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  • Be aware if you are deciding on how to confront your abuser, your emotions will be running at an all time high, and therefore deciding on something of this importance may not serve you - Yet!
    It will in time, but maybe just not today. Because this is of such huge significance, please allow yourself further clarity of thought as the last thing you need is to regret your decision later.
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    #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
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    #letssavesomekids

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  • Meet Kel Humphries
    Survivor. Advocate. Speaker. Researcher.
    She was abused by her Uncle between ages 7 - 8, and recognises the grooming for what it was. He knew exactly what he was doing, her parents had no idea.
    For more on her reach out to her at kellyhumphries.com
    HELP
    NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, [email protected].
    Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
    USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
    UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
    AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
    OTHER
    To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
    #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
    #survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

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  • Losing your voice
    As children being abused we couldn't speak, because our brain froze.
    This is a trauma response, and just so you know: when your brain is flooded with cortizal there is no way you can speak, as this is a chemical reaction which cannot be controlled.
    Go to our website for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
    #handingtheshameback
    #handsign4kids
    #letssavesomekids

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  • Gloria returns to Shaun’s platform to discuss the impact of CSA on survivors in light of the current media storm around P Diddy. She shares her story and offers insight and ideas into how to combat this to protect our children. For more on her go to handingtheshameback.org and gloriamasters.com All links to her books can be found there in all versions as well as on amazon.
    https://gloriamasters.com/shop/
    https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
    https://gloriamasters.com/
    #gloriamastersauthor
    #letssavesomekids
    #handsign4kids
    #handingtheshameback

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  • Meet Kel Humphries
    Survivor. Advocate. Speaker. Researcher.
    She was abused by her Uncle between ages 7 -8, and now realises her parents were the ones being groomed. At age 12 her mother asked her directly if she had been abused, but she couldn't speak. For more on her reach out to her at kellyhumphries.com
    HELP
    NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, [email protected].
    Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
    USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
    UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
    AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
    OTHER
    To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
    #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
    #survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

    To learn more reach out to
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  • Negative self talk
    It is more common than not for your survivor to put themselves down and talk about themselves negatively. This is part of, or a consequence of the abuse suffered as children. Listen for ways to contradict their self talk. Sometimes simply challenging something can change it.
    Go to our website for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
    #handingtheshameback
    #handsign4kids
    #letssavesomekids
    Full clip here https://youtu.be/h4lhCTH22nM?si=Nl8g-FGovgqD7_Qs

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  • Uipo Tagaloasa Part 2
    Was born and raised in Samoa without his father, who had passed away before he was born.
    He has 11 siblings, and was raised by grandparents.
    He was abused from the age of 9 by a really close family friend.
    As he was working through his trauma, he considered shooting his abuser and then realised it would really only punish him and his family unnecessarily.
    To contact him, please use the links below to his Break The Cycle from Past Trauma FB and Instagram pages. https://www.facebook.com/UipoTagaloasa?mibextid=ZbWKwL or on Instagram
    https://www.instagram.com/breakthecycle_from_past_trauma?igsh=MWl5cHNmc25rMm5oeA==
    Or find him at Tautoko Tāne Aotearoa. HELP
    NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, [email protected].
    Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
    USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
    UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
    AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
    OTHER
    To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
    #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
    #survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

    To learn more reach out to
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  • Needing love
    As children being abused we were looking for some love from those tasked with caring for us.
    We were children, with needs not being met, and yet through the abuser manipulating us and providing comfort , we may have felt we were complicit somehow.
    They were in charge, we weren't.
    Love that little child inside.

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  • Uipo Tagaloasa
    Was born and raised in Samoa without his father, who had passed away before he was born.
    He has 11 siblings, and was raised by grandparents.
    He was abused from the age of 9 by a really close family friend, who was helping his family out with things. He also played rugby with him. To contact him, please use the links below to his Break The Cycle from Past Trauma FB and Instagram pages. https://www.facebook.com/UipoTagaloasa?mibextid=ZbWKwL or on Instagram
    https://www.instagram.com/breakthecycle_from_past_trauma?igsh=MWl5cHNmc25rMm5oeA==
    Or find him at Tautoko Tāne Aotearoa.
    HELP
    NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, [email protected].
    Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
    USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
    UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
    AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
    OTHER
    To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
    #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
    #survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

    To learn more reach out to
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  • Sometimes it can all feel a bit much when trying to work your way through the trauma the abuse created. Sometimes it feels easier to just give up working on this, and just pretend you are okay with how it is.
    Please don't do that. Never give up, the rewards you receive are insurmountable.

    Go to our website (see below) for more information on our foundation
    Donate please, this helps us keep going. handingtheshameback.org/donate
    ADDITIONAL RESOURCE
    If you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
    #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
    #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids
    #letssavesomekids

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  • Meet Janet Jacobsen
    Grandmother, wife, mother, football lover and survivor.
    Janet's story continues.
    You can reach out to her on Facebook as Janet Jacobsen and on Instagram as https://www.instagram.com/gdadnansjj/
    HELP
    NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, [email protected].
    Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
    USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
    UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
    AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
    OTHER
    To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
    #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
    #survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

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  • Even though you may feel that you should take other's advice on what action you should take regarding the abuse you suffered: like (for example), forgive your abuser, or just move on with your life: The reality is you must do what resonates with you, in other words:
    You do You.

    Go to our website for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
    #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

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  • Meet Janet Jacobsen
    Grandmother, wife, mother, football lover and survivor.
    Janet was abused by a doctor while her father was dying. she also had a local shopkeeper do the same. Her call to action was on hearing of the death of the doctor. Don't miss this survivors incredible story of courage and overcoming.
    You can reach out to her on Facebook as Janet Jacobsen and on Instagram as https://www.instagram.com/gdadnansjj/
    HELP
    NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, [email protected].
    Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
    USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
    UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
    AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
    OTHER
    To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
    #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
    #survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

    To learn more reach out to
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  • Resolution Options
    Because we are all different, so are our views on how to get resolution regarding our abuse.
    For some of us it may be finding forgiveness, for others it may be confronting the abuser. Whatever you need to do to find peace is the key. Trust how you feel and go from there.

    Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
    #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

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  • Gloria talks about her life story.
    What she experienced and what led her to do the work she does on Handing the Shame Back.HELP
    NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, [email protected].
    Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
    USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
    UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
    AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
    OTHER
    To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
    #letssavesomekids #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids #believesurvivors

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  • Never Give Up

    Even tho it can feel tough at times, please keep going on your individual survivor path. That could be making sense of what happened to you, or convincing people how hard it is some days etc. You so deserve to get what you need: The simple message being, Never Give up.

    Go to our website for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/

    #letssavesomekidss

    #handingtheshameback

    #handsign4kids

    https://youtu.be/oCf-JGp1PTc?si=vPQN0i2coixtMgQu

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  • Meet Three incredible survivors of Abuse in Care.
    Malcolm Justice. Phill Ashworth and Neil Harding.
    Their stories will move you.
    For more on this please watch the entire video.
    HELP
    NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, [email protected].
    Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
    USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
    UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
    AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
    OTHER
    To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
    #letssavesomekids #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids #believesurvivors

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  • Every wonder why you struggle with certain areas in your life?
    This could be anything: Confidence, speaking up, relationships, even food.
    I liken it to a puzzle with missing pieces, because underlying those struggles will be a connection between them and your childhood abuse.
    Have a listen, you may just solve your own puzzle.

    Go to our website (see below) for more information on our foundation
    Donate please, this helps us keep going. handingtheshameback.org/donate
    ADDITIONAL RESOURCE
    If you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
    #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
    #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids
    #letssavesomekids

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  • Meet Heidi Olson
    Forensic nurse. Business owner. Coffee lover and outdoor enthusiast.
    She was first abused at 2 years of age, and experienced several instances over the years with different abusers. She looks at the link between early child abuse and the risky behaviour she engaged in as a young adult, when she felt broken, and in self destruct mode. You can reach out to Heidi at www.paradigmshifttc.com
    HELP
    NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, [email protected].
    Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
    USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
    UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
    AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
    OTHER
    To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
    #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
    #survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

    To learn more reach out to
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  • Purity
    If you are a survivor who emerged from a strict religious sect or background, you are not alone.
    The conditioning around purity, virginity and innocence was intense. The message was clear, purity was everything, anything else was dirty, sinful and evil. As a survivor of abuse, please know your heart and soul was pure, has been pure and is still pure. You were innocent. The rest is just noise.

    Go to our website for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
    #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids
    Go to our website for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
    #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

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