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169. From Pressure to Peace: 6 Ways Prayer Helps Christian Moms Stop People-Pleasing
Tired of walking on eggshells with your adult kids? In this episode, discover six ways prayer helps Christian moms break free from people-pleasing and find lasting peace. Learn how to set boundaries, surrender control, and please God above all.
HELPFUL LINKS:
Marriage Simplified Guide here
Free Guide: 10 Things Not to Say to Your Adult Child here
Free Connection Call with certified Empty Nest Coach, Pamela here
Take the free 2-minute Quiz here
Review + Rate podcast here
Follow Pamela on Instagram here
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Pamela's website with free resources here
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Hey Momma, are you always trying to keep the peace, say âyesâ to everything, and avoid rocking the boat with your adult kids?
Youâre not alone. Weâre talking about people-pleasing: why we do it, how it drains us, and how it impacts our relationships with our grown kids. Itâs time to release the pressure to please and start showing up as your whole, authentic self. You have Godâs full approvalâand that changes everything.
HELPFUL LINKS:
Free Guide: 10 Things Not to Say to Your Adult Child here
Free Connection Call with certified Empty Nest Coach, Pamela here
Take the free 2-minute Quiz here
Review + Rate podcast here
Follow Pamela on Instagram here
Follow Pamela on Facebook here
Pamela's website with free resources here
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If youâve ever felt overwhelmed trying to keep everyone happy, youâre not alone.
Therapist Heather Bjur joins us as we tackle the challenging topic of people-pleasing. Letâs learn why we fall into it, how it affects our relationships, and how to break free. Heather shares practical advice on being emotionally honest with your kids and finding your voice.
HELPFUL LINKS:
Christian Parenting's Moms, Dads & Grads Gift Guide here
Heather Bjur on Instagram here
Free Guide: 10 Things Not to Say to Your Adult Child here
Free Connection Call with certified Empty Nest Coach, Pamela here
Take the free 2-minute Quiz here
Review + Rate podcast here
Follow Pamela on Instagram here
Follow Pamela on Facebook here
Pamela's website with free resources here
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When the relationship with your son or daughter-in-law is strained, it can feel like everything is fractured: your connection with your child, your role as a mom, even access to your grandkids.
Counselor Kathy Cunningham joins me for a powerful conversation about healing those deep relational wounds. She shares practical wisdom, biblical insight, and the very first step a mom should take when peace feels impossible.
HELPFUL LINKS:
Free Guide: What I Wish I Knew Sooner About Parenting Adult Children here
Kathy's Course: Uncovered Grace here Discount Code: Grace10
Free Guide: 10 Things Not to Say to Your Adult Child here
Free Connection Call with certified Empty Nest Coach, Pamela here
Take the free 2-minute Quiz here
Review + Rate podcast here
Follow Pamela on Instagram here
Follow Pamela on Facebook here
Pamela's website with free resources here
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Do you have a vision for the kind of mother-in-law you want to be?
By avoiding playing the victim and taking things personally, not overstepping boundaries, and not competing for your childâs loyalty, you can have a supportive, healthy relationship with your childâs spouse. Listen in for eight things NOT to do as a mother-in-law,
HELPFUL LINKS:
Free Guide: 10 Things Not to Say to Your Adult Child here
Free Discovery Session with certified Empty Nest Coach, Pamela here
Take the free 2-minute Quiz here
Review + Rate podcast here
Follow Pamela on Instagram here
Follow Pamela on Facebook here
Pamela's website with free resources here
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You set the tone in your relationship with your childâs spouse. Be the first to extend love and grace.
Honoring and supporting their family unit without meddling will strengthen your relationship with your childâs mate.
HELPFUL LINKS:
Free Guide: 10 Things Not to Say to Your Adult Child(And 5 Ways to Stop Yourself from Saying Them here
Gift Guide for Moms, Dads, and Grads here
Free Discovery Session with certified Empty Nest Coach, Pamela here
Take the free 2-minute Quiz here
Review + Rate podcast here
Follow Pamela on Instagram here
Follow Pamela on Facebook here
Pamela's website with free resources here
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Itâs not just you; there are real barriers to communication with your grown child.
Listen in to identify ten common communication barriers and learn a solution for each. When you understand what youâre up against, you can build a strategy to reconnect with your grown child.
HELPFUL LINKS:
Free Guide: 10 Things Not to Say to Your Adult Child(And 5 Ways to Stop Yourself from Saying Them) here
Free Discovery Session with certified Empty Nest Coach, Pamela here
Christian Parenting's Moms, Dads & Grads Gift Guide here
Take the free 2-minute Quiz here
Review + Rate podcast here
Follow Pamela on Instagram here
Follow Pamela on Facebook here
Pamela's website with free resources here
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This generation of young adults is called the Anxious Generation, and we need to know how to talk to them.
No mom wants to add to her grown childâs anxiety. Linda Hanstra provides tips for moms with anxious children. Learn to support your anxious child by listening more and reminding them what they know to be true.
HELPFUL LINKS:
Happy Together Checklist- for your Boomerang Kids here
Linda's Book, Empty Nest Joyride here
Free Guide: 10 Things Not to Say to Your Adult Child(And 5 Ways to Stop Yourself from Saying Them) here
Free Discovery Session with certified Empty Nest Coach, Pamela here
Take the free 2-minute Quiz here
Review + Rate podcast here
Follow Pamela on Instagram here
Follow Pamela on Facebook here
Pamela's website with free resources here
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Avoid these 10 phrases and learn to speak life instead.
Communication doesnât have to be hard as long as we remember some guiding principles to speak life over our children. Letâs talk about awareness, humility, and the power of empathy.
HELPFUL LINKS:
Free Guide: 10 Things Not to Say to Your Adult Child (and 5 Ways to Stop Yourself from Saying Them) here
Free Discovery Session with certified Empty Nest Coach, Pamela here
Take the free 2-minute Quiz here
Review + Rate podcast here
Follow Pamela on Instagram here
Follow Pamela on Facebook here
Pamela's website with free resources here
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No mother intends to hurt her grown child with her words, and yet she does.
Without realizing it, we can make our kids feel guilty, criticized, or like they never quite measure up. Tune in for 10 phrases not to say to your adult child.
HELPFUL LINKS:
Free Guide: 10 Things Not to Say to Your Adult Child here
Free Discovery Session with certified Empty Nest Coach, Pamela here
Take the free 2-minute Quiz here
Review + Rate podcast here
Follow Pamela on Instagram here
Follow Pamela on Facebook here
Pamela's website with free resources here
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Youâre not the only one struggling to communicate in your marriage.
Join Bob and Pamela Henkelman for a candid conversation about how theyâve struggled to communicate effectively in their marriage. Theyâll share lessons theyâve learned and offer practical tools to strengthen communication with your spouse.
HELPFUL LINKS:
Free Guide: Marriage Awareness Worksheet here
Free Discovery Session with certified Empty Nest Coach, Pamela here
Take the free 2-minute Quiz here
Review + Rate podcast here
Follow Pamela on Instagram here
Follow Pamela on Facebook here
Pamela's website with free resources here
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Have you ever tried âI feelâ statements with your husband?
They are a great way to help you be honest and communicate with understanding instead of blame. We also talk about focusing on fun and seeking professional help when you feel stuck in a negative communication pattern in your empty nest.
HELPFUL LINKS:
Free Guide: Marriage Awareness Worksheet here
Free Discovery Session with certified Empty Nest Coach Pamela here
Take the free 2-minute Quiz here
Review + Rate the podcast here
Follow Pamela on Instagram here
Follow Pamela on Facebook here
Pamela's website with free resources here
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Letâs learn some practical tools to reconnect and strengthen our communication.
Incorporate intentional conversations(how-tos in the show notes), practice active listening, and embrace grace and forgiveness.
Daily Check-In Script:
Person A starts by saying:
I feel __ _ _ _ about my work.
myself
us
children
spirituality
After each feeling statement, the partner mirrors why they just heard without correcting, blaming, shaming, trying to fix, or arguing with their partner. Try to avoid feeling words like âgood,â âbad,â âfine,â âok,â etc, since they lack depth. When Person A is finished and Person B has mirrored each item back, itâs Person Bâs turn.
Example: Person A: "I felt pretty frustrated about work since two people called in sick, and I had to cover their jobs and couldnât get my projects done.â
Person B: âSo it was pretty frustrating you had to do other people's jobs.
Check-ins donât have to take a lot of time; it can take less than 5 minutes. Have some ritual about how and who starts this. Otherwise, the person who always feels like they have to initiate or prompt the other one to âcheck-inâ will feel discouraged.
Check-ins take practice and repetition and may feel awkward initially, but ultimately, youâll feel more connected.
HELPFUL LINKS:
Free Guide: Marriage Awareness Worksheet here
Free Discovery Session with certified Empty Nest Coach, Pamela here
Take the free 2-minute Quiz here
Review + Rate podcast here
Follow Pamela on Instagram here
Follow Pamela on Facebook here
Pamela's website with free resources here
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Communication can be one of our greatest struggles in an empty nest marriage.
When you understand the communication barriers, you can learn to remedy them. Letâs discuss the obstacles of poor listening skills, neglecting spiritual connection, different visions for the future, and lack of quality time.
HELPFUL LINKS:
Free Guide: Marriage Awareness Worksheet? here
Free Discovery Session with certified Empty Nest Coach, Pamela here
Take the free 2-minute Quiz here
Review + Rate podcast here
Follow Pamela on Instagram here
Follow Pamela on Facebook here
Pamela's website with free resources here
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Communication can feel complicated in an empty-nest marriage.
Before fixing your communication, you'll need to understand the barriers. Letâs discuss three things that hinder communication: unmet expectations, emotional distance, and unresolved conflict.
HELPFUL LINKS:
Free Guide: Your Kids Are Grown...Now What? here
Free Discovery Session with certified Empty Nest Coach, Pamela here
Take the free 2-minute Quiz here
Review + Rate podcast here
Follow Pamela on Instagram here
Follow Pamela on Facebook here
Pamela's website with free resources here
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Please find out how she fills her time by focusing on serving, learning, and having fun! Doesnât that sound amazing?
HELPFUL LINKS:
Cathy Lawdanski on Instagram here
Cathy Lawdanski on Facebook here
Sign up for Cathy's Weekly Newsletter here
Free Guide: Your Kids Are Grown...Now What? here
Free Discovery Session with certified Empty Nest Coach, Pamela here
Take the free 2-minute Quiz here
Review + Rate podcast here
Follow Pamela on Instagram here
Follow Pamela on Facebook here
Pamela's website with free resources here
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Let's talk about two more questions that lead to you discovering your purpose in the empty nest. This time youâll look around and up to see where God is leading you!
HELPFUL LINKS:
Free Guide: Your Kids Are Grown...Now What? here
Free Discovery Session with certified Empty Nest Coach, Pamela here
Take the free 2-minute Quiz here
Review + Rate podcast here
Follow Pamela on Instagram here
Follow Pamela on Facebook here
Pamela's website with free resources here
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Youâll be required to look inside, up to God, and around you to find your purpose. Tune in for two amazing questions that will lead you to discovering your purpose once your kids are grown.
HELPFUL LINKS:
Free Guide: Your Kids Are Grown...Now What? here
Free Discovery Session with certified Empty Nest Coach, Pamela here
Take the free 2-minute Quiz here
Review + Rate podcast here
Follow Pamela on Instagram here
Follow Pamela on Facebook here
Pamela's website with free resources here
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You must move forward in spite of your fears and welcome the feeling of being uncomfortable for a little bit. On the other side of doubt and feeling uncomfortable is your fresh purpose.
HELPFUL LINKS:
Free Guide: Your Kids Are Grown...Now What? here
Free Discovery Session with certified Empty Nest Coach, Pamela here
Take the free 2-minute Quiz here
Review + Rate podcast here
Follow Pamela on Instagram here
Follow Pamela on Facebook here
Pamela's website with free resources here
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Instead of feeling shame about doubt, bring into the light and talk to God about it. As you flex those faith muscles, doubt will be diminished.
HELPFUL LINKS:
Free Guide: Your Kids Are Grown...Now What? here
Free Discovery Session with certified Empty Nest Coach, Pamela here
Take the free, 2-minute Quiz here
Review + Rate podcast here
Follow Pamela on Instagram here
Follow Pamela on Facebook here
Pamela's website with free resources here
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