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Join Allana Pratt and Patty Alfonso for a very vulnerable conversation about life giving you lemons and the tools you need to turn that into lemonade! Both women have been on a journey of self-discovery for decades.
In this episode, they share about their experiences and what helped them carry on to the other side. Watch as Allana has a huge ah-ha moment gifted to her by her body and the energy of the conversation! Sex, intimacy, orgasmic living, recovering from abuse and so much more!
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What is orgasmic living and where are you on your journey? Find out no by taking the quiz! www.orgasmiclivingquiz.com
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About Allana
Intimacy Expert, Allana Pratt is a global media personality and go-to authority for those who have suffered heartbreak and are ready to live unapologetically and attract an open-hearted ideal relationship. She has been chosen as an Icon of Influence and has been featured on Huffington Post, People Magazine, Forbes, CBS, ABC & FOX, and more.
This Ivy League grad is the Author of 6 books and Hosts the edgy Podcast “Intimate Conversations” where listeners learn how to find the relationship they deserve. A certified coach with close to 5 million viewers on YouTube, Allana was asked by Leeza Gibbons to coach her during Dancing with the Stars.
While supporting a number of nonprofits, Allana has created a new category with an inclusive Partnering App & Intimacy Training called HeartMates.app where members Become the One to Find the One… which Keeps the One! She also offers HeartMates for Couples, private and group coaching plus retreats so that her clients have a thriving intimate relationship with themselves first, which naturally attracts and enhances their ideal partnerships. -
In this episode, Patty Alfonso and AJ Pellegrino share what they've learned about how to embody, attract, create and receive an orgasmic relationship. They share how they met and what they've inspired in each other as they dive deeper into their divine masculine and feminine essences.
Listen in as they share their journey into creating a sacred divine relationship.
If you're feeling the call to create a divinely orgasmic relationship, book a Body Love Discovery Session with us and let's see how we can guide you on your path! www.BodyLoveDiscoverySession.com
Connect with AJ
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In this dynamic episode, Patty and Joli dive deep into the complicated topic of jealousy in relationships. Could there possibly be a benefit to being present with this energy? Can it contribute to creating more intimacy in your relationships?
Listen in as we explore bringing this energy to the light without shame or judgment. Patty shares her personal experience with this energy and how it transformed her relationship to herself and to her partner.
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The new year is upon us. For most, that means a bunch of new year's resolutions we'll likely forget about in a month. One thing you should never forget about is your self-care practice - new year or not! But, what does self care look like for you and your body?
Join Patty Alfonso, May Tom and AJ Pellegrino for a dynamic conversation on the importance of developing a self care routine that works for you!
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Join Patty Alfonso and Katherine McIntosh as they discuss the muddy waters of relationships, what it means to be an empowered woman and the importance of being present in all areas of your life without judging you.
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About Katherine McIntosh
Katherine McIntosh is a Global Facilitator, Author, Speaker, and Serial Entrepreneur. Trained as an Access Consciousness Certified Facilitator, Katherine is a Dancer, Laugher, Mountain Biker, Hot Yoga Junkie, Adventure Seeker, Mom, Sunshine Hunter, World Traveler, and Born Rebel.
Founder & CEO of the No Judgment Diet, Katherine believes that self-awareness is one of the most undervalued commodities that will truly change the world. Wanting to support the dreamers, she rebelled against the norms and has been on a lifelong journey to open doors that have never been opened before.
Katherine’s target is to see 10 million people out of judgment with their bodies, businesses, and life. Way too many people on the planet are functioning from judgment instead of awareness, and Katherine knows that a different future is possible when people begin to see that judgment is just a choice. It’s a choice to thrive. Now is the time. -
There's nothing that can push your buttons more than being in a relationship.
Whether it's family, friends or lovers; staying present with yourself, your body and all the energies is key to creating harmony and growth.
But, HOW?!
Listen in as Patty and Ashley dive into masculinity, femininity, the "nice guy syndrome" and some tools on how to move energy through your body that may sound a little crazy to some!
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About Ashley Cox
Hey, I'm Ashley Cox, MT, CTP-C. I am a national emotional analysis and mindset coach for business men.
She uses the natural laws of quantum physics and her 10+ year background in trauma and teaching to not only to walk you through the most profound healing experience of your life, but also to assist you in manifesting healthier love and more wealth.
I specialize in clearing and healing subconscious blocks of fear, doubt, shame, guilt, anger, self-love deficit disorder and pain.
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World-renowned relationship coach, Dr. Jane Guyn, joins Patty Alfonso in this week's installment of Orgasmic Living!
Listen in as they uncover some of the common mistakes men and women make when it comes to orgasms - both in and out of the bedroom.
You'll discover some of the orgasmic possibilities that are available for you and your body as we share our collective experience of working in this field.
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About Dr. Jane Guyn
Dr. Jane Guyn is a world-renowned relationship coach who received her PhD in Human Sexuality, and has worked with hundreds of couples all over the world. Although her work, with both couples and individuals, has maintained an emphasis with issues related to intimacy and sex, she also works with many people who have fears and/or abuse issues related to sex, as well as a variety of many other issues that may arise from any relationship.
She is the author of the best-selling book, "Too Busy To Get Busy", and, when she's not working directly with a couple or individual, she spends the majority of her time connecting with individuals through her blogs, video blogs, speaking engagements, television appearances, and podcast participation.
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Orgasmic living can show up in so many forms.
For Mia Saenz, it came with a bout of breast cancer that led her to healing a deep wound and a demand for more nurturing love in her life.
Listen in as Patty Alfonso and Mia Saenz explore the depths of healing to find what orgasmic living can be like when we surrender to our desires.
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About Mia Saenz
Mia Saenz is a Love Activist and the creator of Women Making Miracles™. She stands for love and supports you do the same. Mia helps those who feel alone and yet dream of love to Make Love Real™ in their lives so they can then go out and seed love into the world. This powerful work is through spiritual and inter-personal development work we call Self-Love. Mia has taught the Love Mastery program for 12 years. Love Master is for individual 1:1 VIP Coaching, Groups, and Coach's Certification Program.
Mia Saenz is a Love Activist and the creator of Women Making Miracles™. She stands for love and supports you do the same. Mia helps those who feel alone and yet dream of love to Make Love Real™ in their lives so they can then go out and seed love into the world. This powerful work is through spiritual and inter-personal development work we call Self-Love. Mia has taught the Love Mastery program for 12 years. Love Master is for individual 1:1 VIP Coaching -
What do fasting, private jets and space have to do with orgasmic living?
How do you know when you're really asking for something or just talking about it?
Listen in as Patty Alfonso and Glenyce Hughes tie it all together to give you a new sense of possibilities with your body and your life. Learn the secret to really receiving and living orgasmically!
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Find out where you are on your orgasmic living journey! Take the quiz at: www.OrgasmicLivingQuiz.com
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Intense and busy, that’s how to best describe my Media Tour so far! I got back to several Pole Dancing for Consciousness VIP Days and launched The Orgasmic Body Love Experience Group program. How does it get any better than that?!
Through all of this busy-ness and creation, I was prompted to re-evaluate a few things and as always reach out to all of you!
In conversations with lots of friends and colleagues, the consensus has been INTENSE. For me personally, this intensity has shown up as being extremely tired and requiring a lot of rest. Honoring myself and my body looked like reserving my energy for myself, friends and the clients I was working with directly. This has turned out to be a very interesting adventure!
Check out the video for more on this here:
https://youtu.be/DmlYgGO-5c4
What has all of this intensity been creating for all of us? CHANGE!
We are literally evolving right now! We evolved from cavemen to where we are today and right now we are evolving again. I wonder what we will be in the future?
And yet, during this intense time, it’s very easy to get lost. It hasn’t been very comfortable and that is what inspired me to be here with you right now.
I wanted to share with you a few things that have been a huge help to me in navigating these times!
1. It’s OK to STOP!
Yes, that’s correct!
It’s so easy to get stuck in doing and going. It's okay to stop, breathe and get present with how the changes are showing up for you. For me, that looked like not going live for a little while. I literally had no words, there was just all of this energy that I was being present with.
The thing that I had to let go of at that moment was doing the Orgasmic Living Show. It was just what it was and I didn't make myself wrong for it. I didn't beat myself up for it and I knew that I would get back to it when the timing was correct.
For some, it could show up as a feeling of getting sick. For some, it might show up as feeling of being tired. For some, it may be that your life feels like it's blowing up, not literally but maybe you've changed jobs or your relationship isn't working anymore or maybe you feel like you need to upgrade the people in your life.
To put it clearly, it shows up in a lot of different ways, but remember that it's okay to stop and get present with yourself. So take a breather, slow down a little bit and remember it’s ok to relax.
2. There are no, “Have To’s”
There is no doubt in my mind that we were all changing something collectively.
I also believe that when there is a collective shift in consciousness, a collective evolution into what is next for all of us... there are no “have to’s”. You don't have to do anything.
I'm so relaxed and joyful that I can be sharing this with you today. I'm happy to be here whereas if I had to push myself before it would have been clunky, weird and awkward. I know this because I've done it before. In the past, I've pushed myself into situations that I really shouldn't have.
Although there are moments where you do “have to”, these specific times would include creating something new or making a big change in your life. For instance, you might “have to” let go of a relationship because it no longer serves you or the other person. If you find yourself in an abusive situation, that’s a “have to,” a have to leave.
This is why I love tapping into energy because energy is always changing. Every moment is always changing.
Being able to get present with yourself and your body can help you understand what it is you need. For me, my “have to”, was literally stopping, breathing and relaxing.
3. Nurturing for you and your body
The last thing that I want to encourage you to do during intense moments is to find what is nurturing for you and for your body.
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In the tools of Access Consciousness, we talk about vulnerability as the willingness to see everything about everyone including you.
It’s about being able and willing to receive all the information. The good, the bad and the ugly. It’s also about the willingness to see the magic, the amazingness, the awesomeness of you and everyone around you!
One of the first tools I learned from Access Consciousness is “Who does this belong to?”.
This tool is about becoming aware that some of the points of view, judgments or thoughts that I was functioning from were not mine, to begin with, and that I can return them to the sender and free myself, my body, and my overall being!!
What I’ve noticed is that some people use this tool to bypass being vulnerable with the very things they need to look at about themselves to create change.
Vulnerability is the willingness to see everything about everyone, including you.
Check out the video for more on this here:
Receive and be vulnerable with all of you!
I want to share with you a situation where vulnerability showed up for me.
I was having a session with a beautiful male friend of mine. During this session, we were talking about some things I experienced growing up. I grew up in a family where kids were to be seen and not heard. I could have easily reacted in various ways in such a vulnerable situation, yet at that moment, something just pinged me and I was willing to look at it.
I found myself becoming very chatty and my conversation started drifting to all different topics.
I kept chatting and chatting and chatting... when this jaw-dropping energy hit me. It put me in a situation where I felt as if I was too much! So I said it, “I am talking too much, right? I should shut up.”
He looked at me with such gentleness and kindness, and said to me, “Patty, I didn’t say that. Your Dad is actually the one that said that to you.”
Dr. Dain Heer, co-creator of Access Consciousness, taught me that 98% of your thoughts, feelings, and emotions don’t actually belong to you. He also taught me that there’s still 2% that you actually do need to handle! 2% of those thoughts, feelings, and emotions are yours!
If you want to live orgasmically, it’s imperative that you clear all of that insanity from our universe….especially that 2% you don’t want to look at….
When that healer told me this I realized...wow there’s another layer for me to let go of when it comes to this energy in my life. Being vulnerable helped me realize what I needed to continue working on. It also helped me ask myself important questions like, how am I showing up in the world? How am I creating my business?
This vulnerability was a huge gift. Vulnerability is one of the key sources of living orgasmically.
Do whatever it takes to change. It can be fun, easy and fast. While other times it's a bit of an uphill uncomfortable stretching. Either way, I guarantee that you will have more of you on the other side of that...and that more of you include you living orgasmically.
Let consciousness have your back.
Surround yourself with amazing people.
Have intimacy with yourself.
Be vulnerable and no one can stop you!
I have an upcoming master class in the next few weeks called Body: Friend or Foe? and it's all about including your body in your life in a way that includes everything.
Come play with me www.pattyalfonso.sexy/friend
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Trusting you!
We are still in the first couple of weeks of 2020. There's a lot of stuff out in the world about being a new version of yourself.
All of this energy around the new year may set you off on a journey of creating yourself differently. In truth, unless you're willing to make real changes you’re ultimately still the same person that you were December 31st, 2019.
Real change is about doing things differently than you ever have before. When you grow up with a certain type of energy being delivered at you all of the time it can be very challenging as an adult to make changes yet I’m here to tell you that it is possible to change.
You have to set yourself up for success and it starts with trust!
Check out the video for more on this here:
What is trust?
Many have been told various reasons as to what trust actually is. Whatever your perception is let’s keep the energy of trust simple, trust knowing that you will do what you say you are going to do what you are going to do.
Gary Douglas, founder of Access Consciousness, has a funny way of explaining trust. If you're in a relationship and your partner leaves the toilet seat up all the time, you can trust that they're going to leave the toilet seat up all of the time... that's trust!
Thinking they are going to put the toilet seat down because they love you is blind faith. Blind faith is NOT trust.
Let’s follow these steps together!
Step 1: Trusting you:
Keep your word to yourself, no matter what it is.. If you say you are going to do something, DO IT.. Make choices every day that are setting you up for success and STOP setting yourself up for failure.
For example, I love waking up early in the morning to go workout. When I work out early in the morning it sets me up to have an amazing day. To me, this means going to bed early, getting a good night’s sleep so I can be up and ready at 5AM.
I have to make choices daily to create this for myself. And I keep my commitment to myself and my body no matter what! I can trust myself to do that.
Step 2. Trust your body!
You feel like laughing? Laugh! You feel like dancing? Dance! You feel like crying? Cry!!
Stop holding it back.
Our bodies have innate wisdom, they are continuously trying to communicate with us.
An awakened, alive body receives, responds and is present with that energy. If you're controlling your body into submission or tension then we've got to change that! Let go and trust your body.
One of the best ways to change it is through the shaking exercise. I would love to offer you guys right now the free gift that I mentioned in some of my appearances, The Shaking Exercise is a tutorial on that is incredibly potent that you can do any time of the day, anywhere.
You can grab it here: www.shakingexcercise.com
Step 3. Trust the universe:
Allow the universe to contribute to you and be open to receiving energies from the universe!
Trust that the Universe is conspiring to help you and allow every molecule of this world to contribute to what you're creating now.
Remember these things may not come as we envisioned but they always come!
Let go of controlling your body, allow yourself to do let go and relax into receiving from the Universe. If you get out of your head and get present with your whole body and the energies that are around you then the universe can contribute to you something greater than anything you could have imagined.
2020 is the year that you let go of everything and allow your body to contribute to the creation of your life!
What if 2020 is the most phenomenal orgasmically alive year for you?
Join me for Body: Friend or Foe? I’ll be sharing tools to create your life with your body! Find out more here: www.pattyalfonso.sexy/friend
Let’s be grateful to be alive! How does it get any better than this? -
Does orgasmic living include choosing?
Let me ask you these questions…AND be honest!
Are you happy? Over the top elated in your life?
Do you feel like you are really living life to the absolute fullest?
Are you really utilizing your energy to its fullest potential?
This holiday season made me revisit all of these questions. I witnessed tragic energy during my travels through airports, events and unfortunately even with family
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It was as if people all over were walking around like zombies in their life. My awareness of all of this energy during the holiday season really made me feel incredibly grateful for the life I have worked so hard to create.
I tell you all of this because I want you to get a sense of urgency to take charge of your happiness today.
Believe me, it’s changeable!
If the holidays happened to be tough for you, well I’m here to tell you they are over! LOL!
In all seriousness-- a new year is here and a new you is possible.
You can absolutely, positively change your mindset, shift, grow and create a life you are orgasmically living in every moment.
Let me show you three ways that you can become the change you wish to see in your life.
1 Get out of auto-pilot.
Did you get up today to head work, then you ate dinner, watched TV, and lastly fell sleep only to continue the same ritual the next day? Believe me, I know the humdrum of autopilot well, as I lived it for 30 years.
I have one word for you...STOP.
STOP doing the same exact mundane things daily. If you’re stuck in a rut, you can’t expect your life to be full of radiant energy.
Things you can do to help you get out of auto-pilot are to create healthy time for yourself every day. Work out, spend time alone, or enjoy a cup of coffee and don’t forget to mix these up and keep adding to the things that are nurturing for you.
Overall just practice really being present with you, your body and your energy.
2. 1% difference choice
Make a 1% shift in the choices you make daily. For example, something I personally like to practice is changing up my morning routine. Some days I wake up to get dressed, brush my teeth and then make coffee while on other days I might get up to brush my teeth, make coffee and then get dressed.
I specifically don't do the same thing every day. I create space every day for the things that really invite me to have an amazing day. And those things can be different every day!
Take note of this: if you did a 1% shift every single day by the end of the year you will have shifted and changed 365 percent, AMAZING, I know!
3. Allow your body to show you!
The consciousness of your body really lights the way!
What gives you goosebumps? Follow it. What turns you on? Embrace it.
Allow your body to show you the new choices you can start making right away.
As for me when I am about to create something for my business, travel, or simply have fun, I know it’s going to be an awesome creation when my body gets turned on!
Start by asking your body questions.
Body, what should we do here?
Body, what do you know?
Then follow the tingles, the happy feeling, the lightness...trust your body.
I really want to encourage you to practice choosing something different, to be really present with everything that you're doing in your life and a life of turn-on.
I'm all about you guys and I want this to be the most orgasmic year ever so far for you. If you would like that, then come play with me the # 1 Mistake keeping you from living orgasmically, you can find out more at pattyalfonso.sexy/mistake
As always I adore you all!
Want to know more? Join me for my FREE Masterclass Body: Friend or Foe? For more on how your body communicates with you and can guide to you every day. www.pattyalfonso.sexy/friend
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What is too much?
Anything more than the limited amount of energy that someone else is willing to have is too much. Dr. Din Heer gave me this explanation and it enlightened me on this question!
So how do you live your life based on that concept?
Take a moment to really get present and think about how you are choosing to live your life.
I was in Las Vegas last week interviewing producers for my upcoming TV media tour. I came across this one particular producer that stated I was “too much”. It was such an interesting exchange because I had been the same amount of energy with all of the other producers. All but one thought that I was an amazing energy and couldn’t wait to have me on their show!
Yet this one guy kept telling me I was too much and it made me come to a realization. I looked at that guy and told him that I am NOT for everyone. I may be too much for him but I am not too much for a lot of people, so if he thought I was too much then I was definitely too much for his audience.
Check out the video for more on this here:
Have you been making yourself small based on someone’s opinion of you?
Here are three tools you can start using starting today to BE too much and have too much fun!
Don’t buy it as real
Another person’s limitation is their limitation it doesn't actually have anything to do with you. Acknowledge that their energy is their problem, not yours. Remember it’s a person's opinion based on the “limited amounts of energy they are willing to receive” which is based on their limited points of view.
It’s not real! And it’s not true!
2. Don’t resist and react
It would have been easy for me to resist and react towards that guy. I allowed myself to receive the energy he threw at me without resisting and without reacting to it. I was able to handle that situation with grace, ease, and calmness. And guess what? I booked six more shows after that!
Lower your barriers, get present with your body, breathe and be aware that the person you are being is more than that person is willing to have and that is not your problem that is their problem!
3. Don’t align and agree
When someone delivers judgment towards you and you take that personally, essentially you are diminishing yourself. For instance, with this particular producer that I had mentioned, I did acknowledge and say he was right, but in essence, what I was doing was owning that I am too much for him and for me that is OK.
When you choose to live orgasmically and you choose to be that joyful, generative being that you are, you may be too much for other people. Yet you will never be too much for people that are actually choosing to create their life, that is joyful, vibrant and alive... you'll be just perfect for them!
Please stay tuned for more information on my nationwide 2020 media tour.
If you’d like to learn how to be too much and have too much fun, join me for my Masterclass The #1 Mistake Keeping You from Living Orgasmically! Find out more here: www.pattyalfonso.sexy/mistake
Orgasmically Yours,
Patty Alfonso
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A favorite quote of mine by Gary Douglas is, “where there is gratitude judgment cannot exist.”
Judgment what is it, really?
The energy of judgment is a contraction of energy. It's everything that you've decided is right, wrong, good or bad. Did you know that when we are in judgment, your energy contracts? When you are in contraction, you're not going to be able to receive all of the possibilities that are available to you.
Why is this?
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When you choose something, possibilities show up. When you judge those possibilities you don’t allow yourself to receive the gift of the energies that could be waiting for you.
For example, if you woke up today and said to yourself, “this sucks I hate my life” this energy is the energy you are creating for the rest of the day!
What is the energy of gratitude?
Let's talk a little bit about the energy of gratitude and what it is. The energy of gratitude is generative energy, and when you add gratitude to anything…everything expands.
Where there is gratitude judgment cannot exist!
Think about it this way, when you are able to invite the energy of gratitude into your daily life, good things happen. When you add it to the way that you relate with your body, people, your creations, to your job, to your life in full… everything in your life can expand.
There is a difference between doing gratitude and being gratitude.
When you're doing gratitude it’s the action of being grateful.
An example is making a list of all of the things you are grateful for. Being gratitude is when you allow that energy to tickle every single molecule of your body in your being. There's this visceral experience with your body and with your being when you are being that energy and it is then when it becomes expansive and generative.
Remember, if you happen to find yourself in a situation where you are judging someone, something, or you're simply unhappy...you can actually invite yourself to be the energy of gratitude in order for shifts to occur and so that you may receive gifts intended for you.
I will close today by giving you a few words...
May you always walk gently upon this planet being the gift of gratitude and being the energy of gratitude.
I adore you all, have a beautiful day!!!
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The Answer is YES. Falling apart is a vital part of change.
I just got back from SK Live which is a 2-day pole dancing event with Sheila Kelley that centers on feminine movement your body loves. If you guys have been with me for a while I talk a lot about how movement, wait for this, it’s funny. Movement actually MOVES stuck stuff in your body. Stuck emotions, stuck memories, the stuck junk; the heavy stuff; the stuff that weighs us down.
So for two days we were moving our bodies AND moving stuck stuff.
It was glorious AND sometimes when you move the stuff that is stuck, that you maybe didn’t even know was there, or didn’t want to know was there, emotion bubbles to the surface and water comes out your eyeballs. And sometimes A LOT of water comes out your eyeballs, uncontrollably.
This is one way of letting ourselves fall apart, allowing all of the EVERYTHING to come to the surface and acknowledge it and then just LET. IT. OUT.
Letting yourself fall apart so that you can come back together greater and more whole.
Falling apart is about things needing to change in your life!
Letting go of old patterns, old thoughts, old resentments to create space and fertile ground for new growth.
Now I just want to point out that sometimes when you are falling apart you may not know what it is about, it is okay, you do not need to.
Just let the old go!
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When I was sobbing it wasn't because of a particular story I was aware of at the time. I wasn't sobbing because there was a particular dramatic event that had happened recently. The sobbing was just what my body needed to do in that moment to release the old and stuck.
Letting ourselves sob and fall apart can be scary, especially when we have been hiding or stuffing the emotions down deep.
Instead of stuffing all of that stuck stuff back down, CHOOSE BRAVERY.
CHOOSE to let yourself FALL APART.
I chose bravery. I chose to sob. I chose letting go of control and surrendering in the moment.If I can do it, I know you can too!
Do you let yourself fall apart? Or do you stuff it back down into the dark shadows?
The Quiet After The Storm
After the sobbing and falling apart, I realized my sobbing had melted a whole bunch of invisible barriers that I had with my body and in my life.
Now I have even MORE access to Living Orgasmically. I have even MORE access to the energies of joy and pleasure. I have more access to all of me.
And if that wasn’t enough the sobbing melted a lot of my barriers to receiving from other people.
We never know what will show up when we give ourselves the gift of falling apart, but what I know to be true is you will always get more of you, the true you.
Did you know shoes can teach us lessons about life AND falling apart?
Well mine can! Let’s have too much fun with this next part! Check out my gorgeous dance shoes!!
Just as a side-note There is a gift that comes with boots and shoes and high heels; there is an actual energy that gets activated in your body when you put on shoes that your body loves, and with really HIGH SHOES there is an orgasmic delicious sexual energy that gets activated. Treat yourself sometime to at least trying them on, even if you never intend to buy them!
Shoe #1-The tall black lace-up stilettos(far left in image)
These were the first boots that I ever bought for dance. I loved them then and I still love them now. They're hot, and they make me feel hot when I wear them. They create a lot of yumminess for my body, and I love the sensation of having these holes in between the fabric. They’re also extremely comfortable, and yet they are now falling apart, literally as they shed black particles every time I wear them. I also learned from wearing them so regularly and loving on them that their support was no longer what my body required. I am now ready to let them go.
Change is constant and you have to be willing to let go of some things in your life to allow new things to show up. -
Our topic today is joy!
Joy is one of the energies that contributes the most to your body AND to living orgasmically!
Embodied joy, where you let your face know it, AND your body know it and BE it, creates the experience of being unstoppable, of being in the flow and having way too much fun in life.
I love having all of my joy!
Do you have all of your joy? If not, the next sentence is for you.
Joy is also an indicator of things needing a closer look when it is ABSENT.
We may think that it is normal to have lost our joy in certain areas, thinking that it is just a rut, and I am here to invite you to look very closely at those places and spaces in your life where joy is no longer a daily or even weekly occurrence.
Let’s do this together, right now! Let’s pick an area in our lives and see how much JOY is present on the daily AND in general.
Let’s take a look at our Orgasmic Living barometer, JOY! I’m also going to give you my 3 A’s to change ANYTHING and get your JOY back!
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Now this may be where you stop reading at that is ok. Being present, peeling back the layers and REALLY taking a look at your life takes bravery and courage. It is not always easy to allow yourself to see the things you have not wanted to see.
It is not always easy to be truthful with ourselves, when in actuality we have been happy in denial, and lying to ourselves.
What always has me chuckling to myself here is most of us do our best to be honest and not lie to those we care about, yet we are in small or big ways constantly lying to OURSELVES.
I know this because I used to do this ALL. THE. TIME. Not on purpose, I did not know I was lying to myself. I was not AWARE of myself and my creations as I am now.
So PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE if you are willing to be brave with me and take a peek, be gentle and kind with yourself.
Thank you.
Alright, now that we are prepared to peek AND be kind to ourselves, let us start the peeking by relaxing our bodies and lowering our barriers. Getting present with our bodies, maybe even cradling our face lovingly.
Now is the time to begin to use our minds eye and LOOK at any and all of the areas of your life that you would like to be living orgasmically, areas where our joy has withered or become absent altogether.
Maybe the joy, the fun, the magic has been replaced by subtle complacency.
Maybe the joy, the fun, the magic has been stomped out by normalcy, routine, responsibility or even avoidance of something that has given way to fear of change or even anger that this area is not what it used to be or what you would LIKE it to be.
Is anything of this sounding familiar?
There is no judgement here when we peek and peel and become present, there is just information.
Information about where we currently are, and where we may have lost our way and forgotten what JOY even was.
IF this is you in any area, do not worry, you are not alone.
Whether it is your relationship with your body, or your relationship with your partner, or your family relationships, or your work/job/business or your money flows, just for right now, pick one of those areas and let's get really present with that particular area of your life.
As you are beginning to sense, and that I alluded to, this process of reclaiming your joy requires quite a bit of honesty with yourself, lots of vulnerability with yourself, which then also requires a bit of courage to really look at what it is that is truly occuring in any area.
Looking at what you are creating right now in that particular area can be challenging, confronting, upsetting AND the good news is You. Can. CHANGE. It!
You have got to start somewhere.
Once you know where you are you can then be honest with yourself about what it is that you actually like this area to look like.
What would it take for this area to be an orgasmic part of your life?
What would it take?
AND..
If it's not a joyful part of your life then what would it take for it to... -
What do you desire? What is it that you would like to create? To have?
What are you lusting after? Asking for?
This is your YES!
My YES has been on my list for years and years now, and it is just NOW coming to fruition!
I can’t wait to share with you what my YES is, but right now let’s talk about the journey from ASKING for your YES to RECEIVING your yes, and even greater if you will allow it.
Ask and receive is a real thing! Did you know?
Ask and receive can absolutely be instantaneous, however there are times when the universe has to move some things around to gift you what you are asking for.
Don’t worry, the universe WILL deliver, but you have to STAY in your yes, STAY in your ask.
Lower your barriers and just say YES to your YES!
If you stay in the energy of the desire for what you are asking for, in the lust and joy of what you are asking for, you can absolutely bring it towards you. And while you are staying present with your ask the next step is to let the universe show you what choices to make so that you can have what you're asking for. How amazing and fun is that?!
Allow yourself to receive.
Allowing yourself to receive what you are asking for or greater!
Allowing yourself to have a YES, for YOUR yes!
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What Stops Us from Receiving Our YES?
OUR MINDS!
Our minds, oh do they love to play little tricks on us.
They like to tell us things that are NOT productive.
Things like:
My ask is too grand, it's not possible for it to come to me
Maybe I am crazy for desiring and asking for this
There is no way it will ever be the way you are asking
Be aware and READY for those thoughts to come up that are counter to what you are asking for. They will show up. It is your job to recognize them and know that they aren’t real; know that they are coming up to keep your life as it is, to stop you.
I’m going to give you an inside SECRET. Are you ready?
There is nothing that can stop you, except, well, YOU.
How Can I Tell If I am Stopping Myself?
Notice if you start making excuses. If we start making excuses, we are stopping ourselves.
If we are putting ourselves down we are stopping ourselves.
If we are thinking we are not enough, we are stopping ourselves.
Putting energy towards those things, instead of being PRESENT with your ask, PRESENT with your YES, and you can feel it even as you read it, this is halting receiving and actually moving in the opposite direction, away from all you’re asking for.
Are you saying any of the following to yourself?
Oh I asked for this yesterday and it’s not here today, there’s something wrong with me, or the Universe doesn’t respond to me and my asks.
Oh I asked for this a month ago and nothing has changed, it’s never going to show up for me
I’m not good enough to receive what I’m asking for.
Why do I think that I deserve something like this
Don’t worry, I’ve done this too and I really get it! AND there’s another choice.
What Can I Choose Instead of Listening to These Negative Thoughts?
Don’t listen! If it doesn’t light you up, your body, your face, your very being, don’t focus on it!
Instead choose to realign your focus ON your ASK, your YES! The energy of all you are asking for and what it will change and create in your life.
Play with those energies. The energies of what it will be like and feel like to receive your ask.
Being so present and clear and aware with what you are asking for that when these negative thoughts, feelings, or emotions arise that are counter to your YES you recognize them right away and keep going! You recognize them right away as the distractions they are, the distractions that are designed to stop you, and flick them off you like the piece of dirt they are!
Can I Exponentialize My Ask and the Process?
YES!
Now you are probably wondering how? Let me tell you!
Allow yourself to EMBODY your yes! Embody your YES fully, in your whole entire body! If you embody it, -
Did you know I love to travel?
I didn’t always know I loved to travel.
I didn’t know until I started to travel around the world taking classes.
Ever since that first trip, I have been IN LOVE with traveling!
Every chance I get, I hop on a plane and go somewhere new. Isn’t that fun?
From the joy traveling created in my life I realized one of the demands that I had for my life, and for what I wanted to create, was the ability to travel wherever I wanted, whenever I wanted!
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A New Awareness
What I noticed from my most recent trip, that was different than previous trips, was I was SO grateful and happy to come HOME.
Home to my life. Home to my apartment. Home to Los Angeles.
In the past, I would come home, and wanted to leave and travel again right away.
I used to feel that being home was boring. That my “regular” life could never be as exciting as when I traveled.
Do any of you feel that way? Like you’re waiting for that next vacation, or you’re waiting for the weekend?
If you fit into this category this is MY invitation to you!
We’re going to get honest for a second. And REALLY present with ourselves.
What is it that you would have to create and have in your life, that you would ALWAYS be grateful and joyful to be home, in your normal day to day life?
This has shifted for me. I now have gratitude for the adventures of travel AND the life I get to come home to, it’s both. So. much. fun!
The business that I have created, the people I am surrounding myself with right now that are generative, so kind and caring and such a contribution. The people that are playing with me and the business, how amazing they are, and how wonderful it is to have that generative contribution in the business.
This is all in addition to the contribution of my apartment and the things I’ve chosen to have IN my home space. I love talking about my apartment because I absolutely ADORE my place. I come home and my whole entire body relaxes; I am at ease at home.
This apartment contributes so much energy to me, to my body, and I contribute so much energy to this apartment.
I love the location of where I live. I get to go hiking in California nature around the corner, and there are so many restaurants that serve yummy food in interesting ways.
I have really created a space where I enjoy EVERYTHING about my life.
I even LOVED working and creating ALL weekend.
I loved every minute of it.
I loved every minute of it because I am creating what I came here to create in the world. And that alone is SO exciting for me!
To be creating the life I love AND being the contribution I know I am here to be.
It took me like ten years to get here. TEN YEARS!
Start Where You Are
So, wherever you are on that particular journey for yourself, I want to tell you it’s not too late. It’s NEVER too late. You CAN still create a life you love!
I want to invite you to say YES to YOU, and yes to keep going! Say yes to keep creating! Say yes to never stopping, never giving up and never giving in to the distractions and barriers in your way.
Never give up on YOU, or YOUR DREAMS.
Never give up on what you desire!
If you are someone who has no idea what you want to create or where you are wanting to go, and the ONLY thing you KNOW is you don’t want to stay where you are right now, that you don’t love your life right now, you’re in the right place.
If you're like my life sucks, and I know it sucks, and I know something is different, but I have no frickin clue how to do it that's okay - that's OKAY.
There is NOTHING wrong with you, AND it’s okay you don’t know right now, in this moment what it is that you want.
The BIGGEST gift right now is knowing that you would like to change your life.
What Did You Know Was Possible As A Child?
Did you have big dreams when you were a child? Let’s recall those dreams. What did you want? What did you know was possible when you knew EVERYTHING was po... -
You might be wondering, what in the world do these three things have to do with each other, and I cannot wait to tell you!
In a nutshell, which we will expand on, when you include your body in your life through all the techniques we teach in Orgasmic Living, which incorporates investing in your body, these choices actually allow you to have AND receive more money!
Sounds crazy I know, but I have experienced this myself and so have my clients.
A lot of people have the point of view that they need to go out and make money, AND THEN they will invest in their body, i.e. let me go handle my business and then when I have everything handled, AND have the money, THEN I can invest in my body.
What if investing in your body NOW is actually what is going to contribute to your life and future instantaneously?
What if investing in your body is what is going to contribute to your relationships?
What if investing in your body is what is going to contribute to your money flows RIGHT NOW?
Money is about R E C E I V I N G.
Receiving from the universe; receiving from people; receiving from everything as if by magic.
Here is a BIG secret… are you ready?
In order to R E C E I V E, you AND your body have to be R E L A X E D.
You as a BEING have to be relaxed in the space of you, and your BODY has to be at ease.
What Does It LOOK Like When You Invest in Your Body and Allow Yourself to Receive?
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Let’s give you some examples to illustrate this. I had a client that, when he came to me, was couch surfing, and had a small business he was working on. He was couch surfing because he did not have the money to pay for his own place consistently and take care of himself. When he started listening to his body, and investing in what his body desired, what it wanted to wear and what it is that his body wanted, his life started to shift and more money came in.
He went from couch surfing to creating a home that he loved to live in and to owning multiple businesses that he enjoyed.
Things he found that really contributed to him on this journey were investing in really yummy super soft silk underwear that hugged him in all the right places. When he walked around wearing this underwear, even though he was the only one that knew that it was there under his clothes, he felt like a million bucks! This choice created energy between him and his body that was generative. He also started investing in haircuts with someone who was more expensive than previous haircuts, but who was nurturing and kind for his body. Again a certain energy was generated from this choice to nurture and invest in what his body wanted.
This is one of the times when things are the opposite of what you would think, or what they appear to be by logical thinking. If you choose to invest in your body NOW (not until you think you can afford it) as a priority then the energy that gets created between you and your body creates the space for greater to show up in your life and ultimately creates the space for you to be able to RECEIVE more. This includes money!!
Let’s play a little mind game!
Let’s say you work Monday through Friday, 8 hours a day, and you have been noticing lately some of your joints are stiff and your muscles are tense and sore in places.
What do you think it would create if you invested in a massage? If you invested chiropractic work?
Would your body relax?
Would you be relaxed and more joyful, and then possibly be able to RECEIVE MORE, and have more mental and physical acuity and fluidity in responding to all the things life throws your way?
From personal experience and that of my clients, I can tell you YES, investing in your body and inviting it to have more ease, relaxation and peace creates more than we can put into words- both tangible and intangible!
How cool is that?!
The more I invest in the nurturing and caring of my body the more money I make!
ASK. YOUR. BODY. - Se mer
