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Today we tackle the intricate challenge of forming and maintaining friendships as an adult survivor of childhood trauma. Navigating the complexities of trust, communication, and boundaries, we explore the unique challenges faced by individuals who have experienced childhood adversity. Learn strategies for fostering healthy friendships, gaining self-awareness, and creating a supportive community on the path to healing. Tune in to gain valuable insights on cultivating meaningful connections after surviving childhood trauma.Mentioned in this Episode:
Episode 34: Choosing Wisely: A Heartwise Blueprint for Finding Healthy Love After Neglect
Episode 4: Navigating Relationships After Narcissistic Abuse
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Ready or not, Narcissistic Mother's Day is Coming.
I know this is going to be a hard day for many of you but if possible, I would like to make it less hard and help it suck a little bit less.
I am not accepting your questions which I will answer in the coming weeks over on Instagram.
You can follow me there over at DaughtersNPD.
There, you can DM me your questions and I will answer them in an upcoming reel, post, or livestream.
If you prefer, you can email me your question. My email address is: [email protected]
If you're going to email, do put Mother's Day in the subject so I know it's for this. My inbox can get quite full, as you might imagine.
Again: Find me on Instagram
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Narcissists are always going attack. That's what they do. They wouldn't be narcissists if they didn't.You can easily feel like you are being held hostage by their narrative and that there is no "right" answer or "right" response to their nonsense.You'll want responses at the ready and you'll want to neutralize the weapon.Listen in to learn ways of doing both.
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We know "hurt people hurt people" What do you do when you're the person doing the hurting?In this episode of 'Mother Mayhem,' we're looking to break the cycle of hurt after childhood trauma. "Emily" bravely shares her journey of recognizing her own problematic behavior stemming from past trauma, highlighting the importance of self-awareness and accountability in the healing process. So, we're talking about it. Listen in as I offer practical strategies for transforming pain into growth and fostering healthier relationships post-narcissistic abuse.Episodes to Revisit:Episode 40, 32, 26, and 3
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Good news for daughters in Massachusetts who are navigating your recovery journey from narcissistic abuse. With openings in my schedule, I’m now offering specialized clinical consultations designed to provide targeted support for trauma recovery.
Here is the link to purchase and schedule.
-My approach focuses on helping daughters who feel stuck or uncertain about their next steps in recovery.
-The sessions are designed to address various challenges such as setting boundaries, navigating relationships, or overcoming parenting struggles due to childhood trauma.
-Unlike traditional therapy, I’m offering a block of four sessions that can be used flexibly over a two-month period, allowing for deep dives into specific concerns or goals.
*Before signing up, you should know: My office hours are scheduled for Mondays, Tuesdays, and Thursdays from 1:30 PM to 8:00 PM Eastern Standard Time (EST). It is crucial that you confirm your availability during these specified times.
Link to schedule.
Questions? Email me at: [email protected]
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Today we're talking about managing anxiety, fear, and dysregulation after narcissistic abuse. Learn to navigate these challenges and find healing as you work for your emotional well-being. Understand your anxiety and learn what you can do about it as you heal from narcissistic trauma. Discover how to cultivate resilience, regain inner balance, and thrive in the aftermath of emotional abuseMentioned in this episode:
Grounding Techniques
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Today, you get to meet "Christie", in her own voice AND in her own words!She shares her story of recovery from a narcissistic mother and enabling father and invites me to talk to her about self worth and learning how to take up space.She also generously shares an accompanying art exhibit she offers as a reflection for her healing. You can find that in the attached Google doc.
"Christie's" Art Exhibit: This Version of Love
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Once you cut off contact with your mom, it can be hard to know who you are. What do you think, feel, and believe? What are your values?
You're so used to filtering them through your mother's perspective that it can be hard to know yourself.
How do you reintroduce yourself to yourself?
Start Here:
Mentioned in this show: Relationship to Self Journal Prompts
Addition questions for reflection included in today's show:
As you go through your day and you consider your interactions you had, check in with yourself:
How did you feel? Were you regulated in your body? Did you feel seen and respected? Did you feel safe? Walk yourself through the same thing as you consider your decision making process for the day.It might be worth your time to create a daily check in journal for yourself where you quickly ask yourself these questions and jot your answers down:
Did you feel good about your decisions? Did you feel good about your interactions? What did you need more of? Less of? Where did it get hard? When it got hard, what might you have needed or what might have made you feel more comfortable? Were there any boundaries you might have needed to set? When you look at the quality of your relationships, are you satisfied? Are there other toxic connections that might perhaps need to be toned down or removed in order to feel safer? When you are exposed to new ideas or approaches to things, get curious with yourself. How do I feel about that? Does that feel true for me? What would feel more true?--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/mothermayhem/message -
It's infuriating when your abuser turns the tables and accuses you of abuse. That's what reactive abuse is and that is a tactic narcissists use to change the narrative.Today we're tackling it head on so you can get in the driver's seat and get back in control of a dynamic that often feels very much out of your control.
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The trauma experienced by daughters in law of narcissistic mothers in law doesn't get talked about enough but it's a lot. You have your own trauma that you have experienced from her. you have vicarious trauma that comes from witnessing your mother in law's abuse of your husband, and you have her impact in your kids.In this week's episode, we are breaking all of it down so we can build you back up.
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When there's so much trauma that you don't even know where to begin, it can make you feel as though you've been swallowed whole by it all.Recovery is complicated but it's possible. Listen in as I help two sisters navigate their story together and separately.
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This is your invitation to join us for our next coaching call scheduled for March 6th, 10:30am 12:30pm PST.
I wish you only had to consider this to be your warm welcome to further connect but I also know that accepting an invitation like this can be challenging so we're talking about it quickly, today.
I hope you'll consider joining us by using this link.
Also mentioned in this episode: Instagram post by Healing_out.loud
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When you're the child of a narcissist, the pain isn't a one-time event; it's a relentless cycle of rejection and invalidation. And when a father enables a narcissistic mother, it's a recurring betrayal that leaves scars. But where do you start to heal from such deep wounds?Join us as we explore the journey of recovering from narcissistic abuse, delving into the daunting task of learning to be seen and reclaiming space in a world that often made you feel invisible.
These are the questions we're tackling head-on today — the ones that have haunted many of us: How do we find light in the darkness? How do we learn to shine despite our past?Let's navigate this journey together, finding hope, healing, and a sense of belonging along the way. You're not alone in this. Mentioned in this episode: Episodes 3 and 15. You can listen in using the same app you have used for this show.
Encouraged reflection: Consider these journal prompts that were in the companion guide for Episode 3.
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When you're the only child of a narcissistic mother, you end up feeling like your experience exists in an echo chamber. You're the golden child one second and the scapegoat the next.When you become an adult, it can feel like everything falls on you, that you have to stay connected with her because if not you, who?Here's how to navigate all of that.
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It's not your picker that's broken. It's your connection to yourself. Choosing love that's better for you means choosing the love that is right for you.Here's how.
Mentioned in this episode: Episode 4 of Mother Mayhem: Navigating Relationships After Narcissistic Abuse
You can find it in the podcast app you are using for this episode.
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Going No Contact comes with grief. No contact also often comes with additional losses.Listen in for tools on how to navigate this tricky time, how to process your way through it, and how to find acceptance.Question for the show? [email protected]
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Narcissistic abuse recovery work is daunting. It can be hard to know where to begin. I encourage the women I work with to start with themselves, to build better relationships with themselves.This will often mean confronting depression and anxiety, as well as learning to silence your inner critic so you can begin to hear your own voice.This is one listener's story for how she traveled the path and what "doing the work" looks like for her.
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Your invitation to our next Mayhem Coaching Call.
February 7, 2024 10:30am to 12:30pm PST
$25 USD
Call will be recorded for replay access for registered members.
When registering, you will be invited to pre-submit your questions and will be offered the choice of live coaching or to post your question anonymously. Priority will be given to those who opt for live coaching.
Limiting attendance to 35, a number that hopes to respect the vulnerability and intimacy that comes with the conversation I am inviting you all to have.
We’re going to work through question volume capacity, as we go. It’s our hope to work together to insure a fair offering that’s also reasonable and respectful of the two hour time block.
Ready to work together? Let the Mayhem begin.
Here is your link to join.
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If you listen to other narcissistic abuse recovery experts they think no contact is the only solution and the only right answer.They also oversimplify the whole thing.You daughters know, though, that this is an intensely personal discussion and nothing about it feels simple or straightforward.This is how you find your way with it.Mentioned in this episode:She Used to Be Mine
Bare Bones by Ullie Kaye
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Sometimes it can feel like you have a sign in your back that says: "Go ahead, use me. Abuse me. Take your best shot."For too many of you, your mother isn't the only awful thing or person that has happened to you.After more awful things happen, it's understandable why you might think it's your fault and that you're the problem. It's not your fault. You are not the problem.Listen in to one listener with an important story to share. It might sound like yours.In it with you, helping you find the healing and understanding you seek.
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