Episodes
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Host, therapist, and non monogamy coach Paige Bond interviews Sha Aguirre, a certified sound therapist, yoga instructor, and Reiki master.
Sha shares her transformative journey from being a hermit to becoming a holistic practitioner. She discusses her personal struggles with weight, self-love, and mental health, and how she used holistic modalities like breathwork, Reiki, sound therapy, and Shibari to heal herself and now helps others.
Sha also talks about her unique practice called 'Holistic Ropes,' which combines Shibari, crystals, and tuning forks to provide healing and emotional release for clients. The conversation delves into Sha's approach to non-monogamy, her experience in the kink community, and the importance of self-discovery and self-love.
04:48 Embracing Self-Love and Transformation
09:11 Discovering Breathwork and Spiritual Awakening
13:16 The Power of Reiki: Healing and Energy Work
16:04 Integrating Holistic Practices with Mental Health
18:52 Kink Awareness and Holistic Ropes
24:05 Emotional Release and Healing in Kink
25:21 Navigating Non-Monogamy and Personal Growth
27:34 Overcoming Jealousy and Insecurity: The Path to Ethical Polyamory
32:54 The Importance of Self-Knowledge in Relationships and Non-Monogamy
34:55 The Key to Happiness and Healing
Sha is a certified Sound Therapist, Yoga Instructor, and Reiki Master. She takes a comprehensive approach rooted in holistic modalities that fosters the synergy between self-love and nurturing self-care.
As the first POC to own Jacksonville's pioneering Holistic Center, she assumes the role of an Energy Worker and an Intuitive Transformational Coach. Sha's distinctive ability lies in perceiving the latent potential within individuals and guiding them toward healing with a compassionate and heart-centered approach.Connect with Sha
https://www.intuitminds.com
Right now there is a special for a membership that is $30 on the site that gives you unlimited access to in person and virtual classes.
Connect with Paige Bond
Instagram: @paigebondcoaching
Facebook: @paigebondcoaching
TikTok: @paigebondcoaching
Website: https://paigebond.com
Paige Bond hosts the Stubborn Love podcast, is a Licensed Marriage Therapist, and a Polyamory Relationship Coach. Her mission is to help people-pleasing millennials navigate non-monogamy so they can tame their jealousy and love with ease. Her own journey from feeling lonely, insecure, and jealous to feeling empowered and reassured is what fuels her passion to help other people-pleasers to conquer jealousy and embrace love.
Free Jealousy Workbook:
â â â http://www.paigebond.com/calm-the-chaos-jealousy-workbook-downloadâ â â
Free People Pleasing Workbook:
â â â https://www.paigebond.com/people-pleasing-workbookâ â â
Disclaimer: This podcast and communication through our email are not meant to serve as professional advice or therapy. If you are in need of mental health support, you are encouraged to connect with a licensed mental health professional to receive the support needed.
Mental Health Resources: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255SAMHSAâs National Helpline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 for free, 24/7 crisis counseling.
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Host, therapist, and non monogamy coach Paige Bond is joined by Sabrina Rodorigo, a licensed clinical social worker, yoga teacher, and Reiki practitioner.
Ever wondered why you get that pit in your stomach when you commit to something you secretly resented doing? Or feel like you go above and beyond in your relationships just to keep the peace? You might even feel guilty for resting on the rare occasion you do take care of yourself.
Sabrina shares how to release bodily emotions from childhood trauma, people-pleasing, self abandonment, and holistic healing. Sabrina shares insights into the interconnectedness of mind, body, and spirit and explains how modalities like yoga and Reiki can help in trauma recovery.
This episode also gets into setting boundaries, cultivating self compassion, and practical tips for balancing personal care with external demands. Tune in to learn actionable steps to create a healthier, more fulfilling life and relationships.
01:37 How holistic like reiki healing can help heal trauma
04:36 Why you self-abandon and people please
05:33 Chakra system and emotional blockages
09:51 How weâre trained to people-please
14:30 Opting out of urgency
20:38 Dealing with resistance and acceptance
35:12 Biggest takeaways
Learn about Sabrina
âI guide spiritually seeking women to release bodily emotions from childhood wounds and connect back to their body in mind, body, and spirit. My practice focuses on supporting women to free themselves from patterns that are holding them back and embrace their authentic selves. Often my clients are struggling with people-pleasing, anxiety, and side-effects from trauma.â
Connect with Sabrina
Offers: Psychotherapy, Somatic and Holistic Coaching, Business Coaching, Yoga and Reiki Sessions
Website:https://www.holistichealingwellnesswithsabrinallc.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/holistichealingwithsabrina/
Cultivating Resiliency Through the 7 Chakras for Mental Health Professionals Course: https://www.holistichealingwellnesswithsabrinallc.com/resiliency-through-the-7-chakras-for-mental-health-professionals
Harmony Within: Beginner-Friendly Meditation Course: https://www.holistichealingwellnesswithsabrinallc.com/courses
Connect with Paige Bond
Instagram: @paigebondcoaching
Facebook: @paigebondcoaching
TikTok: @paigebondcoaching
Website: https://paigebond.com
Paige Bond hosts the Stubborn Love podcast, is a Licensed Marriage Therapist, and a Polyamory Relationship Coach. Her mission is to help people-pleasing millennials navigate non-monogamy so they can tame their jealousy and love with ease. Her own journey from feeling lonely, insecure, and jealous to feeling empowered and reassured is what fuels her passion to help other people-pleasers to conquer jealousy and embrace love.
Free Jealousy Workbook:
â â â http://www.paigebond.com/calm-the-chaos-jealousy-workbook-downloadâ â â
Free People Pleasing Workbook:
â â â https://www.paigebond.com/people-pleasing-workbookâ â â
Disclaimer: This podcast and communication through our email are not meant to serve as professional advice or therapy. If you are in need of mental health support, you are encouraged to connect with a licensed mental health professional to receive the support needed.
Mental Health Resources: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255SAMHSAâs National Helpline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 for free, 24/7 crisis counseling.
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Host and licensed therapist Paige Bond speaks with Whitney Emmert-Bush, a resource director specializing in mental health resources and addiction treatment in Florida. Whitney discusses the critical role of resource directors in helping families find appropriate mental health and substance use treatments.
This episode covers the process of entering treatment, determining the right level of care, the importance of family involvement, and selecting treatment centers. She also emphasizes the necessity of continued care after initial treatment and building support systems for continued recovery.
Whitney is a helper and a connector! She has been working in the behavioral health field since 2018 connecting individuals struggling with SUD and MH to find treatment and support. She is passionate about helping people connect, restore, and strengthen critical relationships and enjoy their lives again.
01:33 The Vital Role of Resource Directors in Mental Health
03:41 Navigating the Treatment Process: From Assessment to Admission
06:01 Understanding Residential Treatment
11:22 Family Involvement and Communication During Treatment
15:06 The Importance of Support for Families Outside Treatment
22:21 Post-Treatment: Navigating Life After Residential Care
27:07 Choosing the Right Treatment Facility
31:15 The Therapist's Role in Treatment Referral and Client Support
33:16 Final Thoughts and Resources for Getting Started
Connect with resources that Whitney mentioned
Caron.org
NAATP.org
Nami.org
Mhacf.org
Samhsa.gov
Connect with Paige Bond
Instagram: @paigebondcoaching
Facebook: @paigebondcoaching
TikTok: @paigebondcoaching
Website: https://paigebond.com
Paige Bond hosts the Stubborn Love podcast, is a Licensed Marriage Therapist, and a Polyamory Relationship Coach. Her mission is to help people-pleasing millennials navigate non-monogamy so they can tame their jealousy and love with ease. Her own journey from feeling lonely, insecure, and jealous to feeling empowered and reassured is what fuels her passion to help other people-pleasers to conquer jealousy and embrace love.
Free Jealousy Workbook:
â â http://www.paigebond.com/calm-the-chaos-jealousy-workbook-downloadâ â
Free People Pleasing Workbook:
â â https://www.paigebond.com/people-pleasing-workbookâ â
Disclaimer: This podcast and communication through our email are not meant to serve as professional advice or therapy. If you are in need of mental health support, you are encouraged to connect with a licensed mental health professional to receive the support needed.
Mental Health Resources: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255SAMHSAâs National Helpline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 for free, 24/7 crisis counseling.
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This episode delves into the complexities of love, relationships, and non-monogamy, highlighting conversations with Noa from the Plura (formerly Bloom) community, an app that fosters connections among individuals exploring non-traditional relationship dynamics.
The discussion covers topics including the challenges faced by non-monogamous individuals, the importance of community support, the negative impacts of dating apps on genuine connections, and the role of consent and communication in healthy relationships.
The episode also touches on societal perceptions of non-monogamy, the journey of finding personal identity and fulfillment within alternative relationship structures, and the mission of the Bloom community to provide a safer, more inclusive platform for people to explore and discuss these aspects of their lives openly.
00:53 Diving into Dr. Phil's Non-Monogamy Episode Controversy
01:55 The Realities of Non-Monogamy and Family Dynamics
07:26 Exploring Identity and Finding Community in Non-Monogamy
09:59 The Mission of Bloom: Building a Counterculture Community
11:47 Navigating the Digital World of Connection and Dating Apps
17:48 The Importance of Community Support in Non-Monogamy
22:52 Redefining Relationships and Sexuality in the Digital Age
32:33 The Future of Connection: Beyond the Swipe Culture
43:21 Closing Thoughts and Where to Find Bloom Community
Noa Elan has been building communities for as long as she could convince her parents to print out summer camp invitations in their office xerox machine. Before Plura, Noa helped grow some of the biggest brands in the world, including Lyft, Adobe, Tide, Square, and more. Noa has been part of the non-monogamy community in Oakland for more than a decade and continues to learn as much as she can about psychological safety, power dynamics, consent best practices, and restorative justice.
Connect with Noa Elan
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/noa_elan/
Meet others on Plura: https://heyplura.com/
Apple Download: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/id1528252601
Android Download: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=community.together.bloom
Connect with Paige Bond
Instagram: @paigebondcoaching
Facebook: @paigebondcoaching
TikTok: @paigebondcoaching
Website: https://paigebond.com
Paige Bond hosts the Stubborn Love podcast, is a Licensed Marriage Therapist, and a Polyamory Relationship Coach. Her mission is to help people-pleasing millennials navigate non-monogamy so they can tame their jealousy and love with ease. Her own journey from feeling lonely, insecure, and jealous to feeling empowered and reassured is what fuels her passion to help other people-pleasers to conquer jealousy and embrace love.
Free Jealousy Workbook:
â â http://www.paigebond.com/calm-the-chaos-jealousy-workbook-downloadâ â
Free People Pleasing Workbook:
â â https://www.paigebond.com/people-pleasing-workbookâ â
Disclaimer: This podcast and communication through our email are not meant to serve as professional advice or therapy. If you are in need of mental health support, you are encouraged to connect with a licensed mental health professional to receive the support needed.
Mental Health Resources: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255SAMHSAâs National Helpline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 for free, 24/7 crisis counseling.
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In this episode of Stubborn Love, host Paige Bond is joined by Lianna Purjes, a licensed therapist and empowerment coach. They dive deep into the topics like overcoming childhood trauma and dysfunctional family dynamics, particularly those stemming from alcoholic homes.
Lianna shares valuable insights on understanding attachment styles, regulating stress responses, setting boundaries, and nurturing healthy relationships. Youâll walk away from this episode with practical strategies for emotional regulation and communication skills.
Key Topics:
00:55 Special Guest: Lianna Purjes on Overcoming Childhood Trauma
03:28 The Power of Understanding Attachment in Healing
04:40 Exploring the Impact of Attachment and Emotional Regulation
08:26 Navigating Codependency and Setting Boundaries
17:16 Emotion Regulation and Coping Strategies
26:55 The Importance of Communication in Relationships
36:33 Lianna's Group Coaching Program: Resentment to Resilience
Lianna Purjes is a licensed therapist and empowerment coach helping women who grew up in alcoholic homes overcome resentment, people-pleasing, and fears of abandonment so they can build healthy and fulfilling relationships.
Connect with Lianna
FB page: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61555634097090
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachingwithlianna/
Link to book a call with me: https://www.coachingwithlianna.com/
FB group that houses all my freebies: https://www.facebook.com/groups/resentmenttoresilience
Free Group for Neurodivergent Men Rescuing their Relationships: https://www.facebook.com/groups/ndmenrelationships/
Connect with Paige Bond
Instagram: @paigebondcoaching
Facebook: @paigebondcoaching
TikTok: @paigebondcoaching
Website: https://paigebond.com
Paige Bond hosts the Stubborn Love podcast, is a Licensed Marriage Therapist, and a Polyamory Relationship Coach. Her mission is to help people-pleasing millennials navigate non-monogamy so they can tame their jealousy and love with ease. Her own journey from feeling lonely, insecure, and jealous to feeling empowered and reassured is what fuels her passion to help other people-pleasers to conquer jealousy and embrace love.
Free Jealousy Workbook:
â â http://www.paigebond.com/calm-the-chaos-jealousy-workbook-downloadâ â
Free People Pleasing Workbook:
â â https://www.paigebond.com/people-pleasing-workbookâ â
Disclaimer: This podcast and communication through our email are not meant to serve as professional advice or therapy. If you are in need of mental health support, you are encouraged to connect with a licensed mental health professional to receive the support needed.
Mental Health Resources: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255SAMHSAâs National Helpline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 for free, 24/7 crisis counseling.
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Do you want a fulfilling love and sex life but find yourself in never ending fights and avoiding intimacy altogether? This episode goes over CRUCIAL conversations you need to get your sex and love life back on track.
Key takeaways from the episode:
How important communication is in enhancing sexual intimacy between partners
What role foreplay has in a fulfilling sexual experience and how time can vary for a partnerâs needs
What aftercare is and why itâs just as important as foreplay
How couples can address and overcome mismatches in their need for physical touch
Katie Ziskind specializes in helping disconnected couples who want to work together after high conflict fights, affairs, sexual avoidance, and sexual rejection to develop a foundation of emotional connection, trust, love, and gain sex positive skills to understand foreplay, sexual pleasure, rebuild sexual desire, connect to their sexual, erotic playful side.
Katie helps couples feel safe and excited emotionally and sexually about growing together. She gives you a safe place to talk about how your strict, conservative, religious upbringing has lead to feelings of shame, guilt, fear, avoidance, lack of satisfaction, and anxiety around sex and shift into reconnecting to sexual pleasure. She helps couples get familiar and comfortable talking about sex and gain sex positive education.
Noteworthy quotes from this episode:
[8:45] âSometimes we grow up in a strict conservative and religious upbringing, where we get no education on sex, and then we also get misinformation. Like sometimes we learn that like sex toys are bad or masturbation is bad and it's like none of those things are inherently bad. We just don't learn about how they can be tools to learn about ourselves or to build desire.
[15:18] âwe're very groomed in society to like, You know, pay the bills or like go grocery shopping and you know, take the kids to soccer practice and those are beautiful things that are publicly socially acceptable but you know, we're not taught from a young age: hey, like, let's talk about what areas on your partner's body that they really like touched or what areas do you like touched and how can you vocalize thatâ
Connect with Katie
Book a free phone consult to work with me at www.WisdomWithinCt.com
Instagram.com/WisdomWithinCt
All Things Love and Intimacy Podcast with Katie Ziskind
https://wisdomwithinct.com/podcast/
Sex and intimacy course on teachable that therapists and couples wanting help with pleasure, sexual confidence, orgasming and sexual intimacy can take for $20. Check it out https://sex-and-intimacy-course.teachable.com
Connect with Paige Bond
Instagram: @paigebondcoaching
Facebook: @paigebondcoaching
TikTok: @paigebondcoaching
Website: https://paigebond.com
Paige Bond hosts the Stubborn Love podcast, is a Licensed Marriage Therapist, and a Polyamory Relationship Coach. Her mission is to help people-pleasing millennials navigate non-monogamy so they can tame their jealousy and love with ease. Her own journey from feeling lonely, insecure, and jealous to feeling empowered and reassured is what fuels her passion to help other people-pleasers to conquer jealousy and embrace love.
Free Jealousy Workbook:
â â http://www.paigebond.com/calm-the-chaos-jealousy-workbook-downloadâ â
Free People Pleasing Workbook:
â â https://www.paigebond.com/people-pleasing-workbookâ â
Disclaimer: This podcast and communication through our email are not meant to serve as professional advice or therapy. If you are in need of mental health support, you are encouraged to connect with a licensed mental health professional to receive the support needed.
Mental Health Resources: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255SAMHSAâs National Helpline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 for free, 24/7 crisis counseling.
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This episode digs deep into the journey of strengthening relationships through the Gottman method, sharing personal anecdotes and professional insights.
Key takeaways from the episode:
What is the Gottman method and how does it apply to couples therapy?
What are 'bids' in the context of relationship dynamics, and why are they important?
The impact of individual therapy on couples' dynamic
How does the intersection of mental health with kink, BDSM, ethical non-monogamy, and LGBTQ issues impact therapy and relational understanding?
How can communication and understanding intentions in relationships lead to better connection and trust?
What strategies can couples adopt from the Gottman method to prevent relationship issues and strengthen their bond?
A former Industrial and Systems Engineer, Derek Wittman is an LMHC in NY and LPC in PA with over 10 years in clinical practice. From the treatment of Substance Use Disorders to couples therapy with the Gottman Method, he had seen families reconnect in healing from the grip of trauma into restored relationships.
With precious operations management experience, Wittman has recently taken the leap from his Clinical Manager position with a top 10 national healthcare company to start his own solo private practice.
Noteworthy quotes from this episode:
[27:17] "and I recognize that if she is hurt about something I did or said, that's absolutely valid, it doesn't mean that she hates me, it means that she trusts me enough to say it. And I'm so glad that I can offer her that level of safety, that she can rest on me and rest in a relationship and I don't get offended by her feelings. I want her to feel safe with me. I see in various communities that I'm a part of where âAm I overreacting?â is a very common question. It's like, well, your feelings are not a reaction period. They're all internal. What are you doing with those feelings? You're throwing a temper tantrum? Are you crying? Are you calmly sharing how you feel about something? I hope I can always be calmly sharing or receiving something.â
Connect with Derek
Www.sageintime.com
https://www.facebook.com/profile.php/?id=100092603180057
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sage-in-time-podcast/id1721609280
Connect with Paige Bond
Instagram: @paigebondcoaching
Facebook: @paigebondcoaching
TikTok: @paigebondcoaching
Website: https://paigebond.com
Paige Bond hosts the Stubborn Love podcast, is a Licensed Marriage Therapist, and a Polyamory Relationship Coach. Her mission is to help people-pleasing millennials navigate non-monogamy so they can tame their jealousy and love with ease. Her own journey from feeling lonely, insecure, and jealous to feeling empowered and reassured is what fuels her passion to help other people-pleasers to conquer jealousy and embrace love.
Free Jealousy Workbook:
â â http://www.paigebond.com/calm-the-chaos-jealousy-workbook-downloadâ â
Free People Pleasing Workbook:
â â https://www.paigebond.com/people-pleasing-workbookâ â
Disclaimer: This podcast and communication through our email are not meant to serve as professional advice or therapy. If you are in need of mental health support, you are encouraged to connect with a licensed mental health professional to receive the support needed.
Mental Health Resources: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255SAMHSAâs National Helpline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 for free, 24/7 crisis counseling.
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Summary
Simon Rinne is a licensed social worker and shared his personal journey of dealing with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, overcoming alcohol misuse, and his experience finding the right therapists, leading to his commitment to men's mental health.
Key takeaways from the episode:
How the home environment and societal pressures impact men's mental health. We talk about how these pressures can be mitigated.
Simonâs concept to challenge societal norms and embrace a fuller, more emotionally expressive definition of masculinity.
Why is finding the right therapist so important and how can it significantly enhance the effectiveness of the therapy?
Simon's holistic approach to therapy involves blended lifestyle modifications, professional help, and supportive relationships.
How partners can play a supportive role in the journey of menâs mental health.
Simon is a husband and father, mental health advocate and social worker. As the Founder of Mindful Men, heâs dedicated to supporting men with mental illness and disability. Simon lived with OCD, Depression, Anxiety, and Burnout for 30 years, struggling in silence, using alcohol to feel "normal." At 28 Simon began the journey of healing and hopes to inspire others to believe that they can turn their pain into purpose, and move from surviving to thriving.
Noteworthy quotes from this episode:
[07:15] "I expected to walk into the doctor and the psych and they heal me after one session and that would be it. They give me a magic pill and that would be it. Didn't happen. Um, I didn't really discover that you need to do the work on yourself and really start changing the way you look at yourself until I burned out.â
[35:34] "I think we need to start normalizing mental health in the same way that we normalize our physical health. Our minds are important part of it because the mind is what gets everything going. So if our mind's cluttered or, fuzzy or depressed or anything like that there's there's ways that we can fix that."
Connect with Simon
www.mindful-men.com.au
https://www.facebook.com/groups/2050441875316594/ (free Facebook community for men)
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mindful.men.aus
IG: https://www.instagram.com/mindful.men.aus/
FB: https://www.facebook.com/mindful.men.aus
Connect with Paige Bond
Instagram: @paigebondcoaching
Facebook: @paigebondcoaching
TikTok: @paigebondcoaching
Website: https://paigebond.com
Paige Bond hosts the Stubborn Love podcast, is a Licensed Marriage Therapist, and a Polyamory Relationship Coach. Her mission is to help people-pleasing millennials navigate non-monogamy so they can tame their jealousy and love with ease. Her own journey from feeling lonely, insecure, and jealous to feeling empowered and reassured is what fuels her passion to help other people-pleasers to conquer jealousy and embrace love.
Free Jealousy Workbook:
â â http://www.paigebond.com/calm-the-chaos-jealousy-workbook-downloadâ â
Free People Pleasing Workbook:
â â https://www.paigebond.com/people-pleasing-workbookâ â
Disclaimer: This podcast and communication through our email are not meant to serve as professional advice or therapy. If you are in need of mental health support, you are encouraged to connect with a licensed mental health professional to receive the support needed.
Mental Health Resources: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255SAMHSAâs National Helpline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 for free, 24/7 crisis counseling.
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Summary
Betrayal in relationships, discovering cheating, or realizing the person is not who you thought they were. All of these are painful relational experiences that can take quite the journey to recover from, but it doesnât have to be painful or long with the help of Accelerated Resolution Therapy.
Key takeaways from the episode:
Learn what betrayal trauma is and how it shows up in relationships
Discover the emotional impact of betrayal trauma on your own sense of trust
Understand the role of âProtectorâ for future betrayal
Find out how Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART) can address the root wounds and relieve traumatic responses.
Katie K. May is a therapist, group practice owner, speaker, author, and consultant. As a Linehan Board-Certified Therapist and Master Accelerated Resolution Therapy Practitioner, her expertise shines in her work with depressed teens, the LGBTQ community, and parents dealing with the complex emotions surrounding their child's mental health challenges while reimagining their future.
Katie's deep passion lies in helping "black sheep," neurodivergent individuals, and those with traumatic backgrounds, find their sense of belonging. Together, she collaborates with her clients to create personalized coping strategies that empower them to navigate overwhelming emotions and build a life of connection and purpose.
Noteworthy quotes from this episode:
[07:44] "I can help my clients regulate and restructure their beliefs about who they can trust and how they can trust themselves and really activate that self trust again and decrease the self blame."
[31:00] "It is typical in betrayal trauma for your body to go into overdrive and to overcorrect. If you were trusting before, [you may] be completely untrusting as a way to protect yourself which is an extreme that is intended to protect you, but in fact, likely doesn't serve you at all."
Connect with Katie
Website: creativehealingphilly.com
Instagram: @creative_healing
Facebook: facebook.com/creativehealingphilly
TikTok: @teensupportcenter
Connect with Paige Bond
Instagram: @paigebondcoaching
Facebook: @paigebondcoaching
TikTok: @paigebondcoaching
Website: https://paigebond.com
Paige Bond hosts the Stubborn Love podcast, is a Licensed Marriage Therapist, and a Polyamory Relationship Coach. Her mission is to help people-pleasing millennials navigate non-monogamy so they can tame their jealousy and love with ease. Her own journey from feeling lonely, insecure, and jealous to feeling empowered and reassured is what fuels her passion to help other people-pleasers to conquer jealousy and embrace love.
Free Jealousy Workbook:
â â http://www.paigebond.com/calm-the-chaos-jealousy-workbook-downloadâ â
Free People Pleasing Workbook:
â â https://www.paigebond.com/people-pleasing-workbookâ â
Disclaimer: This podcast and communication through our email are not meant to serve as professional advice or therapy. If you are in need of mental health support, you are encouraged to connect with a licensed mental health professional to receive the support needed.
Mental Health Resources: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255SAMHSAâs National Helpline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 for free, 24/7 crisis counseling.
--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/stubbornlove/message
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This episodes features a solo episode with your host, Paige Bond, LMFT who provides premarital therapy for couples.
You'll learn about:
The benefits of premarital counseling If you HAVE to be struggling with something to seek premarital counseling Common signs that you may need premarital counseling What types of skills will you learn in premarital therapy When to start premarital therapy Common topics covered during premarital counselingPaige Bond is the host of the Stubborn Love podcast, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, and the Creator of the Jealousy to Joy Journey. Her mission is to help people-pleasing millennials navigate non-monogamy so they can tame their jealousy and love with ease.
Want to learn ten effective strategies to calm your jealousy in less time than it takes to finish your morning coffee â â°? Download Now at www.paigebond.com/calm-the-chaos-jealousy-workbook-download
Disclaimer: This podcast and communication through our email are not meant to serve as professional advice or therapy. If you are in need of mental health support, you are encouraged to connect with a licensed mental health professional to receive the support needed.
Mental Health Resources: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255 SAMHSAâs National Helpline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357) Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 for free, 24/7 crisis counseling.
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Accelerated Resolutions for Heartbreak uses brain-based procedures that involve imagined exposure, image replacement, somatic focus, eye movements, and hypnosisâmemory reconsolidation steps to change how the brain stores an emotional memory.
Key takeaways from the episode:
Romantic breakups activate systems of the brain involved in feeling emotional distress and increase information processing of thoughts, images, and memory.
Explore what post-romantic distress is and how Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART) can relieve it.
Dispel grief and heartbreak myths like âit takes a long time and you never get over the loss.â
Dr. Elizabeth Michas is a licensed clinical psychologist who has helped thousands of people recover from abusive relationships and heartbreak by transforming their emotional pain and trauma with brain-based perspectives and interventional methods to play the brain for change.
She is an expert in the neuropsychology of change, brain-based hypnotherapy, and eye-movement reprocessing processes for the rapid resolution of post-romantic distress, anxiety, trauma, love addiction, grief, and heartbreak.
Noteworthy quotes from this episode:
[04:00] "But with a therapist, they're like stabilizing the problem, validating them and people were getting more stuck and sometimes dropping out of therapy and saying therapy isn't working for me. You know, âI'm just more obsessed with my ex. I'm not getting over it. I don't want to date.â And so these newer technologies, like using eye movement reprocessing and also hypnosis were doing something different when it came to the brain processing and responding and memory."
[27:00] "So you're not choosing to be a negative thinker or have a negativity bias. It's a feature of how your brain operates, you're just getting played by it."
Connect with Elizabeth
https://drelizabethmichas.com/
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Connect with Paige Bond
Instagram: @paigebondcoaching
Facebook: @paigebondcoaching
TikTok: @paigebondcoaching
Website: https://paigebond.com
Paige Bond hosts the Stubborn Love podcast, is a Licensed Marriage Therapist, and a Polyamory Relationship Coach. Her mission is to help people-pleasing millennials navigate non-monogamy so they can tame their jealousy and love with ease. Her own journey from feeling lonely, insecure, and jealous to feeling empowered and reassured is what fuels her passion to help other people-pleasers to conquer jealousy and embrace love.
Free Jealousy Workbook:
â â http://www.paigebond.com/calm-the-chaos-jealousy-workbook-downloadâ â
Free People Pleasing Workbook:
â â https://www.paigebond.com/people-pleasing-workbookâ â
Disclaimer: This podcast and communication through our email are not meant to serve as professional advice or therapy. If you are in need of mental health support, you are encouraged to connect with a licensed mental health professional to receive the support needed.
Mental Health Resources: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255SAMHSAâs National Helpline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 for free, 24/7 crisis counseling.
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Summary
Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART) can be used in healing relational trauma and promoting personal growth. Discover how ART uses bilateral stimulation to move stuck images, sensations, and emotions in the brain, allowing individuals to find relief, gain a new perspective, and create healthier, more fulfilling relationships.
Key takeaways from the episode:
Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART) is an offshoot of EMDR using bilateral stimulation to help move along unwanted images, sensations, and emotions, providing a new perspective on traumatic events.How ART sessions can help infidelity for couples process trauma, leading to compassion and understanding.
ART helps individuals maintain the memory of events without the intense emotional reactions.
ART is not limited to trauma; it can address day-to-day issues like anxiety, depression, and codependency.
Allison is licensed as an LICSW in MN, Texas and Wisconsin. She practices out of Minnesota and is passionate about helping people live their best lives. Allison specializes in working with high achieving adults who have a history of childhood trauma, both big and little t traumas. She uses an eclectic blend of mind, body, spirit interventions as well as Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART), a smooth pursuit eye movement therapy. ART clears bothersome sensations and emotions in the body and brain.
Allison is passionate about helping people heal the root cause of their challenges, whether that results from childhood trauma or a traumatic experience that occurred later in life. More often than not, these traumatic experiences result in challenges which strain or fracture relationships with others, and or the self, throughout the lifespan.
Noteworthy quotes from this episode:
[30:20] "ART is like you're not really doing anything different. It's just you're letting someone guide you through helping you allow your brain to move that stuff into the right spot. So you're not just sitting there on your hamster wheel."
[18:23] "It's like when we have trauma... It's like the furnace is always running in the background. It never shuts off. And then when it finally shuts off, it's like this different level of peace. It's quiet and gentle and clean in some way, like light. [Thatâs what ART can do.]"
Connect with Allison
Website - â https://www.allisonkirk.net/aboutâ
Connect with Paige Bond
Instagram: â @paigebondcoachingâ
Facebook: â @paigebondcoachingâ
Website: â www.paigebond.comâ
Paige Bond hosts the Stubborn Love podcast, is a Licensed Marriage Therapist, and a Polyamory Relationship Coach. Her mission is to help people-pleasing millennials navigate non-monogamy so they can tame their jealousy and love with ease. Her own journey from feeling lonely, insecure, and jealous to feeling empowered and reassured is what fuels her passion to help other people-pleasers to conquer jealousy and embrace love.
Free Jealousy Workbook:
â â â http://www.paigebond.com/calm-the-chaos-jealousy-workbook-downloadâ â â
Free People Pleasing Workbook:
â â â https://www.paigebond.com/people-pleasing-workbookâ â â
Disclaimer: This podcast and communication through our email are not meant to serve as professional advice or therapy. If you are in need of mental health support, you are encouraged to connect with a licensed mental health professional to receive the support needed.
Mental Health Resources: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255SAMHSAâs National Helpline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 for free, 24/7 crisis counseling.
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Summary
Annie Robershaw shares her personal narrative and unveils the Dare to Dream process. Tune in to explore how to craft a self-fulfilling life, shatter societal expectations, and the importance of having a clear vision that can lead to unexpected magic.
Key takeaways from the episode:
Why society often views child-free women as substandard The struggles and stereotypes faced by child-free women Why creating spaces for child-free women is so important The power of saying 'no' and setting boundaries so you can let your dreams flourishAnnie Robershaw is the founder of Delightfully Free, where she provides support for childfree women, whether by choice or by circumstance, as they Dare to Dream and create lives that honor their authentic needs and desires. She offers community and group offerings to help pave a path out of hustle culture and return to Nature's cyclical, seasonal growth model.
She is also a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in private practice, a Certified EMDR Therapist, and an EMDRIA Approved Consultant providing support and mentorship to emerging EMDR therapists in private practice.
Noteworthy quotes from this episode:
[7:43] "[People] who are child free by choice are really asked to justify their decision over and over and over again. And that there's something about child free women that makes certain people uncomfortable. That somehow our existence isn't enough, just as it is. Like somehow we're not worthy of being, without justifying our existence by who we care for."
[32:57]"I think as a fellow people pleaser, it's revolutionary to get cozy and familiar with the word no. And when you realize, oh, actually some really great things happen when you say no is, is even more shocking when you go down that path and that the no's actually lead to more magical enhanced yeses."
Connect with Annie
Delightfully Free: https://annierobershaw.com
Dare to Dream FREE Guide and Meditation: https://www.annierobershaw.com/dare-to-dream-meditation
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/delightfully_free
Connect with Paige Bond
Instagram: @paigebondcoaching
Facebook: @paigebondcoaching
Website: https://www.paigebond.com
Paige Bond hosts the Stubborn Love podcast, is a Licensed Marriage Therapist, and a Polyamory Relationship Coach. Her mission is to help people-pleasing millennials navigate non-monogamy so they can tame their jealousy and love with ease. Her own journey from feeling lonely, insecure, and jealous to feeling empowered and reassured is what fuels her passion to help other people-pleasers to conquer jealousy and embrace love.
Free Jealousy Workbook:
â â http://www.paigebond.com/calm-the-chaos-jealousy-workbook-downloadâ â
Free People Pleasing Workbook:
â â https://www.paigebond.com/people-pleasing-workbookâ â
Disclaimer: This podcast and communication through our email are not meant to serve as professional advice or therapy. If you are in need of mental health support, you are encouraged to connect with a licensed mental health professional to receive the support needed.
Mental Health Resources: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255SAMHSAâs National Helpline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 for free, 24/7 crisis counseling.
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Dive deep into love, communication, and advice where Nate shares insights delving deep into the core of trust in relationships. He outlines how the bonds within a band mirror the trust required in partnerships. Whether it's trusting your bandmates on stage or your partner in life, the foundation is the same: understanding, respect, and relying on each other.
Key takeaways from the episode:
Why compatibility is crucial for dating success
The significance of shared interests and mutual respect in fostering strong relationships.
Understanding how trust operates at the core of any relationship, exploring ways to build and maintain it
How band dynamics are a masterclass in successful dating strategies
Nathaniel has been giving online relationship advice since 1992 when he discovered a text-only bulletin board with a "relationships" forum. After moving around to various social media sites he has found a new home on Reddit where thousands of people have been given his free advice. Nathaniel is not a licensed therapist. If you need the help of a professional you should seek one out ASAP.
Noteworthy quotes from this episode:
[17:14] “What advice would you give to someone who's really resistant to [compromise]? I would ask them why they got married. What did they want out of marriage? Did they just want somebody that lives with them? They could have sex with or maybe make babies with? Is that all marriage is to them if that's what they want then there's somebody out there for them, but it's not their [partner].
[32:00] “...that also establishes trust when you can let your partner be heard. You're giving them safety, you're giving them, ‘hey, it's a nonjudgmental place for your deepest darkest secrets or desires or shames to be heard by me. Your trusted loved one.’”
Connect with Nathaniel
Call into the show at Tel: 412-254-4829. Phone is only answered during live stream. Voice mails are not reviewed before deletion.
Twitch: https://www.twitch.tv/therelationshipsmith
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@therelationshipsmith
Reddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRelationshipSmith/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/Relationsmith
Discord: Available every streaming show!
Website - https://www.therelationshipsmith.com/
Connect with Paige Bond
Instagram: @paigebondcoaching
Facebook: @paigebondcoaching
Website: www.paigebond.com
Paige Bond hosts the Stubborn Love podcast, is a Licensed Marriage Therapist, and a Polyamory Relationship Coach. Her mission is to help people-pleasing millennials navigate non-monogamy so they can tame their jealousy and love with ease. Her own journey from feeling lonely, insecure, and jealous to feeling empowered and reassured is what fuels her passion to help other people-pleasers to conquer jealousy and embrace love.
Free Jealousy Workbook:
â â http://www.paigebond.com/calm-the-chaos-jealousy-workbook-downloadâ â
Free People Pleasing Workbook:
â â https://www.paigebond.com/people-pleasing-workbookâ â
Disclaimer: This podcast and communication through our email are not meant to serve as professional advice or therapy. If you are in need of mental health support, you are encouraged to connect with a licensed mental health professional to receive the support needed.
Mental Health Resources:National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255SAMHSA’s National Helpline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 for free, 24/7 crisis counseling.
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Struggling to snooze in your open relationship? Dive into how sleep and non-monogamy collide in this chat with therapist and sleep expert, Savannah Hipes. Get ready for sleep tips that'll make you want to dream on!
Key takeaways from the episode:
Discover how your sleep patterns might be affecting your romantic life and what you can do about it
Learn how to tackle nightmares that make your sleep less than optimal
Identify the best relaxation techniques that can transform your sleep quality
Learn how to prioritize rest without compromising your intimate life
Savannah Hipes is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Behavioral Sleep Medicine provider. She uses evidence-based treatments to equip clients with specific tools for changing their sleep patterns. She helps clients try unique strategies that teach their brain and body how to sleep again. Whether itâs Insomnia or persistent Nightmares, sheâs there to help retrain your mind and body so you can get the rest you deserve.
Noteworthy quotes from this episode:
[36:15] "Is it [anxiety] worse when you're tired? If it is, then maybe sleep should be something that we prioritize as a method of helping you work through your anxieties and your difficult thoughts.."
[38:22] âTestosterone is usually released when you first go to sleep, that's when it kind of primarily is being released and it hits a peak when you hit your first REM cycle of sleep⊠So if you're delaying that sleep by multiple hours, you're really delaying that testosterone release and over time, it actually just goes down.â
Connect with Savannah
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/savannahhipeslcsw
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/savannahhipeslcsw/
Website - https://www.savannahhipeslcsw.com/
Connect with Paige Bond
Instagram: @paigebondcoaching
Facebook: @paigebondcoaching
Website: www.paigebond.com
Paige Bond hosts the Stubborn Love podcast, is a Licensed Marriage Therapist, and a Polyamory Relationship Coach. Her mission is to help people-pleasing millennials navigate non-monogamy so they can tame their jealousy and love with ease. Her own journey from feeling lonely, insecure, and jealous to feeling empowered and reassured is what fuels her passion to help other people-pleasers to conquer jealousy and embrace love.
Free Jealousy Workbook:
â â http://www.paigebond.com/calm-the-chaos-jealousy-workbook-downloadâ â
Free People Pleasing Workbook:
â â https://www.paigebond.com/people-pleasing-workbookâ â
Disclaimer: This podcast and communication through our email are not meant to serve as professional advice or therapy. If you are in need of mental health support, you are encouraged to connect with a licensed mental health professional to receive the support needed.
Mental Health Resources:National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255SAMHSAâs National Helpline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 for free, 24/7 crisis counseling.
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Summary
Not sure how to express what you want in your open relationship as you navigate polyamory, swinging, or some other CNM dynamic? We get down to business talking about how you can ditch people-pleasing so you can feel empowered in expressing yourself without sacrificing your desires or preferences.
In this episode, youâll learn about:
Why setting boundaries is tough for people who like to please others.
Tips for calming down nerves before difficult conversations.
Learning to say 'no' nicely and meaning it.
Understanding how to handle tough relationship talks in non-monogamous structures.
Vicki Smith is a licensed psychotherapist and a coach who specializes in people pleasing and perfectionism. She enjoys working with these issues because she loves seeing people discover their true nature and then share it with the world. Her mission is to help folks not just TALK ABOUT the life theyâve always wanted, but to actually start LIVING IT OUT!
Noteworthy quotes from this episode:
[25:54] "Boundaries are scary because first we don't know what we want... and then we feel like there's gonna be conflict."
[24:41] âI believe that most of us pleasers white knuckle our way through boundaries and we hope that we really don't have to have a conversation with someone. We hope we can just kind of plop it out there and that person understands and takes it and says, âoh, yes, of course.â The thing that keeps us from speaking up is we are afraid of staying in the conversation.â
Connect with Vicki
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100075839538976
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/power.to.the.pleasers/
Website - https://powertothepleasers.com
Podcast - https://powertothepleasers.com/podcast/
Connect with Paige Bond
Instagram: @paigebondcoaching
Facebook: @paigebondcoaching
Website: www.paigebond.com
Paige Bond hosts the Stubborn Love podcast, is a Licensed Marriage Therapist, and is a Polyamory Relationship Coach. Her mission is to help people-pleasing millennials navigate non-monogamy so they can tame their jealousy and love with ease. Her own journey from feeling lonely, insecure, and jealous to feeling empowered and reassured is what fuels her passion to help other people-pleasers to conquer jealousy and embrace love.
Free Jealousy Workbook:
â â http://www.paigebond.com/calm-the-chaos-jealousy-workbook-downloadâ â
Free People Pleasing Workbook:
â â https://www.paigebond.com/people-pleasing-workbookâ â
Disclaimer: This podcast and communication through our email are not meant to serve as professional advice or therapy. If you are in need of mental health support, you are encouraged to connect with a licensed mental health professional to receive the support needed.
Mental Health Resources:National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255SAMHSAâs National Helpline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 for free, 24/7 crisis counseling.
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Summary
Who are you and what do YOU really want? Carrieâs mission is to spread the message about how relationship diversity can transform your relationships.
In this episode, youâll learn about:
Discover why your past can hit your relationship's 'trigger pointsâ
The mindset shifts needed to building your dream relationship
How remembering who you truly are instead of trying to âfixâ something in yourself could be a better path forward
Talk therapy, somatic secrets, and unlocking energy healing - your recipe for transformation
The importance of self-care, personal growth, and questioning societal norms in building fulfilling relationships
International Best-Selling Author, Relationship Diversity Advocate and Podcast Creator, Carrie Jeroslow, teaches people the tools to relate consciously to themselves and others.
She is the host of Relationship Diversity Podcast, where she aims to explore, question, and celebrate all aspects of relationship structure diversity from soloamory to monogamy to polyamory, and everything in between. This is an inclusive space, giving people the permission to design their unique relationships from the knowledge and acceptance of their unique selves. She believes that when we learn and accept who we truly are, we are able to be more authentic in our relationships with others, bringing an unparalleled sense of joyfulness and fulfillment to our lives as a whole.
Noteworthy quotes from this episode:
"I think people judge their own journey and they think that if I'm not able to do it right now, when there is no right or wrong, if I'm not able to do it in that way, then something's wrong with me."
"Healing has the connotation that something's wrong and something needs to be fixed. Whereas remembering is a process of knowing that innately I am perfect and beautiful and I was born that way and there was all these things that happened in my journey that covered that up. So it's a process of allowing the clouds to clear, to see the sun."
"We are brainwashed to think that...my life happens to me and I don't have any part of this."
Connect with Carrie
Podcast: www.relationshipdiversitypodcast.com (Sign up to receive a free guide to exploring Relationship Diversity)
Website: www.carriejeroslow.com
IG: https://www.instagram.com/carrie_jeroslow_author_coach/
Connect with Paige Bond
Instagram: @paigebondcoaching
Facebook: @paigebondcoaching
Website: www.paigebond.com
Paige Bond hosts the Stubborn Love podcast, is a Licensed Marriage Therapist, and is a Polyamory Relationship Coach. Her mission is to help people-pleasing millennials navigate non-monogamy so they can tame their jealousy and love with ease. Her own journey from feeling lonely, insecure, and jealous to feeling empowered and reassured is what fuels her passion to help other people-pleasers to conquer jealousy and embrace love.
Free Jealousy Workbook:
â â http://www.paigebond.com/calm-the-chaos-jealousy-workbook-downloadâ â
Free People Pleasing Workbook:
â â https://www.paigebond.com/people-pleasing-workbookâ â
Disclaimer: This podcast and communication through our email are not meant to serve as professional advice or therapy. If you are in need of mental health support, you are encouraged to connect with a licensed mental health professional to receive the support needed.
Mental Health Resources:National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255SAMHSAâs National Helpline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 for free, 24/7 crisis counseling.
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Summary
Exploring Love Beyond Boundaries: Honesty, Freedom, and the Future of Relationships. Daniella is rewriting love's playbook in a modern world as the founder of the first non-monogamous matchmaking agency.
In this episode, youâll learn about:
Why itâs so hard seeking partners in the non-monogamy community
How matchmaking emphasizes efficiency, with upfront questions to avoid wasting time on incompatible matches that your dating apps donât screen out
The concept of consensual non-monogamy and the importance of self-honesty and open communication in navigating non-monogamous relationships.
What advice Daniella gives her clients, especially women, about not settling and prioritizing their desires and goals
How different types of non-monogamous relationships affect the matchmaking process
Non-monogamy matchmaking success stories with Velvet Ties
Daniella Guimaraes, based in NYC and Miami, is a pioneering non-monogamous matchmaker dedicated to fostering honest connections. With a fervent belief in the healing power of open communication and unwavering authenticity, she champions personal freedom in every relationship she crafts. Join her as she delves deep into the nuances of modern love and the transformative power of genuine connections.
Noteworthy quotes from this episode:
"If dating apps wanted to help you find a life partner would put these things as filters. Right. Do you want a baby? How soon do you want a baby? Like they, they would add these filters."
"If you think about it, more people are identifying as part of the non monogamous community compared to some under the queer umbrella, but we're not really giving them a space to talk about it. We tend to shame things that don't feel comfortable to us, and so there's a lot of judgment and not a lot of understanding when it comes to non monogamy."
Connect with Daniella from Velvet Ties
Website: www.velvetTies.com
IG: @velvetties_
Connect with Paige Bond
Instagram: @paigebondcoaching
Facebook: @paigebondcoaching
Website: www.paigebond.com
Paige Bond hosts the Stubborn Love podcast, is a Licensed Marriage Therapist, and is a Polyamory Relationship Coach. Her mission is to help people-pleasing millennials navigate non-monogamy so they can tame their jealousy and love with ease. Her own journey from feeling lonely, insecure, and jealous to feeling empowered and reassured is what fuels her passion to help other people-pleasers to conquer jealousy and embrace love.
Free Jealousy Workbook:
â â http://www.paigebond.com/calm-the-chaos-jealousy-workbook-downloadâ â
Free People Pleasing Workbook:
â â https://www.paigebond.com/people-pleasing-workbookâ â
Disclaimer: This podcast and communication through our email are not meant to serve as professional advice or therapy. If you are in need of mental health support, you are encouraged to connect with a licensed mental health professional to receive the support needed.
Mental Health Resources: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255SAMHSAâs National Helpline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 for free, 24/7 crisis counseling.
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Summary
Alain and Marz are on a mission to create the most exquisite and transformative experience on the planet with you at the Top Floor Club. With guiding principles such as immersion, authenticity, generosity, character, and equality, theyâve been deemed the most exclusive play party in New York.
In this episode, youâll learn about:
The difference between a swingers party and play party
How Top Floor Club became the most exclusive play party in New York
All the things you need to know before your first play party
How Top Floor takes the time to educate newcomers of the event about how to properly handle equipment for those interested in experimenting with BDSM or Kink
How to properly give [and withdraw] enthusiastic consent at a play party
Safer sex practices and rules to follow when engaging with one or more partners at a party
How self doubt may be a signal of the fawning response during a situation where it may be hard for someone to withdraw consent out of fear of rejecting someone
How the difference between politeness and kindness can help you understand if your needs are being met
How play parties can encourage diversity on multiple levels to provide an equitable experience for all humans attending
Alain and Marz are part of the team that runs Top Floor club in New York. Itâs not just a party for sexual self-expression, itâs a place for connection and transformation. They are an exclusive invite-only private play party to givers of the highest character who will make a strong contribution to the party and community.
Noteworthy quotes from this episode:
"A play party, especially [at] Top Floor, we level that up because it's about connection. It's about freedom, it's about trying out whatever you want. It's about individual journeys through the night.â
âOne of the factors I consider a successful [night at Top Floor], one of the measures is when people come to me afterwards and say âI had a life changing experienceâ and that happens pretty much every party.â
âOne of the things that differentiates our party, I think from almost all play parties, is we do not ever have performances. We never separate anyone from audience to performer because that isn't great for the vibe. Everyone's a performer, everyone's participating.â
Connect with Alain and Marz from Top Floor Club
IG: @thetopfloorclub
Web: https://www.topfloorclub.com/
Connect with Paige Bond
Instagram: @paigebondcoaching
Facebook: @paigebondcoaching
Website: www.paigebond.com
Paige Bond hosts the Stubborn Love podcast, is a Licensed Marriage Therapist, and is a Polyamory Relationship Coach. Her mission is to help people-pleasing millennials navigate non-monogamy so they can tame their jealousy and love with ease. Her own journey from feeling lonely, insecure, and jealous to feeling empowered and reassured is what fuels her passion to help other people-pleasers to conquer jealousy and embrace love.
Free Jealousy Workbook:
â â http://www.paigebond.com/calm-the-chaos-jealousy-workbook-downloadâ â
Free People Pleasing Workbook:
â â https://www.paigebond.com/people-pleasing-workbookâ â
Disclaimer: This podcast and communication through our email are not meant to serve as professional advice or therapy. If you are in need of mental health support, you are encouraged to connect with a licensed mental health professional to receive the support needed.
Mental Health Resources:National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255SAMHSAâs National Helpline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 for free, 24/7 crisis counseling.
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Summary
Jess is passionate about helping others in taking steps to design and embrace their relationship(S) dreams! She shares her knowledge and personal stories through the lens of a trained clinician, in hopes that others can reach relationship success.
In this episode, youâll learn about:
How grief can show up as part of your CNM journey
How couples can navigate differences in their desires for non-monogamy when one partner is more interested than the other
How starting the opening up conversation with your "why" rather than "what" will lead you to better understanding
What steps can a newbie take after having the initial conversation with their partner about non-monogamy
How couples can address disagreements or differing opinions when it comes to setting boundaries
Jess is a licensed therapist, clinical social worker, and ethical non-monogamy relationship coach. After opening her previously monogamous relationship of six years, Jess quickly learned just how little information there was out there from professionals on how to navigate non-monogamy.
Noteworthy quotes from this episode:
"Humans evolve and change, and we don't want them to be stagnant because that would be hella boring."
âDon't start engaging with people talking with people putting it out there that you're until you've at least had that initial relationship agreement and boundary conversation because it's just, it's just not gonna go well.â
Connect with Jess
IG: @nonmonogamous_newbies
FB: www.facebook.com/groups/nonmonogamousnewbies
Web: https://bothandcoaching.com/
Connect with Paige Bond
Instagram: @paigebondcoaching
Facebook: @paigebondcoaching
Website: www.paigebond.com
Paige Bond hosts the Stubborn Love podcast, is a Licensed Marriage Therapist, and is a Polyamory Relationship Coach. Her mission is to help people-pleasing millennials navigate non-monogamy so they can tame their jealousy and love with ease. Her own journey from feeling lonely, insecure, and jealous to feeling empowered and reassured is what fuels her passion to help other people-pleasers to conquer jealousy and embrace love.
Free Jealousy Workbook:
â â http://www.paigebond.com/calm-the-chaos-jealousy-workbook-downloadâ â
Free People Pleasing Workbook:
â â https://www.paigebond.com/people-pleasing-workbookâ â
Disclaimer: This podcast and communication through our email are not meant to serve as professional advice or therapy. If you are in need of mental health support, you are encouraged to connect with a licensed mental health professional to receive the support needed.
Mental Health Resources:National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255SAMHSAâs National Helpline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 for free, 24/7 crisis counseling.
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