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Today's guest has such a beautiful love story and she's here to share the deets! She is a momma, wife, and entrepreneur who is on a similar mission as me to help women feel confident, beautiful, and stunning in the skin they are in! She is the blogger behind Carmen Renee Blog and host of a new blog called Go! Girl! Grow! Today she is here to share her journey and talk about finding balance (if there's such a thing) to motherhood, marriage, and entrepreneurship.
Who is Carmen Renee in a nutshell?What's your love story? Tell us the journey of how you and your husband met to now.What's something you can share about blogging that most people don't know about?Were your pregnancies planned or unexpected? Can you talk about if you had a timeline for your life and the thought behind marriage and motherhood?After becoming a mommy, did blogging get harder?When you became a mom, what was the biggest surprise for you? Maybe something that you weren't expecting that no one told you about?Do you believe in having balance? And if so, what does that look like for a full-time mom, wife, and entrepreneur?It's important to have support from your partner when you have children and you're doing your own thing, how does your husband support you and your business?Let's talk about the growth of your blog. Blogs aren't immediately profitable or easy to monetize, how long was your blog a passion project before it turned profitable?What advice do you have for the moms who are listening who want to start a blog or passion project? How can they quickly grow and monetize or prepare themselves to be consistent even when no money is flowing in?What's next for Carmen?
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Todayâs guest is a good friend of mine whose love story and personal growth I got to personally witness. When we first met, she was single and mingling and sometimes looking for the wrong things, in the right places (weâve all been there)! She has spent time doing personal development which led her to finding her person and now starting a family. Today she is here to talk about What You Want vs NEED In A Man. Letâs welcome Cece Liles
What we cover:
Who is Cece in a nutshell?What was Cece like when she was single?What things did you WANT in a guy that you realized you actually didn't need?When did you realize that you were dating the wrong types of guys or looking for all the wrong things?What advice would you give to the ladies listening who want to make sure that they are looking for the RIGHT things in a guy?What things did you have to work on in order to be your best for your relationship?What are your thoughts on counseling? Do you recommend it to single women and couples?Tramas & Daddy IssuesWhat are some helpful resources outside of counseling to help women in their journey of becoming their best?How do you know when you find the right person?
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I hope you ladies are ready for this gem-dropping beauty who uses full transparency about her past experiences to encourage others to take control of their lives and relationships. Todayâs guest is known for her openness and honesty about her life and the choices she has made. Her popular blog hits on her brutally honest and transparent stories exploiting her own experiences and personal life, talking about controversial subjects like dating as well as fitness and fashion. Letâs welcome, Chey Starr.
What we cover:1. Who is Chey Starr in a nutshell?
2. When & why did you decide to be so transparent with your brand?
3. Let's talk sex...as you know, Dre & Bre are waiting for marriage. What are your thoughts on this?
4. How do you think sex affects a relationship?
5. Have you ever been cheated on? If so, how has that affected you?
6. What advice do you have for the women who have been cheated on and now have trust issues because of it?
7. How do you know when you are in a toxic relationship and what is your advice for someone who knows they need to leave but doesn't know how?
8. How has your upbringing shaped the way you think of men and relationships?
9. What should women do in order to heal from their past and find a healthy relationship?
10. Do you have any helpful resources you recommend (podcasts, books, people on social media?)
11. How can our listeners stay connected with you and your brand?
Resources:
The YouTube Doctor
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Today's guest is a pro at breaking barriers. As the youngest black woman dispensary owner, this serial entrepreneur has been breaking barriers her entire life. After graduating from Spelman College, she danced professionally for the NFL, excelled in investment banking, featured on a TV Reality Show, and launched a series of businesses, and now is a well-known speaker and entrepreneur. Today, she's here to share her story and give tips and tools for breaking barriers in your everyday life and business! Let's welcome Hope Wiseman.
Who is Hope in a nutshell?Breaking Barriers takes balls, have you always been confident in yourself and your ability to go after what you wanted or is it something you had to learn and practice?What advice do you have for women who want to build their confidence to believe they can do whatever they want to do?How do you think your upbringing contributes to your success in business?Did you always think you would be a business owner or did you stumble into it?Being as successful as you are, how did it affect your dating life?You are juggling so many different projects, how do you stay organized and on top of it all?You have a physical store in Maryland with employees and hire teams of people to work on your projects, what advice do you have for someone listening who is ready to hire for help?What are 3 resources you can share with our listeners to help them build their confidence or business?What are 3 things you wish you knew then that you know now?What can we expect next from Hope?How can our listeners connect and stay in touch with Hope?
Here's what we cover:Resources:
Never split the difference book
EOS book
Traction book
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When I first started this podcast I did an episode titled âBody Confidenceâ (episode number 22 if you want to take a listen. Since then, I have personally struggled with wanting to be perfect by my wedding day, putting unrealistic expectations on myself and have been working a lot to free myself of that mindset and just choose to love myself and focus on more than what I see in the mirror. I know that as women, we all have this struggle. No matter our age, race, shape or size, we all have flaws and inner insecurities because of them. Todayâs guest is the definition of confidence. From shaking off gender norms to being a plus size dancer in Los Angeles, Jenzi Russel has built a brand around simply being confident. Today we are going to talk about Body Positivity! Today's guest is the one and only Jenzi Russel!
Here's What We Cover:
1. Who is Jenzi in a nutshell?2. How did you first get into dancing?
3. Being plus-size in the dance industry, what have been your biggest struggles?
4. Have you always been comfortable in your skin or have you ever struggled with confidence? Give us details
5. What advice would you give to the women who are listening who struggle with loving the skin they're in?
6. What advice would you give to someone who is looking to get into the dance industry?
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I am a huge fan of todayâs guests! She is a Certified Personal Trainer, Group Fitness Instructor, and Weight-loss and Nutrition coach who helps women create a sustainable solution for long-lasting health, happiness, and confidence! She uses her social media platform to motivate and inspire women to be confident in their fitness journeys by posting super helpful videos and tips and pointing out the myths and lies about weight loss and fitness. Today she is here to help us transform our minds and bodies. Let's welcome, Gina Amin!
PROMO ALERT:Beginners Guide to Fitness. This guide is for women who are not sure how to start their fitness journey. There will be videos, a workout plan, recipes, tips on sleep, mindset, and a lot more. It is the ultimate beginner's fitness guide that is not only going to be your standard workout plan. Get it now at www.workout-with-gina.com
Here's what we cover:
Who is Gina Amin in a nutshell?Tell us about your own personal transformation and how it has encouraged or inspired you to be the coach that you are today.In order to have a mind and body transformation, the mindset comes first. Walk us through your process for helping women achieve the right mindset in order to successfully transform their mind and bodies.Nutrition is a huge part of a successful transformation, how can the women listening make sure they are putting the right things in their body?You mentioned in a recent post that in order to get abs, itâs not about the number of crunches but instead, being in a deficit. Can you explain this method to our audience?Once we have the mindset and the nutrition, itâs time to focus on our physical bodies. What advice do you have for women just starting out or women who work out regularly but have plateaued?There are a lot of myths about weight loss, can you shed light on the real? As women, how much of our confidence do you think is affected by the way that we look? As a personal trainer, what is the number one thing your clients struggle with and how do you help them overcome it?How can women who have busy schedules commit to a healthier lifestyle?What tips do you have for someone who has a plan but is struggling to commit to it?
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Todayâs guest is an experienced Life Coach, Mentor, & Educator. She specializes in spiritual development, personal growth, and professional enhancement. Her areas of expertise include professionalism, self improvement, healing, and relationships. Today she is here to talk about her 5 steps for reaching your fullest potential. Letâs welcome Dr. India Hall!
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Dr. India Hall is offering powerful virtual courses that are life changing ! The course topics are maintaining healthy relationships, cultivating peace, personal development, spiritual growth, healing from past hurts & more ! These courses can be accessed at www.drindiahallschool.com ! You donât want to miss this amazing opportunity!Here's What We Cover:
Who is India Hall in a nutshell?Where did your passion for being a life coach come from?For anyone listening who wants to get into coaching, what is your advice for the first steps to take?We know that you also do mentorship, today, itâs hard to find a good mentor. What should our listeners look for in a mentor and how should they go about reaching out to them?Before we get into the 5 steps of reaching your full potential, what are 3 signs that youâre not actually tapping into your fullest potential?Step 1: Knowing what God has called you to (Team up with God)Step 2: Nourish/Fuel your passions (Feed the Beast) Step 3: Mentorship (Save yourself time & stress)Step 4: Stay Motivated & Focused (Stay Resilient) Step 5: Trust God in the ProcessConnect w/ India:
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This world needs happier women! Donât you agree? Todayâs guest is the founder of the Reminder Remedy, a Positive Psychology-based coaching company that educates women on how to create a life worth living. She is an expert in self-discovery, building relationships, and cultivating happiness. Today she will share with us some methods and tools for being happy and whole and remembering to give ourselves permission to be human! Today's guest is Alena Conley!
Here's what we cover:
Who is Alena Conley in a nutshell?How did your business come about? You have a program that helps women become happier in life. Tell us about it.Letâs talk about self discovery, explain to our listeners what self discovery is and what it looks like.On this podcast, we love working SMART, not hard! You often talk about âdoing more with lessâ can you explain the idea of this?Walk us through your 3 Positive Psychology Tools new State of Your Life Assessment and how we can use it to become happier and more productive. (switching out the freebie this week)Can you walk us through how you help your clients get for Lasting Results in your Lifecrafting Program?Being the expert that you are (and still remembering that you too are human) what do you do when you have days of not feeling your happiest?Being a momma of 4, what are your biggest challenges with running your business?What things do you have going on or coming up that we should be on the lookout for?How can our listeners find you and stay connected with you and your business?
Links:State of Your Life Assessment
3 Positive Psychology Tools to become happier and more productive
Reminder Remedy Coaching
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There has been an obvious shift with Instagram content. Reels are KING on IG and if you're anything like me, you might be struggling to keep up with the trend. I am so excited because today's guest has been killing the reel game and is here to help us do the same! She more than tripled her following in a couple of short months all by posting reels! She's a Makeup Artist, Photographer & Business Strategist who empowers entrepreneurs and helps them market their brands visually. She is my reel inspiration (no pun intended) and I'm excited to share her with you!
Here's what we cover:
First, tell us about your journey of entrepreneurship. Where did you start....and how did you get to where you are now.What has your journey been like with Instagram and content creation?When and how did you get confident with creating content?What were your thoughts when Reels were first introduced to IG?How do you find inspiration for your reels?Walk us through your process of batch working your reel content.How can someone create reels but stay authentic to themselves and their brand?What equipment is actually needed in order to create, edit and post reels? (space, equipment, editing tools, etc.)You have mastered doing reels to audio where you have to mouth the words. How? What's your process and tips for those types of videos?For someone who is new to creating reels, what's your advice?What can we expect next from Nazsare?How can our listeners stay connected and learn more about you and your services?Instagram
Website
Presets
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Todayâs guest is dropping all the gems for becoming a paid influencer. As founder of âGot Influenceâ this full time momma & wife has been able to build a 6-figure brand that happened organically just by being her true authentic self and helping as many people as she can along the way. We talk about the inâs and outâs of the influencer world and even touch on knowing your âwhyâ, being productive and the not-so-fun parts about being an influencer.
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SHAMELESS for 20% off all of my influencer education productsHere's what we cover:
1. Who is Tina Meeks in a nutshell?
2. Everyone wants to be an influencer now of days but most people don't actually know what it takes. Can you break down the "real" behind being an influencer?
3. What are the first steps someone should take if they want to start getting influencer opportunities?
4. What do brands and PR companies look for in an influencer?
5. What is your process for getting and closing influencer opportunities? Do you have a monthly goal or structure that you follow?
6. Since being an influencer is not the normal 9-5 can you explain what your average day or week looks like?
7. What tips or tools do you suggest for being productive and having a schedule when you don't have to clock into the office?
8. How do you balance running a multi 6-figure brand and being a wife and momma of 3 full-time?
9. Tell our listeners about your "Got Influence" coaching program and how they can learn more about it or sign up.
10. What can we expect from Tina next? Anything cool coming up?
11. How can our listeners stay connected with you and your brand?
Connect With Tina:
Instagram
Website
Resources:
Got Influence E-Book
Got Influence Coaching
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I have been getting a lot of questions about turning passion into profitâŠ.so I thought we should have someone who has experienced first hand, what itâs like to go from having a thought and turning it into their reality. Todayâs guest was a full-time nurse who used painting as an outlet but then turned it into her business and is now known for her dope art, viby events and is making profit from her passion.
Episode Questions:
Who is Calli Rae? - Tell us your story When did you discover your passion for art?Did you have any fears of building your brand as an artist or starting to charge for your work?What was the first step that you took towards committing to turning your passion into profit?What has been your biggest challenge as an artist?You now have a manager, tell us how that came about and what you recommend to others who are looking for help to get their work out there.You now have an art studio, tell us about the timing of that and what you would recommend for someone who is new to pursuing their passion and looking to invest in themselves. How does social media and networking play a role for the profit you make?Has growing your following helped you gain more opportunities?What are 3 things you wish you knew at the beginning of your journey that you can share with our listeners?
Connect With Calli:
Personal Instagram
Art By Calli Instagram
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Now of days, itâs normal to work a 9-5 job while pursuing your passion on the side. In a world filled with entrepreneurs, how do you know where to start or what to do when you have a passion but arenât ready to go full time with it? WellâŠ.you start a side hustle! Todayâs guest is an expert at balancing her career while mastering her side hustle. She is a professional dancer, creative and founder and CEO of Authentic Martian. Letâs welcome my good friend Kayo Kolee.
Episode Questions:
What inspired you to create a side hustle?What were the first steps you took in launching your side hustle?What was your biggest challenge or fear?How do you balance your hustle while maintaining your full-time career? How do you utilize social media to grow your hustle? What are your tips for those listening who want to commit to starting a side hustle?Whatâs the difference between a âhobbyâ and a âside hustleâExplain the difference between âhavingâ a side hustle and âmasteringâ your side hustle.What are 3 tools every side hustler needs in their back pocket?Where can we stay connected and learn more about Kayo & Authentic Martian?
Connect With Kayo:Follow Kayo
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Shop Authentic Martian:
www.authenticmartian.com
Resources:
AudioBook: "The Go Giver"
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Today I have the pleasure of speaking with someone who is known for executing strategies to ensure manifestation and freedom for creatives and entrepreneurs. She is a CPA turned entrepreneur who is passionate about helping others leverage their time and make more money! She is the creator of âVision to Fruitionâ and founder of âF28 Agencyâ which helps founders, small business owners and entrepreneurs create the infrastructures necessary to scale on auto-pilot. Without further ado, letâs welcome Fallon Rice Scott.This episode covers:
The 6-Pillars of Stress Free Entrepreneurship.
Pillar 1: Content
Pilar 2: Capture
Pilar 3: Convert
Pilar 4: Coins
Pilar 5: Contracts
Pilar 6: Client FulfillmentProject Management Systems:
Asana Trello Click UpCRM Systems:
DubsadoVcita
Connect with Fallon:@thefallonrise: https://www.instagram.com/thefallonrice/?hl=en
@f28agency: https://www.instagram.com/f28agency/?hl=en
Website: https://f28agency.com/
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I donât know about you...but Iâm ready for some transparent convo! In todayâs society, itâs so important for women to support other women! The best way to do that is to share our stories, the things we know and the lessons weâve learned. Todayâs guest is someone who has her hands in a lot of different things and is here to talk about her doctorate degree, building confidence, having a non-profit and so much more!
Amazon Affiliate: https://www.instagram.com/amazoninfluencerprogram/?hl=enPersonal Page: https://www.instagram.com/dr.laurenelise/
Business Page: https://www.instagram.com/thesocialmediadr/
Non-Profit Page: https://www.instagram.com/adjustyourcrownmentoring/
Doggie Page: https://www.instagram.com/cocochanel1109/
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Jordynn & Bre tell all! Hear the story of how we met as freshmen in college and now have a 6-figure business together! Jordynn is the person who introduced me to GOD and to DRE! Yes, she is a blessing to say the least haha. Hear all about it now!
Questions we cover in this episode:
1. What made us get into branding and social media?
2. What is our biggest struggle with being entrepreneurs?
3. What is the best advice we can give someone looking to start a business?
4. What is the best advice we can give to someone looking to do what we do?
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Todayâs episode is super special because it is my very first time featuring a guest! As you guys know, I dedicated 2020 to connecting with you, being transparent, sharing my story, and giving you all my tips and tricks for living shamelessly, being your best self, and creating a life you love. Well, a huge part of being shameless is being supportive of other women and their success stories. I want this to be a space where you can learn from other like-minded women but also have access to different resources and helpful tools outside of just myself. This world is filled with amazing women and I canât wait to have some of them on this show!
Our first guest is a self-made millionaire who turned an idea into a powerhouse! She is a woman of God who is all about making an IMPACT!
Instagram:@mayaelious
@builttoimpack
@rebeliousfit
Website: https://www.mayaelious.com/
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If you're looking to start launch and grow a podcast. This episode is for you.
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It's really a great way for you to build up your community and build relationship with the people based on who you serve. So for me, it allows me to build my connection and relationship with the women who follow my brand.
So in this episode, I will be covering what you need to think of before you start what you need to do to create an actually get the podcast up and running how you are going to launch, and then what you need to know when it comes to growing.
Before Starting:
Now, the first thing that when you do is just brainstorm some ideas. You want to come up with a name, a topic, and a mission.
Your name is the actual name that your podcast would be known by. Topic
The topics should be related also to the title or name of your podcast. Mission
The mission is ultimately what you are helping people do by listening to your episodes. So for example, mine is helping women create a life. They love that is the mission.The next thing you want to do is get the proper equipment.
USB mic and stand and you can easily get this on Amazon. An editing software, such as garage band which is free.A laptop to connect the mic and edit on.A way to create your branding because it is super important since this is going to be what people see when they are coming to your podcast.Making a Buzzsprout account.
Create Podcast Intro & Outro. You want to figure out what words do you want people to hear at the very beginning and at the very end of your episodes and then find a song that you feel matches the types of content that you're going to be creating. Which you will need to pay for license-free music: https://elements.envato.com/audiohttps://audiojungle.net/Determine Post Schedule & Launch Date:
Create:
I would make your launch date the same day that you're going to plan on posting on a weekly basis.
Create Topics :
Create as many different topics, suggestions that you could possibly think of. And here's the thing you want to talk about things that people actually want to hear about.
Create Scripts (use this as blog posts):
This is completely optional, but scripts is a way for you to read through your podcast episodes, to ensure that you don't miss anything and that you don't talk in circles.
Film & Edit Episodes :
Batch working makes things so much simpler. So all I do is I'll create, let's say three, four months of episodes and then I'll sit down in one day and I'll film them all at the same time. The same day that I filmed them is the same day that I edit them and up load them to Buzzsprout and add details.
Upload Template & Audio into Wavee
Next you need to create templates and you can use your templates in a app called wave. It's an audio graphic where you sync over your audio, and then you have this cool graphic with little waves that are going by where people can listen to a snippet of your episode.Launch:
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What you need to know before you start:
Know Your Brand (the type of content to represent your brand) Know Your Audience (the type of content that relates & serves your audience)Know Your Aesthetic (the way your content should look)What you need for your shoot:
Inspo:
having your inspo is super important because your inspo will be the thing that kind of guides you to choose your locations, um, to figure out what you're going to wear. And ultimately will be the thing that ties together, all of your content, looking consistent enough for your page to have that aesthetic that you're going for.
Locations:
Keep it super simple. , I just pick a spot and I take a photo that I think makes sense. So for example, if I'm going to shoot in my kitchen, that type of content would probably be things that align with talking about morning routines or eating healthy, or having a balance. So you want to think what locations make sense for what type of content.
Natural Light or Proper Lighting:
You really want to stick with the natural lighting, but if you cannot find a space that has big windows, or if you aren't able to create content during the day, then you might need to order some lights. Amazon has some very affordable studio lights. You can use ring lights, you can use softbox lights, there's no specific brand that's going to do the magic trick.
But ultimately natural light is King. So if you can just take content during the day in front of some windows, your content is gonna look really good, whether you're taking your pictures with a phone or with a camera.
Looks:
We have to pull your looks and your looks is everything. Clothing wise that we can see in the photo. So if you're not shooting full body pictures, you don't have to include shoes. If you are not shooting, you know, like any extracurricular things where you're out and about, or on the go, you maybe don't need to include purses or, you know, yoga bags or water bottles or anything like that. So find your looks based on your locations and the overall messaging of what you want that photo to say.
The thing to pay attention to when it comes to looks is color. Color is so important because again, you are looking to have an aesthetic on your page, right? You want people to come to your page and be like, wow, this looks so good. It flows, it's balanced, it's consistent
Shoot Agenda :
All of your content is different. You don't want to take 12 pictures in 12 different looks in 12 different locations on a computer doing the exact same thing in every photo. That's weird. You want a balance. So think of all the different things that you could be doing that would showcase or highlight the things that are most important to you in your brand, and then take photos of that. So now at this point we have our inspo, we have our locations, we have lighting, we have our looks and we have our shoot agenda.What you need to edit:
Facetune :
I use face tune to whiten up my like white backgrounds and things like that
It also allows you to patch out unwanted clutter in your photos. So for example, outlets, I hate seeing outlets and light switches in my photos. So I'll go in and I will patch out those things
Phone Filters or Presets (optional) :
if you don't know what you're doing, just don't use it. But if you have some experience or if you've been watching tutorials or playing around, you can definitely take advantage of using a filter or preset on all of your content.What you need to organize your content:
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As a social media and brand coach, the number one question I get is âhow can I grow my following?â. The answer to this question can be broken down into so many different parts but today I am going to break down 4 of them!
The 4 things that Iâm going to break down to you are realistic things that you can change TODAY to get better results with your social media!
1. Profile imageAs simple as it sounds, a profile image can make the difference between a follower and non follower. Especially if you have a private account because the only thing someone can make a judgement from is your profile image.
2. BioYour bio is the best way for someone to quickly learn who you are, what you do, who you do it for, and how they can get involved. There are 2 main problems I see with peoples bios.
Too simplistic. Stop trying to be cute with the basic bios, acting like you're too cool to put yourself in a category or box! If you have a brand or business, you should WANT to be put into a category and box. Thatâs the number one way someone who needs what you have can find you and identify you.
Too extra. Stop lying! Donât list things in your bio that donât align with your page and content. If you have high profile labels like CEO, Entrepreneur, Model, Business Owner, Creator, etc. people are going to be expecting content that shows you not just talking the talk, but walking the walk! So be real!3. Content
People will not follow you just to be nice. People want to be inspired, motivated, encouraged, empowered and impacted in a positive way by what you post. Itâs not just about WHAT you post either. Itâs about the quality of your posts and how your posts look aesthetically from a grid perspective. There is a difference between good content and good social media content. You want your page to have a balanced flow and pretty aesthetic that makes your potential follower feel welcomed and eager to see more of your content.
4. Your Target Audience Doesnât Know You Exist
The most simplest yet challenging reason why youâre not growing a following is because the people who need you, donât know you exist.
Itâs simple. If you have 5k followers and think that you will magically get to 10k by posting a lot, you're mistaken. Now, the slim chance that one of your pics or videos go viral is always an option but like I said, the chances are slim.
I manually and personally grew my following to where it is now by simply targeting my ideal audience. The people who need what I offer but donât already follow me or know of me. How? you ask? Simple. I find women who have similar brands as mine and then engage with their followers. My engaging, leads to them noticing me, which leads to them coming to my page, which leads to them liking what they see (because the other steps that I just mentioned are on point) and then once they view my content and read a couple of captions, they decide to follow!
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Resolutions donât work for 4 reasons.
1. Theyâre all about what you think you should do.
Typically a resolution is based on what you think you should be doing, rather than what you really want to be doing.
Too often, resolutions are decided upon by looking at other peoples expectations or by reading a magazine that tells you how to âget fit by summerâ.
2. Resolutions are like goals.
Some resolutions are like goals in that theyâre about getting more of something. The problem is that as soon as you set yourself a goal youâre saying to yourself that you want more in your life than you have right now.
The very nature of goals make you look forwards at whatâs next, never at what youâve got right now.
Goals have the tendency to make you feel less-than, because thereâs something you donât have now that you aspire to have in the future. Goals introduce a gap between where you are and where youâd like to be, which instantly makes part of where you are right now a place you donât want to be â and this is how the very nature of having goals can hurt your self-confidence and self-esteem.
3. Thereâs no motivation or commitment.
The problem is that youâre taking something that doesnât mean anything to you and trying to make it happen.
What you need is something more fundamental, more central and more important to you. What you need is something that comes from the inside, something thatâs based on whatâs important and what matters most to you.
Thatâs the only way to get behind it, have confidence in it and keep the motivation and commitment going.
4. The timingâs all wrong.
Not only are you coming off the back of the holidays and getting back to the harsh realities of the world, but you see the whole of the year stretching ahead of you and summerâs a whole 6 months away.
And what kind of person waits all year to make a choice about something anyway? Why wait for one particular day to make a decision, when there are 364 other equally great decision-making days available to you?
There are two main lines of brain and behavior science that influence New Year's resolutions:
1. The science of habits
2. The science of self-stories. - Se mer
