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  • #427: How to Fix a Broken Relationship

    #427: How to Fix a Broken Relationship

    · Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    Are you feeling stuck in a cycle of conflict and misunderstanding with your partner? You're not alone—and you're not powerless to fix it! In today’s episode, I’m breaking down how to fix a broken relationship by exploring the underlying patterns that keep couples locked in negative cycles.

    Plus, I’ll share my own story (yes, I’ve been there too) and reveal the key strategies and mindset shifts that can help bring you and your partner back together. If you’ve been trying to make things better but feel like you’re swimming against the tide, tune in for some essential insights and actionable steps to get your relationship back on track

    In this video, we’ll cover:

    0:32 – The Toxic Spiral of Negative Communication

    3:15 – Uncovering the Hidden Patterns

    6:48 – How Negative Cycles Shape Perception

    10:25 – Breaking Free and Finding Real Solutions

    15:45 – When to Seek Help

    Want more guidance on fixing your relationship? Check out my free resource, How Healthy Is Your Relationship Quiz. Using this quiz, you’ll be able to decipher strengths and growth points in your relationship.

    If you want to ask me a question about your relationship, join me this Thursday at 12 pm MT on YouTube for my Livestream about how to fix a broken relationship. Submit your question anonymously here: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa. See you there!

  • #426 How to Deal With Disappointment

    #426 How to Deal With Disappointment

    · Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    "This wasn't supposed to happen!"

    Have you ever felt life throw you a curveball so big it knocked you flat? It’s that gut-punch moment when plans unravel, your candidate didn't win, dreams dissolve, and you’re left wondering, “Now what?” In this episode, I’ll take you through the tools and mindset shifts needed to transform disappointment into personal growth. We’ll talk about the power of radical acceptance, why it’s okay to feel all the feels, and how to find the hidden opportunities in setbacks.

    Timestamps:

    00:00 Intro: Life’s Unexpected Curveballs

    01:22 Embracing Disappointment: Feel All the Emotions

    05:46 Finding the Lesson in Loss

    15:23 Radical Acceptance and Moving Forward

    18:36 Steer Clear of Destructive Reactions

    21:16 What Does This Make Possible?

    24:15 Conclusion and Free Resources

    PS: Get free access to my Emotional Wellness Collection, a personally curated podcast and blog collection designed to help you grow and stay well emotionally.

    Also, don’t miss our live Q&A this Thursday at 12 PM MT on YouTube, where we’ll dive even deeper into this topic. Submit an anonymous question in advance here:

    https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa

    See you there!



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  • 425: Intuition? Or Anxiety? How to tell the difference!

    425: Intuition? Or Anxiety? How to tell the difference!

    · Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    How strong is your intuition? Do you trust your inner wisdom? More importantly
 can you tell the difference between intuitive thoughts and anxiety? Today you’re going to learn how to trust your gut!

    In this episode, I’m thrilled to sit down with Brittney Carmichael, intuitive healer and founder of Shine School, as we dig into how to tell the difference between intuition and anxiety, the subtle cues of inner wisdom, and ways to strengthen this instinct into a true superpower.

    Whether you’re an intuitive veteran or someone just starting to listen to that quiet inner voice, this conversation will give you the practical tools you need to better understand, trust, and strengthen your intuitive thought.

    Timestamps:

    00:00 - Intro: Intuition or Anxiety?

    02:23 - Intuition vs. Fear: Brittany’s Insights

    05:14 - Building Intuitive Strength

    10:39 - Brittany’s Journey to Inner Wisdom

    20:24 - Understanding Your Inner Voice

    29:54 - Self-Love as a Foundation for Intuition

    33:02 - Power of Positive Self-Talk

    49:17 - How to Trust Your Inner Wisdom

    *P.S.* Want to dig even deeper? Take the free "What's Holding You Back?" quiz and get clarity on what might be standing in your way. Plus, join me for this week’s Livestream Q&A on Intuitive Thought, Thursday at 12 pm MT,on Instragram, Facebook, or Youtube. Submit an anonymous question in advance here: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa.

  • #424 How To Reparent Yourself, with Dr. Dan Siegel

    #424 How To Reparent Yourself, with Dr. Dan Siegel

    · Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    Ever feel like the love, support, or security you needed growing up was just
 missing? And now, you’re feeling the effects in your relationships, your self-esteem, or even your ability to create the life you *really* want? If this hits home, don’t worry—you’re not stuck!

    This week I’m joined by THE legendary Dr. Dan Siegel, and we’re diving deep into the powerful process of reparenting yourself. Together, we’re going to show you how to rewire your brain for emotional healing, break free from past patterns, and build healthy, fulfilling relationships.

    ✹ In this episode, you’ll learn:

    - How childhood experiences shape your adult life (but don’t define it!)

    - The healing power of contingent communication in relationships

    - Practical strategies like the *Wheel of Awareness* for personal growth

    - The importance of presence over perfection in parenting—and in life!

    Chapters:

    00:00 Introduction to Emotional Healing

    02:41 The Importance of Childhood Development

    06:29 Understanding Contingent Communication

    13:55 The Impact of Early Experiences on Adult Life

    14:31 Healing from the Past

    20:12 Developing Healthier Relationship Patterns

    21:19 Understanding Temperament and Personality

    23:35 The Enneagram and Attachment Insecurity (Really!)

    27:09 Practical Techniques for Personal Growth

    30:25 The Role of Agency, Bonding, and Certainty

    35:33 Achieving Wholeness and Integration

    38:26 Resources and Final Thoughts

    🌟 Want more? Grab this free resource I created for you: a curated collection of all my best articles and podcasts on attachment, emotional healing, and healthy relationships at https://www.growingself.com/connections/.

    And
 drumroll please! Join me for this week’s live Q&A on Thursday at 12 pm MT on Youtube, Instagram, and/or Facebook where I’ll be talking about emotional healing and reparenting yourself!

    Got a question? Ask me anonymously in advance using this link: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa

    Let’s grow together! đŸŒ±

    Love,

    Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

  • #423 How to Handle Toxic Friends, with Dr. Marisa Franco

    #423 How to Handle Toxic Friends, with Dr. Marisa Franco

    · Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    Ever feel like your friendship is taking more out of you than it gives? If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in a relationship that feels draining, toxic, or just plain bad, you’re in the right place. In this episode of Love, Happiness & Success, I’m sitting down with Dr. Marisa Franco, a brilliant psychologist and bestselling author of Platonic, to talk about one of the toughest aspects of relationships—knowing when a friendship is no longer serving you.

    Together, we’ll dive into the signs of toxic friends, how attachment styles play a role in our friendships, and whether or not these kinds of relationships can be saved. You’ll learn practical strategies to spot the red flags, approach difficult conversations with kindness and clarity, and—if it comes to it—find the courage to end friendships that have run their course.

    Here’s what we cover:

    [00:00] The Friendship Trap: Why difficult friendships are harder to leave than romantic ones. [03:57] Attachment Styles in Friendships: How your past impacts your present friendships. [11:40] Making Positive Changes: How to recognize toxic patterns and start healing. [17:34] Conflict or Goodbye? How to assess if this friendship can be saved. [28:21] Deciding to End a Friendship: When enough is enough, and how to let go with grace.

    If you’ve ever wondered whether a friendship is worth fighting for or it’s time to walk away, this episode is for you.

    Ready to dig deeper? Take my free self-esteem quiz to see how your self-worth might be impacting your relationships: How Healthy is Your Self-Esteem?

    Also, I’d love for you to join me for this week’s YouTube Livestream on Thursday at 12 pm MT, where we’ll talk even more about navigating toxic friendships. Submit an anonymous question in advance right here: Dear Lisa. I’ll see you there!

    — Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

  • Does Your Therapist Talk About THEMSELVES Too Much??

    Does Your Therapist Talk About THEMSELVES Too Much??

    · Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    Does your therapist talk too much about themselves during YOUR sessions?

    This is a common issue, and it can really get in the way of your work. They’re on your dime, and your time with them should be all about you—not an outlet for them. Frankly, knowing too much about your therapist can even be a barrier to positive outcomes.

    The reality is, we therapists are human, and we have our own personal and professional growth trajectories. That’s why I’ve created a new side project: Love, Happiness, and Success for Therapists.

    In one of my latest episodes, I had a big sister-style heart-to-heart with therapists about how to contain their own "stuff"—because if we don’t, it can splash onto our clients. And I wanted to share this episode with you so you could share it with them.

    Here ya go: https://www.growingself.com/self-disclosure-in-therapy-how-much-is-too-much/

    Use it as a way to start a courageous conversation with your therapist about what you need, what you want, and what’s working—or not working—in your relationship. Plus, you’ll be providing them with a resource that supports their growth. Win, win, win!

    If you’re a therapist reading this, I have so much for you! Connect with me at growingself.com/therapists to access this episode and many more on how to flourish and thrive in this career we all love.

    xoxo,

    Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

  • #422: How Long Does it REALLY Take To Get Over an Ex?

    #422: How Long Does it REALLY Take To Get Over an Ex?

    · Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    Breakups are brutal. I know you're wondering, “How long will it take before I finally feel like myself again?” Trust me, you’re not alone. In this episode, we’re diving deep into the million-dollar question: How long does it really take to get over a breakup? And, even more importantly, what do you need to DO in order to move forward and not get stuck in the past?

    I'm joined by Kendra Allen, the amazing host of Breakup Bestie, and together we unpack the factors that impact your healing timeline. Spoiler alert: it’s different for everyone! But we’ve got insights, personal stories, and actionable advice to help you make sense of your own process and feel more empowered as you heal.

    We’re covering everything from how long it takes to feel "okay" again, to why some relationships hurt more than others, and how to know if you’re truly moving on. Plus, Kendra shares her journey of transformation after addiction and abusive relationships, offering you hope that growth is possible—even when it feels like the pain of heartbreak will never end.

    Join us to learn about:

    00:00 – The Hardest Question After a Breakup: How Long Will This Take?
    05:40 – Kendra’s Story: From Addiction to Empowerment
    12:19 – Why Some Breakups Take Longer to Heal Than Others
    19:32 – The Emotional Rollercoaster: What Healing Really Looks Like
    29:00 – Handling Triggers: Holidays, Anniversaries & More
    37:15 – How to Know if You’re Truly Healing or Just Surviving
    45:20 – Next Steps: Tools and Advice for Moving On

    If you’re hurting after heartbreak, this one’s for you. Thanks for tuning in, and/or for sharing this episode with a friend or loved one who is feeling stuck in heartbreak, and needs some direction for how to move forward.

    xoxo,

    Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    PS: Want to see how far along you are in your breakup recovery? Take my free quiz, How Over Your Ex Are You? 👉 Take the Quiz

    Join me for a live Q&A this Thursday at 12 PM MT on YouTube, where we’ll tackle the topic of Getting Over Your Ex. Submit your questions anonymously in advance ( Ask Here)

    Or just jump into the conversation on Instagram, Facebook, or YouTube. See you there!

  • #421 How to Overcome Rejection (And Turn It Into The BEST Thing That Ever Happened To You - Really!))

    #421 How to Overcome Rejection (And Turn It Into The BEST Thing That Ever Happened To You - Really!))

    · Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    Friend, partner, or job said "thanks but no thanks"? Well, the joke's on them: If you know how to mine the gold in this opportunity it could wind up being the best thing that’s ever happened to YOU.

    And... Rejection sucks. Whether it’s from a friend, a romantic partner, or a job you really wanted, it can leave you feeling bruised and wondering, “Is it just me?” Guess what? It’s not just you, and it’s not the end of the world (promise!). 🌟 In fact, rejection can be the key to unlocking your most resilient, powerful self. Yeah, I said it!

    Join me as I break down the very real emotions behind rejection and share how you can use it as a springboard for serious personal growth. We’ll cover how rejection shows up in your personal, professional, and social life—and how to cope, heal, and come out stronger on the other side. Ready to transform those “no’s” into growth? Let’s do this! 🙌

    What We’ll Cover:

    00:00 - Rejection Feels Awful, But... Why rejection hits so hard and why it’s universal.

    02:42 - Resilience & Growth: Your New Best Friends - Turning setbacks into setups for your future self.

    12:47 - Friendship Rejection: Why Does This Hurt So Much? Handling the emotional sting of being ghosted or left out by friends.

    20:28 - Heartbreak Hotel: Dealing with Romantic Rejection Why getting dumped can hurt on a primal level and how to come out of it stronger.

    43:42 - Career Flops: Professional Rejection and What to Do Next Didn’t get the job? Fired? Here’s how to bounce back like a boss. đŸ’Œ

    51:45 - Your Rejection Recovery Plan: Next Steps Actionable strategies to heal and grow from any kind of rejection.

    đŸ”„ Bonus: Want to chat about your own experiences with rejection? Jump into this week’s live stream where we’ll be swapping stories, getting advice, and supporting each other! đŸ—“ïž Submit your questions in advance right here. Want to start doing the work we're discussing today? Book a free consultation for coaching at GrowingSelf.com.

    xoxo,

    Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    #RejectionRecovery #EmotionalResilience #LoveHappinessSuccess #PersonalGrowth

  • #420:

    #420: "I Have No Sex Drive!" Dr. Ruth's Advice For Reigniting Intimacy

    · Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    Let’s get real for a minute—have you ever found yourself thinking, "I have no sex drive," and feeling completely stuck about what to do next? You’re not alone. So many people are struggling with this exact issue, and today, I’m diving deep into why that happens, how it affects your relationship, and most importantly—what you can do about it.

    In this episode, I’m joined by Allison Gilbert, co-author with the iconic Dr. Ruth Westheimer on her last book "The Joy of Connections." We’ll explore how a lack of intimacy in your relationship can leave you feeling lost, but we’re also unpacking Dr. Ruth’s brilliant “menu for connection.” It’s full of ways to reignite your bond—not just in the bedroom, but through shared activities, better communication, and ultimately, deeper self-reflection.

    We’ll tackle some tough love truths (like the role self-love plays in intimacy), and I’ll share actionable strategies to help you reconnect with your partner, starting today.

    Episode Breakdown:

    [00:00] – Where’s the Spark?
    Why so many people feel disconnected from their partners—and how it happens more often than you think.

    [00:47] – Dr. Ruth’s Secret Sauce
    The first thing to check when your sex drive is gone—your relationship dynamics!

    [02:09] – It’s Not Them, It’s You?
    The surprising role self-love plays in keeping intimacy alive.

    [03:47] – The “Menu for Connection”
    Five elements Dr. Ruth swears by to build a richer, more meaningful connection with your partner.

    [05:47] – Fun Outside the Bedroom
    How activities like pickleball (yes, pickleball!) could reignite the flames of passion.

    [08:06] – What’s Really Going On?
    Digging deeper: how emotional barriers like resentment might be blocking your connection.

    [12:41] – Therapy or Time to Move On?
    When it’s time to seek help—or even consider a bigger decision.

    [15:41] – You Deserve Better
    Dr. Ruth’s empowering message: You deserve happiness, fun, and great sex—don’t settle for less.

    [17:16] – Let’s Wrap This Up!
    Final thoughts and inspiration to help you take that first step toward a better, more intimate relationship.

    Tune in, share your thoughts, and let’s create a life full of love, connection, and fun together!

    Xoxo,
    Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    P.S. ⭐ Ready for more? ⭐
    Download my free guide, "Communication that Connects," to start having meaningful conversations that build closeness in your relationship. And don’t forget to join me for this week’s live stream on Thursday at 12 PM MT—we’ll dive even deeper into intimacy and connection. Submit your anonymous questions ahead of time right here!

    P. P.S: Who else in your life needs to hear this message today? Forward this episode to them and feel good about being a positive “change agent” in the lives of others. You and I are on the same mission my friend! Xo, L

  • #419: Why Making Friends as an Adult is so HARD... and How to Cultivate a Community

    #419: Why Making Friends as an Adult is so HARD... and How to Cultivate a Community

    · Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    Where did everyone go?? At some point, many/most adults look up one day to realize that all their old friends have either moved to Austin or are completely buried in #babylife or never-ending home improvement projects
 and they have nobody to spontaneously get a beer with on a Tuesday night. Can you relate?

    It's not just you. Did you know that, on average, most people lose more friends every year than they gain? Over time, your life can become increasingly lonely unless you’re actively working to build and maintain friendships. But here’s the thing: making new friends as an adult is harder than it sounds. 😅

    In this episode of Love, Happiness, and Success, we dive deep into the complexities of adult friendships with journalist Kelly Stout, who spent a month trying to make just one new friend
 and learned some important things that she’s sharing with YOU. From the unexpected emotional hurdles to the surprising lessons about vulnerability and connection, we explore what it really takes to form meaningful relationships in adulthood. 💛

    If you’ve ever struggled with loneliness, wondered why your social circle shrinks as the years go by, or just feel stuck when it comes to making new friends, this episode is for you. 🙌

    Chapters
    00:00 Can Happiness Really Be Found Through Friendships?
    00:19 Why Your Friendships Are More Important Than You Think
    00:58 Meet Kelly Stout: Her One-Month Quest to Make a New Friend
    02:30 What Happens When You Set a Deadline to Make a Friend?
    04:58 The Hidden Challenges of Building Friendships as an Adult
    12:55 What Actually Defines a True Friendship?
    15:40 Friendship Experiments: What Works and What Doesn’t
    18:32 Why Opening Up to Others Feels So Scary—And Necessary
    22:33 The Biggest Lessons We Learned About Friendship
    25:01 When Friendships Feel Fleeting: Why It Happens
    25:45 Vulnerability Hangover: Ever Felt It? Here’s Why It Happens
    25:56 Turning Points: When You Realize You’re Doing Friendship All Wrong
    26:33 Can You Fast-Track Emotional Intimacy? Let’s Find Out
    27:18 Why We Gravitate Toward People Just Like Us—And What to Do About It
    27:45 Discovering the Power of Friendships with People Who Are Different
    28:19 The Comfort and Complexity of Long-Term Friendships
    29:53 Bumble for Friends: Can You Really Make Friends on an App?
    32:01 How Internalized Shame is Holding You Back from Friendship
    34:03 The Reality of Keeping Friendships Alive as an Adult
    43:57 Why We Crave Community—and How to Build One
    47:01 Modern Loneliness: Why Life is Designed to Keep Us Isolated
    53:44 Final Reflections: How to Create Real Friendships That Last

    💡 Learn how to overcome the struggles of making friends as an adult and build a community that brings joy and connection back into your life.

    xoxo,

    Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    PS: I think you and I should be friends! Come hang out with me on a Thursday live stream! Mark your calendar right now, it's at 12pm MT / 2pm ET on my Instagram, Youtube, and Facebook. This week we're talking about friendships. If you have a question or conundrum related to this, here's the link to ask in advance: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa. Be sure to subscribe/follow so you get updates and recaps!

    P.P.S. As promised in this podcast, here's the link to grab your totally free and VAST collection of all my best articles and podcasts on the subject of healthy relationships. I made it for YOU.

  • #418: Are You Making Major Relationship Mistakes Without Realizing It?

    #418: Are You Making Major Relationship Mistakes Without Realizing It?

    · Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    Could you be accidentally and unintentionally DESTROYING your relationship? Pro tip from a marriage counselor: Many, many people are... and literally have no idea.

    I think I know why. Everyone with an Instagram account is posting things about what they think you should do to have a great relationship—communication tips, romantic date ideas, etc.—but let’s be real... sometimes, it's more important to know what NOT to do! And nobody talks about that!!

    That’s why today, we’re flipping the script on the usual relationship advice you hear. đŸ’„

    In this episode, we’re breaking down the 12 Most Effective Ways to Destroy Your Relationship (so you can avoid them like the plague).

    Trust me, as a marriage counselor, I’ve seen it all. Whether it’s neglecting your partner or constantly blaming your “issues” when you behave badly, even the strongest couples can unknowingly make these mistakes. But don’t worry, I’m not here to throw shade—I'm here to help you laugh, learn, and most importantly, grow! đŸŒ±

    By the end of this, you’ll not only recognize these pitfalls, but also walk away with actionable tips to make sure you’re NOT sabotaging your love life. 🙌

    Here's what you'll learn: ⏱

    00:00 Intro: The 12 Biggest Relationship Mistakes

    02:36 Mistake #12: Making the Relationship ALL About You

    04:36 Mistake #11: Blaming Everything on Your Issues

    08:26 Mistake #10: Neglecting Your Partner (The Silent Killer)

    11:20 Mistake #9: Too Much Togetherness (Yikes!)

    And all the way down... to the number one biggest relationship killer!

    💬 Let’s talk: Have you fallen into any of these traps? What’s one mistake you’re guilty of? Drop a comment on Instagram @drlisamariebobby —I’d love to hear from you!

    AND if you want to get my perspective on some not-so-fantastic things that might be happening in your relationship (and how to make it stop) join me on Thursday for a live stream on this topic! Use this link to ask your Q and get reminders to join on Thursday at 12 pm MT / 2pm ET. https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa

    If you're feeling like, "uh oh" after hearing this... you're not alone! I’ve helped thousands of couples turn things around, and you can too. 🌟

    Xoxo,
    Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    💡 PS: If you're ready to start working on some positive new communication tools after hearing about the not great ones, check out my FREE training, “Communication That Connects” — it’s packed with tools to help you strengthen your connection and communicate like a pro!

  • #417: Natural Anxiety Relief feat. Dr. Nicole Cain

    #417: Natural Anxiety Relief feat. Dr. Nicole Cain

    · Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    🎧 Forget Everything You Knew About Anxiety – This Changes Everything! 🎧

    Ever feel like anxiety has a grip on your life? Here’s the game-changing truth: You can heal anxietyy, not just manage the symptoms. đŸ’„ In this transformative episode of the Love, Happiness, and Success podcast, I sit down with the brilliant Dr. Nicole Cain, a holistic anxiety expert and author of the upcoming book Panic Proof, to discuss a revolutionary approach to healing anxiety from the inside out. đŸŒ±

    👉 Imagine freeing yourself from anxiety by nurturing your body, mind, and soul. Together, we dive into practical strategies that blend psychology and holistic medicine to uncover the root causes of anxiety and address them at the deepest level. We even explore how anxiety shows up in relationships and, yes, even in the bedroom!

    💡 What You'll Learn Today:

    00:00 The Truth About Healing Anxiety, Naturally

    00:18 Dr. Nicole's Story

    12:28 Understanding Anxiety and Its Roots

    19:22 Esme’s Story: A Powerful Case Study

    33:54 Anxiety in Relationships & Sexuality

    42:43 Dr. Nicole's Three-Minute Hack for Instant Anxiety Relief

    50:39 How the Salience Network Impacts Anxiety

    54:30 VERY Generous Offer from Dr. Nicole!

    ✹ And... I'm so thrilled to share that Dr. Nicole will be my guest host on this week's live stream, and available to answer YOUR questions. Join us Thursday 9/5 at 12 PM MT on my YouTube, Instagram, or Facebook. Want a reminder or to ask a Q in advance? Get that set up right here: www.growingself.com/dear-lisa. 🙌

    If you missed the chance to hop on with us LIVE you can catch the recap video right here starting 9/6: https://www.growingself.com/natural-anxiety-relief

    đŸŽ„ Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and share this episode with anyone you know who’s struggling with anxiety—this could be the breakthrough they’ve been waiting for!

    Your partner in growth,

    Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    GrowingSelf.com

  • #416 Why Your Therapist is Weird: Behind The Scenes

    #416 Why Your Therapist is Weird: Behind The Scenes

    · Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    Wondering why your therapist acts a little... strange? What are all those long, awkward silences about? Why won't they follow you on social media? You made DIRECT EYE CONTACT with them at the grocery store but they didn't acknowledge your presence. Why?? In this episode, we’re diving into the surprising truth behind therapist boundaries and why they matter for your personal growth.

    In this episode of Love, Happiness, and Success, I’m pulling back the curtain on some of the “weird” things therapists do (like, why won’t they just give you a hug already?!), and why those boundaries are actually super important for your healing journey.

    We’ll also break down the difference between therapy and coaching, why therapists never give direct advice, and how these boundaries create a safe, effective space for you to thrive. Plus, I’m sharing insights that will help you build a strong, healthy relationship with your therapist. If you're in therapy, you’ll walk away with some major a-ha moments!

    Timestamps:

    00:00 - Let’s Get Real: Why Do Therapists Have Such Weird Boundaries?
    02:25 - The Surprising Power of Therapist Boundaries
    06:43 - Why Your Therapist Won’t Steer the Conversation (Hint: It’s for YOU)
    09:10 - Therapist vs. Coach: Which One Do You Really Need?
    12:35 - The Ethics Behind the Scenes: How Good Therapists Keep You Safe
    24:25 - Why Your Therapist Stays Neutral (Even When It Feels Weird)
    31:55 - Session Time Limits & Contact Rules—What’s Up with That?
    35:51 - The Secret to a Healthy Therapist-Client Relationship
    45:44 - Wrap Up: Final Thoughts and Takeaways

    Wanna Learn More?

    Signs You Have a Bad Therapist

    How to Find a Good Therapist

    Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and hit the bell so you never miss an episode on all things therapy, coaching, and personal growth! Let’s keep this conversation going! 💖

  • #415 How To Become More CONFIDENT

    #415 How To Become More CONFIDENT

    · Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    Ready to shake off low self esteem for good, and grow into the confident, competent person you want to be? Good news: Confidence isn't born, it's BUILT, meaning you have more control over how you feel about yourself than you might think.

    On today’s podcast you’ll learn the essence of authentic self-worth, and how to grow into the kind of person that exudes confidence (in a good way). As a licensed psychologist, marriage and family therapist, and board-certified coach, I’m sharing why confidence isn’t just a feeling you magically have—it’s something you build through consistent, value-driven actions.

    Together, we’ll explore practical ways to develop self-respect, trust your judgment, and foster a deep-rooted belief in your worth. Whether you're looking to overcome self-doubt or grow into the confident person you aspire to be, this episode offers steps you can start taking today.

    Here’s what you’ll learn:

    00:00 Introduction to Authentic Confidence

    01:43 Understanding Authentic Confidence


    04:23 Building Confidence Through Actions


    06:12 Overcoming Misconceptions About Confidence


    07:53 Identifying and Aligning with Your Values


    13:26 Personal Story: The Journey to Self-Respect


    17:10 Developing a Growth Mindset


    34:50 Practical Tips for Exuding Confidence


    44:42 Conclusion and Free Resources

    Want more guidance? Join me LIVE on Thursday for a Q&A, where I’ll answer your questions about building confidence and self-esteem. Submit your questions in advance through https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa for personalized advice!

    Don’t forget to take our free "How Healthy Is Your Self-Esteem?" quiz at https://www.growingself.com/self-esteem-test/ to see where you stand and discover next steps for boosting your self-worth.

    See you there! 👏đŸ’Ș #Confidence #SelfEsteem #ExudeConfidence #PersonalGrowth #LiveQandA #GrowingSelf

  • #414: How to Control Anger in a Relationship

    #414: How to Control Anger in a Relationship

    · Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    Anger can destroy a relationship, but it can also be the doorway to deeper connections and the emotional intimacy you want and deserve.

    In this episode of 'Love, Happiness, and Success,' we’re not just talking about managing anger in relationships—we’re transforming it into a tool for deepening emotional intimacy and strengthening your connection. Join me, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby, as we explore the roots of anger, its impact, and practical strategies to use it constructively. Learn how to manage anger, communicate effectively, build emotional intelligence, and turn conflict into meaningful connection. Plus, I’ve got some incredible free resources for you!

    00:00 Introduction

    01:58 Roots of Anger

    08:36 Communication Strategies

    18:23 Problem Solving & Emotional Intelligence

    28:34 Free Resources & Final Thoughts

    Ready to transform your relationship? Tune in now! đŸ’Źâ€ïž

    #LoveHappinessSuccess #EmotionalIntimacy #RelationshipGoals #TransformYourLove

    Xoxo,
    Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    PS: Grab that FREE two part “Communication That Connects” training right here!


    P.P.S. I’m going LIVE this Thursday to answer your relationship questions. Want to submit your question in advance and/or get a recap of this video? Here’s the link: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa Otherwise, set a reminder and I’ll see you soon!

  • #413: Trapped in a Job By

    #413: Trapped in a Job By "Golden Handcuffs?" How to Break Free....

    · Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    Feeling trapped in a high-paying job you hate? 😔💾 Welcome to the golden handcuffs dilemma, where financial success comes at the expense of your happiness and mental well-being.

    In today's episode, we dive deep into the emotional and practical challenges of breaking free from a lucrative but unfulfilling career. You'll learn how to reclaim your freedom, reignite your passion, and find true fulfillment without sacrificing financial security. 🚀✹

    Specifically, we’re discussing:

    00:00 Breaking the Chains: Intro to Escaping Golden Handcuffs

    00:20 The Golden Cage: Understanding Why High Pay Can Trap You

    05:08 Real Stories, Real Struggles: Listener Questions and Insights

    08:02 The Silent Suffering: Emotional and Psychological Costs

    14:26 Conquering Fears: How to Tackle Anxiety and Doubt

    32:06 Roadmap to Freedom: Practical Steps for a Career Transition

    46:36 Your Next Chapter: Actionable Takeaways and Final Thoughts

    It's time to escape the golden cage and design a life that truly makes you happy! Don't miss this transformative journey—hit play now! đŸŽ„đŸ”“ #GoldenHandcuffs #CareerChange #FindYourPassion #WorkLifeBalance

    Xoxo,

    Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    GrowingSelf.com

    P.S. Want MORE expert career advice to help you move forward with clarity and confidence? I have so much for you! Sign up to get access to my ENTIRE “Career Clarity” content collection, full of articles and a curated podcast playlist featuring the best advice from the world-class career counselors of Growing Self. Totally free, all for you! Get it here...

  • #412: Want To Improve Your Relationship FAST? TRY THIS!

    #412: Want To Improve Your Relationship FAST? TRY THIS!

    · Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    7 WEIRD Things That Will Improve Your Relationship

    Are you wondering, "How can I improve my relationship?" đŸ€” You're in the right place! In this episode of "Love, Happiness, and Success," I’m sharing the most surprising and counterintuitive tips to dramatically enhance your relationship. From giving each other more space to embracing healthy anxiety, these strategies are strange - but they are based on research
 and they are game-changers! 🌟

    What we’re discussing:

    00:00 Introduction: Improving Your Relationship

    02:00 Counterintuitive Tip #1: Give Each Other Space

    04:07 Counterintuitive Tip #2: Embrace Healthy Anxiety

    05:53 Counterintuitive Tip #3: Embrace the Daily Grind

    07:45 Counterintuitive Tip #4: Focus on Yourself

    11:58 Counterintuitive Tip #5: Prioritize Sexuality

    14:30 Additional Tips: Shared Mission and Empathy

    17:20 Be an Activist for Your Relationship

    21:18 Conclusion and Free Resources

    🔗 But wait, there’s more! Join my community and start transforming your relationship today!

    👉 FREE Communication Skills Training: Master the art of healthy communication and avoid common pitfalls with my 100% free two-part communication skills training, which Includes a 30-page workbook packed with exercises to help you and your partner connect on a deeper level. Sign up for FREE right now at https://www.growingself.com/communication.

    👉 Book a Free Consultation: Ready for personalized help? Schedule a free consultation with one of our expert relationship coaches. We’re here to support you every step of the way. Visit growingself.com to book your first meeting, to discuss your hopes and goals for your relationship and how we can help.

    📅 Live Stream: Have questions or need advice? Just want to say hi? I’m here! Join me for a live stream this Thursday (and every Thursday) at 12 p.m. Mountain, 2 p.m. Eastern. Submit your questions in advance at https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa and get personalized tips to improve your relationship.

    Let's create love, happiness, and success together! 💖✹

    #HowToImproveYourRelationship #RelationshipAdvice #LoveHappinessSuccess #DrLisaMarieBobby #GrowingSelf #CouplesCounseling #RelationshipTips #HealthyRelationships #FreeCommunicationTraining #RelationshipCoaching

    After you tune in and learn about these WEIRD strategie to improve your relationship, be sure to let me know in the comments which strategy you'll try first! (Or which one you’ll NEVER do - it’s all good! I’d also love to hear how this goes for you. Stay in tuch with me! Don't forget to like, share, and subscribe! 💬💞

    Xo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    GrowingSelf.com

  • #411: Did You Marry The Wrong Person?? How to Tell...

    #411: Did You Marry The Wrong Person?? How to Tell...

    · Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    Was your marriage a MISTAKE? Today we’re diving into a question I hear a lot: "Did I marry the wrong person?" If your relationship feels hard and you're starting to wonder if you made the right choice, you’re in the right place.

    We’ll tackle four essential areas to help you gain clarity: compatibility, communication, alignment, and growth opportunities. By the end of this episode, you’ll have some fresh ideas, free resources, and a clear plan to create positive change, whether with your partner or on your own.

    Specifically, we’re discussing:

    0:00 Introduction: Are You Married to the Wrong Person?

    00:39 Understanding Relationship Challenges

    06:46 The Importance of Compatibility

    14:02 Communication: The Key to Connection

    17:46 Emotional Connection and Alignment

    22:27 Steps to Clarity and Growth

    29:03 Discernment Counseling: Finding the Right Path

    33:21 Free Resources and Final Thoughts

    Thanks for tuning in! Until next week, take care — and keep growing.

    Xo,

    Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    P.S.To take advantage of that free two-part communication skills training I mentioned in this episode, head over to growingself.com/communication.

    P.P.S. And don’t forget, if you’re listening to this the week it’s released, join me this Thursday at 12 PM Mountain, 2 PM Eastern on Instagram and YouTube for a live stream where I’ll be answering your questions about whether you married the wrong person. Submit your questions in advance at growingself.com/dear-lisa.

  • #410: It's Okay to Be AMAZING! How to Stop Playing Small...

    #410: It's Okay to Be AMAZING! How to Stop Playing Small...

    · Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    đŸ”„ STOP PLAYING SMALL! đŸ”„ Discover the secrets to growing more confident and comfortable with putting yourself out there. 🌟

    Are you constantly minimizing yourself, feeling guilty for setting boundaries, or believing that good things are meant for others but not for you? If so, it's time to break free from these limiting beliefs and start living unapologetically! In this powerful episode, we dive deep into why we play small and how to overcome it, empowering you to step into your greatness.

    Today I'm sharing actionable strategies and inspiring insights to help you become your own hero. Whether it's in your relationships, career, or personal growth, it's crucial to stop playing small and start believing in your worth. Today's episode will help you do that! đŸ’Ș✹

    Xoxo,

    Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    GrowingSelf.com

    PS: Is this an issue for you? Want to talk about it?? Join me on this week’s livestream to share your story and get advice for how to STOP feeling guilty about being your awesome self. Jump in at 12 pm MT on 7/18, or submit your question in advance here: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa

    #StopPlayingSmall #SelfEmpowerment #Confidence #SelfLove #PersonalGrowth #GrowingSelf

    Timestamps / Chapters

    02:15 – Signs You’re Playing Small

    10:45 – Overcoming Limiting Beliefs

    20:30 – Strategies for Self-Empowerment

    30:00 – Free Resources and Next Steps

  • #409: Feeling Unheard in a Relationship? Try This!

    #409: Feeling Unheard in a Relationship? Try This!

    · Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

    One of my listeners wrote in saying, "Dear Lisa, https://www.growingself.com/feeling-unheard-in-relationship right now. I try to talk about how I feel, but I'm just not getting through. It seems like my partner is either not hearing me or not understanding me, and I feel so lonely. How do I change this situation?"

    Honestly: This is one of the most common issues I hear about as a marriage counselor. In today’s podcast, I’m diving into why you might feel unheard in your relationship and sharing practical strategies to change that dynamic.

    If this resonates with you, stick around because here’s what you’ll learn today:

    The common reasons behind feeling unheard.

    The impact of emotionally invalidating communication.

    How to engage in communication that fosters emotional intimacy.

    Practical tips and strategies to improve listening and being heard.

    For even more insights, read the full article here.

    💬 Also, Join the Conversation! Let's talk about YOU! 💬 I’m hosting a live Q&A session every Thursday at 12 PM Mountain (2 PM Eastern) where I'll answer your questions about feeling heard in your relationship. Join me live on YouTube, Facebook, or Instagram. You can submit your questions in advance here: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa

    📘 Free Resource Alert! 📘 As I discussed in this episode, to help you even more, I’ve created a free two-part training series called “Communication that Connects.” This series includes:

    Two 45-minute training sessions

    A 30-page workbook filled with exercises and activities

    Sign up for FREE at growingself.com/communication I made this for you!

    Thank you so much for tuning in today. If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe. I look forward to helping you create more love, happiness, and success in your life!

    xo,

    Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

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