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What *exactly* do you need a Day-Of Coordinator for, how do you find a great one, and how much should you invest? Tune in, because I truly cannot keep a secret to save my life.
Once upon a time, I created a DOC Hiring Guide… and it’s so good, I just can’t gatekeep it any longer. In this episode, I’m sharing everything I know about day-of coordination, which is a lot. After all, I have been doing it for almost 20 years!
I’m telling you:
What does she/they do?
What should you expect to pay based on their experience/the industry standards?
Red Flags
Should you just ask a friend to do it?
Questions to ask when interviewing DOC’s
Best practices for working with your DOC
How to share your wedding plan with your DOC/how I transfer the power as your long-distance planning coach (reach out to see if I can do a custom coaching package for you and your beloved!)
Find me on Instagram, where I answer all of my DM'S, and check out my website to work with me, or hit this link to book a free, no-strings chat to pick my brain.
Music is Blackout Romeo by The Spin Wires.
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I describe Voxer, which is a walkie-talkie style app that I use with my clients to coach them via voice notes. My past clients rave about my Voxer office hours, and so if working with me is something you’re considering, but you find the “office hours” or “Voxer app” stuff confusing, just think about it like Instagram voice notes in the DM’s… but so much cooler (and without a 1-minute timer!)
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I had the absolute honour of sitting down with my brilliant friend N. Chloé Nwangwu, a brand scientist with a background in international conflict resolution. If you haven’t heard expressions like “the invisibility tax” or “underrecognition”, you need to be paying attention to the work Chloé is doing.
We talked about why your brand values are important but also why nuance is important in conversations around values, and whether having that nuance will allow you to maintain your audience’s ear and effect more positive and progressive change.
We also talked about a ton of other stuff…
Maintaining boundaries when doing emotional labour, and what that looks like versus what happens when you don’t do that (as a wedding vendor);
Never Have I Ever and Mindy Kaling’s general greatness
Why being a woman in a “female-dominated industry” isn’t all it’s cracked up to be when we’re still operating under patriarchal, white-supremacist, and highly capitalist systems
The S.N.I.F.F. test for vendors to help you figure out if your marketing is feminist, and how you can improve it
Chloé has generously created a resource page for y’all with links to some of the articles we discussed and a detailed breakdown of S.N.I.F.F. - plus links to locate her.
Find me on Instagram, where I answer all of my DM'S, and check out my website to see how you can get me as your personal wedding coach!
Music is Blackout Romeo by The Spin Wires.
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Chloé's must-read article in the Harvard Business Review: Why We Should Stop Saying “Underrepresented” (hbr.org)
Chloé and I met through the amazing Erika Tebbens - she is the business coach who helped me transition from freelancer to entrepreneur, and she is so knowledgeable and creative and just understands business in a way that is really supportive.
I mentioned the book “Invisible Women: Data Bias in a World Designed for Men” by Caroline Criado Perez
Chloé mentioned “the ambition penalty,” a term coined by Stefanie O'Connell Rodriguez
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A month-by-month breakdown of my 6-month wedding planning method!
*Note: This plan happens after a period of enjoying your engagement, and after you’ve established your budget and vision, which is exactly what I do in the Jumpstart. You can learn more about The Jumpstart here.
And with The Wedding Edit (which includes Day-Of-Coordination) I customize this to your wedding plan with vetted vendor referrals in your price range. Then, we co-create a plan for planning with you and your partner, so that planning brings you even closer!
Month 1: around 7:30
Committing major deposits to the vendors that matter most to you and your partner (often the photographer)
Getting a sense of the overall budget by looking at your wedding venue + event planner + catering as approximately %50 of your budget
If you want to learn more about wedding budgets I recommend listening to my episode on Realistic Wedding Budgets, and downloading my free, 20-minute, wedding budget workshop.
Month 2: 17:00
VIP DAY: Venue visit with your coordinator, floor plan, timeline, and Road Map creation and delivery (here’s the link to see a sample Road Map in Trello!)
Florist
Invitations
Plan your ceremony
Month 3: 19:30
DJ, Band, Ceremony musicians
A/V (lighting and sound!) (For more on lighting, listen to this episode!)
Videography
Rentals
Month 4: 22:30
Plan out your sweet table, or order your wedding cake if you’re doing one.
Book your hotel for the wedding night (and maybe for getting ready)
Your hair and make up team, commonly called HMUA
Valet
Plan out your seating cards/chart and table numbers as well as any additional signage or printables
Hire your month-of event manager if you haven’t already! (Commonly known by the misnomer: day-of wedding coordinator)
Month 5: 29:00
Finish up all DIY
All the stuff that you are totally welcome to skip like…
Wedding favours! Listen to this episode with event sustainability expert Romina Kwong to hear us talk about what is an actual great wedding favour
Guest book
Ring pillows and flower baskets
Card box
Photo booth accessories? Are we still doing that?
Month 6 (more like 6 weeks out): 30:00
Get your ducks in a row (all your contracts, final floor plans, etc - complete your logistics/wedmin)
Make a list of final payments!
Alcohol permit
RSVP-chasing + seating chart creation
Shot list for your photographer
Get all your printables completed
Random last-minute add ons:
Guest welcome baskets
Bathroom baskets
Break in your shoes! Listen to hear my super easy method.
Write your vows
Find me on Instagram, where I answer all of my DM'S, and check out The Jumpstart and The Wedding Edit on my website!
Music is Blackout Romeo by The Spin Wires.
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I interviewed Sonja Siikanen (they/them), a queer, feminist wedding and boudoir photographer from Finland, who was recommended to me by two separate Lovebird Listeners!
Here’s what I asked them about:
Sonja’s own wedding, and…
Creating safer spaces
Sharing core values with your guests
What it means to live in a “top” country for queer folks
The tiny queer scene in a small country like Finland
How the bar for what counts as “good” for queer folks is so low it’s literally on the floor
Why marriers should lean into their values when planning a wedding…
And, why it can be challenging to be inclusive when planning your wedding
Sonja’s take + my evolving opinions on styled shoots
The increasing popularity of boudoir shoots and why Sonja loves them for being super empowering, especially for marginalized people, and for the celebration of all bodies (when we share them publicly).
Corrections Corner: In this episode, I say gay marriage was legalized in Canada in 1995 and that is unfortunately a decade earlier than when it was actually legalized.
Follow Sonja on Instagram and learn more about their values or find out how to work with them on their website.
Find me on Instagram, where I answer all of my DM'S, and check out my website to learn more about my offers. Or, go right ahead and book a free, no-strings, 20-minute call with me at bit.ly/feministweddingchat.
Music is Blackout Romeo by The Spin Wires.
RESOURCES
This episode of TFWP, where I interviewed Charlie Sprinkman (he/they), founder of the amazing website (and now app!!) Everywhere is Queer (available for download in the app store, or at the link in their IG bio, above, for android!)
I am once again suggesting that you to read The Art of Gathering by Priya Parker - or at least the first few chapters, about making the guest list!
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I’m joined by my friend, the brilliant Romina Kwong (she/her), who is tackling event sustainability as both the founder and lead consultant at her business, Eco-Friendly Events, and as a teacher at Seneca College where she has co-created a micro-credential for Foundations of Sustainability in Event Management.
We talked about…
The most influential factors on your event’s ecological footprint, and what you can do to mitigate their impact;
Who is responsible for making an event eco-friendly - the vendors, the planners, or the marriers?
How to do your best to be eco-responsible while still staying true to your wedding vision;
The connection between eco-responsibility and feminism;
What a wedding planned with sustainability in mind might look like!
This episode is just the tip of the iceberg, so I encourage you to follow Romina on Instagram @ecofriendly.events and check out her website: www.ecofriendlyevents.ca. Romina doesn’t plan weddings, but if you want her eyes on your event plan (or, as a vendor, on your business!) you can book a consult with her directly.
Find me on Instagram, where I answer all of my DM'S, and check out my website to see how you can get me as your personal wedding coach!
Music is Blackout Romeo by The Spin Wires.
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T. Lees candles - locally made and woman-owned! Love them.
I shouted out @flourishandknot, a Montreal florist I worked with on this styled shoot (photographed by Pam McKay) for her efforts to be eco-responsible and for teaching me about pinfrogs! #nofloralfoam
@flowermoxie - a florist who teaches wedding DIY and ships flowers to you (right now, only in the United States) for small weddings. I really don’t recommend DIYing your florals for most people but I’ve seen a few smaller weddings (70-100 guests max!) do this with success, especially when they managed their expectations appropriately ;)
Romina brought up something I said in a recent episode of The Feminist Wedding Podcast. It’s this one: The Right Way to Negotiate With Your Wedding Vendors (Without Pissing Them Off)
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In this episode I interview my friend Rob Lynch, a lighting designer I’ve been working with for almost 20 years.
We talk about:
WTF a lighting designer even does, and the impact of lighting on any event (a thread that runs through the whole)
How lighting impacts your event, at every key timeline moment
What the lights are called, and what they do, so you’re prepared to understand a quote from a lighting company (likely handled along with your audio!)
Colour!
We also have some major digressions, because when Event Folk (TM pending) get together we cannot help but talk about all the things…
What wedding guests do that drive us nuts
What wedding vendors do that drive us nuts
You can introduce yourself to Rob on Instagram @mrrobertlynch and/or check out his website robertlynch.com - and keep in mind he’ll give you 20% off of his services if you book your lighting directly through him!
Find me on Instagram, where I answer all of my DM'S, and check out my website to see how you can get me as your personal wedding coach!
Music is Blackout Romeo by The Spin Wires.
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My article for Medium about badly behaved wedding guests: Hell is Other People: How Wedding Guests are the True Zillas
One of my favourite movies, “In Her Shoes” (starring Toni Collette and Cameron Diaz).
I touch briefly on Carol Gilligan’s Ethics of Care. If you’re interested in further research or discussion, you can reach out to me for suggested reading.
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This episode is an answer to a question from a listener (now client!) who asked about the wedding tax and negotiating with wedding vendors. I couldn’t fit the answer in an Instagram story, so here’s an almost hour-long episode about it!
Here’s what I cover:
What is the wedding tax, and can it be justified? I look at arguments from both advocates and critics and give my take on it;
I also talk about some of the more common economic models of wedding planning, breaking down commissions and kickbacks, and explaining how the percentage-based model works, giving you, as always, my unfiltered opinion on how things are done BTS;
The do’s + don’t's of wedding vendor negotiation (haggling) including:
Templates for the first and second email you’ll send during the process;
Red flags to look out for;
Who you could consider negotiating with;
Understanding that when you pay less, you should expect to get less…
And reasons you might be eligible for a reduced rate!
Why you shouldn’t ghost your potential wedding vendors (and what to do instead)
How not to be a red flag and operate in good faith when negotiating with a vendor!
Find me on Instagram, where I answer all of my DM'S, and check out my website to find out how you can get me as your personal wedding coach!
Music is Blackout Romeo by The Spin Wires.
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I mention two episodes where you can hear me coaching past clients: one with Jamie Moar and another with Marlee Rabin.
I talk briefly about my dad! His company is Kloda Productions, and while he used to do absolutely everything event production-related… he sold most of the company and now focuses on inflatable games. One day I’ll do an episode about being an event brat ;)
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This episode is about my experience as a real-life Sam-I-Am… someone who knows just how good green eggs and ham tastes, but has to jump through hoops to convince people to try them.
And in the end? Oh, I do like it after all, Carrie-Ann!
Listen in for the biggest game changers my clients have committed to that made them so happy they had me whispering in their ear (or going off on long tangents over Voxer and IG voicenotes) throughout the wedding planning process.
Want to get my eyes on your personal wedding plan? Check out The Jumpstart, my virtual consultation that includes heaps of support and access to all of my resources for 90 minutes (plus my own detailed notes and suggestions based on our conversation and a personalized budget!).
Find me on Instagram, where I answer all of my DM'S, and check out my website to see how you can get me as your personal wedding coach!
Music is Blackout Romeo by The Spin Wires.
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The jewelry company I mention is Lola Ade and you can also find them on Instagram as @shoplolaade.
I reference this episode of TFWP, with Marlee Rabin, and her and her husband’s venue, Tavern on the Square. You can follow their hilarious sommelier on Instagram as @brommeliermtl.
My guest episode on Medium Lady Talks, The Art of Gathering Without Losing Yourself, where we discuss (among other things) Priya Parker’s book.
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I'm joined by Charlie Sprinkman (he/they), founder of Everywhere is Queer, a global directory of queer-owned businesses.
Before we even got started, we talked a bit about safe vs. safer spaces, and this is a thread that runs through our entire conversation.
Charlie had some questions for me, which I was happy to answer, such as:
What is it like being a queer wedding vendor?
What’s a queer wedding like?
We also talked about:
Why it’s important to hire queer vendors;
Keeping queer vendors safe on Everywhere is Queer and what we can do to keep queer guests and vendors safe at weddings;
Find Charlie as @everywhereisqueer on Instagram and TikTok, and on their website, www.everywhereisqueer.com
Find me on Instagram, where I answer all of my DM'S, and check out my website to see how you can get me as your personal wedding coach!
Music is Blackout Romeo by The Spin Wires.
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The Art of Gathering by Priya Parker
Incidentally, you can hear me talk a lot more about Parker’s book and hwo to apply the concepts in it to your event on this episode of Medium Lady Talks.
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I’m joined by Jenna Wiegand, owner and executive artistic director of The Polka Dot Paper Shop, a wedding invitations company. We talk about:
What it’s like being a feminist wedding vendor
The role of your wedding invitation in the overall event scheme
Wedding traditions vs. wedding etiquette
Nouveau wedding etiquette for addressing wedding invitations
And some of the finer points of what makes a wedding invitation feminist
Parent stress, marrier stress, and the very specific stress that comes along with hiring a day-of coordinator over a month-of event manager.
Find Jenna on her website, and as @polkadotpapershop on both TikTok and Instagram.
Find me on Instagram, where I answer all of my DM'S, and check out my website to see how you can get me as your personal wedding coach!
Music is Blackout Romeo by The Spin Wires.
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If you’re engaged and considering the Jumpstart, it’s $75 off from now until November 27, 2023! Learn more and book here.
For more on pronouns + wedding parties, listen to this episode: Death to the Bridal Party
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It’s Season Two Feminists!
Let’s get into some tropes about brides and talk about the myth of the erasure of women!
First, what does it mean to be a bride? What is bridal? Let’s nail down what it is and whether it’s problematic… Whether someone should walk you down the aisle, and doing things to appease our parents and in-laws Wanting to be a pretty princess on your day! Yes! Bridal showers, bachelorettes, and how gender reveal parties are weird I also talk a little bit about my views on the stupidity of some of the governing bodies in Canada, going harder than ever for trans rights, and the bigger goals of The Feminist Wedding PodcastFind me on Instagram, where I answer all of my DM'S, and check out my upgraded website! Newly engaged and want my expertise and support? Check out The Jumpstart.
Music is Blackout Romeo by The Spin Wires.
Past episodes + guests I mentioned:
Alysia Cole’s (bridal stylist) episode of TFWP
@alysiacolestyling
Hillary O’Dell’s (bridalwear designer) episode of TFWP
@hil.an.del
Death to the Bridal Party
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As I’m devoted to wedding season right now, I’ve decided to end the first season of TFWP with something top of mind: The Perfect (Classic) Wedding Day Timeline.
This episode is basically a wedding day timeline template… with just a few sidebars ;)
You know me - there are no holds barred as I tell you what I love and hate to see on a timeline, what I’ve learned from my past experiences, and where I see lots of room to fuck with tradition.
I talk about:
The four pages of the perfect schedule: The Rehearsal, The Set-Up, The Cocktail + The Ceremony, and The Reception;
The time allotment for everything: from hair and makeup, to your photos, to how long it takes to serve the salad course;
I also talk about cool (and not so cool) surprise elements and where they might fit in on your wedding day.
Find me on Instagram, where I answer all of my DM's, check out my website, or go right ahead and book a free, no-strings chat with me.
Music is Blackout Romeo by The Spin Wires.
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I’ll be back in your earbuds in November, with Season 2 of The Feminist Wedding Podcast. I have so many exciting guests lined up, but in the meantime, you can listen to me chat on some other great (mostly wedding-related) podcasts, such as:
Finding Your Wedding Mantra with Carrie-Ann Kloda (Put A Ring On It: The Wedding Planning Podcast) Spotify + Apple Podcasts Setting Boundaries withFamily and Friends (Hue I Do Wedding Podcast) Spotify + Apple Podcasts Being Precious with Your Energy, Putting Out Fires, and a Story of Hope (That Does Not Belong to Me with Jaime Moar) Spotify + Apple Podcasts Dissecting Imposter Bridal & Wedding Syndrome with Ebony Foreman, Carrie-Ann Kloda, and DJ Toryn L (Hue I Do Wedding Podcast) Spotify + Apple Podcasts Expanding Your Impact Without Losing the Personal Touch with Katie Painter and Carrie-Ann Kloda (The Sell it, Sister! Podcast) Spotify + Apple Podcasts Setting Boundaries for Your Wedding and Your Life with Conscious Wedding Planner Carrie-Ann Kloda (Yoga Magic) Spotify + Apple Podcasts Modern Marriage: Partnership by Your Own Design with Carrie-Ann Kloda (Love 101) Spotify + Apple Podcasts -
Ty Sintrell (she/her), founder of Bride Navy, joins me to talk about how lesbian weddings are different and special, but also kind of the same as straight weddings.
This is something the wedding industry has to learn to hold in balance, both that queer weddings are special and unique, and, also, that queer weddings are, first and foremost, weddings! And they can and often will have all of the trappings of hetero weddings.
Here’s what we chatted about:
We talked briefly about Ty’s own wedding that she’s planning with her fiancée, and I offered some advice about getting their seemingly very different visions to line up together;
How the proposal happens, and how couples decide who will propose;
Lesbian wedding outfits (surprise surprise - both Ty and I think you’ll be best off going custom!);
Every aspect of the day itself, from how you’ll walk down the aisle to a rousing and surprising game of Keep or Toss with reception traditions;
The many things that don’t change, no matter who is getting married, including the challenge of scheduling your honeymoon and the importance of a day of coordinator;
Gratitude journals (I like the 5 Minute Journal);
How to find gay friendly vendors, and how to share that you’re a gay friendly vendor!
Find Ty on her website and Instagram.
Find me on Instagram, where I answer all of my DM'S, and check out my website to learn more about The Jumpstart, The Journey, and The Wedding Edit.
Music is Blackout Romeo by The Spin Wires.
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I originally heard Ty speak on the wedding podcast for Black marriers, Hue I Do, and you can hear the host of that show, Ashleigh Coffie, on episode 2 of The Feminist Wedding Podcast: You Can Say It On My Podcast.
You can also listen to yours truly on two episodes of Hue I Do: #78. Setting Boundaries With Family & Friends + #91. Dissecting Bridal & Wedding Imposter Syndrome
We also mention:
Episode 9 of this podcast, Death to the Bridal Party.
Episode 12 of this podcast, Carrie-Ann Loves Boundaries.
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I spoke with (and was blown away by) Hillary O’Dell, lead designer and founder of Hilandel, which specializes in custom bridal wear about all of the ways she infuses her values into her business and makes her part of the process of wedding planning a safe place.
We talked about:
How we are forever figuring out the “vibe check” part of working with a new client
The challenge of this industry where marriers are expected to have a vision and just know what they want and know how the industry works, when in reality you are doing this for the first time!
Body neutrality and how Hillary helps brides navigate the complexity of custom wedding dress design, and her magical process
The wide range of possibilities for wedding outfits, and why Hillary uses the word “bride” (it’s an aesthetic, not a gender!)
Hillary is completely brilliant and her work is stunning, and she leads her business with her heart and her values, and it’s beautiful to witness.
Find Hillary on her website and Instagram, and go directly to book a free consult with her.
Find me on Instagram, where I answer all of my DM'S.
Want to know more about working with me? Check out my website for all the details on my offers (including my prices) and then book a free chat to see if we’re a good fit to work together!
Music is Blackout Romeo by The Spin Wires.
RESOURCES
Body Positive folks we’re super into:
Lizzo, obvi
Alysia Cole
Yasmine of Boutique Lustre
Megan Jayne Crabbe
The book I mentioned that I thought Hillary would enjoy (and perhaps you too!) is Ishmael, by Daniel Quinn. It’sone of my all-time favourite books.
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Something I help my clients with over and over is boundary-setting (and boundary-maintaining, arguably more challenging).
Boundaries are going to come up when you're wedding planning, in part because the simple act requires a renegotation of entrenched family dynamics. Dealing with toxic family or family drama while planning happens to nearly every couple. In the episode, I address the ones I see most commonly, and respond to a listener question about managing divorced parents who can’t stand each other.
It’s a huge topic to cover, but boundaries are a very important part of my life, and the way I support my clients, from figuring out what the wedding of your dreams even looks like, to deciding on the perfect guest list (and how to manage input about it) and determining how involved your parents will even be in the wedding planning.
But always, always - I want you to be planning to be *married*! So figuring out how to defend your new family and be a team are integral to my work (and boundaries are a major part of being a solid team).
This isn’t the first time I've spoken up about boundaries, and it won’t be the last - and I know there are haters out there but they’re not my people. ;)
Find me on Instagram, where I answer all of my DM'S, and check out my website to work with me (and to grab my free Wedding Budget Workshop).
Music is Blackout Romeo by The Spin Wires.
RESOURCES + HONOURABLE MENTIONS
Ashley the Boundary Therapist (Ashley Breland)
The Reddit post about the wedding cake
Alysia Cole’s reel (the comments are A+) - also listen to her episode of The Feminist Wedding Podcast!
The Art of Gathering, by Priya Parker
Prentiss Hemphill
Tara Sophia Mohr, author of Playing Big
Episode 3 of this podcast, with couples therapist Gaby Balsells
Episode 6 of this podcast with my doula, Katie Painter
My upcoming boundaries workshop for entrepreneurs!!!
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I’m joined by my friend, speaking and visibility expert, and confidence coach Megan Hamilton. We’re talking all about wedding speeches!
I tell Megan my three rules for wedding speeches and ask her to weigh in (and we add a fourth, very important rule!)
We talk about some major gaffes we’ve witnessed
Megan’s tips for writing and delivering an amazing speech
What to do if you mess up or cry during your speech
Wedding Vows!
Find Megan on her website, Instagram, Twitter, and TikTok.
Find me on Instagram, where I answer all of my DM'S, and check out my website to work with me, or learn more about The Jumpstart.
Music is Blackout Romeo by The Spin Wires.
RESOURCES
Download Megan’s Free Speaking Guide
And DM me to my free, Day-of-Coordinator Hiring Guide!
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Marlee Rabin is a past client who became a friend, and not just because she was the first one to dub me “coach”! We talk all about her multiple wedding plans (hello, 2020 couples!) and how planning with your partner as a team not only lessens the actual workload of planning, but also reduces stress, and prepares you for marriage.
We dabble in some of my favourite topics, such as…
The Weekly Meeting! How it helped when wedding planning and how they still do it;
Setting boundaries around people pleasing when it comes to parents and in-laws;
Growing in the relationship + planning to be married.
Find Marlee on Instagram and on TikTok or, her favourite: LinkedIn. You can also check out her entrepreneurial journey on her website.
Find me on Instagram, where I answer all of my DM'S, and check out my website to get my free wedding budget workshop and learn more about how you can get my eyes on your wedding plan (or lack therof).
Music is Blackout Romeo by The Spin Wires.
RESOURCES
For more about The Weekly Meeting, check out my episode on Gaby Balsell’s podcast, Love 101 https://open.spotify.com/episode/2MLUW1h1OPBsugIHbfybX1?si=e2db53fcc7514ddc
We name-drop some of our favourite restaurants in Montreal, including Cafe Gentile, Tavern on the Square, and 40 Westt, as well as Marlee + Jeremy’s team of the coolest vendors:
Venue: https://www.instagram.com/tavernesquare
Sommelier https://www.instagram.com/brommeliermtl
Photo https://www.instagram.com/cepstudio
Video https://www.instagram.com/eliebedranphotography
DJ https://www.instagram.com/tychemusic
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Everything I have learned about wedding parties, not only from my experience, but from feedback from past clients (and wedding party members). I also share about gender neutral wedding words!
You’ll hear about:
The need for the heteronormativity of it all to die
Wedding party expenses for them
Wedding party expenses for you
My soon-to-be famous “gas in the tank” analogy
My ideas for how we can improve on wedding parties
Want to chat with me about your own wedding? You can book a free, 20 minute, one-on-one call with me at bit.ly/feministweddingchat
Find me on Instagram, where I answer all of my DM'S, and check out my website to learn more about my offers, and how you can have me as your wedding coach!
Music is Blackout Romeo by The Spin Wires.
RESOURCES
Queering Weddings blog post: 12 Gender-Neutral Alternatives to Bachelor and Bachelorette Parties
Previous episodes I mention:
Episode 2 with Ashleigh Coffie, host of Hue I Do, a wedding podcast @hueidowed
Episode 5 with financial expert Alyssa Davies @mixedupmoney
Episode 8 with bridal stylist Alysia Cole @alysiacolestyling
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Alysia Cole is a hero of bridal fashion and body love, and if you don’t follow her already, then get prepared to fall deep into the TikTok vortex because once you see her and hear her speak - about bridal fashion, about couture, about human rights, about body love and acceptance… you will not want to turn away.
I sat down with her to talk about…
How she developed her expertise, and how she turns it into wedding content that is both hilarious and educational
The traditionally narrow view of weddings (who they are for, what you can wear, how it should look) versus the more expansive view that welcomes a variety of wedding styles, of marriers, of budgets, etc.
Finding plus size at every price point, and the benefits and challenges that go along with each budget
The pressure of wedding dress shopping and diet culture in the wedding industry
Queer wedding fashion!
It’s such a good episode. Go give it a listen! And then come follow us on Instagram.
Find Alysia Cole Styling on Instagram, on TikTok, and on her website.
At the end of the episode, Alysia mentioned her new offer, a styling consultation call, which you can check out here.
Find me on Instagram, where I answer all of my DM'S, and check out my website to work with me, or learn more about The Jumpstart.
Music is Blackout Romeo by The Spin Wires.
RESOURCES
I mention Alysia’s guest episode on the podcast No Such Thing As Can’t (which is really good!)
Two of Alysia + my favourite alternative wedding resources: @rocknrollbride and @offbeatwed
I also mention Yasmine, the owner and designer at @boutiquelustre!
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In this episode I talk to Jaime Moar, a past client of mine who is fascinating and has many passions (and many businesses), but is a particularly interesting guest because she is a yoga teacher and alignment coach.
We dig into:
How she planned her wedding with more ease, with her partner and both of their families very involved, and what specifically helped keep her chill
How Jaime and her husband, Duncan, made sure their wedding represented them and their values, and what impact that had on their experience
The DIY aspect: what they did, whether it was worth it, and what stressed her out more than anything
We got deep into our own marriages, and what’s working for us to help us be on the same page as our partners
And, if you know Jaime or me, then it won’t surprise you that of course we weaved in a little bit of Human Design.
In this episode, we talked quite a bit about Jaime’s wedding planning Journey with me, so here is the link to learn more about that offer: https://bit.ly/yourweddingjourney
You can book a free, 20-minute, no-strings chat with me: http://bit.ly/feministweddingchat
Jaime is currently fundraising for the Leukemia Lymphoma Society of Canada - you can support her efforts here: Visionaries of the Year Montreal: Jaime Moar - The Leukemia & Lymphoma Society of Canada.
Follow Jaime on Instagram, and check out her new studio, The Well, in Knowlton, Quebec.
Find me on Instagram, where I answer all of my DM'S, and check out my website to learn more about my offers.
Music is Blackout Romeo by The Spin Wires.
RESOURCES
Jaime’s mother-in-law, Maureen McKenna, who is an exceptional florist @winchesteroccasion
Jaime’s dress designer, Yasmine @boutiquelustre
Jaime’s podcast, That Does Not Belong to Me, available wherever you like to listen!
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