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Iâve been thinking a lot about relationships lately and how they affect us, whether thatâs good or bad.
As human beings, I believe we were created to want and enjoy relationships with others. Relationships are places where we hope to find Everlasting Love, Comfort, Peace, Joy and Acceptance. However, more often than not, what we find is that relationships are more like sandpaper. Smoothing out our rough edges and exposing our unhealed wounds.
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I wanted to talk today about the story we tell ourselves. Each one of us has a story and each one of us can absolutely REWRITE the narrative of our story.
For a lot of us, the stories weâve held onto began back in childhood. We heard (or felt) things like we werenât attractive enough, we were too fat or too skinny, or we werenât the sharpest tool in the shed. You fill in the blank. The thing is thatâs NOT our story. Those were simply opinions of others that we allowed to stick to us throughout our lives. By allowing those labels to stick, we began to believe they were true and lived our lives as such.
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Welcome to the Dontbeacrumqueen podcast. My name is Sher and Iâm your host.
Iâve been thinking lately about the phrase âPurpose in the Painâ and how Life changing it can be if we see our experiences through that lens.
Living in this world of ours means at some point in our Life, we will ALL experience some level of pain, loss, or heartache. Iâm sure if we could choose NOT to go through any of that we would, at least I know I would. Unfortunately, thatâs not reality and pain, loss and even heartache are unavoidable. So how do we make Peace then with those things when they happen to us? I believe itâs by seeing âthe Purpose in the Painâ.
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Iâve been thinking a lot lately about the cycles we tend to repeat especially when it comes to relationships. I guess itâs because I myself have been enlightened through my own experiences to see how I was repeating patterns in romantic relationships.
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Today I wanted to share some thoughts regarding manipulation when it comes to relationships. This is something near and dear to my heart, probably because Iâve personally experienced it (in two completely different ways) in my past relationships.
When it comes to manipulation, no one really likes to admit itâs happening to them, especially when it comes to a romantic partner. We like to believe weâre too smart to be manipulated and we would detect it right away. That would never happen to me, right? Not necessarily.
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Welcome to the Dontbeacrumqueen podcast. My name is Sher and Iâm your host.
Whether you want to admit it or not, we all have patterns of behaviors that we established back in our childhood to survive the environment we were living in no matter how good or bad our experiences were. We ALL played a role in our families growing up. Problems arise, however, when we enter into relationships and these patterns get exposed. Dynamics change and break ups occur. Weâre left wondering WHY our relationships never seem to work out for us or WHY we always attract the same type of person.
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I think we can probably all agree that relationships take work. When you're in the right one, it's probably easier and when you're in the wrong one, it's more challenging.
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In this episode I share with you my own thoughts about "familiarity" in a relationship after an abusive one as I reflect on my life in 2023.
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Welcome to the Dontbeacrumqueen podcast. My name is Sher and Iâm your host.
All of us are in some sort of relationship today. Whether it is with friends, family, spouse or a romantic relationship any of them can come to an end. When that happens, we all want some level of closure. If you were in a relationship where you were both mature, healthy adults, having closure means you each accept the relationship is over and own your part in that. Itâs saying goodbye, wishing them well, and focusing on your own Healing Journey.
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Welcome to the Dontbeacrumqueen podcast. My name is Sher and Iâm your host.
In a world where challenges seem to be a daily occurrence, thereâs a time when âBeing the Bigger Personâ or as some people say âTaking the High Roadâ is valuable, especially when dealing with difficult or toxic people. -
Welcome to the Dontbeacrumqueen podcast. My name is Sher and Iâm your host.
Trusting your intuition sounds like it should be an easy thing to do but unfortunately thatâs not always the case, especially when it comes to relationships and our emotions are involved. Lines get blurred and we mistake our fears for our intuition.
So, how can you learn to really âtrust your gutâ and discern the difference between fearful, anxious emotions from past experiences and what your intuition is really telling you?
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Welcome to the Dontbeacrumqueen podcast. My name is Sher and Iâm your host.
Loving yourself enough to put yourself first. Well if that isnât something weâve heard our whole life, how it is incredibly selfish to do. Not only is that an untrue statement but it is imperative for us to do so.
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Standing up for yourself. What an awesome concept, right? Easy? Not really. Uncomfortable, yes! Something you can learn? Absolutely.
Despite common beliefs, standing up for yourself does NOT mean youâre a bitch. Quite the contrary. It means youâve arrived at this place in Life where you know who you are and what youâll tolerate from others in the way that they treat you. Youâve realized your Worth and the importance of guarding your heart. Drawing a line in the sand shows maturity, evolution, and healing on your part.
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Today I want to chat about being with the right person for YOU in a relationship. I donât know about you but I have several people in my life who are with someone and find themselves wondering if theyâre really with the right person for them.
I think the majority of people who are in relationships are looking for a life partner. Sure, you are going to run into people who are serial daters and have no interest in commitment but most of us want something long-term with the right person. I mean who wants to spend a lot of time investing in a relationship with the wrong person although, we do it.
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In this episode, I want to share some thoughts with you on what a âHealthy vs. Unhealthyâ relationship looks like. Iâm pretty sure none of us are in a relationship because we want a bad one but unfortunately sometimes thatâs where we find ourselves. So how can you make sure you donât end up there?
You know the statement âWe attract what we areâ? Well, thereâs validity to it.
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In this episode, Iâm going to share my thoughts on why I believe âYou Canât Fix Anyoneâ. Many of us enter a relationship with the thought (whether consciously or subconsciously) that we can fix certain things about a person. While I DO believe that we can inspire people, we simply donât have the power to change anyone. Believing that you can blinds you to what is staring you right in the face, red flags.
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In this episode, Iâm going to talk about how âToxicity Takes a Tollâ especially when it comes to relationships. However, it also applies to a toxic work environment, a family household or even a friendship.
So, how do you know when something is toxic?
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In this episode, Iâm going to talk about how âRed Flags Donât Lieâ. If youâve ever been in a relationship, especially one that ends up being abusive, you no doubt felt a check in your gut at some point because of behavior that felt âoffâ. They are called red flags and they donât lie.
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In this episode, Iâm going to talk about how to remember that âYOU Matterâ. Itâs not always easy in this world of ours to feel like we do; matter that is. We get lost in relationships, responsibilities and caring for others more than we care for ourselves. We are left wondering if we are contributing at all to this great thing we call Life.
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Welcome to the Dontbeacrumbqueen podcast. My name is Sher and Iâm your host.
In this episode, Iâm going to talk about âManipulators and Why We Attract Themâ. If youâve ever been in a dysfunctional, abusive or toxic relationship there is a reason why this type of person was attracted to you. They are emotional manipulators.
So why do we attract these emotional manipulators? - Show more
