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The secret of the green smoothie is more than I have one for breakfast everyday. It is part of a process or ritual that I do to feed both my mind and body. My daily scale, you may have heard me refer to it as the ladder, is a morning process that I do to set my mind and body for upcoming day. It is not complicated, but it takes disciple to be committed to getting up at 5 am to work out.
Many of the listeners and followers on social media drink a version every day as well. I am happy that you are giving yourself green love every day. For those who have not made one before, I will tell how to make the perfect smoothie. I may say perfect because my sister Jenn, who has been having her own green smoothie almost every day for breakfast this year, said mine was better than hers.
I challenge you to take action - go make a green smoothie right now. If you do not love it, message me so we can talk about what you did possibly could not like.
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Why do you refuse to let go of the thing that hurts or disempowers you?
Recently Jenn and I were at dinner where I ran into a friend who experienced a very emotional loss - her infant son died soon after childbirth. She started down a path to distract herself from her pain.
We all do that somewhere in our lives. We are holding on to this belief - which may cause us pain or suffering and is not giving you what you want because we are committed to it. It is preventing us from taking action to get results in our lives. With her and others, I have seen people just sit with pain and WANT a something different. WANTING will not change the situation.
We are arguing with reality. For my friend, she is arguing her son should be here and that she wants him here. It is very easy for us to be become stuck and not aware there is another choice?
Today I want you to write down what is the source or cause of your pain? Where are you fighting against reality? Can you see where the opposite belief and evidence agrees more with reality?
Awareness gives us the choice to stop believing in something that is hurting us.
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Have you used the power of language to distinguish what others can not see?
I was doing the morning process with my declared sister working on spinal waves. Off in the distance she sees a mountain and tells me that she can see the face of an Indian Woman. I could not see anything. With language she distinguished exactly what she saw: a feather, her nose, her chin, her eyes.
We do that with ourselves and our own lives. There are versions of us in the distance - seemingly so far away that we do not see it. There is a version of you that you want to create more powerfully. A version of you that is strong across the board. You got stop and slow down a second. Take that version of YOU that is out there and break it down in categories. Ask yourself what precisely is success in those categories that would allow you to ideally SEE this version of you.
I challenge you to take ten minutes today to write down the various areas of your life and where you MUST be in 90 days out. What are you committed to and willing to track?
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If you are listening to this podcast, you are serious from going from 10K to 20K to a month. I am talking to those who have hit 20K a month, but it is not your standard. You now are at your minimum standard. As I called you to action in the last podcast, look at what you are committed to right now - your home, your car, your salary.
To achieve 20K a month could require more work and struggle. Part of the issue is the way you are going about is not working. The other part is that you may be lost and have no idea what you do not know. Now is the time when you need to make a clear decision.
Are you ready to have an awareness where you are coming from in every conversation? I am talking about speaking things out loud, saying what you choose as an outcome. Does this sound obvious? Maybe but so many are not making that choice.
Once you have this awareness, everyone wins. Your customers win. You win. Your kids and spouse win because you are present. Your church wins. Even the guy who mows your lawn wins.
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There are two kinds of writing that you can do, especially if you are attending a seminar, conference, journaling or writing down your thoughts.
The first is to make you feel good. It is very intellectual. It could be ideas you already know or things that make you feel good. In Jenn's case, she will be using the color blue. It was calming and passive. This type of writing is mostly a waste of time. Nothing wrong with it, just acknowledge it. Think consumption mode.
The second type of writing are things you MUST do. These will have numbers, dates, actions and typically have a check box next to them. Very simple did it happen or not. These are things you are committed to changing or implementing. For Jenn she decided to use the color red - writing them in blood. Think action mode.
If I had these pens and this distinction of what color I was writing in, that alone would allow me to move powerfully forward.
What are you committed to in the next 90 days? To help you visualize this activity, go stand outside your home, your workplace, your car or anywhere that represents your life. No shame or guilt - look at what you have been committed to in your life. Where is this compared to last year? Two years ago? Are you committed to making course corrections today to do this exercise next year but with a different view next year?
What color will you write down these commitments?
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Stop projecting your own ideas onto other people in your life!
I had a podcast listener reach out to me. It was great to see his own awareness of this topic. As we go through life we are basically making stuff up and projecting our conclusions and ideas onto other people (our boss, our clients, our kids, our spouse, strangers, etc). Most of the time it is not even true. And then what happens is we hold back because we're coming to the interaction with that preframe already set in our minds. Most of the time we don't even know that we're doing that. What we think is that's just how it is.
Anywhere you find a sting where someone or something makes you really angry, sad or with pain -- right there that is your ego. You are not distinguishing it as your ego. As this podcast listener and I spoke, he asked how does one get rid of this disempowering reality? My answer was 80% of it is just being able to notice and distinguish it -- just like he did.
My invitation to you as you move about your life today notice where this is happening in your life. Share a struggle or a problem that is very expensive in your life with someone you trust. Open up. My guess is that they will see what you could not see. Once you have awareness, you have the ability to make a new choice.
Send me a message ([email protected]), a text via Instagram or Facebook or call. I would love to hear what you noticed in your life.
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It is a reminder that it is possible to get paid more to be WHO you are being anyway. Yes I am saying doing less things and creating more value. The things we want to do anyway. It comes down to our relationship with work and money. It is a very intertwined relationship. I would associate the productive thing would occur as the thing I did not want to do. Even as an adult, when I hear work, I do not want to do it.
My message today is brought to you curiosity of my kids. We are outside picking up rocks. In one sense this could be a very drudgeries task, but it is actually a learning one where we are having fun.
Normally the kids are the ones who get the landscape rocks into the grass. Today I did not get mad at my son Bode as he was throwing them into the grass. Who he is and what I created is that there is nothing about him is wrong, he is a perfect and innocent. So when he did the thing I did not want to do, I let him without getting mad. I did not let that sting of my ego get to me.
Who I am committed to being it the most loving creative and daddy on the planet. Who he is perfect. I hold off watching him. I asked my son what he was doing. I asked him if he could help me put the rocks back. Once he did, I showed him how grateful I was for his assistance. Low and behold, my other child sees this and comes over to help him. No longer is this a chore but something fun. With my son, I interacted with him as "he is" most perfect, lovable, angel human being. From his view, he would not try to do something wrong. He does not have a distinction of wrong. He is a blank slate and looking at rocks / grass.
As a child, my dad had me move rocks as a punishment. I knew I could do better, but it was work - not anything fun or playful. It start this process of resistance of the grind of doing hard work. To grind and sacrifice myself is love and it occurred as love.
Work is not love. Play is love. For me, playing the piano is play.
Reach out to me if you are interesting in playing and not working to be Paid More to Be You.
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As promised, here is a version of Sting's "Shape of My Heart" but with lyrics that are more line with Me Being Me as a Key Player.
He plays the keys as meditation and those he plays for never suspect. He does not play for the money he wins. He does not play for respect...He plays the keys to find the answers and knows in life it is not in chance. Delivering a probable outcome his fingers lead a dance....To me what it means, someone can be paid to pay the way how they to play. Be who they want to Be. Say what they want to say. And see themselves as who they want to be. We can exchange more value by being more of the real us. This is the whole message of Me Being Me.
What does this song mean to you? I would love to hear your thoughts on what those chords and new words mean to you. Look forward to talking to you soon.
Reach out to me below, on Instagram or Facebook (MeBeingMe.live) or at [email protected]
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We all know too well that voice in our head can get so loud, filling us with self-doubt, telling us to play small, stay safe. It left unchecked, that voice starts to feel real. The story we tell ourselves is we are destined that this is my life -- to be sad, to be frustrated, to be depressed, to not apparently live the life we dream.
In this podcast, I will talk about The Scale system that shows you this version of you that operates the way you always wanted to but NEVER gave yourself permission to be so successful across the board. Me Being Me is living my life as an example of what is possible for others. As you hit The Scales and living your life more powerfully with integrity and congruence, you shine bright. People notice and see how powerful it is when each area of your life is woven together properly.
You can play inside the boundaries or be like a rock star and make music / life your very own.
As part of the Keys or the Scale, there are secrets I have figured out but have not shared on these podcasts to help you play this game, the ability to put a rock star face lift on your life. For those who listen, who want that rock style life face lift, who are tired of listening to that voice, I can help you design out your thing.
Once you have clarity, the momentum will build. It may be small and not noticeable that first week, but it builds upon itself. Within 12 weeks, you will look around and see a mini following. People who were already in your life, but you did not see them in that way.
For those that you are ready to add a Rock Star Spin on your life, reach out to me on Facebook, [email protected] Email, Me Being Me Live Instagram or www.mebeingme.live
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Ever had that morning when you just could not get out of bed to face the tasks ahead of you?
"i" did not want to get up -- not the real me. I mean the me who I was thinking I was... the me who mis-identifies as himself as his body, his feelings and his thoughts. My body did NOT want to get up! The real me, the "I", wanted to get up, but my body hit snooze at 4:45 am without me even being conscious of it.
In these moments where I find myself waking up late, judging myself, regretting the mistake of not getting up when I intended and then procrastinating further by thinking about how big the task was ahead of me, I do not do very well.
We know what to do. We know what we ought to do. We know what is required. It is doing the action that puts you
Here is another trick the saying “It is just what I do” or “It’s just who I am” does not give you enough strength. We all have daily disciplines, but have you tried to break it down to smaller chunks? At times breaking it down hour to hour is great, but I am taking about really digging in when you may not have the capacity, the commitment or mental strength to do the next step.
On this morning, lying on the floor procrastinating, I stopped the voices in my head. I took the next action to get out to do my morning routine in those two seconds. I stood up! I was grateful that I was able to stand up. Guess what? I had created momentum. Breaking it down into the small steps in the immediate 10 seconds instead of the whole process, I was able to fight resistance. I built momentum with gratitude.
Remember the journey of Me Being Me is full of gems to accomplish what is required.
What tasks do you find yourself without the mental capacity or strength to complete? Have you tried to break it down in what you need to do in the very next few seconds. Reach out to me or leave a comment below.
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When was it that you started to talk so negatively about yourself? When did you start to be so critical toward yourself?
There is a story from Jesse Elder that has stuck with me recently. He said that “haters” are always going to say that you are full of yourself. Jesse’s response is who else should I be full of? It is a great mantra to error on the side of too much positive reinforcement and belief in yourself..
There is nothing wrong to say to yourself.... “I am an amazing legitimate human being with great intentions and a great heart doing the very best with that I can. I am committed to doing better and actually giving myself full permission to believe that I am awesome.”
Know that you can not go back in time to the past to change it. You can only learn from any previous pain and experience. How I am doing this is creating 90-day commitments that a broken up into 30 day goals with weekly and daily targets. It is this stacking or scales that keeps reminding me how awesome I am.
As I have been over the past few weeks, I genuinely want you to leave a review on this or any other Me Being Me podcast. I am not asking you to do something that I have not done myself. Please reach out me to talk more if you are having trouble seeing yourself as the awesome person that is you.
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My wife and I are attending a marriage class at the church. It seems a majority of the attendees seemed to be in this mindset that if one of them is connected to God and the other one isn't and is distancing themselves from God, then the two people really aren't going to be connected. I was confused by this. What really has a usefulness to me is understanding that God is pure consciousness, pure choice and, and the way that that applies in our lives is God is the ability to change our own mind, our own perspective. If the other one really is truly connected to God, then what is God? Let's say God is pure love, pure acceptance, pure understanding, nothing but pure forgiveness.
Imagine the worst, the most evil, vile, hurtful thing that you would never want to reveal about yourself to Christ, the Christ consciousness, and when you do that, you know you're thinking. I know that Christ is ultra-forgiving, he's ultra-loving and just, unconditional. You may be thinking this is so wrong, so, so dark. I doubt that he'll actually love me. I mean you are literally even doubting that if you did reveal that to Christ. Know there was never even a potential thought of him not accepting you and forgiving you and not loving you.
I'm committed for the rest of my life to live this perspective here, I'm committed to being connected with Christ consciousness and shifting how I see anyone else's actions around me, seeing it from a place of conditional forgiveness, understanding acceptance of how they are and how they're not and, and I need nothing from them in order for me to be happy or be anyway, and that is the best definition of being connected to God, that I can possibly imagine right now.
Join me as discuss this in greater depth as I continue my journey of Me Being Me.
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To say the thing, you never want to say.
If you asked folks close to me, they would tell you (most likely in secret) that I am a lazy, lying, fraudulent coach. It is true. We all say negative things about ourselves, but those words / thoughts / feelings have no power unless actually back that declaration up with integrity. That is what gives it power. But to acknowledge it, own it, see it, sit with it, so then you can let it go has no power.
As you know, on my journey of Me Being Me, I have talked in my past about needing money, needing a certain outcome. Earlier this year, I needed money for a car payment. I was committed to receiveing money - even from a person who might not be the best fit or someone that i really did not want to help. I got a warm lead using my "sales" skills, to give me the money even though part of me did not feel I deserved it as I was posturing myself to her.
Her vote of confidence in me, melted my heart and I was grateful for this trust. The next day she told me how she broke integrity with her husband, she partly regretted her decision and felt slimy because I duped her. It hurt. My heart was broken from what I could say was the pain of recognition. I was a coach that did not get into his personal feeling or open up about my own struggles.
I owned my feelings with this client. I was open with her. She saw the real me. I let the real me out. She was open with me. With no posturing, nothing to hide and nothing to prove we created a bond of friendship, partner, client and as family.
Why do I share this with you and her? Listen to the rest of this podcast (E58) on my journey of Me Being Me to hear why it is important to say the things you never want to say. The thing that you would die if someone found out.
For those of you who listened to this podcast today, please leave an honest review. Good or Bad. I am interested to learn what you are learning and how you are applying these practices in your life?
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As you have been listening to this podcast, I think you know that sometimes I find paradoxes on my journey of Me Being Me. The things we want really bad guide us to take actions, but then we expend a lot of energy to the thing we have become attached to obtaining. For me when that thing is right in front of my grasp, that is where i have screwed up and missed it.
Today I was being super present with my wife as she was getting ready for our daughter's birthday party. At the end of the night I just wanted to have sex and I knew from the beginning that was my game plan starting the day. The kids were in bed. We were in our bedroom. Tonight I had gas. I am not going to lie, it was pretty stinky farts. My wife walks into the room and basically told me "if you're wanting to have sex tonight, uh, that's probably not going to happen because you stink so bad."
I was so mad. I had made it this far only to be stopped by my farts. Tonight I did something different. I decided to give her love and connection and just give her my presence and just be cool. Just be playful. Just be. Just be fun. Not be offended. Apologize for the smell. I totally let go of that thing I was so attached to having all day. I let the idea of sex with my wife.
Every time we fail, we just keep pointing to us right where we were wrong, or our intention was weak. I believe that our attachment was too strong. In this podcast, I will continue my Me Being Me journey and how I let go my attachment tonight created space for my wife and I to be connected.
On your own journey, identify what's the result that you want in any area of your life. What's the intention that you would need to have? Write that down. What's the intention I would need to have, and then what's the attachment to it? Where is that in your body? Feel it. Notice it, let it go, drop it, and then go and operate from that space.
As always, leave a comment below or find me on Facebook / Instagram (Me Being Me Live) or send an email at [email protected]. I look forward to hearing what thing you wanted to grab and what attachment you let go.
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Welcome to another piano lesson with Me Being Me. As I mentioned in a previous podcast, somehow Sting's Shape of Your Heart came across my path. I really enjoyed this song and decided it was time to learn it.
In fact, I want to share with you how I learned to play this song. Listen along as I teach you how to pull out the baseline, find the notes on the keyboard and play along with the music.
Bonus Time: I will share with you how to play Maroon 5's Girls Like You song. For beginners, this song is much easier to get the hang of the notes. Not to mention it is a fun song.
As you listen to this podcast, I would love to have a review of this type of music lesson. For those who have reached out, thank you. I am curious to see what songs folks want to learn how to play. Please leave a comment for potential future Music Lessons.
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For those of you who have been on this journey with me, you have heard me say this is the show where everything is made up and the points do not matter. We can play the game from this new perspective and a new perspective is constantly reinforced because it's extremely powerful, but the way to constantly reinforced this new and powerful perspective is to call the bluff, call bs on the ego and do it every day. Do it every day.
How? You say the thing that you couldn't say, you do the thing that you couldn't do. I am here to tell you that you can. I have done it and my clients have done it. Time for you, the Me Being Me Community, to do it as well.
To accomplish this is my inner stance. That's my I am. That's where I'm coming from. That is the stance that I've intentionally created and embodied and operated from and operate from. That's in my control, is my total choice. It is where an affirmation may be made out of it.
I want to be clear as well that who I am to YOU has nothing to do with me. What I see exists in me.
One the easiest and hardest thing to call BS on is in a personal relationship. If you have any personal relationship that's breaking down right now, it's pointing you right at the work that you've got to do. The reason why it's breaking down, the reason why it's got you angry, frustrated, triggered, depressed, sad, anything, any uncomfortable emotion. The reason why it's got you feeling that way is because it's pointing you right at a lie that you are believing that is underneath your conscious awareness. The work is the willingness to look at it and see it and sit with it and be with it and and find that part in yourself that you just haven't been able to accept and sit with that lie that you've been taught. You made it up.
Today I would appreciate honest feedback on this podcast. Please leave a comment below. What value are you getting from listening to me. Are you learning to be You Being You? Reach out to me. I am curious to see how your journey has been for you being your own version of Me Being Me?
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Do you have a relationship that is not where you see it? Have you noticed in that relationship there are moments of angst and you just don't know how to get rid of it? The key is to be clear that you are completely responsible for and willing to take full responsibility of that relationship.
WARNING: If you want to be a victim or say that I can not create that relationship because THEY will not change, STOP. If you ever see me or anyone in this Me Being Me or Key Player Community call us out. You will never be a version of yourself that creates and exchanges more value with that attitude.
This episode is about my love language. Love for me, it typically is in the form of sex. Any love language is that validation from your significant other. Well for me when sex is in doubt, it can create a potentially angst dynamic where in the back of your mind you're wanting the sex and you're hoping for it, but you've been maybe rejected so many times that you don't have the confidence to just be super direct about it and you don't want to get rejected again. It can start a downward spiral.
I caught myself in that spiral.
On the journey of Me Being Me, everyday there are lessons to learn. What I have learned is that the more angsty I get, the less attractive I am which means the less likely to get laid. It is both you want to have sex and the you also need to let go of having sex. I am saying you have to let go of needing anything from them and you have to create getting laid from a place of not needing it. And when you do. And what's required to do that is to say the thing you can't say is to overcome your own ego and let it go. Join me on the podcast today as I open you up to another personal side of Parker.
We would love to hear from you and maybe even meet you. Please leave a review or comment below. As much as it is my journey of Me Being Be, it is also yours of You Being You.
P.S. No frogs were injured in this podcast. It was only a metaphor that I used to make a point.
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We always know what we need to do. We know that we should do that thing. Somehow we find ways to not do tasks, even sabotage the process of getting them done. The key is becoming consistent.
When that happens you are faced with a choice. You can go down the rabbit hole of "What is Wrong With Me?"or choose a different path. I am tired of the rabbit hole. Let me share with you 5 words, a powerful mindset fix my friend shared with me.
Get yourself as close as you can to doing the thing, but not actually doing it. Closer. To the edge. Then say those 5 little words, non-nonchalantly, shrug your shoulders. It is not a big deal.
Do I live this and use this tool? Yes!! I was lying in bed. It was dark. It was early. I knew I had this grueling workout ahead of me, so I said those 5 words. Guess What? I got up and had an amazing work out.
Want to know what I said? Join me on my journey of Me Being Me and listen to this podcast.
If you have any questions, please reach out to me with a comment below or on the various social media platforms. Tell me how you used this 5 word phrase to cure your own inconsistency.
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Yep! I said it. I have watched porn. I am saying the thing I could never say to the person I could never say it to: You and Me.
I was taught so firmly. I was warned so strongly. I was told about the stern judgment. I would never even let the idea of pornography crossed my mind. I just wouldn't, I just couldn't. It literally never even occurred to me to like look at it or indulgent it and enjoy it.
Let me take you on a journey as a young man on his mission for his church, using the family computer to discover online imagine and videos, and my relationship with my dad and my wife.
Why am I telling you? Hiding and not admitting is not the me that I am. Here is where I am calling my set out and letting go of this secret. When I say Me Being Me being paid to be me, I am talking about the Me or You who create more value just for being you Us. Value is not in the Ego.
My journey of Me Being Me has been full of discovery and insights. I am Parker -- unapologetically owning the truth of whatever's there. I have nothing to hide, nothing to prove, nothing I am ashamed of that can be brought us to where I want to hide or hold back. In my past, I watched porn because it just felt sooo good.
I invite you to leave a comment if you have something you that have hide behind and want to let it go.
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Have you ever been in a situation where you are out in public and see someone you just do not want to see or talk with? What is it that we would rather hide than walk into that conversation? For me it has typically been the FEAR of what person will think of me.
On my journey of Me Being Me, it has not always been easy to honor my word and my commitment over the feelings and thoughts I have. I preach and teach on how my morning routine sets my day - it stacks it in my favor. Man, there are times I have credible, I dare say incredible excuses, that I was up with my little kids so I do not get up to do what I know I am committed to doing. I am embarrassed that I am not honoring my word, but my feelings or thoughts that sleep is more important to what I know I need to do. Here is another situation where I would hide or avoid those I have taught.
With any situation or I guess setback, there is a lesson to be learned. I ask myself how can I live what I'm teaching so that I can bring more integrity to my own message? Along this Me Being Me journey, I reference Mentors who have helped me. I guess you can say, I curate what as worked for me to help you on your path to You Being You and Being Paid More to Be You! There is resistance to what many of you may think of me as I launch this brand Me Being Me and Key Player. My feelings and thoughts are at odds with my belief, my word to myself, to be honestly be Me Being Me. I know that I am not alone. Many of us struggle and do hide. Join me today as we agree no more hiding from others or ourselves.
If you listen today and you feel this message is speaking to you, reach out to me on email ([email protected]), comments below or direct message on MeBeingMe.Live (Instagram) or Facebook. You have heard my perfect average day and I want to hear yours.
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