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Are you open to just being friends with an ex?
Do you think they want the same kind of friendship?
Today, Jayâs diving into a question we've all probably wrestled with at some point: can you really stay friends with an ex? He kicks things off by laying down some ground rules, pointing out that not every ex is friendship material, especially if there was any toxicity or harm in the relationship. For those open to trying a platonic bond post-breakup, he highlights the real-life complexities and the level of emotional maturity it takes to make it work.
Jay also brings in some interesting science, sharing that studies show people stay connected with their exes for reasons like security, convenience, keeping things civil, or even unresolved feelings. But each of these reasons can get messy, and Jay explains that often, the urge to stay friends might have more to do with wanting a sense of safety or familiarity than with genuine friendship.
In this episode, you'll learn:
How to Decide if an Ex Deserves Friendship
How to Set Boundaries with an Ex
How to Manage Shared Friends Post-Breakup
How to Avoid Using Friendship to Win Them Back
How to Avoid Hurting Your Ex Twice
Sometimes, the boldest and most courageous thing you can do is to walk away, taking the lessons with you and leaving the rest behind. Focus on what makes you feel good and helps you build the life you truly want.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
00:52 Not Every Ex Deserves Friendship
04:36 Four Core Reasons People Stay Friends with Their Exes
09:30 Four Ways to Know Being Friends with an Ex Wonât Work
13:52 How to Start Being Friends with an Ex?
18:33 Friends and Family Can be Casualties of a Breakup
21:41 Establish New Rules of Engagement
22:50 Consider the Welfare of Children
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How do you usually handle stress?
Have you tried hypnosis for stress?
Today, Jay with Dr. David Spiegel, a leading expert in psychiatry and behavioral sciences, to explore the transformative power of hypnotherapy. Dr. Spiegel, with over 45 years of experience in clinical and research fields, shares profound insights into the science behind hypnosis, dispelling myths and misconceptions. He explains how hypnosis is a natural, self-directed process that allows individuals to tap into heightened focus, manage pain, reduce stress, and address deep-seated traumas.
The conversation begins with Dr. Spiegel explaining the foundations of hypnosis, highlighting its ability to narrow oneâs focus, similar to a telephoto lens, and create a dissociative state where one can temporarily suspend self-limiting beliefs. This unique focus enables users to challenge habitual thoughts and reframe experiences. Dr. Spiegel shares real-life success stories, such as a war veteran who found peace with traumatic memories and individuals overcoming chronic pain and stress using hypnosis.
In this interview, you'll learn:
How to Sleep Better Using Hypnosis
How to Improve Focus by Narrowing Attention
How to Process Trauma Safely with Hypnosis
How to Use Visualization to Relieve Stress
How to Focus Your Attention Deeply
How to Filter Out Pain with Hypnosis
By learning how to access a focused, relaxed state, you can reshape your response to pain, manage stress more effectively, and explore emotions or memories that might otherwise feel overwhelming.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro 02:17 What is Hypnosis 05:08 How Beneficial Hypnosis is For You? 09:14 What Happens to Your Brain During Hypnosis 14:40 Can You Control Other People with Hypnosis? 16:13 Is It Possible to Hypnotize Anyone? 26:14 Youâre Still in Control of Your Body 31:28 How Can Hypnotherapy After Memory Recall? 38:29 Guided Hypnotherapy at Home is Possible 40:59 Let Your Brain Heal Your Body 43:34 The Worst Mental Case Under Hypnosis 50:26 We Lose the Hypnotic Ability as We Age 55:39 How Hypnosis Can Help You Focus More 57:38 David on Final FiveEpisode Resources:
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Have you ever felt like success affected your dating life?
Have you ever felt judged for your level of ambition?
Today, Jay addresses the insecurities some men may feel when partnered with highly driven women, shedding light on societal conditioning and personal growth. discusses how societal expectations traditionally placed men in provider roles, which can lead to an unease when faced with a partner who exemplifies drive and independence.
Jay also delves into recent studies, such as the "Clooney Effect," showing that most men actually value intelligence and confidence in their partners. By examining these narratives, Jay dispels myths that successful women are inherently intimidating to men. Instead, he encourages ambitious women not to diminish their goals but to seek partners who celebrate and complement their journey.
In this episode, you'll learn:
How to embrace your ambition without guilt
How to address insecurities in your relationship
How to balance mutual respect and personal ambition
How to seek partners who uplift, not compete
How to identify and avoid unhealthy relationship roles
True partnership means valuing each other's journey, working through insecurities together, and building a foundation where both people can grow freely and authentically.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
00:49 Are Men Less Attracted to Successful Women?
05:15 Men Have Had to Play the Protective Role
06:48 The Negative Dating Mindset You Should Stop Having
13:04 Have an Understanding of What Both are Pursuing
14:29 Are You Making Your Partner Feel Insecure?
18:29 What Makes You a Healthy Partner?
21:04 Respect Each Otherâs Ambitions
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What does a balanced life look like for you?
Are you getting enough time to recharge?
Today, Jay engages in a deeply reflective conversation with legendary actor, filmmaker, and writer Tom Hanks. With a career spanning over four decades, Hanks is renowned for his roles in iconic films like Forrest Gump, Saving Private Ryan, Cast Away, and The Green Mile, earning him two Academy Awards.
Tom opens up about his unconventional childhood, moving frequently and adjusting to new environments, which shaped his adaptability and taught him the art of letting go. As he reflects on his career, he discusses how he continues to find purpose and depth in his work, emphasizing the joy of collaboration and the importance of staying curious.
Together, Jay and Tom discuss how certain locations hold emotional weight, becoming symbols of comfort or life-changing reflection. They also touch on generational wisdom, the role of luck, and finding joy in small, shared experiences. With his characteristic humor and humility, Tom offers listeners a glimpse into his contemplative nature and the lessons he's learned over the years, reminding us all of the power of presence and community.
In this interview, you'll learn:
How to Find Comfort in Solitude
How to Embrace Life's Unexpected Changes
How to Connect Across Generations
How to Trust Your Instincts and Take Risks
How to Stay Curious at Any Age
How to Discover Purpose in Your Work
How to Show Up Fully in Relationships
How to Find Wisdom in Lifeâs Challenges
How to Pursue Meaning over Perfection
Life isnât about having all the answers; itâs about embracing the unknown with openness, honoring the journey, and finding meaning in each moment, each experience, and each relationship.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro 01:17 Early Life Lessons: Childhood, Change, and Resilience 05:37 Mastering the Art of Detachment 10:15 Discovering Theater and Passion in High School 18:56 Can We Create Our Own Luck? 21:35 Exploring the Sacred Sites of Jerusalem 27:03 Owning Your Mistakes and When to Take Personal Responsibility 30:52 The Third Space: Finding Balance Beyond Work and Home 37:03 Fathers and the Lasting Impact on Their Sons 38:42 Nurturing Kidsâ Interests for Genuine Growth 42:59 The Value of Academic Ambition 45:21 Capturing the Present: Finding Magic in Every Moment 52:46 Reflections on Seeing Your Younger Self in the Movie 55:03 Finding Presence in Everyday Life 58:04 The Freedom of Following Your True Desires 01:04:25 Imagining the Dream Life: Building a Path to Fulfillment 01:07:29 Themes of Time and Place in the Film Here 01:09:01 The Fascination with Reaching the Moon 01:11:04 Unraveling a Deep Fascination with WWII 01:18:01 Becoming Americaâs Most Trusted Voice 01:21:07 Grateful for the Blessings of Family 01:22:04 Observing Lifeâs Passing Moments 01:27:42 Honored with Greek Citizenship 01:31:31 Tom on Final FiveEpisode Resources:
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Have you ever regretted not saying something sooner?
Do you think holding in your emotions causes stress?
Today, Jay takes us on a journey through the principles of the Tell Them Method, explaining that whether it's a simple decision like not wanting to attend an event or a deeper emotion like feeling unappreciated, the key is to directly communicate those feelings to the person involved. He highlights that most of us practice what he calls the "Tell Everyone But Them" methodâwhere we vent to others but avoid speaking directly to the person who needs to hear it. This behavior, Jay argues, not only erodes trust and intimacy in relationships but also traps negative emotions within us, leading to stress and even physical discomfort.
Jay uses relatable anecdotes and insights from research to underline the significance of expressing emotions in a healthy way. He discusses how bottled-up emotions can lead to passive-aggressive behavior, overreactions, and even health problems. By directly telling people how we feelâwhether itâs disappointment, love, or frustrationâJay believes we open the door to deeper understanding and connection.
In this episode, you'll learn:
How to Use the Tell Them Method
How to Stop Avoiding Hard Conversations
How to Pick the Best Time to Talk
How to Share Feelings Without Fighting
How to Ask Instead of Accuse
Practicing the "Tell Them Method" approach in everyday life not only improves our relationships but also enhances our emotional well-being, giving us the clarity and peace that comes from being truthful and intentional in our interactions.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
02:33 What is the Tell Them Method?
06:11 Why itâs Hard to Tell Someone How You Feel
09:29 Underestimate the Value of How Something is Said
16:06 The Three Things That Happen When Emotion is Experienced
18:26 How Trapped Emotions Can Create Trauma
22:52 Figure Out the Best Time to Talk About It
25:57 Donât Wait for the Last Minute to Tell Them
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Have you ever tried different ways to get rid of belly fat?
Have you ever tried different ways to suppress your appetite?
Today, Jay welcomes womenâs health expert, bestselling author, and podcast host Dr. Mindy Pelz to discuss how women can optimize their health, particularly through fasting, hormones, and metabolic health. Dr. Pelz explains the biological differences between men and women and emphasizes the importance of understanding the female body's rhythms and cycles for maintaining health and hormonal balance.
Dr. Pelz begins by discussing common fasting mistakes, highlighting how doing the same fast daily can slow down metabolism. She introduces the concept of "feast-famine cycling," stressing the need for variety in fasting durations and windows, particularly for women. According to her, fasting must be adapted to the individualâs lifestyle and, for women, their menstrual cycle. She also addresses Jayâs personal approach to fasting and offers tailored advice for him, including when to eat before and after workouts.
The conversation then turns to the topic of belly fat and how stress and toxins contribute to weight gain, particularly around the belly area. Dr. Pelz explains that excess cortisol, which is heightened by stress, leads to belly fat, and she provides practical tips to manage cortisol levels, including movement, time in nature, and spending time with positive people.
In this interview, you'll learn:
How to Start Fasting Gradually
How to Manage Stress with Movement
How to Reduce Belly Fat Naturally
How to Customize Your Eating Schedule
How to Stabilize Blood Sugar with Timing
How to Stay Full Longer with Healthy Fats
How to Lose Weight with Fasting Cycles
How to Align Fasting with Your Menstrual Cycle
The message is clear: everyone has the ability to transform their well-being by taking small, intentional steps toward a healthier lifestyle. With the right mindset and commitment, a vibrant and balanced life is within reach for all.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro 02:59 The Worst Mistake One Can Make While Fasting 04:38 How Do You Fast Properly? 06:22 Whatâs Your Intention for Your Health? 09:37 Whatâs the Fastest Way to Lose Belly Fat? 13:42 Common Toxins That Accumulate in the Body 18:00 The Chemicals that Turn Stems Cells to Fat Cells 19:43 Does Counting Calories Matter? 25:45 How to Have a Better Relationship with Food 29:16 How to Detox from Sugar Cravings 32:47 How Much Protein Should You Eat? 38:19 What is Toxic Fat? 39:50 When is the Best Time to Eat Fat? 43:38 Are You Getting Enough Nutrients for Your Hormones? 46:14 What is the Fasting Cycle? 49:08 The Femaleâs Hormonal System is Highly Complex 52:52 Should You Reconsider Hormone Replacement Therapy? 55:22 Positive LIfestyle Changes That Could Help You 58:40 Is There Anyone Who SHouldnât Fast? 59:58 What is a Clean Protein? 01:03:25 How to Empower Your Body 01:04:40 How to Know Your Got Your Meal Right 01:09:09 How Do You Train Yourself to Fast? 01:12:44 Is the Female Body Meant to Have More Fat? 01:17:37 How Do You Manage Fasting and Working Out? 01:20:22 Mindy on Final FiveEpisode Resources:
Dr. Mindy Pelz | Website Dr. Mindy Pelz | Instagram Dr. Mindy Pelz | Facebook Dr. Mindy Pelz | YouTube Dr. Mindy Pelz | LinkedIn Eat Like a Girl: 100+ Delicious Recipes to Balance Hormones, Boost Energy, and Burn FatSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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Do you find yourself thinking about your ex often?
What has been the hardest part of moving on for you?
Today, Jay taps into the emotional complexities of getting over an ex and provides actionable steps to move forward. Drawing on insights from neuroscience and psychology, Jay explains why it's entirely normal to struggle with letting go of a past relationship, even if it's been months or years. The emotional pain we experience after a breakup, he explains, is comparable to drug withdrawal, highlighting the deep biological connections we form with our partners.
One of the most impactful ideas Jay shares is that clinging to the past steals energy and time from the future. By ruminating over what could have been, we rob ourselves of the opportunity to build new experiences and relationships. Ultimately, Jayâs message is clear: while it's natural to struggle with letting go, the key to healing lies in breaking old patterns, embracing new habits, and shifting our focus toward growth. If you or someone you know is struggling to move on from a past relationship, this episode offers practical tools and compassionate advice to help start the journey toward healing.
In this episode, you'll learn:
How to Heal by Changing Your Environment
How to Replace Emotional Attachment After a Breakup
How to Shift Focus from the Past to the Present
How to Build Confidence Without External Validation
How to Move On by Breaking Old Patterns
Trust that with patience and self-compassion, you will find the strength to not only move on, but to thrive in ways you never imagined. You deserve the love and happiness that comes from withinâkeep moving forward, you're stronger than you know.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
02:29 What to Do If Youâre Still Not Over Your Ex?
04:11 What Research Shows About Breakups
07:20 #1: Change Your Environment
13:26 #2: Identify What Youâre Missing: Habit or Emotion
17:18 #5: Focus on Building Your Life
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Have you ever struggled with guilt or shame?
Why do you think self-forgiveness is so hard?
Today, Jay sits down with the incredibly talented and resilient Jelly Roll, a Grammy-nominated Nashville native who has captured hearts with his raw, soulful music. Rising from a troubled past marked by addiction, incarceration, and personal struggles, Jelly Roll has turned his life around through music, earning widespread acclaim for his deeply emotional lyrics and raw storytelling. With a top-three debut on the Billboard 200 and multiple awards to his name, His music resonates with those facing hardship, offering a message of hope, redemption, and healing.
Jelly Roll shares his powerful journey from a turbulent pastâmarked by addiction, incarceration, and emotional strugglesâto becoming one of the most celebrated figures in country music today. Together, they explore topics like the impact of childhood trauma, battling demons, overcoming addiction, and the importance of love and healing in personal transformation.
Jelly Roll opens up about his rise to success, reflecting on how music has been a healing force not only for him but for the countless fans who resonate with his lyrics. From finding solace in Jay Shettyâs book Think Like a Monk during a dark time in his life to creating music that speaks directly to those who feel unseen, Jelly Roll's story is one of redemption, hope, and purpose.
In this interview, you'll learn
How to find purpose in your struggles
How to forgive yourself for past mistakes
How to overcome addiction through accountability
How to turn negative experiences into positive impact
How to create emotional resilience in tough times
How to find peace in moments of darkness
No matter where you are right now, itâs never too late to rewrite your story and create a life filled with meaning and growth. Keep pushing forward, and believe in your ability to rise.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro 04:24 Rediscovering Purpose After Struggles 07:26 Coping with the Loss of a Father 10:34 How His Mother Sparked His Musical Journey 14:48 The Impact of Deep-Rooted Insecurities 17:25 Embracing Accountability for Personal Growth 19:51 The Barriers to Self-Forgiveness 21:08 Reflections on His Fifteen-Year-Old Self 24:26 Life Behind Bars as a Juvenile 28:47 The Fine Line Between Accountability and Self-Sabotage 32:56 Developing Emotional Awareness and Growth 37:21 The Reality of Food Addiction 40:34 Breaking the Chains of Addiction 42:22 Finding Someone Who Sees Your True Worth 49:45 Why Asking for Help Shows Strength, Not Weakness 54:12 Bringing Hope and Uplifting Spirits Through Prison Performances 01:02:13 Addressing Drug Addiction in His Congressional Speech 01:08:50 Understanding the True Victims of Drug Abuse 01:11:31 Breaking Free from Generational Curses 01:18:23 The Profound Impact of Music on His Life 01:25:57 Healing the Inner Child Through Faith 01:31:14 A Heartfelt Letter from His Brother 01:35:36 Fast Five with Jelly RollEpisode Resources:
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Have you ever struggled to change a habit?
Do you think forcing someone to change ever works?
Today, Jay dives deep into one of the most frequently asked questions: Can people really change? Drawing from a mix of personal stories, scientific research, and spiritual wisdom, Jay sheds light on the complexities of human behavior, how change unfolds, and why it can often seem so elusive.
One of the key insights Jay offers is the distinction between acknowledgment and accountability. Many people acknowledge they need to change, but accountabilityâtaking full responsibility for how their actions impact others and making a concrete plan to improveâis much harder to achieve. Without this deeper level of self-awareness and commitment, lasting change remains out of reach.
Jay provides practical advice for those navigating relationships with people who seem resistant to change. He outlines key signs to look for that indicate someone is truly ready to change, including self-awareness, accountability, and a genuine desire to improve. He also stresses the importance of patience and empathy, reminding listeners that change is often a gradual process, filled with setbacks and oscillations between old and new behaviors.
In this episode, you'll learn:
How to encourage change without forcing it
How to help someone become self-aware
How to support someoneâs change process
How to communicate about change in relationships
How to accept that change must come from within
Patience, empathy, and an understanding of the complexities of human behavior are key to supporting both ourselves and others in the pursuit of meaningful evolution.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
01:37 Is There Someone In Your Life You Wish Would Change?
04:24 Core Personality Traits Are Difficult to Change
07:46 Signs that Someone is Likely to Change
08:25 #1: They Take Accountability and Has Self-Awareness
10:18 #2: They Must Have the Motivation to Change
14:19 Change Doesnât Happen Right Away
16:59 Signs that Someone is Changing
18:57 How a Community Can Trigger Change
21:30 How Do You Start a Healthy Conversation with Your Partner?
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Why are you blocking yourself from love?
Whatâs holding you back from attracting love?
Today, let's welcome once again Jay's good friend Dr Joe Dispenza - a New York Times best-selling author, researcher, lecturer, and corporate consultant, Dr Joe Dispenza has developed a practical formula to help people transform their lives. Dr Joeâs mission unifies complex branches of science in an approachable way â focused on proven research, âStories of Transformationâ testimonials, and the scientific data behind spontaneous remissions.
Joe discusses his groundbreaking work on how individuals can transform their lives by tapping into the power of their thoughts and emotions. The conversation is centered around how stress, survival instincts, and subconscious beliefs block us from manifesting love and positive changes in our lives, the importance of shifting from a reactive, stress-driven state to a heart-centered, creative one, and âbecomingâ the person you want to be by aligning thoughts, feelings, and behaviors with the future you desire, rather than the past you want to leave behind.
Jay and Joe discuss the mechanisms that prevent people from opening their hearts to love, focusing on how the survival mechanisms of the brain and body condition us to relive past traumas and fears. According to Joe, many people are trapped in a cycle of stress that keeps them disconnected from their true potential. He emphasizes the power of daily practices like meditation and emotional regulation to rewire the brain, shift belief systems, and attract the love and life one desires.
In this interview, you'll learn:
How to attract love by practicing joy and gratitude
How to rewire your brain by visualizing your desired future
How to heal emotionally with daily meditation
How to manifest change by aligning thoughts, emotions, and behaviors
How to replace resentment with positive emotions through practice
How to stop survival mode by regulating your emotions
By shifting from a state of stress and survival to one of creation and love, we can not only heal from past traumas but also attract the relationships and experiences we truly desire. The key lies in aligning our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors with the future we wish to create.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro 01:35 Whatâs Really Blocking You from Manifesting Love? 07:42 Why Becoming the Person You Want to Attract Is Key 14:40 How to Reignite Your Belief in Love After Heartbreak 20:08 The Role of Past Experiences in Shaping Your Beliefs 28:40 Healing Starts with Reminding Yourself to Change 33:18 True Transformation Begins When You Believe in Possibility 37:27 The Power of Being Present to Absorb Life-Changing Information 42:04 How Long Does It Really Take to Rewire a Belief? 46:18 How Meditation and Protein Boost Your Immunity 51:18 Science Proves the Limitless Potential of the Human Mind 57:52 How Collective Consciousness Can Transform Your Life 01:08:38 How Stress Disconnects You from Your True SelfEpisode Resources:
Dr Joe Dispenza | Website Dr Joe Dispenza | Instagram Dr Joe Dispenza | Facebook Dr Joe Dispenza | YouTube Dr Joe Dispenza | BooksSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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How do you usually react when you're angry?
Have you ever regretted saying something in the heat of the moment?
Today, Jay talks about the transformative power of the "90-Second Rule," a life-changing technique that can help you choose your response in moments of intense emotion. Have you ever acted in the heat of the moment and later regretted it? Jay explores how 90 seconds can be the difference between reacting impulsively and responding with intention.
Inspired by Viktor Frankl's quote, "Between stimulus and response, there is a space," Jay unpacks the concept that this small window of time holds the key to our growth, freedom, and ability to create better outcomes in our lives. He shares personal stories, practical tips, and scientific insights to help you harness the power of this technique, including deep breathing exercises, mindfulness practices, and ways to recognize and label your emotions.
In this episode, you'll learn:
How to control your emotions in stressful moments
How to apply the 90-second rule to avoid impulsive reactions
How to recognize and label your emotions accurately
How to practice mindfulness in moments of frustration
How to take a 90-second break to reset your mindset
By allowing yourself those 90 seconds to breathe, reflect, and choose your response, you create the space to align with your values and intentions.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
02:17 Itâs About How You Respond to Situations
06:27 The 90-Second Rule
11:55 #1: Set a Timer
13:05 #2: Do an Internal Weather Report
13:47 #3: Check-in with Your Body
18:01 Sadness Last Longer than Other Emotions
20:53 We Repeat What We Reward
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What part of your past self do you feel most attached to?
What fears are holding you back from embracing who you are now?
On this extremely special episode of On Purpose, Jay sits down with global music sensation and dear friend, Shawn Mendes. Shawn is a Grammy-nominated singer-songwriter known for his soulful voice and heartfelt lyrics. The two go in deep to Shawnâs newest album âShawn.â Shawn is an advocate for mental health awareness, openly sharing his personal struggles with anxiety and self-discovery.
For the first time, Shawn opens up about his struggles with anxiety and the difficult decision to cancel his world tour to focus on his mental health, sharing the weight of that moment and the liberating journey of prioritizing his well-being. He reflects on the challenges of growing up in the spotlight, the pressures of maintaining perfection, and how therapy, friendships, and embracing vulnerability helped him find balance and peace.
Shawn and Jay explore themes of love, relationships, and the intricacies of navigating public life while protecting private emotions. With heartfelt honesty, Shawn shares how heâs learned to diversify his life beyond music and embrace all forms of love, not just romantic, but the love that comes from connection and support from those around him.
In this interview, you'll learn:
How to prioritize mental health
How to embrace vulnerability
How to let go of perfectionism
How to accept love and support
How to build emotional resilience
How to be honest in relationships
Remember, the hardest decisions often lead to the most meaningful transformations. Take care of yourself, lean on those around you, and trust that, with time, you will find your way to peace and authenticity.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro 03:54 Clubhouse Studioâs Significance (Where the interview takes place!) 05:51 The Struggle of Asking for Help When Making Hard Life Decisions 07:48 Why Shawn Canceled His Tour 12:48 Tough Choices and Growth 15:10 Breakdowns Leading to Breakthroughs 17:09 Finding Shawns Own Authenticity in Music 21:08 The Power of Vulnerability and Expressing Emotional Truth 23:50 Letting Go of Ego to Heal 26:52 Learning to Accept Yourself Through Therapy 28:42 The Hardest Internal Question to Face 30:47 The Power of Listening Without Judgment 32:51 Learning How to Face Pain Instead of Running From It 38:18 Finding Emotional Balance of Extreme Emotions 40:00 Shawn Opens up About Grief and Guilt Over a Lost Friend 51:10 Healing Through Art and Music 55:26 Questioning âForeverâ in Love 59:09 Maintaining Love Under Pressure 01:02:16 The Importance of Over-Communication in Relationships 01:03:50 Why Partnership is More Than Just Love 01:07:27 How to Be Open to Love that is Not Just Romantic 01:13:38 How to Avoid Focusing on the Highs 01:15:45 Trusting Your Inner Voice and Learn How to Listen to Your Intuition 01:18:36 How to Surrender to Life Unfolding Naturally Without Forcing It 01:21:59 Surprise Note from Shawnâs Sister 01:33:09 Final Five with ShawnEpisode Resources:
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Who in your life challenges you the most?
Who sees more potential in you than you do?
Today, Jay unpacks the powerful idea that everyone we meet serves a distinct purpose in our lives, acting as mirrors, windows, or doors. Inspired by a concept shared by TikTok creators Kim Peretz and Stale Hope, Jay talks about how different people reflect our flaws, show us glimpses of our potential, and open new pathways to growth.
Jay explores the idea that some people mirror back our darkest and most uncomfortable traits, offering us valuable opportunities for self-awareness and growth. He emphasizes the challenge of accepting lessons from those we may not want to listen to, reminding us that the message is often more important than the messenger.
He introduces the concept of doors and keysâthose who open paths and unlock parts of ourselves in the most perfect way. He discusses the importance of gratitude and recognizing the people who have helped us move forward, even if we may have forgotten them.
In this episode, you'll learn:
How to accept difficult truths about yourself
How to recognize the people who reflect your potential
How to stay open to advice even when itâs hard to hear
How to appreciate the role others play in your personal journey
How to stay curious about what others see in you
As you navigate your journey, remember that every person you encounter has something to teach you, whether they act as a mirror, window, door, or key. You're not alone on this path.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
02:12 The Mirror, Window, and Door of Our Life
03:12 People Mirror Back to Us Our Flaws
11:14 People Are Like Windows, They See More Potential in You
18:07 Some People Open a Door or Path for Us
19:33 Some People Are Keys, They Unlock Parts for Us
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How do you usually handle stress in your life?
Have you ever tried anything to boost your dopamine levels?
Today, Jay welcomes back Dr. Andrew Huberman, a neuroscientist and professor at Stanford University, known for his insightful work on brain development, neuroplasticity, and the intricate connection between the brain and body. Together, they discuss the neuroscience of friendship, exploring how our deep-rooted need for safety and acceptance plays a pivotal role in our social interactions. They unravel the paradox of modern society, where people feel emotionally distant despite increasing online connections and followers.
Dr. Huberman highlights how our brain circuitry, which governs social bonding and connectedness, is tightly linked to our need for predictability and safety. He breaks down how these fundamental needs influence our relationships, both in early development and throughout adulthood, and how understanding these mechanisms can help combat the loneliness epidemic many experience today.
Jay and Andrew discuss practical tools like sending a simple daily âgood morningâ text, which may seem trivial but has profound implications for maintaining connection and combating feelings of isolation. They also explore the value of doing hard things, such as cold plunges and structured routines, which anchor our physiology and create a sense of predictability, crucial for mental resilience and creativity.
In this interview, you'll learn:
How to Build Predictability in Relationships
How to Activate Bonding Circuits in the Brain
How to Build Trust Through Consistency
How to Combat Loneliness with Regular Check-Ins
How to Ask Meaningful Questions to Deepen Relationships
How to Build a Reliable Circle of Friends
How to Balance Stress with Breathing Techniques
By embracing small yet powerful habits, we not only improve our own lives but also create a ripple effect of positive connection in the lives of those around us. Now is the time to prioritize real, human connectionâand in doing so, enrich every aspect of your life.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro 04:06 Safety and Acceptance 19:12 Healthy Friendships 29:39 Predictability 38:15 Breathing Protocol 51:32 Body Still, Mind Active 01:02:15 Tenacity and Willpower 01:13:06 Walls of Adrenaline 01:18:21 Limiting Cynicism 01:24:54 You Canât Control Everything 01:34:29 The Human Narrative 01:43:15 Be YourselfEpisode Resources:
Andrew Huberman | Website Andrew Huberman | Instagram Andrew Huberman | Facebook Andrew Huberman | TikTok Andrew Huberman | YouTube Andrew Huberman | LinkedIn Protocols: An Operating Manual for the Human BodySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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Are you feeling burnt out from dating lately?
Do you feel like you're repeating the same mistakes in dating?
Today, Jay talks about why dating burnout is a common and natural response to repeated disappointments, unmet expectations, and the overwhelming nature of modern dating apps. He notes that most respondents feel disconnected, disillusioned, and emotionally drained, which leads to frustration and reluctance to continue dating.
It is important to accept and acknowledge feelings of burnout. Jay explains that a vital first step in overcoming this is to reframe expectations and approach dating with a healthier mindset. Dating is like applying for a job, where the process may involve multiple attempts and disappointments, but persistence is key. To avoid personalizing every rejection, focus on their self-worth, be kinder to themselves, and build resilience throughout the dating journey.
Jay highlights the importance of identifying and aligning with core values, explaining that these are the foundation for long-term relationship success.
In this episode you'll learn:
How to Overcome Dating Burnout
How to Spot Red Flags Early
How to Build Resilience in Dating
How to Align with Your Core Values
How to Reframe Rejection Positively
By approaching dating with less pressure, identifying red flags early, and giving second chances, you can create healthier, more meaningful connections while avoiding emotional exhaustion.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
01:44 Are You Dealing with Dating Burnout?
05:43 Approach Dating with Higher Resilience
08:10 Four Red Flags of Poor Communication
11:39 Attraction is Beyond What You See
13:08 The Pressure to Present Yourself in a Certain Way
18:04 Focus on Having One Conversation at a Time
22:39 Why Do We Get Bored When Dating?
23:54 3 Strategies to Successful Dating
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What would you tell your 14-year-old self?
How do you quiet the ânot good enoughâ voice?
Today, Jay welcomes Ryan Holiday, renowned philosopher, bestselling author, and host of The Daily Stoic. With over 10 million copies of his books sold globally, Ryan returns to the podcast to dive deep into the concepts of personal growth, parenting, and finding purpose in a success-driven world.
Ryan reflects on the journey of becoming a parent and discusses the difference between having kids and truly being a parent. He explains why intentional parenting is a radical shift from simply fulfilling biological or legal roles and explores the transformative impact of parenthood on personal and professional ambitions, emphasizing the importance of being prepared for the changes it brings.
Jay also opens up about his own thoughts on parenthood and the life shifts that accompany major decisions, offering a heartfelt glimpse into the conversations heâs had with his wife about the timing of having children. Throughout the conversation, both Jay and Ryan unpack the struggles of balancing a career with personal life, with Ryan drawing from Stoic philosophy to offer guidance on setting meaningful goals, aligning actions with values, and learning from life's obstacles.
In this interview, you'll learn:
How to Embrace Parenthood as a Central Life Purpose
How to Set Goals Based on Whatâs in Your Control
How to Approach Parenting with Intention and Purpose
How to Learn from Lifeâs Obstacles and Failures
How to Align Your Career with Personal Values
How to Build Emotional Resilience through Parenthood
Whether through parenting, personal growth, or our professional pursuits, the key is to stay rooted in what truly mattersâour values, intentions, and the legacy we leave behind.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro 01:33 Are You Ready to Become a Parent? 05:43 What Type of Goal Should We Set? 10:54 Love What Youâre Doing 18:59 Stuck in Life 22:06 Trust the Process 26:04 Patience 30:18 Process of Accumulating Experiences 33:35 What Difference Are You Making? 35:57 Raise a Reader 40:14 What Are You Struggling With? 45:00 General Parenting Tip 52:56 Unconditional Parental Love 58:50 Do Whatâs Important to You 01:02:04 What is at Stake? 01:06:03 Comparison Game 01:09:36 Dad Guilt 01:15:30 Fear as a Parent 01:19:11 This Stops with MeEpisode Resources:
Ryan Holiday | Website Ryan Holiday | Instagram Ryan Holiday | Facebook Ryan Holiday | TikTok Ryan Holiday | YouTube Ryan Holiday | LinkedIn The Daily Dad: 366 Meditations on Parenting, Love, and Raising Great KidsSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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Have you ever thought about taking a solo trip?
What do you think you'd learn about yourself if you traveled alone?
Today, Jay unpacks the unexpected benefits of solo travel. Whether youâre an avid traveler or someone hesitant to step out of your comfort zone, traveling alone, even just once, can be one of the most powerful experiences of your life.
Jay explains how solo travel helps break free from the âherd mentalityââwhen we defer to the preferences of those around usâand instead allows us to deeply understand our own desires and needs. Youâll learn how traveling alone can expand your worldview, teach self-reliance, and push you to explore not just new places but new aspects of yourself.
In this episode, you'll learn:
How to Expand Your Worldview
How to Boost Self-Reliance
How to Connect with New People and Cultures
How to Build Confidence Through Solo Travel
Whether you're seeking new perspectives or personal growth, traveling alone can be a powerful tool to reconnect with your true self.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
01:48 Do You Need to Go on a Solo Trip?
04:50 #1: Learn More About Yourself
11:10 #2: Improve Your Confidence
13:43 #3: Expand Your Worldview
16:53 #4: Develop Self-Reliance
19:49 #5: Master Your Mind
21:54 #6: Beat Boredom and Distraction
23:09 #7: Vigilance
24:55 #8: Get to Know Diverse People
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What are your emotional needs?
How do you communicate them clearly?
Today, Jay welcomes back Dr. Nicole LePera, a holistic psychologist, best-selling author, and founder of the SelfHealers Circle, a global community for self-healing. She is the author of the New York Times bestseller "How to Do the Work," and her latest book, "How to Be the Love You Seek," guides readers on breaking cycles, finding peace, and healing relationships. Dr. LePera is known for her approachable, transformative approach to mental wellness, empowering individuals to heal themselves and live authentically.
Nicole talks about how our earliest experiences shape our adult relationships. She explains the concept of trauma bondsâdysfunctional patterns that often stem from childhood but persist into adulthood, affecting how we connect with others. These bonds can feel familiar and even comforting, but they often prevent us from forming healthy, fulfilling relationships.
Jay and Nicole explore how awareness is the first step toward breaking these patterns. They emphasize the importance of understanding our subconscious beliefs and the roles we play in relationships, often unknowingly repeating cycles of pain and misunderstanding. She talks about the importance of staying present, learning to regulate our emotions, and building healthier habits that align with our true selves, and offers practical advice on how to navigate the complexities of love, whether it's setting boundaries with toxic family members or letting go of unrealistic expectations in romantic relationships.
In this interview, you'll learn:
How to recognize trauma bonds
How to break the cycle of reactivity
How to set healthy boundaries
How to cultivate self-awareness
How to develop emotional resilience
How to foster a growth mindset in relationships
Remember, every moment is an opportunity to choose differently, to show up for ourselves with kindness, and to build the relationships we truly deserve.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro 03:44 You Create Change 06:58 Toxic Family Members 11:21 Change is Voluntary 14:33 Deep Rooted Emotions 18:35 Why We Struggle in Relationships 22:58 The Unmet Needs 27:27 We Project What We Think to Others 34:29 Familiarity with Chaos 38:18 Is It Genuine Love? 41:55 Panic Attack 48:54 Chronic Illness 53:54 Countering Beliefs 57:17 Physiological Shifts 01:01:11 What is a Trauma Bond? 01:04:25 Attraction Based on Familiarity 01:06:24 Inner Child Work 01:09:41 The Habit of Showing Up AuthenticallyEpisode Resources:
Nicole LePera | Website Nicole LePera | Instagram Nicole LePera | Facebook Nicole LePera | TikTok Nicole LePera | YouTube Nicole LePera | LinkedIn How to Do the Work: Recognize Your Patterns, Heal from Your Past, and Create Your Self How to Be the Love You Seek: Break Cycles, Find Peace, and Heal Your RelationshipsSpecial thank you to Kajabi. Visit: https://kajabi.com/JayShetty
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What lessons have you learned from your past 12 months?
How have your goals evolved over the past months?
Today, Jay reflects on the 12 key lessons he has learned over the past year. He begins by discussing the idea that the seeds we plantâour actions and intentionsâmanifest as either flowers or weeds, the importance of pursuing meaningful actions for personal fulfillment rather than external validation, and how to distinguish between setting goals and choosing growth, underscoring that genuine progress requires a commitment to personal development rather than simply aiming for outcomes.
The episode highlights the importance of protecting one's purpose from external distractions and maintaining a clear focus on one's path, the challenges we face as opportunities to grow into who we're meant to be, and the concept of defining experiences proactively to shape our own narratives rather than letting circumstances dictate our identities.
In this episode, you'll learn:
How to handle envy with love
How to act for fulfillment, not praise
How to focus on growth, not just goals
How to guard your purpose from distractions
How to use challenges to evolve
How to stay open to unexpected help
Stay open to the unexpected, protect your passions, and choose growth over comfort. By doing so, you not only transform your own life but also inspire those around you to do the same.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
02:29 Lessons Learned in the Past 12 Months
03:50 #1: The seeds you planted in the past will grow into flowers or weeds today.
07:08 #2: Envy will erode your life.
10:27 #3: People forget things quickly, do the right thing and what's meaningful to you.
13:06 #4: Everyone sets goals, not everyone chooses growth.
15:00 #5: Don't let anyone deter you from your purpose.
16:45 #6: Your challenge is designed for you to become who you're meant to become.
18:37 #7: You'll let things define you if you don't define them first.
19:35 #8: Help can come from unlikely sources in unlikely ways.
21:34 #9: Try to see things as an invitation, not an impediment.
24:07 #10: Sometimes to get to your dreams, you have to take the stairs, the elevator, or come through the roof.
25:17 #11: The people you leave behind will feel left behind no matter what you do.
26:35 #12 Love is not enough.
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Are you struggling to overcome your past trauma?
Are you looking for ways to heal from it?
Today, Jay sits down with renowned reggaeton artist and songwriter Nicky Jam. Nicky's music career took off after a series of successful mixtapes and collaborations with other artists, including Daddy Yankee, with whom he formed the iconic duo Los Cangris. His work has earned him international fame and multiple awards, establishing him as a major influence in the reggaeton and Latin trap genres.
Nicky recounts his first foray into music, packing groceries and freestyling at a supermarket, which inadvertently launched his career despite his young age and the informal nature of his work. He opens up about the difficulties of his upbringing, including his motherâs struggle with substance abuse and prostitution, shaping his understanding of normalcy and family life. This background set the stage for his initial break into the music industry, where early rejections and setbacks paved the way for his eventual success in the Puerto Rican mixtape scene and beyond.
Together with Jay, Nicky also discusses the challenges of maintaining authenticity and personal happiness amidst fame, expressing discomfort with being seen as a role model and emphasizing the importance of understanding and support for mental health, especially for men in the public eye. Despite ongoing struggles with PTSD, anxiety, and the scars of his traumatic past, Nicky remains hopeful and driven, looking forward to continuing his career and making a positive impact through his work and personal experiences.
In this interview, you'll learn:
How to handle early setbacks
How to deal with the pressure of expectations
How to use personal struggles as a source of strength
How to maintain creativity under pressure
How to find redemption through new opportunities
How to help others through your work
Nicky's story demonstrates that with unwavering determination and a genuine approach, it's possible to transform challenging beginnings into legacies of success and enduring influence.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro 03:12 Earliest Childhood Memory 04:06 First Deal 06:44 I Was Happy with the Album 08:15 Life on the Streets 12:06 Thereâs a Different World Out There 15:22 Looking for Billy 17:20 Simpler or Complicated Life? 19:05 Commands Donât Work on Me 24:58 Battling Alcohol Addiction 31:06 Drug and Alcohol Problem 34:20 Finding Help 36:40 Feeling Alone 39:18 Almost Dying 42:52 Prison Life 45:59 Moving to Columbia 52:00 My Mom is Different 54:48 Do You Pray a Lot? 58:01 Reconciliation 59:49 Forgiveness 01:05:31 Iâm not Retiring 01:09:24 My Album is My Story 01:10:11 Some Misunderstanding People Have 01:12:37 Surgery and Recovery 01:13:46 Talking is Therapy 01:15:12 Nicky on Fast FiveEpisode Resources:
Nicky Jam | Website Nicky Jam | Instagram Nicky Jam | Facebook Nicky Jam | TikTok Nicky Jam | YouTubeDubbed by ElevenLabs and this link: https://elevenlabs.io/jay_shetty
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