instability, psychological impact, and coping mechanisms, including the connection with comedians.)

     20:50.26 – 43:18.85: PART 2 (Defines Lost Child/Rebel role, its origins in feeling overlooked, and psychological impacts like isolation. Explores coping mechanisms, portrayals in media, and comparative analysis of how both roles maintain family equilibrium and enable caregivers to avoid confronting family dysfunction.)


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  • mind unveiled part 5: the shadow (working with your dark side)

    mind unveiled part 5: the shadow (working with your dark side)

    · back from the borderline

    Do you ever feel like there's a part of yourself that you can't quite grasp? A hidden side that influences your thoughts and actions in ways you don't fully understand? Welcome to Episode 5 of our 'Mind Unveiled' series, where we dive deep into one of Jung’s most compelling concepts: the shadow. This episode is designed to build on the insights from our previous discussions and delve into the practical aspects of working with your shadow.


    In this episode, I'll guide you through a precise definition of the shadow, emphasizing its role as the repository of disowned parts of the self. We’ll explore how this concept was coined by Carl Jung and supported by quotes from Jung and other prominent Jungian analysts. You'll discover how the shadow manifests in everyday life, influencing your interactions, habits, and emotional reactions, with relatable examples from workplace dynamics, personal relationships, and self-sabotaging behaviors.


    We’ll also cover practical shadow work techniques, offering new self-reflection exercises and mindfulness practices tailored to uncovering shadow aspects. Learn step-by-step guidance on identifying shadow traits through journaling and introspection, and explore creative methods like art therapy, role-playing, and storytelling to reveal hidden aspects of yourself. I'll outline a structured approach to integrating these shadow aspects into your conscious awareness, discussing the importance of self-compassion and patience in this transformative process.


    Understanding and addressing the shadow in relationships is crucial for healthy and fulfilling connections. We'll discuss how shadow projections affect romantic and familial relationships and provide practical advice on recognizing and addressing these projections. Additionally, we'll touch on the collective shadow, focusing on societal issues and cultural dynamics, using contemporary examples to illustrate how it influences social and political behavior.


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  • dysfunctional family roles – part 3: responsibilities and escape (the parentified child and the addict) [preview]

    dysfunctional family roles – part 3: responsibilities and escape (the parentified child and the addict) [preview]

    · back from the borderline

    Welcome back to our exploration into the heart of dysfunctional family dynamics. This is Episode 3 of our series, where we continue to unravel the complex roles that not only shape family life but also deeply influence our personal journeys. If this is your first encounter with this series, I encourage you to start with Episode 1, "Dysfunctional Family Roles – Part 1: Decoding the Dynamics of Dysfunction," to fully appreciate the groundwork that informs today's discussion.

     

    In this episode, we turn our focus to roles defined by excessive responsibilities and coping through escape, examining The Parentified Child and The Addict. Have you ever wondered why some individuals seem forced to grow up too soon, taking on burdens far beyond their years, while others may seek escape in detrimental ways? In this episode, we'll delve into these roles—exploring how excessive responsibilities and escapism serve as coping mechanisms within dysfunctional families.

     

    Drawing on insights from real stories, including personal accounts shared on Reddit, we explore the personal and psychological toll of these roles. From the Parentified Child, thrust prematurely into adult responsibilities, to The Addict, whose escape from family pressures comes through substance use, we explore how these roles maintain or disrupt the family equilibrium. Join me as we navigate the complexities of responsibility and escape within family systems, revealing the unseen forces that shape these roles and their long-lasting effects on individual lives and family dynamics.

     

    TIME STAMPS:

     03:36.82 – 36:40.87: PART 1 (Exploration of the Parentified Child, including definition, characteristics, origins, psychological impact, challenges, and coping strategies, with insights from Reddit)

    36:40.87 – 01:01:10.66: PART 2 (Examination of The Addict role, including definition, characteristics, origins, psychological impact, challenges, and coping strategies, first-hand accounts and experiences and comparative analysis with the Parentified Child. Discussion of external influences and personal development)


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  • mind unveiled part 4: the psyche as a living reality (exploring consciousness and the collective unconscious)

    mind unveiled part 4: the psyche as a living reality (exploring consciousness and the collective unconscious)

    · back from the borderline

    Have you ever wondered about the hidden depths of your mind? Curious about what lies beneath your conscious thoughts and how it all shapes your reality? Welcome to Episode 4 of our 'Mind Unveiled' series. In this episode, we journey into the intricate nature of the psyche, exploring its profound impact on our mental and emotional well-being.


    I'll take you through a comprehensive overview of what the psyche truly is, examining Jung's holistic view that integrates the soul, intellect, spirit, and the totality of psychic processes. We'll discuss how the psyche is as real and tangible as the body, emphasizing the importance of understanding its comprehensive nature. You'll learn how Jung's insights laid the groundwork for modern trauma and somatic therapies, influencing pioneers like Gabor Maté, Bessel van der Kolk, and Peter Levine.

    Discover the different parts of the psyche as we delve into Jung's model, including the collective unconscious, consciousness, and the personal unconscious. We'll explore the contents and significance of the collective unconscious and provide practical examples of how it manifests in daily life. You'll gain a clear understanding of how consciousness interacts with other parts of the psyche and the critical role it plays.


    Finally, we'll tie everything together by highlighting the importance of achieving harmony between the conscious and unconscious aspects of the psyche. Learn how the interplay between these parts influences your mental and emotional well-being, and discover techniques and practices to achieve balance and integration. By the end of this episode, you'll have a deeper understanding of your inner world and practical tools to enhance your psychological health.


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  • dysfunctional family roles – part 2: the extremes of family focus (the golden child and the scapegoat) [preview]

    dysfunctional family roles – part 2: the extremes of family focus (the golden child and the scapegoat) [preview]

    · back from the borderline

    Welcome back to our deep dive into the heart of dysfunctional family dynamics. This is Episode 2 of our series, where each segment builds upon the last, unraveling the complex roles that shape not just family life but our individual paths. If you happen to come across this episode first, be sure to check out Episode 1 (Dysfunctional Family Roles – Part 1: Decoding the Dynamics of Dysfunction), which sets the stage for today’s discussion —where we explore the extremes of family focus through the lenses of The Golden Child and The Scapegoat.

     

    Have you ever wondered why some children in a family are put on a pedestal while others seem to carry all the blame? In this episode, we’ll dissect these polar roles—how they emerge, the pressures they bring, and their profound impact on all aspects of the personal lives of those who adopt them. We'll draw insights from real discussions, including voices from Reddit, where people share their firsthand experiences with these roles. From the Golden Child, who is often seen as the beacon of perfection, to the Scapegoat, who becomes the carrier of the family’s unacknowledged shame and pain, we explore not just the personal toll but also the broader societal and cultural forces that mold these identities. How do these roles serve to maintain a balance—or imbalance—within family systems? What happens when these scripted roles follow us into adulthood? Join me as we peel back the layers of family myths to reveal the stark realities hidden beneath.

     

    TIME STAMPS:

     

    00:00 – 37:40.35: PART 1 (Recap of series purpose, insights from the previous episode, introduction to the theme of The Golden Child and The Scapegoat, explanation of role pairing, and discussion of extreme parental expectations. Detailed exploration of The Golden Child including its definition, origins, psychological impact, Reddit insights, challenges, and coping mechanisms.)


    37:40.35 – 01:14:03.23: PART 2 (In-depth look at The Scapegoat, covering its definition, origins, psychological impact, Reddit insights, challenges, and coping mechanisms. Comparative analysis of the dynamic between The Golden Child and The Scapegoat, societal and cultural influences on these roles, and their broader implications.)


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  • mind unveiled part 3: unmasking the soul image (the false self, archetypes, the anima and animus)

    mind unveiled part 3: unmasking the soul image (the false self, archetypes, the anima and animus)

    · back from the borderline

    Do you feel like you’re playing a role, always adjusting who you are to fit in? What if there’s a deeper, truer version of you just beneath the surface, waiting to be revealed? In Episode 3 of the ‘Mind Unveiled’ series, we’re diving into the mask we wear- the persona - and the false self we construct to navigate the world. But behind those layers lies something more profound: the soul image, an authentic guide leading us back to ourselves.


    In this episode, we’ll explore how the false self protects us but keeps us disconnected from our true nature. What would it take to dissolve that mask and reclaim your essence? Through Jung’s insights into the anima and animus - our inner feminine and masculine - we’ll uncover how these archetypes shape our internal world and our relationships, and how embracing them leads to deeper wholeness. We’ll also venture into the realm of primordial images - those ancient symbols nestled in our collective unconscious. These universal archetypes have a quiet power over our thoughts, dreams, and behaviors, helping us understand the mysteries of our psyche. Together, we’ll explore how these images surface in our daily lives and offer valuable lessons on the journey of self-discovery and individuation.


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