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In our final episode for 2024, Steve and I sat down for what has become a cherished tradition: our annual Partner Reflections. This is a practice we hold close to our hearts because itâs about more than just looking back on the yearâitâs about truly seeing each other.
During this time, we reflect on what weâve observed in the other person throughout the year. We share where we saw them grow, the challenges they faced, what weâre proud of in them, and what we hope for them in the year to come. Itâs not just about acknowledgment; itâs about creating a space where we both feel deeply noticed, valued, and appreciated for who we are and who weâre becoming.
This process is raw and real, and it always deepens our love and connection. Thereâs something incredibly powerful about hearing your partner articulate what theyâve noticed in youânot in passing, but with intentionality and care. It reminds us that weâre paying attention to each other, even in the busyness of life, and that weâre rooting for one another every step of the way.
We hope sharing this inspires you to try your own version of Partner Reflections. Itâs a beautiful way to close the year with gratitude and connection and set the foundation for more love, growth, and alignment in the year ahead.
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In this episode, Iâm sharing my theme for 2024: Plentiful. When this word came to me, it felt expansive, almost too big for the version of me who was used to letting things in just a little at a time. But I knew it was the one. Plentifulâexisting in or yielding great quantities, abundantâmoved through my life in ways my little ego self couldnât predict but my soul knew what was needed.
This theme cracked my heart open to what I had been rationingâlove, freedom, joy, celebration, peace, pleasure. Things Iâd been allowing in smaller doses, as if I didnât deserve the fullness of them. But Plentiful asked me to stop limiting myself. It asked me to welcome and accept these things in abundance, not just when it felt safe or earned, but as my birthright.
It hasnât always been comfortable. Letting in abundance means facing the parts of yourself that resist it. But the more I leaned into this theme, the more I realised how much beauty and growth comes when you stop holding back and start saying yes to more.
As you listen to this episode, I invite you to reflect: What was your theme for 2024? What are you ready to welcome into your life in greater quantities? What would it look like to fully embrace it, even when it feels bigger than what youâre used to? Letâs walk into the new year together, hearts wide open.
EP Starting the year with clear intention
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In this episode of Ask Kat & Steve, we addressed a question from one of our listeners, Carole, about finding a mature manâsomething I know so many people can relate to. Steve shared some real gold from his dating experiences, talking about how he learned to be more intentional in how he approached dating. Early on, he realised the importance of vetting people better: asking deeper questions, jumping on a FaceTime call sooner rather than later, and paying attention to the vibe and connection right away.
But what really stood out was the clarity he brought to the process. Steve talked about setting a clear intention for the kind of energy he wanted in a partner. It wasnât just about swiping based on looksâit was about looking deeper and trusting his intuition. That focus kept him from wasting time and energy on matches that didnât align with what he was genuinely looking for.
For me, I shared how, for a long time, I attracted immature menâboys, reallyâbecause of where I was coming from. If I was feeling needy, Iâd choose someone who reinforced that dynamic. And if I was in a hyper-independent phase, Iâd attract people who might have been right, but I was closed. It wasnât until I got more comfortable in myselfâmore grounded and alignedâthat I started to see things more clearly. I could read the red flags, tune into my gut, and choose not to date someone if it didnât feel right, rather than trying to force something that wasnât there in the first place.
This conversation wasnât just about dating tips; it was about the energy we bring to relationships and how that shapes who we attract. Whether youâre swiping on apps or meeting people in real life, it all starts with how well you know and trust yourself. Thatâs where the real shift happens.
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In this episode, Iâm sharing an update on my perimenopause journey, thanks to a member of my community asking the question. It's been a chapter of life that has been anything but predictable. Working with Dr. Kirstey Holland has been a game-changer. We discovered that my progesterone levels were low, which caused my estrogen levels to spike. The result? Mood swings that left me feeling completely unrecognisable, heavy periods, moments of rage, crying on the bathroom floor, and just this deep sense of being not me.
Since starting on progesterone cream and a stack of supplements to address my gut health, itâs like Iâve found my way back to myself. My digestion is functioning well, the bloating is gone, the brain fog has lifted, my libido is back, and my mood feels steady. For the most part, Iâm asymptomatic, which feels like a massive win considering where I started.
That said, thereâs one thing that still throws me: the forgetfulness. It sneaks up on me in moments when Iâm speaking or being interviewed, and it shakes my confidence. I catch myself feeling embarrassed or even stupid, which can be hard to shake. But this is a part of the cycle, and Iâm learning to meet it with kindness rather than frustration. This stage of life is teaching me patience, humility, and how to trust my body as it shifts and changes.
If youâre navigating perimenopause, know this: youâre not alone, and thereâs help out there. Itâs about finding what works for you, paying attention to what your bodyâs telling you, and giving yourself grace as you figure it out. This isnât a chapter we need to go through in silence. Letâs talk about it.
Episode #278 with Dr Kirstey Holland
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In this episode of *Ask Kat & Steve*, we answered a listenerâs question about navigating the complexities of blended families. She asked how to handle the difficult, messy moments and how to eventually feel like she fits in as part of a real and authentic family. This is a question that hits home for us because weâve lived it, and we know how challenging those âickâ moments can feel when everything seems out of sync.
Steve and I shared the key principles we come back to time and again: honest communication and understanding the unique dynamics of the kids in the family. Itâs about paying attention to their triggers, quirks, and egosâknowing what sets them off and how to bring them back to their relaxed, authentic state of being. Itâs not about fixing them but holding space for who they are while remaining grounded ourselves. No easy feat may I add!
We also talked about the work we do on ourselves, which is the foundation for everything. If weâre not checking in with our own triggers and patterns, we canât show up as the united front the kids need. Blended families arenât about pretending to be perfect or forcing connection; itâs about consistently doing the work to build trust, create safety, and let the relationships evolve naturally. Itâs a beautiful mess.
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In this episode, I share about a recent rupture between Mia, my bonus daughter, and me. It wasnât a blow-up or anything dramatic, but it was one of those subtle disconnects that can quietly erode a relationship if left unchecked. Sheâd been popping in every day before and after school when she was with her mum, and while I love her , I found myself withdrawingânot because I didnât want her around, but because I wasnât voicing my own needs. The energy I was shutting down felt wrong, felt inauthentic, and I knew I had to address it.
So, we went for a walk. Walking often helps open up the conversation in a way sitting across a table canât. I asked her why she pops in every day, and she explained how much those moments mean to her, because she misses us. I shared honestly how those pop-ins impact meâwhen Iâm in the middle of something important with work or needing quiet time. That conversation opened up something in both of us. We werenât trying to defend ourselves; we were just hearing each other out.
What came next was so simple yet so powerful. By acknowledging each otherâs feelings and needs, we were able to agree on something that worked for both of us. It wasnât about compromise in a way where someone had to lose. It was about meeting in the middle from a place of mutual respect and care. That repair felt real, grounded, and authentic, and it goes to show every damn time that facing these rupturesâno matter how uncomfortableâis what keeps relationships healthy and alive.
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In this episode, Steve and I are breaking down the decision we made to sleep separately, which, at first, was just about his snoring. It was disrupting our nights, leaving me on edge, waiting to see if I'd get a full night's sleep or end up dragging myself through the next day. But as we moved into this new setup, we realised it was about much more than just noise.
The truth is, we both need different things at the end of the day. Steve winds down with a show or something on his screen, giving him that moment of mental break. Iâm the opposite. I want quiet, my salt lamp, a candle, and a book that pulls me away from everything external. And I like being in bed by 9 pm, whereas he naturally leans into a later night. Our decision to sleep apart evolved into something we didnât expect â we could actually honor our individual needs without it taking anything away from us as a couple.
And hereâs the thing: we love it! Since making this change, weâre more connected because we're not hating on each other. Thereâs no underlying frustration, no waiting for someone else to adjust or sacrifice their comfort. We cuddle when we want to, weâre close in the mornings, and both of us wake up fresher, more grounded. Itâs not a sign of distance; itâs a deeper respect for what each of us needs to be at our best, so that when weâre together, weâre fully there. For anyone feeling boxed in by what they think a relationship *should* look like, this is a reminder: authenticity doesnât follow a rulebook.
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Todayâs episode speaks to those quiet, insistent yearnings in our heartsâthe ones we often overlook or silence because they seem too risky, or even impossible. These yearnings are like markers, guiding us toward authentic living, toward a life and self that truly feel like âhome.â Yet, too often, old pains and familiar wounds override these inner pulls. We get trapped in predictable patterns, repeating behaviors we think will protect us but really only keep us confined, far from the life weâd love to live.
This is something Iâve experienced firsthand, how the wounds we carry have a way of weaving into our habits, and they convince us that staying put, sticking to what we know, is the safest option. But whatâs at stake when we keep ignoring our deepest yearnings? The cost is our authenticityâour ability to live and express who we genuinely are, free from the masks and patterns we hide behind.
In todayâs episode, Iâm here to speak directly to that part of youâthe one thatâs ready to consider, or even take, the next step toward living a life aligned with who you are at your core. It might feel confronting or uncomfortable, but that discomfort is a signal that something real is knocking, something that wants to be heard and finally acknowledged.
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So, here's the thing. We all make promises, right? Promises to ourselves about showing up, doing the things we say matter to us, and yet sometimesâespecially when weâre tired, grumpy, or just not feeling itâwe slack off. I had one of those mornings. Crap sleep, not in the mood, and all I wanted to do was skip my 3-good-minute practice. I almost didnât do it. But in those three minutesâliterally just three minutesâeverything shifted. I was reminded of just how much those small, oh-so-little practices actually are treasure for the soul. Theyâre not just âhabitsâ or âthings to tick off the list.â Theyâre a way to reconnect, to remind ourselves of who we are, and what we care about.
That got me thinkingâwhere are we placing our fucks? Are we giving our energy to the promises we said we'd make matter? And if not, why? Why do we say these things are important but then ditch them when the mood doesnât feel right? Itâs in these little moments, these small practices, that we build the foundation for the big things. And when we keep skipping them, what weâre really skipping is the chance to nourish ourselves on a deeper level.
After my 3-good-minute practice, a message came through so clearly: itâs the simple things that do funny things to our hearts. Moments like watching the moonâs shine, the stars, the wind moving through a plant, and it hit meâthose simple, quiet moments have so much more to offer than the ego could ever recognize. Theyâre where the magic is. So, no matter how tired, grumpy, or off I am, Iâll keep showing up for those three good minutes because they move me in ways I canât even explain. And I bet theyâll do the same for you if you give them a chance.
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In today's episode I talk about the rhythms of life and why itâs so damn important to recognize and respect them. Life isnât meant to be lived in a constant sprint, nor is it about chilling in sloth mode all the time. Itâs about knowing when to sprint, when to run, when to jog, when to walk, and when to just sit the fuck down and embrace the nothingness. Each rhythm has its own place and purpose, and if weâre always stuck in one gear, we end up paying the priceâwhether itâs burnout or letting our dreams slip through the cracks.
Coming off the back of my book launch and tour, Iâm deep in this right now. The pace has shifted. Iâve hit that phase where Iâm taking a slow-ass walk, and itâs exactly what I need. I could easily get caught up in the momentum and keep running, but I know better. If I push myself to sprint after months of nonstop effort, my well-being will suffer. And letâs be real, whatâs the point of all the success if Iâm too exhausted to actually enjoy it? The slow walk isnât about being lazy or slacking off; itâs about preserving my energy and recalibrating before the next push. Itâs intentional. Itâs necessary.
Itâs not always easy, though. Thereâs a little voice in my head saying, âYou should be doing more,â trying to convince me that if Iâm not moving at full speed, Iâm somehow failing. But Iâm choosing to trust the rhythm Iâm in right now because I know whatâs at stake if I donât. Thereâs a cost to living in a constant sprintâitâs your well-being, your peace of mind. But thereâs also a cost to staying in the land of âsit back and wait,â where youâre not pushing at all, and thatâs the cost of your potential, your dreams, your growth.
So, wherever youâre at in the rhythm of your life, honor it. If you need to sprint, give it everything youâve got. If youâre in a walking phase like I am right now, lean into it. The rhythm will change, as it always does, but what matters is that youâre paying attention to the pace your life is calling for.
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In today's episode I talk about the rhythms of life and why itâs so damn important to recognise and respect them. Life isnât meant to be lived in a constant sprint, nor is it about chilling in sloth mode all the time. Itâs about knowing when to sprint, when to run, when to jog, when to walk, and when to just sit the fuck down and embrace the nothingness. Each rhythm has its own place and purpose, and if weâre always stuck in one gear, we end up paying the priceâwhether itâs burnout or letting our dreams slip through the cracks.
Coming off the back of my book launch and tour, Iâm deep in this right now. The pace has shifted. Iâve hit that phase where Iâm taking a slow-ass walk, and itâs exactly what I need. I could easily get caught up in the momentum and keep running, but I know better. If I push myself to sprint after months of nonstop effort, my well-being will suffer. And letâs be real, whatâs the point of all the success if Iâm too exhausted to actually enjoy it? The slow walk isnât about being lazy or slacking off; itâs about preserving my energy and recalibrating before the next push. Itâs intentional. Itâs necessary.
Itâs not always easy, though. Thereâs a little voice in my head saying, âYou should be doing more,â trying to convince me that if Iâm not moving at full speed, Iâm somehow failing. But Iâm choosing to trust the rhythm Iâm in right now because I know whatâs at stake if I donât. Thereâs a cost to living in a constant sprintâitâs your well-being, your peace of mind. But thereâs also a cost to staying in the land of âsit back and wait,â where youâre not pushing at all, and thatâs the cost of your potential, your dreams, your growth.
So, wherever youâre at in the rhythm of your life, honor it. If you need to sprint, give it everything youâve got. If youâre in a walking phase like I am right now, lean into it. The rhythm will change, as it always does, but what matters is that youâre paying attention to the pace your life is calling for.Support the show
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Steve and I had one of those weeks where we both found ourselves caught up in focusing on what wasnât going right, what was missing, or what we thought we should be doing better. It happens, right? You get into a headspace where youâre just seeing everything through this lens of ânot enough.â And when youâre in that space, itâs not just you who feels it; it impacts the whole dynamic. We were both touchy and disconnected, almost like roommates just getting by.
Then we decided to actually talk about it, whichâletâs be honestâcan be hard to do when youâre in that kind of mindset. But as soon as we acknowledged what was going on, it was like a weight lifted. We decided to make a conscious shift, focusing on what we do have and whatâs right here, right now. And it changed everything. It didnât just lighten our moods; it lifted the whole vibe in the house.
That night turned into one of those spontaneous, beautiful moments where we found ourselves singing, dancing, and just being present with each other. It wasnât planned or forced; it was just a natural result of deciding to show up differently. It reminded me how quickly things can turn around when youâre willing to shift your perspectiveâeven just a little bit. Sometimes, itâs the smallest adjustments that lead to the most significant changes.
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I want to share some real-life updates with you â the and-ness of life. My life right now is amazing. My book is out there, Iâm working with incredible clients, and I feel deeply aligned with my purpose. But hereâs the thing â alongside all of that, my old patterns still show up. Those sneaky thoughts that want to pull me back into old ways of thinking, like doubting myself, or feeling like I need to rush to get "there" â whatever 'there' is.
This podcast episode is about embracing both: the highs and the challenges. Life isnât about waiting to reach some destination where everythingâs perfect. Itâs about recognising that great things can happen while difficult things are happening too. Iâm in the very practice right now that itâs okay to hold space for both â to feel gratitude for the good, and at the same time, navigate the hard stuff without making it mean Iâm doing something wrong.
Weâre so conditioned to think life should be all sunshine or all storm â but thatâs not the whole picture. Itâs the and-ness of life that we need to normalise. We can be thriving in one area while still working through old patterns in another. Itâs all part of the ride. So, letâs talk about how we can navigate this together without constantly chasing the illusion of âthere.â Weâre already here, and thatâs more than enough.
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Lately, Steve and I have been making a real effort to focus on gratitude, and itâs been a game changer. Itâs easy to fall into the trap of noticing what the other hasnât done, isnât doing, or the little habits that get under your skin. But with gratitude, it shifts where our attention goes. Instead of zeroing in on whatâs missing, weâre paying attention to whatâs right in front of usâwhat we *are* doing for each other.
Itâs not fluffy or forced, either. Gratitude isnât about pretending everything is perfect, but it keeps us from getting stuck in the usual patterns of taking things for granted. Steve doesnât need to do anything huge to make me feel appreciated. Itâs the small stuff, like how heâll step up and do something I didnât expect, or even just his consistency that I mightâve overlooked before. When I take a second to actually notice, it shifts my mindset from irritation to, "Yeah, heâs got my back."
And the thing is, when we make gratitude a habit, it creates less space for resentment to build. We all have annoying habits or things we forget to do, but when weâre genuinely practicing gratitude, those things donât seem as big of a deal. It keeps the focus on whatâs working, and we end up appreciating each other more for it. Itâs not magic, but it definitely helps keep things in perspective.
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Perimenopauseâwho knew this was even a thing? Not me! I always thought menopause was something that just suddenly happened when you hit a certain age, but perimenopause? Thatâs a whole different beast, and Iâm right in the thick of it. Itâs like this sneaky, slow-motion transition where your body starts doing things you never expected, and youâre left wondering what the hell is going on.
Iâve been navigating it as best as I can, but let me tell you, it hasnât been easy. There are days when I feel like Iâm losing my mindâliterally. The brain fog, the mood swings, the physical changesâit's all so intense. Itâs like my body is rewriting the rulebook, and I didnât get the memo. Iâve been sharing these frustrations openly on Instagram because, honestly, I had no idea this was even a thing, and I know Iâm not alone. If I can shine a light on what perimenopause really looks like, maybe itâll help someone else feel a little less lost.
Thankfully, Iâve called in the big gunsâDr. Kirstey Holland. Sheâs been an absolute game-changer, helping me get my gut, brain, and hormones back to some kind of new normal. Itâs a journey, and itâs not about getting back to the old me, but finding a new balance, a new way of being in this body thatâs changing whether I like it or not. Iâm learning to work with these changes, rather than against them, and itâs been a real lesson in patience, acceptance, and finding new ways to care for myself.
If youâre in this with me, just know youâre not alone, and itâs okay to reach out for help. This isnât something we have to navigate on our own, and thereâs power in sharing our stories and supporting each other through it.
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Lately, I've been reflecting on what truly makes a relationship successful, and one thing stands out: in a strong, healthy relationship, you never try to bring the other person down when they're shining in their light. Instead, you lift them up, cheer them on, and celebrate their successes as if they were your own. As I'm gearing up for the launch of my book, I've been feeling this more than ever, especially with Steve, my husband, by my side.
Steve has been my #1 cheerleader through this entire process. There hasnât been a single drop of insecurity or jealousyâjust pure, unwavering support. Heâs the first to encourage me, to remind me of how far I've come, and to push me to keep going when I start doubting myself. Itâs a kind of support that makes me feel even more connected to him because I know he's genuinely happy to see me succeed.
In moments like these, I realize just how lucky I am to have a partner who is not only secure in himself but also deeply invested in our shared journey. Steveâs encouragement has allowed me to shine even brighter, knowing that heâs right there with me, cheering me on every step of the way. It's a reminder that in the best relationships, you both rise together, and that kind of love and support is what truly makes a partnership thrive.
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Recently, I found myself journaling about the phrase "all in good time." As I was writing, I noticed how much my ego wanted to rush, push, and brute force my way through the process. There was this constant sense of urgency and impatience, a nagging feeling that if I didn't hurry, everything would fall apart. Beneath this impatience, I recognized a deeper, more profound fear of failure, especially with the launch of my book.
The pressure I was putting on myself was immense. I felt like I had to get everything right, and get it right quickly. My mind was racing with thoughts of deadlines, expectations, and the endless to-do lists that seemed to grow longer by the minute. In the midst of this chaos, the simple phrase "all in good time" emerged. It was like a gentle reminder from a wiser, calmer part of myself to slow down and trust the process.
These four wordsâ"all in good time"âbecame a mantra that helped ease the angst and stress I was feeling. Every time I felt the urge to rush or push too hard, I would remind myself of this phrase. It acted as an anchor, keeping me grounded and bringing me back to the present moment. I realized that success doesn't come from forcing things to happen, but from allowing them to unfold naturally and organically.
By embracing "all in good time," I've been able to release some of the pressure and find a more balanced, peaceful approach to my work. Itâs a reminder that everything has its own pace, and that forcing things often leads to burnout and frustration. This mindset has kept me close to the ground, more connected to my purpose, and less caught up in the whirlwind of my egoâs demands. It's a lesson I'm grateful for, and one that I hope to carry with me as I continue on this journey.
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Lately, I've been immersing myself in the art of listening, and it's been a transformative journey. I started journaling about my experiences with listening, prompted by Julia Cameron's book The Listening Path. Her insights have guided me to pay closer attention not only to the words people say but also to the deeper meanings and emotions behind them. Through my journaling, I've begun to notice patterns in my own listening habits, especially within my family dynamics.
One of the biggest revelations has been realising how often I cut people off, especially my family members. I catch myself assuming what they're going to say next or tuning out when I think I already know the gist of their message. Journaling about these moments has helped me become more aware of them. It's humbling to see how these habits can create distance in our relationships and prevent truly meaningful connections.
By consciously working on these tendencies, I'm learning to be a better listener towards the people I love, allowing them to fully express themselves without interruption. This practice has not only deepened my relationships but also enriched my understanding of those around me. It's amazing how much more you can learn about someone when you genuinely listen without jumping to conclusions or planning your response while they're still talking.
I invite you to join me on this journey of becoming a better listener. Pay attention to how you listen to othersânotice when you might be cutting them off, assuming their next sentence, or tuning out. Journaling about these observations can be a powerful tool to deepen your own relationship with listening. It's a practice that has the potential to transform not only how we connect with others but also how we understand and connect with ourselves.
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I wrote this question down in my journal, played this song, closed my eyes, and let the answers find me.
The reason this question came up was due to writing the date, June 30th, at the top of my page and I thought, "wow, halfway through this year. How would I love the rest of it to be?" Then the question opened itself to the 'it' being 'life itself'.
Here's what came about ...
IMPACT - having major effect.
MEANINGFUL - worthwhile.
JOYFUL - great pleasure and happiness.
INTENTIONAL - done on purpose.
As I looked over my writings I thought, "shit yeah, that's how I'd love it to be! How great it would be to have major effect in the lives of my family, friends, loved ones and the world. To live a life that is worthwhile, create work in the world that is worthwhile. To do as such with great pleasure and happiness, and, on purpose.
This photo below sums the above up neatly. It was taken right after I finished recording my audiobook. This book has impact, meaning, was created on purpose, and written and recorded with great pleasure and happiness.
It begs the question, could all things be done this way? I'll come back to you on that.
Truly, how would you love it (your life) to be? And what would be your next best step to bring that way of life a little closer to you?
I'd love to read your insights and shares if you feel compelled to do so.
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Unhealed wounds from our past shape the personalities we present to the world, often causing us to make choices that align more with our trauma than with our true selves. These wounds can manifest as insecurities, fears, and defenses that influence how we interact with others and perceive our place in the world. When we don't address these wounds, we often wear masks that hide our authentic selves, leading us to make decisions based on the need for validation, acceptance, or protection rather than what truly resonates with our core values and desires.
I recently watched the series Dropout about Elizabeth Holmes, and it struck me how vividly it illustrated this point. Holmes, once a passionate innovator, gradually lost touch with her true essence. In her quest to become someone "important," she made choices that prioritized external success over internal integrity. This shift not only led to her downfall but also highlighted the dangers of losing sight of what is genuinely important.When we make choices from our unhealed selves, we often end up pursuing paths that don't truly satisfy us or align with our deepest values. However, when we take the time to heal and reconnect with our true selves, our decisions become more authentic and fulfilling. Choices made from our true essence are guided by inner wisdom and genuine desires, leading us to a life that feels more aligned, purposeful, and meaningful. The contrast between living from our unhealed wounds and our authentic selves is profound, and the journey towards healing is not just beneficial but essential for living a truly fulfilling life.
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