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Welcome to Episode 443 and the kickoff of a brand new seven part summer series: the DADAWESOME MULTIPLIERS. It's a lightweight, campfire ready series built to help you spread the mission of Dad Awesome through the end of August. Each week you'll get a slice of the forthcoming Dad Awesome audiobook, a featured guest voice from the vault, real time multiplication coaching, three practical lab activation steps, and a giveaway.
https://www.dadawesome.org/blog/443
In Part 1, Jeff Zaugg sets the flyover. He reads the book's dedication and preface, tracing how one casual patio question from his cousin in Arizona, "How do you stay intentional as a dad?", exposed that he was pouring growth into every area of life except fatherhood. That single unanswered question sparked a ten week experiment with twenty friends, a first episode filmed at the base of a snowy sledding hill, a name change from DadVentures to DadAwesome, and eventually a movement built on hundreds of small yeses. The episode closes with a two minute clip from Jeff's first ever interview with Mark Batterson, who wrote the forward for the book.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
Intentional fatherhood starts with a question, not a program. Staying awake to "How do you stay intentional as a dad?" changed everything. The mission runs on two turnings from Malachi 4:6, hearts toward heaven and hearts toward home. Read to lead. You don't need 250 books, but read a dozen so you can lead on the home front. Your mistakes are one of your greatest teaching tools. Kids learn to apologize by watching you do it. Prioritize your children, don't idolize them. Batterson names that as a big difference. Batterson learned more about the heart of the Heavenly Father from parenting his three kids than from all his degrees and seminary trips combined. Movements are built on small yeses, not one grand gesture.THIS WEEK'S LABS
Reflection: Do an intentionality audit. Open your notes app or a journal and honestly assess how you're staying intentional, heart toward heaven and heart toward home. What are you reading and listening to? Does your calendar show fatherhood is an area of real pursuit? Multiplication: Be an inviter. Copy paste one text to ten dads inviting them into the seven week challenge through the end of August. Listen each week, then get together to talk about it over coffee, wings, a campfire, a run, a bike ride, or a boat. Get two or more to say yes and you've moved from addition to multiplication. Activation: Name your small yes. What yes have you been putting off that God is nudging you toward this week? A dad daughter date, a date with your wife, a follow through you keep intending but haven't done. Pick it and act on it.GIVEAWAY
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Jenga blocks, jiu jitsu mats, and a decade vision for your family. π
SUMMARY
What if your family values were something your kids could actually touch? In Part 2 of this paddleboard conversation, Tyler Van Eps shares how he turned a Jenga set into a discipleship tool, why physical discomfort opens the door to spiritual growth, and what it takes to build a legacy of courage in your kids. Plus, he unpacks the question God placed on his heart: what is required to be a founding father?
You can only control the outcomes so much as a dad, but you can control the inputs. Zoom out to a 90 day view to realign your family direction. Purpose, vision, and value language is abstract for kids. Make your family values tangible with tools like Jenga blocks and card decks so your kids can see, touch, and speak them. Your family values will stay the same, but the language needs to match the season your kids are in. Men grow through moments of physical and spiritual discomfort. Gatherings like Manmaker sneak spiritual vulnerability in the side door. Think in decades, not just weeks. Ask yourself what you need to be doing today to have a strong relationship with your kids as adults. Your kids will face fear, but you can build a reservoir of courage into their heritage that they can tap into for the rest of their lives.
TAKEAWAYSGUEST
Tyler Van Eps is a husband, father, and intentional family leader passionate about making spiritual formation tangible. He and his wife, Shelly, practice quarterly whole life stewardship reviews and have built family values their kids can see and touch. Tyler is also the creator of Manmaker, a series of high intensity gatherings that challenge men toward biblical manhood through physical and spiritual growth. He and his family live in Minnesota.
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"I wanna be remembered as a good husband, a good father, a follower of Jesus... I wanna be remembered as a courageous person... I can't control whether my kids are afraid or scared of something, but I always want them to feel that they've got somewhere in them, somewhere in their heritage, somewhere in their spirit, a reservoir of courage that they can tap into." "I'm so dialed into what success looks like in my career... I can tell you if I'm on track, off track on anything, but I have no idea how it's all feels as a dad... you can only control the outcomes so much, but there's so much that you can control as far as the inputs." "I want these moments where we ramp up the intensity a little bit... it's immediately putting you in a space of both physical and spiritual discomfort and a little bit of vulnerability. But for men, the physical discomfort almost overrides your awareness of how spiritually uncomfortable you might be." "I was challenged for the first time to think in like a decade thing... when I think about wanting to have a strong relationship with my kids as adults, what are the things that I need to be doing today to set the tone for that?" "Personally I wanted an environment where it felt like I don't know what's gonna come out of this. I don't know when a guy's gonna step up to this blocking sled. I don't know what he's gonna say right before he pushes this thing down ten yards downfield." -
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What happens when two dads strap GoPros to paddleboards and hit the lake at 5:45 in the morning? In this episode, Jeff sits down with longtime friend Tyler Van Eps for a raw, reflective conversation about intentional fatherhood, family rhythms, and what it looks like to lead your kids with purpose. From milestone trips to weekly family huddles to quarterly prayer rhythms, Tyler shares the experiments his family has been running...
FIVE KEY TAKEAWAYS
Fatherhood moves through three distinct seasons of investment: physical, time, and emotional, and knowing which season you're in changes how you show up. A weekly family huddle built around purpose, vision, and values gives your kids a compass they will eventually use to call out greatness in each other. Milestone trips don't have to be expensive or elaborate because what your kids remember most is being pulled out of the normal lineup and seen as an individual. The goal is not to control your family's calendar but to steward it, which means learning when to add things and when to subtract them without shame. Adopting a posture of exploration in your fatherhood is far more sustainable than building rigid rules, because it invites your family into the journey with you.TOP QUOTES
"Instead of being an amazing leader and a decent dad, I want to be an amazing dad and a decent leader." "Follow Jesus, live with enthusiasm, and fight for family. The fight for family came out of, hey guys, we gotta stop fighting with our family and we gotta figure out a way to fight for our family." "There has to be a surrender that's kind of fundamental to the way that you approach fatherhood and family and faith." "Soaking in the moments of peace and allowing them to be there with the assumption that disruptions are around the corner." "If I'm not a steward of the time God's given me with my kids, there are these core memories that I could just be blazing by without even realizing it."GUEST
Tyler Van Eps is a husband, father of four, and Senior Vice President at the National Christian Foundation Twin Cities, where he serves families and business owners around the stewardship of generational wealth and kingdom-minded generosity. A longtime friend of the Dad Awesome community, Tyler has joined the show multiple times including a campfire conversation and a tree fort recording. He is passionate about leading with purpose, living with enthusiasm, and building a family culture rooted in faith.
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Your emotional detachment might be quietly wounding the people you love most.
In PART 2 of our Father's Day LOOK-BACK, Jeff resurfaces five more conversations that hit different the second time around.
β Why your kids can feel when you've checked out emotionally
β How to stop pointing your kids to yourself as the source of life
β The dad who never raised his voice and what it did to his son
β What "unhurried presence" actually looks like in everyday moments
β The hard truth about emotional regulation every dad needs to hear
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SUMMARY
In Part 2 of this Father's Day look-back series, Jeff Zaugg resurfaces five more powerful conversations from the past dad year, featuring Jeremy Pryor, Ted Cunningham, Pastor Tim Timberlake, Mac Lake, and Seth Dahl. The clips cover a dad's superpower of emotional detachment and how it can quietly wound the people he loves most, the faulty input-output theory of parenting and why God is the only true source of life, the transformative power of tone and speaking to the king in your child instead of the fool, the gift of unhurried presence and what it looks like to truly savor your kids, and the hard truth that a man who can't regulate his emotions forces his family to do it for him. This episode is a flyover packed with activation, challenge, and the kind of dad wisdom that sticks.
KEY QUOTES
"My kids can actually feel that. Like, if something were to happen to me, I think dad would be the least affected." β Jeremy Pryor, Ep. 415 "My source is Jesus, not you." β Ted Cunningham, Ep. 417 "In us we have both a fool and a king. The one that you address is the one that will respond." β Pastor Tim Timberlake, Ep. 424 "A posture of unhurried presence. So often we are present with our kids, but we're not present with our kids." β Mac Lake, Ep. 435 "A man who can't regulate his emotions forces his wife and kids to do it for him." β Seth Dahl, Ep. 429TAKEAWAYS
Your emotional detachment is a superpower that can become a weapon. Dads are wired to disconnect under pressure, and that's often a gift. But when that same skill gets used to keep your family at arm's length, your kids feel it. The question isn't how attached you feel. It's whether they feel attached to you. You were never meant to be the source. Pouring into your kids so they pour back into you is a trap. Your job, according to Deuteronomy 6, is to point them every single day to the only true source of life. Fire yourself. Fire your kids. God in heaven is the source. Tone is one of the greatest gifts a dad can give. Pastor Tim Timberlake's father never raised his voice, never disciplined from anger or frustration, and the love in his tone did the convicting. Your size, your volume, your first response, those things mark your kids. Speak to the king in them, not the fool. Unhurried presence is a posture, not a schedule. Mac Lake leaves adult conversations to throw a football for 60 minutes if that's what his grandkids want. The shift is simple but hard: let your kids be the thing that matters most in the moment, not an interruption to what actually matters. Emotional self-control is a fruit your family gets to eat. When you're getting triggered by your six-year-old, you're not parenting. You're asking them to regulate you. The Holy Spirit wants to grow self-control in you so your family is nourished by it. Your heart is upstream to everything in your home.LINKS
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Jeremy Pryor β https://www.dadawesome.org/blog/415 Ted Cunningham β https://www.dadawesome.org/blog/417 Pastor Tim Timberlake β https://www.dadawesome.org/blog/424 Seth Dahl β https://www.dadawesome.org/blog/429 Mac Lake β https://www.dadawesome.org/blog/435 -
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In Part 1 of The Dad Year Lookback, Jeff Zaugg revisits five conversations that stirred something deeper this year, featuring Dave Brickey, Lance Welch, Dr. Jake Smith, Chris Cirullo, and Craig Allen Cooper.
β Why your weakness as a dad might be your greatest strength
β The difference between raising kids in the gap vs. the gain
β How to stop dismissing your own feelings before you dismiss your kids'
β God's call for dads to be bringers of order, not complainers of disorder
β The secret gift of a minivan that turned an atheist toward Jesus
You don't have to do the miracles. You just have to be tight with the man who did. π
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In this Father's Day special, Jeff Zaugg revisits five of the most impactful conversations from the past "dad year"... Featuring voices like Pastor Dave Brickey, Dr. Jake Smith, and Craig Allen Cooper. The clips explore the transformative power of fatherly weakness and repentance, the damage of performance-based parenting, the importance of emotional self-awareness, the biblical call to create order in family life, and the ripple effect of quiet, Jesus-fueled generosity. It's a looking-back episode that's really about looking up β because the best thing a dad can do for his kids is stay close to the One who can do what we can't.
TAKEAWAYS
Your weakness as a dad is not a liability β it's a bridge. When you humbly repent and admit you need Jesus, your kids see who their real Savior is. Raising kids in "the gap" (measuring what they fell short of) creates a performance identity that damages their sense of worth. Celebrate the gain β the progress they've made. Defensiveness and dismissiveness toward your kids often starts with dismissing your own feelings. Learning to name what's going on inside you is the first step to staying steady. God designed dads to be bringers of order β not complainers of disorder. Reverse engineer a family vision, create systems, and name the chaos so your kids can learn to do the same. You don't have to do the miracles. You just have to be tight with the man who did. Small, unseen acts of generosity done close to Jesus can change the trajectory of another family forever.QUOTES
"My strength points my kids to me as their savior, but my weakness points them to who my savior is." β Pastor Dave Brickey, Ep. 391 "You lead with your strengths, but you connect through your weaknesses." β Pastor Dave Brickey, Ep. 391 "My heavenly Father has set the scoreboard to infinity." β Jeff Zaugg, reflecting on Ep. 394 with Lance Welch "I don't get to choose what feelings I have. I only choose what I do with them." β Dr. Jake Smith, Ep. 398 "He can't walk on water β but he just might be tight with the man that did." β Walker Hayes (via Craig Allen Cooper, Ep. 418)LINKS
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Dave Brickey β https://www.dadawesome.org/blog/391
Lance Welch β https://www.dadawesome.org/blog/394
Dr. Jake Smith β https://www.dadawesome.org/blog/398
Chris Cirullo β https://www.dadawesome.org/blog/410
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There's NO scoreboard for a healthy marriageβand no quarterly report on your kids' souls. ππ«
Gabe Biedenbaugh is back for Part 2, and this conversation goes deep on what really matters at home.
β Why chasing a "scoreboard" at home is a trap (and what to measure instead)
β Covering your daughters vs. sending out your sonsβa powerful picture of spiritual authority
β The eulogy drill: a simple exercise that will change how you lead your family
True legacy isn't how you're remembered. It's what your family still does when you're gone. π₯
SUMMARY
There's no quarterly report for your marriage and no scoreboard for your kids' soulsβso why do so many dads keep looking for one? In part two of this conversation, Gabe Biedenbaugh exposes the scoreboard trap and shares the vision statements that guide his marriage and parenting. Plus, he unpacks a powerful perspective on covering your daughters versus sending out your sons, and why true legacy isn't how you're rememberedβit's what your family still does when you're gone.
TAKEAWAYS
It's a trap to look for a scoreboard at home. Winning at home is consistency, owning your mistakes, and asking for forgiveness quickly. The best gift you can give your children is a healthy marriage. Aim to be more in love when your kids leave than you are right now. Sons are sent out to start new families; daughters remain under their father's spiritual covering until that authority is transferred at the wedding. The foundation of your life matters far more than the facade. A bridge that looks good but lacks integrity is a bridge no one should cross. Identity is not something to be discoveredβit's something to be received from God. Legacy isn't how you're remembered. It's what your family still carries onβin faith, discipline, and characterβwhen you're gone.GUEST
Gabe Biedenbaugh is a pastor, men's ministry leader, and the founder of The Forge, an online ministry helping men find clear, God-given direction for their lives. Every Friday, he sends out his "Forge Fridays" email, and he created the 21 Days guided reset to help men establish direction and become who God designed them to be. Gabe and his wife have four childrenβthree sons and a daughterβand live in St. Augustine, Florida.
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"There is no scoreboard for a healthy marriage. There's no quarterly report of how your kids are doing in their soul." β Gabe Biedenbaugh "Winning at home is being consistent at home." β Gabe Biedenbaugh "The best gift you can give your children is a healthy marriage." β Gabe Biedenbaugh "The foundation matters so much more than what you put on the facade." β Gabe Biedenbaugh "Identity is not something to be discoveredβit's something to be received." β Gabe Biedenbaugh "Legacy is not how you're remembered. It's what your family still does when you're gone." β Gabe Biedenbaugh "I want dads to be tough and tender." β Gabe Biedenbaugh "Motivation can last for a season, but motivation will not sustain you. Inspiration will." β Gabe BiedenbaughLINKS
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Pastor Gabe Biedenbaugh opens up about the generational faith handed down to him, the shame that nearly disqualified him from his calling, and the "you're not enough" lie so many men carry. In part one of this Father's Day conversation, he shows why vulnerability, brotherhood, and a heart to serve are the way home.
TAKEAWAYS The legacy of faith can start with one man stepping in β Gabe's grandfather died young, and other men fathered his dad. Shame attacks your identity; conviction shows you the way out, condemnation just says you're the problem. Beat the lie head-on: "I'm not enough, but Christ in me is more than enough." Vulnerability in real brotherhood is where men get unstuck and find freedom. A dad living free brings joy home; serving (not being served) is the posture β "leaders are into towels, not titles." QUOTES "Satan's goal isn't to tell you a blatant lie β it's to tell you something so close to the truth you believe it." "My job isn't to fill someone else's cup β it's to empty mine, and let God do what He wants with it." "Conviction says you've made a mistake, but here's the way out. Condemnation says, no β you're the problem." "When you have shame in your life, it impacts the way you bring your best, or lack thereof, to your family." "I want to walk into my home with the attitude of Jesus, who took off his garment to wash feet."LINKS
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Most men are getting lived by their lives instead of actually living them. In this conversation, Alan Briggs unpacks how a life of constant escape leaves us empty at the end of the day, and what it looks like to design something we can actually engage with instead. From Yes Days with your kids to preparing for the car ride home the way you'd prepare for a business meeting, Alan brings practical insight that will reshape how you show up as a dad this week.
TAKEAWAYS---The best dads aren't the ones with the most time. They're the ones who prepare for the small moments with the same intentionality they bring to work.
---A coming of age year for your son doesn't require waking up at 4 a.m. It just requires showing up consistently and inviting other trusted men to speak life into him.
---Celebrate who your kids actually are instead of trying to make them love what you love. Curiosity is the doorway to connection.
---We were built for both meaningful work and real rest. Without a healthy theology of both, we swing between burnout and apathy.
---The question that changes everything: What is the good life for you and your family three years from now?
GUESTAlan Briggs is a coach, author, and adventurer based in Colorado Springs. He runs two and a half companies, including a coworking space, and spends his days helping leaders find a lighter, more sustainable way to live and work. He's the author of multiple books, including his latest resource on anti-burnout, and the host of his own podcast for leaders. Alan and his wife are raising four kids ranging from 12 to 23, including two adopted children. He loves the mountains, disc golf with his son, and learning to cheer for his kids in the worlds they love most.
QUOTES "Most men are getting lived by their lives. They are not living their lives. They are letting choices make them. They are not making intentional choices." "I prepare for business meetings. Do I prepare that well for a date with my wife, a date with my daughter, a car ride? Almost always, no." "You don't have to be up at 4 a.m. with your kid. You don't have to do it every day. But do something that affirms you've got what it takes." "Celebrate exactly who they are and exactly what they love doing, instead of trying to make them love the things that you love doing." "We are not the sum of what we carry. Our identity and who we are loved by is so much more important than what we are as dads." LINKSJoin the DadAwesome Prayer Team: Text "pray" to (651) 370-8618
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ποΈ Brandon Lake's dad on the DadAwesome podcast.
Mac Lake (a.k.a. "Pops") joins us for a powerful conversation on speaking life, leading at home, and shaping your kids into who God already sees them to be.
β The biblical definition of leader β disciple, servant, apostle (and why "I'm not much of a leader" is insecurity, not humility)
β How a posture of unhurried presence changes everything (Pops TV, dinosaur eggs, and football for 60 minutes if they want 60)
β Why discipline is discipleship β and how to stop disciplining out of a wounded ego
SUMMARYThe words you speak to your kids today become the voice inside their head for the rest of their lives β for better or worse. In this episode, Mac Lake (yes, that Mac β Brandon Lake's dad) shares the leadership wisdom he's spent a lifetime giving away: how to speak life over your kids, why "I'm not much of a leader" is insecurity in disguise, and how a biblical definition of leader β disciple, servant, apostle β changes how you show up at home. Plus Pops TV, dinosaur eggs, and why discipline is discipleship.
TAKEAWAYS Leadership in your home requires both spirit and skill. David shepherded with integrity of heart and skillful hands β don't lean only on business-style competence, and don't go passive at home either. Your words become your child's inner voice β so speak life. Get on your knee, look them in the eye, tell them you're proud of them and why. Be their biggest cheerleader, not their biggest critic. Build a faith legacy by telling the works of God in your family. Like Asaph in Psalm 78, your kids should know specific stories of how God has shown up for your family, not just for Israel. Unhurried presence is the gift most dads underestimate. Put the phone away, leave the adult conversation, throw the football for 60 minutes if they want 60 minutes β they need you fully there, not just nearby. Discipline is discipleship β not ego protection. When kids misbehave, it's not a verdict on your identity. Shape them into the image of Christ instead of reacting from your wounded ego. GUESTMac Lake is a pastor, leadership coach, and the founder of The Multiplication Center, where he trains church leaders to identify and develop multiplying leaders. He's the author of The Multiplication Effect and has spent decades coaching pastors and executives in leadership pipeline development. He and his wife Cindy ("CeCe") have three grown kids β including worship artist Brandon Lake β and six grandkids who know him as "Pops." They live in South Carolina.
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FROM THE VAULT with Bob Goff:
β Why hovering over your family is one of the most important things you can do as a dad
β How to leave behind treasures your kids will discover long after you are gone
β The courage it takes to quit something that no longer fits and start fresh
β What Bob learned from his friends at San Quentin about feeding the people around you
SUMMARYThere are around 8 billion people alive right now, and there have been 107 billion who came before us. That context changes everything about how you spend today with your kids. In this From the Vault conversation, Bob Goff returns to talk about hovering over your family the way God hovered over the earth, leaving behind treasures your kids will discover for years to come, and finding the courage to make bold moves when something in your life needs to change. Bob shares why being fully present matters more than providing, how to live a "no capes" kind of life, and why the small moments will be the bookmarks your kids carry forever.
TAKEAWAYS The kind of grandfather you want to be will be a byproduct of the kind of dad you are right now. Hovering over each person in your family means asking what they uniquely need that only you could provide. Living a "no capes" life means doing meaningful things without making a big deal about them. Your family needs you fully present far more than they need what you provide. When something in your life stops fitting, having the courage to quit and start fresh can change everything. GUESTBob Goff is the bestselling author of Love Does, Everybody Always, Dream Big, and Undistracted, along with several children's books co-written with his daughter Lindsey. He is the founder of Love Does, a nonprofit that operates schools and safe houses for children in conflict zones around the world. Bob and his wife, Sweet Maria, live in San Diego and spend much of their time at The Oaks, where they host gatherings for dreamers and world changers. They have three grown children and several grandchildren.
Quotes "The kind of grandfather you want to be will be a byproduct of the kind of dad that you are." β Bob Goff "Hover over each person in your family. What does kid number one need that I could only uniquely provide them?" β Bob Goff "What your family really needs you to provide is you, like, fully present." β Bob Goff "Sometimes the familiar will get in the way of what's actually possible." β Bob Goff "Everybody doesn't get a slice, but everybody's fed." β Bob Goff LinksJoin the DadAwesome Prayer Team: Text "pray" to (651) 370-8618
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SUMMARY
I brought a real story to Dr. Michelle this week. A small mistake on my part, a hurt little girl, a defensive dad at bedtime, and my wife catching my eye across the room. What unfolded was a live coaching moment I needed more than I knew. Dr. Michelle gently walked me back through what I missed, what was actually under the anger, and how to do the repair that actually reaches a daughter's heart. If you have ever blown it with your kids and tried to talk your way out of it instead of leaning in, this conversation is for you.
Takeaways Anger is usually the front door. The real emotion sitting behind it is almost always sadness, fear, or confusion, and your kids feel that gap before you do. When your child tells the story of how you hurt them, the most powerful thing you can say is three words. Tell me more. Then stay there longer than feels comfortable. Defensiveness bombs the bridge to your kids' hearts and to their picture of God as Father. Compassion builds it. Luke 15 verse 20 gives a five step pattern any dad can follow. He saw, he was filled with compassion, he ran, he threw his arms around, he kissed. A consistent monthly daddy daughter date and a note in your own handwriting create anchors of memory your kids will carry into adulthood. GuestDr. Michelle Watson Canfield is a licensed counselor, speaker, and the host of The Dad Whisperer podcast. She founded The Abba Project, a nine month group for dads of daughters between thirteen and thirty, and has spent the last fifteen plus years coaching fathers in the work of pursuing their daughters' hearts. She is the author of Dad, Here's What I Really Need from You and Let's Talk, and her writing on fatherhood has reached dads in all fifty states and around the world.
Quotes "You guys are wired with tender hearts. Tough and tender is a powerful combination as a man." Dr. Michelle Watson Canfield "Under mad is usually sad or scared or confused. Lead with your heart more than your head." Dr. Michelle Watson Canfield "Tell me more. That's how she gets it out, and then it's not there between you anymore." Dr. Michelle Watson Canfield "Defensiveness bombs the bridge. Compassion builds it. That's the work of fathering a daughter's heart." Dr. Michelle Watson Canfield "Anchors of memory in a place. Find one or two spots that become yours together with your daughter." Dr. Michelle Watson Canfield -
You probably think you're closer to your daughter than she'd say you are. The research keeps proving it. Dr. Michelle Watson Canfield is back with the question every dad of daughters should ask this week:
β The zero to ten question that closes the closeness gap
β Why one word of affirmation revives what looked dead
β A five senses experiment to pursue her on purpose
β Jeff opening up about missing it with his four year old the night before
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SUMMARYMost dads think they're closer to their daughters than they actually are. Dr. Michelle Watson Canfield has spent 30 years sitting with dads and daughters in the gap between, and she came on DadAwesome to say it plain: your words water her dry soul, your anger can wipe out nine good days, and pursuit is the muscle every dad has to keep building. This is part one of a two part conversation, and Jeff brings a real story from the night before about missing it with his four year old.
TAKEAWAYS Pursuit is not a season. It does not end at the wedding or the hospital room. Your daughter and your wife need to be pursued today. Ask your daughter the zero to ten question. Where would you rank our closeness, is that the number you want, and what can I do to be a better dad to you. Your words land like water on dry soil. One sentence of affirmation can revive what looked dead four days ago. Your anger will do more to shut her down than almost anything else. Repair every rupture. Run the five senses experiment. Notice what you see in her, listen one minute longer than yesterday, tie smell to memory, speak one word of life, and give safe physical touch on purpose. GUESTDr. Michelle Watson Canfield is a licensed counselor, speaker, and the host of The Dad Whisperer Podcast. She founded The Abba Project in 2010, a group coaching experience for dads of daughters, and has written two books for fathers: Dad, Here's What I Really Need from You and Let's Talk.
QUOTES "Your words are like water to her dry soul. She will spring forth with beauty and color and life with your words." "You can do nine things right and one anger response can wipe it out. You've got to make repair for the rupture." "Every one of us as women have a God given place in us that wants to be seen, adored, championed, celebrated." "Ask your daughter on a scale of zero to ten, where would you rank us? What can I do better?" "What you see, she doesn't see. By pursuing and seeing and knowing us, we internalize it." Links:Text MOM to (651) 370-8618 // or click here
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Dad, Here's What I Really Need from You by Dr. Michelle Watson
Let's Talk by Dr. Michelle Watson
The Dad Whisperer Podcast
The Abba Project
Drop Your Anger video
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There's a moment in Interstellar where Matthew McConaughey sits down and watches 25 years of video messages from the kids he left behind. Daniel Chesnut drove home from that movie snot-crying, climbed into bed next to his sleeping two-year-old, and asked God a simple question: why is this wrecking me? What he heard back changed the way he has fathered for the last decade. In this conversation, Daniel shares listening prayer with your kids, why vulnerability is actually strength, how to play the long game with a 14-year-old, and the truth that's rescuing him in every transition: nothing is lost.
β The listening prayer practice he does with his 14-year-old son every year
β Why spending your 30s building a future can cost you the people you're building it for
β How to cultivate access to your kid's heart (hint: it's not across the couch)
β The truth rescuing him in every transition: nothing is lost
Takeaways Ask God for a word or theme for the year, and invite your kids into the same practice. Take the pressure off of timing. When a movie, a song, or a moment wrecks you, pay attention. It's a knock on the door of your heart. Spend your 30s becoming the kind of man who can be entrusted with more, instead of building a future your family won't want to share with you. Cultivate access to your kid's heart. Delight in what they delight in. Talk over sushi or on the drive, not across the couch. Nothing is lost. Every missed moment, every transition, every thing you wish you could get back is being restored. GuestDaniel Chesnut is a filmmaker, storyteller, and the founder of Process Creative. He and his wife Katie live in Southern California with their 14-year-old son Brooklyn. Daniel has spent years helping people tell their stories on film and is part of the Pursuit Beach Fitness men's discipleship community. He writes about fatherhood, faith, and becoming on his Substack.
Quotes "The strongest man on the sand is the most vulnerable man on the sand." "I made time. I created time. And I can make time work for you, not against you." "Spend the next decade becoming the kind of person who can be entrusted with more in 10 years." "Whatever you do, cultivate access to your kid's heart. That's it. Just stay in their life." "Nothing is lost. Even the moments you regret are being restored." LinksText MOM to (651) 370-8618 // or click here
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Becoming a King by Morgan Snyder
Walking with God by John Eldredge
Interstellar (film) and soundtrack by Hans Zimmer
Process Creative (Daniel's company)
Pursuit Beach Fitness
BABY SWIM LESSONS - The Ultimate Routine to Help Our 2 YR OLD Swim and Deep Dive Underwater (The Bucket List Family)
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Most dads are carrying something they never dealt with... Mark Odland is a trauma therapist who works with high achieving men, and he joined us for one of the most honest conversations we've had on this show.
β How stuck memories quietly affect the way you parent
β A simple tapping technique you can use with your kids right now
β Why doing your inner work is one of the most important things you can do for your family
SUMMARY
Most dads are carrying something they never dealt with. In this episode, therapist Mark Odland explains how unprocessed memories stay stuck in the brain and quietly shape the way you parent, the way you react, and the way you show up at home. You'll also hear what trauma therapy actually is, why doing the inner work is one of the bravest things a dad can do, and how healing in one generation changes everything for the next.
TAKEAWAYS
When your nervous system gets overwhelmed, memories can get stored in a way that doesn't heal properly and that affects you more than you realize years later. The "butterfly hug" tapping technique is something you can use with your kids in real time to help a hard moment not become a stuck wound. Trauma therapy helps the brain do what it was already designed to do, heal itself when the right conditions are present. The cage many high achieving men live in isn't always visible from the outside. But deep down, they know something's in the way. Whatever you wish your dad had done differently with you, ask yourself if you're doing that with your kids. That question is a powerful starting point. Doing one therapy session doesn't commit you to years on a couch. It's just a first step, and first steps create momentum.GUEST
Mark Odland is a licensed therapist, trauma specialist, and the founder of Lion Counseling. He's also the author of Escape the Cage. Mark and his wife have four kids and live in Duluth, Minnesota, where yes, he has surfed Lake Superior.
QUOTES
"As long as we have the opportunity to be connected to safety and truth, the brain can heal itself." β Mark Odland "You don't have to sign your life away. Just do one therapy appointment." β Mark Odland "Whatever invisible force is keeping you in a cage, the dad you want to be is in there." β Mark Odland "If you can't muster up the belief that you're worth it, look at a picture of your family. They are worth it." β Mark Odland "Some healing usually proceeds breakthrough. Doing some looking back before you try to propel forward." β Jeff ZauggLINKS
Escape the Cage by Mark Odland https://escapethecagenow.com/ Text MOM to (651) 370-8618 // or click hereDADAWESOME Book:dadawesome.org/book
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"A man who can't regulate his emotions forces his wife and kids to do it for him."
Seth Dahl back for a 5th conversation on DadAwesome.
He breaks down what's actually happening when dad loses it and what it takes to change.
β Why emotional dysregulation is an identity issue, not just a temper problem
β The loaded gun analogy that will change how you think about anger at home
β Teen boundaries, the Wise Phone, and how to give freedom without losing your mind
SUMMARY
A man who can't regulate his emotions forces his wife and kids to do it for him. That's the hard truth Seth Dahl drops early in this conversation, and it only gets more honest from there. This is a raw, alumni-only Zoom call that turned into something worth sharing with every dad who's ever lost it over something stupid and wondered why.
Takeaways:
If you can be triggered, you're identifying with something more than your role as a dad. That's an identity issue, not just a temper issue. Unprocessed emotions don't disappear. They show up as anger, porn, checked-out dads, and kids walking on eggshells. God's model in Genesis wasn't control. It was influence with a boundary. That's the parenting theology most of us are missing. For teenagers, the online world is the living room. Know who they're talking to, just like you would if they came to your house. The Wise Phone gives kids what they need without what gets them in trouble.GUEST:
Seth Dahl is an author, speaker, grief recovery specialist, and emotional health coach. He and his wife have three kids and have developed a deep framework around completing past emotions, processing present emotions, and shaping future ones. Seth is a longtime friend of DadAwesome and is featured in the DADAWESOME book.
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SETH DAHL
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Jay Heck of Being Sons flips the mic and digs into the DADAWESOME book with some really honest questions.
β The prayer counseling session that broke a 15-year lie Jeff had been living under
β Why parenting from scarcity makes your voice smaller (and what changes when you don't)
β The black pen blue pen journaling exercise that helps you actually hear from God
β Three things every father can bring to their kids: proximity, placing hands on, and prayer
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SUMMARY
Most dads are trying to figure out the right strategy. But what if the thing holding you back isn't a lack of tactics, it's a lie you've been believing about whether you're even loved? In this mic flip episode, Jay Heck of Being Sons turns the tables and interviews Jeff about the Dad Awesome book, and the conversation gets honest fast. You'll hear about the prayer counseling session that changed everything, what it means to set the scoreboard to infinity, and how a dad who's operating from fullness becomes the most compelling voice in the room.
TAKEAWAYS
Your kids need to see you pause and point to what God has done, not just celebrate the mountaintops but name the hard stuff too. When you stop trying to earn love and start receiving it as a son, things like dancing, crying, laughing, and gentleness just start coming out of you naturally. You are not behind. Whatever season of fatherhood you are in, God is not disappointed. He's inviting you to turn toward him, not catch up. The three P's of intentional fatherhood are pursuing your kids, praying for your kids, and being present with your kids. Fathers who operate from abundance naturally draw their kids, their kids' friends, and other families in. Scarcity thinking is contagious, and so is thankfulness.GUEST
Jay Heck is the founder of Being Sons, a fatherhood ministry focused on dad and daughter and dad and son adventure experiences. He hosts the Being Sons podcast and is passionate about helping men step into the father heart of God so they can lead their families well.
QUOTES
"Your heavenly father has set the scoreboard to infinity. You can't add to it. You can't subtract from it." "As I learned more about my identity as a loved son of God, I danced more, cried more, laughed more." "Gratefulness and fear can't live simultaneously. When we are grateful, we move toward more vision and more hope." "Fathers who operate from abundance naturally become the most compelling voice in the room." "You are not behind. God in heaven is not disappointed. He is loving this moment that you are turning."LINKS
21 Day Prayer Team - surrounding the DADAWESOME book launch.
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BEING SONS Ministry (Jay Heck)
Wild At Heart - Head of Household Prayer (John Eldredge)
Ruthless Trust (book)
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What do you do when your schedule is maxed out and you feel like you're failing at the very thing you preach? In this episode, Jeff gets honest about dropping the ball on dad-daughter dates, shares three raw discoveries from book launch week, and tells the story of a flaming ball of toilet paper on a frozen lake that never made it into the book β for good reason.
Without a concrete accountability loop, even your highest priorities will quietly slip off the calendar.
In your fullest, most pressured seasons, adding one stabilizing anchor β not removing things β might be the wisest move you make.
Daily prayer with other men isn't just spiritual discipline; it's a stabilizing force that steadies you when everything else is swinging.
Bringing two simple questions to a dad-daughter date can surface honest feedback and spark some of the most important conversations you'll have with your kids.
Fatherhood grows through friendships and focus β those two things, compounded over years, change everything.
DADAWESOME BOOKhttps://www.dadawesome.org/book
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It's LAUNCH WEEK - the DADAWESOME book is available to the world!
https://www.dadawesome.org/book
In today's episode, Jeff shares what actually happened on book launch day (confetti, a four-year-old, and one very close call with a pair of white shoes), reads Chapter 18 of DADAWESOME live, and honors the grandpa whose legacy made this whole thing possible.
β The upstream generational moves Jeff's grandpa made that are still changing lives today
β The Crashing Cabinet β a chapter about the $2 wall strap that changes how you think about fatherhood systems
β Why your family needs a free dad, not a perfect one
SUMMARY:
The Christmas card version of fatherhood isn't real life β and Jeff Zaugg isn't pretending otherwise. In this book launch episode, Jeff reads Chapter 18 of the DADAWESOME book, shares the upstream legacy moves his grandpa made that are still bearing fruit today, and tells the story of what actually happened on launch day (hint: it involved confetti, a four-year-old, and a pair of white shoes that almost didn't survive).
TAKEAWAYS:
Thinking generationally means asking what moves you make today will still be bearing fruit with your grandkids and great-grandkids. Small, preventative systems β like a $2 wall strap β protect your family before the pressure hits, not after the crash. Your inadequacies as a father create space for God's strength to work through you, not around you. Unresolved pain is like hidden glass β sharp, waiting, and causing damage until it's fully addressed. Your family doesn't need a perfect dad. They need a free one.GUEST
Jeff Zaugg is the founder of DadAwesome, host of the DadAwesome Podcast (400+ episodes, 8+ years), and author of the newly released book DADAWESOME. He and his wife have four daughters and are based in Northeast, Florida.
QUOTES
"Your family doesn't need a perfect dad. They need a free one." "Small choices prevent big disasters. Asking for help before the crash is wisdom, not weakness." "Unresolved pain is like hidden glass β sharp, waiting, cutting us when we least expect it." "Our inadequacies as fathers create space for God's power to work through us." "Brotherhood isn't a luxury for fathers who have margin. It's oxygen for fathers who are drowning."Links:
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π£οΈ "Every king who takes over a territory changes the language first β because language determines culture."
Pastor Tim Timberlake is back for Part 2, and it does NOT disappoint.
In today's episode, you'll hear:
β Why the words you speak are literally shaping your child's world
β How to steward your kids' speed in a culture moving way too fast
β The powerful truth about grief β you won't get over it, but you will remember more
β Why you can't lead your kids somewhere you've never been
Don't father from your wounds. Father from your scars.
Join the 21-Day PRAYER TEAM (surrounding the book launch) WATCH the DADAWESOME book Trailer >> GET THE DADAWESOME BOOK >>SUMMARY:
Every king who takes over a territory changes the language first β because language shapes culture. In Part 2 of this conversation with Pastor Tim Timberlake, you'll hear why the words you speak over your kids are literally forming their world. Plus, Tim gets real about grief, the little deaths that come with every new season of your child's life, and why the only way to be a great father is to remain a son of God first.
TAKEAWAYS
Language shapes culture β what you speak over your kids is forming their world, for better or worse. Boundaries aren't restrictions; they're what make the game worth playing. Your kids thrive within them. You won't "get over" the loss of a loved one, but you will grow stronger β and you'll remember more, not less. Every new season of your child's life requires mourning who they were so you can fully enjoy who they are. Don't father from your wounds. Father from your scars.GUEST
Tim Timberlake is the lead pastor of Celebration Church, an author, and a speaker known for his passionate, scripture-rooted teaching. He and his wife, Jen, have a son, Max. Tim is the author of several books including The Art of Overcoming and Bumpy Road to Better.
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The Power of 1440 by Tim Timberlake
The Art of Overcoming by Tim Timberlake
Celebration Church β Jacksonville, FL
Tim Timberlake on Instagram: @ttimberlake
QUOTES
"Every king who takes over a territory changes the language first β because language determines culture." β Tim Timberlake "Don't father from your wounds. Father from your scars." β Tim Timberlake "If you remain a son to God, you'll be a better father to your kids." β Tim Timberlake "We can only take people to the last place we've been." β Tim Timberlake "You won't get over it β but you will grow stronger, and you'll remember more." β Tim Timberlake -
π₯ Pastor Tim Timberlake lost his dad the day after his 18th birthday. 24 years later, he's STILL unpacking the treasures from their last conversation.
β‘οΈ Why every dad has a "fool" and a "king" insideβand the one you address is the one that will respond
β‘οΈ How to make your pain purposeful instead of letting it steal your joy
β‘οΈ The power of TONE and why the love of a father can convict a child into becoming better
SUMMARYWhat does it look like to father from love instead of frustration? In Part 1 of this two-part conversation, Pastor Tim Timberlake shares what it was like losing his dad the day after his 18th birthdayβand how 24 years later, he's still unpacking the treasures from their final conversation. Tim opens up about how his father's tone, words, and presence shaped the man and dad he's becoming today. Plus, he reveals the simple practice that keeps him anchored in gratitude and why every dad has both a fool and a king insideβand the one you address is the one that will respond. Stay tuned for Part 2 next week.
TAKEAWAYSLegacy is not what you leave for your childrenβit's what you leave in them. Frame it with your words and your presence.
Every dad has both a fool and a king inside, and the one you address in your kids is the one that will respond.
Don't just turn your head toward your kidsβturn your heart. Be where your feet are and be relational, not just transactional.
Pain will produce fruit if you stay in it long enough. Make it purposeful and turn it back into praise before it becomes pride.
If you don't plan your celebrations, your defeats will plan themselves. Collect moments, not things.
QUOTES1. "Legacy is not what I leave for someone. It's what I leave in them."
2. "We both have a fool and a king in us, and the one you address is the one that will respond."
3. "If I don't plan my celebrations, my defeats will plan themselves."
4. "Every word is like a thousand pound weight. Be mindful of where you place it."
5. "The love of my father would convict me into wanting to become better."
GUESTTim Timberlake is the Senior Pastor of Celebration Church in Jacksonville, Florida, and Christian Faith Center in Creedmoor, North Carolina. He's the bestselling author of The Power of 1440 and The Art of Overcoming. Tim is a gifted communicator, thought leader, and sought-after speaker known for blending biblical truth with real-life wisdom. He and his wife, Jennifer, are the proud parents of their son, Maxwell. Tim's father, the late Bishop Mack Timberlake, continues to shape his legacy as a father and pastor to this day.
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The Power of 1440 by Tim Timberlake
The Art of Overcoming by Tim Timberlake
Celebration Church β Jacksonville, FL
Tim Timberlake on Instagram: @ttimberlake
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