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For twenty years I was sure success had a price, and the price was me. More hours, more strain, more proof that I was serious. Then one conversation asked me what success actually was ā and how it made me feel and the answer fell apart in my hands.
This episode is about the moment a belief stops looking like a fact and starts looking like a decision you can revisit. I walk through the Experiment Cycle ā Notice ā Flip ā Run ā Read ā the loop I used to test the rule I'd never questioned, and what changed over the year after I stopped forcing. The point was never doing less. It was living closer to what's actually true for me instead of a formula I inherited by default.
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The Great Life Experiment
You built the life. You hit the goals. But the pressure, overthinking, and old patterns still keep showing up. The Great Life Experiment is a free 30-day challenge with one question a day to help you uncover the unconscious patterns underneath it all.Take the FREE quiz here: Pressure Pattern Profile Quiz
Chapters:
00:00 The price I paid for twenty years00:48 The formula you never chose
01:33 Looking busy vs. being productive
03:41 The Experiment Cycle: Notice ā Flip ā Run ā Read
04:20 A belief is a decision, not a fact
05:50 Writing the new belief and stacking evidence
07:54 Picking the opposite on purpose
10:10 The campaign and the farm: proof it was easy
12:30 What happened when I ran the experiment
14:48 Six trips, an empowered team, double the revenue
17:24 Alignment over escape
19:47 The one belief to question this week
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About:
Joey Vaillancourt is the host of Real Influence, a show for high performers who can't turn it off. If you've built the life, hit the goals, and still feel the pressure, this is for you. Joey helps entrepreneurs and executives rewire the unconscious patterns driving the need to force, fix, and prove, so they can achieve more by leading with presence instead of pressure.
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There's a point where personal development stops helping and starts keeping you stuck.
In this episode, Joey opens up about a pattern he's seen in himself over the past year: the urge to find one more coach, one more breakthrough, one more framework, one more answer. On the surface, it looks like growth. But underneath, it can become something else entirely ā avoidance.
If you've been stuck in self improvement, overthinking your next move, consuming more than you're creating, or feeling burned out by how much "work" you've already done on yourself, this episode is for you.
You'll learn:
Why self help addiction can feel productive while quietly keeping you stuck
The difference between pain vs suffering ā and how we create extra suffering by revisiting old stories
How coaching addiction and constant learning can become procrastination through learning
Why there's a point where you don't need more insight ā you need reps
How to tell when you actually need supportā¦ and when you just need to take action
Helpful Links:
The Great Life Experiment
You built the life. You hit the goals. But the pressure, overthinking, and old patterns still keep showing up. The Great Life Experiment is a free 30-day challenge with one question a day to help you uncover the unconscious patterns underneath it all.Take the FREE quiz here: Pressure Pattern Profile Quiz
Chapters:
00:00 The trap of always needing "more"
00:39 When personal development becomes addiction
01:48 Pain vs suffering
02:25 The validation loop behind coaching addiction
03:05 Why I thought I needed another mentor
04:17 The question that stopped me from hiring another coach
05:07 Alignment vs fear
06:06 Choosing a coach whose life you actually want
06:59 The next offerā¦ and the same hesitation
08:53 Breakthroughs, blind spots, and reopening old stories
10:53 Why talking about old problems can keep them alive
12:17 You don't need to fix every area right now
13:22 Taking action vs learning more
14:28 The hamster wheel of self improvement
15:23 What you probably need now is reps
Connect with Joey on your favourite social platforms!
Joey Vaillancourt (Real Influence website)
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Facebook
LinkedIn
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About:
Joey Vaillancourt is the host of Real Influence, a show for high performers who can't turn it off. If you've built the life, hit the goals, and still feel the pressure, this is for you. Joey helps entrepreneurs and executives rewire the unconscious patterns driving the need to force, fix, and prove, so they can achieve more by leading with presence instead of pressure.
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Most people don't wait until the end of life to discover what's important.
They simply wait too long to act on what they've known all along.
Inspired by Bronnie Ware's The Five Regrets of the Dying, this episode explores the hidden pattern behind the most common life regrets and why so many ambitious people unknowingly build lives around expectations instead of intention.
If you've been caught in hustle culture, constantly postponing happiness until the next milestone, this episode offers a different perspective.
Rather than blowing up your life, Joey explains how small shifts in awareness can help you reconnect with what actually matters.
In this episodeā¢ The real meaning behind the five deathbed regrets
ā¢ Why high performers are especially vulnerable to burnout
ā¢ How societal expectations quietly shape our decisions
ā¢ Why authentic living begins with better questions
ā¢ Reflection exercises to help you start course correcting today
Chapters00:00 The Question Successful People Avoid
00:42 The Five Regrets of the Dying
02:06 One Pattern Behind Every Regret
03:14 Why This Book Changed My Life
05:28 The Five Deathbed Regrets
07:38 Whose Life Are You Living?
09:52 The "Later" That Never Comes
11:18 Borrow the Clarity Now
12:15 Course Correct Without Starting Over
13:49 Awareness Is the Beginning
15:02 Final Reflections
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https://www.youtube.com/@joeyvaillancourt-realinfluence
https://joeyvaillancourt.com/the-30-day-challenge/
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https://sens.ai/realinfluenceAbout:
Joey Vaillancourt is the host of Real Influence ā a show for high performers who can't turn it off. If you've built the life, hit the goals, and still feel the pressure ā this is for you. Joey helps entrepreneurs and executives rewire the unconscious patterns driving the need to force, fix, and prove, so they can achieve more by leading with presence instead of pressure.
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It's 9 PM.
You told yourself you'd be done hours ago.
But you're still answering messages, checking one more thing, handling one more problem, and convincing yourself that this season is temporary.
For many entrepreneurs and high performers, the issue isn't a lack of discipline. It's not poor time management. It's a subconscious pattern that equates being needed with being valuable.
In this episode, Joey Vaillancourt shares the personal story that changed his relationship with work, family, and success. From hustle culture conditioning to high functioning anxiety and the constant need to stay available, he explores why so many successful people struggle to actually be present in their own lives.
This conversation is about nervous system regulation, awareness, work life balance, and learning how to stop overworking without sacrificing your ambitions.
The goal isn't doing less.
The goal is becoming someone who can fully experience the life they're working so hard to build.
Topics CoveredHigh performer burnout and hidden pressure patterns
Why being available is not the same as being present
The relationship between overworking and identity
Stress management for entrepreneurs
High functioning anxiety and subconscious conditioning
The downside of hustle culture
How nervous system regulation supports sustainable success
Practical ways to reconnect with what matters most
Chapters:00:00 The 9 PM Moment
01:11 Why Overworking Isn't a Time Problem
02:37 Being Available vs Being Present
03:41 The Night That Changed Everything
05:04 The Wake-Up Call From My Wife
06:21 Repeating the Same Pattern
07:16 What You're Really Working For
08:08 Principle 1: Available Is Not Present
10:02 Principle 2: Pressure Is a Learned Pattern
12:25 Principle 3: The Life You're Protecting
15:43 Principle 4: You Don't Need to Leave to Change
18:36 Finding Peace Before the Next Milestone
18:52 Awareness Is the First Shift
20:08 The Question That Changes Everything
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https://www.youtube.com/@joeyvaillancourt-realinfluence
https://joeyvaillancourt.com/the-30-day-challenge/
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https://sens.ai/realinfluenceAbout:
Joey Vaillancourt is the host of Real Influence ā a show for high performers who can't turn it off. If you've built the life, hit the goals, and still feel the pressure ā this is for you. Joey helps entrepreneurs and executives rewire the unconscious patterns driving the need to force, fix, and prove, so they can achieve more by leading with presence instead of pressure.
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Why do some comments stay with us for years while others roll right off our backs?
In this episode, Joey Vaillancourt explores the hidden reason feedback feels so personal and why criticism often triggers something much deeper than the conversation itself.
Using a personal story about receiving difficult workplace feedback, Joey breaks down the beliefs, emotions, and unconscious patterns that shape how we respond when someone points out a weakness, challenge, or blind spot.
You'll learn how to receive feedback with a growth mindset, separate facts from stories, and use criticism as a tool for self-leadership rather than self-judgment.
If you're a high performer who struggles with criticism, overthinking, or feeling not enough, this episode will give you a practical framework for responding differently.
TheGreatLifeExperiment.ca ā You built life. You hit the goals. But the pressure never actually left.
The Great Life Experiment is a free 30-day challenge with one powerful question each day to help uncover the unconscious patterns driving stress and suffering.
Start here ā thegreatlifeexperiment.ca
š Take the FREE Pressure Pattern Profile Quiz ā https://joeyvaillancourt.com/pressure-pattern-quiz/
Topics Coveredā¢ Why feedback feels threatening
Timestamps
ā¢ Constructive feedback vs personal identity
ā¢ How to stop taking criticism personally
ā¢ The beliefs driving emotional reactions
ā¢ The Real Influence Ladder framework
ā¢ Emotional regulation during difficult conversations
ā¢ Receiving feedback with a growth mindset00:00 The Feedback That Haunted Me for Years
01:05 Why Feedback Feels Personal
02:13 The Belief Behind Every Reaction
03:21 Feedback Is a Mirror, Not a Verdict
04:22 The "B Player" Story
06:38 Why Meaning Creates Suffering
09:02 What Feedback Meant Growing Up
10:16 Separating Facts From Stories
11:08 A Real-Life Example at Home
13:20 The Question That Changes Everything
15:03 The Real Influence Ladder
18:56 Feedback as Information, Not Identity
21:18 The Gift Hidden Inside CriticismConnect with Joey on your favourite social platforms!
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https://joeyvaillancourt.com/the-30-day-challenge/
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https://sens.ai/realinfluenceAbout:
Joey Vaillancourt is the host of Real Influence ā a show for high performers who can't turn it off. If you've built the life, hit the goals, and still feel the pressure ā this is for you. Joey helps entrepreneurs and executives rewire the unconscious patterns driving the need to force, fix, and prove, so they can achieve more by leading with presence instead of pressure.
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What happens when the person teaching the tools becomes the one struggling to use them?
In this episode of the Real Influence podcast, I sit down with my wife, Monika, for a raw and unfiltered live coaching session on overwhelm, anxiety, burnout, and suffering.
Instead of speaking from the other side of the breakthrough, I open up in real time about feeling mentally overloaded, emotionally exhausted, disconnected from clarity, and trapped under pressure from multiple areas of life.
Together, we unpack:
ā¢ why high performers get stuck in overwhelm
ā¢ how nervous system regulation affects the way we think
ā¢ the hidden identity patterns behind burnout
ā¢ why suffering comes from meaning, not circumstances
ā¢ how coaching helps uncover blind spots
ā¢ what it actually looks like to rewire your brain in real timeIf you've been carrying pressure silently while trying to hold everything togetherā¦ this episode is for you.
This isn't polished self-help.
It's a real conversation in the middle of the struggle.
TheGreatLifeExperiment.ca ā You built the life. You hit the goals. But the pressure never actually left.
The Great Life Experiment is a free 30-day challenge with one powerful question each day to help uncover the unconscious patterns driving stress and suffering.
Start here ā thegreatlifeexperiment.ca
š Take the FREE Pressure Pattern Profile Quiz ā https://joeyvaillancourt.com/pressure-pattern-quiz/
Topics CoveredLive coaching through overwhelm and suffering
Burnout recovery for entrepreneurs and executives
Nervous system regulation and emotional states
Anxiety, pressure, and mental overload
Reframing failure and emotional meaning
Why asking for help changes your state
Neuroplasticity and subconscious rewiring
Timestamps00:00 Joey Opens Up About His Own Suffering
01:33 Why Everyone Needs a Coach
03:04 Living in Constant Pressure as a High Performer
05:44 Starting the Coaching Session
07:21 Feeling Scattered and Mentally Overloaded
11:42 The Thoughts Behind Overwhelm
14:27 Where Stress Shows Up in the Body
16:20 Nervous System Regulation Explained
18:44 The Meaning We Attach to Suffering
21:17 Why This Chaos Might Be Necessary
24:56 Reframing Failure and Progress
29:08 Isolation vs Asking for Support
31:19 Shifting Out of a Primal State
34:43 Neuroplasticity and Rewiring Your Brain
38:56 Why Coaching Accelerates Growth
42:30 The Decision Matrix Exercise
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Coaching: https://joeyvaillancourt.com/coaching/
About:
Joey Vaillancourt is the host of Real Influence ā a show for high performers who can't turn it off. If you've built the life, hit the goals, and still feel the pressure ā this is for you. Joey helps entrepreneurs and executives rewire the unconscious patterns driving the need to force, fix, and prove, so they can achieve more by leading with presence instead of pressure.
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Most high performers aren't lacking discipline.
They're carrying pressure.In this episode, Joey breaks down the hidden emotional pattern behind pressure-driven discipline ā and why success can quietly disconnect you from your life if you're not careful.
This conversation explores how many entrepreneurs and high achievers build their identity around sacrifice, proving themselves, and delaying life for "later." The problem isā¦ later never really comes.
Joey shares five principles for creating discipline from a healthier place ā one rooted in awareness, alignment, nervous system regulation, and intentional living instead of constant internal pressure.
If you've achieved success but still feel heavy, restless, or unable to relaxā¦ this episode will likely feel very familiar.
TheGreatLifeExperiment.ca ā You built the life. You hit the goals. But the pressure never actually left. The Great Life Experiment is a free 30-day challenge that helps you see and shift the unconscious patterns keeping you stuck in that loop ā one question a day. That's it.
Start here ā thegreatlifeexperiment.ca
š Take the FREE Pressure Pattern Profile Quiz ā https://joeyvaillancourt.com/pressure-pattern-quiz/
Topics covered:
Pressure-driven sacrifice
Discipline and identity
High achiever mindset
Nervous system regulation
How to be disciplined without burnout
Self improvement and personal growth
Accountability and coaching
Creating success without disconnecting from life
Timestamps:00:00 Discipline Isn't The Real Problem
00:19 The Hidden Cost Of Sacrifice
00:55 Why High Performers Feel Pressure
02:04 When Discipline Starts Feeling Heavy
03:05 Discipline Reflects Identity
04:18 Success Through Self-Deprivation
05:40 Principle 1: Act Like Someone Is Watching
08:00 Principle 2: The "I Don't Know If" Framework
10:12 Principle 3: North Star Goals
13:27 Principle 4: The 4D Version Of You
17:14 Principle 5: Accountability & Coaching
20:56 Discipline Without Pressure
21:44 The Pattern Behind Success & Sacrifice
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https://www.youtube.com/@joeyvaillancourt-realinfluence
Enhance your mental clarity, focus, and brain wellness with NeuroVizrāget 10% off with code JOEYV.https://neurovizr.com/?ref=rirxqhll
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https://sens.ai/realinfluenceAbout Joey: Joey Vaillancourt, host of the Real Influence podcast, helps people overcome apathy, feeling trapped and living a life of resignation by inspiring them to challenge their assumptions and handed down beliefs so they can experience a more purposeful, fulfilled and aligned life
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Most high performers aren't overwhelmed by life itself.
They're overwhelmed by what they think life means about them.In this episode of Real Influence, Joey Vaillancourt breaks down the hidden pattern that creates constant pressureāeven when things are going well and why success doesn't feel the way you expected it to.
You'll learn the difference between pain and suffering, how subconscious patterns shape your experience, and why your nervous system plays a bigger role than you think.
TheGreatLifeExperiment.ca ā You built the life. You hit the goals. But the pressure never actually left. The Great Life Experiment is a free 30-day challenge that helps you see and shift the unconscious patterns keeping you stuck in that loop ā one question a day. That's it.
Start here ā thegreatlifeexperiment.ca
š Take the FREE Pressure Pattern Profile Quiz ā https://joeyvaillancourt.com/pressure-pattern-quiz/
Topics covered:
Why high achievers struggle to relax
The difference between pain and identity-based suffering
How resistance amplifies pressure
The role of subconscious patterns
Why awareness alone doesn't create change
Timestamps:
00:00 Pain vs Suffering
00:36 Why High Performers Multiply Pressure
01:35 The Pressure Pattern Explained
03:04 Why Missing Goals Feels So Heavy
04:46 Principle 1: Pain vs Identity
06:38 The Formula: Pain Ć Resistance
07:20 Principle 2: Resistance
09:40 The Echo Effect
12:41 Future Projection
16:47 Awareness Isn't Enough
19:42 Why Pressure Never Leaves
20:41 How to Start Rewiring It
Connect with Joey on your favourite social platforms!
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https://www.instagram.com/joeyvaillancourt/
https://www.facebook.com/joey.vaillancourt.9/
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https://www.youtube.com/@joeyvaillancourt-realinfluence
Enhance your mental clarity, focus, and brain wellness with NeuroVizrāget 10% off with code JOEYV.https://neurovizr.com/?ref=rirxqhll
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https://sens.ai/realinfluenceAbout Joey: Joey Vaillancourt, host of the Real Influence podcast, helps people overcome apathy, feeling trapped and living a life of resignation by inspiring them to challenge their assumptions and handed down beliefs so they can experience a more purposeful, fulfilled and aligned life
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TheGreatLifeExperiment.ca ā You built the life. You hit the goals. But the pressure never actually left. The Great Life Experiment is a free 30-day challenge that helps you see and shift the unconscious patterns keeping you stuck in that loop ā one question a day. That's it.
Start here ā thegreatlifeexperiment.ca
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You say you want clarity. You ask for direction. But when life actually gives you an answerā¦ you resist it.
That's not a strategy problem. That's a pattern.
In this episode, I break down why suffering doesn't come from what happens ā it comes from the belief that it shouldn't have.
And why high performers, more than anyone, get trapped in that loop.
We cover:ā Why asking is easy but receiving breaks people ā The difference between the event and the story you attach to it
ā Why acceptance is power, not weakness
ā How to rewrite the narrative once you stop fighting reality
ā What alignment actually feels like (hint: it's relief, not effort) If you've been chasing clarity, forcing outcomes, or wondering why nothing clicks even when things look fine on the outside ā this one will shift something.
Drop a comment with what you're currently resisting.
That might be exactly where your answer is waiting.---
CHAPTERS
00:00 Why You Feel Stuck Even When You Want Clarity
00:20 Asking for Answers but Resisting Them
01:05 The Real Source of Suffering
02:06 Personal Story: Asking for a Sign
04:29 Reframing Unexpected Outcomes
09:05 Asking Is Easy ā Receiving Is Hard
10:29 Events vs Stories11:33 Acceptance, Narrative, and Alignment
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https://sens.ai/realinfluenceAbout Joey: Joey Vaillancourt, host of the Real Influence podcast, helps people overcome apathy, feeling trapped and living a life of resignation by inspiring them to challenge their assumptions and handed down beliefs so they can experience a more purposeful, fulfilled and aligned life
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TheGreatLifeExperiment.ca - You're chasing success or you've hit it. Either way, you're stuck in the same loop. The Great Life Experiment is $300K of learnings distilled into 30 days that rewire the patterns keeping you running on autopilot so you can reclaim true freedom in how you live and lead.
Are you building successā¦ but slowly sacrificing your health in the process? Why do so many men feel strong in business, but tired, drained, and inconsistent in their body? And what if the real issue isn't timeā¦ but how you're prioritizing your health?
In this episode, we sit down with Chris Wilson to unpack a truth most high performers avoid: most men don't have a health problemā¦ they have a priority problem. If you've ever wondered why successful men sacrifice their health, or why men lose their health in their 30s and 40s, this conversation will hit home in a real way š¤
As you chase success, build a business, lead a team, and provide for your family, your body often becomes the thing you sacrifice. Over time, that leads to mental burnout, low energy, lack of consistency, and declining performance. And the reality isā¦ you can't catch up on your health later. That's a dangerous mindset many high achievers fall into.
We dive into how to stay fit while building a business, how to create a healthy lifestyle that actually works for busy men, and why consistency over intensity is the real key to long-term success. Whether you're trying to break out of the dad bod phase, improve your health habits, or become a stronger, more present leader at home and at work, this episode gives you a practical and honest perspective.
Chris also shares simple but powerful strategies like short, effective workouts including the six minute cardio method, and how you can build strength, stamina, and discipline even with limited time. If you've ever thought how to stay fit while being successful, or struggled with how to stay active with a busy lifestyle, this will give you a new way to approach fitness.
We also go deeper into identity, discipline, and awareness. Because real transformation doesn't come from random workout routinesā¦ it comes from who you become in the process. This is about becoming the kind of man who prioritizes movement, values longevity, and understands that fitness is not separate from successā¦ it fuels it š
Another powerful part of this conversation is awareness around habits. From mental health awareness to understanding how small daily choices impact long-term outcomes, this episode challenges you to look at what's actually controlling your behavior. Whether it's lack of movement, inconsistency, or even subtle addictions like overworking or constant stimulation, everything has a cost.
If you want to become a fit dad, improve your men's health, and build a life where success and health coexist, this episode will give you both the mindset and the strategy to move forward.
If this resonated, drop a comment below and share what you're starting to notice about your own habits. What's one thing you know you need to change but haven't yet?
Don't forget to like, subscribe, and share this with someone who's chasing successā¦ but might be forgetting to take care of their health along the way.
In this, we'll talk about:
00:00 Why Most Men Sacrifice Their Health for Success
00:18 Meet Chris Wilson + Strength Beyond the Gym
04:30 Chris Wilson's Fitness Journey and Early Influences
09:14 What Changes After 40: Health, Awareness, and Priorities
11:14 Why Movement Declines as Life Gets Busy
16:13 The Trap of "I'll Focus on Health Later"
17:11 Simple Workouts for Busy Men (6-Minute Cardio)
30:26 Habits, Discipline, and Long-Term Health
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https://sens.ai/realinfluenceConnect with Chris!
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https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/strong-by-design-podcast/id1383270948About Joey: Joey Vaillancourt, host of the Real Influence podcast, helps people overcome apathy, feeling trapped and living a life of resignation by inspiring them to challenge their assumptions and handed down beliefs so they can experience a more purposeful, fulfilled and aligned life.
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TheGreatLifeExperiment.ca - You're chasing success or you've hit it. Either way, you're stuck in the same loop. The Great Life Experiment is $300K of learnings distilled into 30 days that rewire the patterns keeping you running on autopilot so you can reclaim true freedom in how you live and lead.
Do you ever feel disrespected by the people closest to you even when you're doing everything right? Why do you give so much, overdeliver, and still feel unappreciated or taken for granted? And what if that feeling isn't actually about themā¦ but about a hidden expectation you didn't even realize you had?
In this episode, we break down one of the most common emotional triggers in relationships: feeling unappreciated in relationships despite giving your best. If you've ever wondered why I feel disrespected by people close to me, or why I feel hurt when I'm not recognized, this conversation will hit deeper than you expect š¤
Many high achievers operate from an unconscious pattern of overdelivering and feeling unappreciated, believing that if they give more, love harder, and show up stronger, they will finally receive the respect and validation they're looking for. But underneath that pattern is something most people never see: hidden expectations in relationships and what we call an invisible contract.
This episode explains the concept of invisible contract relationships, where you give with the expectation that others will respond in a certain wayā¦ even though they never agreed to that expectation. And when that doesn't happen, it creates resentment, frustration, and the feeling that you're being taken for granted.
We also dive into validation seeking behavior, why you might feel like you constantly need recognition, and how that pattern leads to emotional triggers that repeat over and over again. If you've ever thought why I give so much but get nothing back, or struggled with how to stop needing validation from others, this will help you reframe everything.
You'll learn how to shift into a giving without expectation mindset, how to build self respect without validation, and how to stop tying your worth to how others respond to you. This is where real freedom starts. Not when people change, but when your internal state changes.
We also explore how to move from reaction to awareness using the influence ladder, and how emotional triggers in relationships are often pointing back to a belief that's been running quietly in the background for years. Once you see it, you can change it.
One of the most powerful takeaways is this: the goal is not to fix people, control outcomes, or force respect. The goal is to show up grounded, present, and aligned, regardless of how others behave. That's where true influence comes from š
If you've been stuck in the cycle of feeling unappreciated, constantly overgiving, or wondering why success in life doesn't translate to fulfillment in relationships, this episode will give you a completely new perspective.
If this resonated, share your biggest takeaway in the comments. What's one belief about respect, validation, or relationships that you're starting to question?
Don't forget to like, subscribe, and share this with someone who gives a lotā¦ but secretly feels unappreciated.
In this, we'll talk about:
00:00 Why You Feel Disrespected Even When You Do Everything Right
00:35 Overdelivering and Feeling Unappreciated
01:52 The Hidden Expectation Behind Relationship Triggers
03:29 The Meaning Loop: Why You React the Way You Do
05:40 Invisible Contract Relationships Explained
10:00 The Belief Behind Validation Seeking Behavior
16:50 Holding Space Instead of Trying to Fix People
22:02 How to Stop Feeling Unappreciated and Build Self Respect
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https://sens.ai/realinfluenceAbout Joey: Joey Vaillancourt, host of the Real Influence podcast, helps people overcome apathy, feeling trapped and living a life of resignation by inspiring them to challenge their assumptions and handed down beliefs so they can experience a more purposeful, fulfilled and aligned life.
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Do you ever feel like you're doing everything rightā¦ but still feel stressed and on edge? Why does success still feel like pressure, even when you've achieved what you wanted? And why does peace feel uncomfortable, like you should be doing more instead of slowing down?
In this episode, we dive deep into high achiever burnout, the hidden patterns behind high achiever stress, and why so many people are quietly white knuckling their way through life even while talking about work life balance. If you've ever felt like you can't turn off your brain, keep thinking about work after hours, or struggle with mental burnout, this conversation will hit close to home š¤
Most people think the solution is better habits, more discipline, or another productivity system. But the real issue is the identity underneath the hustle. If your subconscious belief is that your worth comes from pressure, productivity, or constant achievement, you will keep recreating hustle culture burnout no matter how many tools you use.
We break down the overworking mindset, the internal pressure to succeed, and why even when you slow down, you still feel stressed. If you've ever asked yourself why I feel stressed even when I slow down, or struggled with how to stop overthinking work after hours, this episode will help you understand what's actually going on beneath the surface.
You'll learn how to begin an identity shift, how to rewire your brain for success, and how to move from force and pressure into a more aligned way of living. This is not about doing less. It's about removing the internal resistance that makes everything feel heavy.
We also explore the difference between looking relaxed and actually being regulated. Because many high performers talk about balance, but internally still feel tension, anxiety, and work stress running in the background. That's what keeps you stuck in hustle culture pressure, even when you're trying to do things differently.
If you want productivity without burnout, real work life balance, and the ability to actually be present with your family, your goals, and your life, then this episode will challenge the way you think about success.
This is your invitation to stop worrying and start living, not by abandoning ambition, but by changing the belief system that drives it šIf this resonated, share your biggest takeaway in the comments. What's one belief about success or productivity you're starting to question?
Don't forget to like, subscribe, and share this with someone who looks like they have it all together but is secretly feeling the pressure.
In this, we'll talk about:
00:00 Why You Still Feel Pressure Even When Doing Everything Right
00:37 Work Life Balance but Still Stressed
02:00 The White Knuckle High Achiever Explained
04:50 High Achiever Burnout and Overthinking Work After Hours
06:00 Why You Feel Stressed Even When You Slow Down
08:22 Identity Shift: The Belief Behind Hustle Culture Pressure
13:18 Productivity Without Burnout and Rewiring Success Beliefs
19:15 Stop Worrying and Start Living Without Pressure
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Are you a high achiever who feels exhausted even when you're winning? Why does success sometimes feel stressful instead of fulfilling?
What if the real reason you can't relax isn't your workload, but the belief system behind your success mindset?This episode unpacks a powerful truth that many high performers never question: the belief that success requires suffering. If you're experiencing high achiever burnout, constantly pushing through pressure, and wondering why productivity still feels heavy even when you're succeeding, this conversation will resonate deeply š¤. Many people in hustle culture unknowingly wire their identity around stress, believing that hard work must always come with sacrifice, exhaustion, and burnout.
We dive into the difference between effort vs identity, and how two people can take the exact same actions but experience completely different outcomes. One builds peace and fulfillment, while the other builds pressure, resentment, and hustle culture burnout. If you've ever wondered why high achievers feel exhausted, or why success still feels stressful even after reaching goals, this episode will help you uncover the unconscious programming behind it.
You'll learn how identity shifting and rewiring success beliefs can transform the way you approach work, productivity, and achievement. Instead of chasing success through stress and constant pressure, Joey explains how to build productivity without burnout, operate from a healthier productivity mindset, and achieve real success and fulfillment without sacrificing your health, relationships, or peace of mind.
We also explore powerful concepts like nervous system regulation, primal state vs powerful state, and the mindset shift between power vs force. Many high achievers operate from a primal state where stress equals productivity, but true high performance actually comes from alignment, clarity, and emotional regulation. Learning how to move out of hustle culture patterns and into a calmer nervous system can dramatically change the way you lead, work, and live.
If you've ever struggled with work life balance, felt caught in the trap of constant productivity, or believed that achievement must come at the cost of your personal life, this episode challenges that idea. Joey shares practical insights on how to pursue achieving success without pressure, why family first values can coexist with ambitious goals, and how to redefine success without falling into the trap of self imposed suffering.
We also discuss lessons inspired by The Game of Life, how changing your internal language shifts your nervous system, and why labeling challenges differently can unlock creativity and resilience. When you start reframing experiences and practicing new beliefs, you create space for success without suffering and begin building a life that integrates ambition with peace.
This episode is for entrepreneurs, leaders, creators, and high performers who want to achieve big goals while protecting what matters most. If you've been chasing success but secretly feeling burned out, overwhelmed, or disconnected from fulfillment, this conversation will help you rethink the identity behind your effort and build a healthier approach to success š.
If this episode resonated with you, share your thoughts in the comments and tell us what belief about success you're starting to question. Your insight might help someone else break free from hustle culture and rediscover a more sustainable path to achievement.
Don't forget to like, subscribe, and share this with another high achiever who might need to hear that success does not require suffering.
In this, we'll talk about:
00:00 Why High Achievers Feel Exhausted Even When Winning00:35 Effort vs Identity: The Hidden Driver of Burnout
01:16 The Belief That Success Requires Suffering
02:40 How Hustle Culture Wires Your Nervous System for Pressure
06:20 Rewriting Success Beliefs and Identity Shifting
11:16 Seasons of Grind vs Identity of Sacrifice
17:14 The Mindset Shift That Reduces Stress and Burnout
21:04 The Trap of Earned Enjoyment and Success Without Suffering
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https://sens.ai/realinfluenceAbout Joey: Joey Vaillancourt, host of the Real Influence podcast, helps people overcome apathy, feeling trapped and living a life of resignation by inspiring them to challenge their assumptions and handed down beliefs so they can experience a more purposeful, fulfilled and aligned life.
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Are you successful on paper but secretly exhausted inside?
Do you feel trapped by responsibility at work, even though you worked hard to get here?
What if you are not burned out, but carrying success the wrong way? š¤ÆIn this episode of Real Influence, we explore why high performer burnout is not just about working too much. It is about the identity and patterns behind how you carry responsibility. If you have ever wondered why high achievers feel empty after success, why you cannot seem to escape hustle culture, or why leadership pressure never really turns off, this conversation is for you.
We unpack how to stop overthinking, how to stop overworking, and how to escape overdrive mode without quitting your job or abandoning your ambition. The truth is, you are not trapped by work. You are trapped by the patterns that define how you carry it.
If you have been feeling trapped by responsibility at work, navigating corporate burnout recovery, or trying to figure out how to regulate stress while maintaining high performance, this episode will help you break the burnout success pattern and shift from force to flow. š¤
We dive into identity rewiring, breaking stress patterns, calm leadership under pressure, and why success without suffering is possible. You will learn how to stop tying self worth to productivity, how to redefine success beyond hustle culture, and how to build inner freedom without immediately escaping corporate life.
This is not about lowering your standards. It is about rewiring the high performer mindset so you can achieve more by forcing less. It is about leadership without self sacrifice. It is about realizing you are not burned out. You are misaligned.
If you have ever asked yourself how to stop overworking but stay ambitious, why you feel trapped even after achieving your goals, or how to regulate stress while carrying big responsibility, you will resonate deeply with this episode.
It is time to break autopilot thinking, redesign your success patterns, and step into a new way of leading rooted in clarity, vision, and sustainable performance. š
If this episode helped you, share it with another high achiever who may be silently carrying too much pressure. Subscribe for more conversations on escaping hustle culture, high performer burnout recovery, and building success without self sacrifice.
In this, we'll talk about:
00:00 Successful but Secretly Exhausted? The Hidden Trap
02:13 Extreme Ownership: No One Is Coming to Save You
04:49 Silence Speaks Louder Than Words
07:32 Act As If the Wish Is Fulfilled
11:49 Stay the Course and Have Faith Through Adversity
15:53 Breaking the Hustle and Grind Reflex
16:47 Vision Over Tactics: Your North Star
22:55 Responsibility Without Self-Sacrifice
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Why do you get triggered so easily even when you tell yourself you should be more mature by now? Why does success still feel empty even after you prove yourself over and over again? And what if your emotional triggers are not random but rooted in a core belief you have never questioned?
In this episode, we go deep into emotional triggers, golden child syndrome, lack of trust, and the unconscious belief systems that silently run your life. If you have ever wondered how to stop getting triggered or how to stop reacting emotionally in moments that feel small but hit hard, this conversation is for you.
I share a powerful workshop exercise inspired by the book Trigger Proof and Family Constellations work that helped me uncover the core belief behind my emotional reactions. For years, I operated from a lack of trust in relationships without even realizing it. I believed I had to overachieve, prove myself, and control outcomes. But underneath it all was a deeper pattern rooted in childhood and golden child syndrome.
This episode breaks down emotional triggers explained in a practical way. We explore why you overreact, how to respond instead of react, and how to rewrite limiting beliefs that were formed decades ago. If you struggle with trust issues, self authorship, mindset reprogramming, or unconscious suffering patterns, this will resonate deeply.
You will learn how to identify your core program, how to heal trust issues, and how to shift from reacting emotionally to responding consciously. This is about self awareness, emotional growth, and doing the inner work required to become trigger proof. It is about understanding why you say things like I knew I could not trust them or I always have to prove myself.
If you are an overachiever who feels unsettled, someone who experiences emotional triggers in relationships, or someone trying to understand why success still feels empty, this episode will give you language and tools to move forward. You will see how childhood affects adult behavior and how becoming aware of your golden child patterns can completely shift your life.
The goal is not perfection. The goal is awareness. Once you see the belief, you can rewrite it. Once you identify the resistance, you can create desired results. That is the power of self authorship and conscious mindset reprogramming š
If this episode helped you understand your triggers, share your biggest insight in the comments. Your awareness could create a ripple effect for someone else š¤
Subscribe for more conversations on emotional intelligence, identity awareness, belief rewiring, and living a more purposeful life.
In this, we'll talk about:
00:00 Why Do You Get Triggered So Easily?
01:10 The Workshop That Changed My Perspective
03:30 Ego, Blind Spots, and Hidden Core Programs
06:20 The Letter Exercise to Reveal Your Triggers
08:30 The Lack of Trust Pattern Explained
10:15 Golden Child Syndrome and Overachieving
12:45 Nothing Left to Prove
14:30 How to Rewrite Limiting Beliefs and Become Trigger ProofConnect with Joey on your favourite social platforms!
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Are you successful on paper, but still feel empty inside?
Have you ever wondered why hustle culture rewards suffering but postpones joy?
What if the belief system driving your success is the very thing draining your happiness?In this episode, we break down the Tony Robbins and Alex Hormozi interview that quietly turned into a powerful live coaching session š¤Æ. What Tony Robbins exposed wasn't about tactics, productivity hacks, or how to scale a business. It was about the belief system running hustle culture and why so many high achievers feel burned out, unfulfilled, and disconnected despite massive success.
If you've ever believed that success requires sacrifice, suffering, or grinding at the expense of your health, relationships, or peace, this conversation will challenge everything you think you know about achievement. We explore why the "fuck happiness" mindset is dangerous for high achievers, how productivity without alignment leads to burnout, and what success without sacrifice actually looks like in real life.
This video dives deep into identity shifting, the entrepreneur mindset shift Tony Robbins invited Alex Hormozi into, and why redefining success is essential if you want to build wealth without losing joy š. You'll learn how hustle culture trains people to equate suffering with strength, why success can still feel empty, and how to move toward aligned success that feels fulfilling instead of exhausting.
Whether you're an entrepreneur, creator, or high performer questioning the grind, this episode is about breaking free from hustle culture, becoming your future self, and designing a life rooted in purpose driven success š±. If you're ready to redefine who you are, reconnect with what actually matters, and build success without struggle, this message is for you.
š Watch until the end if you've ever felt successful but unfulfilled, productive but disconnected, or ambitious yet exhausted because you're not broken, and you don't need to
suffer to succeed.
In this, we'll talk about:
00:00 Tony Robbins & Alex Hormozi Coaching Session
02:05 Hustle Culture Mindset Exposed
05:00 Success Without Fulfillment
07:55 Identity Shift for High Achievers
10:20 Becoming Your Future Self
13:20 Productivity vs Alignment
16:00 Why Suffering Is Not Required for Success
19:30 Redefining Success Without Sacrifice
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Why do small things trigger big fights in relationships?
Have you ever wondered why you keep reacting to your partner even when you don't want to?
And why does it feel like the argument is never really about the thing you're arguing about?In this episode of Real Influence, Joey breaks down why small things trigger you in relationships and how those moments are often tied to old emotional patterns, inherited beliefs, and nervous system reactions you didn't consciously choose š¤.
If you've ever asked yourself "why do tiny annoyances turn into big arguments?" or "why do I overreact to my partner?", this conversation will hit home.
We explore why small things cause big fights, how reacting versus responding in relationships shapes connection, and what's actually happening in your body when you feel triggered š. Joey explains relationship triggers, defensiveness, and emotional reactions in relationships, helping you see conflict not as a failure but as information.
This episode is especially for anyone stuck in repeating relationship patterns, struggling with communication in long-term relationships, or feeling frustrated that awareness alone hasn't stopped the same arguments from happening again. You'll learn how to stop fighting over small things, how to respond instead of react, and how to interrupt the automatic reactions that damage connection.
We also dive into how childhood conditioning shows up in adult relationships, why resentment builds quietly, and how emotional regulation in relationships starts with self-awareness, not control š¤. If you're searching for how to heal relationship triggers, how to stop being defensive with your partner, or why your partner triggers you so easily, this episode gives you language and clarity.
This isn't relationship advice about fixing your partner. It's about breaking emotional loops, choosing conscious response, and learning how to create healthier, calmer, more connected relationships from the inside out.
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š LIKE this video if it resonated and SHARE it with someone who needs to hear it.In this, we'll talk about:
00:00 Why Small Triggers Create Big Emotional Reactions
06:10 Why Conflict Is Rarely About What You're Fighting Over
12:05 How Past Conditioning Shows Up in Present Relationships
18:40 Reaction vs Response and Why Awareness Isn't Enough
25:30 The Nervous System, Safety, and Emotional Regulation
32:10 Why You Keep Repeating the Same Relationship Patterns
39:15 How to Interrupt Emotional Loops in Real Time
46:20 Choosing Connection, Responsibility, and GrowthConnect with Joey on your favourite social platforms!
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Have you done therapy, gained awareness, and still feel stuck in the same patterns?
What if the issue isn't therapy but the level of support you're using?In this episode of Real Influence, it breaks down therapy vs coaching and explains why therapy often stops working for high achievers who already understand their patterns but can't create lasting change.
This is not an anti-therapy conversation. It's an evolution conversation.
Joey shares his personal post-divorce therapy experience, the ceiling of talk therapy, and the exact moment he realized awareness without action was keeping him trapped. You'll learn the different levels of personal growth, when processing is helpful, when it becomes a loop, and why coaching pairs mindset with execution to create real momentum.
If you're successful on paper but feel unfulfilled, burned out, or quietly stuck, this episode will help you identify whether your current support is empowering you or enabling you.
You'll also learn:
š Why venting without action creates dependency
š The difference between insight and embodiment
š How the state of the teacher affects results
š Why tools matter more than talk
š How to know when it's time to upgrade your growth
šÆ Ready to redesign your life from the inside out?Connect with Joey on your favourite social platforms!
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https://sens.ai/realinfluenceIn this, we'll talk about:
00:00 When Therapy Stops Working
02:15 Awareness Without Change
05:00 Therapy vs Coaching Explained
07:40 Why Action Creates Results
10:30 Tools That Build Self-Trust
14:00 Knowing When to Upgrade
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Are you crushing business goals but quietly feeling like life is passing you by? What if the reason success feels heavy isn't lack of discipline but lack of intentional life planning? And what if planning your life the same way you plan your business could actually give you more peace, clarity, and joy?
Every year, high achievers sit down to plan revenue targets, growth goals, OKRs, and business strategy but almost never stop to intentionally plan their life. š¤Æ In this episode, Joey shares the 7-step annual life planning framework he personally uses to make sure success doesn't cost his health, relationships, or inner peace.
This is not another hustle mindset or productivity hack.
It's a practical, reflective, and deeply intentional process that blends life planning, mindset work, spirituality, and structure so your life doesn't get left behind while you build impact š¤āØ.
You'll learn how to plan your life like a business without burning out, why reflection must come before goal setting, and how to align your daily actions with the person you actually want to become. Joey breaks down why most high performers are great at planning outcomes but terrible at planning experiences and how that disconnect leads to regret, exhaustion, and autopilot living.
Inside this episode, you'll discover:
00:00 Why many high achievers plan their business but forget to plan their life
01:30 How to begin life planning with reflection instead of pressure
03:39 Why having a clear life vision matters more than setting goals
05:53 The mindset shift that helps release resistance and limiting beliefs
07:30 A powerful handwriting exercise that reveals what truly matters
12:20 How to use OKRs and quarterly planning for your personal life
15:14 Daily questions that help you stay focused, present, and aligned
18:22 Why putting your life on the calendar changes everything
This episode is especially for high achievers, entrepreneurs, leaders, and growth-minded individuals who want success and presence. If you've ever thought, "I'll enjoy life later, once I hit the goal," this conversation is your wake-up call š.
Planning your life doesn't limit you, it frees you.
You're not behind. You're being invited to live with intention.
šÆ If this resonates, subscribe, share it with someone who looks successful on paper but feels disconnected inside, and check out The Great Life Experiment, a free 30-day journey designed to bring clarity, peace, and purpose into your everyday life.
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Why do you keep doing the "right things" but still feel stuck? Why does it feel like something inside you is blocking your goals no matter how hard you try? Why does your mind keep pulling you back into old patterns you swore you were done with?
If you've ever wondered "Why am I sabotaging myself even when I want to change?", this episode is going to feel like relief. Today, I'm breaking down the five mindset frameworks that completely rewired my life, ended my daily suffering, and helped me shift out of fear, resistance, self-doubt, burnout, and survival mode. š¤
These aren't theories. These are the exact tools I learned after privately coaching with David Bayer, going through every level of his program, and investing over six figures into understanding why our beliefs, stories, and emotional patterns silently dictate our results. If you've been feeling like you're driving with the brakes on, this will help you see exactly where that resistance is hiding.
You'll learn the formula Desire + Non-Resistance = Desired Result, the real truth behind the primal vs. powerful state, and how to identify when your mind is lying to you. You'll also hear how neural sculpting, evidence-building, and the decision matrix helped me stop feeling overwhelmed, trapped, or constantly behind in life.
By the end, you'll understand how beliefs create thoughts, thoughts create feelings, feelings create actions, and actions create your results and most importantly, how to rewrite that loop from the inside out.
If this helped you feel even 1% more hopeful, drop a comment with the belief you're ready to release and the new belief you're choosing. Let's rewire your patterns together.And if you want to go deeper, join me inside The Great Life Experiment, a free 30-day journey where I send you one powerful question each day to help you live with more clarity, peace, alignment, and purpose.
Your life doesn't change from knowing the information.
It changes when you decide and take action.
Let's begin. š¤š„
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In this, we'll talk about:00:00 ā The Five Frameworks That Changed Everything
00:36 ā How Coaching With David Rewired Me
01:25 ā Why Desire Always Reveals Resistance
02:19 ā Removing Blocks That Sabotage Goals
04:51 ā Primal vs Powerful State Explained
08:07 ā The Belief Loop That Runs Your Life
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