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Welcome to Season 2 of the Famous at Home podcast! This season is titled, "Awakening the Heart."
Living a fully present and attentive life for ourselves and our loved ones is a matter of the heart. But what do we mean by "the heart?" In episode 1 of season 2 we take an honest look at what our hearts need to thrive, how we can measure the condition of our hearts, and what curiosity has to do with living fully alive.
Would you say your heart is awakened? Is your heart in a place where you can yes to your kids? Do you feel full enough to enter into the world of your spouse? No matter the condition of your heart right now, you can reclaim it.
Time Stamps:
0:00 Introduction
1:08 Introduction to Season 2
2:51 Joshâs pet peeve and how it relates to the condition of our heart
6:30 How to measure the condition of your heart
9:53 The supernatural and natural ways of awakening the heart
14:37 Resources for kids and emotions
16:33 The most vital part of who you are and how to identify your emotions
19:59 Season 2 preview
20:46 Your heart and the pursuit of curiosity
28:08 What an awakened heart looks like
Show Notes:
Sign up for the January 2025 Tender & Fierce Cohort! Sign up here. https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierce
Men, interested in The Field Experience? Sign up for Cohort 1 before December 31: https://www.famousathome.com/thefieldexperience
Get 25 Days of the Christmas Story: An Advent Family Experience by clicking here: https://amzn.to/3ZmCKkB
Get What Am I Feeling? children's book by clicking here: https://amzn.to/40ZCadZ
Download NONAH's brand new single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome
The Famous at Home podcast is made possible by listeners like you. We'd be honored to have you partner with us in helping bring revival to today's family. Click here to donate. https://newhorizonsfoundation.com/project/single-project/2504/ -
Letâs be honest, parenting is the most guilt-ridden, shaming role on the planet. Which is why a nagging question seems to live under the surface of our very full lives, âAm I doing a good job with my kids?â
In this episode, Josh and Christi talk about what really matters when it comes to getting the outcomes we most desire in our kids. They also define emotional safety, talk about why parenting is the wrong term, and get honest about what our kids really need from us.
Time Stamps:
0:00 Introduction
1:15 Behavior versus character
3:53 Why emotional safety in parenting was the heart of how Famous at Home beganâ¨
9:00 Youâre child is not the only oneâ¨
10:55 How to show up with your kids in their BIG feelings
13:10 The single greatest conclusion of parenting researchâ¨
17:21 Parenting styles and the Holy Spiritâ¨
20:00 Marital satisfaction and parentingâ¨
20:52 How do you act as a child? Why we have to play the long game.
22:10 Research on emotion coaching kids
23:45 Navigating judgment and your own healing as a parent
28:45 The two filters Josh is using to parent his kidsâ¨
31:17 The single greatest parenting strategy for raising kids
Show Notes:
Sign up for the January 2025 Tender & Fierce Cohort! Sign up here. https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierce
Men, interested in The Field Experience? Join the interest list! https://www.famousathome.com/mensinterestform
Order a copy of the Famous at Home book to put your family center stage. Click here: https://amzn.to/3y1jJFz
Order a copy of Safe House: Why Emotional Safety is the Key to Raising Kids Who Live, Love, and Lead Well https://amzn.to/3Zpeui5
Download NONAH's brand new single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome
The Famous at Home podcast is made possible by listeners like you. We'd be honored to have you partner with us in helping bring revival to today's family. Click here to donate. https://newhorizonsfoundation.com/project/single-project/2504/ -
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"What's going on within your spouse's heart matters more than what's going on between the two of you." The gateway to finding your way home to your spouse is through his / her heart.
But that can be easier said than done with there's already so much hurt built up through the years. In this episode, Josh and Christi lay out practical ways to fight for your spouse's heart while also prioritizing the healing of your own.
Time Stamps:
0:00 Introduction
1:12 New 2025 offerings for Tender & Fierce now live
7:15 The launch and introduction to The Field Experience
12:50 Marriage as a gift and responsibility
19:45 What are you fighting for?
22:37 Judging intentions versus behaviors
25:58 Self-protection versus self-promotion
27:58 One way to increase marital satisfaction
29:36 The inner child and marriage
34:36 Fighting for the marital heart
Show Notes:
Sign up for the January 2025 Tender & Fierce Cohort! Sign up here.
https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierce
Men, interested in The Field Experience? Join the interest list! https://www.famousathome.com/mensinterestform
To learn more about Tender & Fierce, click here to listen:
Living Tender & Fierce: https://tinyurl.com/3xtu6rfs
From Broken to Wholehearted Living: https://tinyurl.com/3443hrpz
Download NONAH's brand new single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome
The Famous at Home podcast is made possible by listeners like you. We'd be honored to have you partner with us in helping bring revival to today's family. Click here to donate. https://newhorizonsfoundation.com/project/single-project/2504/ -
In this episode, we talk about how to find your true self and the freedom it brings to live from it. We also talk about the destructive ways our false self can influence our closest relationships.
Want to know if you're truly showing up with others in your true self? We reveal the ONE question we use to filter how well we're walking in our true self and talk about what's keeping us stuck in our false self.
Want to be comfortable in your own skin, joyful in who you are, and not swayed by others? This episode is for you.
Time Stamps:
0:00 Introduction
1:43 Upcoming coaching programs
6:13 How we heal and show up in marriage
10:55 How you know when youâre operating out of false self
13:15 Deep dive into what it means to live in your true self
19:58 How you identify someone living from their true self
24:01 Learning to listen to God about who you are
28:42 How healthy friends help you live from your true self
34:50 The beautiful overflow of your true self in relationships
37:48 Dealing with tricky relationships
Show Notes:
Men, interested in The Field Experience? Join the interest list! https://www.famousathome.com/mensinterestform
Interested in the next Tender + Fierce cohort? Join the interest list! https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierceinterest
Download NONAH's brand new single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome
Order a copy of Abba's Child from Brennan Manning:
Click here: https://amzn.to/40xEs3C
The Famous at Home podcast is made possible by listeners like you. We'd be honored to have you partner with us in helping bring revival to today's family. Click here to donate. https://newhorizonsfoundation.com/project/single-project/2504/ -
Do you feel stuck in your marriage? Do you wish you could sometimes show up differently in how you parent your children? Do you desire a slower pace of life for your family?
We all run into problems in our closest relationships, especially with those we love the most. But what if the problems we face are intensified, or perhaps even created, because of our own internal insecurities or lack of feeling loved?
In episode 4 of season 1, Finding Your Way Home, we talk about the foundational solution to many of our relational concerns: Finding your way home to the Father's love. Unfortunately, like any other relationship, this takes time and practice, especially if we already don't feel lovable.
In this episode, we discuss how we and our relationships change when we feel âdelighted in,â we share our own stories of experiencing the Fatherâs love, and we offer insights on how we can move from intellectually understanding the Fatherâs love for us, to genuinely experiencing it.
Time Stamps:
1:02 Introduction: The definition of joy
3:08 Why we start with the Fatherâs love
3:37 Relational problems in light of the matrix we find ourselves in
5:45 The relational experience of love, particularly from the Father
9:30 How life looks when we know someone is delighted to be with us
11:01 The effects of not being delighted with yourself
13:38 How we love others is an overflow of how we feel loved
15:38 Right brain versus left brain experiences of love
19:19 The journey to âexperiencingâ the Fatherâs love
25:22 When the Father doesnât feel safe to come home to
26:50 Why the thing that gives us the most life is often the thing we most resist
28:38 The way the Father speaks to each of His kids
30:03 How the Father sees and chooses us
33:36 The feeling of âhomeâ and Christiâs 30-day challenge for you
Show Notes:
Download NONAH's brand new single: Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome
Interested in the most joyful men's discipleship coaching journey?! Join the interest list! https://www.famousathome.com/mensinterestform
Interested in the next Tender + Fierce cohort? Join the interest list!
https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierceinterest
Order a copy of the Famous at Home book to put your family center stage. Click here: https://amzn.to/3y1jJFz
The Famous at Home podcast is made possible by listeners like you. We'd be honored to have you partner with us in helping bring revival to today's family. Click here to donate. https://newhorizonsfoundation.com/project/single-project/2504/ -
We want to introduce you to one of the most joyful collaborations ever. We asked our friends, Wes and Callie Strunk, from NONAH, to create a bumper for the Famous at Home podcast. It was so good that they turned it into a full-on song and inspirational message.
In this episode, we interview Wes and Callie on their own journey to being famous at home and take you behind-the-scenes on how Find My Way Home came about. This song embodies everything about what it means to be famous at home, but so do Wes and Callie.
We canât wait for you to meet them and hear their hearts. We talk with Wes and Callie about what the song means, how it applies to your journey, and what influences each of us in finding our own way home.
Time Stamps:
1:03 Introduction to our friendship and desire for new theme song
2:48 Wes & Callie introduce themselves
4:35 Joshâs two benchmarks for how he views how heâs doing as a parent
5:18 The behind-the-scenes story for how the new theme song Find My Way Home came about
11:42 How the original bumper became a full song
14:24 NONAHâs goal for the song
17:24 Reflections on the various meanings of the songâ¨
22:05 The scriptural inspiration for the lyricsâ¨
27:25 The inspirational story of where the name NONAH came fromâ¨
35:54 The heart posture of giving up the chaseâ¨
39:50 Wes and Callieâs journey of being famous at homeâ¨
46:25 The role of community in being famous at homeâ¨
54:06 Where to begin if youâre new to NONAHâ¨
58:00 Wes and Callieâs comical story of writing their first song together
Show Notes:
Download NONAH's brand new single: Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome
To sign up for our weekly devotional, click here:
https://www.famousathome.com/newsletter
The Famous at Home podcast is made possible by listeners like you. We'd be honored to have you partner with us in helping bring revival to today's family. Click here to donate. https://newhorizonsfoundation.com/project/single-project/2504/ -
Finding our way home is easier when we stop chasing the things leading us away from it. Which leads to a question you must answer if you want to be famous at home, "What is my 'chase' costing me?"
In episode 2 of season 1, Finding Your Way Home, we talk about what it means to chase, share our own stories of âchasing,â and offer insights on giving up the chase.
Time Stamps:
1:33 Introduction and overview of new season
3:15 What we mean by âchasingâ
8:12 Christiâs âchaseâ as a wife + mom
15:03 What it requires to give up âthe chaseâ
21:12 What this means for your family
23:15 Joshâs âchaseâ as a husband + dad
26:12 Coaching options for âthe chaseâ
29:30 Where to go from here
Show Notes:
Download NONAH's brand new single: Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome
Interested in the most joyful men's discipleship coaching journey?! Join the interest list! https://www.famousathome.com/mensinterestform
Interested in the next Tender + Fierce cohort? Join the interest lists! https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierceinterest
Order a copy of the Famous at Home book to put your family center stage. Click here: https://amzn.to/3y1jJFz
The Famous at Home podcast is made possible by listeners like you. We'd be honored to have you partner with us in helping bring revival to today's family. Click here to donate. https://newhorizonsfoundation.com/project/single-project/2504/ -
The Famous at Home podcast has a new beginning! Though we have over 400 previous episodes out in the world, this is the start of a new vision for Famous at Home, what we call âred carpet to revival.â
Welcome to Season 1!
Each new season will consist of seven episodes and be built around specific topics to help bring revival to your family. Season 1 is called âFind Your Way Home,â where we talk about the meaning behind this new phrase and why it sets the foundation for the emotional connection and spiritual growth you desire in your own home.
In todayâs episode, we talk about the reckoning that happened in our marriage and why nearly quitting Famous at Home was toiling the soil for the dead seeds to give birth to life all over again. As we talk about moving from âred carpet to revival,â our hope is that you see how it applies to your family in this cultural moment you find yourself in.
Time Stamps
0:00 Brand new intro and song
1:10 Welcome to a new season!
3:27 How the new season was birthed
6:06 The reckoning that led to revival
12:19 How culture shapes todayâs families and what revival looks like for your family
16:53 Awakening the heart of a parent and the fight for your family
19:22 The household as a foundation for revival
21:30 What it means to find your way home
28:10 Who is this for?
31:30 New initiatives from FAH designed for revival in your family
34:30 Story behind the new FAH song from NONAH + Outro
Show Notes:
Pre-save NONAH's brand new single: Find My Way Home by clicking here:
https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome
Order a copy of the Famous at Home book to put your family center stage.
Click here: https://amzn.to/3y1jJFz
The Famous at Home podcast is made possible by listeners like you.
We'd be honored to have you partner with us in helping bring revival to today's family.
Click here to donate.
https://newhorizonsfoundation.com/project/single-project/2504/ -
Will the decisions you're making today get you to where you want to be ten years from now?
Welcome to episode 5 of 5 in our Summer Series called, Cultivating a Spiritual Growth Environment in Your Home.
In this episode, we talk about your "why" and the gift of involving your kids in a purpose greater than themselves.
Here are some highlights:
What it means for the household to partner with Jesus for the restoration of all thingsThe generational influence of our kid's purposeMaking those under your roof feel seenLiving with a "there you are" confidenceSetting values today that impact your family ten years from nowTime Stamps:
0:50 Introduction
3:31 Are the decisions youâre making today getting you to where you want to be in the future?
6:10 Survival versus vision
7:30 Filtering our future through the senses tied to the past
9:02 Developing vision for your family
11:50 Your household as a vehicle to build for the Kingdom of God
20:35 The importance of leading your household well
23:20 Where to begin finding the âwhyâ for your family
27:43 The 10-year exercise for your family
32:46 The 10-year exercise in perspective
35:06 Revisiting âwhy youâre doing what youâre doingâ on a regular basis
36:08 Biblical community as a healing agent for families
Show Notes:
Interested in the most joyful men's discipleship coaching journey?! Join the interest list! https://www.famousathome.com/mensinterestform
Download the free workbook / discussion guide for the Summer Series. https://www.famousathome.com/summerseriessignup
Order a copy of Famous at Home by Dr. Josh and Christi:
https://amzn.to/3y1jJFz
Order a copy of The Household and The War for the Cosmos by C.R. Wiley:
https://amzn.to/3Z3mFyz
Order a copy of The Gospel Comes with a House Key by Rosaria Butterfield:
https://amzn.to/3PhspBn
Leave us a review to help others find out about the podcast:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/famous-at-home/id1185660348?see-all=reviews -
Parenting struggles are real. Screentime. Discipline. Anxiety.
But what if weâre focused on the wrong things?
Instead of trying to fix and manage the problems, what if we lived out the solution?
What if the environment we cultivate is the very thing our children need?
Welcome to episode 4 of 5 in our Summer Series called, Cultivating a Spiritual Growth Environment in Your Home.
In this episode, Josh talks about their current parenting journey, the two competing worldviews that influence how kids experience joy, and how we can give our kids permission to experience joy!
Here are some highlights:
How two competing worldviews influence the amount of joy in our homeWhy we need permission to experience joyWhy resourcefulness is a cheat code for helping kids live joyful livesThe one way to step into joy this week as a family, no matter how difficult the season you find yourself in right nowThis series comes with a pdf workbook / discussion guide to go along with all five episodes (found in show notes below). You can use them in your small groups, with your spouse, or as a companion guide to the content.
Show Notes:
Interested in the most joyful men's discipleship coaching journey?! Join the interest list! https://www.famousathome.com/mensinterestform
Download the free workbook / discussion guide for the Summer Series. https://www.famousathome.com/summerseriessignup
Focus on the Family Broadcast: Click here to listen to Encouraging Your Kids to Discuss Their Feelings
https://www.focusonthefamily.com/episodes/broadcast/encouraging-your-kids-to-discuss-their-feelings/
Listen to Jamie Winship talk about abundance versus scarcity worldviews.
Click here.
https://youtu.be/2s3KWZFCH0A?si=YNR6bAF7ZW8xsZq_
The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness by Jonathan Haidt. Click here.
https://amzn.to/3vWdgie
Time Stamps:
1:04 Introduction
3:30 Coming out of survival seasons of parenting
6:30 Why âbecomingâ is a better than âparentingâ for how our kids turn out
8:42 How kids experience joy
11:15 How the scarcity and abundance mindset influences joy
16:34 How the fruit of joy is cultivated in our lives
23:00 Giving our kids permission to experience joy
23:55 Resourcefulness as a cheat code for joy
26:55 Screen time and joy
28:00 Discipling our kidsâ to find their strengths and gifts -
Welcome to episode 3 of 5 in our Summer Series called, Cultivating a Spiritual Growth Environment in Your Home.
There are many misconceptions about what practicing the Sabbath, or ceasing from work, really entails. People often view Sabbath as a day for lounging around the house, binging a show on Netflix, or just doing nothing. Those things can be fine, but do they really bring about "soul rest?"
In this episode, Josh and Christi go in-depth about the purpose and meaning of Sabbath, and the unique ways they have learned to cultivate it in their home.
Josh and Christi talk about:
Shabbat dinner as a fun, family-centric rhythm for your weekly SabbathWhy Sabbath rest is a gift from God and how you can make it work to fit your family dynamicHow to fight against the pull of Western culture away from the biblical gift of SabbathThis series comes with a pdf workbook / discussion guide to go along with all five episodes (found in show notes below). You can use them in your small groups, with your spouse, or as a companion guide to the content.
Show Notes:
Download the Shabbat Meal Guide:
https://www.famousathome.com/summerseriessignup
Download the free workbook / discussion guide for the Summer Series: https://www.famousathome.com/summerseriessignup
Interested in the most joyful men's discipleship coaching journey?!
Join the interest list!
https://www.famousathome.com/mensinterestform
Order a copy of Famous at Home by Dr. Josh and Christi
https://amzn.to/4dvenpL
Watch this episode on YouTube:
https://youtu.be/uLsl2qlOuS8
Time Stamps:
0:45 Introduction
4:00 Whatâs coming up for the podcast
8:15 The one rhythm we wish weâd have started sooner
11:55 The reason for Sabbath
13:45 "Remember" and "observe" the Sabbath
15:59 What Sabbath is
17:30 Description of our Friday night Shabbat dinner
20:30 What brings you soul rest?
22:46 What Sabbath day specifically looks like for us
29:24 Kidâs sports, work, and other barriers to Sabbath
37:55 Friday night dinner
43:28 What does it mean to live in a biblical household? -
Welcome to episode 2 of 5 in our Summer Series called, Cultivating a Spiritual Growth Environment in Your Home.
One of the most frequent questions we're asked is how we maintain a spirit of peace as a family of five and all we have going on. "How do you carry such calm in your interactions with each other?" wrote one long-time listener. To begin, peace doesn't come without a fight.
In this episode, we talk about practical ways you can war for and cultivate peace in your home.
We talk about:
Why our bodies feel safer in chaos than peaceSpecific ways to consecrate your home and use prayer as your greatest weapon in the war for peaceHow to take dominion over what God has given youKeeping short accounts of sin in our livesPlaying the long game when seeing the day-to-day overwhelmThis series comes with a pdf workbook / discussion guide to go along with all five episodes (found in show notes below). You can use them in your small groups, with your spouse, or as a companion guide to the content.
Show Notes:
Download the free workbook / discussion guide for the Summer Series. https://www.famousathome.com/summerseriessignup
Order a copy of the Famous at Home book:
https://amzn.to/3y1jJFz
John Eldredge's Daily Prayer (Head of Household)
https://wildatheart.org/pray
Sign up for the Famous at Home Starter Bundle
https://www.famousathome.com/newsletter
Watch this episode on YouTube:
https://youtu.be/MyzmAb20Xrg
Time Stamps:
0:52 Introduction
3:10 Why we use the words fighting and peace together
7:15 Defining peace
10:05 Peace according to Philippians 4
14:20 Why we feel safer in chaos than we do in peace
17:54 The spiritual and real life implications of not warring for peace in the here-and-now
21:05 How it looks practically to war for peace
23:10 How to make decisions for peace and walk in Jesusâ authority
27:05 Prayers to pray to war for peace in your home
30:36 Practical ways to pray and war for peace in your home
42:30 Keep short accounts of sin in your life
43:20 Playing the long game for your soul -
Welcome to episode 1 of 5 in our Summer Series called, Cultivating a Spiritual Growth Environment in Your Home.
This series comes with a pdf workbook / discussion guide to go along with all five episodes (found in show notes below). You can use them in your small groups, with your spouse, or as a companion guide to the content.
Have you ever given thought to how your "household" is being defined? Or put another way, how often do you consider the direction your family is heading? Or the connectedness you feel with each other? What if our struggles as a family and the longings we have are tied to the post Industrial Revolution individualistic culture we find ourselves immersed in? Could there be a different way?
In this episode, we talk about the meaning of the word "household" and how it applies to your family.
We talk about:
Why it's important to be curious, not intimidated by the dissonance we feel.How to let go of "the chase" and refocus on prioritizing your family cohesion.How to discover and step into your family's uniqueness.Why it's beneficial train your kids to be creators, not consumers.Show Notes:
Download the free workbook / discussion guide for the Summer Series. https://www.famousathome.com/summerseriessignup
Order Famous at Home: 7 Decisions to Put Your Family Center Stage in a World Competing for YourTime, Attention, and Identity
https://amzn.to/3y1jJFz
The Household and the War for the Cosmos by C.R. Wiley
https://amzn.to/3DCMoDw
Watch this episode on Youtube:
https://youtu.be/J-ntnToREuE
Time Stamps:
0:58 Introduction
4:28 Paying attention to your family environment
6:28 What is the state of your family right now?
10:35 The state of the American family
15:12 The paradigm shift for our family
19:38 A higher purpose as a family
24:40 Finding your familyâs unique identity for the Kingdom of God
31:36 What are we chasing?
37:12 How family mottos define who we are
48:00 Teaching kids to be creators, not consumers
51:40 Fighting for your marriage in building for the Kingdom of God -
Welcome to episode 5 of 5 in our Summer Series called, Cultivating an Emotionally Healthy Marriage.
Would you describe your spouse as your greatest teammate? It probably depends on the day, right? We all have opponents that war against the connection in our marriage and cause conflict. But how do we fight? Do we see the opponent for what it is, or do we make our spouse out to be the opponent?
In this episode, Josh and Christi talk about how to name the opponent, talk about your dance, and take responsibility for how to engage with your spouse.
They talk about:
The importance of finding out what's going on in your spouse's heart rather than what's going on between the two of youProtective mechanisms and how they hold us back from communicating the truth of what we want from our spouseWhy taking 100% responsibility for your role in the conflict disarms your spousePractical ways to show up differently for your spouse
We hope you download the pdf files that go along with these episodes (found in show notes below) and use them in your small groups, with your spouse, or as a companion guide to the content.
Show Notes:
How Marriage is Saving Me: Sign up for weekly devotional
https://shorturl.at/NtnCq
Download the free discussion guide pdf for the Summer Series. https://www.famousathome.com/summerseriessignup
Men, join the interest list for our exciting, upcoming men's discipleship journey! https://www.famousathome.com/mensinterestform
Order a copy of Famous at Home:
https://amzn.to/3VYPKLP
Watch this episode on Youtube by clicking here.
https://youtu.be/bi8pi4motfY
Time stamps:
(0:30) Introduction
(5:40) How to name your opponent
(8:55) How our opponents become elephants
(11:19) Feeling safety in the relationship
(13:45) The one phrase that matters more than any other to becoming teammates
(16:57) The role you play in conflict and how to identify your dance
(20:25) When one spouse isnât willing to change
(22:25) Entering into and being repentant of your own actions
(23:55) Addressing the very thing holding you back from drawing closer to your spouse
(26:20) The most sanctifying verses for a healthy marriage
(27:00) Our single greatest reason for how weâve grown in our marriage -
Welcome to episode 4 of 5 in our Summer Series called, Cultivating an Emotionally Healthy Marriage.
Joining us for a conversation about sex is our dear friend, a licensed marriage and family therapist whose specialization in graduate school was sex therapy, Laura Dugger.
In this episode, Laura talks about how sex makes everything better. Wait until you hear the research! With honesty, vulnerability, and a solid dose of fun, Josh and Christi's interview with Laura includes:
The hidden benefits of sexHow to talk to your spouse about sexReasons for, and how to, schedule sexIndividual differences when it comes to sexThe God-given purpose of sex in marriage
We hope you download the pdf files that go along with these episodes (found in show notes below) and use them in your small groups, with your spouse, or as a companion guide to the content.
Show Notes:
How Marriage is Saving Me: Sign up for weekly devotional
https://shorturl.at/NtnCq
Download the free discussion guide pdf for the Summer Series. https://www.famousathome.com/summerseriessignup
Ladies, register now for Tender & Fierce!
https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierce
Men, join the interest list for our exciting, upcoming men's discipleship journey! https://www.famousathome.com/mensinterestform
Listen to this episode on Youtube by clicking here.
https://youtu.be/NzgcDR013P0
RESOURCES MENTIONED BY LAURA DUGGER:
Listen to the Savvy Sauce Podcast! hosted by Laura Dugger
https://thesavvysauce.com/
Dr. Jennifer Konzen podcast episode: Fostering a Fun, Healthy Sex Life with your Spouse with Dr. Jennifer Konzen
https://shorturl.at/mPQvW
Visit The Art of Intimate Marriage Website: Access to Dr. Konzen's book, podcast, sex therapist training, and a marriage video series.
https://www.theartofintimatemarriage.com/
Listen to Dr. Douglas Rosenau podcast episode: Ways to Deepen Your Intimacy in Marriage with Dr. Douglas Rosenau
https://shorturl.at/EfLZ8
Read A Celebration of Sex by Dr. Douglas Rosenau: A guide to enjoying God's gift of sexual intimacy
https://amzn.to/4cMWVfk
Listen to Dr. Michael Sytsma podcast episode: Enjoying a God-Honoring, Healthy Sex Life with Your Spouse with Certified Sex Therapist and Ordained Minister, Dr. Michael Sytsma
https://shorturl.at/A2pHO
Listen to Francie Winslow podcast episodes: Sex in Marriage and Its Positive Effects with Francie Winslow, Part 1
https://shorturl.at/Mx9Iw
Science and Art of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage, Part 2
https://tinyurl.com/bddr6b58
Listen to Drs. Clifford and Joyce Penner podcast episode: Easy Changes to Enhance Your Sexual Intimacy in Marriage with Dr. Clifford and Joyce Penner
https://tinyurl.com/5n897dpn
Time stamps:
(0:38) Introduction
(3:31) An introduction to Laura Dugger
(6:00) Lauraâs journey into becoming a sex therapist
(8:15) Disclaimer about the sex conversation
(9:33) Specific ways sex makes everything in your life better
(11:28) Biblical foundation for sex
(15:45) Addressing body image
(21:11) Healthy ways to have conversation about sex
(27:30) Common differences in couples
(31:08) Purity culture, pornography, and rewiring our brains for healthy connection
(33:35) Talking about desire discrepancy and scheduling sex
(38:27) Testosterone in women and best time of day for sex
(40:40) One piece of advice for husbands
(42:44) One piece of advice for wives
(44:54) How to know when to reach out for outside support
(49:00) The last word -
Welcome to episode 3 of 5 in our Summer Series called, Cultivating an Emotionally Healthy Marriage.
Difficult conversations in marriage are inevitable. Whether it's parenting, sex, holidays, work schedules, or in-laws, all couples deal with "an elephant in the room." How can we best show up in these conversations? In this episode, Josh and Christi talk about how to talk about hard things in marriage.
Here are some highlights:
How to identify your motive when starting a hard conversation and why itâs important.How to set the tone in your conversations. How to respond to your spouse without flipping your lid.Ways to lead with a team approach and an "us against the world" attitude with your spouse.
We hope you download the pdf files that go along with these episodes (found in show notes below) and use them in your small groups, with your spouse, or as a companion guide to the content.
Show Notes:
How Marriage is Saving Me: Sign up for weekly devotional
https://shorturl.at/NtnCq
Download the free discussion guide pdf for the Summer Series. https://www.famousathome.com/summerseriessignup
Ladies, register now for Tender & Fierce!
https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierce
Men, join the interest list for our exciting, upcoming men's discipleship journey! https://www.famousathome.com/mensinterestform
Order a copy of Famous at Home:
https://amzn.to/3VYPKLP
Watch this episode on Youtube by clicking here.
https://youtu.be/WQjPuCAACfk
Time stamps:
(0:15) Introduction
(5:21) Hard topics we have in our marriage
(6:25) Hard topics: In-laws, holidays, kids, sex, insecurity, habits, schedules, money, faith
(9:50) The dance of being offended and flipping into defensive mode
(14:56) Defending our idols at the expense of the relationship
(18:12) Picking a fight when you need attention
(20:03) 1. Start with connection
(21:30) 2. Set the tone
(23:35) 3. Lead with a team approach
(23:24) 4. Own your part
(25:00) 5. Come with the solution, not the problem
(25:30) How to pray and bring the authority of heaven into the conversation
(29:00) We, therefore, IâŚare you in?
(31:15) Subduing division and praying goodness into conversation -
Welcome to episode 2 of 5 in our Summer Series called, Cultivating an Emotionally Healthy Marriage.
What is emotional safety? And how do you cultivate an emotionally safe marriage? In this episode, Josh and Christi define and describe emotional safety, talk about what an elephant is in marriage, and how to be your true self in hard conversations with your spouse.
They talk about:
Approaching conversations in love rather than fearHaving an "us against the world" mindsetHow to talk to your spouse about feeling emotionally safe
We hope you download the pdf files that go along with these episodes (found in show notes below) and use them in your small groups, with your spouse, or as a companion guide to the content.
Show Notes:
How Marriage is Saving Me: Sign up for weekly devotional
https://shorturl.at/NtnCq
Download the free discussion guide pdf for the Summer Series. https://www.famousathome.com/summerseriessignup
Ladies, register now for Tender & Fierce!
https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierce
Men, join the interest list for our exciting, upcoming men's discipleship journey! https://www.famousathome.com/mensinterestform
Order a copy of Famous at Home:
https://amzn.to/3VYPKLP
Watch this episode on Youtube by clicking here.
https://youtu.be/PWqMTfAmFWQ
Marriage Coaching with Josh and Christi:
https://www.famousathome.com/coaching
Time stamps:
(0:55) Introduction
(3:42) What is emotional safety?
(6:48) Evaluating emotional safety in your marriage
(11:45) How emotional safety plays itself out in marriage
(13:40) Addressing elephants in marriage
(14:30) Why we numb and avoid each other
(15:48) Introducing safety back into the system
(21:18) Emotional safety and relationship with God
(21:48) Practical ways to reset nervous system even if your spouse is not on board
(24:30) Disclaimer on physical safety
(24:58) Continued ways to reset nervous system and introduce safety
(27:24) Talking about sex in marriage
(31:05) The hope and practical ways of introducing safety back into the marriage
(35:25) Taking fear out of a marriage conversation, no matter the topic -
Welcome to episode 1 of 5 in our Summer Series called, Cultivating an Emotionally Healthy Marriage.
Have you and your spouse ever looked at each other and wondered, "Who did we marry?" Lewis Smedes once said, "My wife has lived with at least five different men since we were wedâand each of the five has been me." It's amazing how much we change: sometimes for the worse, sometimes for the better.
In this episode, Josh and Christi talk about the various "seasons" we go through as individuals and how those "seasons" influence our marriage. They also talk about practical ways to enter into your spouse's world in the good, bad, and ugly.
They talk about:
How to prioritize what's going on within your spouse's heart more than what's going on between the two of youWays to empathetically step into your spouse's worldPractical ways to dream with your spouse and offer affirmation We hope you download the pdf files that go along with these episodes (found in show notes below) and use them in your small groups, with your spouse, or as a companion guide to the content.
Show Notes:
How Marriage is Saving Me: Sign up for weekly devotional
https://shorturl.at/NtnCq
Download the free discussion guide pdf for the Summer Series. https://www.famousathome.com/summerseriessignup
Ladies, register now for Tender & Fierce!
https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierce
Men, join the interest list for our exciting, upcoming men's discipleship journey! https://www.famousathome.com/mensinterestform
Order a copy of Famous at Home:
https://amzn.to/3VYPKLP
Watch this episode on Youtube by clicking here.
https://youtu.be/MtMd2VDX9eI
Time stamps:
(0:43) Introduction
(4:10) The versions of Josh that Christi has been married to
(7:57) The single most important decision we make in this life
(8:50) How we regulate each other in marriage to get healthy
(11:35) The only way youâre going to help your spouse grow
(14:30) An example of how to honor your spouse and change yourself
(18:40) How our faith influences how we treat our spouse
(20:32) Another example of honoring your spouse
(22:41) How to affirm and receive affirmations from your spouse
(24:29) Embracing curiosity, mystery, and dreaming together
(28:24) Navigating the seasons of marriage
(31:15) Subscribe to weekly devotional
(32:00) Practical exercise for moving forward together
(34:55) Getting to the âwhyâ of the interest in the other person -
Welcome to episode 5 of 5 in our first Summer Series called, On Becoming Great Parents. We hope you download the pdf files that go along with these episodes (found in show notes below) and use them in your small groups, with your spouse, or as a companion guide to the content.
As a parent, what are we truly aiming for? What really is the goal of all this stuff we put into a bucket called âparenting?â And, at a deeper level, have I thought about how my own spiritual journey influences how my children live out their faith and find purpose for how they live their lives? Does this matter to me as I think about how Iâm engaging the task of âparenting?â
In this episode, Josh talks about what he's learning from his own spiritual journey right now and proposes a developmental spiritual growth model for fathers and mothers that moves us from a journey of being self-focused (fear) to others-focused (joy).
They are:
Becoming (internal healing and growth).
Present (external presence where others feel seen).
In community (inviting others into our journey).
Show Notes:
Download the free discussion guide pdf for the Summer Series. https://www.famousathome.com/summerseriessignup
Ladies, register now for Tender & Fierce!
https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierce
Men, join the interest list for our exciting, upcoming men's discipleship journey! https://www.famousathome.com/mensinterestform
Order a copy of Famous at Home:
https://amzn.to/3VYPKLP
Watch this episode on Youtube by clicking here.
https://youtu.be/wMDPVC6BDsc
Time stamps:
(0:50) Introduction of topic
(3:28) What really matters when it comes to raising our kids?
(6:15) Whatâs warring against us in raising our children?
(7:08) Josh tells story of a revelation he got and how itâs shifting how he fathers
(10:30) Fear, gratitude, and the neurobiology of our experiences based on Philippians 4
(14:25) How are we experiencing Jesus in the here-and-now?
(15:55) What happens when we pay attention to every detail and person we encounter
(18:20) How the study of heaven influences how we parent and interact with others
(19:50) Brennan Manningâs insight on true-self versus false-self
(23:40) Introduction of the three stages of spiritual development of a parent
(24:14) Stage 1: âBecomingâ
(28:30) What is the will of God for our lives?
(30:45) Stage 2: âPresentâ
(32:55) Stage 3: âIn Communityâ
(34:30) The types of people we surround ourselves with -
Welcome to episode 4 of 5 in our first Summer Series called, On Becoming Great Parents. We hope you download the pdf files that go along with these episodes (found in show notes below) and use them in your small groups, with your spouse, or as a companion guide to the content.
In this episode, Christi talks to Josh about honor, our identity as parents, and how the tension of letting our yes be yes and our no be no. This conversation was unscripted and heartfelt, as Christi got to the heart of how Josh sees his role as a father.
Josh and Christi talk about:
What it means to honor up and cast vision down through the generations How to level up what you've been given from your parents without living in denial about the holes that were left from your upbringingLetting your yes be yes and no be no and how to show up for our kids in a way they feel seen Show Notes:
Download the free discussion guide pdf for the Summer Series. https://www.famousathome.com/summerseriessignup
Ladies, register now for Tender & Fierce!
https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierce
Men, join the interest list for our exciting, upcoming men's discipleship journey! https://www.famousathome.com/mensinterestform
Order a copy of Famous at Home: https://amzn.to/3VYPKLP
Order a copy of Jon Tyson's book, The Intentional Father: https://amzn.to/3KUyrVQ
Watch this episode on Youtube by clicking here.
https://youtu.be/HAK-G8a5VTg
Time stamps:
(1:02) Introduction
(4:30) Fruitfulness comes with a cost
(6:30) What Josh's dad gave him
(9:24) Fatherhood and identity
(11:02) The lack of regret when we say yes to our kids
(12:12) Honoring our parents
(14:50) Honor doesnât live in denial
(15:00) Why it's important to return blessing to our kids
(18:18) The lesson Josh learned about generational blessing from his grandfather and what each of us can take from it
(22:45) Josh talks the greatest lessons he's learned from mentors through the years
(24:45) Honor up; cast vision down
(26:56) Josh talks about the vision he has for his family and how to view identity as a parent
(30:08) Jesus addressed idols of the day
(32:20) What is your most difficult hurdle as a father right now? On showing up well for our kids
(35:23) As a father, Iâm aiming for this one thing... - Se mer
