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I'm so excited to be speaking with Christa Hardin, author of the book "The Enneagram in Marriage: Your Guide to Thriving Together in Your Unique Pairing." In The Enneagram in Marriage, readers will learn to: understand their partner's emotions and reactions extend more grace to their partner and themself have productive conversations that foster connection build a legacy together with intention. Each chapter concludes with three sections that aim to lead readers into a practical engagement with the materials, including tips to think through, questions to spark conversation, and assignments for partners to complete. As Hardin shares, âMy ultimate hope as you read this book is that you find refreshment as you become a healthier individual, that you find grace and understanding for your spouse, and most of all, that you find the unique way you can shine together in the world with your unique Enneagram pairing.â
Connect with Christa: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/
https://www.enneagraminyourmarriage.com/enneagram-deeper-dives
ORDER THE BOOK: https://www.amazon.com/Enneagram-Marriage-Thriving-Together-Pairing/dp/1540903370
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Laurie Palau is the author of the book HOT MESS: A PRACTICAL GUIDE TO GETTING ORGANIZED, host of the popular weekly podcast, This ORGANIZED Life, and founder of Simply B Organized-a lifestyle company helping people live simply and work smarter.
Laurie speaks on the topics of clutter, parenting, and entrepreneurship.
Her latest work connects the dots between personality type and clutter, through the lens of the Enneagram.
Her framework helps you to understand:
Whether you have a natural tendency towards physical, emotional, or calendar clutter
Specific strategies for living a more organized & less cluttered life
Which strategies to avoid based on your Enneagram type
Understanding the 5 clutter pitfalls and how to avoid them
You can connect with Laurie in all the cool places! :-)
Simply B Organized
Email her at: [email protected]
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Instead of focusing on the particular Enneagram types I want to talk a little about the Lower Level of all of numbers. What happens when we are trapped in habitual patterns of thinking and even trauma that has never been dealt with?
Should we start with a song or two?
Oh the weather outside is frightful but âŠ.thatâs NOTHING compared to the STORM thatâs happening inside!!
OrâŠ.Oh thereâs no place like Home for the HolidaysâŠ.WHERE EVERYONE IS ON EDGE!
I attended a class last week that was all about SURVIVING the Holidays with the Enneagram. Why do you think thereâs so much focus on the potential disaster of family gatherings?
Raise your hand if you have family member that just has a way of hitting a nerve every time they open their mouth! Perhaps your father-in-law says, "I like what youâve done with the house. Too bad you didnât have time to do the yard.â
Or your sister says, "Itâs probably good that you donât worry about keeping the house clean with all of these children."
These are obviously not anywhere close to some of the things that can be said when people are carrying the pain of past experience that has, perhaps, affected the family on a much deeper level. But the concept is the same.
Eckhart Tolle refers to THE PAIN BODY which is an accumulation of EMOTIONAL PAIN in the mind and body.
For the sake of THIS conversation weâre going to focus on someone elseâs pain body but this absolutely applies to all of us. But letâs assume YOU are fully conscious and operating at your highest level of healthy awareness. What happens when you encounter someone with an active Pain Body?
This accumulated pain is a negative energy field that occupies one's body and mind. If you look on it as an invisible entity in its own right, you are getting quite close to the truth. Itâs the emotional pain-body. It has two modes of being: dormant and active. A pain-body may be dormant 90 percent of the time; in a deeply unhappy person, though, it may be active up to 100 percent of the time. Some people live almost entirely through their pain-body, while others may experience it only in certain situations, such as intimate relationships, or situations linked with past loss or abandonment, physical or emotional hurt, and so on. Anything can trigger it, particularly if it resonates with a pain pattern from your past.
This is why family gatherings are breeding grounds for pain body reactions.
But it only takes ONE PERSON being aware to stop a chain reaction. You, yourself, may feel the emotion of past hurt but in that moment of awareness you can decide to step away from the drama. Maybe you literally step away or simply DO NOT RESPOND.
The pain-body wants to survive, just like every other entity in existence, and it can only survive if it is fed. It will feed on any experience that resonates with its own kind of energy, anything that creates further pain in whatever form: anger, destructiveness, hatred, grief, emotional drama, violence, and even illness. So the pain-body, when it has taken over, will create a situation that reflects back its own energy frequency for it to feed on. Pain can only feed on pain. Pain cannot feed on joy. It finds it quite indigestible.
Three words that will help when a Pain Body shows up.....Do Not Engage.
Resource: Eckhart Tolle
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âNow is when all your experience pairs with possibility.
Thatâs why these years are your Power Yearsâą.I love that quote from Sara Smeaton, creator of The Power Yearsâą Passport, The Midlife Manifesto and a wealth of wonderful resources and insight for women entering and traversing Midlife. Sara says..."
Our ageist society trains us to fight getting older and to believe âall of the good times are behind meâ. I think this is so wrong on so many levels â and hereâs why: These are the Power Yearsâą because we have experience and possibility in equal measure. AND we have opportunities, health, and economic stability like never before.
Yes, this is a time of transition and disruption and yes, this often brings with it big questions about âwhat do I want to do with the rest of my life?â, and âare the choices I made in my 20âs and 30âs still right for me?â That disruption can be scary but thereâs also a huge amount of hope and opportunity here. Because you get to decide what you want to do with your one and precious life â and thatâs what I help people to do."
Sara has generously given our listeners a FREE copy of her ebook - The Power Yearsâą Passport! It's a fun, lighthearted inner journey that is perfect for you if you are:
On the threshold of something new Looking to change your perspective about your age and whatâs possible for you Feeling stuck in a midlife rut Wanting to do some guided inner reflection that is fun and impactful Looking to tap into your creativity, recalibrate and reconnect with yourself Longing for access to your own inner wisdom Curious about who you are becoming and whatâs next for youYou can find all the ways to contact Sara on her Resource Page: Sara Smeaton
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Type 1s - They already carry the core FEAR of Being wrong, bad, inappropriate or Immoral
They ARMOR UP by thinkingâŠ.Itâs not okay to make mistakes therefore.....I must strive to follow the rules, be responsible and catch my mistakes before others do. Itâs the only way Iâll be safe and loved.
Type 2s They already carry the core FEAR of Being unloved, unwanted, needy
They ARMOR UP by thinking- People depend on me for help. I will earn the love and appreciation of others through acts of selflessness. I am only worthwhile if I am liked and needed therefore I will be loved if I am loving. Itâs the only way I will be safe and loved.
Type 3s They already carry the core FEAR of Failing to appear successful, being exposed as incompetent
They ARMOR UP by thinking - The world values winners. I must succeed at all costs. I must avoid failure. I am what I do â to earn my place, I must be the best at what I do. This is how I feel safe and loved.
Type 4s They already carry the core FEAR of Being without identity, misunderstood, flawed
They ARMOR UP by thinking - Something is missing â I must find what is missing in my life. I must be true to my purpose and express my authentic self. I must create beauty and meaning for myself and for the world.This is how I feel safe and loved.
Type 5s They already carry the core FEAR of Being helpless, incompetent, without resources
They ARMOR UP by thinking -The world is intrusive; I must protect my resources and energy so that I can think. I must be self-sufficient and not depend on others too much. I must understand and make sense of my world. I donât need much but I need my space. This is how I feel safe and loved.
Type 6s They already carry the core FEAR of Being unprepared, afraid, being blamed, without support
They ARMOR UP by thinking - The world is a threatening and unsafe place. Be prepared. Be loyal. People can count on me. Be careful who you trust. I must not be afraid, but I must not let my guard down. I must protect myself, but I must be loyal. This is how I feel safe and loved.
Type 7s They already carry the core FEAR of Missing out, being deprived, trapped in emotional pain and being bored
They ARMOR UP by thinking - The future is full of exciting possibilities and I must experience it all! If I prioritize planning for future activities I can escape confronting present, painful circumstances.This is how I feel safe and loved.
Type 8s They already carry the core FEAR of Weakness, vulnerability, being controlled
They ARMOR UP by thinking - The world is a tough and unjust place â only the strong survive. I am a rock; I must not be weak. I must be in control. Iâll do it my way! This is how I feel safe and loved.
Type 9s They already carry the core FEAR of Conflict, feeling shut out, losing connection
They ARMOR UP by thinking - I am okay as long as the people around me are okay too. The world would be a better place if people could treat each other with respect. I must be tolerant and accepting. I must keep the peace. This is how I feel safe and loved.
Poem by Billy Chapata Instagram https://www.instagram.com/iambrillyant/
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Women in Midlife already know about change! There are conversations everywhere you look about transformation and change. But the conversations mostly discuss what we need to change FROM!! What do we do when things change and we donât know what theyâre changing TO? We may even be pretty sure what weâre changing FROM but sometimes the change TO is a big mystery. HĂ©lĂšne Stelian is helping women to THRIVE in midlife and take some of the mystery out of the change. HĂ©lĂšne is the Midlife Mentor with a passion for facilitating personal development in women 40+. Through her THRIVE community, she helps introspective, curious, action-oriented women 40+ deepen their journeys of self- discovery and growthâand create their next chapter with courage and intention. Be sure to download this FREE gift from e-book HĂ©lĂšne "Thrive in Midlife: Create a No-Regrets Second Half." https://helenetstelian.com/ebook
RESOURCE LINKS:
Website: https://helenetstelian.com/ THRIVE membership:
https://helenetstelian.com/membership/ or www.MyTurnToThrive.com
Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empoweringwomenmidlife/
Twitter: @htstelian https://twitter.com/HTStelian
LinkedIn: @helene-tragos-stelian https://www.linkedin.com/in/helene-tragos-stelian
YouTube: @Empowering Women in Midlife
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Midlife Metamorphosis - A Revolution of Spirit
I've taken a refined direction...a place I feel 'at home'.
Carl Jung says..."The first half of life is devoted to forming a healthy ego, the second half is going inward and letting go of it."For those of us who have lived long enough to form our story, or ego-story, the question is, as we transition to new phases of life...why must we let it go if we've worked so hard to create it? What is its purpose? And how can we let it go if we aren't sure what 'it' is?
Identify. Release. Unfold.
Join me and the beautiful community of midlife women who are sharing the journey together. A place to grow and encourage as we use the enneagram to help us identify what needs to be released so we might unfold into the freedom of life we were created to live!
Come be a part of the Revolution of Spirit! Be sure to sign up for the Newsletter to receive information about the workshop, pre-course journal prompts and course information.
To visit the website and learn more click here: The Unfolding Enneagram
To register click here: The Unfolding Workshop
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Kelsi is an enneagram 9 and licensed professional counselor in the Kansas City area specializing in adolescents and adults with anxiety, depression, life transitions and identity work. She's continually excited to get to bring the Enneagram into her counseling work and continue her own growth through it as well. Her most favorite part of her work is getting to help people come home to themselves. Outside of her career, she enjoys college football, Summer thunderstorms and re-reading Glennon Doyle's "Untamed" over and over. You can find her on Instagram @grovecounseling or on her website at grovecounselingllc.com.
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How do you use your understanding of the Enneagram with people in your life without saying the word âenneagramâ ? Shantris shares the beauty of simply being aware of the energy of other people to give them support in the ways they need it and, as she says...holding space with "Gracious Expectations."
Shantris is a trauma and Enneagram-informed postpartum doula and parent educator. She is also an Operations professional primarily providing financial, administrative, and organizational support to Black-led nonprofit organizations. Shantris trained as a Perinatal Community Health Worker at Mamatoto Village, a Washington DC based family support organization dedicated to creating career pathways and providing accessible perinatal support services for Women of Color. Her passion for BIPOC family empowerment has influenced not only her trajectory in the nonprofit sector, but also her decision to launch EPIC Parent Education & Consulting, where she offers workshops, small groups, and 1:1 consulting designed to enhance parental capacity and awareness. She loves outdoor running, (mostly) keeping her houseplants alive, sampling her husbandâs home-roasted coffees, and tagging along on the backyard adventures of her two children. Contact: IG: @loveshanyshan + @epicblackparents (this page isn't actually active yet lol) Email: [email protected] -
Like many terms of phrases that have been used with the Enneagram for decades, recently we have begun to expand on the original ones - not change their core meaning but dig a little deeper into the words themselves.
So what if I restated the original childhood message for type 5s in this wayâŠ.
âItâs not ok to let your guard down because you wonât be able to handle things competently.â
If youâre a type 5 or you love a type 5âŠdoes that hit differently?
Letâs add a little more complexity to this scenario - Type 5s are in the Thinking or Head Center of Intelligence (meaning their instinctual way of processing life is from their minds first - not the heart or their gut), they are in the withdrawing stance and they sit right in the middle of the FEAR triad!
The power of deep listening is HEARING what, at times, someone doesnât even know how to say. Pay attentionâŠyouâll hear. You donât have to have the right wordsâŠyou just want them to know you are there, present and listening in whatever way they are emptying their heart. This is how we contribute to less suffering in this world.
To our beautiful type 5sâŠ.Breath in this messageâŠâAll you truly need to know RIGHT THIS MOMENT is that you are heard and seen and loved.â
#enneagram5 #enneagramtype5 #deeplistening #childhoodmessage #enneagrampodcast
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Today, letâs look at the childhood message for type 4: It almost seems impossible to think of a child hearing these words and the truth isâŠ.these exact words were most likely, never spoken but somehow the message was received that âItâs not ok to be too functional or too happy.â
Take just a few seconds to FEEL that deep inside.
Imagine how that feelsâŠ.I CANâT BE TOO HAPPY. I Canât DO too muchâŠToo muchâŠ..Too happy.
What creates this feeling of having to be less than you are? That if anyone truly knew how deeply you FEEL and how you see such depth to the world it would be TOO MUCH for them? That YOU are just TOO MUCH and thus, feel so out of placeâŠ.longing to just be authentically YOU?
Breath in this truthâŠ..You ARE seen and LOVED for ALL that you. You are NOT too much. You donât have to hide the beauty of ALL you offer to this world. Listen deeply to that message
#Enneagram4 #Enneagram #EnneagramPodcast #EnneagramChildhoodmessage #DeepListening
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Who doesnât love being applauded for a job well done? And which of us as parents or adults donât love applauding the young - sometimes literally clapping after a performance? Thatâs natural and itâs necessary to encourage achievement. This is part of lifeâŠcompetition, endurance, challenge and success. But when the trophy doesnât come, when the grades fall, when the job is lost and success is no where to be seenâŠwhen the applause has stoppedâŠ..what does the voice inside say?
Today, if you are an Enneagram type 3 or you love a type 3, listen deeply and compassionately to this message as if a child is saying thisâŠ.âItâs not okay to have my own feelings and my own identity.â Can you hear that sweet boy or girl sayingâŠ.âIâll be what you want me to be and youâll be so proud. Iâll be the best for you and I know youâll love me, right?â
Dear Enneagram type 3 - You have carried this message to long. It no longer serves you and itâs time to let it go.
Breath in this pure truthâŠ.âI am loved and accepted today. I WAS loved before I ever put on the first mask to hide my true feelings. I am free to drop anything that covers my true identity which is simply and wonderfully ME.
#Enneagram #Enneagram3 #EnneagramType3 #DeepListening #EnneagramChildhoodMessage
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What was the childhood message for enneagram type 2s? It wasâŠâŠâItâs not ok to have your own needs.â
How did that message get embedded in the unconscious mind of a young type 2? Every childhood is different and every child interprets their experiences differently. Each of us has a filter through which we understand the world around us. But young type 2s processed that early data and concluded: âIâll be loved if I sacrifice my own needs for the needs of others.â So Their self-love became conditional upon their earning a sense of worth through taking care of others.
How soul crushing. The weight of that burden is too much to carry.
Breath. Empty your heart and suffer less. This message that you are only wanted if you are sacrificing your needs for others is NO LONGER SERVING YOU.
Say it out loudâŠ."The needs and desires of my heart are my birthright."
Breath in that truth.
Empty your heart of the suffering you carry day after day of believing you arenât worthy of love and belonging unlessâŠ.
There is no âunlessâ. You donât need to earn loveâŠ.you ARE love and you are LOVED and wanted - no strings attached.
#Enneagram, #EnneagramPodcast, #EnneagramType2, #Enneagram2, #DeepListening, #ChildhoodMessage
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What is Deep Listening? It comes from the teachings of Buddhist Monk ticht nacht hahn. He says Deep Listening (or Compassionate Listening) is the kind of listening that can help relieve the suffering of another person. You listen with only one purpose: to help him or her to empty his heart. ... You just listen with compassion and help him to suffer less.
Take a few seconds to feel the power of those wordsâŠ.to empty their heart so they can suffer less.
NowâŠ.feel the shift when we sayâŠâTo empty my own heart so I can suffer less.â
Iâd like to offer the suggestion that we LISTEN to our own voiceâŠstarting with the inner childhood messages for each of our types. Oh way be adults but we carry memories and messages from the very beginning of our lives.
The childhood messages may come from a loved one, a parental figure, a teacher or a friend. Yet, the words themselves may have never actually been spoken and even beyond actually being said at all, we, as children, often create the belief in our own fragile minds through a filter weâve already begun to create from our limited life experience. But early on, we all create a foundational message from which we begin to create our lives.
For Enneagram type 1 the message was âItâs not ok to make mistakes.â
Type 1sâŠ.who told you itâs not ok to make mistakes? And how did you feel when you do? Ashamed? Afraid?
Who told you were anything less than you perfect love? Who made you feel that being LOVED depended on your being good? And who decided for you what âGOODâ looked like.
Oh sweet childâŠ.you are GOOD because you are a living.
Can you empty your heart just a little bit today? Can you listen DEEPLY with a loving voice? Say it out loudâŠ.I am not ashamed. I am not afraid. Itâs not up to me to prove my worth or my goodness.
I am Good.
#DeepListening #Enneagram #EnneagramPodcast #Enneagram1 #Enneagramtype1 #EnneagramChildhoodMessage #Mistakes #SufferLess #EmptyYourHeart #SelfTalk
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What do we do? What happens when you donât know where you want to be but you just know you donât want to be where you are?
My friend, Professional Business Coach, John Alan Turner, saysâŠ.âItâs not enough to know where you donât want to be. You have to know where you're going.â
I have been PASSIONATE about the Enneagram for many, many years. 12 to be exact. Do I know all there is to know about the it after all these years? Not remotelyâŠ.WHO DOES? No one - itâs a life time of unfolding into greater understanding. And I LOVE teaching the nuts and bolts of the Enneagram and how our personalities show up within our types. But what I truly LOVE is seeing someone have that light bulb moment and sense a freedom they hadnât felt before. I LOVE information and if youâre in the HEAD triad you can just FEED endlessly on information. But I LOVE people and know that simply being passionate about anything can actually be oppressive. You can belittle and actually do more harm than good to someone with whatever information youâre passionate about if you donât have COMPASSION.
Passion + Compassion = Purpose.
Just like Passion without Compassion can be ineffective, information without transformation is useless. I knew that if I was going to take the necessary steps to move OUT of the space I was in and into a new space I needed to guidanceâŠ.someone who understood where I wanted to go and could help me recalculate.
I needed a Guide - A Coach. Iâve been in an Enneagram Coaching apprenticeship program for several months and Iâm so excited to actually KNOW where Iâm going with a map of how to get there! I connected with someone who has given me guided directionâŠsomeone who understood my desire to take my knowledge combined with my heart for helping people free themselves from whatever pain point is keeping them from flourishing, to create a way to take my passion and marry it with compassion.
This means a lot of changes are coming in a few months. Iâll be rebrandingâŠa new name with a clear message. Iâll be using my years of consuming information that have lead to my own transformation and my ALMOST 63 years of life experience to help others who may know they are STUCK and want a way out. OR maybe you just realize where you are in life is no longer fulfilling and you need a little help recalculating. Iâm excited to be able to confidently sayâŠ.I can help you.
#Enneagram #EnneagramCoach #Passion #Compassion #Enneagram1 #Enneagram2 #Enneagram3 #Enneagram4 #Enneagram5 #Enneagram6 #Enneagram7 #Enneagram8 #Enneagram9
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The Passion for For type 1s is ANGER. Type 1s are often called the Reformers and hold themselves to very high standards which is a good quality, right? SOâŠthe deceitfulness of the passions is that it seems GOOD to be conscientious and ethical, with a strong sense of right and wrong. And being ANGRY goes against what seems to be GOOD. So they resist being angry. And when others donât seem to hold the same standards of goodness then that anger that they resist builds. But 1s are even harder on themselves so that anger turns inward so often if they believe they havenât lived up to their own standards. The relentless demand of the inner critic to be good and do good at all times and to set the standard for what is good, replaces personal needs and shuts down feelings which, if left unaddressed will come out in the form of resentment.
Type 2sâŠThe Passion is Pride âŠ..This seems so opposite of what we see in type 2s who are so giving of their love, their time, knowing what everyone else needs. In fact, they are so focused on others that they take PRIDE in seeming to not have needs of their own. THEY see themselves as THE SOURCE of what others need. It seems GOOD to be so servant-hearted but when they resist acknowledging they have needs, having denied their own in service to others, they are actually denying others the gift of service.
For type 3s the passion is Self-deceit or conforming to what they think is necessary to be SEEN as successful or WORTHY. 3s are often called âShape shiftersâ because they will take on the role of what they think OTHERS want them to be. It seems GOOD to be success-driven and even GOOD to be adaptable but they resist resting in their authenticity and resist knowing they are fully loved apart from any external success.
The passion of type 4 is Envy but this envy is a internal sense of a lack of being wholeâŠlike something about themselves is inherently missing. They tend to believe everyone else has that missing thing. They long for authenticity which leads to the desire to be unique because they actually believe they ARE unique because others have what they believe they are missing. 4s are SO in touch with this FEELING of deficiency that they seek value in an idealized external experiences or work or a relationship. It seems GOOD to BE AUTHENTIC and not conform but they resist knowing thereâs nothing missing because they are so identified with that image. It becomes a never ending loop if left in an unhealthy stage.
Type 5âs passion is AVARICE but in Enneagram language it is not a desire for obtaining money or possessions but of resources .They retreat inward and hoard their time and energy. This inward focus allows the Type Five ample time to focus on ideas and acquiring knowledge. That doesnât seem like a negative thing, right? I meanâŠisnât it GOOD to know what youâre talking about - to gain knowledge and to not just throw your time and energy away? It can be good for sure. BUTâŠthey worry that if they share too much of themselves, they wonât have enough left. SOâŠin resisting connection by retreating inward, but it also builds a wall between them and others. As they pull back from external connections, they also become detached from their emotional self.
The passion for type 6 is FEAR. They are sometimes referred to as THE LOYALISTS - great people to have on your team, right? Type 6s are so great at anticipating what could go wrong. They look for where danger could be lurking or what problems MIGHT occur at any time. We NEED these people who are cautious and security-oriented. If Iâm going on a wilderness trek thatâs who I want to go with! But they can become so focused on what could go WRONG that they become suspicious and filled with self-doubt. So what seems GOOD can be paralyzing.
For Type 7s the passion is Gluttony. In this context itâs a almost insatiable craving to experience ALL THE THINGS. 7s see the positive in most things and are typically focused on being joyful and happy. 7s deepest fear is being trapped in emotional pain so they try to avoid anything that causes pain or sadness. In fact, they see their worth is in BEING the positive person. It seems GOOD to look for the positive, to be Joyful, to NOT dwell in pain. And so....they resist what is actually before them in the present and deny that they experience pain. This also makes them emotionally unavailable to anyone else who might need them in time of grief. And what happens? They disconnect from their heart and my body, rationalize away the pain and escape to a place in the future where there is no sadness. But that place doesnât actually exist and instead of feeling FULL of all aspects of life, they are left feeling a hunger and emptiness through what appeared to be GOOD.
Type 8s passion is called LUST which isnât just about sexuality although it can include it. 8s have a desire for INTENSITY in whatever they do. They take the initiative and make things happen! They see the world as unjust and power imbalanced. So they feel they need to dominate so they are not controlled. They are the most assertive type in the enneagram. 8s want to be self-reliant, to prove their strength and resist weakness, to be important in their world. 8s are often referred to as THE PROTECTOR. They are often champions for the underdog. That sounds SO GOOD! But in their attempt to control and NOT BE controlled they lose touch with vulnerability. They can see it as weakness and so they resist letting their feelings be seen. Make no mistake, thoughâŠ8s are very feeling people but keep up the powerful façade so they wonât be hurt.
Type 9âs passion is called Sloth. SoâŠwhat does âslothâ mean in Enneagram language? It is sense of inertia to YOURSELFâŠ.a falling asleep to your OWN passions, abilities, desires, needs, and worth by merging with others. Why have type 9s been called the PEACEMAKERS? Because they strive to maintain peace both internally and externally. So, this means avoiding conflict at all costs!
You will often read about type 9sâ desire for Peace and Harmony like they are one and the same. But they are not. I think that 9s - like all of us, actually, would love to live in HARMONY with the world but we settle for NO-CONFLICT. The tendency is to GO ALONG with others to avoid not having peace. So - where is the deceitfulness of Good here?
Type 9s often make great mediators because they have an ability to see all sides of a situation. How great is that? They generally have a calming effect on people, they are usually non-judgmental, easy going. But, as we have quoted throughout this series, âwhat you resist not only persists, but grows stronger.â When you resist your own needs to accommodate othersâ it will result in unhealthy relationships - maybe even a codependent relationship. Avoiding conflict with others keeps Nines from being fully present in relationships. Avoiding internal conflict leads to inertia and self-forgetting. When so much of their focus is on otherâs then there isnât a lot of energy to take care of your own. 9s can become passive-aggressive and resentment builds because they have so much to contribute to the world but taking on the role of THE PEACEMAKER keeps them from taking action on their own desires. Once againâŠthis is the loop that we all get in when we donât acknowledge our suffering. We are deceived into believing our GOOD WORKS will equal being LOVED.
#Enneagram #EnneagramPassions #DeceitfulnessOfGood #SelfDeceit #Enneagram1 #Enneagram2 #Enneagram3 #Enneagram4 #Enneagram5 #Enneagram6 #Enneagram7 #Enneagram8 #Enneagram9
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As we continue to look at the deceitfulness of good through the enneagram perspectives we see how the passion, which comes from the latin word 'passeo' which means 'to suffer', of each type is tied to an attempt to resist the suffering by doing good. But, in the words of Carl Jung, what you resist not only persists, but will grow in size. When we resist confronting what makes us suffer it will only lead to deeper suffering, loss of self love and loss of relationships.
In this episode we look at Enneagram types 4,5,6 and 8. We are saving types 7 and 9 for next week as those are our types and we'll explore how this journey has opened up such growth for ourselves, as individuals, as well as our marriage.
#worldviews #personalgrowth #enneagram #deceitfulness #spiraldynamics #enneagram4, #enneagram5 #enneagram6 #enneagram8 #enneagrampassions #evolutionarygrowth
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"What we resist not only persists, but will grow in size." ~ Carl Jung
There are a couple of different words for what each Enneagram type resists - but typically they are referred to as The Passion or The Vice. So when I first began hearing about the Passions I was confused because Passion sounded good - like something youâre really good at or something you really love. But, in this context Passion comes from the Latin word Passio which meas TO SUFFER. I absolutely prefer PASSION over VICE because the definition of Vice is âmoral fault or wickedness'. Do you FEEL the difference? What we would call a fault or an act of wickedness, a vice, seems to be an outward action where are PASSION is inwardâŠitâs what we HOLD INSIDE. It might even seem GOOD to suffer in silence or even deny our suffering.
We will look at Enneagram types 1, 2 and 3 in this episode.
#Enneagram #EnneagramPassions #Enneagram1 #Enneagram2 #Enneagram3 #SpiralDynamics #Worldviews
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My guest today is performance poet, Joel McKerrow. To try and describe what that means and what he does in a these show notes would be like asking me to describe what crĂšme brĂ»lĂ©e taste like. I canât. You must experience it.
Iâm so excited to share his latest project, HUMAN - An Exploration of the Inner Life.Through the visual arts, the zoological, the poetic and the musical, HUMAN is an exploration of the drive that makes us...well...human. With a philosophical base in the identity framework of the enneagram (plus a few extras), this is your chance to explore your deeper desires, your compulsions, your hopes and your fears and how they shape your life for better and for worse.
Joel McKerrow is an award winning writer, speaker, educator, artist, creativity specialist and, having performed for hundreds of thousands of people throughout the world, is one of Australiaâs most successful, internationally touring, performance poets. Based out of Melbourne, Australia he is the Artist Ambassador for the aid and development organisation âTEARFUND Australiaâ and was the co-founder of community arts organisation, 'The Centre for Poetics and Justice' (2010-2013). Joel was the third ever Australian representative at the Individual World Poetry Slam Championships in the USA and is a highly sought after speaker at conferences and festivals all over the world. He has four published books and four spoken word/music albums, is a successful play-wright and is a co-founder/host of the The Deep Place: On Creativity and Spirituality Podcast.
I hope youâll allow yourself to take in the visual along with the spoken word by visiting his website and choosing your animal symbol, seeing the meaning of each one while you hear the exploration of the inner life of each of type.
To be HUMAN is to live in tension with oneself.
It's the way we want to be fully known and the fear that stops us.
It's the ache of our longing and the hope of our finding.
Itâs the pain of our sorrow and the joy of our love.
Itâs the dark that hides and the light that reveals.
It's the despair and it is the beauty.This inner conflict, or perhaps truer to say, this inner confluence,
is where the wellspring of what impels us overflows into our everyday realities.Ask the animals, they know.
#Enneagram #EnneagramPodcast #JoelMcKerror #Poetry #PerformancePoet #creativewriting #AustralianPoet #WorldPoetrySlam #Enneagram3
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We return to the podcast world today in a new series. The topic is the Deceitfulness of Good. Weâre approaching this subject from multiple perspectives. DenĂ©e will be coming form the 9 perspectives of the Enneagram and Doug will be coming from theology and world religion using the Spiral.
The human being is so complex in our make up. We are the sum total of many different elements and life conditions. All of us experience transformation in some way every day of our lives.The past year has been challenging on many different levels. We will discuss the global human longing for moving from chaos to unity.
All of our tools for transformation must include our individual and personal growth as well as our growth in relationships, groups and collectives. The more tools we have the more likely we can experience positive transformation no matter what challenges present themselves.
#Enneagram #SpiralDynamics #Integral #UnityConsciousness #Transreligious #Spirituality #SpiritualButNotReligious #universalidentity #UniversalHumanity #Transformation
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