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Join me as I chat with Danu Morrigan. She is the daughter of a narcissistic mother and the author of five books on the topic of daughters and narcissistic mothers.
*'You're not crazy-it's Your Mother'
*'Dear Daughter of a Narcissistic Mother'
*'Notes From Your Inner Mother'
*'How to go No Contact'
*'Become a Boundaries Badass'
She is also the founder of the wildly successful website:
https://www.daughtersofnarcissisticmothers.com/
It is a wonderful hub of information no matter where you are on your journey. Be sure to check it out to learn more about Danu, order her books and even take a quiz to see if your mother is narcissistic.
She strives to give understanding, information, and validation to other daughters of narcissistic mothers.
In case no one has told you lately, it's not you, never has been, you don't have to fix it and you are not alone.
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On this episode of the Character Outs Podcast, I dive into the muddy waters of...boundaries.
Does that body of boundary water feel like the Dead Sea to you? Yea, same.
How about as you are in the process of even THINKING about making a boundary you hear your narcissistic mother whisper: 'You are making this boundary because you are a spiteful bitch.'
UGHHHH!!! NO!
Do you struggle with setting boundaries?
I got you.
This week I had some epiphanies about boundaries that I am so excited to talk about.
Email me:
Check out the website for useful info, the blog and how to reach me to schedule a chat.
https://characteroutspodcast.com/
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In case no one has told you, it's not you, never has been, you don't have to fix it and you are not alone.
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Mangler du episoder?
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On this episode of the Character Outs podcast, I am honored to host Mei Ling.
Mei Ling helps women who identify as the black sheep of their families move from feeling inadequate to becoming powerful cycle breakers by helping them reconnect with their unique soul’s agenda and divine support system, so that they can shine their light into the world, knowing they are deeply loved and valued for who they are.
As a mixed-race woman who inherited intuitive and psychic abilities through her Chinese lineage, Mei Ling is a bridge between the East and West, and between the earthly and spiritual realms. Growing up, she constantly felt like the outsider, never quite fitting in anywhere. As a child of divorce, the feeling was only exacerbated when she became the inconvenient addition to her parents’ new families. The spiritual journey that eventually led Mei Ling to become a professional intuitive started with one question - “Why me?”
Mei Ling shares her own personal stories of growing up as the black sheep and scapegoat and weaves in vulnerable, potent, and often funny insights from these experiences with the hopes that those listening feel less alone on their journeys.
How to find Mei Ling;
Website:
https://meiling-intuitive.com/
To book your Soul Story Session:
https://meiling-intuitive.com/offerings/soul-story-session/
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In case no one has told you lately, it's not you, never has been, you don't have to fix it and you are not alone.
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Womp Womp...
On this episode of the Character Outs Podcast we talk about the fuckery of your toxic family choosing your ex over you.
But wait, did you normalize it like I did?
We also talk about how it's ok to look at the people in our life with fresh eyes and become ok with knowing our worth and making sure the people in our life are matching our energy.
You are worth it.
Their behavior may have been shitty and acceptable yesterday, but it doesn't have to be acceptable today.
You are not the same.
You are growing, evolving and don't get a medal for tolerating toxic treatment from anyone.
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If no one has told you lately, it's not you, never has been, you don't have to fix it and you are not alone.
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On this episode of the Character Outs Podcast meet my chosen sister....Raya.
Who says you can't find family on social media??
Raya is a survivor, advocate, mama, sister and no contact with her mother. Raya is truly one of the most inspirational people I have met on this journey.
Her strength, beauty, intelligence and desire to help YOU hold your strength and power.
You will be inspired by her authenticity, her sweet countenance and the fire in her soul that is absolutely contagious.
Raya, I am honored to know you and blessed to be walking this journey alongside of you.
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*Raya's Resources:
RAIINE: They advocate and have many resources to help you get into contact with the right places in your area for sexual violence, abuse, and incest.
https://www.rainn.org/
National Domestic Hotline: They also help with resources. How to make a plan for safety, exit plans, and much more. I advise anyone to look into all of the local agencies you can. There are many out there, sometimes it just takes going through some hoops.
https://www.thehotline.org/
Song: Dollhouse:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HcVv9R1ZR84
Raya's Socials:
Tik Tok:
https://www.tiktok.com/@thefcknicequeen
Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/thefcknicequeen/
If no one has told you lately, it's not you, never has been, you don't have to fix it and you are not alone.
Keep walking friend.
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On this episode of the Character Outs Podcast we discuss the concept of acceptance.
Accepting the fact that we won't ever have the family we wanted and certainly don't plan on welcoming back the toxic family we were given.
Where does that leave us? Do we stay in a place of sadness, bitterness...I hope not!
This episode takes a morbid turn as we discuss the worst-case scenario and about how we think we will feel when the family member we have been estranged from dies.
*Resources:
The story: "Acceptance and Happiness"
https://medium.com/@chinmaysy/the-alchemy-of-acceptance-4c279b3b1300
Information on reactive abuse:
https://nationallegalservice.co.uk/what-is-reactive-abuse/
Connect with me via email here:
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You got this friend, keep walking.
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On this episode of The Character Outs Podcast we talk about all of the emotions that go with celebrating birthdays and holidays while being no contact with toxic family.
The feels:
*disappointment
*rejection
*relief
*shock
I just celebrated my birthday and another holiday with radio silence from my toxic family. I should be happy that they are respecting my boundaries, right? Yay to more peace and freedom!!!
Ok, so why was I a little shocked and sad that I literally just don't exist in their eyes anymore. Meep.
Welcome to the ups and downs of no contact, right? We will get through this friend; we are not alone and refuse to look back and break this peace we got going!
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On this episode of The Character Outs Podcast I read Tya's story.
Tya is happily married and a stay-at-home mom of three.
She was also a daughter who gave and gave to a mother whom she thought was her best friend.
Join me as I read her story of awakening to the emotional abuse and manipulation of her narcissistic mother. The initial fear of going no contact and the lessons she has learned along the way.
Thank you, Tya, for sharing your story, it healed my heart. Wishing you love on your no contact journey friend. Never forget your worth and never forget that you are not alone.
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On this episode of the Character Outs Podcast we ring in season 2 in the new studio!
I talk about what is new around here at the Character Outs Podcast. I also discuss, my vision for season 2 and this community.
We also talk about the concept of pivoting, evolving, changing and growing and how if you were raised by a toxic family, especially a narcissistic mother, how this concept can feel odd.
It is SO great to be back!!!!
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Come on over to the snark and fun over on Instagram as we navigate these no contact waters together!
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Would you like to be a guest on the podcast? Email me, looking forward to connecting!
Incase no one has told you: it's not you, never has been, you don't have to fix it and you are not alone.
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On this episode of the Character Outs podcast I take a trip home.
Do you live close to the toxic family you are no contact with?
Well, I am not, and I must say....It is difficult to go back home! Well, I didn't go home...this is NOT that kind of podcast, haha.
But I did go to my hometown and man did it bring up some emotions that I did not expect.
Join me as I share some issues and emotions that came to the surface and how I walked through them.
In case no one has told you lately: it's not you, never has been, you are not alone, and you don't have to fix it.
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Join me as I read Kim's story.
Kim is a survivor of a toxic family, including the emotional abuse of her narcissistic mother.
Abandonment, triangulation with her younger brother at the hands of her narcissistic mother, the loss of her father, the lifetime effort to try and make it work, along with periods of no contact. All leading to the moment she realized her worth and said no more.
The moment of no contact is where her healing journey and search to make up for lost time began.
Kim is single, child free and works a corporate job. In her spare time, she writes fiction books that are either historical or contemporary lead by a strong female character, most of which have a family of choice (don't you love that-normalizing this no contact journey through fiction literature-amazing.) The overriding theme of her books features people being raised in less-than-ideal situations and triumphing later in life (sounds a lot like you dear friend.)
Kim's writing is like therapy, and she wouldn't be who she is without it. She also has a love for old cars and vintage aircraft. When she is not writing she enjoys photography and attending air and car shows.
Kim, thank you for trusting me with your story. Keep on walking friend.
You can find Kim's books here:
https://www.amazon.com/stores/K-A-Salter/author/B08W9GNPR9?ref=dbs_a_mng_rwt_scns_share&isDramIntegrated=true&shoppingPortalEnabled=true
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In case no one has told you, it's not you, never has been, you are not alone, and you don't have to fix it.
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On this episode of the Character Outs podcast we talk about trauma responses...ya know, we are all familiar with the four types of trauma responses right? Flight, fight, freeze or fawn.
Ok, ok..so I have said it before, and I will say it again...I am a proud survivor of narcissistic abuse from my mother and the rest of my family is out of control toxic. I am not a therapist, nor do I have a degree in mental health. Unless elementary education counts, haha.
But, recently I had a stressful and well, traumatic situation happen and my trauma response of fight was activated. Well, when the situation was over, I realized something that I don't hear many people talk about. The crash after the trauma response has been activated.
These are the four stages I just recently walked through:
*trauma response activated
*crash
*recovery
*badassery initiated
Join me as we talk about embracing each stage, giving yourself grace and helping to normalize these emotions that continue to follow us on this no contact journey. You are not alone friend.
*Resources:
https://www.health.com/fight-flight-freeze-fawn-8348342
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In case no one has told you lately, it's not you, never has been, you are not alone, and you don't have to fix it.
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On this episode of the Character Outs podcast, we talk about the chaos and confusion that our narcissistic mothers created.
And honestly, it wasn't until I went no contact that I really saw how chaotic and confusing it was.
We talk about the ways our narcissistic mothers created internal chaos and confusion as well as external confusion in just about every aspect and relationship in our lives.
I talk about how my mother used urban legends as facts and elaborate stories riddled in fear in order to keep me in line.
I also talk about triangulation and how that affected the relationship with my older brother. How the damage our mother did over the years was ultimately too much for either of us to get past and have a healthy relationship.
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In case no one has told you, it's not you, never has been, you don't have to fix it and you are not alone.
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On this episode of the Character Outs podcast, I chat with my friend Gina. She is a mother of two, and a women's health advocate and coach. She is also author of the blog: The Connected Parent-a blog dedicated to providing resources and tips for healing in mind, body and spirit while parenting.
Gina comes from a large Italian family so as you can imagine, choosing to go no contact with her narcissistic mother 13 years ago has had its fallout among the family.
Gina discusses how she navigates cutting off toxic family members and how to cope with then being cut off by family members who choose to side with the toxic, instead of the cycle breaker.
Gina also shares invaluable advice on parenting and raising children as we ourselves are healing our own wounds from childhood.
You will feel like you are chatting with your bestie and be reminded that this no contact journey is emotional, but so worth it.
Protecting our peace and the peace of our children is paramount.
Follow Gina on Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/gina.m.newton/
Find her resources here:
https://msha.ke/healingwithgina
Mother Hunger: How Adult Daughters Can Understand and Heal from Lost Nurturance, Protection, and Guidance: McDaniel, Kelly: 9781401960858: Amazon.com: Books
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In case no one has told you lately, it's not you, never has been, you don't have to fix it and you are not alone.
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Has that thought ever crossed your mind?
Oh fuck, am I acting like my mom right now?
On this episode of the Character Outs podcast I share my stories and struggles when that question swirls in my head.
Yea..total ick.
We talk about the fact that yea...we are going to have some traits of our narcissistic mother. BUT here is the thing, we are so hyper cognizant of not being anything like her that when we exhibit a trauma response, a trait that she had or even a normal human response to a situation we can be left with pondering...am I like her.
If no one has told you lately..
YOU ARE NOT YOUR ANYTHING LIKE YOUR MOTHER!
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Incase no one has told you lately, it's not you, never has been, you don't have to fix it and you are not alone.
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On this episode of the Character Outs podcast I chat with Dave.
He is a survivor of narcissistic abuse from multiple fronts and is also the creator of the platform: healing after a narcissist on Instagram.
https://www.instagram.com/healing.after.a.narcissist/
Are you ready to feel empowered, validated and feel the glorious confirmation that you are absolutely on the right path having left your toxic family in the rearview mirror?
We talk about childhood trauma, owning our own shit, refusing to remain a victim, and our duty as parents to protect our children from the insidious influence of our toxic family.
Hang on to your hats and...grab a pen to take notes for this one. Dave offers resources and pearls of wisdom throughout our conversation.
Dave, thank you for the work you are doing and for making ME feel validated and a little less of a villain for going no contact with my toxic family. Keep up the great work, I am blessed to call you friend.
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In case no one has told you lately, it's not you, never has been, you don't have to fix it and you are not alone.
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On this episode of the Character Outs podcast we talk about:
toxic independence
Toxic huh? what?
Yea...ya know...the kind of independence that we who come from a toxic family and raised by a narcissistic parent can tend to have.
Wait, Terri..are you calling ME toxic?
Well, to be fair, I am calling myself toxic too.
We break down the difference between independence and toxic independence. What fuels each and how we can grab hold of the toxic aspects to independence and how we can start to receive some blessings that we may miss if we remain bitter and unhealed.
And...nobody's got time for that. I don't know about you but that reminds me of my narcissistic mother who I want to be NOTHING like.
*song reference: 'Seize the Day'-Carolyn Arends
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mwWy-T8WWFo
In case no one has told you lately, it's not you, never has been and you are not alone...keep walking.
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On this episode of the Character Outs podcast we discuss the conundrum of recognizing that life with our narcissistic mom or dad wasn't ALL bad! sigh...
We talk about how to handle the emotions of the occasional warm memory that pops into our minds.
On this no contact journey, we know that these warm memories of our family can pop into our heads when we least expect it. And guess what, it is totally normal.
We also know that when this happens, the next step for us is NOT to pick up the phone and reconcile just because we have a warm memory and may be missing them.
But what do we do?!
Join me as we talk through it.
Resources: 'It Didn't Start With You.' Mark Wolynn
https://www.amazon.com/s?k=it+didn%27t+start+with+you&crid=2ZESSP3YOLK5C&sprefix=it+didnt+start+%2Caps%2C7419&ref=nb_sb_ss_ts-doa-p_1_15
In case no one has told you lately, it's not you, never has been, you don't have to fix it and you are not alone.
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On this episode of the Character Outs podcast I chat with Laura Bytheway (yes, that is her real last name!)
This girl...she is a coach, mom of three and host of the podcast: The Post-Narc Life with Laura Bytheway. She offers some fresh and beautiful insight and validation. She gives a beautiful approach to healing and redeeming the trauma that the toxic family member in your life has inflicted.
We hash relationships and the crap in our purses due to being raised in a toxic family.
Laura lost her narcissistic mother to suicide almost three years ago and shares her story of redemption, healing and growth during that dark time in her life.
She also shares some unique ways to cope and heal that will blow your mind!
Laura is refreshing, raw and honest and wait til you hear what she wants to shout from the rooftops about breaking free from the narcissist in your life.
Thank you, Laura! Until we raise our ginger ale glasses in 2025! :)
*If you or someone you know is having suicidal thoughts or ideations, please do not be afraid or ashamed to get help. You are not alone and your presence here in this world is needed and wanted friend. Help is available 24/7: 988.
Want to connect with Laura? Follow her on Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/laurabytheway/
Check out her podcast: The Post-Narc Life with Laura Bytheway:
https://open.spotify.com/show/2xkIlU8cJq7Iuab4qYxL2C?si=1a658d66311e4bba
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In case no one has told you lately, it's not you, it never has been, and you are not alone.
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On this episode of the Character Outs podcast we talk about SIX things that we are going to embrace in the new year!
1. we are no longer going to feel guilty that we walked away from our toxic family.
2. we are going to lean into every emotion associated with going, being and staying no contact with our toxic family.
3. we are going to talk to ourselves like we are our best friend! (we can be so mean to ourselves!)
4. we are not going to entertain conversations with anyone where we feel like we are in a defensive posture because of our choice to stay away from our toxic family.
5. we are going to lean into self-care because I don't care what our narcissistic mothers told us: it is NOT selfish!
6. we are going to embrace our true selves. what we like and what we don't like, apart from the influence of our toxic family.
*Credit to Lindsey Gurk for the leaf analogy:
https://www.instagram.com/lindseygurk/
In case no one has told you lately, it is not you, never has been and you are not alone.
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Happy New Year friends!
- Se mer
