Episodes
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Charlie Craggs is an award-winning author, activist and the creator of Nail Transphobia, the campaign that used free manicures to start conversations about trans lives.
In this episode of Queer Talker, Charlie joins Ben Cicchetti for one of the most honest and uplifting conversations yet.
Together they discuss growing up, bullying, finding authenticity, the importance of representation, why Nadia Almada changed Charlie’s life, and why humour can be one of the most powerful forms of activism.
Charlie also reveals exclusively that Nail Transphobia is returning, shares details of her next book, and explains why she refuses to let anyone take away her joy.
They also discuss:
Growing up as a queer childBeing bullied at schoolNadia Almada and Big BrotherFinding authenticityNail TransphobiaTrans rights in 2026Social media and activismStanding up for yourselfWhy joy is an act of resistanceA funny, emotional and incredibly empowering conversation.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Queer Panic
00:26 First album and music memories
01:21 Lip sync song choice and queer media favorites
01:59 Favorite queer icons and representation
03:06 Meeting Nadia Almada and her impact
08:27 Nadia Almada’s victory and representation
09:07 Young Charlie’s understanding of gender and identity
11:01 Media treatment of trans people over decades
13:28 Trans rights and societal progress
16:48 Trans men in society and bathroom debates
21:23 Authenticity and self-acceptance journey
23:36 The Nail Transphobia campaign’s origins and impact
35:32 Upcoming book and advocacy plans
45:31 Advice to younger self and resilience
48:18 Protecting joy and handling negativity
50:30 Closing remarks and gratitude
Connect with Ben Cicchetti:
Website - https://www.queertalker.com
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YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti
TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti
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Simon Blake OBE has dedicated much of his life to making the world a safer, fairer place for LGBTQ+ people.
As CEO of Stonewall, one of the world’s most influential LGBTQ+ organisations, Simon joins Ben Cicchetti for a thoughtful and deeply personal conversation about authenticity, activism, hope and why our goal should never simply be to survive, but to thrive.
Simon reflects on growing up in Cornwall in the 1970s, the first time he saw himself represented on screen, coming out to his parents, and the powerful words his father shared years later: “I’m so glad that you gave us the chance to love you in all of you.”
We also discuss:
The role and future of StonewallLGBTQ+ rights in 2026Why progress isn’t always linearDiversity, equity and inclusionWhy representation mattersThe importance of empathySocial media and activismLeadership and trusting your gutAdvice for young LGBTQ+ peopleWhy we should aim to thrive, not just surviveThis is a conversation full of warmth, wisdom and hope from one of the most important voices in the LGBTQ+ community.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Simon Blake and Queer Panic Questions
03:55 Childhood and Early Influences
08:11 Realizing Difference and LGBTQ+ Awareness
11:46 Authenticity and Coming Out Journey
15:58 Career Path and Leadership Insights
20:10 The Role of Stonewall and Personal Connection
23:40 Navigating the Culture War for LGBTQ+ Rights
26:42 Stonewall's Vision and Strategy for 2026
30:22 Balancing Urgency and Strategy in Advocacy
35:36 The Role of Businesses in Promoting Inclusion
39:46 The Impact of Politicization on LGBTQ+ Lives
47:56 Advice for the Younger LGBTQ+ Generation
Connect with Ben Cicchetti:
Website - https://www.queertalker.com
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/
YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti
TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti
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Joe McElderry first captured the hearts of the nation when he won The X Factor in 2009. But behind the headlines, chart success and sold-out tours was a young man still figuring out who he was.
In this episode of Queer Talker, Joe joins Ben Cicchetti to reflect on the extraordinary journey from winning one of the UK’s biggest television shows to finding comfort in his own identity and creative voice.
Joe opens up about navigating fame at just 18 years old, realising he was gay while living life in the public eye, and the surreal experience of seeing his coming out story splashed across the front page of every national newspaper.
We also discuss his incredible career since The X Factor, performing with George Michael, the lessons he’s learned from nearly two decades in the music industry, and why turning 30 changed his perspective on success, authenticity and happiness.
Plus, Joe shares the story behind his brilliant new single Love Me Out Loud, a heartbreak disco anthem inspired by artists like Robyn, Jessie Ware and Dua Lipa, and explains why now felt like the right time to return to pop music.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Joe McElderry
03:00 The Creative Process Behind New Music
06:01 Memorable Moments from X Factor
08:57 The Impact of George Michael
12:04 Navigating Fame and Personal Identity
15:03 Coming Out Journey
17:53 Life After Winning X Factor
25:14 The Journey of a Music Career
26:14 Reflecting on 'Wide Awake' Album
29:20 Exploring Musical Versatility
31:52 Finding Authenticity in Performance
34:53 The Joy of New Music: 'Love Me Out Loud'
38:10 The Creative Process Behind 'Love Me Out Loud'
40:45 Queer Joy and Community Spirit
46:06 The Impact of 'That's Ridiculous' Podcast
50:11 Advice to Younger Self
Connect with Ben Cicchetti:
Website - https://www.queertalker.com
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/
YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti
TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti
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In this episode of Queer Talker, host Ben Cicchetti sits down with X Factor winner and pop artist Matt Terry for his most open and honest conversation yet.
Matt reflects on growing up feeling like he had to hide who he was, the pressure of trying to present as “straight enough,” and what it was really like being thrust into the spotlight on one of the biggest TV shows in the world at just 23 years old.
He opens up about the rumours surrounding his sexuality during X Factor, feeling unprotected by the industry, and the emotional toll of trying to play a version of himself that never truly fit.
Matt also shares the deeply personal story behind His Car, why Heartstopper meant so much to him, and how his new music including Skittles and Party In My Room represents freedom, joy, and finally feeling comfortable in his own skin.
This episode is funny, emotional, nostalgic, and incredibly honest. A conversation about fame, identity, pressure, healing, and what happens when you stop performing for everyone else and finally become yourself.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Matt Terry
02:18 Musical Inspirations and Collaborations
03:58 Queer Icons and Representation
04:40 X Factor Journey and Performances
05:49 The Meaning Behind 'Party in My Room'
06:18 Finding Identity and Self-Discovery
08:18 Musical Journey and Early Influences
10:26 Awareness of LGBTQ Figures
12:29 Experience on X Factor
17:10 Navigating Fame and Personal Struggles
20:06 Confidence on Stage
23:30 Performing 'Secret Love Song' and Its Impact
25:49 Winning X Factor and Its Aftermath
26:20 The Highs and Lows of Fame
30:04 Navigating the X Factor Experience
33:58 Finding My Voice: The Journey to Authenticity
38:17 His Car: A Personal Revelation
45:20 Being a Voice for the LGBTQIA+ Community
47:03 Advice to My Younger Self
Connect with Ben Cicchetti:
Website - https://www.queertalker.com
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/
YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti
TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti
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In this episode of Queer Talker, Ben Cicchetti sits down with Emmy and GLAAD Award-winning creator, HIV activist, and Plus Life Media founder Karl Schmid for a deeply honest conversation about identity, stigma, survival, and hope.
Karl opens up about growing up between Australia, Fiji, New Zealand and the UK, his early experiences in the entertainment world through his brother’s fame on Neighbours, and how those experiences shaped the person he is today.
The conversation then turns deeply personal as Karl reflects on discovering his sexuality, internalised shame growing up during the AIDS crisis, and the lasting impact of being diagnosed HIV positive at 27 years old. He shares the fear, stigma, and silence he carried for years, including why he kept his diagnosis private for nearly a decade.
Karl also explains the life-changing impact of the U=U message (Undetectable = Untransmittable), why HIV stigma still exists in 2026, and how creating Plus Life Media became part of his healing journey.
The episode also explores:
* Why storytelling matters in LGBTQ+ communities
* The importance of HIV education and visibility
* Internalised stigma and rebuilding self-worth
* HIV Unwrapped and bringing HIV conversations to New York Fashion Week
* Why hope is essential for survival
This is a powerful, vulnerable, and deeply human conversation about survival, visibility, and creating spaces where people feel seen.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Carl Schmid and His Work
02:57 Exploring Carl's International Upbringing
05:56 The Impact of Celebrity and Family on Carl's Career
08:55 Navigating Early Awareness of LGBTQ+ Identity
12:07 Personal Journey of Self-Discovery and Authenticity
18:13 Coming Out as HIV Positive and Its Impact
24:05 The Importance of Storytelling in HIV Awareness
27:02 Understanding the 'You Equals You' Message
28:58 Trust Issues in the Medical System
29:53 The Impact of U=U on Personal Health
31:21 Overcoming Internalized Stigma
35:38 Building Healthy Relationships
36:45 The Mission of Plus Life Media
39:31 Changing the Narrative Around HIV
42:20 The Importance of Education and Visibility
46:03 HIV Unwrapped: Fashion Meets Science
50:12 Reflecting on Personal and Professional Growth
54:54 Advice for the Younger Self and the Newly Diagnosed
Connect with Ben Cicchetti:
Website - https://www.queertalker.com
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/
YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti
TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti
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In this episode of Queer Talker, Ben Cicchetti sits down with model, writer and asexuality advocate Yasmin Benoit for a powerful conversation about identity, visibility, and challenging assumptions.
Yasmin shares what it really means to be asexual, breaking down common misconceptions and explaining the difference between sexual attraction, libido, and how people experience identity.
She opens up about growing up feeling different, being labelled by others before she had the language to define herself, and how discovering the term “asexual” both resonated and created new challenges due to a lack of representation.
The conversation explores the reality of representation, from the stereotypes often associated with asexuality to why the community is still in its “early stages” compared to broader LGBTQ+ visibility. Yasmin also shares how her work as a model has challenged people’s expectations of what asexuality “looks like”, and why that contrast has made her both visible and controversial.
They also discuss intersectionality, the unique experience of being a Black asexual woman, and the barriers that still exist both within and outside LGBTQ+ spaces.
This is an honest, insightful and often eye-opening conversation that challenges assumptions and expands understanding.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Queer Panic Round
04:26 Nostalgia and Childhood Reflections
07:31 Understanding Asexuality
10:33 Personal Journey to Asexuality
13:39 Navigating Identity and Representation
16:45 Challenging Stereotypes of Asexuality
18:57 Asexuality in Mainstream Media
23:40 Controversial Representation and Identity
30:43 Intersectionality and Asexuality
33:46 Navigating Online Hate and Advocacy
36:46 Advice to Younger Self and LGBTQIA+ Youth
Connect with Ben Cicchetti:
Website - https://www.queertalker.com
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YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti
TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti
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In this episode of Queer Talker, Ben Cicchetti sits down with Zelah Glasson, known to many from Big Brother, for a raw and honest conversation about identity, visibility, and what it really means to live authentically.
Zelah opens up about a chaotic childhood, being nearly kicked out of multiple schools, and the early signs of identity that showed up long before he had the language to understand them. From shouting “I’m a boy” on the playground to navigating years of confusion, suppression, and self-discovery, his journey is anything but straightforward.
They explore Zelah’s experience of realising he was trans later in life, and why his transition felt gradual rather than a single defining moment. He shares what it was like to finally feel at home in his body, and the impact that journey has had on how he sees himself today.
The conversation also dives into Big Brother, including the unexpected way Zelah ended up on the show, the pressure of being a trans person on national television, and the responsibility that comes with representing a marginalised community. He reflects on viral moments from the show, including being misgendered, and how he processed those experiences both in the house and afterwards.
They also discuss the role of politics in LGBTQ+ lives, why being “apolitical” isn’t always an option, and the importance of better, more everyday representation in media.
This is a powerful, thoughtful and often surprising conversation about identity, resilience, and the reality of being visible in today’s world.
Connect with Ben Cicchetti:
Website - https://www.queertalker.com
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YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti
TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti
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In this episode of Queer Talker, Ben Cicchetti sits down with writer and director Lee Knight, the creator behind A Friend of Dorothy, to explore storytelling, identity, and what it means to grow up queer in a very different world.
Lee opens up about his childhood under Section 28, growing up in an environment shaped by fear, shame, and silence, and how that experience shaped both his identity and his creativity. He shares powerful memories of navigating school life, hiding who he was, and the lasting impact of growing up in a time where being gay was framed as something dangerous. 
The conversation dives into his journey from actor to writer and director, including the challenges of rejection, self-doubt, and finding the confidence to trust his own voice. Lee shares the story behind A Friend of Dorothy, from writing the script in lockdown to working with icons like Miriam Margolyes and Stephen Fry, and ultimately taking the film all the way to the Oscars. 
They also explore the importance of queer storytelling, representation, and the emotional weight of seeing younger generations grow up with visibility that simply didn’t exist before.
This is an honest, emotional and inspiring conversation about resilience, creativity, and learning to trust yourself in a world that often tells you not to.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction
01:42 Queer Panic: Rapid Fire Questions
03:54 Childhood Reflections: The Eclectic Journey
06:59 Resilience and the Quest for Authenticity
11:58 The Impact of Media on Queer Identity
17:12 Discovering and Accepting My Queer Self
22:10 The Bumpy Road to A Friend of Dorothy
27:07 Trusting Your Inner Voice
28:53 The Journey of Creation
32:13 Working with Icons
36:57 Capturing Authentic Moments
41:40 The Oscar Experience
53:50 Looking Ahead: Future Projects
56:11 Advice to the Younger Self
Connect with Ben Cicchetti:Website - https://www.queertalker.com
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/
YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti
TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti
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In this episode of Queer Talker, Ben Cicchetti sits down with Joseph Harwood, one of the original beauty creators and a true pioneer in online content, to explore identity, creativity, and the evolution of social media.
Joseph shares his extraordinary journey, from growing up in a strict church environment and navigating life as an androgynous young person, to becoming one of the first creators to build a career through makeup and digital platforms. He opens up about being scouted as a model, working internationally at a young age, and how discovering makeup became a powerful tool for expression, transformation, and storytelling.
They dive deep into the early days of YouTube, when creativity came before algorithms, and unpack how social media has shifted from a space of individuality to one driven by conformity, performance, and debate. Joseph offers a rare behind-the-scenes perspective on how platforms, algorithms, and monetisation have shaped both visibility and the experience of LGBTQ+ creators online. 
The conversation also explores Joseph’s unique relationship with gender and identity, why he resists labels, and how his experiences have shaped a more fluid, human-first perspective on self-expression. He reflects on how differently people treat you based on appearance, and why authenticity matters more than ever in a world obsessed with categorisation. 
They also discuss mental health, resilience, and the importance of building a life beyond social media metrics, alongside practical advice for young LGBTQ+ people navigating identity, creativity, and career.
This is a raw, insightful and at times provocative conversation about individuality, creativity, and what it really means to live authentically.
Chapters
00:00 Queer Panic Game: Getting to Know Joe
03:55 Childhood and Upbringing: Shaping Identity
07:01 Understanding LGBTQ+ Awareness and Expression
09:59 Modeling Journey: From Scouting to Experiences
12:55 Makeup as Art: Creative Expression and Identity
16:03 Building a Career in Makeup: Community and Innovation
21:07 Navigating Gender Identity in the Beauty Industry
25:35 The Importance of Legal Protections for the LGBTQ+ Community
28:19 The Evolution of Social Media and Its Impact
35:01 Mental Health in the Age of Social Media
39:28 Advice for the Younger Generation and LGBTQ+ Youth
Connect with Ben Cicchetti:
Website - https://www.queertalker.com
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/
YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti
TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti
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In this episode of Queer Talker, Ben Cicchetti sits down with comedian, writer, and podcaster Lee Peart.
Lee shares the journey that led him from navigating multiple identities at school to finding confidence and connection through stand-up comedy. Growing up balancing different versions of himself, Lee talks openly about humour becoming both a shield and a way to explore who he really was.
From discovering comedy to embracing life on stage, Lee reflects on how performing helped him step into his identity as a gay man and build the confidence he once struggled to find.
The conversation also explores the role of queer mentorship, the importance of seeing people further along the journey, and the impact figures like Matthew Shepard had on shaping queer history and visibility.
This is a conversation about identity, humour, resilience, and the power of finding the space where you can finally be yourself.
Chapters
00:00 Queer Panic Rapid Fire Questions
09:39 Exploring Childhood and Identity
16:14 First Awareness of LGBTQ+ Representation
21:22 The Role of Humor in Identity
27:59 Journey into Comedy
37:00 Navigating Different Spaces
40:11 Podcasting and Wine Demystification
45:06 Advice for Younger LGBTQ+ Individuals
Connect with Ben Cicchetti:
Website - https://www.queertalker.com
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/
YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti
TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti
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In this episode of Queer Talker, Ben Cicchetti sits down with writer, performer and Awkward Productions co-founder Linus Karp.
From viral fringe shows to West End transfers, Linus has built a reputation for bold, chaotic and wildly intelligent queer theatre. But beneath the comedy is a deep understanding of identity, satire and what it really means to take up space as a queer creative.
Linus shares the journey from a leaky shipping container at the Edinburgh Fringe to sold-out runs and five-star reviews. He talks about creating work like Diana: The Untold and Untrue Story and Gwyneth Goes Skiing, and why parody can sometimes say more about culture than seriousness ever could.
We explore queer visibility in comedy, the difference between poking fun and punching down, and how working creatively with his husband has shaped both his art and his life.
This is a conversation about ambition, irreverence, collaboration and building a body of work that refuses to behave.
Chapters
00:00 Queer Panic
03:01 Childhood and Early Influences
05:43 Passion for Pop Culture
08:37 First Awareness of Queerness
11:36 Navigating Queerness and Authenticity
14:32 Theater Journey and Awkward Productions
17:50 Creative Process and Show Development
20:42 Marriage and Collaboration with Joseph
23:35 The Edinburgh Fringe Experience
26:31 Queer Culture and Political Context
29:40 Pressure of Success and Future Projects
32:38 Humor and Audience Connection
35:33 Performing in the U.S. and Cultural Differences
38:44 Advice to Younger Self and LGBTQ+ Youth
41:32 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
Connect with Ben Cicchetti:
Website - https://www.queertalker.com
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YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti
TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti
Credits:
Photo Credit: Dax Smith - https://www.instagram.com/the.photosmith/
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In this episode of Queer Talker, Ben Cicchetti sits down with drag artist, educator, and community force Miss Tess Tickle.
Growing up queer in a small mining village in County Durham, Tess shares what it was like to survive bullying, Section 28, and a total lack of representation. From hiding parts of herself to finding joy, confidence, and purpose through drag, this is a powerful story about staying when it would have been easier to leave.
Tess opens up about coming out to her parents, the moment that changed everything, and why visibility in small towns matters just as much as visibility on television. She also talks candidly about drag beyond Drag Race, working in tough straight venues, and using comedy, education, and compassion to change minds.
We also explore Tess’s incredible community work through The Angel Trust, how drag became a tool for education and safeguarding, and why she believes we should not have to come out at all.
This is a conversation about resilience, representation, chosen family, and being the person you needed when you were younger.
Chapters
00:00 Queer Panic
04:30 Growing Up LGBTQ+: Challenges and Realizations
07:25 The Impact of Representation in Media
10:23 Coming Out: Personal Stories and Family Reactions
13:24 Finding Acceptance and Love
16:28 The Journey into Drag: A New Identity
19:16 Visibility and Community Engagement
26:05 The Journey into Drag
27:18 Life as a Drag Queen in the UK
31:59 Education Through Performance
37:08 Inspiration from Icons
43:03 Fighting for Acceptance in the Community
51:10 Empowering the Next Generation
Learn more about the Angle Trust
Website - https://www.angeltrust.co.uk
Connect with Ben Cicchetti:
Website - https://www.queertalker.com
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/
YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti
TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti
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In this episode of Queer Talker, host Ben Cicchetti sits down with Jude Guaitamacchi, non-binary activist, writer, and co-founder of Trans Solidarity Alliance.
Jude opens up about growing up without the language to understand their identity, navigating trauma and addiction, and the long road to recovery and self-acceptance. They reflect on homelessness, survival, and what it means to rebuild a life when everything falls apart.
The conversation also explores non-binary visibility, the emotional toll of activism, and why community care matters just as much as resistance. Jude shares powerful insights on leadership, allyship, and how queer people can protect themselves while still fighting for change.
This is an honest and deeply human conversation about identity, resilience, and learning to stay when everything tells you to disappear.
Chapters
00:00 Queer Panic
04:33 The Impact of Music and Media on Identity
07:25 Celebrating Unsung Heroes in the Queer Community
10:27 Childhood Challenges and the Search for Identity
13:12 Understanding Queerness and Representation
16:09 Authenticity and the Journey of Self-Discovery
19:10 The Role of Trauma in Shaping Activism
22:26 Prioritizing Self-Care in Activism
28:58 Embodying Love and Self-Care
31:03 The Birth of the Trans Solidarity Alliance
33:16 Navigating Political Activism
38:51 Visibility and Representation in Media
45:56 Brands and Allyship in the Current Climate
51:46 Coping with Scrutiny and Online Trolls
57:07 Advice to Younger Generations
Learn more about the Trans+ Solidarity Alliance:
Website - https://www.transsolidarityalliance.com/
Connect with Ben Cicchetti:
Website - https://www.queertalker.com
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YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti
TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti
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Michael Gunning is a former elite swimmer, LGBTQ+ advocate, and one of the most important voices at the intersection of sport, race, and identity.
In the first Queer Talker episode of 2026, Michael joins Ben Cicchetti for a powerful and deeply honest conversation about growing up feeling different, navigating elite sport as a queer mixed-race athlete, and the long journey toward living authentically.
Michael reflects on overcompensating to fit in, the damaging stereotypes he faced in swimming, and how being told “Black people can’t swim” became fuel rather than a barrier. He opens up about suppression, resilience, and the mental toll of hiding parts of yourself in highly competitive environments.
The conversation explores the importance of representation, the impact of seeing figures like Tom Daley come out in sport, and why visibility still matters in 2026. Michael also shares what it meant to come out publicly, the overwhelming mix of support and hate, and how that moment reshaped his life and sense of purpose.
We also talk about retirement from elite sport, identity beyond the pool, body image, pressure, and what it means to redefine success after stepping away from a career that once defined you.
This is a thoughtful, hopeful episode about resilience, self-acceptance, and learning that being different is not a weakness but a superpower.
Chapters
00:00 Hopes and Dreams for 2026
04:18 Queer Panic
07:24 Childhood and Identity
10:19 Coming Out and Its Impact
13:20 Pride and Community
16:17 The Role of Swimming in Resilience
19:18 Representation in Sports
20:01 Embracing Authenticity in the Entertainment Industry
20:46 The Importance of Being Your True Self
21:50 Isolation and Connection in Elite Sports
23:05 Coming Out: A Transformative Experience
24:50 Navigating Public Perception and Personal Identity
26:25 The Transition from Elite Athlete to Everyday Life
28:06 The Reality of Retirement: Adjusting to Life After Sports
30:10 Maintaining Competitive Spirit Beyond the Pool
32:34 Advice to Younger Self and LGBTQ+ Youth
Connect with Ben Cicchetti:
Website - https://www.queertalker.com
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/
YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti
TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti
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In this episode of Queer Talker, host Ben Cicchetti sits down with Lewis Oakley, one of the UK’s most visible bisexual voices and a passionate advocate for representation, visibility, and belonging.
Lewis opens up about growing up bisexual in a world that often struggles with nuance, where identities are pushed into boxes and the “in-between” is misunderstood or erased altogether. He reflects on the challenges of being openly bisexual, from stereotypes and disbelief to the pressure to constantly justify your identity.
Together, Ben and Lewis explore why bisexual visibility matters, how language shapes acceptance, and what it means to show up authentically in spaces that are not always designed for complexity. Lewis also speaks candidly about confidence, self-acceptance, and the responsibility that comes with being visible for others who are still finding their voice.
This is a conversation about bisexuality, visibility, and the power of being seen exactly as you are.
Chapters
00:00 Queer Panic Rapid Fire Questions
04:22 Childhood Insights and Early Realizations
07:34 First Experiences in LGBTQ Spaces
10:34 Coming Out and Self-Discovery
13:47 The Complexity of Bisexual Identity
16:32 Navigating Bisexuality in Relationships
19:22 The Impact of Celebrity Influence on Bisexuality
22:40 Visibility and Representation of Bisexuals
25:27 The Reality of Love and Relationships
27:39 The Struggles of Bisexual Identity
29:36 Creating a Resource: The Book Journey
33:38 Navigating Loneliness in Bisexuality
36:41 Parenting and Advocacy: A Personal Perspective
42:17 Media Representation and Its Impact
47:20 Advice for the Younger Generation
Connect with Lewis Oakley:
Linktree - https://linktr.ee/lewyoaks
Connect with Ben Cicchetti:
Website - https://www.queertalker.com
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/
YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti
TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti
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In this episode of Queer Talker, host Ben Cicchetti sits down with drag performer, community builder, and cultural force Jessica L’Whor, also known as Miss Jessica, to explore drag as identity, resistance, and care.
Jessica reflects on growing up in a deeply sheltered Catholic household, navigating queerness through religious guilt, and the long journey toward self acceptance. She speaks openly about coming out later in life, unlearning shame, and what it took to finally embrace who she is today.
From her beginnings in the Denver drag scene to becoming a full time performer for over a decade, Jessica shares the realities of sustaining a creative career without television backing, the business discipline behind longevity, and why consistency matters more than viral moments.
The conversation also dives into the creation of Miss Jessica, her all ages and family friendly drag persona. Jessica explains why visibility for queer youth is vital, how drag story times and school visits became part of her mission, and what it means to create safe, affirming spaces for children and families in a climate where drag is increasingly politicised.
Ben and Jessica discuss chosen family, queer elders, touring across the United States, and the responsibility that comes with having a large platform. Jessica is candid about balancing joy and escapism with activism, and why being a soft, visible presence can be just as powerful as outrage.
This is a conversation about drag as art, drag as care, and the importance of being the person you needed when you were younger.
Chapters
00:00 Queer Panic Rapid Fire Questions
06:36 Childhood and Early Influences
11:42 Understanding Queerness and Family Dynamics
16:25 The State of Drag and LGBTQ+ Community
20:49 Jessica's Journey into Drag
21:31 Longevity in Drag Performance and Community Support
23:19 Empowering the Next Generation of Drag Artists
25:55 Creating Family-Friendly Drag Experiences
28:24 The Role of Visibility and Representation
30:55 Building an Authentic Online Presence
34:10 The Intersection of Art and Activism
37:21 Advice for the Younger Generation
Connect with Jessica L’Whor:
Website - https://www.jessicalwhor.com
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In this episode of Queer Talker, host Ben Cicchetti sits down with comedian Mark Bittlestone whose sharp wit, queer storytelling and emotional honesty have made him one of the most exciting voices in British comedy.
Mark opens up about growing up in 1990s Southwest London where homophobia was woven into the everyday language around him, even in an otherwise loving home. He reflects on spending a decade in the closet, the fear of being gay that shaped his early years and the moment he finally allowed himself to come out and breathe.
He also shares how devastating loss shaped him. Mark lost his mum shortly before his A levels and his dad shortly before his university finals. He talks about how grief transformed his understanding of life and how comedy became both a coping mechanism and a calling.
Ben and Mark dive into authenticity, dating, Grindr mishaps, the power of teasing straight men in comedy clubs, and the complicated pressure queer comedians feel to stop talking about their identity even when it is central to their story.
Mark also reflects on falling into comedy, getting fired from teaching, building confidence through social media, touring his show I Need a Straight Guy, and figuring out what comes next as he enters the next phase of his career.
Chapters
00:00 Queer Panic Rapid Fire Questions
04:16 Embarrassing Dating Stories
07:16 Proudest Career Moments
10:13 Childhood Influences on Identity
13:15 Awareness of Queerness and Family Dynamics
17:21 Coming Out and Authenticity
20:22 Navigating Loss and Grief
25:33 The Role of Comedy in Coping
27:47 Journey into Comedy
31:02 Queerness and Performance
32:29 Touring Experience and Audience Interaction
36:22 Using Platform for Advocacy
38:14 Future Aspirations and Reflection
39:11 Advice to Younger Self and LGBTQ+ Youth
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In this episode of Queer Talker, host Ben Cicchetti sits down with Lord Chris Smith — Britain’s first openly gay male MP, the world’s first openly gay cabinet minister, and a pioneering voice for LGBTQ+ equality in politics.
Chris reflects on the moment in 1984 when he stood on stage in Rugby and came out publicly, becoming the first openly gay MP in British history, and the courage it took to do so in a hostile climate. He shares his perspective on Section 28, the chilling effect it had on young LGBTQ+ people, and the long fight to overturn it.
We also discuss his achievements as Secretary of State, from making national museums free for all to helping pass landmark LGBTQ+ legislation under Tony Blair’s government, as well as his later decision to speak publicly about living with HIV and the extraordinary phone call he received from Nelson Mandela afterwards.
From his student days in Edinburgh and Cambridge, to becoming Chancellor of the University of Cambridge, Chris has consistently broken barriers and left a lasting legacy. His story is one of courage, resilience, and hope — a reminder of how far we’ve come and the work still to be done for true equality.
This episode is a must-listen for anyone interested in LGBTQ+ history, politics, and the power of visibility.
Chapters
00:00 Queer Panic Rapid Fire Questions
03:21 Proud Moments in Politics
05:52 Understanding Childhood and Identity
09:38 Journey into Politics
11:00 Coming Out as the First Openly Gay MP
18:09 Reactions in Parliament
20:07 The Impact of Section 28
26:02 Becoming the First Openly Gay Cabinet Member
27:41 Legislative Changes for LGBTQ Rights
32:18 The Importance of Diversity in Leadership
34:29 Going Public with HIV Status
41:48 Role as Chancellor of Cambridge University
45:32 Reflections on the Current Trans Community Climate
47:43 Advice to Younger Self and LGBTQ Youth
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In this episode of Queer Talker, host Ben Cicchetti sits down with Jaxon Feeley, former prison officer, public speaker, and trans advocate, for a powerful and deeply human conversation about courage, visibility, and doing it scared.
Jaxon opens up about his life before and after transition, from working in the prison service to walking back through the gates as “Mr Feeley.” He shares how he found the strength to come out publicly, the moment he told his family they could have “a dead daughter or a living son,” and why he believes fear and bravery can exist in the same breath.
From battling stigma to embracing authenticity, Jaxon’s story is one of resilience, vulnerability, and relentless hope. His mantra, “do it scared,” is a reminder that courage does not mean being fearless; it means showing up anyway.
Chapters
00:00 Queer Panic Rapid Fire
03:35 Childhood and Early Identity
08:42 Transitioning and Authenticity
13:21 Family Dynamics and Support
18:32 Working in a Prison Environment
23:22 Reality TV Experiences
28:38 Living Authentically in the World
34:10 The Intensity of Reality TV
34:56 Balancing Multiple Roles
37:08 Finding Daily Happiness
39:11 Navigating Loneliness in the Spotlight
41:39 The Importance of Social Media Breaks
43:27 The Thrill of Hunted: A Unique Experience
56:06 The Impact of Representation in Media
59:17 Introducing 'Fear Proof': A New Book
01:03:38 Advice for the Younger Self
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In this episode of Queer Talker, host Ben Cicchetti sits down with Alex Thomas-Smith — actor and performer whose credits span the West End, TV, and Netflix, including & Juliet, What It Feels Like For A Girl, and Lena Dunham’s Too Much.
Alex reflects on their journey from childhood to the stage, sharing early memories of queer representation from Big Brother’s Nadia and Coronation Street’s Hayley Cropper, and why those moments of visibility mattered. They open up about growing up in challenging circumstances, finding strength with their sisters, and embracing authenticity without ever feeling the need for a formal “coming out.”
From the thrill of starring in & Juliet to balancing intimacy and spectacle on their wedding day, Alex speaks candidly about love, representation, and how neurodiversity shapes their creativity and career. They also discuss the importance of refusing roles that erase identity, and the joy of telling queer stories unapologetically.
This is a conversation about representation, resilience, and what it means to be brave enough to live without limits.
Chapters
00:00 Queer Panic Rapid Fire
07:20 Childhood and Early Influences
13:12 Awareness of Queerness
19:09 Authenticity and Self-Expression
25:07 Marriage and Personal Milestones
25:13 The Reality of Performing Eight Shows a Week
28:41 Navigating Relationships in the Theatre World
31:16 Stage vs. Screen: A Performer’s Perspective
33:19 Experiences on What It Feels Like For A Girl and Too Much
38:51 Choosing Projects: Aligning with Authenticity
40:36 The Shift in Queer Representation
42:25 Neurodiversity and Performance
44:47 Advice to Young Queer Individuals
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