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  • The Lie of Arrival – Why You’ll Never ‘Get There’ (and That’s a Good Thing)

    The Lie of Arrival – Why You’ll Never ‘Get There’ (and That’s a Good Thing)

    · Living and Loving Your Life with Chantel Allen

    Episode Summary:
    Ever feel like you’re never where you’re supposed to be? Like no matter how much you accomplish, grow, or heal, you’re always looking ahead to the next thing?

    That’s because arrival—that moment where you finally feel like you’ve “made it”—doesn’t actually exist.

    In this episode, we’re breaking down:
    ✅ Why the idea of arrival is an illusion (and how it keeps you stuck)
    ✅ How your mind constantly moves the finish line, making it impossible to feel like you’re “there”
    ✅ The simple but powerful shift that helps you stop chasing and start experiencing life
    ✅ Three practical ways to shift out of proving and into being

    If you’ve ever felt like you’re running on an endless treadmill, chasing something just out of reach—this episode is for you.

    Key Takeaways:

    🔹 Arrival is a myth. No one ever “gets there” because the mind keeps shifting where “there” is.
    🔹 If you feel like you’re never enough, it’s not because you’re behind—it’s because you’re chasing an illusion.
    🔹 The secret? Noticing the micro-moments of arrival that are already happening.
    🔹 The path to fulfillment isn’t about reaching some final goal—it’s about actually being present for the journey.

    Practical Next Steps:

    1️⃣ Catch yourself chasing arrival. When you think, “I’ll be happy when…”—pause. Ask, “Is this actually true?”
    2️⃣ Celebrate micro-moments. Instead of waiting for a huge achievement, start recognizing when you’re already showing up as the person you want to be.
    3️⃣ Ask yourself: What if I never ‘get there’? If nothing changed, could you still be content? How would you live differently if you weren’t chasing a finish line?

    👉 Need help shifting out of the cycle of proving and into real fulfillment? I have a few 1:1 coaching spots open for those ready to go deeper. Let’s talk → sign up with this link here.

    Let me know your thoughts! DM me on Instagram @chantelallencoaching
  • Feel It to Free It: The Secret to Emotional Release

    Feel It to Free It: The Secret to Emotional Release

    · Living and Loving Your Life with Chantel Allen

    Ever feel like you’re stuck in an endless loop of stress, frustration, or sadness—no matter how much “inner work” you do? You’re not alone.

    The truth is, most of us think we’re processing our emotions when really, we’re just dancing around them—analyzing, intellectualizing, or pushing them aside. The key to true emotional freedom? Feeling your emotions fully so they can actually move through you.

    In this episode, I’m breaking down:
    ✔️ Why emotions get “stuck” and keep repeating
    ✔️ The sneaky way mindfulness can turn into emotional avoidance
    ✔️ A simple but powerful exercise to process and release emotions in real time
    ✔️ How to stop carrying old emotional baggage and finally let it go
    ✔️ The key difference between feeling an emotion and replaying a story

    ✨ BONUS: If you want to take this work deeper, join my FREE 7-Day Emotion Detox Challenge where I’ll walk you through daily practices to clear stuck emotions and reconnect with yourself. Sign up here: I'm in!

    🚀 Listen now and learn how to feel it to free it!

    📩 Let’s connect! If this episode resonated, send me a DM on Instagram @chantelallencoaching and let me know what clicked for you! I’d love to hear.

    🎧 Subscribe & Review: Love the podcast? Leave a review—it helps more people find this work!

    🔗 Resources Mentioned:

    7-Day Emotion Detox Challenge

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  • You're Not Fine- You're Just Ignoring Yourself

    You're Not Fine- You're Just Ignoring Yourself

    · Living and Loving Your Life with Chantel Allen

    Episode Summary:
    You know that moment when you tell yourself, “I’m fine,” but deep down, you know you’re anything but? Yeah… that’s what we’re diving into today.

    In this episode, we’re exposing the sneaky ways you override your own emotions, how that’s keeping you stuck in the same cycles, and why your body knows before your brain does. If you’re feeling exhausted, overwhelmed, or struggling to make decisions—this is for you.

    By the end of this episode, you’ll have a simple yet powerful shift to start trusting yourself again (without overthinking it).

    🎧 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
    ✔️ How ignoring your body’s signals leads to burnout & exhaustion
    ✔️ The surprising reason you keep repeating the same patterns
    ✔️ Why decision-making feels impossible (and how to break the cycle)
    ✔️ A simple mindset shift to stop overriding your emotions and access clarity

    📢 Join the 7-Day Emotion Detox Challenge!
    If this episode hit home for you, you NEED the 7-Day Emotion Detox Challenge. We start March 24, and it’s completely FREE.

    This challenge is all about clearing out the emotional backlog that’s keeping you stuck—so you can release the stress, stop second-guessing yourself, and finally move forward with confidence.

    📲 Sign up now: I'm in

    👀 DM me “detox” on Instagram (@chantelallencoaching) if you want me to send you the link!

    📌 Resources & Links:
    ✨ Follow me on Instagram: @chantelallencoaching
    ✨ Join the 7-Day Emotion Detox Challenge: I'm in
    ✨ Share this episode with a friend who needs it!

    🚀 Loved this episode? Let me know! Leave a review, send me a DM, or tag me in your IG stories. Let’s break this cycle together. 💛

  • The Hidden Cost of Seeking Validation (And What to Do Instead)

    The Hidden Cost of Seeking Validation (And What to Do Instead)

    · Living and Loving Your Life with Chantel Allen

    Episode Summary:
    Do you ever feel like you need to explain yourself, prove yourself, or justify your choices—especially to family or people who just don’t get you? If you’ve ever found yourself seeking validation from others, this episode is for you.

    In this conversation, we break down:
    ✅ Why we crave validation and how it keeps us stuck
    ✅ The hidden ways we try to control others’ perceptions of us
    ✅ How to shift from seeking approval to deep self-acceptance
    ✅ A powerful exercise to help you see and validate yourself

    If you’ve ever felt unseen, unheard, or like you need to prove your worth, this episode will help you break free and find confidence from within.

    Resources & Next Steps:

    Want deeper support? Work with me 1:1 → sign up with this link here. Share this episode with a friend who needs to hear it! Let me know your thoughts! DM me on Instagram @chantelallencoaching
  • Is It an Excuse or Understanding? Why We React the Way We Do

    Is It an Excuse or Understanding? Why We React the Way We Do

    · Living and Loving Your Life with Chantel Allen

    Ever feel frustrated when people say, “That’s just your past talking” or “Your behavior is because of trauma”? Does it feel like an excuse—like a way to avoid responsibility? You’re not alone. In this episode, I break down why understanding why we react the way we do is not about making excuses—it’s about gaining the power to actually change.

    We’ll explore:
    ✅ Why trauma has become a buzzword (and why we’re shifting away from it)
    ✅ How most of our frustrating behaviors are actually about control
    ✅ A real-life coaching example of how avoiding consequences in parenting wasn’t about discipline—but about fear of disconnection
    ✅ The difference between understanding a pattern vs. making excuses
    ✅ Three practical steps to shift your behavior and break out of old cycles

    This episode is for you if:
    ✨ You feel stuck in the same patterns and don’t know why
    ✨ You beat yourself up for not “just doing better”
    ✨ You want real, practical ways to shift how you show up in your life

    Key Takeaways:
    🔹 Your reactions aren’t random—they come from patterns you developed to feel safe.
    🔹 Understanding why you do something doesn’t mean you’re off the hook—it means you finally have the power to change it.
    🔹 Next time you feel triggered, ask yourself: What am I really trying to control?
    🔹 If you’re struggling with changing a behavior, the issue isn’t discipline—it’s the fear or belief underneath it.

    Practical Next Steps:
    1️⃣ Pause when you feel triggered—instead of trying to fix the behavior, ask “What am I really afraid of?”
    2️⃣ Shift from strategy to self-awareness—instead of just trying to “do better,” explore the deeper reason behind your reaction.
    3️⃣ Stop waiting for a magic fix—real change comes from understanding, not willpower.

    Resources & Links:
    👉 Want to go deeper? If you're wanting to grab a 1:1 spot to learn how to connect more to yourself- sign up with this link here.
    👉 Connect with me on Instagram @chantelallencoaching for more real-time insights and reflections.
    👉 Loved this episode? Share it with a friend who needs this reminder today!

    Show Notes

  • The Hardest Person to Forgive: Yourself

    The Hardest Person to Forgive: Yourself

    · Living and Loving Your Life with Chantel Allen

    Episode Summary:
    Why is it so hard to forgive ourselves? We can extend grace to others, but when it comes to our own mistakes, we hold onto guilt, shame, and regret like a punishment we think we deserve. In this episode, we’re diving deep into self-forgiveness—why it feels so impossible, what gets in the way, and how you can start releasing the weight of past mistakes so you can move forward with peace.

    We’ll also explore:
    ✅ The difference between shame and responsibility (and why shame keeps you stuck)
    ✅ Why waiting for someone else to forgive you isn’t necessary for your healing
    ✅ How unforgiveness is actually a form of control—and how to let go
    ✅ Practical steps to shift from shame to self-compassion

    If you’ve ever struggled to forgive yourself or felt like you had to prove your growth before you could move on, this episode is for you.

    🎧 Listen now and start your journey to self-forgiveness!

    If this episode resonated with you, share it with a friend who needs to hear it and leave a review—it helps more people find this message!

    Connect with Me:

    Follow me on Instagram:@chantelallencoaching for more insights and practical tools. Email: [email protected] Website: www.chantelallencoaching.com If you're wanting to grab a 1:1 spot to learn how to connect more to yourself- sign up with this link here. Share this episode with a friend who needs to hear it!

    Show Notes: Here

  • How to Recognize Love (Even When You Don’t Feel It)

    How to Recognize Love (Even When You Don’t Feel It)

    · Living and Loving Your Life with Chantel Allen
    Episode Description:

    Have you ever struggled to feel love, even though you know He loves you? You’re not alone. In today’s episode, I’m sharing a lesson I originally created for my church group—because I realized this is something we all need.

    We’ll explore:
    ✅ Why being loved isn’t the same as feeling loved
    ✅ The three biggest reasons we block ourselves from receiving love
    ✅ How God might be showing you love in ways you’re not expecting
    ✅ The powerful story of elephants (yes, elephants!) and what they teach us about love and loyalty
    ✅ Simple ways to start noticing God’s love right now

    If you’ve ever felt distant from God or wondered why love feels hard to receive, this episode is for you.

    Episode Highlights:

    🔹 Elder Hirsts talk "God's Favourite"

    Your Invitation This Week:

    💛 Look for love in a way you don’t normally expect it.
    💛 Be part of the circle—who in your life might need love right now?

    If this episode spoke to you, share it with a friend who might need this reminder today. 💛

    Connect with Me:

    Follow me on Instagram:@chantelallencoaching for more insights and practical tools. Email: [email protected] Website: www.chantelallencoaching.com If you're wanting to grab a 1:1 spot to learn how to connect more to yourself- sign up with this link here. Share this episode with a friend who needs to hear it!

    Show Notes: Here

  • The Gift in the Gap: Embracing Life’s Hard Moments for Growth

    The Gift in the Gap: Embracing Life’s Hard Moments for Growth

    · Living and Loving Your Life with Chantel Allen

    Episode Description:
    In today’s episode, we’re diving deep into why life feels so hard sometimes—and why that isn’t a problem to fix. If you’ve been feeling stuck, discouraged, or like no matter how hard you try, nothing seems to be working, this conversation is for you.

    I’ll be sharing personal stories—including a time when my own body forced me to stop—and stories from my clients that show how life’s toughest moments are often the greatest invitations for growth. Together, we’ll explore how life’s challenges reveal the gap between where we are and who we’re becoming, and why embracing that gap is key to transformation.

    You’ll walk away with practical tools to stay connected to your future self, even when life feels overwhelming. And I’ll leave you with a gentle challenge to reframe the hard moments in your life as opportunities to grow into the person you’re meant to be.

    In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

    Why feeling stuck isn’t a sign you’re failing—it’s a sign you’re growing How life’s hard moments reveal the gap between who you are and who you’re becoming The importance of slowing down and what it really means for your growth Practical tools to connect with your future self during tough times How to shift from resisting life’s challenges to embracing them as part of your journey

    Reflection Questions:

    Where in your life are you feeling the most resistance right now? What is this resistance revealing about the gap between where you are and who you want to become? How can you meet this moment with compassion and curiosity, instead of frustration?

    Let’s Stay Connected:
    If this episode resonated with you, I’d love to hear your thoughts! Share your reflections or tag me on Instagram

    Connect with Me:

    Follow me on Instagram:@chantelallencoaching for more insights and practical tools. Email: [email protected] Website: www.chantelallencoaching.com If you're wanting to grab a 1:1 spot to learn how to connect more to yourself- sign up with this link here. Share this episode with a friend who needs to hear it!

    Show Notes: Here

    And if you know someone who needs this message, send this episode their way.

    Until next time, keep being you. 💛

  • The Courage to Drift: Why You Don't Need to Know What's Next

    The Courage to Drift: Why You Don't Need to Know What's Next

    · Living and Loving Your Life with Chantel Allen

    Show Notes:
    In this episode, we dive deep into the powerful metaphor of a boat tied to a dock—safe, secure, and familiar, yet missing out on the vast, limitless adventure that lies beyond. What if the very thing holding you back from the life you desire is your need to understand and control every step before moving forward?

    We explore:

    Why letting go is the key to discovering new opportunities and growth. How fear and the need to understand are keeping you stuck. The transformative power of surrendering to life's currents and trusting the unknown. Personal reflections on learning to release control and embrace the flow of life. Practical ways to start trusting the process and letting your heart guide you.

    If you've been feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or hesitant to take the next step, this episode is for you. It's time to let go of the dock and step into the ocean of possibilities waiting for you.

    Key Takeaways:

    Discover the freedom that comes from releasing control. Understand how trust and surrender open doors to new experiences. Practical steps to overcome fear and embrace the unknown.

    Join the Conversation:
    What are you holding onto that’s keeping you from moving forward? Share your thoughts and experiences with us on social media using #UntieTheDock.

    Listen now and start your journey to truly living.

    Connect with Me:

    Follow me on Instagram:@chantelallencoaching for more insights and practical tools. Email: [email protected] Website: www.chantelallencoaching.com If you're wanting to grab a 1:1 spot to learn how to connect more to yourself- sign up with this link here. Share this episode with a friend who needs to hear it!

    Show Notes: Here

  • Letting Go of Blame: The Hidden Path to Healing

    Letting Go of Blame: The Hidden Path to Healing

    · Living and Loving Your Life with Chantel Allen

    In this episode, we're exploring a powerful idea—what if blame is just a distraction from true healing? Whether we blame others or ourselves, it's often a way to avoid deeper emotions like fear and sadness. I share my personal journey of recognizing how blame was keeping me stuck in parenting challenges and how shifting my perspective brought unexpected growth and connection.

    Join me as we unpack:

    Why our ego wants us to focus externally and stay in blame. How blame creates a false sense of control and keeps us from healing. A personal story of blame in parenting and the lessons learned. How to shift from blame to love and self-compassion. Practical ways to embrace acceptance and take back control of our emotional experience.

    If you've ever found yourself trapped in a cycle of blame, this episode is for you. Tune in and discover how to let go of blame and step into a more empowered, loving space.

    Connect with Me:

    Follow me on Instagram:@chantelallencoaching for more insights and practical tools. Email: [email protected] Website: www.chantelallencoaching.com If you're wanting to grab a 1:1 spot to learn how to connect more to yourself- sign up with this link here. Share this episode with a friend who needs to hear it!

    Show Notes: Here

  • Don’t Fix It—Feel It: The Power of Loving Your Pain

    Don’t Fix It—Feel It: The Power of Loving Your Pain

    · Living and Loving Your Life with Chantel Allen

    In this episode, we explore the transformative power of slowing down and holding our pain with love instead of rushing to fix it. Drawing from personal experiences and insights from Cory Mascara's loving-kindness practice, I share how allowing our pain to be acknowledged and held can bring freedom and healing. Whether you’re carrying shame, anxiety, or overwhelm, this episode offers practical steps to connect with yourself more deeply and respond to life with compassion.

    What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

    Why starting the year without the pressure to fix can be life-changing. How the practice of loving-kindness creates space for healing. A personal story of navigating pain as a parent and what shifted when I stopped trying to fix. Practical steps to acknowledge, hold, and release emotional tension. The role of compassion and inviting spiritual support in healing. Why resisting or controlling pain often backfires and how allowing leads to growth.

    Practical Takeaways:

    Recognize and name your pain: Pause and notice where you feel tension in your body or emotions in your heart. Get curious: Visualize the part of you that’s hurting and let it speak without judgment. Practice loving-kindness phrases: Try “May you be safe, may you feel loved, may you be free” to bring compassion to the hurting part of you. Relax into the experience: Soften the areas of tension as you sit with your emotions. Invite support: Imagine being held by a trusted figure or your Savior to create a space of love and safety.

    Connect with Me:

    Follow me on Instagram:@chantelallencoaching for more insights and practical tools. Email: [email protected] Website: www.chantelallencoaching.com If you're wanting to grab a 1:1 spot to learn how to connect more to yourself- sign up with this link here. Share this episode with a friend who needs to hear it!

    Show Notes: Here

  • You Don’t Need to Fix This Moment

    You Don’t Need to Fix This Moment

    · Living and Loving Your Life with Chantel Allen

    Episode Summary:
    Do you ever feel like you’re constantly chasing the next big thing or fixing what feels incomplete? In today’s episode, we’re exploring why this moment—right here, right now—is already enough. Through personal stories, reflective practices, and actionable tools, I’ll show you how to stop running from the present and find peace, joy, and connection exactly where you are.

    Whether you're feeling overwhelmed by holiday busyness, reflecting on the year, or simply craving more ease in your life, this episode will help you anchor to the power of being here now.

    What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

    Why we’re conditioned to believe the “next moment” will be better A personal story about finding meaning in the messy, imperfect moments Three simple practices to embrace the present, even when it feels uncomfortable How to stop the urge to fix, escape, or run from what’s here now The surprising peace and clarity that comes from leaning into “enoughness”

    Episode Highlights:

    Pause and name what’s here: A grounding practice for presence Challenge the urge to fix or escape: How to stay with discomfort Anchor to the moment: Using breath and touch to stay connected

    This episode is a heartfelt reminder that everything you need is already within you, waiting to be recognized.

    Resources Mentioned:

    Holiday Intention Kit : A free resource to help you find ease, clarity, and connection during the holiday season.

    ✅ A downloadable workbook to help you stay calm and focused this season.
    ✅ 4 brand-new private podcast episodes for those moments of overwhelm, exhaustion, or frustration.

    👉 Click the link below to grab your kit and start thriving this holiday season!

    Thank you for listening! If this episode resonated with you, share it with a friend or leave a review. Your support helps more people discover the podcast and find fulfillment in their own lives. Happy Thanksgiving!

    RESOURCES MENTIONED:
    📥 Get your Holiday Intention Kit + Private Podcast Episodes: Download it here

    If you loved this episode, don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend! Let’s spread calm and intention this holiday season. ❤️

    Show Notes: Here

    Connect with Me: Email: [email protected] Website: www.chantelallencoaching.com Instagram:@chantelallencoaching

    If you're wanting to grab a 1:1 spot to learn how to connect more to yourself- sign up with this link here.

  • Is It Peace or Apathy? How to Stop Chasing Chaos and Find True Stillness

    Is It Peace or Apathy? How to Stop Chasing Chaos and Find True Stillness

    · Living and Loving Your Life with Chantel Allen

    Episode Summary:
    In this episode, we explore the difference between peace and apathy, a question sparked by a powerful listener insight: “Peace kind of feels like apathy. I’m so used to intense emotions that now I wonder if I’m doing enough.” If stillness feels unsettling or you’re questioning whether peace means stagnation, this episode is for you.

    We unpack why peace can feel uncomfortable, how to tell the difference between peace and apathy, and how to embrace peace without falling into the chaos of overthinking. I also share practical steps and personal stories to help you trust the stillness and find deeper growth within it.

    What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

    Why peace can feel like apathy when you’re used to chaos. How to distinguish between peace (calm presence) and apathy (disconnection). Practical steps to embrace peace: Get curious about your feelings. Redefine what “enough” means for you. Practice allowing peace in small doses. How to hold space for emotions like hesitation and doubt without chasing answers. Why peace is the foundation for sustainable growth and clarity.

    Resources Mentioned:

    Holiday Intention Kit : A free resource to help you find ease, clarity, and connection during the holiday season.

    ✅ A downloadable workbook to help you stay calm and focused this season.
    ✅ 4 brand-new private podcast episodes for those moments of overwhelm, exhaustion, or frustration.

    👉 Click the link below to grab your kit and start thriving this holiday season!

    Thank you for listening! If this episode resonated with you, share it with a friend or leave a review. Your support helps more people discover the podcast and find fulfillment in their own lives. Happy Thanksgiving!

    RESOURCES MENTIONED:
    📥 Get your Holiday Intention Kit + Private Podcast Episodes: Download it here

    If you loved this episode, don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend! Let’s spread calm and intention this holiday season. ❤️

    Show Notes: Here

    Connect with Me: Email: [email protected] Website: www.chantelallencoaching.com Instagram:@chantelallencoaching

    If you're wanting to grab a 1:1 spot to learn how to connect more to yourself- sign up with this link here.

  • Squeezed in Your Head? How to Stop Overthinking and Reconnect to Calm

    Squeezed in Your Head? How to Stop Overthinking and Reconnect to Calm

    · Living and Loving Your Life with Chantel Allen

    Episode Summary: Are you feeling overwhelmed by your thoughts, stuck in a loop of overthinking and ruminating? In this episode, we explore what it means to feel "squeezed up into your head" and how to break free by reconnecting with your body. Learn how overthinking is often a protective mechanism and discover actionable steps to address the deeper fears your mind is shielding you from.

    Chantel shares a personal story of uncovering her own money-related fears and how touching these emotions—rather than just knowing about them—led to profound transformation. This episode is packed with insights, practical exercises, and tools to help you shift from overwhelm to calm, including the highly recommended Holiday Calm Kit.

    What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

    Understanding Overthinking: Why we tend to "squeeze up into our heads" when emotions feel overwhelming.

    Knowing vs. Touching: The difference between intellectually understanding your fears and truly sitting with them.

    Practical Steps to Reconnect: Actionable techniques to drop into your body and work with the emotions your mind is resisting.

    The Role of Protectors: How parts of your mind create stories to protect you from pain—and how to lovingly work with them.

    Holiday Stress Relief: How the Holiday Calm Kit can help you navigate this busy season with ease and grace.

    Resources Mentioned:

    Holiday Intention Kit : A free resource to help you find ease, clarity, and connection during the holiday season.

    ✅ A downloadable workbook to help you stay calm and focused this season.
    ✅ 4 brand-new private podcast episodes for those moments of overwhelm, exhaustion, or frustration.

    👉 Click the link below to grab your kit and start thriving this holiday season!

    Thank you for listening! If this episode resonated with you, share it with a friend or leave a review. Your support helps more people discover the podcast and find fulfillment in their own lives. Happy Thanksgiving!

    RESOURCES MENTIONED:
    📥 Get your Holiday Intention Kit + Private Podcast Episodes: Download it here

    If you loved this episode, don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend! Let’s spread calm and intention this holiday season. ❤️

    Show Notes: Here

    Connect with Me: Email: [email protected] Website: www.chantelallencoaching.com Instagram:@chantelallencoaching

    If you're wanting to grab a 1:1 spot to learn how to connect more to yourself- sign up with this link here.

  • Struggling with Gratitude? Here’s What You Really Need

    Struggling with Gratitude? Here’s What You Really Need

    · Living and Loving Your Life with Chantel Allen

    Episode Summary:
    In this special Thanksgiving episode, we’re diving into a new way to approach gratitude—especially when it feels hard or out of reach. If the idea of “being thankful” feels like pressure, this episode is for you. We’ll explore the concept of gritty gratitude—what it is, why it matters, and how it can anchor you during life’s toughest moments. You’ll walk away with practical tools to embrace presence, accept your emotions, and create small, meaningful moments—without guilt or pressure.

    What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

    Why gratitude can feel hard during difficult seasons—and why that’s okay. What gritty gratitude is and how it’s different from surface-level gratitude. Practical tools to practice presence and create grounding moments when life feels chaotic. How to let yourself feel your emotions without adding guilt or judgment. Simple ways to notice and appreciate the small, steady anchors in your day.

    Key Takeaways:

    Gritty gratitude anchors you: It’s about finding something real and steady to hold onto during life’s storms. Give yourself permission to feel: Allowing emotions without judgment opens the door to presence and relief. Small moments matter: Noticing the warmth of your drink, the sound of laughter, or the feel of the air can ground you in the present. Kindness toward yourself helps: Speak to yourself like you would a friend—gently and with compassion. Gratitude isn’t about perfection: It’s about noticing what’s real and letting small moments of appreciation grow.

    Resources Mentioned:

    Holiday Intention Kit : A free resource to help you find ease, clarity, and connection during the holiday season.

    ✅ A downloadable workbook to help you stay calm and focused this season.
    ✅ 4 brand-new private podcast episodes for those moments of overwhelm, exhaustion, or frustration.

    👉 Click the link below to grab your kit and start thriving this holiday season!

    Thank you for listening! If this episode resonated with you, share it with a friend or leave a review. Your support helps more people discover the podcast and find fulfillment in their own lives. Happy Thanksgiving!

    RESOURCES MENTIONED:
    📥 Get your Holiday Intention Kit + Private Podcast Episodes: Download it here

    If you loved this episode, don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend! Let’s spread calm and intention this holiday season. ❤️

    Show Notes: Here

    Connect with Me: Email: [email protected] Website: www.chantelallencoaching.com Instagram:@chantelallencoaching

    If you're wanting to grab a 1:1 spot to learn how to connect more to yourself- sign up with this link here.

  • Stop Holiday Chaos Before It Starts: Your Plan for Peace

    Stop Holiday Chaos Before It Starts: Your Plan for Peace

    · Living and Loving Your Life with Chantel Allen
    Show Notes:

    🎄 The holidays don’t have to leave you feeling burned out and overwhelmed. 🎄

    In this episode, we’re tackling the holiday chaos head-on with practical tools and powerful mindset shifts to help you create the holiday experience you truly want. You’ll learn:

    ✨ How to stay intentional by deciding who you want to be before the season begins.
    ✨ Why setting your "rules for success" is the key to avoiding burnout.
    ✨ The freedom of saying NO—and how it benefits both you and your loved ones.
    ✨ A new way to navigate family dynamics by showing up authentically (and letting go of people-pleasing).

    I’m also sharing personal stories from my own holiday stress moments (eye cutting disasters included!) and how simple shifts made all the difference.

    PLUS, I’ve created a Holiday Intention Kit just for you!
    It includes:
    ✅ A downloadable workbook to help you stay calm and focused this season.
    ✅ 4 brand-new private podcast episodes for those moments of overwhelm, exhaustion, or frustration.

    👉 Click the link below to grab your kit and start thriving this holiday season!

    Let’s make this a season of joy, connection, and love—starting now.

    RESOURCES MENTIONED:
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  • The Power of Holding Space for Ourselves and Others

    The Power of Holding Space for Ourselves and Others

    · Living and Loving Your Life with Chantel Allen

    Episode Summary:
    In today’s episode, we’re diving into the concept of holding space—what it means to be present for others and ourselves in moments of intense emotion without judgment, interruption, or the urge to fix. This is a core element of emotionally strong leadership, and it’s foundational for creating authentic, lasting connections.

    Inspired by a powerful video of a dad holding space for his daughter’s big emotions, we’ll explore how this simple act can transform relationships and deepen our own emotional resilience. Holding space isn’t just for others; it’s also a skill we can cultivate to better support ourselves. Tune in to discover how to embrace this transformative practice in your own life.

    Topics Covered:

    What Does It Mean to Hold Space?
    We define what holding space truly means and why it’s more than just being physically present. Learn why this practice involves active patience, empathy, and the ability to stay grounded.

    Why Holding Space Matters:
    Holding space creates a safe environment where people feel seen, accepted, and free to be themselves. For us, it’s an opportunity to grow our own emotional resilience and practice deeper empathy and connection.

    Examples of Holding Space in Different Scenarios:

    Holding Space for Others’ Emotions: How to be there for someone without jumping in to fix or solve. Holding Space for Ourselves: Learning how to be there for ourselves during difficult emotions without rushing to change or judge what we’re feeling.

    Practical Tips to Start Holding Space Today:
    Discover simple techniques for cultivating this skill in your life, including grounding yourself, practicing non-judgmental listening, making room for silence, and fostering self-compassion.

    Key Takeaways:

    Holding space is an active choice to allow others (and ourselves) to experience emotions fully, without judgment or the need to fix. Emotionally strong leadership requires presence, patience, and stability. By practicing this with others, we create a space for genuine connection and trust. Holding space for ourselves can be deeply transformative, helping us embrace all parts of ourselves with compassion and acceptance.

    Action Steps:

    Reflect on how you currently respond to others’ emotions. Are you quick to give advice or fix? Practice simply listening without needing to solve. Try holding space for yourself by setting aside time to sit with your emotions without judgment. Start with just a few minutes, acknowledging what you’re feeling and allowing it to be there. Ground yourself with a few deep breaths next time someone shares something emotional. It will help you stay present and supportive without absorbing their energy.

    Quotes:

    “Holding space isn’t passive—it’s an active choice to set aside your own discomfort, your need to fix, and allow others to be as they are.” “Emotionally strong leadership begins with the willingness to hold space, both for ourselves and those we lead.”

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  • The Power of Trust: Letting Go to Move Forward

    The Power of Trust: Letting Go to Move Forward

    · Living and Loving Your Life with Chantel Allen

    In today’s episode, we’re diving into a concept we all want more of but often struggle to fully understand: trust. Trust isn’t just a word—it’s a way of living that invites us to let go, have faith, and embrace the journey without needing to control every detail. But what does that really look like?

    Join me as we explore the nuances of trust, faith, and surrender. We’ll discuss why trust is so essential to our growth and well-being, and why letting go of the "how" and "when" can actually move us closer to our goals.

    In This Episode, You'll Learn:

    What trust really means and why we need it to thrive How the need to control can hold us back from reaching our goals Three relatable examples of trust in action—money, coaching, and weight loss Simple ways to invite more trust into your daily life How to embrace the fear that arises when we release control and use it as a guide for deeper growth

    Whether you're seeking more confidence in your career, relationships, health, or personal growth, this episode will give you practical tools to let go, lean in, and move forward with a renewed sense of trust.

    Tune in, and let’s uncover The Power of Trust together!

    Remember, trust isn’t about knowing every step of the journey—it’s about having the courage to start.

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  • The Haunted House Within: Embracing the Ghosts of Our Past

    The Haunted House Within: Embracing the Ghosts of Our Past

    · Living and Loving Your Life with Chantel Allen

    Emotion Mastery for Coaches program launch- click here to get on the list.

    Episode Description: In the spirit of Halloween, we're diving into a topic that's both spooky and deeply transformative. Join Chantel Allen as she explores the "haunted house" within each of us—the place where the "ghosts" of our past live. These aren't ghosts to be feared, but parts of ourselves that show up to be acknowledged and healed.

    In this episode, Chantel shares why so many of us feel haunted by old stories, limiting beliefs, and past experiences, and how these “ghosts” show up in our lives. Through the analogy of a haunted house, she explains how to navigate these internal characters, bring compassion to each room in our inner "house," and ultimately free ourselves from past wounds. This episode is a must-listen if you’re ready to turn on the lights within, face your fears, and welcome every part of yourself.

    What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

    Why the ghosts of our past aren't here to harm us but to teach us. How the different characters within us—like the hustler, the perfectionist, or the "not good enough" self—are like ghosts in our inner house. Why acknowledging and understanding these parts of ourselves is essential for self-compassion and growth. How to go through your inner house, turning on lights of love and acceptance, and welcoming each part with kindness. The importance of letting go of linear thinking about our past to release the hold of old, unhealed parts of ourselves. Practical steps for embracing and creating a safe space for every part of who you are.

    Key Takeaways:

    You Are the House: No matter what "ghosts" or old characters appear, you are the whole and complete structure. The ghosts are just parts of you, not the entirety of who you are.

    Why Ghosts Appear: Just like traditional ghost stories, our inner ghosts need to be heard and understood. They're asking for attention, not avoidance.

    Creating Space for All Parts of You: Learn how to welcome each part of yourself—even the parts that feel "not good enough" or fearful—with compassion. Each part has something valuable to teach.

    Embrace, Don’t Fix: Instead of fixing these parts, create a safe, loving “house” within you where each part can exist peacefully. Just like a loving home, you are safe and complete just as you are.

    Reflection Questions:

    Who are the "ghosts" or characters that show up in your life? What are they trying to tell you? How can you create more space for these parts of yourself? What does it mean for you to turn on the lights of love and acceptance in your inner “house”?

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  • Why Strategies Aren’t Working: It’s Not the Funnel, It’s You

    Why Strategies Aren’t Working: It’s Not the Funnel, It’s You

    · Living and Loving Your Life with Chantel Allen

    Emotion Mastery for Coaches program launch- click here to get on the list.

    Episode Summary:
    In this episode, we dive deep into a common struggle many coaches face: feeling stuck despite implementing all the “right” strategies. You’ve tried the funnels, the ads, the social media tactics—but something’s still not working. The truth? It’s not the funnel—it’s you. We’ll explore how unresolved emotional issues are the real barriers to your success, and I’ll share practical tips on how to start addressing them so you can finally break through. Plus, I’ll introduce my new program, Emotion Mastery for Coaches, designed to help you achieve emotional alignment and unlock the true potential of your strategies.

    Key Takeaways:

    External Strategies vs. Internal Blocks
    Learn why no strategy can work if you’re not emotionally aligned with your business goals and how unresolved emotions like fear, doubt, or imposter syndrome can sabotage your efforts.

    Why Emotional Alignment Matters
    Understand how your thoughts and emotions directly influence the actions you take and why working from a place of fear or self-doubt leads to resistance and poor results.

    Practical Tips to Overcome Emotional Blocks:

    Identify Your Emotional Triggers: Reflect on moments of resistance in your business and recognize the underlying emotions. Stop Pushing Through Resistance: Learn how to acknowledge and observe emotions instead of trying to force your way through them. Get Support: Discover the importance of having a coach to help you identify blind spots and shift your emotional state.

    Introducing the Emotion Mastery for Coaches
    Discover how my new program will help you align emotionally with your business goals, allowing your strategies to finally start working for you. Learn how emotional transformation leads to tangible business success.

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    Show Notes: Here

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