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This week's episode has us grappled with some conflicted feelings. We discuss an AITA where someone asks if they're being a jerk by not helping their partner who says they're overwhelmed by the holiday tasks - the same tasks the original poster handled on their own for years. Scratch your head and spiral out along with us.
**Oops, you may notice this week's episode had the wrong audio on it! SORRY ABOUT THAT! - Laura
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In this episode, we explore a viral video featuring a woman who always says she wants to relax, yet when the moment finally comes, she can’t help but get up and keep doing something around the house. We talk through the relatable feeling of never truly switching off, especially for women who feel that even their downtime at home has to be “productive.” Join us as we spiral through the compulsion to stay busy and how deeply it’s tied to societal expectations.
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A very special episode, post-election. What now?
Resources:
National Domestic Violence Hotline
What Are My Values? Free Worksheet from Us
Fresh Starts Registry
Fresh Starts Experts (if you're in need of a financial advisor or therapist or anyone to walk you through next steps)
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Resources Mentioned This Episode:
DBT Assertiveness Scripts: https://dialecticalbehaviortherapy.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/04/DBT-IE-4-Assertiveness-Scripts-and-Interpersonal-Rights-compressed.pdf
DBT Boundaries Worksheet: https://dialecticalbehaviortherapy.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/04/DBT-IE-8-Interpersonal-Boundaries-compressed.pdf
DBT What Are Interpersonal Boundaries?: https://dialecticalbehaviortherapy.com/interpersonal-effectiveness/interpersonal-boundaries/
Gottman Four Horsemen and Antidotes: https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-the-antidotes/
DBT TIPP: https://dialecticalbehaviortherapy.com/distress-tolerance/tipp/
Distress Tolerance STOPP: https://www.hey.nhs.uk/wp/wp-content/uploads/2020/08/OHC_STOPP.pdf
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In this episode, Crystal and Laura discuss Birthday Blues, expectations for partners, and how to move forward if they let you down.
Links:
Article from The Cut
Time to Read Book Club for October: Ace by Angela Chen!
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In this conversation, Laura and Crystal explore the dynamics of a viral video that highlights the emotional labor women often experience in relationships, particularly during crisis or stressful situations. Have you ever felt gaslit by a calmer partner? This one's for you.
Links:
Original post
Follow-Up Video
Time to Read Book Club for October: Ace by Angela Chen!
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In this episode, we interview Jessica Daylover, polyamorous storyteller, educator, mother of two and so much more - including Chief Executive Officer of the Nuclear Fusion App! Jessica shares her journey through motherhood, the challenges of raising a medically complex child, and her vision for community building through the Nuclear Fusion network. The conversation explores the importance of chosen families, the struggles of modern parenting, and the need for vulnerability and emotional intelligence in building connections. It's time to rethink traditional family structures and the value of community support in raising children.
Join us as we discuss the question that's constantly on our minds - how do we connect with people and build the community connections we so desperately want?
Check out the Nuclear Fusion App here!
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In this week's episode, Crystal reads Laura a story from a woman who faces a disastrous situation while recovering from abdominal surgery and heads to the internet to ask if she's overreacting for being upset. We don't want to spoil it... but she's definitely not overreacting.
Read the Reddit post here!
Get Ruth Whippman's book, Boy Mom
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Domestic Violence Resources
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In this REPLAY episode, we revisit a discussion we had about common commentary along the lines of, "I'm not sure why you're so upset! I do what you ask. I never make demands of you. I'm fine, so it kind of seems like you're maybe just mad... to be mad." Oh, and the ole' "You're no fun anymore." EEk!
Mentioned in this episode:
https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2020/02/if-you-want-marriage-equals-then-date-equals/606568/
https://www.nytimes.com/2024/02/10/business/gen-z-dating-pay-etiquette.html
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In this episode, we respond to a listener email from someone who is feeling stuck. Their partner says they're on board, but actions don't reflect those commitments. We explore the complexities of relationships, focusing on the mental load, communication dynamics, and the concept of domestic equity. They discuss the challenges default partners face, the importance of setting boundaries, and the role of systems like Persist and Fair Play in managing household responsibilities.
What do you do when you're feeling gridlocked and considering options? We talk about the power of community support and self-care - REAL self-care.
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Is it your partner's job to make sure you get to work on time? In this episode, Crystal and Laura discuss a Reddit post about a woman who refuses to wake up her boyfriend in the morning, which has caused him to almost lose his job. They explore the dynamics of the relationship and the expectations placed on each partner. They also touch on the importance of allowing children to experience failure and develop problem-solving skills. The conversation highlights the need for self-advocacy and discernment in navigating relationships and personal growth. The conversation revolves around the dynamics of responsibility and accountability in a relationship where one partner has ADHD. The discussion highlights the challenges faced by the partner with ADHD in managing time and tasks, as well as the impact on the other partner. It explores the importance of self-awareness, communication, and mutual understanding in navigating these challenges. The conversation also touches on the need for individual independence and the potential consequences of relying too heavily on a partner for basic responsibilities.
Links:
Original AITA Post on Reddit
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This week's episode, we cover an absolutely WILD RIDE of an Am I The Asshole where a woman runs to the internet to ask if she's the asshole for divorcing her husband over lids that are too tight. This may be a spoiler... but in this episode, we also delve into the topic of GASLIGHTING!!
A link to the original post
Gaslighting warning signs
Wikihow resource on gaslighting
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In this episode, Laura and Crystal are joined by Toi Smith to discuss capitalism, motherhood, and collective liberation. How are they related, and how do we see them affect our day-to-day as we provide care in our homes?
Toi Marie Smith is a growth and impact strategist whose work centers on doing life, business, and motherhood differently. She works with people whose work is countercultural, liberatory, and revolutionary in nature...or people who desire and are committed to moving their work or lives in that direction. You can find Toi @toimarie on Instagram and at ToiMarie.com.
Cannibal Capitalism
Caliban and the Witch
Care: The Highest Stage of Capitalism
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In this episode, we chat about the often-overlooked value of care work and the challenges of juggling work and family life. We share our personal stories about dealing with job insecurity, finding affordable childcare, and the mental toll it all takes. We also touch on how the pandemic has affected women’s roles at home and why it’s so important to push for fair pay and better support for care workers. It’s all about recognizing the value of care work and coming together to create a more balanced and caring society.
Post from Female Quotient
Fatherhood Bonus Article
A Decolonial Feminism
Braiding Sweetgrass
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Join us as we dive into the rollercoaster ride of decision-making in relationships! We tackle the hot topic of who does what at home and the mental juggling act that often leaves one person feeling like a circus performer. We'll chat about why it's crucial to have teamwork and open communication and explore the difference between handling the practical and emotional sides of a partnership and the art of finding a balance that works.
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Domestic Violence Resources
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On this episode, Crystal and Laura discuss all things Back-to-Schoo! If you have kids or teach them or babysit them or are around them, you have felt the heavy mental load of this time of year. Join us in discussing this episode in our Patreon, meet up with us on Tuesdays to connect and ask questions-AND you can listen to our episodes AD-FREE for as low as $5 a month!
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Domestic Violence Resources
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On this episode, Laura and Crystal discuss the viral Ballerina Farm Time's Article. We delve into the unequal division of labor, the pressure on mothers to prioritize their kids and role as mom above all else, and the lack of autonomy and self-care for mothers.
Mentioned on this episode:
The viral Time's article on Ballerina Farm
All Fours by Miranda July
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In this episode, Laura speaks with Ellyce Fulmore, author of the national bestseller Keep Finance Personal, a book dedicated to helping neurodivergent individuals approach their finances without shame!
Find Ellyce @ellyce.fulmore, at Queerd Co., and on her podcast, Dopamine Dollars!
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In this episode, we delve into the mental load and invisible pressures mothers and primary caregivers often face. We'll listen to a woman whose kids and partner complain about the sleeping conditions at the Airbnb they did nothing to help pick! We discuss the challenges of planning vacations, managing finances, and making family decisions, emphasizing open communication, shared responsibility, and empathy.
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In this week's episode, we have a tweet submitted from a listener regarding initial reactions in communication. We discuss collaborative versus competitive communication and how it deeply effects how men and women communicate.
Mentioned on this episode:
Gottman Article on Accepting Influence From a Partner
Study on Collaborative vs Competitive Communication
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