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As we approach 2025, it's time to reconnect with ourselves by uncovering our true desires and needs. In this four-week series, we continue to explore and find clarify for what you truly want in life. Grab a pen and notebook as we dive into understanding needs versus wants.
Most of us focus on life's big picture but often overlook small details that can lead to empowerment. Let's identify fundamental needsâlike food, water, safetyâand differentiate them from wants. We'll assess where you are now and pinpoint any missing elements before taking action.
The Importance of Reconnecting with Yourself
The significance of the upcoming new year
Uncovering and identifying what you truly want from life
Understanding Needs vs. Wants
Defining what a need is
Differentiating between needs and wants
Assessing current life situations and identifying missing elements
Life Inventory Exercise
Exploring the '5 masters': mental, emotional, physical, spiritual, and financial areas
Questions to ask yourself about different aspects of life
Identifying Core Needs
Understanding and identifying missing needs
Reflection on desires and values
Visualizing future scenarios if needs remain unmet
Engaging with Your Intuition
Tuning into gut feelings and the inner voice
Exercises to connect with intuition and recognize needs
Setting Intentions and Taking Action
The role of intentions in meeting needs
Picking a focus area and setting specific intentions
Importance of small, consistent actions towards fulfilling needs
Ongoing Journey and Encouragement
The continuous nature of identifying and meeting needs
Encouragement for engaging with exercises and sharing experiences
A sneak peek into the next episode: Focusing on feelings
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As we wind down the year, headed to a new twelve months in 2025, we are starting a 4-week journey together. A journey designed to help you reflect on the most fundamental questions that guide your life. Together, we are diving into a question that seems so deceptive simple yet is so profoundly how for. That question is, What do I want? As we explore this question, we're going to uncover that the answers aren't just about surface level desires or even material goods. It's about uncovering your authentic self, your values, and your visions for the future. And by the end of this conversation, youâll have practical tools to help you answer that question and help you start aligning your life with the things that matter most to you.
The Central Question:Explore the deceptively simple yet profound question: âWhat do I want?â
Uncover desires beyond material needs; focus on aligning with values and visions for the future.
Four Essential Questions for Reflection:
What do I want?
What do I need?
How do I want to feel?
How will I get there?
Desire Mapping Exercise:
Identify personal desires in areas such as personal growth, professional goals, health improvements, and relationship enhancements.
Reflect without judgmentâwhat truly resonates with you?
Clarifying Values:
List core values that resonate deeply (e.g., accountability, creativity).
Narrow down to top five values that align with your true self.
Vision Creation:
Envision an ideal future using a vision statement or board.
Integrate desires and values into a clear direction for achieving long-term goals.
Practical Steps:Desire Mapping: Break down what you desire across key life areas.
Value Identification: Clarify core personal values; ensure alignment between actions and these principles.
Vision Crafting: Create a vivid picture of your ideal future through statements or visual boards.
Action Planning: Develop actionable steps based on identified desires/values leading towards envisioned futures.
Key Takeaways:The process is ongoing; revisit regularly as part of continual growth.
Align actions with intentions by setting realistic timelines/goals guided by clarified desires/values/visions.
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Are you moving through something big right now? You are not alone! However, we often think we are when we move through significant moments. In this space, we struggle to let go of what is no longer serving us because fear and guilt trump our needs and our perceived worthiness to have a grounded, healthy, and happy life.
And thanks to fear, many believe that letting go is impossible, traumatic, or downright impossible. The truth is, there is a shadow side to healing. Yet, there are ways to soften the blow by doing deep preliminary work ahead of our healing.
This week we are doing just that through a one-on-one deep dive into the process of letting go. Weâre entering a space where we consciously create a path for our deepest desires, the self-awareness process, and learning how to let go of people and relationships, heavy emotions and trauma, attachment, and the obstacles that stand in our way.
So, letâs shift our perspectives and our ability to heal, move forward, and own our most extraordinary, most empowered life.
Key Takeaways:
00:00 Introduction
01:32 A big question: Are you moving through something right now?
02:41 So many women are seeking change by letting go of what is no longer serving them right now!
04:39 Answering the top questions: How do we move on?
05:00 Three hard truths of letting go
#1: Holding onto anything that doesnât serve you is a conscious, willing choice
#2: Thereâs a shadow side to healing
#3: You have the ability to move through or let go of anything once you stop getting in your own way
08:03 Look at the four areas of letting go we are most impacted in:
Letting go of a person or relationship
Letting go of an attachment
Letting go of trauma or difficult emotions
Letting go of the past
08:36 One âlittleâ thing you must have in place before you can let go â self-trust
09:51 Self-trust goes beyond knowing you can do something. Itâs about relying on yourself and knowing what you need.
12:09 Self-trust is formed through taking responsibility
14:36 Letting go of a person or a relationships â what is required before letting go
17:27 The exercise of stripping away the emotions to get down to the facts
21:45 Engaging in mindfulness serves us in this process, and then we call the emotions back in
23:00 Looking at how control keeps us in suffering
24:19 Letting go of attachment
25:36 Another hard truth: Our struggles come from our attachment
26:16 We must learn to justify less
29:40 We must use self-compassion when letting go, and the four questions that help us lean into it
31:13 The act of âholding lightlyâ is a beautiful practice
31:59 Letting go of trauma and hard emotions
33:58 Using our emotions for our benefit
36:35 Letting go of the past
38:18 How do we let go? Step-by-step
#1 Outline what you need and want
41:12 #2 Be prepared for the hard times. Create an intention, activity, or mantra to serve you
43:31 #3 Create distance
46:20 #4 Do your own work
46:51 #5 Give yourself space and time to grieve
47:20 #6 Allow your emotions to flow
48:39 #7 Lean into forgiveness
49:39 #8 Be willing to adapt
50:22 #9 Witness your experiences through a lens of gratitude
52:17 Actively move into peace through doing the work
53:20 Surround yourself with your tribe
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In this episode, we're talking about choices and natural consequences. We're diving deep into the art of making decisions that not only shape your future but also nourish your soul. Whether you're at a crossroads or just looking to build more momentum, this episode is all about harnessing the power of self-awareness, trust, and resilience by deciding what works for you. Because the best investment you can make is in yourself.
Key Points:
So, take a deep breath, center your thoughts, and let's unlock the tools to help you make decisions that align with your true self.Understanding Choices:
Explore how everyday decisions influence tomorrowâs realities.
Learn about the ripple effect of consistent decision-making patterns.
The Importance of Accountability:
Discover why taking ownership of your choices is crucial for personal growth.
Consider long-term wellness versus instant gratification.
Visualizing Outcomes:
Visualize where you want to be in a year or five years from now.
Align current actions with future aspirations for financial independence, career changes, etc.
Safety and Decision-Making:
Establish safety as a foundation for making sound decisions.
Trust yourself despite past mistakes by creating a secure environment for choice-making.
Practical Steps & Tips:Define Decisions Clearly: Identify problems needing solutions â whether related to health, career, relationships or finances.
Set Objectives & Gather Information: Clarify end goals without overthinking; gather relevant data internally or externally if needed.
Evaluate Priorities & Weigh Pros/Cons: Align choices with values/goals; assess benefits vs risks to find motivation and avoid decision fatigue.
Consider Emotional/Rational Responses: Balance gut feelings with logical analysis while considering both immediate gratification and long-term impacts.
Seek Advice When Needed: Gain perspectives from trusted individuals but remember final responsibility lies within oneself after weighing options against personal priorities/objectives effectively!
Commitment And Action Plan Creation : Once confident about chosen direction , fully commit avoiding second guessing ; take action implementing necessary steps towards achieving desired outcomes !
Reflection Questions:Are my daily choices leading me toward thriving rather than merely surviving?
How do I ensure that todayâs actions contribute positively towards my envisioned future?
Thank you for tuning in!
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If you've ever felt overwhelmed by emotions like anger or fear, itâs time explore emotional transmutationâturning feelings into constructive energy. In this one-on-one deep dive, we are exploring emotional transmutation and weâre learning how to harness your emotions for positive change rather than letting them hold you back.
Emotions are simply energy in motion; they aren't inherently good or bad. By understanding this, you can redirect your life right here, right now!
Letâs dive in!
KEY TAKEAWAYS:
Emotional Transmutation Defined:
Understanding how to transform feelings into positive actions.
Emotions as energy in motionâhow they can be redirected.
Awareness and Acknowledgment:
Recognizing and validating your emotions without judgment.
Importance of identifying the source of your feelings.
Channeling Emotional Energy:
Practical steps to redirect intense emotions like anger, sadness, or fear.
Using creative outlets such as writing or physical activity for emotional release.
Self-Compassion and Reflection:
Practicing self-compassion during emotional processing.
Reflecting on what each emotion teaches you about yourself.
Practical Exercises:
Pause and check-in with current emotions; identify where they're felt physically.
Reframe situations by understanding what triggers certain responses.
Create action plans using emotions constructively (e.g., assertive communication from anger).
Thank you for tuning in! Remember that practicing emotional transformation leads to greater control over reactions and enhances personal development. Until next time, be kind to yourself!
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Is your life owning you or do you own it?
Big question, right?
After years of studying our experiences, emotions, and behaviors, thereâs one thing that I know with absolute certainty and clarity, our personal history, our stories, have incredible, therapeutic healing power.
The problem is most of us do not use this power to our advantage. There is a tool that each of us has access to that is self-directed and requires nothing more than your thoughts, a pen, and a piece of paper.
What is it?
Itâs journaling.
This week we are diving into a deeper form of journaling called subconscious journaling. When done correctly it soothes the soul, unlocks the subconscious, and opens the door to a genuine, non-judgment conversation with the self. You DO have the power to change your life by using your own words and life experiences.
Key Takeaways:
00:00 Introduction
01:45 The power of journaling and how we are not using our experiences to our advantages
04:35 A vulnerability moment: How journaling served me in my own healing journey
07:07 How journaling serves your personal history and healing journey
08:53 Listening to the urges around you. Sometimes others can see what you cannot
10:48 Picking up your pen is one of the bravest things you can do
13:57 How to dive into your subconscious mind
15:18 Looking at the subconscious impact once you dive in
17:52 How the ego acts as the voice (the spokesperson) of the subconscious
20:42 Rule to adhere to while journaling through the subconscious
22:03 How devices disrupt journaling
23:28 Return to a beginner mindset and how to get started
24:04 Step #1 Set an intention. What is your why?
24:54 Therapeutic journaling is not only for healing, but also for growth, too
25:48 Step #2 Set a scheduled routine. The importance of creating an appointment with the self
29:15 Step #3 Find your space
31:26 Start where you are right now and give yourself permission to meet who you truly are
32:44 Give yourself permission to drop into your feelings
35:17 Move into conscious thought to review what came up in your writing
37:04 Be willing to receive the wisdom of your story and words
38:11 Release a time limit on telling your story and how to do a Brain Dump. (For step-by-step instructions, visit the link or www.danielleavann.com/the-art-of-a-brain-dump)
39:08 How to create prompts that are self-directed instead of the generic prompts on the internet
40:23 Journaling techniques to try. #1 Springboard Technique
41:40 Technique #2: Inner Conversation with self
42:58 Technique #3: Stepping Stones
44:14 Technique #4: The Brain Map/Mind Map
46:27 Signs you are not in the subconscious
48:51 Other Benefits of Journaling
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In a world where challenges seem to multiply daily, finding peace can feel like an uphill battle. Hopelessness is more than just a fleeting emotion; it's an overwhelming state that engulfs individuals in feelings of sadness, isolation, and despair. In this weekâs deep dive, we examine how our brains often fabricate untrue narratives that intensify these feelingsâstories we tell ourselves about being inadequate or unable to change our circumstances.
Breaking free from this cycle by nurturing hopeâa zest for life characterized by anticipating positive outcomes and feeling safe within oneself takes the emotional turmoil out of the picture. Instead of saying, screw it, itâs hopeless, you have the power to lean into hope through a few practical mindset tools.
Key Takeaways:Understanding Hopelessness:
Exploration of emotions like despair, sadness, sorrow, depression.
How our brain creates stories that reinforce negative thoughts.
The Role of Hope:
Definition and importance of maintaining hope as a shield against adversity.
Duality in experiencesâacknowledging both positive and negative truths.
Strategies to Cultivate Hope:
Identifying when your brain is lying; challenging cognitive distortions.
Focusing on small steps towards solutions rather than overwhelming goals.
The SHINE Framework for Building Hope:
Stress Skills: Techniques like breathwork or activating the vagus nerve to manage stress responses.
Happiness Habits: Establishing daily routines that foster joy and fulfillment.
Inspired Action: Setting achievable goals with micro-actions leading toward larger objectives.
Network for Hope: Building supportive relationships that provide perspective and encouragement.
Eliminating Challenges to Hope: Recognizing internal dialogue or beliefs that hinder positivity.
Practical Exercises:Create happiness habits by identifying simple joys in daily life (e.g., morning coffee ritual).
Develop inspired action plans using micro-goals (e.g., breaking down tasks into smaller components).
Engage in mindfulness practices such as meditation or gratitude journaling.
By becoming investigators truth challenging distorted narratives created within minds reevaluating approaches generating renewed sense optimism possibilities unfold before us even amidst difficulties encountered along way!
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Feeling connected to yourself and the five master areas of your life is essential as it shows the value you place within yourself. With disconnected, thereâs a tendency to lose sight of who you are, what you want, and most certainly what you need.
Thatâs why you and I are taking a one-on-one deep dive into what it means to feel disconnected, and weâre taking small steps to take the journey home to the self.
Letâs get right to it.
Key Takeaways:
00:00 Intro
03:12 The 5 masters of your life
05:11 Disconnection and how it shows up
05:33 Why disconnection happens
07:16 Saying that we often say when we are disconnected
09:04 Holding space for the self is different than being emotionally detached
10:38 Step 1 in returning to yourself
12:43 Step 2: Date Yourself
14:53 Step 3: Self-Compassion
17:24 Step 4: Follow your energy
19:37 Step 5: Stop the negativity and nasty thoughts
21:32 Step 6: Give yourself âlittle lovesâ
22:28 Today is âtheâ special occasion, and thatâs about connection
28:25 Mental and emotional dangers of disconnection
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What if you could rebuild your life from scratch? In today's fast-paced world, it's easy to lose sight of our personal truths amid the chaos, which also means we easily lose ourselves. This week we are deep diving into the necessity of confronting your current state of living with unflinching honesty. It's about understanding where you stand today without sugar-coating your circumstancesâa practice that can be both liberating and daunting. In facing your personal truth, I had over 17 things I would personally do if I woke up tomorrow and I had lost everything or I needed to start over.
The steps listed are hard and fast steps needed to move forward, no matter if this is a total reboot or not.
The Reality Check
Facing Reality with Honesty
Evaluating Your Present Self
The Approach: Soft Truths vs. Hardcore Reality - Where are you today?
Self-Reflection and Acceptance & Rebuilding from Scratch
The Importance of Heavy Self-Reflection
Accepting Your Truth
What Would You Change?
Steps to Consider to Start Over
Mourning the Past
Grieving What Hasnât Been and What Has
Go Back to Basics
Meeting Core Needs for Safety and Security
Identifying Safe Spaces
Identifying Obstacles
Recognizing What Holds You Back
Addressing Unhealthy Habits and Patterns
Breaking Free of the Rut
Recognizing Routine and Stagnation
Creating Excitement and Joy in Daily Life
The Illusion of Age
Breaking Barriers: Age is Only a Number
Starting where you are
Sharing the Load
The Importance of Seeking Support
Identifying Safe People in Your Life
Refusing Victimhood
Taking Responsibility for Your Life
Becoming the Hero of Your Own Story
Establishing New Values
Redefining Beliefs and Core Values
Aligning Values with Needs
Discovering Desires
Asking Key Questions to Uncover What You Want
Identifying Needs and Desires
Set Practical Goals & Intentions That Match Where You Are Now
Creating Measurable and Achievable Goals
Turning Dreams Into Actionable Steps
Learn To Cope with Anxiety
Learning to Manage Fear and Stress
Developing Techniques for Emotional Regulation
Pushing Comfort Zones
The Importance of Growth and New Experiences
Testing Limits and Embracing Discomfort
Mindset Makeover
Understanding the Power of Mindset
Shifting from Negative to Neutral to Positive
Embracing Failure
Viewing Failure as a Learning Opportunity
Finding Strength in Mistakes
Learning to Supporting Yourself
Building Resilience through Past Experiences
Recognizing Inner Strength in Challenging Times
If there's 1 thing that you could do, What would it be? Don't worry about failure., Just do., That's what I'm leaving you with todayâJust do. Start where you are today and decide where you want to place your focus. Take control and live in a commitment to myself.Join over 25 K plus members on Instagram, Facebook, and Tik Tok who are engaging in their own life revolution daily. Like this show? Please leave us a review here â even one sentence helps! Also, please post a screenshot of you listening on Instagram & tag us so we can thank you personally! Sign up for the Get Your Life Together, Girl Insider Email here!
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In the latest episode of "Get Your Life Together Girl,"we delve into how we can ease the burden of life's challenges to rediscover joy and peace, because not everything has to be difficult. While most of us are busy living, healing, and experiencing the journey of life, we often focus on what's wrong (the 10% negative experiences), instead of looking at the 90% that's good. Recognizing this balance helps prevent feeling completely overwhelmed by life's complexities. In order to fully take control over your life, we look toward your thought patterns and how we can brain hack the patterns you created.
Brain Science in Thought FormationUnderstanding how our thoughts are formed is pivotal:
Neurons release neurotransmitters.
These create electrical signals.
Connections between thousands of neurons form thought patterns.
Negative loops reinforce themselves over time if left unchecked. Therefore, mindfulness about what thoughts we nurture becomes critical for maintaining mental well-being.
Role of the Reticular Activating System (RAS)The RAS acts as our brainâs bouncer:
It filters what we perceive.
Allows us to focus selectively based on given instructions.
By giving specific instructions focused on positivity or joy rather than stress or negativity, you can effectively reprogram your perception towards more uplifting aspects of life.
Strategies for Shifting Mindsets Towards Joy â the 90%Here are some actionable steps:
Identify Desires: Determine what you want out of lifeâhow you wish to feelâand set clear intentions.
Validate Thoughts: Regularly check whether your current thoughts align with these pre-set intentions.
Assess Importance: Decide which thoughts need attention versus those that donât deserve energy.
Understand Triggers: Recognize triggers for both joy and stress; use them wisely to guide emotional responses positively.
Concrete Steps Against Negative ExperiencesTo counteract negativity effectively:
Accept support from others instead of isolating yourself.
Connect with like-minded individuals who reinforce positive thinking habits.
Engage deeply with emotions but avoid overcomplicating situations unnecessarily.
Strategies for Shifting Mindset & Promoting JoyHere are some actionable steps:
Identify IntentionsAsk yourself these questions regularly:
What do I want?
How do I want to feel?
What do I need?
How will I achieve it?
Validate your thoughts against these intentions consistently.
Understand TriggersRecognize what triggers both your joy and stress:
Use joyful triggers as guides for emotional responses.
Manage stressful triggers effectively by acknowledging them without letting them dominate your mindset.
Concrete Steps Against NegativityTo counteract negative experiences:
Accept SupportBreak cycles of isolation by accepting help from others when neededâitâs okay not always being self-reliant!
Connect with Like-Minded PeopleSurround yourself with people who reinforce positive thinkingâthey become anchors during turbulent times!
Engage With FeelingsUnderstand your feelings deeply; donât overcomplicate things unnecessarilyâsimplicity often holds clarity!
Focus On Self-CareAvoid harmful escapism like substance abuseâinstead indulge responsibly in activities bringing genuine pleasure such as nature walks or connecting closely with friends/family members etc..
Allow breaks akin reflecting upon concept an overflowing wine glassâto manage healing without becoming overwhelmed completelyâŠ
Remember, what you think and what you focus on grows. You must be careful with your mind and thoughts.
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Feeling stuck is a common experience that many of us face at various points in our lives. Whether it's in our careers, relationships, or personal growth, the sensation of being unable to move forward can be incredibly frustrating and disheartening. In a todayâs episode, we are delving into what you may be doing to cause yourself to feel and be âstuck.â
Understanding Why We Feel StuckThe feeling of stuck often stems from self-sabotaging behaviorsâactions and mindsets that keep us trapped in cycles of negativity and stagnation. It's not unusual for these behaviors to go unnoticed until we take a step back to evaluate ourselves critically.
There are 17 Common Self-Sabotaging Behaviors:Constant Complaining:
Chronic negativity drains emotional energy and perpetuates a victim mentality.
Giving Up Easily:
A lack of resilience means prioritizing short-term comfort over long-term goals.
Ignoring Feedback:
Dismissing external perspectives prevents valuable improvements.
Excuse Making:
Focusing on reasons not to act rather than addressing fears or insecurities.
Overanalyzing:
Paralysis by analysis leads to missed opportunities due to fear of decision-making.
Procrastination:
Delaying important tasks results in emotional exhaustion and halted progress.
Overcommitment:
Spreading oneself too thin without boundaries causes burnout.
Negative Self-Talk:
Destructive thoughts drain motivation and foster harmful patterns.
Poor Time Management
Filling days with low-value tasks; perpetuating a cycle of feeling overwhelmed.
Short-Term Thinking
Focusing on immediate gratification rather than long-term planning.
Unclear Goals
Lack of direction leads to scattered efforts and minimal progress.
Neglecting Self-Care
Ignoring physical and mental health; misinterpreting burnout as dedication.
Lack Of Self-Reflection
Refusing to see yourself, your emotions, or your actions
Blaming Others
Refusing responsiblity and putting blame on outside environments, people, and actions
Avoiding Problems
Hiding or not addressing the issues in hopes it goes away.
Fear Of Risk
Being risk adverse.
Perfectionism
Holding yourself in place so you do not have to worry about things not meeting an unrealistic standard.
Overcoming These BehaviorsTo break free from these self-imposed chains, itâs crucial first to recognize them through honest self-reflection:
Start journaling your thoughts dailyâthis helps clear your mind and understand your current position better.
Seek therapy if neededâa professional can offer guidance tailored specifically for you.
Consider further education or career changes if you're unfulfilled professionally.
Evaluate your relationships honestlyâdecide whether they contribute positively or negatively to your life journey.
Practical Applications:Here are some actionable steps:
Start Journaling: Writing down thoughts helps clarify emotions & identify recurring negative patterns.
Seek Therapy: Professional help offers personalized guidance & strategies suited uniquely towards individual needs.
Pursue Education/Career Changes If Needed : Donât hesitate making necessary shifts ensuring alignment between personal aspirations/professional endeavors
Evaluate Relationships Honestly Make informed decisions about continuing/ending connections impacting overall well-being either positively/negatively
Rememberâthe goal isn't perfection but consistent improvement! By taking small yet deliberate actions every day aimed at overcoming these detrimental habits/mindsetsâyou'll gradually notice significant positive changes within yourself/life circumstances!
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In the latest episode of the "Get Your Life Together Girl" podcast, we are diving into an invaluable tool I call the Growth Factor. The episode is packed with insights on how to manage those pesky moments that can derail your day and offers practical advice for maintaining inner peace.
Understanding A Common ProblemsWeâve all been thereâthose small aggravations like a rude cashier or traffic jam that somehow ruin our entire day. Itâs not the isolated incidents themselves, but rather our reaction to them that holds significant power over our mood and overall well-being.
The Rule of 6 Explanation:Imagine having a bad interaction at the grocery store which leaves you irritated. That irritation could then affect your interactions throughout the rest of your dayâpotentially impacting six other people negatively as well as yourself multiple times over.
This ripple effect illustrates why it's crucial to control initial negative reactions before they snowball into larger issues affecting others around us.
Rule Of Six Explained:1. A small event triggers an emotional response.
2. This response influences subsequent actions and reactions.
3. These reactions create a ripple effect impacting multiple people (up to six in this example).
This understanding shows us how a singular unfavorable encounter can potentially multiply into half-dozen sequentially impacted parties due to how things spread when we do not address them. The way to stop these triggered downslides of events is to look at the Growth Factor.
THE GROWTH FACTOR:The âGrowth Factorâ is looking for potential outcomes. If I lean into this emotion, this moment, what could possibly happen? When we evaulate, we look to the statement: âThe energy that breaks you has the power to repair you." Your brain craves resolution; they need complete stories with clear endingsâeven if they're fabricated based on perceptions rather than facts! By consciously choosing calm responses instead of letting emotions run wild, we provide ourselves much-needed mental closure without unnecessary drama.
The question is how do we get there?
Practicing Mindfulness and Emotional RegulationMindfulness is the key to moderating emotional responses effectively. By staying present and understanding that most people's actions aren't personally targeted at us, we can better regulate emotions and prevent unnecessary stress from dominating our lives.
Detailed Breakdown: The Growth Test QuestionsTo apply this method practically, we turn to four critical questions under Growth Test framework:
What is this moment worth?
Evaluate if letting negative emotions grow will have any substantial benefit.
Is this how I want to feel?
Reflect on whether your current emotion aligns with how you wish to feel.
What is within my control?
Distinguish between aspects you can control (your response) versus those you cannot (external circumstances).
What am I hoping to get out of this?
Focus on desired outcomes instead of being swept away by immediate frustrations.
These questions guide us towards more thoughtful responses rather than knee-jerk reactions driven by fleeting irritations.
Enhancing Emotional Intelligence Through PracticeA growth mindset balances logic with emotionâa skill essential for developing high emotional intelligence (EQ). By practicing presence and mindfulness regularly using tools like the Growth Factor test, we gain greater command over both ourselves and situations around us without relinquishing control unnecessarily due to heightened emotions.
When faced with heightened emotions:
1. **Pause** - Be mindful.
2. **Check-in** - Understand what you're feeling.
3. **Evaluate** - Is this emotion worth it?
Conclusion & Call To ActionMinor inconveniences should never dominate oneâs mental state; perspective matters greatly! Using this tool allows you to better handle your feelings, which leads to improved mental health overall!
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In today's fast-paced world, many of us find ourselves grappling with feelings of discontent, anxiety, or general unhappiness. But have you ever paused to consider that these emotions might be stemming from unmet needs in various aspects of your life? Today, we are deep diving into what unmet needs are, how they impact you, and the way you can course correct to help yourself feel connected to yourself, something bigger than you, and the relationships you deem most important.
Understanding NeedsOur needs range from basic physical necessities like food and water to more complex emotional and spiritual requirements such as love, self-esteem, and inner peace. When these needs go unmet, they manifest as negative emotionsâsadness, anxietyâand coping mechanisms that often do more harm than good.
The Five Master Areas of LifeCategorizing our essential needs into five master areas:
Mental: Cognitive well-being.
Emotional: Love, affection.
Physical: Basic survival (food, water).
Spiritual: Inner freedom.
Financial: Economic stability.
Understanding these categories helps us pinpoint where we may be lacking fulfillment.
Signs of Unmet Needs Physical Needs:Fatigue
Frequent illnesses
Stress
Brain fog
Safety Needs:Constant anxiety
Trust issues
Paranoia
Emotional Needs:Loneliness
Emotional exhaustion
Difficulty expressing emotions
Esteem Needs:Insecurity
Self-doubt
Fear of failure
Spiritual Needs:Feeling adrift
Lack of purpose
Recognizing these signs is the first step towards addressing them effectively.
Coping vs Safety MechanismsSafety mechanisms are preventive actions we take based on past experiences (e.g., avoiding alone time with strangers after trauma), while coping mechanisms are reactive behaviors like overeating or substance abuse when faced with stressors. Both can become maladaptive if not properly managed.
Steps to Identify & Address Unmet NeedsReflection: Examine areas causing frustration.
Listen to Emotions: Understand what your feelings indicate about unmet needs.
Seek External Insights: Consult friends or professionals for new perspectives.
Try New Experiences: Engage in activities outside your comfort zone.
Take Small Steps: Gradually address each need without overwhelming yourself.
We must emphasize the need for patience throughout this journey; understanding one's unmet needs is a complex process requiring gradual implementation rather than drastic changes overnight.
Imposter Syndrome Episode may be helpful to understand this process and how it may be showing up.
In conclusion:
Addressing your unmet personal needs isn't just about achieving short-term happiness but fostering long-term well-being through proactive steps:
1 . Practice self-care regularly . 2 . Set realistic goals . 3 . Express emotions freely . 4 . Build supportive relationships .
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Negativity from another person is bad enough, but when it comes from inside your head, itâs tough to hear! Your inner conversation, the monologues that run through your mind and generally right out of your mouth, can cause heartache and a spiral of negativity.
Today, you and I are taking a one-on-one deep dive into why how you speak to yourself matters, the toxic impact of negative self-talk, and then, we will talk about how to change the negatives into neutrals, then positives once and for all.
Letâs get right to it.
Key Takeaways:
00:00 Intro
02:03 If we are constantly criticizing ourselves, we create a negative mindset
03:07 What negative self-talk is
04:06 The levels of negative inner conversation & simple negatives
06:41 The impacts of negative self-talk
10:10 How the âbouncerâ of the brain takes your negative instruction and uses it
11:29 Name your inner critic
13:29 Your brain has a negativity bias, which defaults our thinking
14:35 Moving your thoughts from negative to neutral
16:45 Step 1 in changing your negative thought pattern/conversation
18:20 Step 2
19:14 Step 3
21:23 Step 4
24:14 Step 5
25:32 Step 6
28:41 Say it out loud!
30:03 Visualization exercise to stop the thoughts
31:48 Next-level tools to step up your mindset game
34:09 What you gain when you think and conversate with yourself in a healthy way
35:34 How you talk to yourself is the instructional manual to your life
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In the latest episode of the Get Your Life Together, Girl podcast, we are kicking your excuses out of your mindset as we delves into the pervasive nature of excuses and their detrimental impact on your life. Excuses are an all-too-common human behavior that significantly hampers progress and personal growth and the excuses you make need to be addressed head-on to help you shift your mindset for a better outcome in every experience you come across.
This insightful conversation dissect why you make excuses, how they affect you, and offer actionable strategies to overcome this negative behavior.
Defining the Problem Questions That MatterWhy do you act against your best interest despite knowing that making excuses is harmful?
Core Drivers of ExcusesThree primary drivers behind excuse-making:
Fear: Fear of failure or rejection keeps many from stepping out of their comfort zones.
Indecision: Uncertainty can paralyze decision-making processes.
Lack of Responsibility: Failing to take responsibility encourages a cycle where making excuses becomes habitual.
ConsequencesWhile making an excuse might offer short-term relief, it ultimately prevents long-term growth and success. The consequences include:
Procrastination leading to missed opportunities.
Poor mental and physical health due to stress.
Strained relationships resulting from unmet commitments.
How to Overcome ExcusesActionable strategies:
Take Responsibility
Accept accountability for your actions.
Reflect on questions like "What am I avoiding?" or "How does this excuse serve me?"
Develop Self-Control
Practice self-discipline through small daily habits aligned with your goals.
Combat Procrastination
Identify deeper issues causing procrastination such as fear or lack of motivation.
Track Behavior
Monitor actions regularly using journals or apps designed for habit tracking.
Alter Perspective
View challenges as opportunities rather than obstacles blocking your path forward.
Exercise Boundaries Define what is enough; address feelings related to inadequacy directly instead allowing them fester unchecked over time."
âOvercome Middle Problemsâ Stay committed even when initial excitement fades away during middle phases projects/goals.â
âAct Unconditionallyâ Take action without expecting perfect outcomes valuing effort itself more than results achieved.â
Emphasis On Lifelong GrowthThe focus remains steadfastly upon continuous personal development regardless end outcome expected. Acting unconditionally allows individuals grow beyond limits previously imposed themselves thereby achieving greater sense fulfillment overall .
ConclusionExcuses may seem harmless but are toxic towards realizing oneâs full potential.
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In this transformative session, we are drowning out the outside noise, rejecting negative thoughts and behaviors, and embracing opportunities with realistic optimism. How? By betting on yourself, especially when it scares you the most! Betting on yourself often seems daunting; we fear failure and prefer comfort over risk. But taking that bet is crucial for success.
Letâs break it down.
Key Points Discussed:Assuming Negative Thoughts are Wrong and how to challenge them.
Open doors to new possibilities by questioning initial assumptions about yourself and situations.
Worthiness & Personal Responsibility:
Emphasize self-worth.
Coming to terms with the fact that only you can bet on yourself; others may not always have your best interests at heart.
Embracing Failure & Risk:
Recognize failure as part of the journey.
Learn from setbacks instead of fearing them.
Taking Calculated Risks:
Shift mindset towards potential gains rather than focusing solely on risks or losses.
Raising Standards:
Increase personal value through positive habits and decisive actions in pursuit of success.
Opportunity Mindset vs Scarcity Mindset:
Cultivate an outlook that sees potential growth in every situation rather than limitations.
Truth & Personal Responsibility:
Own up to one's role in their circumstances. â Stop blaming external factors for personal dissatisfaction or lack of progress.
Examples of Betting On Oneself:
â Continuous learning â Career changes or starting businesses
â Committing to personal development â Prioritizing physical health
â Investing financially for future independence
â Strengthening emotional intelligenceIn all of it, I share my personal experiences with limiting beliefs instilled during childhood and how she overcame them by choosing to bet on herself above average expectations set by others. In the end, you are offered a powerful tool to empower yourself into placing the bet. But, grab a piece of paper! Youâre going to want to write this down.
In conclusion, do not just dream big, put those dreams into action regardless of fear or uncertainty. Those that bet on themselves lead richer, more fulfilling lives.
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Today we're exploring hidden opportunities â those gems within challenges that successful people leverage for growth in all areas of their lives: mental, emotional, physical, spiritual, and financial. We'll uncover how being specific about goals and seizing moments can propel you towards success.
You see, success is not a stroke of luck; itâs an art and science that can be mastered with the right mindset and approach. In this enlightening episode, we are breaking down the anatomy of success into digestible pieces so that you can apply a new approach for any transformational change.
The Blueprint of Intentional SuccessImagine success as a complex structureâevery beam or brick represents an attribute or habit cultivated by those who consistently achieve their goals. Unlike what many believe, successful people don't just stumble upon good fortuneâthey build it with intentionality and precision. This is the path:
Specific Goals Lead to Specific ResultsSetting vague aspirations is like trying to hit a target blindfolded. Successful individuals know this all too well; they set clear-cut objectives because clarity breeds motivation. When you define your destination in specific terms, every step you take has purpose and direction.
Seize Each Day Like It's âThe Oneâ that changes everything!Opportunity doesnât wait around for anyoneâand neither do those on the path to greatness. They seize moments big or small because each one holds potential for progressâeven if it means stepping out of comfort zones.
Keeping Score: Tracking ProgressWithout knowing where you stand in relation to your goals, how can you strategize effectively? Regularly checking in on progress isn't obsessiveâit's strategic. It ensures you're always steering your ship towards uncharted waters instead of circling familiar islands.
Realistic Optimism: Hope Grounded in RealityBlind optimism leaves one vulnerable; realistic optimism equips them for battle. By expecting positive outcomes while accounting for potential hurdles, successful folks maintain productive mindsets even when skies are gray.
Grit Over Glamour Every TimeItâs easy to overlook gritty perseverance when celebrating someoneâs achievementsâbut grit often makes all the difference between fleeting interest and lifelong passion-fueled pursuit through thick and thin.
Hidden Opportunities: Turning Setbacks into ComebacksLife will inevitably throw curveballs at usâin these moments lie hidden opportunities waiting to be unearthed by those willing enough to dig deep. Failures arenât dead ends but detours leading potentially toward more scenic routesâif we choose resilience over resignation.
A Daily Practice That Fuels GrowthFour introspective questions as part of our daily ritual:
What do I want?
What do I need?
How do I want to feel?
How am I going to get there?
By answering these regularly, we align our actions with our deepest desiresâcrafting a life script where we're both playwrights and lead actors.
Conclusion: Crafting Your MasterpieceIn essence, success is akin to crafting a masterpieceâit requires foresight, discipline, creativity within constraintsâand above all elseâthe willingness to find beauty amidst imperfections by seizing hidden opportunities everywhere.
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Have you heard the term âInner Child Healing?â Itâs a popular topic on social media, but do you understand what it is and the impact it has on a healing journey? In todayâs episode, I walk you through the common misconceptions and provide you with practical tools to help explore your inner child wounds.
Key Points Discussed:The Impact of Childhood Trauma: How unresolved trauma from childhood can resurface in adulthood affecting our behaviors and relationships.
Four Core Wounds:
Abandonment
Guilt/Shame
Trust Issues
Neglect
Unaddressed childhood trauma resurfaces in adulthood but recognizing these patterns allows us to heal past neglect or emotional pain. From ages 0-9 we learn safety; when this is disrupted without adult support, shame lingers long-term.
Carl Jung introduced "inner child" as part of our psyche linked to younger years affecting adult perceptionsâespecially after trauma which alters our sense of security.
Abandonment makes us repeat cycles of rejection; guilt leads to boundary issues; trust deficits create validation needs; neglect causes dissociation from self-needsâall impacting relationships deeply.
Inner child healing involves confronting our deepest woundsâthose feelings of being unsupported, unseen, or unheard. By acknowledging and working through these traumas transparently with ourselves, we open the door to change and happiness. Imagine accepting every part of yourself, including those neglected pieces craving love. This self-acceptance is powerful; it leads to a fulfilling life.
Healing Strategies:
Writing letters to your younger self
Acknowledging past hurts
Listening to what feelings emerge when thinking about childhood
Identifying emotional triggers
Tools for Supporting Inner Child Work:
Hugging oneself as a form of physical comfort
Butterfly hug technique for those uncomfortable with touch due to trauma
Mirror work with affirmations
Practicing self compassion through journaling or meditation
Notable moments:"When we begin to acknowledge our hurtsâŠwe open the door to connect with ourselves."
"Every time we get to a new place [in healing], itâs likely that you open something else."
"âŠinner child healing is about identifying the core wounds where we didn't feel supported, seen or heardâŠ"
Remember, it's never too late to begin healing. You can learn to express emotions healthily and cultivate self-love and worthâit's all within reach. Choose what you want over trauma.CLICK HERE: I'm excited to welcome you to my new course and school! The Blueprint to Growth! Youâll find two NEW COURSES, DIGITIAL DOWNLOADS, SESSIONS, AND SO MUCH MORE!
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