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David Hankins spent 20 years in the Army working in logistics. He retired at 42 and had to figure out what his next act was going to be. There would be stability to support his family, but he would also chase his dream of becoming a professional writer. Despite Davidâs midlife transition looking pretty smooth, there has been a lot of uncertainty. In both his search for a civilian job and his efforts to break into publishing, heâs heard a lot of noâs, or gotten no response at all. His approach to that was to provide himself with as many options as possible so that at least a few would work out.
Guest BioDavid Hankins is the award-winning author of Death and the Taxman and writes from the thriving cornfields of Iowa where he lives with his wife, daughter, and two dragons disguised as cats. David joined the US Army after college and, through some glitch in the bureaucracy, convinced Uncle Sam to fund his wanderlust for twenty years. He has lived in and traveled through much of Europe, central Asia, and the United States. Now that heâs retired from the Army, David devotes his time to his passions of writing, traveling, and finding new ways to pay his mortgage. You can find him at https://davidhankins.com
Turning 40 and Leaving the Bureaucracy for Science FictionIn this episode, David Hankins shares his journey from serving in the Army for 20 years, through his transition back to civilian life, to becoming a published author. He talks about his military career, starting with his initial intention to join the military police, leading to his eventual role in logistics and ammunition management. David touches upon his travels, including deployments to Afghanistan and Iraq, and his life-changing decision to retire after 20 years of service. David discusses the challenges and uncertainties he faced while transitioning to civilian life, including his pursuit of a writing career. Inspired by storytelling sessions with his daughter, David began writing short stories, leading to winning the Writers of the Future contest. He also shares insights into his writing process, motivations, and his upcoming self-published novel 'Death and the Taxman'. Throughout the episode, David emphasizes the importance that networking, planning, and maintaining a positive outlook had during his midlife transition.
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Allison Doss has a multi-faceted midlife transition that took her through several harrowing phases. She moved to the âbig cityâ after high school and was quickly recruited to become a stripper. She went from stripper to high-priced escort to homeless and drug addicted, prostituting to pay for her fix. At 40 she got into recovery but quickly replaced her pursuit of drugs with the pursuit of a man, who she ultimately married. That should be enough lessons for one person, but her husband came out to her as trans, which sent Allison into a relapse before she recommitted to recovery and to healing.
Guest BioFor Allison Doss, what started as the life of a party girl in her 20s, ended as a drug addicted alcoholic prostitute at the age of 40. Godâs gift of desperation came in the form of another drug addict, who jumped her and cut her face and instilled fear that she knew existed. She began the journey to recovery at 40. She met a man, fell in love and got married. And just when she thought that she had created a life that was predictable and stable, her husband confessed to her that he thought he may be transgender. Nothing rocked Allison to her core like the love of her life not meeting the expectations for the marriage she had planned for them. Her story is that of transformation of surrender and self discovery. She found freedom in letting go of control of others and allowing them to walk their own path without her interference.
Turning 40 and Going from the Streets to Safety to Shock and AweIn this episode of the Forty Drinks Podcast, Stephanie talks to Allison Doss, who moved from a farm in Louisiana to Washington DC when she was 17. She was recruited to be a stripper, which she thought was quite glamorous and made her a lot of money. That career introduced her to a party lifestyle and she eventually evolved into a high-priced escort, flying around the world on private jets. But the party didnât last forever. She didnât realize that she had slipped into addiction and, by the time she was 35, she was homeless, into heavy drugs, and prostituting herself to pay for them. Nobody knew where she was and she didnât want to be found.
Allison is honest about the turning points in her life, including losing custody of her children, living on the streets, and a violent encounter that eventually led her to seek recovery at the age of 40. When she entered recovery she met her ânew drug of choiceâ - a man she would pursue vigorously and who would ultimately become her husband.
She reflects on the process of making amends, reconnecting with her children, and the challenges she faced when her husband came out as transgender. This revelation sent Allison into a relapse, which she would blame on her husband. Recovery and healing led her to a deeper understanding of herself and the concept of control. This is the story of how she found her way back and healed her relationships, most importantly the ones with herself and her children and the lessons learned about life, expectations, and the release of control.
âI thought there was something wrong with me,â Allison said. âSo I went on this journey to dissect the fabric of my own cloth to discover what's wrong with me. And, of course, there was nothing wrong with me.â
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Karl Beckstrand was exposed to gay sex at age 8 by a male peer. Because of that experience at such a tender age, Karl developed a dysfunctional relationship with sex. He became hypersexual from that first encounter at age 8 until he was about 40, at which point he went to the other extreme and became a recluse for a decade. Here, he tells the story of how he learned to get his emotional needs met in a healthy way.
Guest BioCollege media instructor Karl W. Beckstrand is the best-selling author/illustrator of twenty-seven multicultural/multilingual books (60 e-booksâreviews by Publisherâs Weekly, Kirkus, The Horn Book, and School Library Journal). Raised in San Jose, California, he has lived abroad, earned a B.A. in journalism, an M.A. in international relations and conflict resolution, and a broadcast & film certificate. His western novel, To Swallow the Earth, won a 2016 International Book Award. Beckstrand loves volleyball and singing (in rock bands or choirs). His Y.A. stories, e-book mysteries, immigrant biographies, self-help, Spanish/bilingual books, and STEM books feature diverse charactersâand usually end with a twist. See: Amazon, Apple/iBooks, Baker & Taylor, Barnes & Noble, Follett, Ingram, Walmart, Target, and PremioBooks.com
Turning 40 and Embracing Intimacy Over SexIn this episode of the Forty Drinks Podcast, host Stephanie McLaughlin talks to Karl Beckstrand, who reflects on his early experiences with hypersexuality and his attempts to suppress his attraction to men. He discusses the negative impact this had on his relationships and his decision to become a recluse for 10 years. Karl eventually realized that he needs emotional connection rather than sexual encounters to fulfill his needs. He opens up about his deep and lasting friendships with men, which he describes as "bromances." Karl challenges some of the societal norms in the gay community and emphasizes the importance of meeting emotional needs in relationships. This episode offers a unique perspective on relationships and personal growth in midlife.
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Karl shares his early exposure to sex by a male peer and how it led him to act hypersexually along with his attempts to suppress his attraction to men.He discusses the negative impact of his out-of-control behavior on his relationships and his decision to become a recluse for 10 years.Karl realizes that he needs emotional connection rather than sexual encounters to fulfill his needs.He opens up about his deep and lasting friendships with men, which he describes as "bromances."Karl challenges societal norms and emphasizes the importance of meeting emotional needs in relationships.If you enjoyed this episode, Iâd be honored if you would rate, follow, and review the Forty Drinks Podcast.
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Joe Scales approached 40 wondering why he wasnât happier. He had a job that paid well, two incredible kids and he had been married for 20 years. He wondered why he didnât have âitâ all figured out yet (when it seemed like everyone else did), which led him to questioning many of his decisions along the way. He realized that the problem was himself and his focus on questions that began with âwhy.â There were plenty of other questions that he could ask that might help him shake loose of his malaise, like: Who do I want to be? How do I get there? What do I need to feel fulfilled at the end of the day? Answering those questions, and spending an entire year saying âyes,â led Joe to a much better place.
Guest BioJoe Scales grew up in Kansas and Oklahoma. He has two kids, 30 and 27 and was married to his high school sweetheart for 25 years. They eventually ended up getting divorced and he took a year to work on himself before he started dating again. Heâs been remarried now for almost two years. Joe has worked in marketing and advertising for his entire career, including stints in Print, Radio, and Television. Today, he owns a poker media company that merges two of his favorite past times, marketing and poker. He publishes a weekly podcast and a monthly magazine that are dedicated to the everyday poker player. Both can be found at www.anteupmagazine.com.
Turning 40 and Saying Yes for a YearIn this episode of the Forty Drinks Podcast, Stephanie talks to Joe Scales, who reflects on his early marriage and parenthood, the pressure he felt to make ends meet and how he started questioning his own happiness as he approached 40. Joe began to rethink his life choices; he had a burgeoning feeling of wanting to make a bigger impact in the world. At the suggestion of a friend, Joe committed to saying yes to new experiences for a full year. He discovered a passion for acting and found a new sense of fulfillment in giving back to others. Joe also talks about how important it was that he found a partner who allowed him to be himself and supported his personal growth.
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Joe reflects on getting married and starting a family very young and the pressure he felt to make ends meet.As he approached 40, Joe wondered why he wasnât happier. He also felt a burgeoning desire to make a bigger impact in the world.Inspired by a friend, Joe said yes to new experiences and opportunities for an entire year.Joe discovered a passion for acting and found fulfillment in giving back to others through charity work.He emphasizes the importance of self-care and self-reflection in finding happiness and purpose in midlife.Joe discusses the significance of finding a partner who supports personal growth and encourages positive change.Joe's story highlights the power of changing perspectives in finding happiness and purpose in midlife.
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John Lawyer spent more than a decade as a warrior in the Middle East and, upon his return to civilian life in the United States, struggled with his identity and how to engage with the world. He went from someone who was âimportantâ in the desert - someone who directed where troops and airplanes went - to being just another person living in what he thought was a muted world that moved in slow motion. And then one night he woke up to a profound moment of clarity, some call it an awakening, that helped him see what he was meant to do in this next phase of his life.
Guest BioFrom desert combat zones to a battle within, John Lawyer transformed from soldier to spiritual seeker. He acts as one of several guides for Kishar, a non-profit online spiritual community. This community is a place for people to share their journeys and explore their own unique spiritual path. John is an omnist and believes in the validity of most spiritual and religious beliefs around the world. He offers individual spiritual guidance and coaching services as part of the Kishar Spiritual Community.
Turning 40 and Transitioning From Warrior to CivilianIn this episode of the Forty Drinks Podcast, Stephanie talks to John Lawyer, a military veteran who experienced a profound midlife transition. John talks about his journey from serving in combat zones for more than a decade to coming home and feeling stuck and disconnected. He discusses the challenges of reintegrating into civilian life and the toll that war took on his mental health. John also talks about his spiritual awakening and the importance of letting go and being open to the Universe. A middle-of-the-night moment of clarity when he was 40 helped him understand his purpose for the next phase of his life. He shares his passion for helping others on their own spiritual paths and discusses the nonprofit spiritual community he co-founded called Kishar.
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Welcome to Season 5 of the Forty Drinks Podcast. Iâm kicking off the season with an exploration of transition versus change, which are entirely different things according to William Bridges, PhD in his best-selling book, Transitions: Making Sense of Lifeâs Changes.
Transition vs. Change: Navigating the Midlife TransitionStephanie McLaughlin kicks off season five of the Forty Drinks Podcast by exploring the concept of transition versus change, inspired by the best-selling book by William Bridges, PhD, Transitions: Making Sense of Lifeâs Changes.
The way William Bridges presents the two concepts, they are not the same thing at all. These two words are not interchangeable. A change, he says, is situational and external. It could be starting or leaving a job or relationship, having a baby, moving to a new place, the death of a parent, getting married or divorced, starting or buying a business, leaving the military, changing career, your kid going off to college. All these are CHANGES.
A transition is psychological and internal. It is the reorientation or redefinition of the self that you go through in order to incorporate these changes into your life. Unless this transition happens, he says, change doesnât work.
Further, transition, as Bridges presents it, is a three stage process. First, there is an ending. Then there is a neutral zone. Then, there is a new beginning. He describes the subject of the book as: âthe difficult process of letting go of an old situation, of suffering the confusing nowhere of inbetweenness, and of launching forth again in a new situation.â
These concepts, and more from the book, will provide a framework for the midlife transition that weâll go back to throughout the season.
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Stephanie Rose checked off a huge number of major life events in her early 30s, in a bit of a whirlwind fashion. She met and married her husband, bought her first home, gave birth two her two kids, and experienced the death of her mom. Then, at 39, she started a business and realized she didnât really have a frame of reference for who she was any more and felt like she needed to get to know herself better. So she used exercises from Julia Cameronâs The Artistsâ Way and then developed some of her own. Using these tools, Stephanie is reframing things from her past. Looking at harder moments and realizing she did the best she could with the tools and capacity at her disposal at that time.
Guest BioStephanie Rose empowers women to remember their magic through knowing themselves better and live a life that lights them up through mindset shifts, easy to try tips and giving themselves the permission they only think they need to change their lives. She shares ways to find the time to do more of what you love and reframe the way you live your life on her blog at FireflyScout.com and on Instagram and LinkedIn @FireflyScout.
Turning 40 and Rewriting My StoryStephanie Rose is a woman on a mission to help others know themselves better, believe in themselves, and take aligned action towards living a life that lights them up. In this episode of the Forty Drinks Podcast, Stephanie shares her journey of self-discovery and transformation in her 30s and 40s. She checked off a lot of the âadult boxesâ in a very short period: mariage, house, babies, death of a parent, starting a business. Then she realized she really didnât know who she was anymore.
From moving around as a child to finding her footing in Michigan, Stephanie reflects on the impact of her experiences and the importance of finding her true self. She discusses the significance of embracing her quirks and celebrating her own uniqueness. Stephanie also talks about the decision to leave her corporate job and pursue her passion for helping others, and how she navigates the challenges and fears that come with following her purpose. Tune in to this inspiring episode to learn how Stephanie has embraced her optimism and is empowering others to live their best lives.
Highlights from the episode:
Stephanie's experience of moving around as a child and the impact it had on her sense of self.The power of journaling and morning pages in uncovering thoughts and feelings.Embracing quirks and celebrating uniqueness as part of self-discovery.The decision to leave a corporate job and pursue a passion for helping others.Navigating challenges and fears while following one's purpose.If you enjoyed this episode, don't forget to rate, follow, and review the Forty Drinks Podcast to stay up to date with future episodes.
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Vince Kramer ignored three major wake up calls in his 40s, before the Universe - or whatever you prefer to call it - finally got his attention. First, he narrowly missed piloting one of the United flights on 9/11. Then, he experienced a major financial setback due to United Airlines declaring bankruptcy. And, finally, his marriage ended and he realized he needed to stop ignoring these signs and figure out what was missing in his life. Thatâs when his journey of self discovery really began.
Guest BioAn airline pilot, military veteran, transformational trainer and mentor, and Clear Conscious Channel, Vince Kramer brings a unique experience to the world of transformation and purpose-driven growth. His past experience in a stereotypically âmachoâ field brings a more integrated perspective to the softer field of personal growth not often seen.
As a speaker, teacher, guide and best-selling author of âAwakening Through Moments of Choiceâ with his wife and business partner Mary, Vinceâs distinct combination of experience, education and research helps him develop powerful talks, workshops and online training in finding happiness and success by living life by their design.
A co-founder of Imagine Miracles, he passionately believes everyone is unique and the creator of their own life. It is his desire to inspire and empower men, women, organizations and families to find success and happiness by designing and creating a life fueled by their desires.
Turning 40 and Touched by an AngelIn this episode of the Forty Drinks Podcast, Stephanie sits down with Vince Kramer, a former airline pilot who ignored three major wake up calls in his 40s, before the Universe - or whatever you prefer to call it - finally got his attention. Vince shares his powerful midlife transformation journey, which began with a wake-up call on September 11th, 2001. He recounts how this event, along with personal experiences, led him to question his life's purpose and seek a different path. Vince discusses how he discovered his true purpose and the importance of living life on our own terms. He also delves into the connection between science and spirituality and how they can work together to help individuals find their purpose. Throughout the conversation, Vince emphasizes the importance of listening to the calling within and being open to new possibilities.
Episode highlights:
Vince's first wake-up call came on September 11th, 2001, when he narrowly missed piloting the flight that crashed in Pennsylvania. The event made Vince realize he wanted to live his life differently and pursue happiness while still achieving his goals.Vince initially fell back into his old habits and focused on financial security, but eventually realized he was missing something more meaningful.Vince's second wake-up call came when he experienced a major financial setback due to United Airlines declaring bankruptcy.Vince's third wake-up call came when his marriage ended and he realized he needed to find what was missing in his life.Vince's fourth wake-up call - this time a positive one! - came when he met his current wife, Mary, who introduced him to spirituality and helped him discover his purpose.Vince started receiving messages and guidance at night, which led him to channeling and a deeper understanding of purpose.Vince emphasizes the importance of being open to new possibilities and listening to the calling within to find one's purpose.If you enjoyed this episode, please consider sharing it with a friend, or rating the podcast on your podcast listening app.
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Susie Castellanos Hansley is a first-generation Mexican American who was raised by her grandmother from the age of two after her mother died, along with her siblings and cousins. Susie found school was a refuge and something she was good at. She followed the school path straight through a Ph.D. and postdoctoral studies only to find that teaching didnât suit her, which led to years of trying to find the right professional fit. She equated her value as a person with her ability to earn an income, so these years of wandering left her in a deep depression. It wasnât until her late 40s that she realized that her childhood trauma was affecting her personally and professionally.
Guest BioSusie Castellanos Hansley, Ph.D. is a speaker, workshop leader, and Master Certified Life Coach who helps high achievers reduce stress and achieve more success. She does this through one-on-one coaching as well as through speaking and workshop engagements for businesses, organizations, universities, and other groups.
As a high achiever herself - sheâs a first-generation Mexican American, first in her family to go to college, earned an Ivy League Ph.D., and was a tenure-track professor - Susie had the drive, curiosity, and intelligence to be successful. But her anxiety, unresolved trauma, and imposter syndrome caused her to push herself too hard â and she burned out.
This experience led her on a quest: to help herself and other high achievers NEVER be undermined by stress again. When Susie learned about recent developments in NEUROSCIENCE and nervous system regulation, she had a EUREKA moment: âMy stress, overwhelm, and imposter syndrome arenât signs something is âwrongâ with me - I just hadn't learned HOW to work WITH my nervous system!â
Now that Susie knows how to REGULATE her nervous system and DE-STRESS, she helps other high achievers do the same - so they can achieve their goals while feeling GREAT doing it.
Susieâs clients go from anxious and stressed to confident, certain, and calm â which allows them to stop wasting emotional energy and become more productive, accomplished, and fulfilled in their work, relationships, and lives.
Turning 40 and Healing First Generation WoundsIn this episode of the Forty Drinks Podcast, host Stephanie McLaughlin talks to Susie Castellanos Hansley, a first-generation Mexican American who was raised by her grandmother from the age of two, along with her siblings and cousins, after her mother died. Susie didnât understand how her childhood trauma was affecting her personally and professionally until the Covid lockdown. She was using the Clubhouse app to connect with other people and entered a room on anxiety that blew her mind. She asked, âIs it possible for you to have anxiety and not know you have anxiety?â She found out it was. That led her to uncover the trauma of growing up in poverty with an abuela who had her own unhealed traumas. Susie shares her journey of navigating various career paths, dealing with trauma and anxiety, and finding her passion in coaching. She discusses the importance of understanding the nervous system and how trauma can impact our lives. Susie also emphasizes the power of having a compassionate witness and finding your âpackâ of supportive individuals.
Highlights from the episode:
Susie's journey of academic achievement and trying many different careers, plus her feelings of failure that led to a 15-year midlife slump.Confusing her value as a person with her ability to make money. The realization that she had trauma and anxiety and the importance of finding a compassionate witness.Discovering the power of the nervous system in healing trauma and understanding triggers.The role of shame in suppressing emotions and the importance of un-shaming ourselves.Finding your âpackâ of supportive individuals who can be compassionate... -
Birgitta Visser kept making the same mistake over and over again in her romantic relationships. She had an acute case of what she called âdoormat syndrome,â which meant she didnât want to hurt anyoneâs feelings but that meant she would compromise well beyond what was reasonable in her relationships. That left her âwalking in her own shadow,â neglecting her own feelings and needs until she was the one who got hurt. The roots of this behavior lay in childhood experiences of abuse and loss and a lifelong lack of confidence in herself. It wasnât until hitting rock bottom for the second time at 42 that she started to figure out how to love herself.
Guest BioBirgitta Visser is Soul Empowerment Coach, Divine Channel and Light Language Healer, Speaker and Author of the book BE-com-ing Authentically Me, delivering messages from the many Light BEings, and Master Teachers to the aid of humanity. Her life path has been anything but conventional, but Birgitta's story serves as a beacon of hope and inspiration to others.
She says, "There is nothing that cannot be overcome, for what we think, we create and thus manifest within our own lives. To heal ourselves, we must first learn to love ourselves. If we cannot love ourselves, how can we ever heal ourselves, embracing the wholesome, loving nature that represents our truest self? At any given moment, we have the power to change, to heal and to overcome.â
She hopes that people will awaken to what life is all about, and is simply here to offer her words as food for thought in unlocking their own potential to BE-com-ing authentically themselves.
Turning 40 and Stop Making the Same MistakeIn this episode of the Forty Drinks Podcast, host Stephanie McLaughlin interviews Birgitta Visser, a woman who has experienced a lifetime of trauma and transformation. Birgitta shares her story of abuse, loss, addiction, and healing, and how she has learned to cultivate joy and find happiness in her own life. From her early experiences in the modeling industry to her tumultuous romantic relationships, Birgitta faced many challenges but has come out stronger and more resilient. Through holistic healing modalities, Birgitta found a path to self-discovery and self-love. Despite the hardships she weathered, Birgitta remains optimistic and grateful for her experiences, recognizing that they have shaped her into the person she is today.
Highlights from the episode include:
Birgitta's experiences in the modeling industry and her struggles with confidence.How the loss of her stepfather sent her spiraling into a period of drug use and bad decisions. Two separate rock bottom experiences, at 35 and 42, both the result of toxic romantic relationships. How she received a death threat from the Dutch version of The Crips gang.Her journey of holistic healing and self-discovery, and her newfound sense of happiness and fulfillment.Birgitta's story serves as an inspiration for anyone who has faced trauma or hardship and is seeking a path to healing and personal growth. Itâs a testament to the power of resilience and self-love in overcoming life's challenges. If you enjoyed this episode, please consider rating the podcast and sharing this episode with a friend!
After listening to the episode, you might be wondering how can I learn to love myself?
Learning to love yourself can be daunting, especially if you have strong negative self-talk running in your head all the time. If you're constantly putting yourself down, it's hard to find yourself lovable. In one of my reflections episodes, I described an exercise for combatting negative self-talk.
Once you get a handle on that negative energy clouding your perception of yourself, you can begin
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As mother-daughter relationships go, Renee says hers with her mom was pretty good, but she never felt like she had permission to be herself. When she was a girl and her mom would make a dress, sheâd make a smaller one in the same style and pattern for Renee. Her mom liked bright colors and patterns and Renee would have preferred more unobtrusive clothes. Renee wanted to fit in but her mom wanted her to stand out. Renee says she often thought the first line of a book on her life would be : "When I turned 40, I lost my mother and began to find myself."
Guest BioAfter 40 years on a diet, yo-yoing up and down the scale, RenĂ©e Jones had learned every diet â and every cheat â before finally stopping the comfort and stress eating to shed âthose last 30 poundsâ yet AGAIN in 2012 but this time, she has maintained at her goal weight. Now as a professional speaker and coach, she helps others overcome their self-sabotage to shed their weight AND keep it off.
RenĂ©e has a Masterâs degree in Marriage and Family Counseling, a Clinical Residency, and training in contemporary methods of transformation. Her book is Whatâs Really Eating You: Overcome the Triggers of Comfort Eating
Turning 40 and Facing your Stuff so you Don't have to Stuff Your FaceIn this episode of the Forty Drinks Podcast, Stephanie talks to Renee Jones, a coach and former hospital chaplain, about her midlife transformation. Renee shares her journey of self-discovery after the loss of her mother, which led her to break out of the mold she had formed in and embrace her true self. She shares her experience with emotional eating and how she broke the cycle. Renee emphasizes the importance of facing your fears and finding ways to get what you need in a healthy way. Throughout the conversation, she offers insights and advice on healing the heart and living a bigger life. Don't miss this inspiring episode filled with wisdom and self-reflection.
Highlights from the episode:
Renee's experience of losing her mother and the impact it had on her life.How Renee found the freedom to be herself and explore new possibilities after her mother's passing.The role of coaching in Renee's personal growth and transformation.The connection between emotional eating and finding alternative ways to fulfill emotional needs.Renee's journey as a coach and speaker, helping others heal their hearts and live their best lives.If you enjoyed this episode, please rate, follow, and review the Forty Drinks Podcast.
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Jo Ann Fawcett was heavily influenced as a child by the image of the happy family from the TV show Leave it to Beaver, which left her with some - perhaps unreasonable - ideas of what a marriage should look like, but her upbringing left her without the tools to build a successful one. Jo Ann was married seven times and experienced abuse, divorce, and death of her spouse. Her last marriage, to an inmate, lasted 20 years. Now, sheâs sharing her hard-earned lessons with the next generation, the most important being: you are enough.
Guest BioJo Ann Fawcett is a native Californian now living in Portland OR. She has a thriving bookkeeping practice called Jo Ann Richards Bookkeeping. She is the mother of a grown daughter and proud grandmother of three. Jo Ann dramatically changed her life after seven marriages that included abuse, divorce, death, and being a prison wife. She left the Mormon Church after 30 years and never looked back. She found her strengths, gifts, and inner power, learning that dreams do come true. Midlife Magic, a memoir, is her first book. She is currently writing a second book, The Prince Was Wrong. Jo Ann welcomes opportunities to share her story with audiences that serve women feeling stressed, overwhelmed, and âstuckâ in their relationships.
Turning 40 and Marrying an InmateIn this episode of the Forty Drinks Podcast, Stephanie interviews Jo Ann Fawcett, a woman who had multiple marriages including a long-term relationship with a partner in prison. Jo Ann shares her journey of growing up with the idealized image of a happy family from the 1950s, influenced by shows like "Leave It To Beaver," and how that influenced her life choices. She discusses her experiences with codependency, marrying multiple times, and the challenges she faced in her relationships. Jo Ann also talks about her personal growth journey, therapy, and the importance of taking care of oneself. She offers advice to her younger self and shares the wisdom she has gained as a wise woman in her 60s.
Highlights from the episode include:
The impact of idealized images of family from the 1950s on Jo Ann's early life choices and expectations.Jo Ann's experiences with codependency and the challenges she faced in her relationships, including an abusive marriage.The decision to marry a man in prison and the lessons she learned from that relationship.The importance of self-care and knowing one's own worth.Jo Ann's advice to her younger self, including the importance of being employable, saving for retirement, and embracing one's own identity.Check out this episode to hear Jo Annâs advice to her younger self and other young people from her perspective and her hard-won experience. And, if you enjoy this episode, please rate, follow, and review the podcast.
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Dana Diaz was born to a teenage mother who didnât want her and grew up with a stepfather who was verbally and physically abusive. She left home as soon as she was legally able to and swore that nobody would ever treat her like that again. When she was 19, Dana met a man she didnât like very much but she was lonely and starved for attention - and he was from a Leave it to Beaver kind of family. She fell in love with his family and assumed that his behaviors were due to being young and immature. Within a month of their first date Dana had moved in; five years later they got married and two and a half years later they had a son. Dana was 27 and thatâs when things really started getting bad.
Guest BioDana S. Diaz is a wife, mother, and author of the best-selling book GASPING FOR AIR: THE STRANGLEHOLD OF NARCISSISTIC ABUSE. Dana has had life-long experience with narcissistic abuse, beginning in childhood. Her education in journalism and psychology at DePaul University in Chicago gave her the ability to accurately verbalize and express how narcissistic abuse creates confusion and conflict within victims, so that she can help other victims know they are not alone and better understand their own circumstances.
Today, Dana is a proud voice for fellow victims who are unable, afraid, or ashamed to share their experiences. She strives to create awareness and understanding to ensure victims are given the support they need to first understand their situation and then begin the healing process. Her first book, chronicling her own abusive marriage that lasted nearly three decades, started as a journal that she hid under the couch cushion in the basement.
Dana lives with her husband in Illinois and is in the process of publishing the prequel and sequel to GASPING FOR AIR.
Turning 40 and Surviving an Abusive MarriageIn this episode of the Forty Drinks Podcast, Stephanie interviews Dana Diaz, the survivor of an abusive relationship. Dana shares her harrowing story of living with an abusive husband for 25 years and the toll it took on her physical and mental health. She discusses the financial, emotional, and physical abuse she endured and the isolation she experienced. Despite the challenges, Dana found the strength to leave her abusive marriage and rebuild her life. She talks about the importance of self-care and surrounding herself with positive influences. Dana also reflects on the impact the abuse had on her son and her hopes for his future. This powerful episode highlights the importance of recognizing and escaping abusive relationships and finding healing and happiness in midlife.
Highlights from the episode:
Dana's experience of financial, emotional, and physical abuse in her 25-year marriage.The impact of her husband's controlling behavior and isolation on her mental health.The role of self-care in Dana's healing process and finding her own happiness.The concern for her son and the hope that he will break the cycle of abuse.The importance of surrounding oneself with positive influences and supportive relationships.In this powerful episode, Dana shares her journey from surviving abuse to finding healing and happiness. Her story serves as a reminder of the strength and resilience of survivors and the importance of breaking the cycle of abuse. If you enjoyed this episode, please rate, follow, and review the Forty Drinks Podcast.
Why are abusive relationships hard to leave?
Nobody sets out to enter an abusive relationship but once we realize how bad things have become itâs hard to find a way out. This is because abusive relationships are about power and control - the abuser wants all of it. Behaviors that may seem chivalrous or caring become controlling. Behaviors that start out seeming immature calcify and bloom into violence. By the time we realize how far things have gone, we feel shame about letting...
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Though he knows he came to the understanding late in life, Paul Zolman realized at age 35 that he was responsible for his own actions. He had residual anger from being abused as a child and he blamed his father even though the man had been dead for 7 years already. His initial approach to solving his problems came from a negative perspective, âI donât want to be angryâ instead of focusing on what he did want. He says double negatives only work in math, not in relationships. He found that focusing on the negative only amplified the problem and his anger ultimately caused the demise of his first marriage.
Guest BioThe author of love is God. In His wisdom, He placed us in a variety of circumstances that require us to find our way back to His pure love. So, what qualifies Paul Zolman to speak about love? His childhood experience is the opposite of love. From an austere beginning, and the distaste it formed inside him, he searched for and eventually created a method that transformed his life from anger to loving everyone. Growing up in a family of abuse, physical touch became his preferred love style, only because of the regularity. He could almost count on it. It was consistent. He came to think that was the way to express love. But deep inside, he knew that was a twisted belief. He wanted a better life for himself, which is why he created a paradigm shift that works. Learn what helped Paul Zolman move from a childhood boot camp of abuse to being a person who loves everyone and can find good about anyone in any circumstance. This is truly the role of love.
Turning 40 and Taking Responsibility for My ActionsIn this episode of the Forty Drinks Podcast, Stephanie interviews Paul Zolman, who shares his midlife journey from anger to love. Paul grew up in a household filled with anger and abuse, which led to him carrying that anger into his own adult life. It wasn't until he reached the age of 35 that he realized he needed to take responsibility for his own actions and stop blaming his father for his social awkwardness and anger issues. Paul tells the story of reporting himself for child abuse and attending anger management classes, which led to him developing a dice with the five love languages to shift his focus from anger to love. Through this transformation, Paul was able to improve his relationships, communicate better with his children, and find forgiveness for his parents. This episode is a powerful exploration of personal growth and the power of choosing love over anger.
Highlights from the episode:
Paul's realization at age 35 that he needed to take responsibility for his own actions and stop blaming his father.The negative approach Paul initially took to try to overcome his anger, and how he shifted to a more positive and loving mindset.Paul's experiences with destination dating and how he eventually found love through a connection made by his sister.The impact of Paul's anger on his first marriage and the importance of communication and love in relationships.The creation of the dice with the five love languages and how it helped Paul shift his focus from anger to love.If you enjoyed this episode, don't forget to rate, follow, and review the Forty Drinks Podcast.
Guest ResourcesThe Role of Love, bundle package (book, journal & cube) for only $29.99
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When she was 35, Diane Woodford was living a pretty picture. She was married with two kids and a dog, living in her dream house, and driving a minivan to her dream job. She had no idea that everything was about to blow up. She says the next decade was when she transitioned from a caterpillar to a butterfly. But first, she had to make some decisions that not everyone would agree with but ultimately led to both her - and her family - thriving.
Guest Bio
Diane is a retired critical care nurse, instructor, author, podcaster, philanthropist, world traveler, one-love ambassador, mentor, wife, mother, and nana. Diane has a heart for serving humanity and raising the vibrations in whatever space she enters. Diane and her husband Charles are on an incredible journey of being love in action wherever they feel called to go. They call it their "Go Where I Send You Journey."
Turning 40 and Emerging from the CocoonIn this episode of the Forty Drinks Podcast, Stephanie interviews Diane Woodford, a woman who has experienced multiple transformative periods in her life. Diane shares her journey of going through a divorce and leaving her children behind to start a new life on her own in California, and finding the courage to heal unresolved issues with her father. She discusses the importance of trusting oneself, giving oneself grace, and surrendering to the shifts and changes that life brings. Diane also talks about her ongoing journey to reach her dream of going to Paris and the unexpected adventures and achievements she has unlocked along the way. This episode is filled with wisdom, inspiration, and a reminder to embrace the journey and trust the process.
Highlights from the episode:
Diane's realization that her marriage was coming to an end and the feelings of discomfort and out-of-sync that led to their separation.The importance of uncovering and addressing unresolved issues, such as Diane's relationship with her father, to find healing and transformation.The courage it took for Diane to leave her children behind and start a new life in California, and the positive impact it had on both her and her children's growth and independence.The power of surrendering to the shifts and changes in life, and the importance of giving oneself grace during the journey.Diane's ongoing journey to reach her dream of going to Paris and the unexpected achievements and adventures she has experienced along the way.Rate, follow, and review the Forty Drinks Podcast if you enjoyed this episode!
Guest ResourcesConnect with Diane at the Paths 2 Transformation website
Dianeâs book, Clearly Ready: See yourself in your next season
"When God Winks" by Squire D. Rushnell
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Dai Manuel was in his late 30s and the cofounder of a successful fitness industry company when he realized that all the trappings of success that he was chasing were from someone elseâs dream. The things and experiences that he saw his business mentor and co-founder acquire were what he interpreted as âsuccess.â After 17 years in this company, he realized he was trying to live someone elseâs life, which led to scary questions like: where am I supposed to be? And, what am I supposed to be doing? Those questions led him in a completely different direction than he expected.
Guest BioGet ready to meet Dai Manuel - the ultimate super dad, husband extraordinaire, and all-around life enthusiast! Dai is on a mission to inspire and positively impact one million role models across the globe, encouraging them to lead a FUN-ctionally healthy life through education, community, and much encouragement.
As an award-winning digital thought leader and author, Dai has mastered leading by example, always staying true to his values of Fitness, Family, Faith, Finances, and FUN. He knows firsthand how challenging it can be to juggle life's responsibilities while prioritizing health and happiness.
But don't let his impressive resume fool you - Dai's infectious personality and contagious enthusiasm truly set him apart. He's a sought-after lifestyle mentor, executive performance coach, and keynote speaker who will leave you feeling inspired, motivated, and ready to take on the world.
Turning 40 and Hitting the RoadIn this episode of the Forty Drinks Podcast, Stephanie talks to Dai Manuel, who explains that, as a child, he used emotional eating, video games and other distractions to cope with his parents' divorce, leading him to become morbidly obese unhappy and depressed. At the age of 15, he realized things would stay the same unless he did something, so he made a decision to change his life and embarked on a fitness journey that he continues to this day. At 17 he started drinking alcohol, which made social interactions much smoother. He continued with that until he was 32 and his wife asked him if he was acting like the kind of man he wanted his daughters to marry, which was a rude wake up call. He decided to go one year without drinking and realized just a few weeks in that he couldnât do it without help. He talks about the importance of vulnerability, seeking help, and making positive lifestyle changes.
In his late 30s, Dai left a successful fitness industry startup that he co-founded when he realized that all the trappings of success that he was chasing were from someone elseâs life. He and his wife quit their jobs, sold their stuff, packed their SUV with their two daughters and embarked upon five years of travel throughout North America and Indonesia before returning to Canada so their daughters could graduate high school there.
Highlights from the episode include:
Dai's realization that he needed to make a change for his futureHis journey to becoming the fittest and healthiest version of himselfThe impact of chronic stress on mental and physical healthThe importance of non-negotiable self-care timeAnd, the power of modeling and mentorship in personal growth.In this inspiring episode, Dai Manuel shares his transformative journey of overcoming early adversity, prioritizing mental and physical health, and finding purpose and fulfillment off the beaten track. Listeners are encouraged to take steps towards their own well-being and to check out Dai's resources for further support. Don't forget to rate, follow, and review the Forty Drinks Podcast if you enjoyed this episode.
Guest ResourcesDai Manuel, Your Lifestyle Mentor
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In the year leading up to her 50th birthday, Jennifer found herself divorced, an empty nester, let go from her career, and bed-ridden with a stress-related illness. In the space of a year, all of her identities were stripped away from her and, most days, she couldnât even get out of bed. That led to wondering what was wrong with her and why her life had crumbled when everyone else looked like they had it all together. She wondered, âif I'm not a wife, if I'm not a mother, if I'm not a corporate executive, then who am I?â
Guest BioJennifer Arthurton is the founder and creator of Old Chicks Know Sh*t, a community and a podcast designed to inspire and support midlife women in chasing their dreams and creating their kick ass next chapter. Jennifer is a former Fortune 500 marketing executive turned midlife mentor, podcast host, writer and speaker. Having survived her own midlife crisis and subsequent course correction, she has a passion for helping other women uncover the inherent power and wisdom of a time of life when they often feel overlooked and doubt themselves most.
Turning 40 and Shedding Old IdentitiesIn this episode of the Forty Drinks Podcast, Stephanie interviews Jennifer Arhturon, who went through a transformative midlife crisis at the age of 50. Jennifer shares her journey of self-discovery and how she navigated the challenges of divorce, empty nest syndrome, and a stress-related illness that left her bedridden. She discusses the importance of listening to your inner voice and honoring your desires and dreams. Jennifer also talks about the mission behind her podcast, Old Chicks Know Shit, which aims to empower women in their 40s and beyond to embrace their wisdom and live fulfilling lives. This episode is a reminder that it's never too late to reinvent yourself and find happiness in the next chapter of life.
Highlights from the episode:
Jennifer's realization that she was living a life based on external validation and the need to prove her worth. The wake-up call she received when her life fell apart at the age of 50, leading to a period of self-reflection and discovery.The importance of paying attention to the whispers and nudges of dissatisfaction, rather than ignoring them and having to deal with burnout and break down.Jennifer's journey of getting to know herself and uncovering her true desires and passions.The power of meditation and stillness in finding clarity and connecting with one's inner voice.Embracing creativity as a means of self-expression and fulfillment.The mission of Old Chicks Know Shit to remind women that they are more than their external appearances and to empower them to embrace their wisdom and share their gifts with the world.If you enjoyed this episode, don't forget to rate, follow, and review the Forty Drinks Podcast.
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At 20, Mitch Webb fell out a second story window on the first night of his college study abroad program. The fall left him with a traumatic brain injury, panic attacks and insomnia. In the years since, heâs dealt with black mold toxicity, Lyme disease, heavy metals poisoning, diabetes, and major hormonal imbalances. He was in a car accident that left him with another TBI and then spent three years battling long-haul Covid. Through it all, he relied on aggressive treatments, biohacking, restrictive dieting and excessive exercise to try to heal himself, but it was always an up and down â until he learned about healing nervous system dysregulation, which is a much gentler practice that doesnât offer immediate gratification but does act as the root cause of so many chronic illnesses.
Guest BioMitch Webb is a former Corporate Sales Executive turned Integrated Health Coach. Mitch discovered his passion for health and wellness after battling multiple TBIs, Lyme disease, chronic fatigue, diabetes, hormone imbalances, weight loss resistance, black mold and heavy metal toxicity. After visiting multiple doctors and not getting answers he was looking for, Mitch dove into the latest research and adopted a lifestyle that allowed him to heal.
Now, it's Mitchâs passion to work with executives who are sick, tired, and overweight so that they can feel their best and perform optimally. Mitch takes a holistic approach to optimal health by focusing on mindset, mental and emotional support, movement, nutrition and lifestyle choices that are unique to the individual so that they can improve their health and live the life they deserve. You can learn more about Mitch at mitchwebb.com or by following him on LinkedIn.
Turning 40 and Healing Your Nervous SystemIn this episode of the Forty Drinks Podcast, Stephanie talks to Mitch Webb, a health and wellness enthusiast who shares his journey of transformation and healing in his thirties. Mitch opens up about his struggles with TBIs, anxiety, insomnia, Lyme disease, diabetes and hormonal imbalances, and how they led him to a variety of aggressive approaches to health and wellness. He discusses his experiences with restrictive diets, biohacking, and other aggressive modalities before he learned about the importance of understanding and healing nervous system dysregulation. Mitch also emphasizes the significance of trauma and its impact on our overall well-being. Throughout the conversation, he highlights the importance of listening to our bodies, being authentic, and finding joy in the journey of self-discovery.
Highlights from the episode:
Mitch's experience with anxiety, insomnia, and hormonal imbalances.The impact of restrictive diets and biohacking on his health and well-being.The role of the nervous system in healing and overall wellness.The importance of addressing trauma and its effects on the body.Mitch's journey of self-discovery and finding joy in the process.Resources mentioned:
"The Body Keeps the Score" by Bessel van der KolkIrene Lyon - somatic experiencing and Feldenkrais workIn this insightful episode, Mitch shares his personal journey of transformation and offers valuable insights into the importance of understanding and healing the nervous system. Listeners are encouraged to prioritize their well-being, listen to their bodies, and embrace authenticity. Don't forget to rate, follow, and review the Forty Drinks Podcast if you enjoyed this episode.
How does early childhood trauma affect us as adults?
Early childhood trauma should be interpreted on a spectrum. It can come in many forms, from outright abuse and neglect, to simply not receiving the kind of response your unique mind and body desire in a certain situation, and it can cause a variety of responses in adulthood. For Mitch, it caused dysregulation of
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Ryan Judd always knew he wanted to work with kids. Growing up, he took jobs as a camp counselor and babysitter. That led him through college and grad school into a career in music therapy serving children with special needs and autism. He experimented with creating a music therapy âpackageâ that he could sell online. The project didnât work but it led him to writing and releasing original, clinical-based music for people suffering from insomnia and anxiety. These projects were very successful and gave him the space to heed the calling he felt to make art.
Guest BioRyan Judd is a Billboard Chart Topping recording artist, award-winning musician, and internationally known music therapist. He is an accomplished fingerstyle guitarist and is committed to making music that inspires well-being. Ryanâs unique musical style on the nylon string guitar creates a warm and gentle soundscape for the listener. His recordings have been streamed more than 340 million times. As a board-certified music therapist, Ryan has had the honor of working with children with life-threatening illnesses. This has inspired him to donate a percentage of his profits to a non-profit organization called Lucyâs Love Bus which provides free music therapy services to pediatric cancer patients. Ryan is also the co-founder of the app, Cool Koala - Guided Bedtime Meditations for Children with ADHD and Anxiety.
Turning 40 and Letting Go of the Sure ThingIn this episode of the Forty Drinks Podcast, Stephanie talks to Ryan Judd, a musician and music therapist who has transitioned from a music therapist to a successful musician in his 40s. Ryan shares his journey from working with kids to a career in music therapy, to producing clinical-based music for insomnia and anxiety, and eventually transitioning into the world of making music as art. He discusses the role of mentorship and courage in following his passions and taking risks. Ryan also talks about the importance of vision boards and goal setting in achieving success. The episode concludes with a discussion about Ryan's milestone of reaching 100 million streams on Amazon music and the unexpected turns his life has taken.
Highlights from the episode:
Ryan's passion for working with kids and his journey into psychology and music therapy.The transformative experience of working with children with special needs and finding his calling in that field.Ryan's exploration into creating music for sale, and his transition from creating clinical-based music to pursuing his artistic vision.The role of mentorship and support in Ryan's journey and the importance of asking for help.The power of courage in pursuing new opportunities and overcoming insecurities.The success of Ryan's music on Amazon music and the impact of his work on listeners.Resources mentioned:
"The 4-Hour Workweek" by Tim Ferriss: A book that inspired Ryan to explore passive income streams.Cool Koala app: An app co-founded by Ryan that provides guided bedtime meditations for kids with ADHD and anxiety.Ryanâs albums:
Sleep SoundlyTranquil GuitarAn Open SkyListeners are encouraged to rate, follow, and review the podcast.
Is âshouldâ a positive or negative word?
The people who tell us what we SHOULD do usually have our best interests in mind. They want to give us the path to success and - more often - safety. But âshouldâ is a loaded word. According to the definition, the word is used to indicate obligation, duty, or correctness, typically when criticizing someone's actions. And the bigger problem with âshouldâ is that we can internalize those obligations or duties as the only ârightâ way to live our lives. But every one of those âshouldsâ comes from outside our own heart and soul, which nobody else can fully know. In episode 3, Jaimeâs...
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When Justin Schenck was in high school, he would have been a contender for the âleast likely to succeedâ superlative. He had a 1.7 GPA; his mom was in the middle of her 20-year battle with opioids and his dad was in jail. So how did he become a successful entrepreneur and podcaster and a coveted speaker? Between ages 19 and 30, when Justin was chasing all the things society told him he âshould,â what he was really chasing was happiness. Then he realized that the version of happiness that he was chasing wasnât real. The real lesson was that everything weâre searching for is internal but most of us are searching for it externally.
Guest BioJustin Schenck is an entrepreneur, speaker and the host of the top rated podcast the Growth Now Movement. He has been named a Top 8 Podcaster to follow by INC Magazine, featured in Thrive Global and chosen as an âIcon of Influenceâ in the new media space.
Justinâs podcast is currently played in more than 100 countries every week and he has gone on to help countless people grow their brands and business with his company PodBrand.io. He is also the host and creator of one of the go to events for entrepreneurs and forward thinkers: Growth Now Summit LIVE!
Learning How to Love Yourself Before Turning 40In this episode of the Forty Drinks Podcast, Stephanie talks to Justin Schenck, a successful entrepreneur and longtime podcaster. Justin shares his personal journey, from a difficult upbringing to finding success and happiness in his thirties. He talks about how he overcame limiting beliefs and adversities, and the importance of self-awareness in his transformation. Justin also talks about the societal pressures he faced in his twenties and how he realized that true happiness comes from within. He shares his daily practices for self-care and growth, as well as his perspective on turning 40 and embracing the next phase of life.
Highlights from this episode include:
Justin's challenging upbringing and how he overcame the odds to become a successful entrepreneurThe role of self-awareness in Justin's journey and how it shaped his mindset and actionsThe realization that external achievements and societal ideals don't guarantee happinessJustin's four daily practices for self-care and personal growthThe importance of getting uncomfortable, surrounding yourself with the right people, and taking action to overcome limiting beliefs and challengesResources mentioned in this episode:
Podfest: An annual podcasting conference that Justin and Stephanie both attendAndy Frisella, Real AF PodcastIf you enjoyed this episode, please rate, follow, and review the podcast.
After listening to todayâs episode, you might be wondering, whatâs self awareness?
Self awareness is being conscious of both our own behaviors and how we are perceived by others. In the context of the discussions on The Forty Drinks Podcast, self-awareness is what many people come to during their midlife transition. Like Justin, they realize that what theyâve been doing isnât working and isnât making them happy. Just knowing that youâre not happy is a sign of self-awareness. Serban realized that his life was fine - no better, no worse - and that he wanted more than that. Tara followed a path of shoulds straight through college and to a career that, while it may have been stable, dependable and well paying (just like her parents said), left her broken into a million pieces. Figuring out what it was that she wanted and what...
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