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Is your pelvic floor holding you back from truly enjoying play with your kids?Youâre not alone â and this episode is here to help.
Whether itâs needing to cross your legs when you sneeze, quietly avoiding playing chase the backyard... not to even mention the fear of hearing 'Mum's turn' when it comes to the trampoline. Pelvic floor issues are incredibly common for mums after pregnancy and birth. But just because itâs common⌠doesnât mean it has to be your new normal.
In this empowering episode of Demystifying Childâs Play | Play Schemas, I sit down with Caren from Empowered Mums Fitness , a mum-safe certified trainer and expert in pelvic floor health, to talk about what no one tells you about your pelvic floor until itâs already affecting your daily life.
And yes â weâre talking wee, farts, tampons, and blueberries. Youâll never forget how to engage your pelvic floor after hearing this!
What Weâre Chatting About:
This episode goes beyond the basics of pelvic health and dives into how a strong, responsive pelvic floor can help you get back to doing what you love most â playing, laughing, running, dancing, and living fully with your kids.We cover:
What actually is the pelvic floor? (And why it matters more than we realised)How pregnancy and birth affect your body, even if you had a C-sectionWhy so many mums think leaking is âjust the way it isâ (spoiler: it doesnât have to be!)Easy tips to fit pelvic floor care into your busy life (hello, connection breath!)The âfart, tampon, weeâ trick for full pelvic floor activation (yes, itâs as memorable as it sounds)That itâs never too late to start, whether your child is 1 or 31We know parenting little ones means youâre often folding laundry with one hand and wrangling a toddler with the other. Thatâs why this episode is packed with relatable stories, practical advice, and expert tips, all delivered in a down-to-earth, supportive tone that feels like chatting with a good mate over a cuppa.
You deserve to play, run, dance, and laugh with your children â without fear of leaking, pain, or shame.
Because today is a great day to play â and you shouldnât have to plan it around the toilet.
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Ever feel like you should be playing with your child⌠but you just canât bring yourself to do it?
Maybe youâre exhausted. Maybe you feel silly or awkward. Maybe youâre not even sure how to play anymore.
If this sounds familiar, you are so not alone. In fact, many loving, involved parents feel exactly the same. And in this episode, weâre pulling back the curtain on why play can feel so hard and what can actually help.
Whether youâre a stay-at-home parent, juggling part-time work, or doing it all, youâll walk away from this episode feeling less guilty, more confident, and much better equipped to enjoy play (even just a little) with your child.
Hereâs what weâll unpack in this episode:
10 very real reasons why play feels hard for parents: from lack of time and low energy, to different play styles, technology distractions, and emotional burnoutHow your own childhood experiences (or lack of playful ones) might be influencing the way you show up for your child nowThe power of understanding play schemas, those fascinating patterns of repetitive play (like spinning, throwing, lining up, and wrapping things up) that tell you whatâs going on in your childâs brainSimple, guilt-free strategies that help you connect through play... without needing to be silly, imaginative, or high-energyHow play supports emotional intelligence, brain development, confidence, and deep parent-child bondsâeven when it doesnât look âeducationalâListen in and let this episode remind you:
You donât have to do more or be more to be a good parent. Sometimes, all it takes is understanding why things feel hardâand seeing your childâs play through a new lens.
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Because when we understand what play really isâwe can stop feeling guilty and start feeling connected... and remember... today is a GREAT day to play!
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Worried your toddler isnât âschool readyâ?
Feel like you should be doing flashcards, worksheets, or alphabet drills â but it just doesnât sit right?
This episode is your deep breath and warm reassurance. Weâre busting the myth that early literacy needs to look like formal learning and showing you how play, movement, and everyday conversations are actually doing the heavy lifting.
Join host Ruth Vercoe and special guest Alex, from First Five Years â a mum of twins, ECE expert, parenting coach, and holistic sleep consultant â as we unpack what early literacy really looks like for children aged 1 to 5.
Spoiler alert: Itâs not about teaching your toddler to read before school. Itâs about understanding the powerful role that play, language, movement and connection have in laying the foundation for confident, capable readers later on.
đď¸ In this practical and uplifting episode, we dive into:
Why early literacy is more than just reading & writing and why it develops slowly, layer by layerHow repetitive play (hello, play schemas!) supports deep learning and language developmentThe overlooked link between crawling, monkey bars, and learning to hold a pencilWhy you donât need to spend money on fancy resources â your everyday routines are full of literacy goldWhat serve and return conversations are, and why they might be the most important thing you do todayHow singing silly songs, drawing squiggles, and reading the pictures (not just the words) all build literacySimple ways to use art, storytelling, and play to help your child become a confident communicatorThe number one tip we both swear by (and no, itâs not more screen time or early readers!)Hereâs what youâll walk away with:
âď¸ Clear guidance on what literacy really looks like in the early years
âď¸ Confidence in using everyday moments to support your childâs learning
âď¸ Encouragement to slow down and embrace the power of play
âď¸ A deeper understanding of how movement, art, and sound lay the groundwork for school successYour child is learning every day â not because youâre âteachingâ them, but because youâre with them.
Ready to reframe literacy and feel more empowered in your parenting? Tune in now and discover how to turn everyday moments into meaningful opportunities for learning and connection.
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Connecting with Your Child Through Play â Why It Matters More Than You Think
Is your toddler constantly throwing toys, lining them up, or wrapping things in blankets and youâre not quite sure why? What if these repetitive behaviours are actually your childâs way of connecting with you?
In this episode of Demystifying Childâs Play, we dive deep into a powerful parenting truth: connection doesnât just happen through doing dishes and conversations â it happens through play.
As parents of young children, we all want to feel close to our kids. We want to support their development, encourage independence, and nurture emotional intelligence, but sometimes, that connection can feel out of reach, especially when your child seems more interested in throwing blocks than talking to you.
Thatâs where understanding play schemas changes everything.
Why play is not a distraction from connection â it is connection.What play schemas are and how they show up in your childâs everyday behaviour.How these natural play urges support cognitive, emotional, and social development.Why recognising your childâs schema can stop you from misreading their behaviour as ânaughtyâ or âout of controlâ.Simple, effective ways to join your childâs play â even if youâre not a âplayfulâ parent.How schema-informed play builds trust, reduces power struggles, and helps your child thrive.
đŻ What Youâll Learn in This Episode:We know life with toddlers can be messy, loud, and full of surprises. Itâs easy to feel like youâre just surviving the day, especially when your child insists on playing the same game over and over again. But what if that repetition is actually a window into their world?
Itâs not about doing more. Itâs about noticing more and meeting your child where they are.
Whether youâre new to the idea of play schemas or have heard the term before but arenât quite sure how it applies, this episode will give you the tools and confidence to support your child in a deeper, more connected way.
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Do you ever catch yourself saying, âBe careful!â â even when youâre trying to let your child take healthy risks? Youâre not alone, and youâre not doing it wrong.
In this episode of Demystifying Childâs Play, we unpack one of the biggest tensions many parents face: wanting to support our children confidence and independence, while still keeping them safe.
If youâve ever felt unsure about how much risk is âtoo muchâ when your toddler is climbing high, jumping off furniture, or running full speed down a hill, this episode is for you.
Weâre diving into the world of risky play â what it is, why itâs developmentally important, and how it links to the play schemas that drive your childâs behaviour.
Youâll hear honest reflections from a fellow mum (thatâs me!) who still says âbe carefulâ sometimes â and why Iâm okay with that.
In This Episode, Weâll Explore:
What risky play actually means â and why itâs vital for building resilience, body awareness, and confidenceThe difference between dangerous play and developmentally appropriate riskWhy the play schemas behind risky play matter (think trajectory, rotation, orientationâŚ)How to respond with calm, connection, and trust instead of fear or controlSimple scripts you can use to coach your child through risk, like:
âDo your hands feel steady?â or âWhatâs your plan?âWhether your child is 1 or 5, understanding their drive for risky play through the lens of schemas can transform your parenting â helping you say âyesâ more often, and feel good about it.
Youâll also learn:
The 10 most common play schemas and how they show up in risky playWhy letting your child test their limits doesnât make you reckless â it makes you responsiveHow saying âbe carefulâ with intention can still build connection and emotional literacyWays to support schema-led exploration safely at home, on the playground, and in natureBecause parenting is full of moments where we just want to keep them safe â but when we understand whatâs driving their behaviour, we can support growth and confidence without shutting down their curiosity.
So pop this episode on while youâre making a cuppa, folding the washing, or out for a walk with the pram â and letâs make sense of the messy, marvellous world of toddler play together.
Press play and feel more confident supporting your child's exploration â even when it feels a little bit scary.
Listen now and donât forget to:
Subscribe to the podcast Leave a comment or review â it means the world Share this episode with another parent whoâs navigating risk & playFor more schema-aligned tips and free printables, visit: https://playschemas.com
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Ever feel like youâre the only one dropping the ball as a parent? Spoiler alert: youâre not, you're not alone in feeling this... and this episode might just be the breath of fresh air you didnât know you needed.
In this episode of Demystifying Childâs Play | Play Schemas, weâre joined by Sophie Moskowitz from Imperfect Parents, who brings a powerful message every parent deserves to hear: you donât have to be perfect to be enough. Together, we unpack the unspoken pressures of parenting in a world that often tells us we should âdo it allâ â and do it flawlessly.
If youâve ever questioned whether youâre doing a âgood enoughâ job, wrestled with guilt, or felt isolated in your struggles, this honest, hopeful conversation will remind you that youâre not alone. Sophie shares how her own parenting journey â filled with both heart and hardship â led her to create a community that celebrates the real, raw, and often messy experiences of raising kids.
In this episode, we cover:
The myth of the âperfect parentâ and why itâs time to let it goHow unrealistic societal expectations are making parenting harder â especially for mumsThe emotional toll of comparison culture (and what to do instead)Practical mindset shifts to move from guilt to connectionThe magic of play â and how understanding your childâs play schemas can help you reconnect, even on tough daysWhy naming your struggles is the first step to finding freedom in themYouâll come away with:
Reassurance that youâre not failing â youâre simply humanTools to reframe your parenting expectations in a way that actually feels goodReal-life stories that make you nod, laugh, and maybe cry a littleEncouragement to embrace the imperfect, ordinary moments that truly matterA reminder that being âgood enoughâ is not settling â itâs powerfulSophieâs down-to-earth, no-judgement approach will speak straight to your heart â whether youâre parenting a toddler through tantrums, juggling multiple roles, or simply wondering if everyone else is doing it better than you.
This episode is a love letter to you, the parent showing up every day and doing your best â even when it doesnât feel like enough.
Tune in now and give yourself the same compassion you so easily offer your kids.
Donât forget to subscribe, share, or leave a review if this episode resonates â it helps us reach more amazing parents just like you.
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The Two Words That Will Transform Your Parenting â âWhenâ and âThenâ
Are you tired of endless toddler negotiations, meltdowns during transitions, or repeating yourself a hundred times a day? Youâre not alone â and there is a gentle, effective way forward. In this episode of Demystifying Childâs Play, Ruth Vercoe introduces two simple, yet powerful words that can make all the difference: âwhenâ and âthen.â
Whether you're trying to get your child out the door, clean up after play, or move from one activity to the next â these words offer a calm, respectful way to guide your child through their day without constant power struggles.
Whatâs this episode all about?
This isnât just another parenting hack â itâs a mindset shift grounded in how young children actually understand the world. When used consistently, âwhenâ and âthenâ give toddlers and preschoolers a sense of structure, predictability, and emotional safety.Youâll hear real-life examples from Ruthâs own parenting journey, as well as practical phrases you can start using today. And hereâs where it gets even more powerful: this episode also explores how âwhen-thenâ language aligns beautifully with your childâs play schemas â those fascinating, repetitive behaviours that form the foundation of how they learn and grow.
Youâll walk away with:
A clear understanding of what âwhen-thenâ language is and how to use itReal examples for everyday scenarios â from snack time to messy playInsight into how play schemas shape your childâs behaviourTips to identify and support your childâs dominant play schemaConfidence to redirect behaviour gently without saying ânoâ all the timeA calmer, more cooperative home where play and parenting flow together
Why it worksâWhenâ and âthenâ create cause and effect that young children can understand. Instead of vague instructions like âsoonâ or âlaterâ (which mean nothing to a toddler), youâre offering a safe and predictable roadmap for whatâs happening next.
And when you match this simple structure with your childâs natural learning patterns â like the trajectory schema (throwing), transportation schema (carrying), or rotation schema (spinning) â youâre not just managing behaviour. Youâre nurturing your childâs development in a deeply respectful way.
Ruth explains how to spot these patterns and work with them instead of against them. Youâll be amazed how a tiny shift in language can create massive changes in your everyday routines.
This episode is perfect for you if:
Youâve got children aged 1â5 yearsYouâre curious about play-based learning and positive parentingYou want to feel more confident and less frustratedYouâre after realistic, gentle parenting tools that actually work⨠So take a breath, pop your headphones on â whether you're folding laundry, making lunch, or out for a wal
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Part 1 of 2
In this episode, weâre flipping the script on self-care. Instead of waiting for naptime or feeling guilty for needing a break, weâre inviting you to see the magic already happening in your everyday parenting life â through play schemas.
Parenting young children can be exhausting, joyful, overwhelming, and deeply meaningful â often all in the same hour. Between messy floors, toddler meltdowns, and managing your own mental load, itâs no wonder so many parents feel like theyâre running on empty. But hereâs the good news: you donât need to overhaul your routine or carve out hours of alone time to nurture yourself. You just need to notice whatâs already happening.
In this warm and relatable conversation, host Ruth Vercoe is joined by guest Hannah (a fellow mum and lover of play and self care). Join us as we explore how play schemas â those quirky, repeated play behaviours like throwing toys, hiding under blankets, or lining up blocks â can be used as a practical, joyful framework to support both your childâs development and your emotional wellbeing.
Together, we share real-life examples, lightbulb moments, and surprisingly simple ideas that can transform the way you see playtime â not just as a way for your child to learn, but as a tool for you to reset, recharge and reconnect.
Youâll hear:
What play schemas actually are â and why your child keeps doing that one thing over and over againHow common schemas like trajectory, transportation, enveloping, and connection support your childâs early learningHow to pair each play schema with gentle, achievable self-care moments for yourself (yes, even when you're touched out and running on coffee!)Why âplaying alongsideâ your child is a powerful act of connection, and how it models emotional regulation and resilienceEncouragement to let go of guilt and embrace the beautifully imperfect rhythm of parentingWhether youâre stomping on crunchy leaves, spinning in circles in the kitchen, or wrapping up toys in a blanket fort â these everyday moments can be a form of self-care.
This episode is perfect for you if:
Youâre parenting toddlers or preschoolers and want to understand their behaviour more deeplyYouâre craving ways to care for yourself without needing hours alone or a spa dayYou want to feel more present, connected, and emotionally balanced as a parentYouâre curious about how child development and parent wellbeing can go hand in handRuth and Hannah speak with the understanding of mums whoâve been there â no judgement, just gentle guidance and grounded tips that actually work in the chaos of real life.
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Part 2 of 2
In this episode, weâre flipping the script on self-care. Instead of waiting for naptime or feeling guilty for needing a break, weâre inviting you to see the magic already happening in your everyday parenting life â through play schemas.
Parenting young children can be exhausting, joyful, overwhelming, and deeply meaningful â often all in the same hour. Between messy floors, toddler meltdowns, and managing your own mental load, itâs no wonder so many parents feel like theyâre running on empty. But hereâs the good news: you donât need to overhaul your routine or carve out hours of alone time to nurture yourself. You just need to notice whatâs already happening.
In this warm and relatable conversation, host Ruth Vercoe is joined by guest Hannah (a fellow mum and lover of play and self care). Join us as we explore how play schemas â those quirky, repeated play behaviours like throwing toys, hiding under blankets, or lining up blocks â can be used as a practical, joyful framework to support both your childâs development and your emotional wellbeing.
Together, we share real-life examples, lightbulb moments, and surprisingly simple ideas that can transform the way you see playtime â not just as a way for your child to learn, but as a tool for you to reset, recharge and reconnect.
Youâll hear:
What play schemas actually are â and why your child keeps doing that one thing over and over againHow common schemas like trajectory, transportation, enveloping, and connection support your childâs early learningHow to pair each play schema with gentle, achievable self-care moments for yourself (yes, even when you're touched out and running on coffee!)Why âplaying alongsideâ your child is a powerful act of connection, and how it models emotional regulation and resilienceEncouragement to let go of guilt and embrace the beautifully imperfect rhythm of parentingWhether youâre stomping on crunchy leaves, spinning in circles in the kitchen, or wrapping up toys in a blanket fort â these everyday moments can be a form of self-care.
This episode is perfect for you if:
Youâre parenting toddlers or preschoolers and want to understand their behaviour more deeplyYouâre craving ways to care for yourself without needing hours alone or a spa dayYou want to feel more present, connected, and emotionally balanced as a parentYouâre curious about how child development and parent wellbeing can go hand in handRuth and Hannah speak with the understanding of mums whoâve been there â no judgement, just gentle guidance and grounded tips that actually work in the chaos of real life.
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Ever feel like your toddler is just ignoring you on purpose?
Youâve asked nicely (three times), tried raising your voice, or even taken a toy away â and still, they wonât listen. Before you start second-guessing yourself or wondering if itâs just your child, take a deep breath. You are not alone â and thereâs a powerful reason behind this common toddler behaviour.In this episode, Ruth sits down with parenting and behaviour specialist Heather Schalk to uncover why toddlers really donât listen â and itâs not what you might think.
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@HeatherSchalkParentingThis conversation dives into whatâs going on beneath the surface of toddler behaviour. We explore how so-called âdefianceâ is often a sign of underdeveloped emotional, communication, or social skills â not a problem with your parenting.
Together, Ruth and Heather unpack:
Why toddlers ignore instructions (spoiler: it's not always intentional!)The Toddler Reactivity Loop â what it is, how to spot it, and how to break the cycleThe role of play schemas in behaviour â and how to work with them, not against themHow to tell if your toddler is actually regulated and ready to listenWhy âconnect before correctâ leads to calmer, more confident parentingPractical Tips You Can Use Right Away
This isnât just theory â itâs full of real-world strategies for real-life parents. Youâll learn how to:
Tune in to your childâs cues before giving instructionsUse transition items and visual cues to support smoother routinesRespond to big emotions with empathy â while still holding boundariesTeach self-advocacy phrases like âMy turn nextâ or âIâm not done yetâPraise natural moments of waiting or cooperation to build emotional resilienceReframe common challenges (like spilling milk or toy-throwing) into learning momentsYouâll hear relatable examples from Heatherâs own life with twins and Ruthâs practical insights into how play schemas shape your childâs behaviour â even when it seems challenging.
Youâre Doing Better Than You Think!
Parenting toddlers is exhausting. Itâs full of curveballs, chaos, and so many questions. But with just a little shift in perspective, you can turn everyday frustrations into meaningful opportunities for growth â for both you and your child.
This episode will leave you feeling supported, seen, and more confident in your role as your childâs first teacher. Whether youâre folding laundry, walking the pram, or hiding in the pantry for five minutesâ peace, this oneâs for you.
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What if your toddlerâs obsession with mud, watering cans, or hauling carrots isnât just playâbut a window into how they learn best?
In this episode of Demystifying Childâs Play, we take you into the gardenâyes, dirt and allâto uncover how vegetable gardening can reveal powerful insights about your childâs development. Whether your little one is digging, transporting soil, or burying seeds, these actions arenât random. Theyâre part of play schemasâthe natural, repetitive behaviours that show us how young children are making sense of the world.
As a parent, it can feel tricky to know whatâs âjust playâ and whatâs meaningful learning.
This episode helps you connect the dots. We break down whatâs happening beneath the surface when your child is knee-deep in garden soil, and how to support their growth without needing fancy toys, Pinterest-perfect setups, or rigid routines.In this episode you'll discover:
What Play Schemas areâand why they matter so much in the early yearsHow simple garden activities like watering, digging, and harvesting relate to specific schemas like trajectory, transporting, enveloping, and positioningWhy repetition is not a sign of boredom, but a signal your child is deep in learningHow to identify and nurture your childâs unique play preferencesEasy ways to support schema play in everyday garden moments (even with limited space!)Youâll also get practical tips like:
How to set up a toddler-friendly garden area (without needing a full backyard)What to say (or not say) to encourage schema-rich explorationHow to gently support your childâs independence without hoveringIdeas for turning daily gardening into purposeful, brain-building funWhether you're a parent with a veggie patch, a few potted herbs, or no garden at allâthis episode will shift how you see your child's play. It's about meeting them where they are and celebrating the little moments that are soaked in learning (and sometimes water too!).
Youâre not just raising a childâyouâre raising a curious learner.
Let this episode inspire you to view everyday messes, garden tasks, and muddy hands as essential parts of their developmental journey. You donât need to do moreâjust see more. And that starts with understanding the magic of play schemas.Listen now and dig into the hidden learning happening in your garden.
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Grab your free Easter Play Ideas PDF with all 10 schema-based activities, family-friendly versions, and our go-to oaty pancake recipe at playschemas.com/freeFeeling overwhelmed by all the Easter hypeâand wondering how to make it meaningful for your toddler?
In this episode of Demystifying Childâs Play, weâre diving into how you can use this Easter season to truly support your childâs developmentâwithout extra stress or sugar overload.
Weâll show you how to harness the power of play schemasâthe natural, repetitive play behaviours all children engage inâto create fun, intentional Easter activities that meet your child right where they are developmentally. Whether theyâre throwing, stacking, wrapping, or endlessly transporting things from one place to another, this episode will help you understand why they play this wayâand how to build on it.
This isnât about picture-perfect Pinterest crafts. Itâs about easy, real-life ideas that work with your childâs current play urges, not against them. And the best part? You likely already have what you need at home.
In this episode, weâll cover:
What play schemas actually are, and why they matter for child development
Why Easter is the perfect time to support schema play (think baskets, eggs, nature walks)
10 simple, engaging Easter activity ideasâeach linked to a specific schema
How to include your toddler in Easter traditions that build emotional connection
Bonus toddler-friendly recipes that support sensory exploration and independenceWeâve made sure every idea includes:
An independent play version to support solo exploration
A family version to foster bonding and shared joy
No fancy materials or hours of prepâjust meaningful, low-fuss funWhether you're a first-time parent or juggling multiple little ones, this episode is for you if:
You want to understand your childâs behaviour instead of just managing it
Youâre looking for early learning tips that donât require a teaching degree
Youâd love to make Easter special without going overboard
Youâre craving ways to connect more deeply with your child through playYouâre not just making Easter craftsâyouâre building confidence, independence, and lifelong learning habits.
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As parents, we want to protect our children. But when it comes to body safety, it can feel overwhelmingâwhere do we start?
How do we talk about it in a way thatâs age-appropriate and empowering? And how do we navigate such an important conversation without fear or discomfort?
Youâre not alone in these concerns. In todayâs world, we hear so much about unsafe physical touch, making it even harder to know how to teach our children what safe and trusted touch looks like. But ignoring the topic isnât the answerâour kids need us to guide them in understanding their own boundaries, their rights, and how to respect others.
This is where the âFoundations of Body Safetyâ course comes and why I have teamed up with Victoria Barendsen, a registered psychologist specialising in childhood trauma and sexual abuse, to offer you a 10% discount (playschemas10 at ww.thesafekidsproject.com). In this 6-week course will:
â Give you the confidence to introduce body safety concepts in a natural, everyday way
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â Help you build open communication so your child feels safe coming to you with questions or concerns
â Empower your child with the knowledge and tools they need to maintain healthy boundaries
I have taken this course myself, and to say it has been eye-opening is an understatement. Within just a few lessons, I told my husband that this is something every parent should have in their toolkitâjust like an infant and child first aid course.
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Wrapping Up the Love Languages Series: How Play Can Deepen Your Connection with Your Child
Do you ever wonder whatâs really behind your childâs play? Or why they behave a certain way when theyâre feeling disconnected? Understanding play schemas and love languages can completely transform the way you interact with your little oneâmaking parenting more intentional, fun, and fulfilling!
In this final episode of our Love Languages & Play series, we bring everything together to help you recognise, respond to, and nurture your childâs emotional needs through play.
What You'll Learn in This Episode:â How Play Schemas & Love Languages Work Together â Discover how your childâs natural play tendencies (like spinning, building, or transporting objects) can align with their love language and emotional needs.
â Spotting Your Childâs Love Language in Daily Life â Learn the simple ways children express what they need, from asking for quality time to seeking physical touch.
â Why Love Languages Change Over Time â Understand how your childâs love language may shift as they grow, and how to stay attuned to their evolving needs.
â The Connection Between Love Tanks & Behaviour â Is your child acting out, or are they just running low on love? Learn how unmet emotional needs can show up in tantrums, clinginess, or defiance.
â Discipline Through the Lens of Love Languages â Why using the wrong consequence could do more harm than good, and how to guide your child in a way that keeps their love tank full.
â Building a Stronger Family Culture â Encourage siblings, partners, and extended family to understand and support each otherâs love languages, creating a more connected home.
đĄ Try This Today!Next time your child is upset, ask yourself: Have I filled their love tank today? Take just five minutes to connect in their love languageâwhether itâs a cuddle, a game, or simply telling them how much you love them. You might be surprised by the difference it makes!
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Unlock the Secrets of Your Childâs Play: Play Schemas & Acts of Service in Parenting!
Have you ever wondered why your child insists on lining up their toys, spinning in circles, or moving objects from place to place? It might seem random (or even frustrating!), but these repetitive behaviours are actually part of their natural learning process. Theyâre called play schemas, and understanding them can transform the way you see your childâs playâhelping you to nurture their development and reduce daily parenting struggles.
But thereâs more! When we connect play schemas with the love language of acts of service, we unlock an even deeper way to support our children. In this episode, weâll explore how simple, everyday acts of service can show love, model responsibility, and empower our little ones to serve themselvesâand eventually, others.
What Youâll Learn in This Episode:â What play schemas are and how they shape your childâs learning and behaviour.
â The love language acts of serviceâwhy itâs more than just doing things for your child.
â How recognising play schemas can strengthen your bond and make daily life smoother.
â Practical ways to support your childâs play while fostering independence and confidence.
â How small, intentional acts of service help children understand love, responsibility, and community.As parents, weâre constantly serving our childrenâmeals, clean clothes, cuddles, bedtime routinesâbut when done with intention, these daily tasks become powerful expressions of love. In this episode, we talk about how acts of service should go beyond âdoing everything for themâ and instead guide children toward learning, responsibility, and meaningful connection.
đĄ Ready to see your childâs play in a whole new light? Grab a cuppa, pop in your earphones, and letâs dive in!
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Ever feel like your child is constantly throwing, spinning, or building the same thing over and overâand youâre not quite sure why? Or maybe youâre wondering how to give your child the quality time they crave without adding more to your already packed schedule? Youâre not alone! In this episode of Demystifying Childâs Play, weâre unlocking the magic behind play schemas and how they connect with the love language of Quality Timeâhelping you build stronger bonds with your child through their natural way of playing.
What Youâll Learn in This Episode:
âď¸ What are play schemas? Discover why your child repeats certain play behaviours and what it tells you about their development.
âď¸ Why Quality Time mattersâespecially for children who seek undivided attention from parents.
âď¸ 10 easy ways to turn play into meaningful connection, tailored to your childâs unique play interests.
âď¸ How to make time for Quality Time (even when life is busy!).Many childhood behavioursâlike throwing objects, hiding under blankets, or endlessly lining up toysâarenât random at all! Theyâre part of play schemas, the natural way children explore and make sense of the world. When you understand these patterns, you can join in their play in a way that feels natural, fun, and deeply connecting.
And if your childâs primary love language is Quality Time, they donât just want you to watch them playâthey want you to play with them! But donât worry, this doesnât mean you need to set aside hours of elaborate playtime. Even small, everyday moments can make a big impact!
Practical Ideas You Can Try Today!đ Trajectory Play (throwing, dropping, running): Instead of saying "Stop throwing!", turn it into a gameâplay catch, race toy cars, or explore water play together.
đ Rotation Play (spinning, turning things): Join your child in stirring, mixing, or riding bikesâsimple, everyday moments that fill their love tank.
đ Enclosure Play (building forts, climbing into spaces): Snuggle inside a homemade fort for cosy, screen-free Quality Time.
đ Positioning Play (lining things up, arranging objects): Set the table together or sort coloured toysâsimple, mindful moments that strengthen your connection.⨠Even just 10 minutes of focused, undistracted play can make your child feel seen, valued, and deeply loved!
Too Busy? Hereâs How to Fit It In!We get itâparents are BUSY! But Quality Time doesnât mean grand outings or hours of play. Here are simple ways to make connection part of your daily routine:
âď¸ Pre-bedtime snuggles â A perfect, distraction-free way to end the day.
âď¸ Car time chats â Use car rides for fun conversations instead of screens.
âď¸ Cooking together â Let them help mix, pour, or taste-test while you chat.
âď¸ Set a timer â Just 10â15 minutes of full attention can make all the difference!đ Giveaway Alert! Sign up to our email list before March 31, 2025, for a chance to win a copy of The 5 Love Languages of Children! â
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In this episode, we delve into the fascinating world of child play through the lens of play schemas and the powerful impact of words of affirmation. Understanding why children engage in particular play patterns allows us to connect with them on a deeper level and support their growth more effectively. These schemas are not simply repetitive behaviors; they serve as gateways to developing essential skills like problem-solving and spatial awareness.
We discuss how to frame our communication to not only encourage our children but also help them understand the value of their efforts. Words hold tremendous power; hence, using affirmations thoughtfully can have a lasting impact on their self-esteem and overall development. Through concrete examples, we explore how to apply praise thoughtfully, nurturing your childâs sense of self regardless of the situation.
As we navigate the complexities of parenting, we recognize the importance of our energy and positivity in our interactions. Listening to your childâs play and responding with affirmation is key to fostering a supportive learning environment. This conversation focuses on practical, actionable insights for parents to implement at home, enhancing connections with your children while encouraging their unique paths to learning and exploration.
What Youâll Discover in This Episode:âď¸ The 10 Play Schemas â How children explore the world through play
âď¸ Why Play Schemas Matter â Reduce frustration and support learning
âď¸ Words That Empower â Practical scripts to affirm and encourage your child
âď¸ The Hidden Power of Praise â How to uplift without over-praising
âď¸ Avoiding Common Pitfalls â The impact of sarcasm, tone, and empty praise
Join us for a warm, engaging discussion that encourages deeper understanding and nurturing connections in your parenting journey. Donât forget to subscribe, share, and leave a review to help us reach even more families!Send us a text
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Love The 5 Love Languages of Children by Gary Chapman? Iâm giving away a FREE copy to one lucky listener!
â How to enter: Join my mailing list before March 31, 2025, at đ playschemas.comDid you know that something as simple as a hug, a high-five, or a game of tag could be the key to your child feeling deeply loved and secure? In this episode, weâre exploring Physical Touch as a love languageâhow it shapes your childâs emotional development, why some kids crave it more than others, and how you can easily incorporate it into everyday moments of play.
For many parents, physical touch comes naturally in the early yearsârocking, holding, carryingâbut as children grow, affectionate touch often fades into the background. And if your love language isnât physical touch, you might find yourself wondering: âAm I giving my child what they need to feel truly loved?â
đĄ Hereâs the good news: You donât need to be a âcuddlyâ parent to make this love language work. Physical touch isnât just about hugsâit can be playful, fun, and part of your daily routines!
Letâs start by addresing something important: body safety and consent. In a world where weâre constantly teaching our kids about personal space and âsafe touch,â how do we also make sure theyâre getting enough loving, appropriate, and secure physical connection? Thatâs why Iâve partnered with Victoria Barendsen from The Safe Kids Project, a registered psychologist specialising in childhood trauma and body safety. If you want to feel empowered in teaching your child about safe boundaries, check out her âFoundations of Body Safetyâ courseâand get a special discount just for listeners at https://thesafekidsproject.com/ and use the code playschemas10 at checkout for a 10% discount.
đ§ What You'll Learn in This Episode:âď¸ Why Physical Touch Matters â The emotional and developmental benefits of affectionate touch
âď¸ How Play Naturally Encourages Physical Connection â Simple ways to build touch into your childâs day
âď¸ Age-Appropriate Ways to Use Physical Touch â From toddlers to tweens, what works best?
âď¸ Respecting Boundaries â Teaching consent without withdrawing affection
âď¸ Easy, Everyday Play Ideas for Connection â No extra effort required!
đ¤šââď¸ Using Play to Connect Through Touch
Physical touch doesnât have to feel forcedâitâs naturally woven into so many types of play! In this episode, I share:
đŻ Rough-and-Tumble Games â Chase, tag, tickling, piggyback rides
đ¨ Sensory Play â Messy play with dough, mud, and textures
đľ Rhythmic Clapping & Hand Games â Fun ways to include gentle touch
đ Swinging & Spinning â Playful movement that strengthens connection
đĄ Building Together â Snuggle in a fort, sit closely while crafting, or create hand-linked towersđ Want a FREE Play Schema Guide? Grab yours at playschemas.com/free
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