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Hello my dear friend,
I get it, I have said this over and over myself. However, today, I would like you to take a step back and really reflect on this thought "I don't have time for myself".
I walk you through some reflection prompts and how you can view this problem a little differently and work through it.
Making time for yourself doesn't need to be 2 hours every day. It is a little moment of connection, a little moment that reminds you that you are important.
Don't skip this activity this week, take a moment to reflect on what your needs are and how you can start making space for them. You matter, lease don't forget that my dear friend.
I hope you have a beautiful and lovely week,
Cindy
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Let's chat about self-compassion with the scientist that created the self-compassion scale herself!
Today, I am joined by Dr. Kristen Neff, Tedx speaker and author of Self-Compassion: The proven power of being kind to yourself. Leading expert in self-compassion, Dr. Neff walks us through what it means to be self-compassion and how we can start with baby steps to be kinder to ourselves.
I remember being a first time mom and how I had so much guilt around everything I did with my daughter. Our inner dialogue can be so tough on us, while on the other hand, we offer a nurturing hand to our friends. I know I am not alone in this because many moms and dads have shared these struggles with me.
If you are ready to be kinder to yourself and to see this impact on your mental health and physical health, then take 47 min to listen to this powerful conversation! '
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Resources:
Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself
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Pok Pok app. Click on the link below to get 50% off an entire year of this amazing open-ended play app for kids! https://playpokpok.com/redeem/?code=50CURIOUSNEURON BetterHelp is the worldâs largest therapy service, and itâs 100% online. Click the link below to get 15% off the first month of therapy http://www.betterhelp.com/curiousneuron Holstee Inspiration and tools to help you live a more meaningful life. Membership, reflection cards for kids and adults:. Enjoy 20% off your purchase using the link below:
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Have you ever found yourself scrubbing baseboards and questioned why you place so much pressure on yourself? As I prepare for my trip to California at the end of the month, that exact introspection led to a profound realization about the 'shoulds' in my life, a topic I eagerly explore with Erica Djossa, therapist and author of "Releasing the Motherload," on our latest Curious Neuron podcast episode. Together, we scrutinize the mental load that mothers bear, addressing the invisible tasks and the ever-elusive balance between self-care and parenting.
We offer you strategies for dealing with the intense emotional landscape that comes with parenting, ensuring that you feel seen, understood, and empowered to align your actions with your personal values. Wrapping up our conversation, we touch upon the cultural myth of the perfect mother, the critical importance of articulating boundaries, and how to advocate for yourself in an often overwhelming parenting journey. It's an episode for mothers and parents at any stage, tune in for a guiding light through the complexities of maternal mental health and well-being.
Buy Erica's new book:
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https://www.momwell.com/
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Pok Pok app. Click on the link below to get 50% off an entire year of this amazing open-ended play app for kids! https://playpokpok.com/redeem/?code=50CURIOUSNEURON BetterHelp is the worldâs largest therapy service, and itâs 100% online. Click the link below to get 15% off the first month of therapy http://www.betterhelp.com/curiousneuron Holstee Inspiration and tools to help you live a more meaningful life. Membership, reflection cards for kids and adults:. Enjoy 20% off your purchase using the link below:
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I really messed up last night and I want to share this with you so that you can learn from my mistake.
When we are feeling stressed or overwhelmed, it can trickle down to our kids. If we don't notice this, then all we see if a child that is "misbehaving" when in reality it is a child that is dysregulated, doesn't feel connected, doesn't feel validated or seen.
When we NOTICE this, it makes it easier for us to switch our own behaviour or thoughts with the goal of changing how it is impacting our child.
In this episode, I share the bedtime story that would might be able to relate to and I share some reflection prompts to help you work through it the next time this happens to you.
If you connect with this episode, please take a moment to rate it or review or. You can also email me to say hello!
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Pok Pok app. Click on the link below to get 50% off an entire year of this amazing open-ended play app for kids! https://playpokpok.com/redeem/?code=50CURIOUSNEURON BetterHelp is the worldâs largest therapy service, and itâs 100% online. Click the link below to get 15% off the first month of therapy http://www.betterhelp.com/curiousneuron Holstee Inspiration and tools to help you live a more meaningful life. Membership, reflection cards for kids and adults:. Enjoy 20% off your purchase using the link below:
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Let's talk about executive functions and how these skills support your child's academic performance!
In today's episode, I chat with Dr. Stephanie Carlson, Tedx speaker and Distinguished McKnight University Professor in the Institute of Child Development at the University of Minnesota. She investigates basic developmental processes in executive function in children.
If your child often gets stuck in their emotions, struggle with staying focused or struggles with getting organized or planning, this is a must-listen episode for you!
We chat about emotions, sleep (I learned that total hours of sleep isn't as important as I thought!) and how you can support your child in their early years to help them build these important skills that create the foundation of their future emotional and physical health.
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Sources:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BvyTiC_byOo
https://reflectionsciences.com/
https://reflectiveperformanceinc.com/
Study: Metacognitive processes and associations to executive function and motivation during a problem-solving task in 3â5 year olds
https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s11409-020-09244-6
Join her study!
Dr. Carlson is currently conducting a fully online research study examining the predictors of career interests in children, as EF skills might be one overlooked predictor of the topics and jobs students are drawn to in high school and beyond. To be eligible for this study, you must live in the United States, and your child must be in 4th or 8th grade in the 2023-24 school year. Families will be contacted each year for 4 years. Compensation (wide selection of gift cards) depends on level of participation and ranges from $10-$50 per year.
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Pok Pok app. Click on the link below to get 50% off an entire year of this amazing open-ended play app for kids! https://playpokpok.com/redeem/?code=50CURIOUSNEURON BetterHelp is the worldâs largest therapy service, and itâs 100% online. Click the link below to get 15% off the first month of therapy http://www.betterhelp.com/curiousneuron Holstee Inspiration and tools to help you live a more meaningful life. Membership, reflection cards for kids and adults:. Enjoy 20% off your purchase using the link below:
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Ever wondered how your stress levels could be painting the world for your little ones? I unpack the spillover theory and zero in on pivotal insights from current studies that reveal the depth of our influence on our kidsâ behavior. Itâs a journey of reflectionâa look in the mirror at our own stress and parenting stylesâand a step towards cultivating a nurturing and conscious home environment.
Finally, I arm you with the strategies to manage stress effectively. From recognizing what you can control and influence to establishing vital boundaries, especially in your most intimate relationships. I dive into coping strategies that target the source of stress and ways to address tension in marriages, comprehending how these can reverberate through the family. By the end of this episode, you'll be equipped with a deeper understanding and practical solutions to enhance not only your well-being but also that of your family.
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Sources:
WorkâFamily Spillover and Subjective WellâBeing: The Moderating Role of Coping Strategies
https://www.midus.wisc.edu/findings/pdfs/2108.pdf
Linking family relationships with peer relationships based on spillover theory: A positive perspective
https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/pdf/10.1177/02654075221074399?casa_token=BOvwr2uB8CMAAAAA:3kw5VONwsMmivalZJJvmHtH46D-hHyfwlG0-ra2oGxXaG01aeiXujzyE83pI0kR771Faxmtk6BBcM_4
Spillover in the Home: The Effects of Family Conflict on Parents' Behavior
https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/pdf/10.1111/jomf.12265?casa_token=RJs5uAsU3aEAAAAA:IwZT1hI8xS72O1su3M4EEnwgf1H8VazU40nU7zmmdESslfw3ypkYWb4Bu866ctBz9e7Dc4OO3dSCACBmPlease leave a rating for our podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify! Email me at [email protected]
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THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSORS! Get some discounts using the links below
Thank you to our main supporters the Tanenbaum Open Science Institute at The Neuro and the McConnell Foundation.Discounts for our community!
Pok Pok app. Click on the link below to get 50% off an entire year of this amazing open-ended play app for kids! https://playpokpok.com/redeem/?code=50CURIOUSNEURON BetterHelp is the worldâs largest therapy service, and itâs 100% online. Click the link below to get 15% off the first month of therapy http://www.betterhelp.com/curiousneuron Holstee Inspiration and tools to help you live a more meaningful life. Membership, reflection cards for kids and adults:. Enjoy 20% off your purchase using the link below:
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Ever wonder how your earliest experiences of love and connection with caregivers are playing out in your adult relationships? Join me, along with couples therapist Vanessa Morgan, as we uncover how attachment styles developed in infancy can have a far-reaching influence on our interaction patterns with romantic partners and even our children. Vanessa guides us through understanding different attachment styles, the importance of self-reflection, and the powerful effect of establishing secure connections that can rewrite our relationship narratives for the better.
We learn that expressing personal needs and understanding the physical sensations linked to emotions are essential skills for healthier interactions. Vanessa and I also tackle the delicacy of parental conflict, the necessity of a post-argument narrative for children's emotional security, and how these moments of repair can strengthen our bonds.
Lastly, we highlight the importance of addressing personal traumas, the principles of secure functioning in partnerships, and how these steps can prevent negative cycles from repeating in future generations.
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Listen to Similar Episodes:
Dr. Tracy Dalgleish: How to maintain a healthy relationship after having kids
Protecting yourself and healing from a narcissistic person with best selling author Dr. Ramani Durvasula
Watch this episode on YouTube:
https://youtu.be/Ea4NF3EudNo
Purchase the Reflective Parent Workbook ($29.99) or get $10 off if you leave a review for my podcast and send me a screenshot at [email protected]
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THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSORS! Get some discounts using the links below
Thank you to our main supporters the Tanenbaum Open Science Institute at The Neuro and the McConnell Foundation.Discounts for our community!
Pok Pok app. Click on the link below to get 50% off an entire year of this amazing open-ended play app for kids! https://playpokpok.com/redeem/?code=50CURIOUSNEURON BetterHelp is the worldâs largest therapy service, and itâs 100% online. Click the link below to get 15% off the first month of therapy http://www.betterhelp.com/curiousneuron Holstee Inspiration and tools to help you live a more meaningful life. Membership, reflection cards for kids and adults:. Enjoy 20% off your purchase using the link below:
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As a mom of three with a neuroscience background, I've come to understand that the emotional health of fathers is a critical but often overlooked topic. That's why I invited Dr. Matt Englar-Carlson, an expert in counseling and male psychology, onto the podcast. Our conversation offers an essential guide for anyone invested in the development of healthy boyhood and supportive environments for men as they embrace parenting, with insights into breaking cycles of anger and fostering emotional regulation.
In our final thoughts, Dr. Englar-Carlson and I reflect on the significance of building healthy relationships for life success. We explore how being a positive force in the lives of children, partners, and friends can be the cornerstone of well-being. For fathers and all listeners seeking to enhance their mental health and emotional expression, this episode is an invitation to explore new pathways and embrace the journey toward more fulfilling personal connections.
MENTAL App:
https://www.getmental.com/
Sources:
Accentuating positive masculinity: A new foundation for the psychology of boys, men, and masculinity.The American psychological Association's practice guidelines for men and boys: Are they hurting rather than helping male mental wellness?
Rate AND review the Curious Neuron podcast and send me a screenshot to get my Reflective Parent Workbook for FREE (offer valid until Sunday, March 11th, 2024)
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THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSORS! Get some discounts using the links below
Thank you to our main supporters the Tanenbaum Open Science Institute at The Neuro and the McConnell Foundation.Discounts for our community!
Pok Pok app. Click on the link below to get 50% off an entire year of this amazing open-ended play app for kids! https://playpokpok.com/redeem/?code=50CURIOUSNEURON BetterHelp is the worldâs largest therapy service, and itâs 100% online. Click the link below to get 15% off the first month of therapy http://www.betterhelp.com/curiousneuron Holstee Inspiration and tools to help you live a more meaningful life. Membership, reflection cards for kids and adults:. Enjoy 20% off your purchase using the link below:
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As I dive into leadership and business books, I can't help make the link with parenting. I think leadership books are the best parenting books!
How to start a business while also being a stay-at-home mom Being a parent is similar to being a CEOMelinda Wenner Moyer: Raising kind humans
I gave a workshop this week to a leadership team and realized how many of these tips applied to parenting so this week, I break down 3 aspects of this talk and give you some reflection prompts to apply this to your home.
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Pok Pok app. Click on the link below to get 50% off an entire year of this amazing open-ended play app for kids! https://playpokpok.com/redeem/?code=50CURIOUSNEURON BetterHelp is the worldâs largest therapy service, and itâs 100% online. Click the link below to get 15% off the first month of therapy http://www.betterhelp.com/curiousneuron Holstee Inspiration and tools to help you live a more meaningful life. Membership, reflection cards for kids and adults:. Enjoy 20% off your purchase using the link below:
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Dr. Ramani and I rigorously tackle the complexities that emerge when parenting with or alongside a narcissist, offering invaluable strategies for setting boundaries and cultivating a nurturing environment for both parents and children.
We discuss the often-overlooked impact narcissistic parenting has on the developmental stages of children, from their tender infancy to their more independent years. We confront the harsh truth that parenthood doesn't magically reform a narcissist and discuss the imperative role of a supportive, responsive parent in mitigating a narcissist's unpredictable influence. Delving into the intricacies of equitable parenting and its significance on familial harmony, this episode sheds light on fostering a balanced family dynamic, even amidst the challenges posed by a narcissistic partner or parent.
Sources:
https://srcd.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/cdep.12362https://www.pnas.org/doi/full/10.1073/pnas.1420870112
https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0956797620965536
Read Dr. Ramani's new book It's Not You:
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THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSORS! Get some discounts using the links below
Thank you to our main supporters the Tanenbaum Open Science Institute at The Neuro and the McConnell Foundation.Discounts for our community!
Pok Pok app. Click on the link below to get 50% off an entire year of this amazing open-ended play app for kids! https://playpokpok.com/redeem/?code=50CURIOUSNEURON BetterHelp is the worldâs largest therapy service, and itâs 100% online. Click the link below to get 15% off the first month of therapy http://www.betterhelp.com/curiousneuron Holstee Inspiration and tools to help you live a more meaningful life. Membership, reflection cards for kids and adults:. Enjoy 20% off your purchase using the link below:
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My grandfather Roger always said that the true measure of character is found not in comfort, but in the face of challenge. In this episode, I share my story of a day I called my grandpa pretending to be sick when I was in high school.
This story is a reminder that we need to place our children in uncomfortable situations to help them work on their inner dialogue and motivation. It also reminds, the parents, that we need to do the same.
I hope you enjoy my story about my grandpa Roger, he was the world to me and taught me so much!
Ready to start working on yourself? I've got you!
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Pok Pok app. Click on the link below to get 50% off an entire year of this amazing open-ended play app for kids! https://playpokpok.com/redeem/?code=50CURIOUSNEURON BetterHelp is the worldâs largest therapy service, and itâs 100% online. Click the link below to get 15% off the first month of therapy http://www.betterhelp.com/curiousneuron Holstee Inspiration and tools to help you live a more meaningful life. Membership, reflection cards for kids and adults:. Enjoy 20% off your purchase using the link below:
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Being a new parent can make you feel really alone. But don't worry, I talked to Dr. Kelly Elliott and Dr. Tracy Vozar, and we had a chat that might make you feel better.
Today, we talk about the different ways people raise kids and how it can affect our feelings. We also look at how feeling anxious and trying to be the perfect parent can make us feel really lonely. We talk about how social media can help connect parents and make them feel less alone.
We don't just talk about the problems, though. We also give you practical tips and resources to help you through the tough times of being a new parent. The Baby Steps lab at DU has a lot of useful stuff, and we share some simple self-care ideas to help you take care of yourself. Let's celebrate the small moments that make being a parent a bit easier, and work towards a future where parents' mental health is a big deal in our community.
Resources mentioned during the conversation:
Alexandra Sacks, M.D TED TALK
Baby S.T.E.P.S. lab resources HERE
We mentioned the term "good enough parenting" and cited Circle of Security
Maternal Mortality and Morbidity article HERE
Tracy and team's publication on P-PTSD HERE
Infographic on intrusive thoughts HERE
Curious Neuron Podcast Episodes for new parents:
5 tips for new parents HERE
Advice for new parents HERE
What new parents should know about brain development HERE
When should a tantrum become a concern? Article HERE
Watch this episode of YouTube: https://youtu.be/H4xaY5Z5bFUPlease leave a rating for our podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify! Email me at [email protected]
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Thank you to our main supporters the Tanenbaum Open Science Institute at The Neuro and the McConnell Foundation.Discounts for our community!
Pok Pok app. Click on the link below to get 50% off an entire year of this amazing open-ended play app for kids! https://playpokpok.com/redeem/?code=50CURIOUSNEURON BetterHelp is the worldâs largest therapy service, and itâs 100% online. Click the link below to get 15% off the first month of therapy http://www.betterhelp.com/curiousneuron Holstee Inspiration and tools to help you live a more meaningful life. Membership, reflection cards for kids and adults:. Enjoy 20% off your purchase using the link below:
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Have you ever wondered how to keep the spark alive in your relationship and fend off the threat of monotony that might edge you toward divorce? Join me, Cindy Hovington, along with Amy Morin, author of "13 Things Mentally Strong Couples Don't Do," as we uncover the secrets to a flourishing partnership that benefits not just you and your spouse, but your children as well.
We discuss the delicate balance of setting boundaries in a relationship can feel like walking a tightrope, but it's a vital act for maintaining a healthy connection. We reveal how to introduce boundaries with sensitivity and strength, even in well-established relationships, and take a closer look at the underlying issues that trivial squabbles can mask. If you're ready to challenge the myth that your partner should be your everything, this episode is for you.
Lastly, we tackle the pervasive challenge of martyrdom and how to foster a more equitable partnership through delegation and open dialogue. With these actionable insights, Amy and I guide you in strengthening your bond and renewing the joy in your journey together.
Get Amy's Book Here:
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Canada: https://amzn.to/3SilDvv
RELATED PODCAST EPISODES
Listen to my previous conversation with Amy about mentally strong kids:
https://www.buzzsprout.com/1255388/11767725
Listen to my conversation with therapist Dr. Tracy Dalgleish: How to maintain a healthy relationship after having kids
https://www.buzzsprout.com/1255388/13551469
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https://www.instagram.com/amymorinauthor/
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THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSORS! Get some discounts using the links below
Thank you to our main supporters the Tanenbaum Open Science Institute at The Neuro and the McConnell Foundation.Discounts for our community!
Pok Pok app. Click on the link below to get 50% off an entire year of this amazing open-ended play app for kids! https://playpokpok.com/redeem/?code=50CURIOUSNEURON BetterHelp is the worldâs largest therapy service, and itâs 100% online. Click the link below to get 15% off the first month of therapy http://www.betterhelp.com/curiousneuron Holstee Inspiration and tools to help you live a more meaningful life. Membership, reflection cards for kids and adults:. Enjoy 20% off your purchase using the link below:
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Hang tight for a cozy chat that's like catching up with your parent BFF â we're spilling the beans on emotions and parenting with Jenny from EQ School. No fancy talk, just a laid-back convo packed with aha moments.
From decoding our emotions to setting real, self-care boundaries, we're giving you the inside scoop on the family feels. This isn't your typical podcast; it's your backstage pass to leveling up your connection game at home.
Emotional intelligence isn't just for suits â it's a game-changer for your living room, especially in the parenting chaos. Join us as we spill secrets on handling emotional triggers, squeezing in some self-reflection, and calling in backup when needed.
No cookie-cutter boundaries here â we're talking self-care magic that turns your family dynamic into a well-choreographed dance. Learn to speak your needs loud and clear while giving your emotional health a boost.
This episode is all about reflection â your golden ticket to expressing emotions and parenting with sanity. We're dishing tips on building your emotional vocab, navigating the ups and downs of raising emotionally aware kids, and why it's okay to let those emotions flow.
So, grab your drink of choice, kick back, and join us for a chat that's all about beefing up your emotional IQ and becoming the parent rockstar you were born to be. Let's do this!
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Ever wonder why your heart races with anticipation or why a simple hug can calm your nerves? Prepare to unlock the mysteries of your emotional landscape with the theories of Dr. Lisa Feldman Barrett, author of How Emotions are Made, as we examine the complex world of constructed emotions. I am reading her book and I want to share some key concepts with you that will change your perspective on emotions.
We delve into the nuances of emotional granularity, exploring how a keen awareness of our micro emotions can prevent the depletion of our mental and physical resources.
If you want to rethink emotions, tune-in to today's episode!
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Today is a very special episode on emotional intelligence with world renowned researcher Dr. Marc Brackett, director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence. As we navigate the intricate ties between emotions, parenting, and education, Dr. Brackett shares his profound expertise on the RULER approach and the pivotal role of emotions in shaping our lives.
Our conversation extends beyond theory to offer tangible strategies that help us grant both ourselves and our children the 'permission to feel,' a crucial step in fostering mental health and well-being.
We discuss how consistent role modeling across all environmentsâbe it at home or schoolâis essential in teaching our young ones to navigate the complex world of emotions. This episode is an eye-opener for anyone looking to understand why emotional intelligence should not just be an add-on but a key component of our collective growth.
Lastly, we reflect on the profound impact that emotional intelligence can have on leadership, relationships, and personal fulfillment.
A special thank you to my guest co-host Karl Mercuri, Social and Emotional Learning Coordinator at The Priory Elementary School in Montreal.
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Welcome to Curious Neuron, where our sixth season reminds you to prioritize your emotional health. Join me as we unearth the power of journaling and reflection. I also announce the launch of my new workbook called The Reflective Parent
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This season will be a great one with amazing interviews already lined up with Dr. Marc Brackett, Dr. Ramani and many more!
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Season five comes to a close, and what better way to bid adieu than with a heartfelt guide to steering through the festive frenzy as a parent? I'm Cindy Hevington, and this wrap-up is deeply personal as I share the trials my own family has faced, including my grandmother's recent diagnosis. But it's more than just a story; it's a treasure chest of strategies for setting boundaries and creating game plans with your children. These tactics are crucial, now more than ever, to safeguard our emotional health and preserve mental wellness amidst the holiday hubbub.
As we eagerly look forward to season six, anticipated to be rich with wisdom from guests like Dr. Mark Brackett of Yale University, I extend a warm invitation for you to join the conversation. This episode is not just about overcoming the challenges but thriving with your family during the holidays. It's about respecting your children's personal space, upholding your unique parenting style despite the whirlwind of opinions, and approaching unsolicited advice with grace and assertiveness. Your narratives and experiences are the fabric of our shared journey, enhancing the tapestry of parenthood we continue to weave together.Please leave a rating for our podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify! Email me at [email protected]
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Trapped in a hospital chair at 91, my grandmother's heartfelt story paints a vivid picture of an overlooked issue in our healthcare system. Her trauma-induced aggression, misinterpreted and mishandled, opened my eyes to the crying need for a more compassionate, trauma-informed approach. Together, let's challenge the conventional healthcare narrative and understand the profound links between the young and old, their reactions often misunderstood as misbehavior or aggression.
Reflect on the reasons behind children's behavior and approach it with curiosity and understanding.Advocate for trauma-informed care in all aspects of society, including healthcare, education, and parenting.Recognize the impact of past trauma on individuals and provide support and empathy.Challenge the use of labels like 'misbehavior' and strive to understand the underlying causes.
While we journey through stories that highlight the power and importance of emotional health, we also unmask the haunting prevalence of trauma, with an alarming 60% of individuals having experienced trauma before the age of 15. How can we change our perspective and see these behaviors not as "misbehavior" but as echoes of an often silent struggle? Let's shift our mindset and approach by reframing discipline, focusing on understanding what has happened to an individual rather than labeling them as "bad".
Finally, we tackle the issue of misbehavior in children. Digging deep into root causes, we converse on the importance of mindful parenting and the power of understanding.
TakeawaysPlease leave a rating for our podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify! Email me at [email protected]
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Ever wondered why your toddler's tantrums seem uncontrollable or why your teenager is always sulking? Is it a sign of underlying distress, or a normal part of growing up? These questions and more are answered in this episode where we welcome developmental psychologist, Dr. Amanda Sheffield Morris. She helps us unlock the mysteries of emotional regulation in children, emphasizing the crucial role it plays in their overall health and well-being. We also delve into the intricacies of the parent-child relationship, discussing how it changes as your child progresses through different stages of life. And to top it all off, Dr. Morris shares some practical nuggets from her new book, "Raising a Resilient Child."
But it's not just about the kids. Parents, we're in this too! Our inner world affects our outer reactions, especially when it comes to managing our child's emotions. How we regulate our own emotions can significantly impact our children's emotional development. We're not perfect â and we're not expected to be â but understanding our emotional triggers can help us respond more effectively to our children's needs. In this episode, we also navigate the tumultuous waters of emotions like anger, sadness, worry, and anxiety. We provide tips on how parents can set routines and rituals that support emotional regulation and offer insights into the importance of patience and understanding, especially during the early stages of your child's life.
Towards the end of our discussion, we dive deeper into the world of emotional well-being in parenting. Dr. Morris introduces the concept of "shark music" â the scripts and patterns we have in our minds when it comes to parenting â and how this affects our interactions with our children.
Amanda's Book is out now! Raising a Resilient Child in a World of Adversity: Effective Parenting for Every Family
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Parentsâ adverse childhood experiences and current relationships with their young children
Parent and Peer Emotion Responsivity Styles: An Extension of Gottmanâs Emotion SPlease leave a rating for our podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify! Email me at [email protected]
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