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Welcome back to Relationship Reset — the podcast for high-achieving couples who want more than just surviving in their relationship. In this week's Dear Katie episode, we're digging into a listener question that hits home for so many long-term couples:
"We’ve been together 25+ years and love each other deeply… but with aging parents, teens, and busy jobs, our communication has turned into task lists. How do we get back to real, honest connection without everything turning into a fight?"Whew. If you're nodding your head or exhaling deeply right now, you're in good company.
This episode is all about rebuilding your communication by first rebuilding your friendship. Before we fix how we argue, we have to go back to how we connect. I’ll walk you through:
💬 What’s actually making communication feel hard right now (hint: it’s not just your partner)
👫 The power of rebuilding your friendship — especially in this middle-of-life sandwich season
⏳ Why even 10 minutes a day can shift everything
🌿 Simple “us time” that doesn’t require a babysitter or a weekend away
💌 How appreciation and gratitude are the underrated superpowers of long-term connectionIf you’ve been feeling more like co-managers of a household than partners in life, this episode is a gentle nudge back toward the connection you know is possible — even in the chaos.
💡 And if this sounds like you and your partner, book a free Relationship Game Plan Call with me. We’ll pinpoint exactly where the breakdowns are happening and map out the first steps to reset and rebuild.
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Ever walked in the door after a trip—or even just a solo grocery run—only to find your house in complete chaos... like nothing was done while you were gone? Cue the rage, the overwhelm, and that familiar sense of “Do I even matter around here?”
In this raw and relatable episode, Katie breaks down why moments like these hit so hard—and spoiler alert—it’s not just about the dishes.
You’ll learn:
Why seemingly small acts of disrespect trigger such big emotions
How your brain (yes, your amazing brain!) reacts to past hurts in real time
The hidden childhood patterns that keep you overfunctioning
The exact 4-step process to pause, regulate, and respond differently
What to say instead of yelling—and how to make your needs actually heardIf you’re the default parent, the invisible partner, or the one who “just does it all,” this episode will feel like a breath of fresh air—and maybe a loving kick in the pants to do things differently.
What You’ll Walk Away With:
A new understanding of how your nervous system reacts to feeling devaluedScripts to help you express your needs without the yelling or guiltBrain-based insights that explain why your reactions make so much senseA loving reminder that your worth is not tied to how much you do for othersLoved this episode?
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Is your relationship running on autopilot?
Are you feeling more like roommates than partners lately?
Have you ever wondered: “Is this really what I want—or is there more we could create together?”If so, this episode is for you.
In today’s Relationship Reset, I’m diving deep into one of the most important truths I teach my clients: every relationship needs a reset—regularly.
Not because you’re broken. Not because it’s failing. But because YOU are evolving. And your relationship should evolve with you.In this episode, we’ll explore:
✅ Why a reset is a normal, necessary part of long-term relationships
✅ How the pandemic became the ultimate pressure cooker for couples
✅ The lessons most of us forgot once life sped back up
✅ Signs your relationship is ready for a reset
✅ Why social media habits are subtly sabotaging connection at home
✅ How to close the "respect gap" between your partner and everyone else
✅ Why learning relationship skills is legacy work for your family
✅ How to bring your partner along on your personal growth journey (without dragging them!)
✅ My favorite practical tools to deepen connection right awayPlus — I’ll share a few of my go-to conversation starter questions you can try tonight to instantly open up richer dialogue with your partner.
Because here’s the truth:
You are not stuck.
You are not broken.
You are evolving—and your relationship can evolve with you.✨ The grass is greener where you water it. ✨
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In this heartfelt episode, Katie sits down with Lana Manikowski to explore a universal truth: life will throw challenges your way — and those challenges can test your relationship. Lana shares her deeply personal journey through infertility, how it impacted her marriage, and what she and her husband did to reconnect and rebuild their bond.
Katie and Lana also reflect on the parallels between infertility grief and other types of loss — including Katie’s own experience of losing her mother — and offer practical tools for couples navigating grief, life changes, or unexpected hardships.
If you're going through a tough season — whether it's infertility, loss, career upheaval, or something else — this conversation is here to help you and your partner lean in, reconnect, and create a future together.
In This Episode You’ll Learn:
✅ The power of mutual decision-making in difficult seasons
✅ How shame, guilt, and unspoken emotions can quietly erode connection
✅ The importance of checking in on your partner’s grief, even when you’re consumed with your own
✅ Why maintaining individual identity and friendships strengthens your relationship
✅ How setting shared goals and dreaming together can reignite hope and closenessLana’s Key Message: Your story isn’t over — it’s just beginning.
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📖 So Now What? — Lana’s bestselling book
🎧 So Now What? PodcastHomework from Lana: At the end of the episode, Lana gives you a simple but powerful way to start reconnecting with your partner today — so be sure to listen through to the end!
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Ever feel like one of you wants to talk right now while the other suddenly needs to reorganize the garage? You're not alone. In this episode, we’re diving into the push-pull dynamic of anxious and avoidant attachment styles—what they are, why they develop, and how they play out in long-term relationships.
Drawing from the work of Dr. Daniel Siegel, Esther Perel, and the Gottmans, Katie breaks down how these patterns get wired into us, how they can evolve over time, and what couples can do to stop the cycle of conflict and disconnection.
Expect stories, laughter, a few “oh wow, that’s us” moments—and, of course, your signature relationship homework at the end.
What You’ll Learn:
What anxious and avoidant attachment styles look like in everyday lifeWhy these opposites often attract (and frustrate each other)Real-world couple stories that show the cycle in actionHow your attachment style can change over time in long-term lovePractical tools to shift from reactive to responsive when attachment triggers hitRelationship Homework: Decode Your Dance
Identify your default (pursuer or withdrawer)Create a safe word or phrase to pause conflict without disconnectionBuild a “comeback ritual” for reconnection after a ruptureListen If:
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In this episode of Relationship Reset, you’ll meet a couple stuck in a frustrating loop: he keeps lying about small things, she keeps asking for honesty—and instead of addressing the root issue, he brings flowers.
Sound familiar? Katie unpacks why we give the wrong medicine for relationship wounds, and how adaptive behaviors from childhood become destructive patterns in marriage.
This isn’t just about one couple—it’s about all of us. Whether you're the one handing out cough syrup or silently nursing a broken leg, this episode will help you:
Identify the “cough syrup” fixes you or your partner default toUnderstand the deeper habits that drive surface-level solutionsBegin honest conversations about what healing actually looks likeIn this episode, you’ll learn:
✅ Why quick fixes (like gifts or helpfulness) fall short after emotional damage
✅ The psychology behind why people repeat childhood coping behaviors
✅ How to move from bandaids to actual repair in your relationship
✅ The crucial question: “Am I really hearing what my partner needs?”Homework:
Take 15 minutes this week to talk with your partner:
💬 What “cough syrup” behaviors do we fall back on when something’s broken?
💬 What would true healing actually look like—for both of us?Because the truth is: You can’t rebuild trust with shortcuts. But you can reset, repair, and reconnect—with the right tools.
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In this insightful and empowering conversation, Katie Rössler sits down with Dr. Colette White, a UK-trained gynecologist specializing in menopause and perimenopause care, currently practicing privately in Germany and across Europe. Together, they dive deep into the often misunderstood and under-discussed world of perimenopause and menopause, dismantling myths, clarifying medical definitions, and advocating for women's health rights.
Dr. White opens up about her own rocky experience navigating perimenopause—despite her medical background—and the frustrating responses she received from the healthcare system. Her personal journey led to the creation of a medical practice that prioritizes informed, individualized, and proactive care for women experiencing hormonal shifts.
This episode is a must-listen for any woman in her 30s, 40s, or 50s who feels dismissed, confused, or overwhelmed when it comes to her changing body. If you’ve ever been told you’re “too young” for hormone treatment or left your doctor’s office with more questions than answers, you are not alone—and there is a better way.
In This Episode, We Cover:
Dr. White’s journey from the UK to Germany and what inspired her to open her own practiceWhy so many women feel dismissed when they bring up perimenopause symptomsWhat perimenopause and menopause actually are—definitions, timing, and signsCommon misconceptions about hormone therapy and its long-term health benefitsThe cultural and systemic gaps in menopause education across Europe and beyondHow to advocate for your health and find the right care, even in frustrating systemsResources Shared During the Podcast:
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OMGYes.comAbout Our Guest:
Dr. Colette White is a gynecologist with advanced training in menopause management. Now based in Germany, she provides private consultations to women across Europe, specializing in the treatment of perimenopause and menopause symptoms. Passionate about education and empowerment, she’s on a mission to shift the narrative around hormonal health and help women access the care they deserve.Connect with Dr. Colette White:
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If you’re feeling gaslit by your body or your doctor, it’s time to reclaim your power. Understanding perimenopause is the first step toward feeling like yourself again—and you don’t have to do it alone.Relationship Game Plan Call
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In this heartfelt and eye-opening episode, Katie tackles a question that many long-term couples eventually face but few feel safe admitting: “Should I stay, or should I go?”
Whether you’ve whispered it in your mind or said it out loud during a fight, this question often arises not because your relationship is doomed—but because you’re evolving. Katie invites listeners to look beyond the surface of dissatisfaction and ask deeper, more personal questions about happiness, identity, and the cost of compromise.
You’ll learn:
Why this question doesn’t always mean you need to leave your partnerThe hidden reasons we feel discontent—even when life looks “fine”How overwhelm, control, and people-pleasing create silent resentmentWhat you might really be asking yourself beneath “Should I stay?”How to tell the difference between growth-pain and deal-breakersThrough raw personal stories and powerful client reflections, Katie shines a light on how easily we lose ourselves in long-term relationships, especially when life is full of caregiving, stress, and endless responsibilities. This episode is a compassionate wake-up call and a guide for anyone standing at an emotional crossroads.
In This Episode, Katie Shares:
A mindset shift around the “stay or go” question
Why avoidance of reflection leads to deeper relational divides
How unspoken compromises can breed quiet resentment
Why it's easier to blame your partner than sit with your own evolution
Journal prompts to help you explore what you’ve lost, what you miss, and what you want to reclaimListener Homework:
What parts of me have I lost in this relationship?What do I miss about myself?Where have I over-compromised or stayed silent?What do I truly want for the next decade of my life?
📝 Ask yourself:Links & Resources:
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In this episode of Dear Katie, we dive into a common challenge many couples face over the course of their relationship: navigating different levels of sexual desire. “Off Kilter,” a listener, reached out asking for advice on how to manage her and her husband’s differing sex drives after 20 years of marriage. She feels that their sexual connection often feels like a compromise, with neither partner fully getting what they need or want.
If you or your partner have ever struggled with mismatched libido, this episode offers practical advice, grounded in psychological insights, to help you both reconnect and improve your intimacy.
Key Points:
Understanding the Dynamic:
We start by acknowledging how mismatched sex drives often lead to frustration, feelings of inadequacy, and a lack of emotional connection. The desire to avoid "fake" intimacy, as Off Kilter shared, can create a barrier to open communication and intimacy.Psychological Insights:
We discuss how men and women often approach intimacy differently. Men often seek connection through physical intimacy, while women may require emotional closeness first. This disconnect is more common than many realize, but understanding each other's needs can shift the dynamic.The Importance of Communication:
Communication is key to navigating mismatched sexual desires. It’s essential to have an open and honest conversation about each partner’s needs, fears, and expectations, and not just during conflict. This means acknowledging the emotional aspect of intimacy rather than just the physical.Tools and Strategies for Reconnecting:Ask, Don’t Assume: Instead of expecting your partner to automatically know what you want, openly ask for it. A simple, direct approach works wonders.Compromise without Resentment: Understand that intimacy, including sex, can often be a compromise. Work together to find a middle ground where both partners feel seen and valued.Dealing with Sexual Burnout:
For those like Off Kilter who feel "over-satiated" and have a hard time initiating sex, it’s important to set boundaries around intimacy and discuss openly when you’re feeling overwhelmed. Reigniting the spark often means balancing individual needs with the relationship’s needs.Finding Balance:
Sex isn’t the only way to feel connected. Building emotional and mental closeness through simple acts of care and affection outside of the bedroom can go a long way toward improving sexual intimacy.Takeaway for Listeners:
If you’re feeling like you and your partner are stuck in a cycle of “compromise” when it comes to sex, you’re not alone. Start by having a non-judgmental conversation about your desires, setting boundaries, and finding ways to connect emotionally. Understanding each other’s needs is the first step to making real changes in your sexual relationship.Call to Action:
If you’re navigating similar issues in your relationship, it’s time to stop compromising your desires and start communicating better. Let’s dive deeper together!Book Your Relationship Game Plan Call HERE
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It’s not about begging. It’s not about arguing. There’s a better way.
If you’ve ever felt frustrated trying to get your needs met in your relationship — and it ends in a fight, shutdown, or awkward silence — this episode is for you.In today’s conversation, we’re breaking down:
Why traditional "demand" communication often backfires (even if you're right!)How to shift toward mutual collaboration instead of pushing or people-pleasingA simple, 3-part communication tool you can use right away to help your partner actually want to say "yes" to youI’m also sharing real-world examples from clients who have learned how to shift the energy from resentment and reactivity... to teamwork and connection.
You’ll walk away with:
✅ A mindset shift that puts you and your partner on the same team
✅ A simple sentence starter to use when making requests
✅ More confidence to speak up for what you want — without guilt, shutdown, or dramaBottom Line:
You can get more of what you want — and build a stronger relationship — when you know how to ask for it the right way. Let's dive in!Relationship Game Plan Call
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In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Smith—sex therapist, PhD, and real-talk relationship expert—to unpack the three silent forces that quietly erode relationships from the inside out: contempt, conflict avoidance, and unresolved trauma.
If you’ve ever thought, “We used to be so close. What happened?”—this episode will help you understand not just the what, but the why. You’ll also walk away with real tools to stop the emotional disconnection in its tracks and start creating more intimacy, honesty, and repair.
We’re talking subtle eye-rolls, the “I’m fine” shutdown, old trauma showing up in new arguments—and how to turn it all around.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
Why contempt is like a slow leak in a relationship—and what it sounds like in everyday interactionsHow conflict avoidance can make things worse, even if you think you're “keeping the peace”Why unresolved trauma shows up in the smallest arguments (think: milk left on the counter)How gender norms and emotional suppression play a role in how couples communicatePractical tools to shift from reactivity to curiosity—so you can actually start feeling close againA powerful reframe for reigniting desire and rediscovering your partner (even after years together)Homework:
Picture your partner standing in line at a coffee shop. Someone behind them finds them attractive.
What story is that stranger telling themselves about your partner?
How would they start a conversation? What would they notice?
Now—what would you say if you saw your partner through those same fresh eyes?Connect with Dr. Emma Smith:
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In this episode, we dive deep into the topic that often gets avoided: sex and intimacy in long-term relationships. Whether you're in your 30s, 40s, or beyond, conversations about sex can feel like walking through a minefield. But it doesn't have to be that way. We break down why talking about sex is so hard, what’s actually happening in our bodies and minds, and most importantly, how to start the conversation in a way that brings you closer together instead of pushing you apart.
What We Discuss in This Episode:
Why Talking About Sex Is So Difficult: Understanding the layers of rejection, body image issues, and past experiences that can make sex conversations challenging.The Impact of Emotional and Mental Load on Libido: How stress, burnout, and life pressures affect desire and performance, and why it's essential to address these issues together.What’s Really Going On in the Bedroom: Changes in our bodies and desires as we age, and how unresolved emotional tension impacts intimacy.How to Normalize Talking About Sex: Tips on how to approach the topic with curiosity and compassion, making it a regular part of your relationship check-ins.Creating Emotional Safety: Why creating a safe space to talk about intimacy is crucial and how to honor each other's needs without blame or judgment.Stress, Sex, and Performance: How stress messes with libido and how to start reducing that pressure to reconnect.Practical Steps to Improve Your Intimacy: Actionable tips to initiate the conversation and create space for vulnerability and connection.Key Takeaways:
Silence around sex can breed shame and distance, but starting the conversation with curiosity and compassion can rebuild intimacy.Emotional and mental stress often prevent us from feeling desire or performing in the bedroom. Acknowledge these pressures, and work together to ease the burden.Talking about sex doesn’t have to be awkward—it can become a natural part of your relationship rhythm if approached with care and openness.Vulnerability is key in these conversations. If you’re feeling disconnected, sharing your emotions and needs can create space for deeper intimacy.Next Steps:
Journal Prompt Homework: Reflect on your own feelings around intimacy and your needs, then share your thoughts with your partner. This simple exercise can reset the emotional tone between you and your partner, paving the way for more open communication moving forward.Final Invitation: If you’ve been struggling to have these conversations with your partner, or if you feel like you’ve hit a wall, don’t do it alone. Book a free Relationship Game Plan Call with me—let’s create a safe space to talk about your intimacy and get back on track toward rebuilding the connection you both desire.
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In today’s episode, I sit down with Abbe and Isaac Feder, a couple who has faced one of the most challenging journeys any couple can endure—infertility. They openly share their struggles, growth, and how their relationship evolved through these trying times. From their early days of friendship and dating to the heart-wrenching challenges of trying to conceive, Abbe and Isaac’s story is both inspiring and real.
In this episode, we cover:
How Abbe and Isaac met: Their chance meeting at a gay bar in West Hollywood, despite growing up in the same Jewish summer camp years earlier, and the serendipity of their connection.Attraction and compatibility: What drew Abbe and Isaac to each other, and how their shared values, humor, and understanding of each other’s backgrounds laid the foundation for their relationship.The early years: How their relationship moved quickly from friends to marriage in under two years, and the pace that worked for them.Marriage and challenges: A candid discussion of the challenges they faced early on, including the stress of trying to conceive and how that changed their dynamic as a couple.Infertility struggles: Abbe and Isaac dive deep into their infertility journey, explaining the emotional, mental, and physical toll it took on them both as individuals and as a couple.Growth through adversity: How they navigated the ups and downs together and the tools they used to stay connected and resilient through such a difficult time.About Abbe & Isaac Feder:
Abbe and Isaac are an inspiring couple who, after a long journey with infertility, are now proud parents of two children. With backgrounds in acting and film, respectively, they bring their creative talents and strong communication skills to their personal life and marriage. Together, they have navigated some of life’s toughest challenges, sharing their experiences to help others going through similar struggles.Links and Resources:
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In this special Dear Katie episode, we’re diving into a heartfelt letter from a listener who’s feeling invisible in her marriage. If you've ever moved abroad for your partner, felt the shift that parenthood brings to your relationship, or struggled with feeling unappreciated and disconnected, this episode is for you. Grab a warm drink (and maybe some tissues) as we unpack her story and explore ways to navigate these challenges.
In this episode, we cover:
How major life changes—moving abroad, career shifts, and becoming parents—can create emotional distance in relationships.The impact of feeling unseen and unheard in a marriage.Why partners sometimes don’t recognize or acknowledge relationship struggles.How our childhood experiences and unmet needs influence our relationships.Practical steps to reconnect and communicate effectively, even when your partner seems uninterested.Why This Matters:
When one partner feels emotionally abandoned, it can be isolating and frustrating—especially when their concerns are dismissed. Understanding how our past influences our present can help us break unhealthy patterns and create deeper connections.
Your Next Steps:
✅ Identify your unfinished business—what emotional patterns from your childhood might be playing out in your marriage?
✅ Reflect on how you’ve been expressing (or suppressing) your needs and emotions.
✅ Start small: Open up conversations with curiosity rather than blame.
✅ If direct conversations don’t work, consider subtle shifts in your own behavior to create change.
✅ Seek support—whether from friends, therapy, or self-reflection tools—to strengthen your sense of self-worth and clarity.Key Takeaway:
We often marry our unfinished business, replaying old emotional patterns in our relationships. Recognizing this is the first step toward breaking cycles and rebuilding connection. Even when one partner seems disengaged, change can start with you—not by fixing them, but by understanding yourself better.
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Ever wonder why one of you gets frustrated at the drop of a hat while the other stays completely chill? Or why arguments escalate so fast, even when they start small? The secret isn’t avoiding fights altogether—it’s learning how to tolerate frustration without letting it take over.
In this episode, we’re diving into:
Why some people lose their cool instantly while others stay calm.How low frustration tolerance makes arguments worse.The brain science behind frustration and emotional reactions.Practical tools to build frustration tolerance and regulate emotions.Why This Matters:
Arguments are inevitable, but how you handle them determines whether they bring you closer or push you apart. Learning to regulate your frustration can transform the way you and your partner communicate—so fights don’t feel like the end of the world.
Your Next Steps:
✅ Practice pausing before reacting—take a deep breath before you speak.
✅ Use “I need a minute” as a reset button when emotions run high.
✅ If your partner gets reactive, don’t match their energy—stay steady.
✅ Try a 10-minute break when needed, then come back to the conversation.Key Takeaway:
Frustration tolerance is the secret weapon to arguing better. By slowing down reactions and managing emotions, you and your partner can handle conflict in a way that strengthens—not weakens—your connection.
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Are you avoiding conflict in your relationship, hoping it will just go away? The truth is, dodging difficult conversations doesn't make problems disappear—it makes them worse. In this episode, we're diving into why some people avoid conflict, how it impacts relationships, and what you can do about it so that you can communicate better and feel more connected.
In This Episode:
Why conflict avoidance happens (hint: it’s not just about fear of arguing)How avoiding tough conversations creates distance in relationshipsThe difference between healthy space and emotional shutdownPractical tools for both the conflict-avoidant partner and the one who wants more communicationHow to reframe conflict as an opportunity for deeper intimacyWhy This Matters:
Conflict isn't the enemy—disconnection is. When we avoid talking about issues, resentment builds, trust erodes, and intimacy fades. Learning to navigate conflict in a healthy way strengthens your relationship rather than breaking it down.
Your Next Steps:
Identify your own conflict style—do you avoid, withdraw, or shut down?Try using the "pause and process" method before reacting in conflict.Practice curious, not confrontational language when addressing tough topics.Set a goal to have one open, honest conversation with your partner this week.Key Takeaway:
Conflict can be uncomfortable, but avoiding it doesn’t solve anything. When handled well, tough conversations can actually bring you closer and deepen your connection.
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Welcome back to Relationship Reset! This podcast is dedicated to helping high-achieving couples like you transform your relationship from surviving to thriving.
Are you the "I got it" partner? The one who takes on everything—work, home life, holiday planning—because it’s just easier if you do it yourself? Or maybe your partner is the hyper-independent one, and you're feeling more like a guest in your own home than an equal. Either way, hyper-independence can be a real relationship killer. In this episode, we’re diving into what causes hyper-independence, how it affects relationships, and most importantly, how to break the cycle before burnout and resentment take over.
In This Episode:
What hyper-independence is and where it comes from.How childhood experiences, past relationships, and work culture shape this mindset.The impact hyper-independence has on your relationship.Why shutting your partner out leads to disconnection and resentment.Practical strategies to shift from "I got it" to a more balanced partnership.Why This Matters:
Hyper-independence may have helped you survive in the past, but in a relationship, it creates walls instead of connection. Learning how to allow support, trust your partner, and share responsibilities strengthens your bond and prevents burnout.
Your Next Steps:
Identify moments where you default to “I got it” and pause before responding.Practice small steps of delegation—let your partner take over a task, even if they do it differently than you would.Have an open conversation with your partner about where you both need more balance in responsibilities.Work on recognizing and challenging the belief that accepting help is a weakness.Key Takeaway:
Hyper-independence isn’t about being strong—it’s about not knowing how to let someone in. True partnership comes from allowing yourself to receive as much as you give. When you create space for your partner to show up, your relationship becomes stronger, more connected, and more fulfilling.
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Welcome back to Relationship Reset! This podcast is dedicated to helping high-achieving couples like you transform your relationship from surviving to thriving.
Feeling more like roommates than romantic partners? 😔 It's a common struggle for busy couples, but it doesn't have to be your reality. In this episode, we'll explore practical strategies to reignite the spark, deepen your connection, and rediscover the joy of being together.
In This Episode:
Why relationships often shift into "roommate mode" and how to recognize the signs.The power of curiosity and reconnecting with your partner on a deeper level.Practical tips for creating micro-moments of connection throughout your day.The importance of scheduling quality time for intimacy and fun.Strategies for overcoming resentment and reigniting passion.Why This Matters:
A fulfilling relationship is about more than just sharing a living space and managing logistics. It's about feeling connected, supported, and loved. By prioritizing your relationship and creating opportunities for intimacy, you can reignite the spark and build a stronger, more passionate partnership.
Your Next Steps:
Ask your partner a new question about themselves today.Schedule an intentional "us" moment this week.Practice the six-second kiss rule.Surprise your partner with a small but thoughtful gesture.Shake up your routine and try a new activity together.Have an open and honest conversation about intimacy and connection.Key Takeaway:
Even small moments of connection can make a big difference in your relationship. By being intentional and prioritizing your bond, you can move from roommates to soulmates and create a love that lasts.
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Welcome back to Relationship Reset! Ready to weather life's storms together and build a stronger connection? Let's do this!
Life can throw some serious curveballs. From parenting challenges to health issues and everything in between, those unexpected storms can put a strain on your relationship. In this episode, we're exploring how to navigate those challenges together and build a stronger, more resilient bond. In this episode, we're tackling a "Dear Katie" question from a couple facing a particularly challenging season of life. I'll share practical strategies for communicating effectively, managing stress, and finding common ground amidst the chaos.
In This Episode:
How to recognize and address the impact of grief and trauma on your relationship.The importance of understanding and accepting your partner's coping mechanisms.Strategies for improving communication and avoiding the blame game.How to navigate disagreements about parenting styles and expectations.Why This Matters:
Life's challenges can either strengthen or weaken your relationship. By learning how to navigate those storms together, you can build a deeper connection and create a more resilient partnership.
Your Next Steps:
Have an open and honest conversation with your partner about how you each handle stress and challenges.Practice empathy and understanding, even when you disagree.Set realistic expectations and boundaries for your relationship.Find ways to bring humor and joy into your connection, even amidst difficult times.Key Takeaway:
Even in the midst of life's storms, you can create a safe harbor in your relationship by communicating openly, supporting each other, and embracing the power of connection.
Resources:
Check the book: The New Face of Grief
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Welcome back to Relationship Reset! Ready for another deep dive into the messy, beautiful world of long-term relationships? Let's do this!
Do you ever feel like your relationship is slowly slipping away, even if you're not fighting constantly? It might be those tiny, seemingly insignificant moments that are breaking down the foundation of trust. In this episode, we're uncovering three common ways we break trust in our relationships without even realizing it.
In This Episode:
The impact of broken promises and lack of follow-through on your relationship.How can you create a safe space for your partner to be vulnerable and share their feelings?The dangers of micromanaging and how it can erode trust.Practical tips for rebuilding trust, including active listening, setting boundaries, and practicing self-awareness.Why This Matters:
Trust is the foundation of any healthy relationship. When trust is broken, it can lead to disconnection, resentment, and even a breakdown of the relationship.
Your Next Steps:
Identify one area where you might be breaking trust with your partner.Commit to making a change and practice one of the tools or strategies discussed in this episode.Have an open and honest conversation with your partner about trust in your relationship.Key Takeaway:
Trust is built (and broken) in the small, everyday moments. By being mindful of our actions and practicing healthy communication, we can create a relationship built on a solid foundation of trust and respect.
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