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Supporting an autistic child can be challenging, especially when our own beliefs get in the way.
In this episode, Jackie Hall explores how our expectations affect understanding autism and parenting.
We cover:
âą Hidden beliefs shaping our responses
âą Social communication challenges
âą How needs evolve over time and why we must adjust expectations
âą Conflict resolution without perfection
âą Why you donât need to be a âperfect parentâWhether youâre a parent, caregiver, or educator, this episode offers compassionate insights to support your child, and yourself.
Subscribe to Beneath Behaviour for more in-depth conversations with parents, experts, and advocates.
For more information on the lenses and Jackie Hall's teachings, you can go to www.parentalstresscentre.com
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When everything is too much, how do we meet that moment with compassion, not control?
In this episode of Beneath Behaviour, Jackie Hall guides you through what to do during a meltdown, when your childâs emotions are big, their nervous system is flooded, and everything feels chaotic.
We explore:
The stages of a meltdown, and how to respond to eachWhat co-regulation really means in practiceHow to avoid the âconflict cycleâWhy logic and teaching donât work when survival mode takes overHow to reconnect and repair afterwardsâš This is part two of our series on meltdowns. If you havenât heard âBefore the Meltdown,â go back and start there.
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For more information about our Parenting programs, go to www.parentalstresscentre.com
KEYWORDS: parenting meltdowns, understanding child behaviour, nervous system and parenting, emotional regulation, autism and meltdowns, highly sensitive kids, parenting overwhelm#MeltdownSupport #ParentingTools #EmotionalParenting #BeneathBehaviour #JackieHall #ParentingInTheMoment #CoRegulation #NervousSystemParenting
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In this episode of Beneath Behaviour, we take a step back to understand whatâs really going on before a child explodes, emotionally, neurologically, and relationally.
This isnât about control, defiance, or âbadâ behaviour. Itâs about a nervous system under pressure, and the signs we often miss in the lead-up.
We explore:
The difference between meltdowns, tantrums, and shutdownsHow the SUPER framework helps overcome overwhelmHow your childâs nervous system shapes their reactionsWhy prevention starts outside the momentWhat it means to meet distress with understanding, not urgencyâš This is part one of a two-part series on meltdowns. In this episode, we focus on the out-of-moment insights that help us prepare. In part two, weâll dive into what to do in the heat of it.
For more information on our Autism program or other Parenting program, you can go to www.parentalstresscentre.com
KEYWORDS: parenting meltdowns, understanding child behaviour, nervous system and parenting, emotional regulation, autism and meltdowns, highly sensitive kids, parenting overwhelm
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Do you ever feel like no matter how hard you try, youâre not âgetting it rightâ as a parent?
You're not alone. Parental guilt, perfectionism, and the constant pressure to do more are stories many of us carry, often without realising it.In this episode, Jackie and mum Amanda explore:
- Why guilt and perfectionism show up in parenting
- How the pressure to âget it rightâ affects our nervous system
- How old beliefs shape our reactions â especially when raising neurodivergent kids
- Gentle ways to shift these patterns and meet ourselves with more compassionBeneath Behaviour is the podcast where we explore whatâs really going on - beneath the behaviour.
đ Subscribe to Beneath Behaviour for more in-depth conversations with parents, experts, and advocates.
For more information about the lenses and what Jackie Hall teaches, you can go to www.parentalstresscentre.com
#ParentingPodcast #ParentalGuilt #ParentingPerfectionism #ParentingPressure #ParentingBurnout #NeurodivergentParenting #MindfulParenting #ParentingStress #BeneathBehaviour #SelfCompassion #autismmum
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In this special episode of Beneath Behaviour, host Jackie Hall speaks with Nicci Smith, mother of Tanner Smith, who captured hearts worldwide on Netflixâs Love on the Spectrum. ï»żï»żï»żï»ż
In this deeply personal episode, Nicci shares her journey raising an autistic child, ï»żfrom diagnosis to life after the show. They discuss parenting challenges, nurturing independence, sibling dynamics, and how to embrace each child's unique path.
Perfect for autism parents, fans of the show, and anyone navigating parenting a neurodivergent child.
#AutismParenting #LoveOnTheSpectrum #ParentingPodcast #AutismSupport #Neurodiversity #Parenting
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Theyâre not being defiant.
Theyâre not âjust refusing.â
Theyâre overwhelmed â and their nervous system is calling the shots.In this solo episode, Jackie Hall dives deep into the emotional and physiological roots of âschool canâtâ â when a child literally cannot face the school day.
We explore:
â Why school environments can feel traumatic to some children
â The 6 key stress categories that stack until they crack
â How to support safety first â not compliance
â And what to do when youâre being told to âjust get them thereâFor any parent or educator navigating the heartbreak of school-based anxiety and shutdowns â this episode offers clarity, validation, and a way forward.
đż Learn more about our Autism Parenting Program at The Parental Stress Centre
#SchoolCant #BeneathBehaviour #AutisticKids #SchoolAnxiety #NeurodivergentParenting #TraumaInformed #EmotionalSafety #ParentalBurnout #BehaviourUnderstood #ParentingSupport #JackieHall #ParentalStressCentre
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What if autism wasnât the problem â but how weâve been taught to see it, was?
In this episode, Jackie shares a heartfelt and honest conversation about parenting autistic children through the first two lenses of her SUPER Framework: Self-Awareness and Understanding.
We explore:
What you believe about autism â and how it can shape your approach to autism
Why behaviour is communication
How to shift from the âdeficitâ model to a neuro-affirming approach to Autism
How executive functioning, sensory overload, and social differences show up in everyday life
Why your childâs identity doesnât need to be reshaped â but their environment might
Whether youâre navigating meltdowns, overwhelm, or just trying to find your feet â this episode is a gentle reset.
It's not teaching you 'another new strategy.' It's giving you a new lens.
đ§ Listen now â and letâs begin with you.
Learn more about our Autism Parenting Program here.
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Ever felt like youâre the only family not following the script?
In this episode, Jackie chats with Sarah â a mum of four neurodivergent teens â about what happens when you stop trying to parent ârightâ and start parenting real.
They explore the early missteps, the power of self-diagnosis, and how burnout became the wake-up call Sarah didnât know she needed. From ADHD to autism, perfectionism to self-worth, this is one of our most honest episodes yet.
We talk about:
- Recognising your own neurodivergence through your kids
- The chaos of trying to parent like everyone else
- Why flexibility, humour, and self-compassion are essential
- Letting go of who you thought you should be
This is for every parent trying to do it differently â and wondering if theyâre doing it wrong.
#BeneathBehaviour #ParentingOutsideTheBox #NeurodivergentParenting #ParentingPodcast #ADHDParent #AutismParent #RealTalkParenting #SelfCompassion #BurnoutSupport #JackieHall #GentleParentingJourney -
You keep trying to manage the behaviour.
But what if the real change starts beneath it?In this episode, I introduce the SUPER Framework â a 5-part lens that helps parents understand whatâs really going on when their child is struggling.
We talk about:
The stress stories behind your reactions
Why behaviour is never random
How to support your child with insight, not just strategies
If youâve ever thought, âWhy do they keep doing this?â or âWhy do I keep snapping?â â this episode is for you.
Behaviour always makes sense. You just have to know how to look.
For more information about our Autism program or other Parenting Programs please go to: www.parentalstresscentre.com
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If youâve ever had a child who struggles to get to school â or stay there â youâre not alone. In this episode, Jackie talks with Melissa, a parent of two neurodivergent kids, about what it really means when school becomes too much.
We explore the emotional and practical layers of school canât â from sensory overwhelm and academic pressure to masking, social stress, and nervous system fatigue.
This isnât a story of defiance. Itâs a story of survival â and what happens when we meet our kids with understanding instead of urgency.
Whether youâre a parent, teacher, or support person, this conversation offers clarity, compassion, and a new way to see what's really going on beneath the behaviour.
For more ways to connect with Beneath Behaviour:
https://www.parentalstresscentre.com/beneath-behaviour-podcasts-with-jackie-hall/
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Whether you're quietly struggling yourself, or supporting someone who is, this episode of the Beneath Behaviour Podcast helps you understand what depression can really look and feel like beneath the surface. Because not everyone with depression looks sad.Some keep functioning.Some keep smiling.Some just go quiet.Jackie Hall takes you beyond the surface â into the hidden inner world of depression. This conversation will help you understand what's really happening beneath the behaviour, and what to do next with clarity and compassion.Weâll explore:- The four stress lenses and how âmissing outâ and âworthlessâ shape depressive thoughts- Why people often donât realise theyâre stuck in a depression loop- The top-down and bottom-up connection (how your thoughts and body feed each other)- What subtle signs to look and listen for â in yourself or someone else- Why withdrawal makes sense â and how to gently interrupt the cycle- And how, for some people â often men â depression can show up as anger rather than sadnessThis is not about diagnosing. Itâs about compassion, awareness, and practical insight.đ§ Listen to the podcast on your favourite platform:Apple: https://apple.co/3E0WH7ISpotify: https://spoti.fi/3Rn39XMAmazon: https://amzn.to/3ru2r3bGoogle: https://bit.ly/3E4LSdWđż Explore more at: https://www.parentalstresscentre.comđŹ Follow for more daily support + insights:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/parentalstresscentreFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/parentalstresscentređ Donât forget to subscribe, like, and share this episode with someone who needs to hear it. You never know who might be quietly struggling.#parentingwithdepression #depression #parentingwithmentalillness #mentalhealthsupport #parentingstruggles #parentingmindset #mentalhealthformoms #postnatnaldepression #how to cope with parenting stress
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In this heartfelt episode, Jackie sits down with Francesca, a mum navigating life after her 12-year-old daughterâs recent autism diagnosis. As her daughter begins to seek more independence, Francesca finds herself caught between supporting that need and managing the emotional meltdowns that sometimes follow.Together, they explore the challenges of growing independence during the teenage years, why this push-pull dynamic makes sense for many anxious teenage children, and how parents can support these big transitions with empathy and clarity.Youâll hear five practical strategies for building confidence and autonomy in a way that respects your childâs emotional needs and unique pace.If you've ever wondered why your child both craves and resists independence, or you're looking for ways to support that journey without overwhelm, this episode of Beneath Behaviour is for you.Tags#autismfamily #independence #Supportingautisticteens, #teenagers #meltdowns #autismparenting #autisticgirl #Autismparentingstrategies #Independenceandautism #Autismtransitions #Autisticteenagers #supportingchildren #teenagers
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What do you do when life doesnât go to planâwhen parenting feels overwhelming, messy, or like youâre just not measuring up?
In this heartfelt episode, Jackie Hall gently unpacks how we can shift our mindset in those hard momentsânot by pretending theyâre easy, but by learning how to meet them differently. With warmth, humor, and real-life examples, Jackie introduces the âupgradesââsimple but powerful mindset shifts that help you move from self-criticism to self-compassion, from frustration to clarity.
Youâll walk away with practical language you can use in your own mind (and with your kids), and a gentle reminder that even in the mud, thereâs meaning.
This episode is for any parentâor any humanâwhoâs ever wondered, âWhat now?â after life throws them off course. Thereâs no pressure here, just perspective... and maybe even peace.
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In this heartfelt episode, Jackie sits down with Emma, a mum who’s navigating the emotional distance in her relationship with her 21-year-old daughter. Over the years, their connection has become strained, and Emma is searching for a way to repair the rupture and rebuild trust.Together, they explore the layers that often sit beneath relationship breakdowns — the stories we tell ourselves, the guilt we carry, and the need to feel heard. This is a raw and compassionate conversation about taking ownership, listening without defence, and showing up differently, even when it feels hard.If you’ve ever wondered how to reconnect after conflict, whether it's with your adult child, teenager or younger child, or how to be seen for the parent you are now, not who you used to be, this one will speak to you. Because healing is possible, and it starts with understanding what’s really going on beneath behaviour.
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You promise yourself you’ll stay calm. You’ll be patient. You won’t yell this time. But then something sets you off. The chaos, the resistance, the backtalk. And before you know it, you’ve snapped again. The guilt creeps in. The shame follows. And you’re left wondering why it feels impossible to break the cycle.In this episode, we take a deeper look at what’s really going on beneath those intense emotional reactions. You’ll learn how your thought patterns and emotional habits have been wired over time, and why your reactions are not just about willpower. We explore how stress builds through specific thought lenses, how your body and brain are reinforcing those reactions, and what it actually takes to shift them.This is about understanding, not judging. It’s about compassion over criticism. And it’s about giving yourself the tools to step off the emotional rollercoaster and respond with more calm, clarity and control, even in the chaos.Listen now to begin changing the way you experience parenting from the inside out.
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What if your parenting stress is coming from the lenses you’re looking through?Ever found yourself snapping, spiralling or stuck in guilt — and not really sure why? It might not be about what’s happening, but how your mind is seeing what’s happening.In this episode, we unpack the four hidden thought lenses that shape how you experience parenting — the ones quietly fuelling your reactions, your stress, and the story you tell yourself when things don’t go to plan. These lenses are deeply ingrained, often running in the background, distorting how you see your child’s behaviour… and your own.But once you can see them, you can start to shift them.You’ll walk away with a new awareness of what’s really happening beneath the surface — and the first steps to changing the way you think, feel and show up as a parent.Because when behaviour starts to make sense, so does everything else.
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In this deeply personal first episode, Jackie Hall opens up about the moment that changed everything — a breaking point that would eventually lead to the work she’s known for today.Joined by long-time friend and colleague Kristy, Jacqui shares the raw, emotional beginnings of her parenting journey, the spiral of stress, guilt and anger she found herself in, and the powerful shift that helped her take back control. Together, they reflect on the early days of this work, how the Parental Stress Centre was born, and the values that continue to shape Beneath Behaviour.This episode is honest, vulnerable and real — the perfect introduction to why this podcast exists and how it can help you understand what’s going on beneath the surface of your own parenting experience.Because when behaviour makes sense, everything starts to change.
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