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Feeling stuck and not sure how to move forward?
In today’s episode, Kylene and Patrick discuss choosing who you want to be so you don’t stay stuck in 2025.
They provide five practical tips and actionable resources to help you align with your values and vision for the future. Their approach emphasizes digging deeper than surface-level goals, empowering you to define your identity and who you want to become as you move forward.
List of core values: https://simplish.co/blog/core-values-list
Visioneering book by Andy Stanley: https://a.co/d/5ew37Np
Are you a betrayed partner interested in working 1:1 with Kylene? Book your free discovery call here:https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
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Do you feel discouraged in your recovery journey? We encourage you to take some time to reflect on the past year. Often, when we feel stuck or frustrated, if we compare where we are today to where we were 6 months ago, or a year ago, we have a better perspective of how far we've truly come!
the end of the year offers us a natural point to review what we have accomplished in the past year while also considering where I want to continue focusing for future growth.
Listen to this episode for some prompts to help you get started.
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
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On IG: @KyleneTerhune
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Do you and your partner feel LESS connected when things get busy? Do you notice that you have less time for each other and fewer conversations?
Communication is a top priority during recovery and we want to encourage you to prioritize it MORE when you're busy, tired or stressed instead of less.
When we get busy and communicate less, it becomes a breeding ground for disconnection as we try to process thoughts and emotions on our own.
While these connection points don't need to take much time, and they don't even need to be focused around recovery topics, we DO encourage that you set aside time to talk.
Today's episode offers quick questions for you to sit down and discuss with your partner - holiday themed!
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
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Are you a people pleaser? Saying NO is hard, and we can feel extra pressure around the holidays.
In today's episode, Kylene and Patrick offer 3, succinct and specific ways to politely decline invitations if you need some extra down time for recovery.
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
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Discovery is one of the most stressful experiences for both the sex/porn addict and the betrayed partner. Stress takes a significant toll on the body in this episode Kylene breaks down how stress impacts the body and 3 specific pillars of support we can bring in to support our mental and physical health through recovery.
Kylene has some links below with recommended supplements to consider * Please always check with your own medical practitioner to confirm that these are safe for you to use, especially if you have any pre-existing medical conditions or medications you are taking:
For the addict: https://us.fullscript.com/plans/kylenet-addiction-recovery-support
For the betrayed partner: https://us.fullscript.com/plans/kylenet-betrayal-recovery-support
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
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Are you a betrayed partner who has asked the question - how could my husband engage in such hurtful behaviors and still love me? If so, you're not alone!
In this episode Kylene and Patrick talk about how this questions is really a form of communicating the pain that has been caused, the feelings of insecurity, the fear of comparison, and the reiteration of negative self beliefs for the partner.
They also walk through understanding addiction was they begin to answer the question - how can these two things be true that my partner hurt me but loves me?
This episode is for both the recovering addict AND the betrayed partner. While the question is from the betrayed partner side, this episode can also help the recovering addict more deeply empathize with his partners experience.
SAST test: https://psychology-tools.com/test/sast
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
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Are you stuck in an anxiety loop after betrayal? If so, you are NOT alone. Anxiety is one of the primary emotions that surface after discovering your husband is a sex or porn addict.
Not sure if you feel anxious? In this episode Kylene and Patrick break down some signs and symptoms of anxiety, why safety is important, and how we can support our healing.
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
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My husband CHEATED - so it's ok to be angry right?
I'm so ANGRY and I just can't get over it. I will never get over it.
I'm not allowed to be angry - it's a sin.
Anger is a natural emotion and an important feeling to be respected and acknowledged. However, when left unchecked it can turn into bitterness and it can begin to take control of your life as it not only hurts the person your anger is directed towards, but begins to hurt you as well.
In today's episode, Kylene and Patrick discuss when anger is healthy, when it's not, and health ways to assist anger as it moves through so you can step into deeper healing on the other side.
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
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I can do this on my own!
They hurt me, therefore I can hurt them.
Porn isn't infidelity!
In today's episode, Kylene and Patrick address these 3 lies. Both recovering addicts and betrayed partners can get caught up in these beliefs and it can dramatically impact long term healing.
Let's shift these beliefs together to find deep, long lasting freedom.
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
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Are you a recovering sex/porn addict who is frustrated that your spouse still has questions about your previous behavior? Or maybe you are a betrayed spouse who has brought up a trigger only to be replied to with "when will you get over this? Why is this still coming up for you?"
All couples navigating recovery long for the day when they will never think about it ever again. Unfortunately, that's not the reality of trauma.
In todays' episode Kylene and Patrick discuss what long term recovery looks like for a couple and what making amends truly means for the partner who has engaged in the betrayal.
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
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How can I connect more deeply with my partner - especially after betrayal?
Communication is the foundation for life long intimacy and growth with your partner. AND it happens to be one of the top struggles most couples have.
In today's episode, Kylene and Patrick suggest 4 questions to discuss with your partner to open conversation and to connect more deeply and give examples as they personally answer the questions together.
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
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INTIMACY? or sex? Are they the same? How can you reconnect intimately with your partner if they have hurt you in the past?
For many partners, true intimacy (into -me-you-see) is first established through the recovery journey as they learn new skills for communication, trust, empathy and connection together.
Intimacy requires safety and sex addiction is an intimacy disorder - so how in the world do we connect after betrayal?
In today's episode, we discuss 5 reasons sex and intimacy can be difficult and what can help us move through this process to connect more deeply as we heal.
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
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What is empathy? At its core, it's the ability to understand someone else's experience and perspective. When a couple chooses to stay together, empathy is a critical skill for both individuals to learn. YES it's learnable! We must practice things that don't come naturally before they become second nature.
In today's episode, Kylene and Patrick discuss what empathy is, why is important fro the recovering sex addict to empathize with the trauma his partner is going through, and why it's just as important for the betrayed partner to empathize with the addicts experiences, and of course, how can you express empathy?
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
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Betrayal HURTS and it feels overwhelming.
Today, Kylene answers some of the most common questions a betrayed partner may have after discovering that her husband is a sex or porn addict.
Questions like:
Is it possible to heal and if so, HOW?What does the process of reconciliation look like?How long does recovery take? Can I speed it up?What do I do about triggers?If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
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Forgiveness after betrayal? What keeps us stuck from moving forward with forgiveness?
In today's episode, Kylene and Patrick define forgiveness, discuss different types of forgiveness, and what might keep us stuck from moving forward with forgiveness.
Is it always appropriate to forgive? Or is there a right time? Do I always have to tell the person who hurt me that I forgive them? Join us in today's episode as we break it down.
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
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Is it possible for GOOD to come from all the pain of sex addiction and betrayal trauma?
Nick and Michelle Stumbo are examples of how good CAN come from the pain we have experienced. A former pastor and now head of Pure Desire ministries, Nick shares his personal story of transformation along with his wife Michelle who talks about what it was like being married to a pastor and feeling like she had to keep all of this to herself at the time.
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
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How do we navigate conversations about sex with our children?
Whether you are a couple going through recovery after betrayal and sex addiction, or you are just parents trying to raise healthy kids, healthy sexuality is something they should learn about from you. But it's often a very uncomfortable topic for many of us and we just don't know how to bring it up in safe and healthy ways.
Rodney and Traci Wright recommend that parents have many small conversations with our children around this topic to better prepare them for their life experiences, to create safety in the relationship with you, and to let them know they can always come to you with questions.
If you have children you won't want to miss this episode!
Check out their book for more support: How to Talk to Your Kids about Sex here: https://puredesire.org/shop/how-to-talk-with-your-kids-about-sex/
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
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What does it feel like to discover your husband is a sex/porn addict without any warning? How do you navigate those first few months?
In today's episode, Patrick asks Kylene questions about her experience including:
What was going through your head the first 2 weeks after discovery?What seemed to help the first few weeks/months?What behaviors from (Patrick) did you find helpful?What gave you strength through this?When did you feel most vulnerable?If you are a betrayed partner, you may related to how Kylene describes her experience. If you are a sex/porn addict moving through recovery, you may gain a deeper understanding about how the betrayed partner thinks and feels through this process.
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
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Can a spouse recovery from betrayal? Can an addict recovery? Can we actually live healthy lives?
These are some of the questions Kylene's client Katherine* experienced after discovering her husband was hiding a secret sex addiction.
After doing some of their own work and then coming to Kylene for continued healing work, Katherine is here today to share their story of redemption and healing.
Their story is inspirational, I know you will find encouragement in this episode!
*Names changes for anonymity
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
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HOW do I make a decision about my marriage after betrayal? I feel stuck?
After we have experienced the pain of betrayal, it's normal to feel scared and overwhelmed. Kylene walks you through some things to think through as you work through this decision as she normalizes the ups and downs of the recovery and reconciliation process.
If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql
Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU
For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org
Follow Kylene:
On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune
On IG: @KyleneTerhune
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