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    In this solo episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky delves into the importance of prioritizing personal well-being and setting boundaries. This episode focuses on recognizing and protecting oneself from emotional manipulation, a crucial yet often overlooked aspect of emotional intelligence.

    She shares personal experiences, including her divorce and challenging friendships, to illustrate the impact of emotional manipulation and the necessity of self-care. Listeners are guided through practical strategies for setting boundaries, trusting intuition, and practicing self-care. She inspires listeners to put themselves first and create fulfilling relationships, starting with the one they have with themselves.

    What We Explored This Episode

    2:02 Emotional Manipulation

    4:34 Personal Experiences

    6:36 Family Dynamics

    8:07 Protecting Your Energy

    10:10 Self-Reflection

    12:12 Transformative Lessons

    14:14 Empowerment and Choice

    Memorable Quotes"Trusting yourself and speaking up is essential to avoid abandoning yourself and ending up in a resentful situation later on.""Choosing to protect your energy and set boundaries isn't just about saying no to others; it's about creating authentic connections that honor and respect your boundaries.""When you prioritize your emotional well-being, you're not only taking care of yourself but also setting an example for others on how you want to be treated."Connect With Amie

    Website: https://amiebarsky.com/

    LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amie-barsky/

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amiebarskycoaching/

    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AmieBarsky?sub_confirmation=1

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    In this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, our host, Amie Barsky welcomes self-love coach Sherris Runcie to explore the transformative power of self-care and inner guidance. Sherris shares her journey from a conservative upbringing to embracing her intuitive gifts, catalyzed by a life-altering cancer diagnosis.

    Together, they discuss the importance of nurturing the central nervous system, aligning with one's inner wisdom, and the role of ancestral teachings in modern self-love practices. Sherris offers practical advice for women seeking to reconnect with their authentic selves amidst societal pressures. Tune in for insights on balancing ancient wisdom with contemporary neuroscience to foster personal growth and empowerment.

    What We Explored This Episode

    03:52: Reconnecting with inner wisdom and authentic self

    05:32: Self-care as a necessity, not a luxury

    07:00: Ancestral teachings and their impact on modern life

    12:32: Connection between trauma and disease

    13:19: Combining ancestral teachings with modern neuroscience

    16:08: Understanding generational trauma and ancestral teachings

    23:18: Listening to the body's signals and making aligned decisions

    24:39: Role of the central nervous system in intuition

    28:08: Overcoming excuses and connecting with nature indoors

    Memorable Quotes"Our greatest superpower is knowing who we are, remembering who we came here to be, and not being defined or labeled by anything else other than our personal connection to spirit.""When your mind is right, when you feel so at peace, your energy connects with the state of flow and abundance, and supernatural things happen."“You have to get rid of the programming that tells you to do everything by yourself. True success comes from alignment within, and you are worthy of being supported and having rest."Connect with Sherris

    Sherris’ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/joyfulpoet/?hl=en  

    Sherris’ Website - https://joyfulpoetalchemy.com/ 

    Book A Session With Sherris - https://joyfulpoetalchemy.com/services/

    Connect With Amie

    Website: https://amiebarsky.com/

    LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amie-barsky/

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amiebarskycoaching/

    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AmieBarsky?sub_confirmation=1

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    In this solo episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky tackles the pervasive issue of burnout, particularly among women, and its detrimental effects on various aspects of life.She emphasizes the need to redefine success, moving away from the hustle culture to a more fulfilling and balanced life. 

    Through personal anecdotes and expert insights, she explores how burnout impacts relationships, mental and physical health, and emotional well-being offering practical tools and advice to help listeners break free from societal pressures and embrace self-care. This episode serves as a supportive guide for those feeling overwhelmed, encouraging them to prioritize their well-being and rediscover joy.

    What We Explored This Episode

    05:05 The Impact of Burnout on Relationships

    06:06 Burnout's Effect on Intimacy and Vulnerability

    08:08 The Minefield of Mental Health

    09:09 The Overwhelming Reality of Burnout

    12:43 The Vicious Cycle of Burnout and Sleep

    14:15 Emotional Toll of Burnout

    16:16 The Myth of Adulting and Joy

    17:17 The Crisis of Burnout and Impossible Standards

    18:18 Redefining Success and Setting Boundaries

    19:20 Visualization of Energy as a Fountain

    Memorable Quotes"Burnout is not a badge of honor to wear with pride. It's a flashing warning signal to say that something in your life is fundamentally out of balance.""Success is not measured by how many hours you put in at work or the number of plates you're juggling. Success is the feeling of fulfillment in life, having energy for the people you love and the passions that fill up your own cup."“Your most important job in the entire world is to keep your fountain flowing. Remember, you're not a human doing; you're a human being, deserving of rest and rejuvenation."Connect With Amie

    Website: https://amiebarsky.com/

    LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amie-barsky/

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amiebarskycoaching/

    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AmieBarsky?sub_confirmation=1

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    In this solo episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky explores the highs and lows of her experience as an NFL cheerleader for the Philadelphia Eagles. She candidly shares the excitement of performing in front of thousands and the personal growth she achieved, alongside the challenges of underpayment and intense body image pressures. 

    She reflects on the sisterhood formed with fellow cheerleaders and the valuable life lessons learned. Beyond this, she highlights the need for change in the industry, advocating for women to recognize their worth beyond appearances. Tune in for an inspiring journey of empowerment and self-discovery.

    What We Explored This Episode

    1:31 The Realities of Being an NFL Cheerleader

    3:34 Intense Audition Process for NFL Cheerleaders

    7:07 Sisterhood Through Cheerleading

    8:39 The Pressure of Body Image in NFL Cheerleading

    12:13 Empowering Women Beyond Appearance

    Memorable Quotes"Understand both the glitter and the grit, but most importantly, know your worth. Stand up for yourself, and never, ever, ever let someone dim your light.""Your self-worth comes from within, not from what others think of you.""You are more than capable of creating the life that you dream of."Connect With Amie

    Website: https://amiebarsky.com/

    LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amie-barsky/

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amiebarskycoaching/

    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AmieBarsky?sub_confirmation=1

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    In this solo episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky delves into the transformative power of self-care and personal growth. Through candid storytelling, Amy shares her journey of overcoming limiting beliefs that stemmed from childhood experiences. She offers insights into how these beliefs can hinder personal and professional success, and emphasizes the importance of expanding one's capacity.

    With a focus on healing and empowerment, Amy provides practical tools and advice to help listeners break free from societal pressures and self-doubt. This episode encourages embracing one's true potential and living a vibrant, fulfilling life.

    What We Explored This Episode

    03:11 Overcoming Societal Standards

    05:06 Overcoming Educational Challenges in a Small Town School

    06:38 Childhood Struggles with Special Classes

    12:12 Continuous Personal Growth

    15:16 Recognizing Emotional Blocks

    18:33 Expanding Capacity for a Bigger Life

    Memorable Quotes"The deeper the roots are, the taller your tree grows and the bigger the life you can actually hold. If we want a bigger life, we have to expand our capacity—mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually, and energetically.""Limiting beliefs are negative thoughts and assumptions about yourself, the world, and other people. They act as defense mechanisms to protect you from failure and disappointment, but they can prevent you from achieving your dreams.""Healing starts with owning your stories. You cannot heal from something you have not owned. It's about taking ownership and acceptance, saying, 'Yes, this happened,' and moving forward."Connect With Amie

    Website: https://amiebarsky.com/

    LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amie-barsky/

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amiebarskycoaching/

    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AmieBarsky?sub_confirmation=1

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    In the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky delves into the transformative journey of self-love and healing. She shares her personal experiences of overcoming emotional barriers and societal pressures, emphasizing the importance of self-care and authenticity. Through candid storytelling, Amie explores how past traumas and learned behaviors can create emotional armor, hindering genuine connections.

    She discusses her path to dismantling this armor, fostering self-acceptance, and building trust within herself. This episode offers practical insights and tools for listeners seeking to reclaim their power and cultivate meaningful relationships.

    What We Explored This Episode

    3:09 Healing Relationships with Masculine Energy

    5:05 The Impact of Words and Emotional Armor

    6:37 Healing and Compassion at a Co-Ed Retreat

    8:09 The Power of Giving and Receiving

    9:41 Embracing Vulnerability in Relationships

    11:13 Embracing Vulnerability as a Superpower

    13:16 The Feminine Movement in 2024

    Memorable Quotes"Love is not a battlefield. It's a garden. To tend to our garden is so important and to remind ourselves that our past does not define us at all.""I thought wearing the armor of independence made me strong, but the truth is, by shedding it, I became whole.""Being open is a superpower. Being vulnerable is a superpower. And being empowered and powerful and soft all at once is a beautiful superpower."Connect With Amie

    Website: https://amiebarsky.com/

    LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amie-barsky/

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amiebarskycoaching/

    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AmieBarsky?sub_confirmation=1

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    In this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, our host, Amie Barsky, has a transformative conversation with women's confidence coach, Bek Antonucci, surrounding topics of body image, self-love, and radical self-expression. Bek shares her journey of overcoming societal pressures and personal challenges, including a transformative experience with a stigmatized health condition, and embracing self-acceptance and empowerment. 

    The conversation dissects the impact of childhood experiences on body perception, the importance of self-awareness, and the power of vulnerability. Together, they explore how women can reclaim their narratives and find confidence through self-expression and personal growth. This episode offers practical tools and inspiring stories so that you can challenge limiting beliefs and embrace your unique selves.

    What We Explored This Episode

    03:11 Breaking Free from Limiting Beliefs

    07:35 Reclaiming Feminine Identity

    09:46 Navigating Aging with Grace and Acceptance

    17:59 The Journey to Body Confidence and Self-Worth

    19:42 Journey to Self-Acceptance and Vulnerability

    24:23 Personal Journey of Self-Discovery

    25:45 The Long Game of True Health

    28:08 Future of Body Positivity and Self-Expression

    Memorable Quotes"I know that when I'm slimmer, women will compliment me. I know that when I have a little bit more juice on me, men will love it more. But the misconception is that we're doing it for someone else.""The more I did this work, the less I reached for food to band-aid any kind of emotion. It's about finding healthier ways to cope with emotions and understanding the role food plays in our lives.""As women, some of us are so habitual in checking in the mirror, making sure that we look okay, ensuring the fitness routine is on, eating a certain way, and checking for changes or fluctuations. Get curious about where this drive and the need for it came from"Connect with Bek

    Bek’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bekantonucci/?hl=en 

    Bek’s YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@bekantonucci 

    Bek’s Spoify - https://open.spotify.com/show/2EteUkpcHX7jcCV1f5wGWh?si=vt_dhgEaRUCErxuKic86vw

    Connect With Amie

    Website: https://amiebarsky.com/

    LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amie-barsky/

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amiebarskycoaching/

    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AmieBarsky?sub_confirmation=1

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    In this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky welcomes relationship coach Kelly Gardener to discuss the complexities of self-care, relationships, and the fine line between healthy selfishness and narcissism. Kelly shares insights on how self-trust and confidence can lead to deeper connections and healthier relationships. 

    Together, they explore the impact of societal pressures on women, the importance of setting and holding boundaries, and how to cultivate sensuality and self-worth independent of external validation. This episode is a thought-provoking dive into modern relationships, offering practical advice and inspiring stories to help listeners prioritize their own needs and foster meaningful connections.

    What We Explored This Episode

    03:57 Healthy Selfishness in Relationships

    07:46 Socialization of Boys and Girls

    09:37 The Paradox of Selfishness in Love

    13:56 The Importance of Boundaries in Relationships

    16:37 The Connection Between Self-Trust and Confidence

    20:01 Cultivating Sensuality and Self-Worth

    22:00 Societal Standards and Body Changes

    26:26 Defining Confidence

    Memorable Quotes"The ugliest parts of me come out only with the people I trust the most. It's a paradox that the deepest, ugliest parts of my being surface because I trust you enough to see them. This reality, though unfortunate, is an opportunity for growth—for me and for us together.""Boundaries are not walls; they are permeable membranes that allow for connection. A good boundary doesn't require the other person's participation; it's about what you will do if your needs aren't met.""Healthy selfishness in a relationship means looking at how the issues that arise are reflections of your own experiences and triggers. It's about taking responsibility and getting curious about your own patterns."Connect with Kelly

    Kelly’s Website: https://www.kellygardner.com/about-me 

    Kelly’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/iamkellygardner 

    Schedule A Call With Kelly - https://communitygardnerllc.hbportal.co/schedule/6506a876455fe4002512df98

    Connect With Amie

    Website: https://amiebarsky.com/

    LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amie-barsky/

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amiebarskycoaching/

    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AmieBarsky?sub_confirmation=1

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    In this solo episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky delves into the transformative practice of Internal Family Systems (IFS), also known as parts work. Amie shares her personal journey and beliefs on how understanding and harmonizing the different parts of oneself can lead to greater self-awareness, acceptance, and compassion.

    Through practical tools, inspiring stories, and expert advice, she expresses how to achieve  freedom from limiting beliefs and societal pressures. This episode offers a deep dive into how IFS can help you make conscious decisions, improve relationships, and lead a more vibrant, fulfilling life.

    What We Explored This Episode

    01:52 Core Themes: Internal Family Systems (IFS)

    02:32 Family Influence On Personal Development

    04:07 Unveiling Unconscious Blocks

    05:38 Understanding Your True Core Self

    06:36 The Common Parts of You

    10:15 Deep Compassion for One's Parts

    Memorable Quotes"When you have a loving relationship with your parts, they do their jobs when it's appropriate, and then they step back when they're not needed. This balance allows you to make decisions from a conscious, centered state of awareness, leading to a more harmonious and fulfilling life.""Your true self is the core of you, which contains your leadership qualities, such as compassion, perspective, decision making, curiosity, and confidence. When you lead from this centered state, you can navigate life's challenges with greater ease and clarity.""All parts are good. They're actually trying to help you in one way or another. Even when their actions seem counterproductive, they are attempting to protect you from harm or discomfort, and understanding this can lead to profound personal growth."Connect With Amie

    Website: https://amiebarsky.com/

    LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amie-barsky/

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amiebarskycoaching/

    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AmieBarsky?sub_confirmation=1

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    In this solo episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky discusses the connection between inner work and living a vibrant life. Amie shares her personal journey and professional insights as a Nervous System And Trauma Master Coach, emphasizing the need to take ownership of one's life and build a deep relationship with oneself. 

    She discusses the significance of understanding and processing stored experiences in the body, challenging limiting beliefs, and fostering patience and faith in the healing process. If you are ready to let go of lingering self-doubt, anxiety or burnout, this episode is perfect to get you started!

    What We Explored This Episode

    02:00 - Stepping Away From Interviews

    03:43 - Living A Vibrant Life

    05:03 - Core Theme: Inner Work

    06:24 - The Connection Between Healing And Willingness

    09:33 - Building Trust Within Body

    10:25 - Unlocking A Level Of Intimacy With Self

    Memorable Quotes"Our bodies don't measure the experiences. They just store the experience. Your body doesn't understand what was a big experience or a minor experience.”"Healing requires willingness—the willingness to challenge your basic beliefs of who you think you are. Whether it's people-pleasing tendencies, self-doubt, anxiety, or past trauma, all of it is connected.""It's so important to understand that it's you building a relationship with yourself and your inner child, all the versions of you, to create that safety, to say, 'I am worthy, period. I add value to the world just by being me, period.'"Connect With Amie

    Website: https://amiebarsky.com/

    LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amie-barsky/

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amiebarskycoaching/

    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AmieBarsky?sub_confirmation=1

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    In this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky welcomes Master Coach Brandan Padilla to discuss the challenges faced by ambitious mothers. Together, they explore the subtle signs of burnout, the importance of self-regulation, and practical strategies for creating balance amidst busy schedules. 

    Having experience as a solo mama, Brandan shares her personal journey of balancing motherhood and time for herself. She offers insights on recognizing and addressing the early cues of stress, and emphasizes that self care is not a luxury but is an essential practice for well-being. 

    This episode is packed with actionable advice and inspiring stories aimed at helping mothers prioritize themselves and foster a healthier family dynamic.

    What We Explored This Episode

    02:09 Self-Care for Busy Moms

    06:33 Signs of Dysregulation in Parenting

    08:36 Window of Tolerance in Nervous System

    10:53 Self-Regulation as a Tool for Self-Care

    16:14 Transforming Relationship with Self Care

    18:28 Involving Children in Self-Care Practices

    24:10 Teaching Children Emotional Expression

    29:21 Dealing with Mom Guilt

    Memorable Quotes

    "It's imperative that we, mamas and women, put ourselves first. If my cup is full, then anything that spills over, that's in the saucer, everyone else can drink from."

    "If you are suffering from mama guilt, remember the three A's: awareness, acceptance, and action. Be aware of your feelings, accept them, and then take action to change the situation."

    "Enroll your child in your self-care practice. It's going to teach them beautiful practices. You're being a generational code breaker, giving them a better future."

    Connect with Brandan

    Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/beingbrandan/

    Connect With Amie

    Website: https://amiebarsky.com/

    LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amie-barsky/

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amiebarskycoaching/

    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AmieBarsky?sub_confirmation=1

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    In this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky welcomes Casey Warwick, a business embodiment coach who is revolutionizing the way women approach success in business. Casey shares her incredible journey from a military career, cut short by injury, to becoming a personal trainer and, eventually, a thriving business coach. 

    Casey’s story is filled with raw honesty and powerful insights about overcoming personal trauma and the importance of intuition and energetics in achieving success. Casey dives into the common blocks women face in business and how to overcome them, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness and the willingness to confront and heal past traumas. 

    This conversation is packed with practical advice and heartfelt wisdom that you don’t want to miss. So grab your favorite beverage, get comfortable, and join us in on this empowering discussion.

    What We Explored This Episode

    00:00 Mental Frameworks on Guilt and Shame

    02:36 Casey Warwick's Journey to Becoming a Business Embodiment Coach

    04:44 Healing and Business Transformation

    18:27 The Impact of Negative Influences on Women's Success

    23:53 The Healing Journey

    36:04 Mental Frameworks on Abundance

    41:21 Casey's Business Transformation Through Stillness

    Memorable Quotes

    "Guilt reveals, shame conceals. Those who are guilty will unconsciously see things, so it comes up. Whereas those who are in shame, who are often the victim of the circumstance, they conceal it."

    "I realized that what I was doing in business was actually a reflection of who I was as a woman. It wasn't anything to do with my strategy or how I was showing up in business. It was all the stuff that was energetically going on for me."

    "I challenge anyone listening: if you're not where you want to be, identify whose voice is holding you back. That voice will control you until you take ownership of it and transform it into your own."

    Episode Resources

    Embodied Business Playbook by Casey Warwick- https://www.casewarwick.com/playbook 

    Embodied leadership Quiz- https://www.casewarwick.com/embodied-leadership-quiz

    Connect With Casey

    Website- https://www.casewarwick.com/

    Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/casey.warwick

    Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/casewarwick/

    Connect With Amie

    Website: https://amiebarsky.com/

    LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amie-barsky/

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amiebarskycoaching/

    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AmieBarsky?sub_confirmation=1

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    In this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky welcomes nervous system leadership coach Kari Azuma. They delve into the intricacies of the nervous system and its impact on daily life, particularly for women. Kari explains how chronic stress affects our bodies and the importance of cultivating inner safety to set and maintain boundaries. The conversation highlights the significance of understanding and addressing deep-rooted patterns of safety and threat, often established in childhood. 

    Kari shares insights on how to shift from a problem-oriented mindset to a solution-oriented one, emphasizing the need for self-compassion and resourcing oneself to stand in authority. This episode is a treasure trove of wisdom for anyone looking to deepen their understanding of nervous system regulation and personal growth.

    What We Explored This Episode

    05:09 Nervous System and Safety

    18:30 Fawning Response in the Nervous System

    28:52 Nervous System Work and Personal Evolution

    36:42 Importance of Self-Care and Connecting with Ancestors

    Memorable Quotes

    "We don't have a nervous system; we are a nervous system. It's always looking for a threat, called neuroception, which means the nervous system is always listening, even when we're not thinking about it."

    "Boundaries are the most activating act for our nervous system to carry out because they require us to stand in our authority and power. It can feel like confrontation, but they are also the most connecting aspect of a relationship."

    "My work is really grounded in embodied leadership, rites of passage work for women, and deep root nervous system work. The combination of these is about rediscovering a deep, innate trust in yourself and building that inner world into a strong base."

    Episode Resources

    Polyvagal Theory - A theory that explains how the nervous system responds to stress and trauma  - https://www.stephenporges.com/ 

    Kimberly Ann Johnson - Expert in nervous system work - https://kimberlyannjohnson.com/

    Connect With Kari

    Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kariazuma/ 

    Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/kari.Azuma.3?mibextid=LQQJ4d

    Connect With Amie

    Website: https://amiebarsky.com/

    LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amie-barsky/

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amiebarskycoaching/

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    In this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky welcomes clinical psychologist Lorena Martinez to explore the intersection of psychology and ancestry. Lorena delves into how generational trauma can shape our present lives, offering insights into family dynamics and the importance of reclaiming one's place in the family tree. 

    The conversation covers practical methods for emotional release, such as somatic practices and ancestral healing, and emphasizes the significance of self-care. Also discussed are the challenges and rewards of breaking generational cycles, particularly for mothers. This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to understand and overcome inherited emotional patterns.

    What We Explored This Episode

    06:14 Psychology meets Ancestry

    18:24 Ancestral Healing and Generational Trauma

    20:13 Intergenerational Trauma

    22:47 Generational Emotional Suppression

    28:56 Acceptance and Forgiveness in Relationships

    33:23 Breaking Generational Cycles

    34:12 Somatics and Emotional Releasing

    Memorable Quotes“The way we reclaim our power is when we take our place in our family tree. When we have been our sisters' mothers, our mothers' mothers, or when we haven't taken our role as the child, we can’t reclaim whatever life has for us.""When your grandmother was pregnant with your mother at four months, the egg that would become you was already there. So whatever your grandma lived through, you were already receiving those codes.""Our parents gave us what was given to them. Understanding that helps to step into a place of peace with what happened. They did what they knew, and we can choose to break the cycle."Episode Mentioned

    Rupert Sheldrake's Research on Morphic Fields - https://www.sheldrake.org/ 

    Family Constellation by Bert Hellinger - https://www.hellinger.com/en/family-constellation/ 

    Connect With Lorena

    Lorena’s Website - https://www.thegoodkarmalife.com/ 

    Lorena’s Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/people/ThegoodKarmalife

    Lorena’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/loremarti/?hl=en

    Connect With Amie

    Website: https://amiebarsky.com/

    LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amie-barsky/

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amiebarskycoaching/

    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AmieBarsky?sub_confirmation=1

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    In this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky welcomes Emotional IQ expert Joshua Wenner. They dive into the intricacies of emotional regulation, exploring how high amounts of stress impacts our brain and behavior. Joshua shares his journey from grief and trauma work to helping high achievers heal their relationships. The conversation covers codependency, attachment styles, and societal expectations that hinder self-care. 

    Joshua offers practical advice on daily regulation practices and the importance of self-care for maintaining healthy relationships. Tune in for insights on transforming your life and love story through emotional awareness and self-prioritization.

    What We Explored This Episode

    0:00 Daily Emotional Regulation Framework

    13:35 Dynamics of Anxious and Avoidant Attachment Styles in Relationships

    21:52 Nervous System Responses in Relationships

    27:03 Mental Frameworks for Moving from Codependency to Independence

    29:04 Societal Expectations and Women's Self-Prioritization

    30:05 Men's Self-Care and Nurturing Practices

    35:02 Embracing Contraction and Expansion in Personal Growth

    36:03 Joshua's Relationship Dynamics and Personal Growth

    39:12 Embracing Duality and Grief Work

    41:09 Emotional Regulation Through Breathing

    Memorable Quotes"When you're high-stressed, you move into the back of your brain, which shuts off compassion, empathy, and rational thinking. Getting regulated moves you to the front of the brain, where you can consciously choose how to respond." "In codependent dynamics, the anxious person leans in with controlling energy, while the avoidant person pulls away. This yo-yo pattern continues until both learn to regulate their nervous systems and address their wounds.""Life involves a constant contraction and expansion. Embracing both joy and grief, excitement and frustration, allows us to navigate life's ebb and flow more effectively."Episode Resources

    Facing Love Addiction by Pia Mellody - https://www.amazon.com/Facing-Love-Addiction-Giving-Yourself/dp/0062506048

    Connect with Joshua

    Joshua’s Website - https://joshuawenner.com/ 

    Joshua’s LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/joshuawenner/ 

    Joshua’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/joshuamichaelwenner/?hl=en

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    In this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, our host, Amie Barsky, welcomes Susy Schieffelin, the founder of The Copper Vessel and The Sound Healers Academy. Susy shares her transformative journey from a high-paced corporate life in New York City to becoming a renowned sound healer in Los Angeles. She opens up about her struggles with alopecia, addiction, and the pivotal moment that led her to sobriety and self-love. Susy discusses the profound impact of sound baths, Reiki, and Kundalini yoga on her healing process. 

    The conversation also delves into balancing masculine and feminine energies, redefining beauty standards, and the importance of self-care, especially as a mother and businesswoman. Tune in for an inspiring story of resilience, self-acceptance, and the power of holistic healing practices.

    What We Explored This Episode

    3:26: Susy's Journey to Self-Acceptance

    5:37: Susy's Struggle with Addiction and Recovery

    14:15:Core Themes

    21:36:Finding Balance in Masculine and Feminine Energies

    25:17:Amie's Story of Missed Opportunity

    29:49:Advice on Self-Care for Mothers

    32:44:The Importance of Self-Care for Parents

    36:38:Creating a Safe Nervous System

    40:53:Susy's Daily Cacao Ritual

    Memorable Quotes"Becoming a mother shifted so much for me because before that, I was very good about my self care, but I was also quite rigid. Like, every morning it was sitting on my sheepskin for an hour to 2 hours, doing my perfect breath work and my chanting and my Kundalini practice. And when you have a newborn and when you have little kids, it's not realistic to do that.""I moved from New York to California. And that was when I experienced my first sound bath. I had already been to rehab. I had already started meditating. I had already begun a daily gratitude practice, but I couldn't stay fully sober. When I moved to California and went to my first sound bath, it felt like something shifted within me.""I trust so deeply that the universe will put the person in front of me who can support me, can support my babies, so that I can fill up my cup and be the best possible mom to these little ones. And it's a gift to let other people love you and hold you. It feels good to help people. It feels good for him to get to care for the kids."Resources Mentioned

    The Surrender Experiment by Michael A. Singer - https://www.amazon.com/Surrender-Experiment-Journey-Lifes-Perfection/dp/080414110X 

    Connect with Susy

    Susy’s Website - https://www.thesoundhealersacademy.com/ 

    Susy’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/thecoppervessel 

    Susy’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/thesoundhealersacademy/ 

    Susy’s YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/TheCopperVessel 

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    In this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky welcomes master coach Andrea Tessier to explore the profound impact of inner child work, somatics, and internal family systems (IFS) on personal growth and self-worth. Andrea shares her journey from a regimented teaching career to becoming a certified master coach, emphasizing the importance of understanding and integrating our inner parts.

    The conversation delves into how childhood trauma shapes our nervous system and influences adult behavior, offering practical insights into building self-trust and harmonious relationships. Listeners will gain valuable tools to transform self-sabotage into self-love and enhance their connection to intuition and creativity.

    What We Explored This Episode

    00:05:40: Explanation of Internal Family Systems (IFS)

    00:06:15: Impact of Childhood Trauma on the Nervous System

    00:12:58: Understanding Parts Work in IFS

    00:18:13: Breakdown of Manager, Firefighter, and Exile Parts

    00:25:24: Connection Between Inner Child and Self-Trust

    00:30:10: Navigating Relationships and Partner Dynamics

    00:35:13: The Importance of Self-Trust and Integration

    00:42:57: Distinguishing Between Pullback and Procrastination

    Memorable Quotes"Our society is really built on this concept of willpower, that we should just be able to will ourselves to do something, be something, know better, do better. And when we can't, we go into shame and guilt and rigidity around it. When we're trying to will parts of us into submission, we're actually disregarding some really important wisdom and creating a level of self-trust.""Firefighters are extreme protectors. If your house is on fire, you want to call the firefighters—they are going to put that out. Firefighters in our internal system can show up as addiction, eating disorders, or explosive rage and anger. They are parts of us that we feel are really extreme, and they are protecting a younger part of us.""The inner child is like the most critical piece. Yes, it holds the pain and trauma and hurt, but it is also responsible for our creativity, innocence, play, and aliveness. The more we can awaken the inner child, the more we have direct access to that, and who doesn't want that? Because that's where life is really good."Resources Mentioned

    Clear Mind Clear Path: An Unconventional Guide to Decision Making for Overthinkers by Andrea Tessier - https://www.andreatessier.com/clear-mind-clear-path 

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    Andrea’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/tessier.andrea/

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    In this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky welcomes financial wellness coach Katy Chen Mazzara. Katy shares her unique perspective on money, emphasizing its role as an exchange of energy and its connection to self-worth. The conversation explores how childhood experiences shape our financial beliefs and the importance of aligning money decisions with personal values. Katy offers practical advice on managing finances, including tracking income and expenses, and the significance of slowing down before making major financial decisions. She also discusses the emotional aspects of debt and the importance of self-forgiveness in achieving financial freedom. This episode is packed with insights to help listeners develop a healthier relationship with money.

    What We Explored This Episode

    00:05:33: Connection Between Self-Worth and Finances

    00:10:17: Understanding Childhood Money Stories

    00:13:29: Defining Money and Its Value

    00:14:20: Practical and Energetic Approaches to Money

    00:16:08: Methods for Tracking Finances

    00:17:32: Making Money Conversations Fun

    00:19:04: Discussing Money in Relationships

    00:21:52: Emotional Connection to Money

    00:22:15: Concept of Money Not Being Real

    00:24:13: Evaluating Purchases and Personal Value Systems

    00:26:03: Aligning Money Decisions with Core Values

    00:32:47: Steps to Manage Newfound Wealth

    Memorable Quotes"Money represents freedom, and that's all it represents. The more money I have, the more freedom I have. It's that freedom of choice as well.""Our self-worth is about who we are and what we bring to the table. If you know this, you can let things go a lot easier. Your financial success is built upon how good you feel about yourself.""The faster way to pay off debts is applying two things: slowing it down and only applying as much as you need to per month, and doing an energetic clearing out by forgiving yourself for those debts and releasing feelings of shame and guilt."Resources Mentioned

    The Artist's Way by Julia Cameron - https://juliacameronlive.com/the-artists-way/

    Connect With Katy

    Katy’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/katychenmazzara/ 

    Katy’s LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/katy-chen-mazzara/ 

    Katy’s Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/767774630314880 

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    In this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky welcomes special guest Sam Gibbs Morris, a Leader in Self-development, Psychedelics, and Breathwork. Together, they explore the dynamics of creating safe and trusting environments in romantic relationships. Sam shares his personal journey of overcoming pain, addiction, and self-discovery, emphasizing the importance of balancing masculine and feminine energies both internally and externally. The conversation delves into the collective wounds of men and women, the significance of vulnerability, and practical tools for fostering deeper connections. Listeners will gain insights into breathwork, heart-opening practices, and the importance of maintaining open communication in relationships.

    What We Explored This Episode

    00:06:17: Sam's Journey and Relationship with Masculine and Feminine Energies

    00:09:25: The Importance of Masculine Holding the Feminine

    00:15:10: The Importance of Feminine Holding the Masculine

    00:19:48: Encouraging Vulnerability in Men

    00:25:54: Communication and Addressing Issues in Relationships

    00:31:03: Unexpected Challenges in Conscious Relationships

    00:34:46: Embodiment Practices for Connection

    00:37:15: Sam's Morning Routine and Personal Practices

    00:38:26: Supporting Each Other's Nervous Systems in Relationships

    Memorable Quotes"It's so important to cultivate acceptance and self-love along the journey, even if it doesn't look like what society or our parents think it should.""One of the things that we get to be aware of is our core wounds when we come into relationships. A lot of times, those wounds become weapons. We weaponize an abandonment wound or a rejection wound, and it falls into gaslighting or making the other person feel less than for having their experience." "The work is just beginning. You can do a ton of work by yourself, but the next level of work is when you meet someone and get into a relationship. The relationship will be the ceremony, and your willingness to stay in that discomfort through it is the basis of what conscious means in a conscious relationship."Resources Mentioned

    Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma - A book that explores the nature of trauma and how it affects the body and mind.

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    Sam’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/samgibbsmorris/

    Sam’s Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/samgibbsmorris369

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    In this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky welcomes Dr. Erin Haskell, a world-renowned leader and Doctor of Divinity. They delve into the intricacies of self-love, spirituality, and the science behind ending personal suffering. Dr. Haskell shares her journey from trauma to spiritual awakening, emphasizing the importance of daily spiritual practice and the pitfalls of seeking external validation. The conversation explores how to break free from societal programming and align with one's true self. This episode is a deep dive into the transformative power of inner work and the pursuit of genuine self-love.

    What We Explored This Episode

    00:00:00: Introduction and Welcome

    00:05:04: Understanding the Doctor of Divinity

    00:07:57: Erin's Personal Journey and Overcoming Obstacles

    00:10:35: The Myth of Spirituality and Manifestation

    00:14:30: The Source of Suffering

    00:17:30: Breaking the Cycle of Suffering

    00:20:22: The Trap of Self-Love Industry

    00:23:19: Navigating Divine Self-Love and Human Experience

    00:26:33: The Importance of Daily Spiritual Practice

    00:28:01: The Future of Spiritual Practice and Mental Health

    00:29:27: How to Connect with Dr. Erin Haskell

    00:31:00: Erin's Daily Spiritual Practice

    00:32:08: Erin's Excitement for Future Research and Practices

    00:32:49: Closing Remarks and Gratitude

    Memorable Quotes"The myth of spirituality is that when I become spiritual enough, I'm going to be able to manifest anything that I want. The truth is, all the good things and all the bad things are not necessarily me just using the power of my mind to manifest, but rather for the evolution of the species.""All suffering comes from basically putting your power outside of yourself and resisting what is. The moment we do that, it's just an ongoing suffering. It never, ever works.""The true self-love can only come from one place, and it's from the divine, beloved source within. You have to go into self-love without one need, without one thing you want to manifest, with a pure, pure heart."Episode Resources

    Spiritual Psychology School - Founded by Dr. Erin Haskell, offering courses and certifications in spiritual psychology - https://www.spiritualpsychologyschool.com/

    Connect with Dr. Erin

    Dr. Erin’s Website - https://www.drerin.tv/

    Dr. Erin’s Show Website - https://www.drerinshow.com/

    Dr. Erin’s LinkedIn- https://www.linkedin.com/in/drerin/

    Dr. Erin’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/erinfallhaskell/?hl=en

    Dr. Erin’s Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/erinfallhaskell/

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