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It's officially wedding week! đđ
In this episode, Iâm taking you behind the scenes of my wedding season â from setting intentions before my bridal shower and bachelorette, to navigating unexpected bumps, practicing presence, and learning how to receive love and support from those closest to me.
I also share some honest reflections about the final month of wedding planning â the pressure that builds, how Iâm handling human moments (yes, even with years of personal growth work!), and why setting boundaries has been a key theme during this busy, exciting season.
Whether youâre planning your own big event, navigating milestones, or just curious about the real emotional side of wedding prep, I hope this episode feels like a warm, honest conversation with a friend.
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Bringing back an oldie but goodie episode this week! Whether youâre hearing it for the first time, or if you heard it when it first aired back in February 2023, I hope you will find some nuggets of wisdom to take away.
When youâre in a relationship, lifeâs big questions present themself: Who I am I? What do I believe? What do I value? How do I want life to look? What is normal?
In this episode, I walk through these big life questions and help normalize asking them within the context of a relationship.
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In this solo episode, Iâm sharing what itâs looked like to reduce the pressure and urgency I used to bring into two major areas of my life: my relationship and my work. From letting go of perfectionism in partnership, to allowing myself to embrace a season of maintenance in business, this episode is a reflection on how releasing intensity can actually create more ease, connection, and clarity.
Whether youâre navigating a big life change (like a wedding!) or simply noticing that things feel a little too much lately, this is your invitation to pause and reflect on where you can invite in some compassion and be more gentle with yourself.
Mentioned in the episode:
Relationship Anxiety Toolkit Wedding Sale
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This week on the podcast I have on Anna Seirian, a writer and coach for ADHD women who want to trade exhaustion and survival for ease and pleasure. Sheâs the writer of the best-selling Substack Ambitious Softie and the cofounder of Internet People, a digital media company and community for creatives, artists, and entrepreneurs.
In this episode we dive into the heart of Annaâs Brilliance Experiment and how small, intentional actions can reclaim our joy, vitality, and sense of connection to ourselves, which in turn can help us connect to other relationships in our life more intentionally. Anna opens up about how sheâs been cultivating joy in her life through these simple experiments each week that encourage mindfulness, self-care, and personal growth.
Mentioned in the episode:
Join the Brilliance Experience on Annaâs Substack
Annaâs Podcast: Internet People Podcast
Connect with Anna on Instagram
Annaâs Audio Course - 17 Principles of Soft Ambition
The Artistâs Way by Julia Cameron
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I am so grateful to bring on another former client of mine to discuss her transformative journey with relationship anxiety. In this episode we explore:
How the need for certainty in her decisions fueled her relationship anxietyThe struggle of knowing if it is anxiety or intuition and how to navigateMoving from black and white thinking to accepting things can be âboth, andâWays she works with her anxiety (not against it) as it shows upIf you've ever felt stuck in patterns of doubt, fear, or overthinking in your relationship, this conversation will remind you that you're not aloneâand that growth is possible.
Mentioned in the episode:
The Wisdom of Anxiety by Sheryl Paul
âIs it Anxiety or Intuition?â Webinar
Additional resources:
If this conversation resonates, apply for private coachingGet the Relationship Anxiety Toolkit here! (instant + lifetime access)Join the You Love and You Learn Patreon community Visit my websiteConnect with me on Instagram -
Have you ever felt stuck in the same relationship patterns, no matter how hard you try to change? This week, I sat down with trauma-informed marriage coach, Becky Aste, to explore how healing yourself can transform your relationship. Becky shares the patterns that nearly led to divorce and how discovering somatic work (aka, soothing your body) changed everything. We discuss how regulating your nervous system, breaking toxic cycles, and shifting from control to connection can create a healthier, more fulfilling partnership
Connect with Becky:
Beckyâs Instagram
Free Training: â4 Somatic Secrets to Secure Loveâ
Podcast: Your Breakthrough Blueprint
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In this episode, Iâm exploring a topic that can sometimes feel a little uncomfyâbut is super important to talk about: the role alcohol plays in romantic relationships. This discussion was inspired by a question from a Patreon member, but I know many other people navigate similar dynamics in their relationships.
I share my personal experiences with this topic, including how alcohol has impacted my relationship with Nate, my past anxieties around it, the boundaries weâve set, and open conversations weâve had in order to create a mutual understanding around our alcohol consumption.
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The Messy Middle â a space we all find ourselves in at some point. Itâs that uncomfortable, uncertain period where things feel unclear, and weâre searching for answers that donât seem to come. In this solo episode, I open up about my own experience with navigating uncertainty, feeling stuck, and provide practical ways to support yourself when you donât have a clear path forward.
Mentioned in the episode:
Anxiety Rx by Dr. Russell Kennedy, M.D.
The Wisdom of Anxiety by Sheryl Paul
Additional resources:
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In this episode, I sit down with life and manifestation coach, Samantha Chung, to explore how to overcome anxiety, relinquish control, and create inner peace. Sam shares her personal storyâfrom her early struggles with perfectionism and control as a professional ballerina to discovering the power of mindfulness, self-acceptance, and manifestation.
This episode is for anyone who struggles with overthinking, self-doubt, or the need to control every aspect of life. Join us as we dive into how to embrace all emotions and learn to live in the present moment (instead of an unknown future).
Mentioned in the episode:
Listen to Samanthaâs Podcast, Spiraling Higher
Connect with Samantha on Instagram and TikTok
Additional resources:
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Ready for a real conversation about sex? This week, I'm joined by sex expert Susan Bratton to explore the path to a more fulfilling sex life. We unpack the importance of open communication and how to overcome the misconceptions that are holding you back from passionate and connected sex. Discover how to take ownership of your own pleasure and build a stronger bond with your partner to unlock the best sex of your life (even if thatâs something that currently feels intimidating).
Mentioned in the episode:
Susan's Website
Connect with Susan on Instagram
Susanâs Youtube Channel
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I know many listeners have felt the urge to escape a perfectly good relationship. This can show up as questioning if you're making a mistake, if you're truly in love, or if you're missing out on something better. I went through it too, so just know you are not alone. I am bringing back OCD and Anxiety coach Robert James to share his journey with Relationship OCD and to unpack why our brains can send us into panic mode in relationships.
We discuss:
How rumination and overthinking can keep you stuckThe role of self-compassion in overcoming relationship anxietyWhy vulnerability and presence are key to healthy lovePractical steps to break free from the cycle of doubtHere is the first episode I did with Robert (#52) if you missed that one (itâs a goodie!):
Spotify link: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3pbH7OXf0MFcV4pqoXfbUM?si=0b9fd7ef499c4ed8
Apple link: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/52-leaning-into-discomfort-in-your-relationship-w-robert/id1654761308?i=1000640294215
Additional resources:
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Bringing back an oldie but goodie episode this week! Whether youâre hearing it for the first time, or if you heard it when it first aired back in February 2023, I hope you will find some nuggets of wisdom to take away.
When anxiety shows up, it can feel tempting to want to make it go away as fast as possible. Iâve found this can actually make the anxiety stronger, and offer up 5 alternate ways to respond next time anxiety shows up.
âIs it anxiety or incompatibility? webinar mentioned in the episode: https://youloveandyoulearn.com/ra-or-incompatibility-webinar
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Additional resources:
Join Deconstruct the Doubts digital course here (instant + lifetime access)Click here to join the waitlist for the next cohort of Beyond the Doubts group coachingDownload the free video training: The Single Most Important Lesson in Healing Relationship AnxietyVisit my websiteConnect with me on Instagram -
Bringing back an oldie but goodie episode this week! Whether youâre hearing it for the first time, or if you heard it when it first aired back in January 2023, I hope you will find some nuggets of wisdom to take away.
Is there such thing as the âright relationship?â
Why is this such a common question we ask ourselves?
How do we expand into a new way of thinking?
I dive into my thoughts on this subject and how to think about our relationship in a way that is less anxiety-inducing.
In the podcast, I mention relationship incompatibilities, and if youâre looking to answer the question âis it anxiety or incompatibility?â in your healthy relationship with more confidence, check out my 2-hour webinar on this for $27. CLICK HERE TO CHECK IT OUT
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We are heading into Valentine's Day month and there will be a ton of messages about having your romantic partner meeting your needs and showering you with love and gifts. While itâs lovely to celebrate our love for people in our lifeâitâs also important to celebrate the love we give ourselves.
Part of how we can give and receive love for ourselves and become our own best friend, our own inner loving parents, or the main character of our life is to intentionally practice filling up our cup. Intentionally taking time to nourish your mind, body, heart, and soulâvs. waiting for someone else to do it for you. It doesnât mean we stop relying on others, but it means we take responsibility for our own fulfillment and wellbeing.
Next week I am hosting a 7-Day Challenge, Filling Your Own Cup, inside the You Love and You Learn Patreon community! Weâll go through how to define your needs (what fills your cup), how to meet your needs without crazy pressure and strict rules, how to prioritize yourself, and how to become flexible in meeting your needs as you evolve as a person.
Todayâs episode gives you a sneak-peek into Day 1 of the Filling Your Own Cup challenge. Join here for just $7/month! (cancel anytime) Join the Patreon here: https://www.patreon.com/YouLoveandYouLearn
Additional resources:
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Reading fiction can be relaxingâunless weâre stuck comparing our lives and relationship to the ones in the books! Then it can become stressful. Just know you are not alone if you feel this wayâthis episode topic was highly requested from other members of the You Love and You Learn community after I posted about fiction recently!
In todayâs episode, I explore three reasons why comparison to fiction books is unhelpful (because of all or nothing thinking, because romanticism in and of itself isnât a sustainable goal, and because taking on otherâs stories as our own puts us in reactive mode) and I give you mindset shifts and tips to help you feel more comfortable reading fiction again.
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In todayâs episode, I sat down with Alena Winter, a clinical Naturopath and Nutritionist in New Zealand who is passionate about helping people understand true foundations of health and the things we need in place to be well. The good news? Many of these pillars of health are simple, accessible, and low costâyet they can make a world of a difference in how we feel on a day to day basis.
We discuss:
What the nervous system is and how it influences us (Alenaâs explanation is so simple!)Why is it important to begin to understand our window of tolerance, and how to know if weâve gone outside of itWhy nervous system awareness helps us as individuals Why nervous system awareness helps our relationshipsHow we can co-regulate with other people in our lives Tools to support your nervous system in the day to day and in relationshipsFor more of Alenaâs work, check out:
Her free nervous system regulation guide: https://alenawinter.co.nz/free-regulation-guide
Her Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alenawinternaturalhealth
Additional resources:
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Have you ever felt pressure to âjust be gratefulâ? Maybe you have sat down to write a gratitude list before, but it took you a while to think of things about your life, your relationship, your partnerâand you felt guilty about it; âshouldnât I be more grateful?!â
In this weekâs episode, I sit down with Karden Rabin, nervous system expert to explore a new perspective on gratitude that will (hopefully) help you feel way less pressure and approach it from a more compassionate lens. This was a big shift for me when I first heard Karden explain it, and I am grateful for him sharing with the You Love and You Learn community!
For more of Kardenâs work:
His website: www.somiainternational.com
His Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kardenrabin/?hl=en
Somia International Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/somiainternational/?hl=en
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Having a strong mindset in relationships can be a big game-changer. Our mindset affects the way we think, feel, and behaveâso it makes a big difference if we come from a mindset of âwhy bother?â (victim mindset) or âI canât change anywayâ (fixed mindset) as compared to a mindset of âI can influence my life and relationship (creator mindset) or âI am not there yetâbut I am getting thereâ (growth mindset).
And this January, I am going to be focused on helping you strengthen your relationship mindset! Strengthening my mindset has helped me go from feeling stuck and helpless to empowered and confident in my relationship. (No, not 100% of the time, not perfectlyâbut enough to make a difference!)
Todayâs episode gives you an exciting sneak-peek into Day 1 of my upcoming 7-Day Challenge: Strengthening Your Relationship Mindset in 2025. The challenge is taking place inside the You Love and You Learn Patreon membership, and you can join here for just $7/month!
Join the Patreon here: https://www.patreon.com/YouLoveandYouLearn
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Nate and I celebrated 8 years together yesterday, and I wanted to take some time to reflect on what Iâve learned in our time together. The 8 lessons I explore in more detail are:
The more we resist feeling âbadââthe more we suffer. The more we accept feeling âbadââthe sooner it will come and goItâs much easier to look at the ways our partner is lacking than to turn inward and see our own shortcomingsDonât sweep things under the rug, but donât spend excessive time thinking and thinking and thinking about them eitherMake the unspoken spokenTrust that your partner has positive or neutral intentionsâthey are not trying to hurt youWedding planning doesnât have to be stressful or magical, it can be whatever you make it.The messy, boring, hard moments donât make it to someoneâs social media page 99% of the timeâbut theyâre part of being human.Instead of trying to âbe more lovingâ to othersâbe compassionate towards the barriers in your heart. This in and of itself is an act of love and will help you softenAdditional resources:
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I am so excited to bring you this conversation with Dr. Courtney Paré, a licensed naturopathic doctor, holistic anxiety coach, speaker, and author. Courtney empowers those facing anxiety and OCD to experience greater peace and confidence in their lives and relationships, and just published her first book Overcoming Relationship Anxiety!
I had a chance to read the book and itâs fantastic. I know this resource and the wisdom Courtney shares in this episode will be useful for anyone who experiences relationship anxiety.
For more of Courtneyâs work:
Get Overcoming Relationship Anxiety hereCheck out her website hereAdditional resources:
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