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Welcome back to Living Inside Out! In todayās episode, Iām peeling back the layers on something we all wrestle with at some pointāour past. Whether itās regrets, failures, or moments we just canāt seem to let go of, itās easy to let those stories define us. But hereās the truth: your past is not a prison.
Weāll explore three ways your past might be holding you back and, more importantly, how to break free and see those experiences for what they truly are- preparation for your growth and future. Iāll share a personal story about an old supplier who reminded me of the mindset I had when I started my business and how that mindset shifted over time.
If youāve ever felt like your history has chained you to a cycle of fear or doubt, this episode will help you see things differently. Weāll talk about how to stop stringing past events together like a necklace of pain, the difference between Greek logic and block logic, and how to shift from defining yourself by your experiences to finding freedom in them.
What Youāll Learn in This Episode:
1.How to stop letting past events tether you to old narratives.
2.The difference between seeing life through Greek logic (cause and effect) and block logic (seemingly random events coming together for good).
3.Why your identity is not your entirety and how to uncover the meaning that empowers you.
Key Moments:
ā¢[02:14] A Facebook memory and a mindset shift: What an old supplier taught me about how I saw myself.
ā¢[06:32] Stringing events together: Why reliving your story can hold you backāand how to rewrite it.
ā¢[12:45] Greek logic vs. block logic: A lesson from the story of Esther.
ā¢[18:20] Redefining your identity: The difference between external labels and your internal truth.
Mentioned in This Episode:
ā¢My Get Unstuck and Blueprint workshops (perfect for anyone ready to move forward with clarity).
ā¢The story of Queen Esther and how it teaches us to see the bigger picture.
Letās Stay Connected:
Did this episode spark something in you? Iād love to hear your thoughts. Drop me an email, connect on Instagram or LinkedIn, or leave a comment on Spotify. And if youāre enjoying the show, donāt forget to subscribe and share it with a friend who needs to hear this!
Remember: You are not your past. Youāre stronger, wiser, and so much more equipped for whatās ahead than you realise. Keep living from the inside out! š
Thank you for listening!
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Welcome to Episode 113! š
This week, I sit down with the incredible Tomi Rotimi, a trailblazer in the fashion industry, a devoted mother, and a fellow entrepreneur. In this heartfelt and inspiring conversation, we delve into the life lessons sheās learned, the highs and lows of building a brand, and the balance sheās found between family and business.
Tomi candidly shares the moments that shaped her journey and how she overcame obstacles to create Xclamations!, a thriving business while staying true to her values. Whether youāre an entrepreneur, a dreamer, or navigating motherhood, this episode is packed with wisdom and actionable takeaways.
And thereās more exciting news! Unlike my usual solo episodes, this conversation is also available for you to watch on YouTube. š„ Donāt miss the chance to see Tomiās radiant energy and connect with the story visually.
What youāll learn in this episode:
ā¢How Tomi started her business with a vision and a lot of courage.
ā¢The importance of staying authentic in a competitive industry.
ā¢Balancing motherhood and entrepreneurship without losing sight of your personal goals.
ā¢Why resilience and consistency are essential for long-term success.
Links and Resources:
šŗ Watch this episode on YouTube
š© Connect with Tomi Rotimi on Instagram
šļø Shop Xclamations! UK
šļø Watch Previous Episodes
āØ Subscribe to my newsletter for exclusive insights and updates
Iād love to hear your thoughts! Share your favourite takeaway from the episode on Instagram or LinkedIn and tag me @ToksAruoture.
Letās keep the conversation goingābecause your story matters. š
Next Week: Iāll be diving into the topic of overcoming fear to live boldly and authentically. Donāt miss it!
Remember to subscribe, review, and share this podcast with someone who needs it. Thank you for being part of this journey. šš¾
Warmest,
Toks
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Hey friends, welcome to Episode 112!
This week, Iām sharing something deeply personal- how I used scripture to navigate a challenging season and how it helped me grow. But first, letās talk about last weekendās Zoom session. It was such a joy to connect with so many of you! Over 60 people signed up, and the feedback has been incredible. Here are just a couple of comments that truly moved me:
āI heard Toks speak for the first time at the Hangout anniversary dinner, and her story challenged me and made me believe I can start working on my vision which seemed so big. Today also helped me see areas that were holding me back, e.g., assumption versus facts.ā
āI joined feeling overwhelmed, I left feeling completely enlightened!ā
Thank you to everyone who joined and shared your thoughts. If you havenāt filled out the feedback form yet, please doāitās so important as weāre considering starting regular sessions. If youād like to know more or get the replay, just email [email protected].
How has your year started? And if it hasnāt, thatās okay. Youāre not behind. Thereās no race, no timeline you need to measure up to. Start whenever youāre ready.
Weāre often overwhelmed by the ānew year, new meā hypeāgoal setting, vision boards, resolutionsāand while these can be inspiring, they can also distract us. One thing Iāve learned is that the trouble starts when we accept solutions to problems we donāt even have.
Take a moment to pause and reflect. What does moving forward look like for you? Trust your intuition to guide you in creating a plan that aligns with your purpose.
This past year, my faith was my anchor. Itās easy to focus on challenges or the things that arenāt changing, but I leaned into scripture to guide me. Here are a few verses that kept me going:
John 14:1: āDo not let your hearts be troubled.ā This verse reminded me to trust God instead of dwelling on my troubles.
1 John 4:18: āPerfect love drives out fear.ā Fear can cloud your mind and decisions, but loveāGodās loveāgives clarity and peace.
2 Corinthians 1:3: āGod is the source of all comfort.ā I was reminded to turn to Him first when things felt overwhelming.
These scriptures helped me shift my focus from the visible challenges to the spiritual truths that never change.
Many of you have asked for regular sessions like the one we had last weekend. Your feedback means so much, and Iām excited to explore this idea of a membership where we can connect more consistently. What do you think?
If youād like to share your thoughts or learn more, reach out to me via email or on social media. And if you missed the Zoom session, let me know, and Iāll send you the replay.
Next Week: Iāll be joined by my dear friend Tomi Rotimi for a special episode. Itāll be on YouTube, so you can watch us chat!
Thank you for being here, for listening, and for being part of this journey with me. Donāt forget to subscribe, review, and share this podcast with someone who needs a word of encouragement.
Sending you love for 2025,
Toks
Links Mentioned:
Request the Zoom session replay: [email protected]
Connect with me on Instagram, LinkedIn, or Facebook: @toksaruoture
Donāt miss next weekās episode on YouTube!
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As the year winds down, like you, no doubt, I am undoubtedly reflecting on 2024; the lessons Iāve learned and the thought patterns Iām intentionally leaving behind as I step into 2025. This episode is about the transformations that have shaped me this year and how I plan to embrace boldness, connection, and consistency in the new year.
What Youāll Learn in This Episode:
1.Hesitant to Courageous:
ā¢Overcoming self-consciousness and embracing bold action.
ā¢How launching into public speaking helped me confront hesitation.
ā¢āSelf-restraint is more interested in your appearance than your progress.ā
2.Guarded to Connected:
ā¢The beauty of opening up to new friendships despite past betrayals.
ā¢Stories of the wonderful people God brought into my life.
ā¢āRemoving fences caused by betrayal allowed blessings in the form of authentic relationships.ā
3.Sporadic to Consistent:
ā¢The power of doing whatās necessary, regardless of feelings or circumstances.
ā¢Why consistency isnāt about waiting for evidence but trusting the process.
ā¢āConsistency means keeping every appointment with yourself, even when itās hard.ā
āSelf-restraint is more interested in your appearance than your progress.ā
This year has been quite a ride! I am grateful to you, my listeners and support for tirelessly listening and feeding back your thoughts. I hope you can take at least one thing away, that Godās faithfulness is unquestionable. He is resolute, does not waiver and is a solid rock.
Consider the thought patterns you want to replace as you reflect on your year. Remember that You have everything you need to be all God created you to be, and the evidence is in your desires. Step boldly into 2025 with courage, authenticity, and consistency. Youāve got this!
Links and Resources:
ā¢ Visit our website: toksaruoture.com
ā¢Simon Sinekās clip on having friends to share good news with
ā¢HangOut Cafe with Pastor Funke Adeaga: Watch on YouTube
ā¢ Follow me on social media for more inspiration and updates: Instagram, LinkedIn YouTube
ā¢ Ready to take bold steps toward your purpose? I offer 1:1 coaching and group coaching programmes to help you live from the inside out.
If you found this episode valuable, please leave a five-star review and share it with someone who needs it. Your feedback truly means the world to me, and Iād love to hear how this episode is impacting you, so hit me up on social media!
Wishing you a fantastic start to a blessed 2025! Till next time, remember to live from the inside out. āØ
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Welcome to this weekās episode! Over the past two weeks, your feedback on Kairos: The Power of Perfect Timing and A Time to Act has been nothing short of humbling. Many of you have shared how these episodes have resonated deeply, inspiring you to re-evaluate procrastination and the hidden consequences of time.
This week, I want to take it a step further. 2024 has been a challenging year for so many, myself included. But Iāve realised that challenges donāt just test us, they teach us. And those lessons can become the blueprint we use to navigate 2025 with clarity and determination.
In todayās episode, I share three powerful mindsets to help you transform lifeās trials into stepping stones:
1. Reframing Your Perspective:
Learn how to give challenges a new meaning and navigate difficult relationships without unnecessary pain.
2. Acting in Faith:
Discover why God often leads us to take unrelated, sometimes illogical actionsāand how obedience can lead to unexpected breakthroughs.
3. Finding Peace Amidst the Storm:
Understand how creating inner peace provides clarity, strength, and the ability to move forward even in the midst of chaos.
This episode is more than a reflection on 2024; itās an invitation to step boldly into 2025 with a renewed mindset and a clear purpose.
Special Invitation:
Join me on Saturday, 28th December, at 10am UK time for a free Zoom session. Weāll explore how to take this year's lessons and turn them into a practical plan for the year ahead. Registration is essential; visit our website or Eventbrite to sign up.
Links and Resources:
ā¢ Visit our website: toksaruoture.com
ā¢ Register for our Online Event on Eventbrite
ā¢Mentioned episodes: Episode 106 - Social Media Crisis Management
Episode 106: Finding Calm in the (Social Media) ChaosEpisode 108: Kairos: Power of Perfect TimingEpisode 109: A Time to Actā¢HangOut Cafe with Pastor Funke Adeaga: Watch on YouTube
ā¢ Follow me on social media for more inspiration and updates: Instagram, LinkedIn YouTube
ā¢ Ready to take bold steps toward your purpose? I offer 1:1 coaching and group coaching programmes to help you live from the inside out.
If you found this episode valuable, please leave a five-star review and share it with someone who needs it. Your feedback truly means the world to me, and Iād love to hear how this episode is impacting you, so hit me up on social media!
Till next time, remember to live from the inside out. āØ
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Following last weekās episode on Kairos moments, which became the second most-listened-to episode of 2024 (thank you so much for your incredible feedback!), I felt led to continue this conversation. So today, weāre diving into the natural next step: taking action.
What do you do once you recognise that now is the time?
In this episode, I explore three ālittle foxesā that hold us back from acting with courage:
1. The Fear of Being Wrong:
ā¢ How our narrow definitions of success and failure keep us stuck.
ā¢ Why āwrongā might actually be a lesson in disguiseāand how to shift your mindset.
2. The Fear of Being Different:
ā¢ Embracing your unique path and learning to love what sets you apart.
ā¢ Why standing out is worth the discomfort and how to start celebrating your individuality.
3. The Fear of Not Being Enough:
ā¢ How feelings of inadequacy can lead us to sabotage our own progress.
ā¢ Recognising that you already have everything you need to bring your ideas to life.
I also share personal storiesālike revisiting the lessons I learned after losing everything and starting over, and how this yearās challenges have led to incredible growth and clarity in my purpose.
Key Takeaways:
ā¢ Your spirit is superior to your body; it speaks truth and guides you toward courageous action.
ā¢ Every idea comes equipped with everything it needs to succeed. Nothing is missing.
ā¢ The courage to act begins with uprooting the fears that are silently stealing your progress.
Links and Resources:
ā¢ Visit my website: toksaruoture.com
ā¢ Follow me on social media for more inspiration and updates: Instagram, LinkedIn YouTube
ā¢ Ready to take bold steps toward your purpose? I offer 1:1 coaching and group coaching programmes to help you live from the inside out.
If you found this episode valuable, please leave a five-star review and share it with someone who needs it. Your feedback truly means the world to me, and Iād love to hear how this episode is impacting youāso hit me up on social!
Till next time, remember to live from the inside out. āØ
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Welcome back to the Living Inside Out podcast! In this episode, I explore the concept of timeānot just as we know it but in its two distinct forms: Chronos (quantitative, linear time) and Kairos (divine, opportune moments). This conversation stems from a personal revelation about how small, often invisible habits, those ālittle foxesā, can block us from achieving our goals.
Hereās what you can expect in this episode:
ā¢ The Myth of Tomorrow: Why the phrase āIāll do it tomorrowā is the most dangerous thing we tell ourselves.
ā¢ Chronos vs Kairos: Breaking down the difference between measurable time and critical, spiritual moments.
ā¢ The Power of Kairos Moments: Understanding and acting in your appointed time can lead to exponential growth.
ā¢ A Personal Story: My unexpected journey of learning luxury branding at Fortnum & Mason and how it completely transformed my business approach.
ā¢ Procrastinationās Silent Damage: Why hesitation and delay are subtle yet effective tools to derail destiny.
ā¢ Practical Steps: How to recognise and act on your Kairos moments, align your spirit with Godās timing, and stop missing opportunities meant for your growth.
Key Takeaways:
1. Time is more than a tool; itās life itself. Every moment is loaded with potential to create life-altering results.
2. Kairos moments arenāt bound by human schedules. Theyāre divine opportunities that require spiritual sensitivity and action.
3. Procrastination is the thief of destiny. When you say ālater,ā youāre allowing comfort and hesitation to rob you of your appointed time.
I challenge you to reflect on the moments youāve let slip away because of hesitation. What would be different if you acted in faith instead of waiting for the āperfect timeā?
Resources and Links:
Ecclesiastes 1
ā¢ Visit my website: toksaruoture.com
ā¢ Follow me on social media for more inspiration and updates: Instagram, LinkedIn YouTube
ā¢ Want to go deeper? I offer 1:1 coaching and group coaching programmes to help you live from the inside out and achieve your divine purpose.
Thank you for listening! Please subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with someone who needs it. Letās connect again next week as we continue the journey of living intentionally and purposefully.
And remember, live from the inside out. āØ
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Hello, and welcome back to Living Inside Out! This episode is close to my heart because weāre diving into a topic that affects so many of us; self-consciousness. Whether youāre a student, an entrepreneur, or someone just trying to figure things out, that nagging voice in your head saying, āWhat will they think?ā can hold you back from truly living your life.
This week, I had the privilege of guest-lecturing at Goldsmiths, University of London. I was invited to teach a class on Entrepreneurship to the Masterās students studying Luxury Brand Management. Let me tell you, I was in my zone! Speaking to others about mindset, growth, and living authentically is one of the ways I come alive. But the truth is, this wasnāt always the case. Years ago, I struggled with self-consciousness and the fear of being judged. Sound familiar? If so, youāre not alone, and this episode is for you.
Hereās what we cover in this episode:
ā¢The Realisation That Set Me Free: Why nobody is thinking about you as much as you think they are, and how this can change your perspective on storytelling and vulnerability.
ā¢The Difference Between Authenticity and Oversharing: How to share your story in a way that inspires and uplifts, not just to vent or seek validation.
ā¢Three Practical Steps to Telling Your Story Boldly:
1.Get to Know Yourself: Why self-discovery is the foundation of authenticity.
2.Examine Your Intentions: Understanding the why behind your words and actions.
3.Write It Out First: How crafting and owning your story beforehand can turn self-consciousness into confidence.
One of the students at Goldsmiths asked me a fantastic question: āHow come youāre so bold in sharing authentically?ā Her concern, like many of us, was rooted in the fear of being judged. My answer? Nobody is keeping score. Most people are busy being the star of their own story, and what they think of you often says more about them than it does about you.
Weāll also explore how to handle those who genuinely critique or misunderstand you and why their opinions are, frankly, none of your business.
Lastly, Iāll share why itās important to only share what youāre comfortable with and have healed from. Your story is powerful, but itās not a dumping ground for unresolved emotions.
Resources Mentioned:
ā¢Proverbs 20:5 The purpose in a man's heart is like deep water, but a man of understanding will draw it out.
ā¢Choose your Mindset Course or Workshops: Your mindset is your foundation. Learn how to tell your story authentically while building your personal brand.
ā¢Episode #106 (sorry I said 105 but its 106) On handling the Facebook disruption.
ā¢Connect with me on Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, and YouTube! Letās continue the conversation.
Subscribe and Review:
If this episode spoke to you, Iād love it if you could give the podcast a 5-star rating. It helps others find the show and keeps the content coming!
As always, thank you for listening and being part of this amazing community. Until next time, remember to live from the inside out. Youāve got this! ā¤ļø
Toks
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What do you do when something unexpected, like being locked out of your Facebook accounts, threatens to derail your day and disrupt your business? In this episode, I share my journey through a recent digital crisis, highlighting the steps I took to stay calm, productive, and resilient. From managing the initial panic to leaning on faith, family, and routines, this episode is packed with practical lessons for handling challenges with grace and perspective.
What Youāll Learn in This Episode:
ā¢How to manage panic and regain control in moments of uncertainty.
ā¢The importance of taking practical steps while knowing when to step away.
ā¢Why routines are essential guardrails in times of chaos.
ā¢Leadership tips for setting the tone during a crisis.
ā¢How to gain a healthier perspective on challenges by anchoring yourself in faith, family, and context.
ā¢The critical lesson of not putting all your digital eggs in one basket.
ā¢How to plan for the future to mitigate risks and strengthen your business.
While this experience is related to my business, the tips and strategies I share will work in your personal life too. We cannot avoid disruptions, but we can regain control if we manage it properly.
Have you experienced a digital disruption or unexpected challenge in your business? Share your story with me on [LinkedIn](your link) or [Instagram](your link). Letās start a conversation about staying resilient and prepared for the unexpected.
Resource:
ā¢Tips for preventing a Facebook suspension:
https://chatterblast.com/blog/it-happened-to-me-staying-calm-when-facebook-suspends-your-account/
Connect with Me:
ā¢Website
ā¢ LinkedIn
ā¢Instagram
If you enjoyed this episode, Iād love for you to subscribe to the podcast so you never miss an update. And if you found this conversation helpful, please take a moment to rate and review itāit really helps to spread the word and reach more people who could benefit from these insights. Your support means so much to me. Thank you!
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In this inspiring episode, Toks speaks with Getrude Matsheā3-time TEDx Speaker, author, serial social entrepreneur, and philanthropy consultant. Getrude, known for her vibrant energy and commitment to empowering women, shares her insights on finding oneās purpose and using it to uplift others. The conversation explores her journey, her belief in the African philosophy of Ubuntu, and her mission to educate and empower Africaās next generation. Getrudeās story is one of resilience, self-belief, and an unbreakable commitment to community and unity.
Key Takeaways
Embracing Responsibility: Getrude shares her powerful experience of taking on the responsibility of raising 49 children orphaned by HIV. Her story exemplifies the Ubuntu philosophyā"I am because we are"āand her deep-rooted belief in uplifting her community.
Ubuntu in All Areas of Life: Getrude describes the Ubuntu philosophy and its wide-reaching impact across various fields, from business to technology. Ubuntu is about recognising our interconnectedness and using it to drive success, unity, and compassion.
Philanthropy Starts at Home: For Getrude, being philanthropic isnāt just about large-scale projects; itās about supporting those closest to us first. Building strong relationships at home can be the foundation for creating positive ripples in the wider community.
Overcoming Self-Doubt: Getrude shares her empowering affirmation for self-doubt: āListen, I need to do this; I know I have the ability to do this.ā Her resilience and inner drive are a testament to the strength that comes from believing in oneās capabilities.
Trusting Your Ideas: According to Getrude, if you have an idea, you already have the inherent knowledge and ability to bring it to life. Her advice encourages listeners to take action on their passions and trust in their potential.
Redefining Failure: Failure, for Getrude, is simply the act of not trying. She shares her perspective that lifeās setbacks are stepping stones to growth and that the real failure lies in ignoring a desire to act. With this mindset, Getrude has been able to embrace challenges and learn from every experience.
This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking to find purpose, strengthen their community, and overcome the fear of failure. Getrudeās journey is a powerful reminder that purpose and passion can drive positive change in ourselves and those around us.
NEXT STEPS:
If you need support, feel free to email Toks at [email protected]. As a certified coach, she helps individuals overcome limiting thoughts and unlock their full potential. Connect with us on social media @toksaruoture for daily inspiration and insights.
Have you subscribed to this podcast? If not, why donāt you do so on your favourite podcast app? Also, head to Youtube.com/toksaruoture to watch and subscribe to Living Inside Out, for more impactful conversations and personal growth content.
We would love to connect with you on social! Letās stay in touch on toksaruoture.com and hang out on Instagram @toksaruoture and on Facebook at Living Inside Out.
Thank you for listening, and see you next time on Living Inside Out!
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In This Powerful Episode of Living Inside Out, Toks Sits Down with Elizabeth Solaru
In this episode, Toks Aruoture has an inspiring conversation with Elizabeth Solaru, a multi-award-winning luxury business consultant, author of The Luxpreneur, and former microbiologist turned cake artist. Elizabethās journey from science to the world of luxury and entrepreneurship is filled with incredible insights and transformative lessons on building a brand, finding your unique voice, and embracing authenticity.
Key Topics Covered:
ā¢The Power of Authenticity: Elizabeth shares how staying true to yourself is essential when building a luxury brand. She explores how authenticity not only attracts the right audience but also strengthens brand loyalty.
ā¢Building a Successful Luxury Brand: Learn the fundamentals of luxury branding, from mindset to strategy, and how Elizabeth built her own brand from the ground up while maintaining integrity and excellence.
ā¢The Power of Storytelling in Business: Elizabeth delves into the importance of storytelling in creating a compelling brand narrative that resonates with clients and sets your brand apart in the luxury market.
ā¢Diversity in Luxury: As the founder of the Diversity in Luxury Awards, Elizabeth also touches on the need for inclusivity and how diversity is reshaping the luxury industry.
Key Takeaways:
ā¢Embrace Your Authenticity and Move Forward: Elizabeth reminds us to āDo it Afraidāātake risks and step forward even when facing fear or doubt.
ā¢Luxury Starts with You: True luxury begins within, with a mindset focused on excellence, self-worth, and the value you bring to others.
ā¢The 5 Key Pillars of a Luxury Mindset: Elizabeth outlines the foundational elements needed to develop a luxury mindset, essential for anyone aspiring to build a brand in this space.
Resources Mentioned:
ā¢The Luxpreneur by Elizabeth Solaru ā A must-read for those looking to elevate their business through the principles of luxury and authenticity.
ā¢Diversity in Luxury Awards ā A groundbreaking initiative recognising excellence and inclusivity within the luxury industry.
Connect with Elizabeth Solaru:
ā¢Instagram: @elizabethsolaru ā Follow Elizabeth for insights and inspiration in luxury, entrepreneurship, and personal growth.
ā¢Website: ElizabethSolauru.com ā Learn more about her consultancy, upcoming events, and luxury courses.
ā¢LinkedIn: Elizabeth Solaru ā Connect with Elizabeth for more professional insights and opportunities.
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Let's talk about the reality of burnoutāa hidden culprit behind feelings of exhaustion, detachment, and lack of motivation. Drawing from my recent experience, Iāll walk you through what burnout really looks like, the subtle signs to watch for, and practical ways to move from depletion to revitalisation. Whether youāre feeling a general sense of dreariness or struggling to find your motivation, this episode will offer insights, solutions, and encouragement to help you reclaim your spark.
Key Points:
1. What is Burnout?
Burnout is a state of chronic physical and emotional exhaustion resulting from prolonged stress. It can impact your motivation, emotional health, and even your physical well-being.
2. Signs of Burnout:
ā¢Physical and Emotional Exhaustion: Feeling drained, fatigued, and unable to recover.
ā¢Decreased Motivation: Finding it hard to stay productive and motivated.
ā¢Detachment and Isolation: Withdrawing from relationships or feeling disconnected.
ā¢Irritability and Frustration: Easily triggered by small stressors.
ā¢Difficulty Concentrating: Struggling with focus and memory.
3. My Personal Journey Through Burnout:
ā¢I share my own recent experience with burnout, how I recognised it, and the challenges I faced in acknowledging it.
4. Solutions for Alleviating Burnout:
ā¢Set Boundaries: Protect your personal time by creating clear work-life boundaries.
ā¢Prioritise Rest: Make rest and sleep a consistent priority.
ā¢Practice Self-Compassion: Allow yourself grace, and remember that healing takes time.
ā¢Engage in Physical Activity: Move in ways that feel good to you, even if itās a short walk.
ā¢Seek Support: Find people or communities to connect with, whether friends, family, or professional support.
5. Inspiration and Action:
ā¢Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their own experiences, recognise signs of burnout, and implement one small step towards reclaiming balance.
Key Takeaways:
ā¢Burnout can sneak up on us, especially when we feel unmotivated or weary without a clear reason.
ā¢Recognising signs of burnout is crucial for taking steps towards recovery and finding joy in everyday life again.
ā¢Solutions exist, and theyāre often simpler than we realise, from setting boundaries to practising self-compassion.
Next Steps:
If youāre feeling exhausted or struggling with motivation, take a moment to assess where you might need rest or support. Small changes can have a powerful impact. Let this episode be your guide in moving from burnout to balance.
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In this episode, I had an incredible conversation with ShadĆ© Akande, founder of ONE X LEAGUE. ShadĆ©, raised as a first-generation American by Nigerian parents, shares her experiences of navigating culture clashes, embracing risk, and learning to trust herselfālessons that shaped her personal and professional journey.
You can watch this episode on YouTube
We dive into:
ā¢Growing Up Nigerian-American: ShadĆ© talks about the culture clashes of being raised by Nigerian parents in the United States and how those experiences influenced her career choices and personal growth.
ā¢Career Evolution: From the fashion industry to HR at some of the biggest global companies like Google and Verizon, ShadĆ© explains how each step in her career taught her more about people and herself.
ā¢Launching ONE X LEAGUE: ShadĆ© shares the mission behind ONE X LEAGUE, a private membership for Black and Afro-Latina executive women, and the upcoming ONE SUITE RETREAT, a retreat for Black executives, both male and female, happening in February next year.
ā¢Risk-Taking and Resilience: We discuss the importance of taking risks, learning from failures, and building resilience in the face of entrepreneurship challenges.
ā¢Building Your Tribe: A major theme of our conversation revolves around creating a supportive network. ShadĆ© shares insights on how to build a tribe of mentors and supporters and reflects on our own trip to the Amalfi Coast, where we strengthened our community of women.
ā¢Mentorship: We also explore how mentorship plays a vital role in personal and professional growth, and how to find the right mentors if youāre just starting out.
ShadĆ©ās story is filled with practical insights and powerful lessons for anyone looking to take charge of their career, build resilience, and create a supportive network.
Next Steps:
If you loved this episode, make sure to subscribe and leave a review! You can connect with ShadƩ and learn more about ONE X LEAGUE at onexleague.com. Stay tuned for more insightful conversations, and follow us on @toksa to never miss an episode!
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Welcome back to Living Inside Out! After a brief hiatus, weāre back with a fresh new look and an exciting direction for the podcast. In this first episode of our new season, Toks Aruoture reflects on the journey so far, shares some of the lessons learned along the way, and gives you a sneak peek into whatās to come.
Hereās what youāll hear in todayās episode:
ā¢ Why taking a step back and pausing to reflect was so important.
ā¢ A deep dive into the lessons Toks has learned over the past few years, including insights on faith, burnout, and personal growth.
ā¢ An exciting new direction for the podcast, with more interviews, deeper conversations, and transparency about Toksā own personal journey.
ā¢ A look ahead at some incredible upcoming guestsāpeople youāre familiar with and new voices to inspire you. ā¢ How this season has been designed with YOU in mind, offering insights and conversations that will help you live a more authentic and fulfilling life.
Key Lessons from Todayās Episode:
ā¢ āNothing has meaning except the meaning you give itā ā A powerful reflection on how we can frame our experiences and challenges.
ā¢ The importance of aligning with your purpose and reassessing where youāre headed.
ā¢ How to take care of yourself in the process and avoid burnout while still moving forward in life.
Weāre thrilled to be back and canāt wait to continue this journey with you!
Your next steps:
If you loved todayās episode, be sure to:
1. Subscribe to our YouTube channel to catch the new video episodes, interviews, and more.
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3. And donāt forget, the waitlist is still open for our Get Unstuck program which begins on the 1st of November. Itās your chance to join a transformational journey to move forward in life with purpose and clarity.
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Welcome to episode #100! Thank you for sticking with me through 100 episodes of this podcast journey.
This episode marks a special milestoneāmy continued conversation with Suzy, where we dive deep into the theme "Talk is Cheap, Actions Speak Louder than Words." Yes, it's a powerful message, and I'm thrilled to share it with you.
We often hear the saying, "Listen closely with your eyes." This episode is all about thatāpaying attention to the actions around us and the stories they tell. Suzy and I discuss how actions reveal true intentions and character far more than words ever could.
Reflecting on my past journals, I talk about the importance of not comparing one circumstance to another. Life gives us trials, but we are equipped to handle them. Comparing our past selves to our present can be a trap; instead, we should embrace our journey and growth.
Join us in this episode, part two of two, of Life Lessons with Suzy and Toks.
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Welcome to episode #99! I thank you for riding with me through 99 episodes of my podcast.
This episode has been a long time comingāmy conversation with Suzy on the life lessons we learned in 2023! Yes, I know, 19 months later, but we made it, and thatās what counts, right?
One cannot quantify the benefits of having the right people in your space. Besides having good friends who watch your back, make great company, and lend a listening ear, we should have wise people who plant words of life in and around us.
We also have a responsibility to ourselves to learn the lessons that life teaches us. Last year, I learned that life is not a straight line. Somehow, we were led to believe that the kinks and bends in our paths should be straightened. Consequently, many of us have spent months fixing what isnāt broken because the idea of an imperfect journey doesnāt sit well with us.
Since our last conversation, which was well received, Suzyās divorce has been finalised, and she is living her best life. At the time of our previous recording, it was impossible to imagine the freedom she would experience. Yes, we knew it would happen, but when you are in the trenches, all you can see is mud and dead weight. Meanwhile, I have survived a long, challenging season of my own and share some of the lessons that came out of it and some tools to navigate rough terrains.
Join us in this episode, part one of two, of Life Lessons with Suzy and Toks.
Subscribe to our YouTube channel and watch the recording to see our cheerful faces š.
Connect with Me: I would love to hear from you! Connect with me on social media and stay updated with the latest news and events: ā¢ Email: [email protected] ā¢ Instagram: Toks Aruoture ā¢ LinkedIn: Toks Aruoture
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This week on Living Inside Out, we dive deep into the roots of weariness and its impact on our lives and goals. Toks explores how chronic disappointments can spiral into discouragement, hopelessness, apathy, and even depression. Discover practical strategies to stay energised and focused on your God-given purpose, despite the enemyās attempts to derail you.
Episode Highlights:
ā¢ Understanding Weariness: Learn how repeated disappointments lead to discouragement, and how this can devolve into hopelessness and depression. Depression is described as a dark pit of hopelessness, a place where defeat feels inescapable. ā¢ Spiritual Perspective: Understand how the enemy uses weariness to prevent us from fulfilling our purpose. Explore how Godās purpose aligns with our deepest desires, and why staying energised is crucial to achieving our goals. ā¢ Personal Testimony: Hear a personal story of unwavering belief in a future vision, despite facing logical reasons to give up. Discover the power of holding onto your dreams even in the face of weariness. ā¢ Common Causes of Overwhelm: Identify key factors contributing to weariness, such as overwork, stress, lack of sleep, poor nutrition, and emotional burdens. ā¢ Three Dimensions of Existence: Delve into the interconnectedness of our physical, emotional, and spiritual dimensions. Get a sneak peek into how spiritual battles influence our weariness and the hope in Godās promise of overcoming the world. ā¢ Recognising Signs of Weariness: Learn about the physical and emotional signs of weariness, from chronic fatigue and headaches to irritability and lack of motivation. Understand how our modern habits, like consuming short content on social media, contribute to emotional and mental fatigue.
Practical Tips to Stay Energised:
1. Physical Health: Prioritise sleep, balanced nutrition, and regular exercise to maintain energy levels. 2. Mental and Emotional Well-being: Practice mindfulness, take regular breaks, and nurture positive relationships. 3. Spiritual Practices: Engage in regular prayer and meditation for peace and rejuvenation, and connect with a faith community for support.
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Welcome to The Living Inside Out podcast. Iām your host, Toks Aruoture. This is episode 97: āChallenges to Opportunities: Steps to Help You Change Your Perspective.ā
Hello, my friend. I hope you are well. If youāre in the UK and have a 16-year-old, congratulations! The exams are over. I, too, have a 16-year-old, and now that exams are done, I told him heād need to get a job. Initially, I thought providing everything was a sign of love, but Iāve realised the importance of work ethic and early skill acquisition.
If this is your first time listening, thank you. Please rate and review this podcast and share it with your network. If youāve been with me for a while, welcome back and thank you for your consistency. A couple of announcements: I have spaces for my PR workshop on 27th June. Also, for our 100th episode, I want to record in front of a live audience. Email [email protected] if youāre interested.
Recapping last week, we discussed how our perspective on circumstances affects our growth. Today, weāll delve into the benefits of seeing circumstances as neutral. This perspective enables us to see opportunities even in difficult times.
Recently, I faced a tough week, but through it, I learned to trust in Godās invisible realm beyond our physical world. This trust helps us navigate challenges with the understanding that God is working for our good.
To change our perspective during tough times:
1. Embrace dual realities. There can be good amidst challenges. 2. Rest when tired, donāt quit. Busyness can drown out divine guidance. 3. Acceptance. Identify the lies in your thoughts and counter them with Godās truth.
If you need support, email [email protected]. As a certified coach, I help individuals overcome limiting thoughts. Connect with me on social media @toksaruoture.
Before we go, letās pray. Dear Jesus, I pray for the listener. Help them navigate this season, fulfil their potential, and take the next step. Amen.
Thank you for listening. God bless you.
Show Notes:
ā¢ Spaces available for PR workshop on 27th June. ā¢ Interested in attending the 100th episode live recording? Email [email protected]. ā¢ Follow me on social media: @toksaruoture. ā¢ For coaching support, email [email protected]. ā¢ Visit my website for mindset courses and workshops: toksaruoture.com.
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Episode Summary
In this episode, we explore the concept that circumstances in themselves are neutral, and it is our thoughts about them that shape our emotional responses. As always, I draw from personal stories, reflections, and examples, to see how our perceptions and attitudes can transform our experiences of pain, so we are not crippled by it, but instead we advance in spite of it.
Episode Highlights
ā¢ Introduction to the Concept: ā¢ Statement from the previous episode: Circumstances are neither good nor bad. ā¢ The idea that it is our thoughts about circumstances that determine our emotions. ā¢ The Influence of Our Perception: ā¢ Factors influencing perception: personality, culture, mood, mental state. ā¢ Personal story of discovering and embracing this concept. ā¢ Personal Story About Pets: ā¢ Childhood experiences with pets in Benin. ā¢ Decision to get pets for children despite potential for pain. ā¢ Realisation that the doorway for pain is the same doorway for joy. ā¢ Embracing Pain and Disappointment: ā¢ Reflection on Earl Nightingaleās advice to embrace pain and disappointment. ā¢ Choosing to embrace rather than fight against lifeās challenges. ā¢ Perspective on Tough Seasons: ā¢ Conversation with friend Shade about tough seasons and blessings. ā¢ Realisation that what we have today was once something we prayed for. ā¢ Comparing Pain: ā¢ Thoughts on the Gaza-Israel conflict as an example of different perspectives on the same circumstance. ā¢ Discussion on the futility of comparing oneās pain to othersā. ā¢ Emphasis on pain being felt internally, not externally. ā¢ Seeking Joy in Difficult Times: ā¢ Reflection on the brainās tendency to seek joy and avoid pain. ā¢ Personal story of seeking joy through prayer during challenging times. ā¢ The importance of finding joy and peace within, regardless of external circumstances.
Key Takeaways
1. Circumstances are Neutral: Itās our thoughts about them that create our emotional responses. 2. Embrace Challenges: Choosing to embrace pain and disappointment can give us more control over our lives. 3. Avoid Comparison: Pain and joy are internal experiences, and comparing our circumstances to othersā can be misleading and unhelpful.
Announcements
ā¢ PR Workshop: Join us for an upcoming PR workshop where youāll learn the essentials of public relations, effective communication strategies, and how to elevate your brand. Stay tuned for dates and registration details. ā¢ Coaching and Workshops: Explore our range of coaching services and workshops designed to help you achieve personal and professional growth. Whether you are looking to improve your mindset, enhance your entrepreneurial skills, or navigate lifeās challenges, we have something for you.
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Listener Challenge
Reflect on a time when you prayed desperately for something you now have. How do you feel about it now? Consider how your thoughts and attitudes have influenced your emotions towards it.
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Next Episode Teaser
Stay tuned for the next episode where we will continue exploring the neutrality of circumstances and how to harness our thoughts to navigate lifeās challenges.
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Weāre just five episodes away from our 100th episode, and weāre planning to celebrate big! I have some exciting ideas, including recording in front of a live audience. Iād love to hear your thoughts on this, so please let me know what you think.
Embracing ChallengesThis week, I had the wonderful opportunity to speak to graduate students in Brazil, and it has left me on a high. It got me thinking about the challenges we all face in life.
After months of waiting for a challenging season to end, Iāve finally embraced it as a part of life. Have you ever found yourself waiting, like being in a valley, hoping someone will hoist you up to the mountain? Life in the valley is something we all experience. Itās a stop on our journey but not where weāre meant to stay. If youāre in a valley, surrounded by mountains and obstacles, know that this too shall pass.
The Power of PerspectiveRecently, I had a revelation about our thoughts, emotions, and circumstances. Itās not the circumstance that causes us to feel discouraged, sad, or angryāitās our thoughts. Circumstances are neutral; they donāt carry any power. Itās our interpretation of them that shapes our emotions. This explains why two people in the same situation can react so differently.
A Personal AnecdoteIāll share a recent personal experience to illustrate this. I changed my phone provider, moving from a high business tariff to a much lower one. The switch-over process wasnāt smooth, and the new company only offered live chat support. You can imagine the frustration! During my first interaction, I was getting annoyed. I even felt like cursing out the agent, but I managed to keep my anger in check š
Although the problem wasnāt resolved by the third conversation, my reaction was different. I felt irritation rising but managed to push it down. Hereās why:
I had a chat with myself after the first interaction.this conversation was at home, at the start of the day, when I was at peace and not stressed.It was a different dayāFriday, to be exact!Shifting Your MindsetRecognising that circumstances donāt directly dictate our emotions allows us to work on our internal responses. Here are three mindset shifts to adopt during challenging seasons:
Accept that everyone goes through challenges.When I lost my business in the 2008 recession, it helped to know that it wasnāt just meāmany were affected. Understanding that challenges are normal in life can help us feel less burdened and more focused on moving forward. Resist the temptation to compare your life to others. Accepting that challenges are universal and neutral stops you from searching for the cause of your pain and allows you to nurture your soul.
Resist the urge to medicate the pain.Itās natural to want to avoid pain, but sometimes, the path to our destination involves facing difficulties head-on. Thereās treasure to be found in dark places, but only if we resist the urge to numb ourselves with distractions like alcohol, shopping, or binge-watching TV.
Donāt search for someone or something to blame.Blame is a common response to crises, but it doesnāt help us move forward. Instead of pointing fingers, take responsibility for your life. This doesnāt mean blaming yourselfāit means owning your journey. By doing so, you remain in control and can more effectively navigate challenges.
Final ThoughtsChallenges often involve deception, which blinds us to the goodness around us and amplifies our struggles. Remember, deception is simply a lie posing as truth. The best way to counter it is by internalising and speaking the truthāGod is good, and His plans for you are to prosper you and give you hope and a future.
AnnouncementsI'll be hosting a PR workshop on the 27th of June to teach and share with you the nitty-gritty of building your personal/business brand. These are the strategies I used to grow from $75 in the corner of my room to the destination for luxury baby furniture in London.Here's what you can expect to take away from the workshop: Learn MY tips and strategies that got me featured in top publications such as The Telegraph, The Times, The Metro, etc.
Discover how to build a strong online presence that attracts clients and opportunities and makes you feel confident and visible!Master the art of storytelling to make your brand stand out, and get access to exclusive insights you won't find elsewhereLearn how to craft pitches that land you on top media platforms and make your voice heard!Join me on Zoom on 27th of June,2024 and take the first step towards elevating your brand with PR mastery. Register now on the website or send an email to [email protected].
Spaces are limited, so sign up soon. For personal insights and reflections, check out my āDear Diaryā segment on social media and YouTube.Action Point
Be especially mindful this week and watch your emotional response to uncomfortable situations; then ask yourself, what thought created this feeling, or what did I just think? This will help to self-regulate emotions as opposed to being at their mercy.
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