A LIVE Episode on 'Emotional Labour' - The New Gas-Lighting? - & How We Discuss Our Bodies on Social MediaThe High Low add
We're back at Google's Curiosity Rooms to celebrate the launch of their Google Pixel 3 phone and we're still not over Baby Shark. On the agenda today: the zeitgeisty new buzz-phrase 'emotional labour'. What does it mean and are we using it correctly? We also discuss Sarah Michelle Gellar's thanksgiving gaffe, after she shared a pic of her in her underwear, as a 'warning' not to over-eat at Thanksgiving. Do women in the public eye hold responsibility for how we feel about their bodies? Plus, how incels are using sex robots; a powerful piece of 'ethical-dilemma' fiction about abortion; and our guardian angel Tina Brown's new podcast.
Russell Brand on Happy Place, by Fearne Cotton https://www.acast.com/happy-place/russell-brand
A Spark of Light, by Jodi Picoult https://www.hive.co.uk/Product/Jodi-Picoult/A-Spark-of-Light--from-the-author-everyone-should-be-reading/22391565
The Reddit sex robot forums radicalising men, by Jade Angeles Fitton for New Statesman https://www.newstatesman.com/2018/11/no-bio-wife-will-ever-be-loyal-reddit-sex-robot-forums-radicalising-men
Joni Mitchell Taught Me How To Feel:
TBD with Tina Brown
On Margate Sands by Octavia Bright:
Just Eat It by Laura Thomas:
M&S Undiesgate; Lena Dunham's Bare-All Interview; & The Missionary Killed By A TribeThe High Low add
The Baby Shark ear-worm; Joanna Lumley saying the word 'waz'; and the Chinese man who got so drunk on Black Friday (aka Single's Day in China) he bought a salamander and a tiny Thai pig. Oh, it's a good week at The High Low.
Today we discuss M&S's Christmas display - a woman in red lace underwear next to a man in a suit - which one Twitter user gone viral called "vomit-inducing." Is it? We also discuss John Allen Chau, the American missionary killed by the isolated Sentinelese tribe and Lena Dunham's extraordinarily revealing interview for New York Magazine.
Budget Christmas ad goes viral https://www.thedrum.com/news/2018/11/26/budget-love-gift-christmas-ad-goes-viral
Little Mix: these issues of body shaming needed exposure, by Gaby Hinsliff for The Observer https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2018/nov/23/little-mix-body-shaming-piers-morgan-naked-strip
Meet the traumatised Asian men who are trapped in forced marriages, by Yasmin Alibhai-Brown for The Sunday Times magazine https://www.thetimes.co.uk/article/meet-the-traumatised-asian-men-who-are-trapped-in-forced-marriages-9n2cl5tsr
It melts plastic and can kill - so why is club drug GHB on the rise? By Alexandra Jones for The Guardian https://www.theguardian.com/society/2018/nov/24/club-drug-ghb-melts-plastic-kill
Ayiti, by Roxane Gay https://www.hive.co.uk/Product/Roxane-Gay/Ayiti/21948009
Lena Dunham Comes To Terms With Herself, by Allison P. Davis https://www.thecut.com/2018/11/lena-dunham-comes-to-terms-with-herself.html#comments
Amy Schumer on The Armchair Expert: https://armchairexpertpod.com/pods/amy-schumer
Bougie London Literary Woman on Twitter: https://twitter.com/BougieLitWoman
Bougie London Literary Woman interviewed for Vice: https://www.vice.com/en_uk/article/59v9yq/a-bewitching-interview-with-bougie-london-literary-woman
The Curious Case of Mrs Hinch; & Comedy's Diversity IssueThe High Low add
It was the week of the BBC's 100 Women of the Year list, Hockney's record-breaking art sale and the story of Deke Duncan, a radio jockey playing to an audience of one (Dolly's spirit animal.)
On today's agenda, the 'cleanfluencer' phenomenon, Mrs Hinch - who has over 1.3 million IG followers and shares videos of herself cleaning. Why DO people go so potty for her? Does she offer an ordered escape from a terrifyingly messy world?
And we discuss Lolly Adefope's wry joke about a whitewashed comedy line-up - which escalated into a perceived 'race row' and saw Lolly cast in the role of 'Angry Black Woman.' Why is calm and valid criticism so hard for us to accept? And what does it say about diversity - or rather, the continued lack of it?
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Mother Ship, by Francesca Segal https://www.penguin.co.uk/books/111/1116702/mother-ship/9781784742690.html
Why Are Young People Having So Little Sex? By Katie Julian for The Atlantic https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2018/12/the-sex-recession/573949/
Popular, by Mitch Prinstein https://www.amazon.co.uk/Popular-Finding-Happiness-Success-Relationships/dp/039956375X
BBC's 100 Women list of 2018 https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-46225037
Tara Westover on How To Fail, with Elizabeth Day https://www.acast.com/how-to-fail1/how-to-fail-tara-westover
When Michelle Met Oprah - Dec issue of ELLE UK https://www.elle.com/uk/life-and-culture/a25007149/michelle-obama-is-still-optimistic/
Could The Palm Oil Boycott Increase Deforestation?: https://theconversation.com/palm-oil-boycott-could-actually-increase-deforestation-sustainable-products-are-the-solution-106733
Why Young Men Need More Pornography, by Eva Wiseman: https://www.gq-magazine.co.uk/article/young-men-pornography
India Knight on Sex Education for Girls: https://www.thetimes.co.uk/article/india-knight-mp-jess-phillips-sex-ed-must-change-help-girls-take-ownership-bodies-97c96k5n7
Homecoming on Amazon Prime: https://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/video/detail/B07FP41Z59
Lena Dunham on Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard: https://armchairexpertpod.com/pods/lena-dunham
Elizabeth Gilbert on The Ted Interview: https://itunes.apple.com/gb/podcast/elizabeth-gilbert-shows-up-for-everything/id1437306870?i=1000421929243&mt=2
Collins Word of The Year; Iceland's Banned Xmas Ad; & Why Do 46% of Men Remove Their Body Hair?The High Low add
It's World Kindness Day & Dolly has a beautiful poem to kick us off, whilst Pandora has a new Spotify suggestion for everyone who went nutty for French Chill.
46% of men remove their body hair, up from 36% in 2017. Is it the fusion of porn culture and pop culture?
Plus we discuss Collins dictionary's word of the year - 'single-use.' What were the other contenders? Are you a plogger?
Lastly, Iceland's Christmas ad, banned for being political, after the supermarket re-branded a Greenpeace advert warning against the dangers of palm oil.
Good Morning Jazz on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/user/spotify/playlist/37i9dQZF1DX71VcjjnyaBQ?si=fPT3z_VuSti-bZBSfccYPQ
Like Women, Men Are Now Suffering in Their Pursuit of the 'Perfect Body', by Barbara Ellen for The Observer https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2018/nov/11/men-suffer-as-much-as-women-in-their-pursuit-of-the-perfect-body
Victoria's Secret is Trying to Change With The Times. Or is it? By Vanessa Friedman for The New York Times https://www.nytimes.com/2018/11/09/fashion/victorias-secret-liberation-in-corsets-and-spike-heels.html
Nick Cave on grief, for The Red Hand Files https://www.theredhandfiles.com/communication-dream-feeling/
Yes I Have White Parents. But I Have African Ancestry Too, by Anthony Ekundayo Lennon for The Guardian https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2018/nov/10/white-parents-african-ancestry-anthony-ekundayo-lennon
Anthony Ekundayo Lennon and The Left's Dilemma About Race, by Toby Young for The Spectator https://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/p06lh7gk/informer-series-1-1-no-sleep-till-brooklyn
The Sinner Season 2 https://www.netflix.com/title/80175802
To The Woman Crying Uncontrollably In TheNext Stall, by Kim Addonizio http://diodepoetry.com/v9n1/content/addonizio_k.html
Barneys, Books, and Bust-ups: 50 Years of The Booker Prize https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b0bntjf6
Sally4ever on Now TV https://www.nowtv.com/gb/watch/sally4ever/iYEQZ2rcf32XP8H8XCTxU5
The Adam Buxton Podcast https://www.acast.com/adambuxton
Petition to release Iceland's banned Christmas advert on TV
A Deep-Dive Into The Epidemic of Anxiety, with Author Olivia SudjicThe High Low add
From Prince George memes (@garyjanetti) to vegan abuse (last week journalist William Sitwell was sacked from the Waitrose Food magazine, for his jokes about killing vegans) via the healthiest/ unhealthiest high streets in the UK, as voted by The Royal Society of Public Health. Edinburgh won, Grimsby lost, and you’ll have to listen to the podcast to find out why.
Today we have author Olivia Sudjic on the show to discuss her new essay, Exposure, about the anxiety that threatened to engulf her after her debut novel, Sympathy, became a literary success. Part literary criticism, drawing on some of her favourite works by female authors, Sudjic’s intelligent, sharp, thoughtful and deeply confronting essay discusses not just anxiety but all of its merry cohorts: insomnia, self-surveillance, self-loathing, sabotage, imposter syndrome and the gender imbalance when it comes to critiquing women’s fiction (as Roxane Gay points out, Knausgård is never called a ‘diarist‘.) Sudjic discusses what it means to be a published author, divorcing yourself from your art and why anxiety, when correctly managed, can be a positive force: a galvanizing ‘self-awareness’ which keeps you writing.
According to The World Health Organisation (2017) over 260 million people worldwide suffer from an anxiety disorder; it affects almost twice as many women as men. Oft considered a modern epidemic, the subject is something we’ve long deliberated about covering on The High Low, but have never had the nerve. We hope the conversation proves as valuable to others, as much as it did us.
Please do note that nothing discussed in today’s episode constitutes advice from a healthcare professional. If you think you might be suffering from anxiety, or an anxiety disorder, please do contact your local GP, or visit mind.org.uk and anxietyuk.org.uk to get the help and support you need.
The Little Drummer Girl https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b0bqs366
There She Goes (all BBC iPlayer) https://www.bbc.co.uk/search?q=there+she+goes&sa_f=search-product&scope=
The Good Place on Netflix https://www.netflix.com/title/80113701
A Love Story for Bewildered Girls, by Emma Morgan (February 2019, pre-order now) https://www.penguin.co.uk/books/309/309817/a-love-story-for-bewildered-girls/9780241357767.html
Zoe Williams on William Sitwell's resignation: https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2018/oct/31/waitrose-editor-quits-vegan
You're Booked with Daisy Buchanan: https://www.acast.com/booked
Sheridan Smith interviewed for The Guardian: https://www.theguardian.com/culture/2018/nov/03/sheridan-smith-fell-apart-lost-my-mind-tom-lamont
Morwenna Ferrier on the fashion in Killing Eve:
We Talk Mini Skirts; Philip Green; & The Role of Injunctions in Modern SocietyThe High Low add
Since we’ve been gone, Apple has added cream cheese to its emoji bagel after furious complaints (we discuss what we have on OUR bagels and spoiler alert: it’s not cream cheese, Apple); Urban Outfitters has produced an “influencer’ Halloween costume of crop top and leggings; and, of course, a new scandal which features a megalomaniac at its centre, has broken: Arcadia chairman, Philip Green, has been accused of sexual and racial harassment after peer Lord Hain exercised his parliamentary immunity (where injunctions do not apply) to name him as the anonymous retail boss who allegedly paid off employees. We discuss the difference between the injunction and the NDA and what constitutes ‘in the public interest.’
Tuesdays with Morrie, by Mitch Albom
Seven Days of Us, by Francesca Hornak
Rituals For Everyday, by Nadia Narain and Katia Narain Phillips (pre-order) https://www.hive.co.uk/Search/Keyword?keyword=Rituals%20for%20Every%20Day&productType=0
Late In The Day, by Tessa Hadley (pre-order)
A Keeper, by Graham Norton
The class of 1946-2018: Twenty-seven school-shooting survivors bear their scars, and bear witness, as told to Jared Soule and Amelia Schonbek, with a portfolio shot by Michael Avedon for New York magazine
What is camp now? By Charlie Porter, for The Financial Times
Why it’s okay to cut off family members, by Sali Hughes, for The Pool
Busy Phillips on WTF: http://www.wtfpod.com/podcast/episode-959-busy-philipps
Richard E Grant on WTF: http://www.wtfpod.com/podcast/episode-960-richard-e-grant-brian-posehn
Roisin Meets Richard E Grant: https://soundcloud.com/irishtimes-lifestyle/richard-e-grant
With Nails by Richard E Grant:
An Author Special with Lindsey Hilsum, On Marie Colvin and War JournalismThe High Low add
By the time she died in Syria, in 2012, Marie Colvin was one of the world’s most renowned and courageous war correspondents. Recognised for her trademark eye patch - the consequence of a grenade in Sri Lanka, in 2001 - and revered as a journalist, with a 25 year tenure at The Sunday Times, Marie Colvin had a personal life as tumultuous as the war zones she covered. With the help of 300 of Marie’s journals, her friend and colleague, Channel 4’s International Editor, Lindsey Hilsum, has written a funny, frank and moving biography, In Extremis: The Life of War Correspondent Marie Colvin, where she separates the myth from the woman: as brave as she is glamorous; as fierce as she is vulnerable. Ahead of the release of A Private War - a film of Marie’s life, with Rosamund Pike as Marie and Jamie Dornan as photographer, Paul Conroy - we talk to Lindsey about her friendship with Marie, the reality of being a war correspondent and how you keep mentally strong and sane, the bad news cycle, social media and MeToo.
Pre-order In Extremis, by Lindsey Hilsum (published 11th November by Penguin) here: https://www.penguin.co.uk/books/111/1111214/in-extremis/9781784740931.html
Tom Daley’s Desert Island Discs https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b0blhfpj
Witness for the Prosecution, an Agatha Christie play on London’s Southbank https://www.southbanklondon.com/Witness-for-the-Prosecution
How Goop’s haters made Gwyneth Paltrow’s Company worth $250 million - by Taffy Brodesser-Akner for The New York Times https://www.nytimes.com/2018/07/25/magazine/big-business-gwyneth-paltrow-wellness.html
Blythe Danner on The Goop Podcast:
Simon Cowell on Desert Island Discs:
Sara Pascoe on theatre:
Information on Lips choir:
Why 1/3 of Gen Z Don’t Drink; & How Feelings Took Over The WorldThe High Low add
Everyone’s talking about Kanye’s nutty meeting with Trump in The Oval Office last week; whilst Melania, in her most frank televised interview yet, described herself as the most bullied person in the world. Meanwhile, Fendi has made a £750 scarf which looks like a vulva (transcendental experience of being ‘born again’ presumably baked in to the price), the Duchess of Sussex is having a baby and we discuss the juiciest tidbits of the 850-guest royal wedding that we both, accidentally, got really quite into.
Also this week we discuss why 1/3 of Gen Z don’t drink (and interview two Gen Z authors Scarlett Curtis and Charly Cox about their differing attitudes to alcohol) and some brilliant pieces of journalism this weekend by Josh Glancy and Max Hastings, that discuss how feelings have trumped rational thought. Is The Enlightenment’s 300-year intellectual tenure under threat? And what are the dangers of placing heart and gut above facts and mind?
It’s time to do away with the gay best friend, by Philip Ellis for Man Repeller https://www.manrepeller.com/2018/10/gay-best-friend-stereotype.html
I’ll Be There For You, by Kelsey Miller https://www.hive.co.uk/Product/Kelsey-Miller/Ill-Be-There-For-You/22458067
Motherhood, by Sheila Heti https://www.hive.co.uk/Product/Sheila-Heti/Motherhood/22325906
The xx, by Angela Chadwick https://www.hive.co.uk/Product/Angela-Chadwick/XX/22437212
Christene Barberich interviews Hanya Yanaghihara for Refinery29’s UnStyled podcast https://itunes.apple.com/gb/podcast/hanya-yanagihara-on-making-your-mark-in-brave-new-media/id1171140955?i=1000421309939&mt=2
@brian_bilston on Instagram for poetry
How have we let feelings obscure rational debate, by Josh Glancy’s column for The Sunday Times magazine https://www.thetimes.co.uk/article/josh-glancy-brett-kavanaugh-case-has-ignited-online-fury-like-never-before-how-have-we-let-feelings-obscure-rational-debate-6nq6h6hpq
We’re in a dark age where hearts rule minds, by Max Hastings for The Times https://www.thetimes.co.uk/article/we-re-in-a-dark-age-where-hearts-rule-minds-5p7gl6g5q
For millennials, thinking and emotions are equals — more or less, by Karl Moore https://www.forbes.com/sites/karlmoore/2017/06/26/for-millennials-thinking-and-emotions-are-equals-more-or-less/amp/
Sophie Wilkinson on Cara Delevigne for Grazia:
Strictly’s Scandal, Johnny Depp’s GQ Cover & The NothingburgerThe High Low add
It’s our favourite time of year: The OED have released their new admissions. Are you feeling bongga? Or are you - whisper it - just a nothingburger?
We also discuss the Banksy that shredded itself; Brett Kavanaugh’s ascendancy into The Supreme Court; Taylor Swift’s Instagram politics; and that time Trump walked around with a wad of bog roll stuck to his shoe. It’s the little things.
This episode concerns two men accused of domestic abuse - comedian Seann Walsh, and Johnny Depp who currently covers British GQ. Were Strictly Come Dancing wrong not to drop Walsh? Were GQ wrong to profile Depp? We deep-dive into both and wonder: what’s the protocol, when it comes to the accused?
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Stacey Dooley Investigates: Fashion’s Dirty Secrets, on the BBC https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b0bn6034
Can I re-think my love affair with clothes? by Jess Cartner-Morley for The Guardian magazine https://www.theguardian.com/fashion/2018/oct/06/sustainable-fashion-impact-on-planet-jess-cartner-morley
Sorry For Your Loss, on Facebook Watch
A Woman’s Anger, an episode with Rebecca Traister for Call Your Girlfriend podcast https://www.callyourgirlfriend.com/a-womans-anger-with-rebecca-traister/
Good and Mad, by Rebecca Traister https://www.hive.co.uk/Product/Rebecca-Traister/Good-and-Mad--The-Revolutionary-Power-of-Womens-Anger/22853939
Notes On A Nervous Planet, by Matt Haig https://www.hive.co.uk/Product/Matt-Haig/Notes-on-a-Nervous-Planet/21949786
‘The Outlaw’ - Johnny Depp will not be buried, by Jonathan Heaf for British GQ https://t.co/0d7xQvg0yB
Wanderlust on The BBC: https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b0bjckgv
Not Working by Lisa Owens Radio Adaptation: https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b07blldr
Christopher Bland Award for Writing: https://rsliterature.org/award/rsl-christopher-bland-prize/
Daisy Buchanan on Rebecca Humphries’ statement for The Pool: https://www.the-pool.com/news-views/opinion/2018/41/Strictly-Come-Dancing-Seann-Walsh-ex-girlfriend-statement
On Brett Kavanaugh; & Why Women Can’t (And Don’t Want To) Have It AllThe High Low add
Hello October! It’s Dolly’s favourite month of the year. If she were reincarnated, says Pandora, it would be as a knee-high boot.
This week we discuss MeToo’s infighting - as Asia Argento unveils a new bloody dagger tattoo aimed at Rose McGowan; Pret’s tragic error and the 14 allergens that all foodstuffs should be labelled with; and why the Nobel peace prize should be taken away from Myanmar leader Aung San Suu Kyi despite the organisation’s novel explanation as to why it hasn’t.
Masses of recommendations from us both, including Lily Allen’s memoir, the film Tully, a beautiful piece on grief by Alice Edwards, and a series of accounts on what it was really like to work for Harvey Weinstein, in The Guardian magazine. Are NDAs protecting the wrong people?
We couldn’t *not* talk about Brett Kavanaugh - the Republican judge who looks set to enter the Supreme Court, the highest law-making body in the USA, despite the accusation of sexual assault lodged against him by Dr Christine Ford. Do men (and women) of a certain age - and political view - still subscribe to the belief “that if it isn’t rape, it doesn’t count”? And are we surprised that Trump is still endorsing Kavanaugh?
Also this week, we discuss a brilliant piece by the editor-in-chief of Cosmopolitan magazine, Farrah Storr, for The Times Magazine - about why women can’t (and maybe don’t want) it all. Dolly and I talk about the ‘splintered woman’ (domestic, professional, sexual) and get personal on the subconscious pressure to have it all; why we don’t have it all; and why having different things, at different times, is actually even better.
Tully (2018) film
Kavanaugh v Ford is a litmus test for our times, by Janice Turner for The Times https://www.thetimes.co.uk/article/kavanaugh-v-ford-is-litmus-test-of-our-times-6xrmt5v7w
Suzanne Moore on Brett Kavanaugh: https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2018/sep/28/brett-kavanaugh-christine-blasey-ford-senate-supreme-court
Why women can’t have it all, by Farrah Storr for The Times magazine https://www.thetimes.co.uk/article/you-can-t-have-it-all-admits-cosmopolitan-editor-farrah-storr-kt89pqm37
Episode #149 of Ctrl, Alt, Delete podcast hosted by Emma Gannon, with Farrah Storr https://www.emmagannon.co.uk/2018/09/27/ctrl-alt-delete-podcast-149-farrah-storr/
Jackie Onassis and Lee Radziwill: the truth about their rivalry, (extracted from a book) by Sam Kashner and Nancy Schoenberger for The Times magazine
Life as a Harvey Weinstein employee, three accounts for The Guardian magazine https://www.theguardian.com/film/2018/sep/29/harvey-weinstein-three-former-employees-on-working-for-him
‘I carry your hearts with me’ - an essay on grief by Alice Edwards for the current print issue of Porter magazine
‘My anxiety was a tool to survive’, Claire Foy interview by Tom...
An Author Special with The Guilty Feminist creator and host, Deborah Frances-WhiteThe High Low add
New Zealand PM Jacinda Arden made history when she took baby Neve to the UN Assembly in NYC this week; meanwhile, Trump made world leaders laugh out loud with his address (“that’s not what I was expecting” he replied, surprised at the lols.) In the domestic landscape, Dolly discovers a great new podcast and Pandora reads a unnerving but thought-provoking book.
Also this week, we host comedian and podcast supremo, Deborah Frances-White, creator and host of The Guilty Feminist. The podcast has had 50 million download since inception and is one of our favourites to listen to: it's funny, provoking, smart and political. The USP of The Guilty Feminist is: let humour do the heavy-lifting — something The High Low heartily admires. We talk inclusivity, intersectional feminism and why we are all guilty feminists.
Putney, by Sofka Zinovieff https://www.amazon.co.uk/Putney-Sofka-Zinovieff/dp/1408895757
Killing Eve and Press on BBC iPlayer
Fortunately with Fi and Jane, a BBC podcast on iTunes
Book a ticket to The Rooted Project’s ‘Skin Food’ event at https://www.picatic.com/event15345039853892
The Ratline on BBC Radio 4
Bella Mackie on being single at 30 for Vogue
The Guilty Feminist by Deborah Francis White:
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Carrie Symonds & ‘the scarlet woman’; & the end of Big BrotherThe High Low add
The High Low inbox was full of people asking us to cover the media coverage of Carrie Symonds, the former Tory comms director accused of having an affair with Boris Johnson. We discuss the ‘scarlet woman’ trope, historically embodied by Monica Lewinsky, the then intern who was globally shamed for her affair with Bill Clinton (if you haven’t watched her 2015 TED talk yet - DO IT.) Let’s stop with the ‘tabloidese’ whereby women accused of having affairs with famous, married men are party-loving sluts designed to attack the patriarchy. Here’s a thought: let’s cover women in the same way we do men?
Also today, we celebrate the 18 year tenure - yes, 18 years - of Big Brother and Celebrity Big Brother. Whether 'civilian or celebrity' (our new favourite phrase), Big Brother was once a pop-culture phenomenon, at the vanguard of the zeitgeist. Rather than examine where it all went wrong (nothing lasts forever) we dive into the nostalgia and share our favourite bits plus YOUR favourite bits, as garnered from Twitter. Plus, Dolly interviews an ex story producer of MIC, ex head writer for TOWIE and culture journalist, Ed Cripps, to discuss the BB phenomenon in more detail.
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Hadley Freeman on Serena Williams https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2018/sep/15/give-serena-williams-break-working-mothers
Sophie Heawood interviews Lily Allen https://www.theguardian.com/music/2018/sep/15/lily-allen-brazen-behaviour-didnt-care-sophie-heawood
The Pursuit of Love, by Nancy Mitford https://www.amazon.co.uk/Pursuit-Love-Nancy-Mitford/dp/0141044012
Episode 59 of Fortunately with Fi and Jane, with Susanna Reid https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p06f8njn
Killing Eve, on BBC iPlayer https://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episodes/p06jy6bc
Fran Yeoman on Carrie Symonds for iNews https://inews.co.uk/inews-lifestyle/people/boris-johnson-carrie-symonds-affair-allegations-sexism-media/
Monica Lewinsky’s TED talk, ‘The price of shame’ https://www.ted.com/talks/monica_lewinsky_the_price_of_shame/up-next?language=en
Nadia Petschek Rawls, Director of Social Media at TED, on Monica Lewinsky’s TED talk https://ideas.ted.com/want-to-help-prevent-online-bullying-comment-on-facebook/
She Wants It by Jill Soloway: https://www.amazon.co.uk/She-Wants-Desire-Toppling-Patriarchy/dp/1785032844
Tiny Ladies in Shiny Pants:
Serena Williams & Kirstie Allsopp: Why Women Aren’t Allowed To Get AngryThe High Low add
Roxanne Pallett has been cast (and since left) Celebrity Island since our last record (exploitative, much?) and Hurricane Florence is heading towards the USA. Meanwhile, 2 more people have attempted to make bookings at The High Low hotel. Our towels must be reeeeeally soft, or something.
Today, we discuss Serena Williams’s epic tantrum at the US Open final - and how it overshadowed Naomi Osaka’s first Grand Slam win. The most interesting part of the narrative isn’t the tantrum, itself: but how it’s culturally metabolised.
And another woman in trouble getting angry is Kirstie Allsopp who recently admitted to smashing her kids iPad in fury, after they wouldn’t stop playing computer games. She’s quit Twitter, amidst the furore and her parenting - and privilege - is now under scrutiny. We chew over the makings of a modern-day Twitter storm and wonder if parenting and social media are destined for trouble.
Please go to https://www.gofundme.com/emergency-support-for-rwc to donate to the Refugee Women’s Centre, helping refugee families in Calais and Dunkirk
Adèle, by Leila Slimani, out January 2019 https://www.amazon.co.uk/Adèle-Leila-Slimani/dp/0143132180
Ben Machell interviews Grenfell firefighter Edric Kennedy-Malfoy and Peter Crouch, both for The Times magazine
Simon Hattenstone interviews Phoebe Waller-Bridge for The Guardian magazine
Zadie Smith essay on ageing, in the (current) October issue of ELLE magazine
Remembering Aretha Franklin on Fresh Air https://www.npr.org/programs/fresh-air/2018/08/16/639157290?t=1536776911699
Steve Young on Here’s The Thing With Alec Baldwin: https://www.wnycstudios.org/story/hidden-trove-musicals-broadways-greatest-talents
Slate’s Slow Burn series two: http://www.slate.com/articles/slate_plus/watergate.html?via=gdpr-consent
Daisy Buchanan on Sofie Hagen’s Made of Human podcast: https://www.madeofhumanpodcast.com/episodes/2018/8/30/105-daisy-buchanan-a-gymnastics-routine-of-shame
Guys We F****d with Dan Soder https://m.soundcloud.com/guyswefucked/dan-you-give-please-dont-leave-me-head
Where Should We Begin with Esther Perel:
A Bumper Back to School Book Special & Thoughts on the Roxanne Pallet Assault AllegationsThe High Low add
We’re back! We wish we were still on the sun lounger, but here we are, at your disposal - with a giant book chat of what we have enjoyed in the last month.
Also today, we discuss the social media trolling of the late Sinéad McNamara and Instagram influencer Scarlett Dixon; and Celebrity Big Brother’s biggest controversy yet - after soap actor Roxanne Pallet accused fellow contestant and actor Ryan Thomas of assault, which footage revealed to have never happened. The fall-out has been swift; Roxanne has described herself as “the most hated person in Britain.” But when does criticism morph into crucifixion? When will we stop trying to ‘cancel’ or ‘delete’ people - particularly women - from public consciousness? And how do Roxanne’s allegations damage the #MeToo movement?
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Normal People, by Sally Rooney
How Do You Like Me Now, by Holly Bourne
Little Fires Everywhere, by Celeste Ng
Bitter Orange, by Claire Fuller
The Pisces, by Melissa Broder
Crazy Rich Asians, by Kevin Kwan
Educated, by Tara Westover
Confessions of a Single Mother, by Amy Nicoll
The Wives, by Lauren Weisberger
The Hunting Party, by Lucy Foley
The Break, by Marian Keys
This Is Going To Hurt, by Adam Kay
A Short Affair, edited by Simon Oldfield
The End of The Affair - Graham Green
The Outline - Rachel Cusk
The Cost of Living - Deborah Levy
Cassandra At The Wedding - Dorothy Baker
Is "hey guys" anti-feminist?; & why we are better people than our worst jokeThe High Low add
Jeremy Hunt forgot his wife's nationality; someone tried to book 6 hotel rooms at The High Low (us neither); & Dolly smashed a glass of wine all over CJ's recording equipment. Hola August: the summer madness has officially begun!
We discuss Jane Garvey's comment on Radio 4's Woman's Hour this week: that "hey guys" should not be used when a gathering includes women. Is "guys" an anti-feminist collective term; or has it evolved into unisex slang? And are there any non-gross alternatives?
Also today, we talk about comedian and talk show host Trevor Noah and his distasteful 2013 joke about aboriginal women, which has recently re-surfaced and has seen Australians boycotting his upcoming tour in Australia. Should we be allowed to evolve beyond our past (worst) jokes? And what is the role of comedy, in a post-MeToo, Trumpian world?
The High Low will be taking a summer break, so Pandora can play with her baby and Dolly can take a post-book tour breather. We'll be back on September 6th. Byeeeeeee!
Fight Like A Girl, by Clementine Ford https://www.amazon.co.uk/Fight-Like-Girl-Clementine-Ford/dp/1760292362
Paris For One (& Other Stories), by Jojo Moyes https://www.amazon.co.uk/Paris-One-Other-Stories-Discover/dp/1405928166/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1533158639&sr=1-1&keywords=jojo+moyes+paris
Hadley Freeman interviews Jameela Jamil, for The Guardian magazine https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2018/jul/28/jameela-jamil-wont-become-double-agent-patriarchy
Table Manners With Jessie Ware: https://www.acast.com/tablemanners/
Jason Segel on WTF with Marc Maron: http://www.wtfpod.com/podcast/episodes/episode_623_-_jason_segel
The Florence Kleiner Bursary at The Old Vic: https://www.oldvictheatre.com/news/2018/07/the-florence-kleiner-bursary
Why It’s Wrong To Call Out Trevor Noah For Off-Colour Jokes They Made In Their Past, by Shappi Khorsandi for The Independent: https://www.independent.co.uk/voices/trevor-noah-dan-harmon-old-jokes-exposure-wrong-alt-right-james-gunn-a8466011.html
On Plane Bae; and Teaching Children About Mental HealthThe High Low add
We might be a little delayed - much like a Ryanair flight - but we got there in the end. Yup, that’s a pun; we’re talking about Plane Bae. Unfolding like a modern meet-cute, the tweet story of a ‘romance’ observed by another passenger over the course of over 50 tweets-gone viral, Plane Bae soon morphed into a cautionary tale of consent, privacy and doxxing. What does this incident reveal to us, except, yet again, that the internet is misogynistic?
Also today, we discuss two news stories surrounding mental health: firstly, that mental health may be taught to children as young as 4, and secondly, that 70,000 young people including 2,000 young children, are on anti-depressants. Are we right to be cautious of becoming a pill-addicted nation; or do we need to overcome this stigma? And will children as young as 4, really absorb the nuances of mental health? Ultimately, education starts at a grassroots level and needs to be woven throughout the curriculum, focusing on positive preventative measures like exercise and healthy eating. We’d love to here your thoughts on this. If you are suffering with mental health issues or believe someone you know is, you can contact mental health charity MIND at mind.org.uk, to find out more about your local support network.
Also today, a beautiful piece on becoming 2 when you thought you would always be 1, by Hannah Betts, why you should fear ‘femtech’ and birth control apps by Olivia Sudjic and Viv Albertine’s polemic on Fresh Air.
Neon Daylight, by Hermione Hoby https://www.amazon.co.uk/Neon-Daylight-Hermione-Hoby/dp/193678775X
Picnic at Hanging Rock, on BBC2 https://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episodes/b0bb6xvm
Hannah Betts, the postergirl for singletons, on coupledom for The Times https://www.thetimes.co.uk/article/hannah-betts-how-the-poster-girl-for-singletons-found-love-at-last-gjxbfgtng
A letter to my friend who is getting married, by Marisa Bate for The Pool https://www.the-pool.com/life/life-honestly/2018/30/Marisa-Bate-letter-to-a-friend-who-is-getting-married
The dangers of Natural Cycle and birth control apps, by Olivia Sudjic for The Guardian magazine https://www.theguardian.com/society/2018/jul/21/colossally-naive-backlash-birth-control-app
All Saints on how to be a girl group, by Michael Cragg for The Observer magazine https://www.theguardian.com/music/2018/jul/24/all-saints-on-how-to-be-a-girl-group
Viv Albertine on a lifetime of fighting the patriarchy, on NPR's Fresh Air podcast https://www.npr.org/programs/fresh-air/2018/07/16/629365712
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An Author Special with Yomi Adegoke & Elizabeth Uviebinené of Slay In Your Lane: The Black Girl BibleThe High Low add
The POTUS hit the UK for his week of ridicule: the balloon; the march; the press conference and *that* video gone viral of Trump barging in front of the Queen. Meanwhile, Dolly discovers a new music hero (David Keenan) and Pandora reads her first ‘work-help’ book (The Discomfort Zone by Farrah Storr.) Oh, and Love Island fans: Undercover Lover is your new favourite podcast. You’re welcome.
Today we are honoured to host Yomi Adegoke & Elizabeth Uviebinené, the writers of Slay In Your Lane: The Black Girl Bible. A meticulously researched and brilliantly written deep-dive into what it is to be a young black woman in the UK, the book prompted a 9-way publishing war and is stuffed full of interviews with famous black women including Olympic athlete Denise Lewis, barrister and author Afua Hirsch and former pop star Jamelia.
We discuss microaggressions and microinvalidations; the ‘white co-sign’; being racially palatable; why representation and sponsorship is so important (just 0.49% of university professors are black women); why black women are swiped left more than any other ethnic group on Tinder; and how Rihanna changed the black beauty industry.
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Slay In Your Lane: The Black Girl Bible, by Yomi Adegoke & Elizabeth Uviebinené https://www.amazon.co.uk/Slay-Your-Lane-Black-Bible/dp/0008235627
Undercover Lover, hosted by Harriet Minter https://www.acast.com/undercoverlover
Caliphate - a New York Times podcast about ISIS, hosted by Rukmini Callimachi https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2018/podcasts/caliphate-isis-rukmini-callimachi.html
True heroes insist on staying in the shadows, by Janice Turner for The Times https://www.thetimes.co.uk/article/true-heroes-insist-on-staying-in-the-shadows-fkl7lj53w
Suzanne Moore on turning 60 for The Guardian https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2018/jul/17/im-a-woman-about-to-turn-60-heres-what-ive-learned-about-life
Elizabeth Day's new podcast How To Fail https://itunes.apple.com/gb/podcast/how-to-fail-phoebe-waller-bridge/id1407451189?i=1000415790730&mt=2
David Keenan on Roisin Meets https://soundcloud.com/irishtimes-lifestyle/david-keenan
David Keenan https://www.davidkeenan.ie/
Trump’s Baby Balloon; & Why ‘Natural’ Beauty Is A Damaging StereotypeThe High Low add
There’s a ton of cabinet reshuffles this week and baby Trump - all 6-foot helium-filled malevolence - is flying over London. Is the balloon a meaningful protest; or is it a childish blimp that could ruin a trade agreement with the US? And aren’t there leaders (Erdogan, for example) whose visit to the UK we should protest more?
Also this week, Justin Bieber’s engaged! Kylie Jenner’s almost a billionaire! Cardi(gan) B has had a baby called Kulture! In (more important) news, we discuss Amanda Knox’s comments on sexuality (she says she taught herself how to masturbate in prison), Terri White’s piece on poverty (30% of children live below the poverty line), Giles Coren’s piece on why ‘liking’ things draws us further away from our authentic self and Richard Godwin’s shocking piece on noise pollution - which is killing 10,000 people a year.
And of course, we *had* to mention Love Island. Dolly raises Alex’s comment about liking ‘natural’ women (what damage does the #ijustwokeuplikethis emphasis do to women?) whilst Pandora laments our cultural obsession with augmented hotness, flagging a brilliant piece on Vice about Megan Barton-Hanson.
- Glow on Netflix https://www.netflix.com/gb/title/80114988
- In defense of Megan Barton-Hanson, by Emma Garland for Vice https://www.vice.com/amp/en_uk/article/vbq5dy/in-defence-of-megan-barton-hanson
- Terri White on Britain’s poverty problem (last week’s issue; not yet online)
- The goop podcast on iTunes https://itunes.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-goop-podcast/id1352546554?mt=2
- She Must Be Mad, by Charley Cox https://www.harpercollins.co.uk/9780008291662/she-must-be-mad/
- Sonic Doom: how noise pollution is killing 10,000 people a year, by Richard Godwin for The Guardian
- The Urge To Like Everything Is Rotting Our Brains, by Giles Coren: https://www.thetimes.co.uk/article/the-urge-to-like-everything-is-rotting-our-brains-vdttbtmdx
- Guys We F****d with Amanda Knox: https://soundcloud.com/guyswefucked/amandaknox
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The Dangers of Self-Deprecation; & A Deep-Dive Into ‘Nanette’The High Low add
It’s the week that England broke their penalty curse; Cheryl Cole and Liam Payne broke up; Roman Polanski (yup, he who is wanted for statutory rape) sat FROW at Miu Miu; and let’s not forget! There’s a bumper session of Ask The High Low. We resisted doing it in Joan and Jericha’s voices - but it was hard.
We’ve never had something recommended so much to The High Low - via email; Twitter; Instagram DM - as much as we had ‘Nanette’ a stand-up show performed by Australian comic, Hannah Gadsby. A surprise Netflix hit, loved by everyone from Roxane Gay to Monica Lewinsky, Hannah Gadsby has produced a piece of comedy so hilarious, so original, so shocking and so devastating - it’ll have you thinking about it, like we are, for weeks to come. We talk about why this show has everyone talking and discuss why self-deprecation is so dangerous for women; why punchlines don’t tell true stories; and why artists (even Van Gogh) are not mad geniuses - but just humans, who need connections. Hannah says that ‘Nanette’ is her last piece of stand-up - and that she wants to quit comedy, so that she doesn’t spread her anger. We hope she doesn’t quit comedy: we hope she changes the genre forever.
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Nanette by Hannah Gadsby on Netflix https://www.netflix.com/watch/80233611?trackId=14277281&tctx=0%2C0%2C4c07843d-89e8-403a-a3c7-b1d861a56f0d-39237366%2C%2C
Nanette Is Not Just A Queer Woman's Story - It's A Revolution by Zoe Beaty: https://www.the-pool.com/arts-culture/tv/2018/26/zoe-beaty-on-hannah-gadsby-nanette-on-netflix
Why I’m Done With The Mental Health Conversation, by Hannah Jane Parkinson for The Guardian https://www.theguardian.com/society/2018/jun/30/nothing-like-broken-leg-mental-health-conversation
Caitlin Moran interviewed by Alastair Campbell for the August 2018 issue of GQ magazine - on sale now
Adam Kay interviewed by Emma Gannon for Ctrl Alt Delete podcast https://www.emmagannon.co.uk/2018/06/22/ctrl-alt-delete-podcast-135-adam-kay/
Zadie Smith on The Touré Show: https://art19.com/shows/toure-show/episodes/e6dbe4c7-c2ad-4342-b120-bd666ab2eef6
Geography by Tom Misch https://www.amazon.co.uk/Geography-Tom-Misch/dp/B0774WX37X
The Durrels on Netflix https://www.netflix.com/title/80989475
Fame, Fortune and Phone Sex, with Actor and Memoirist, Gabourey SidibeThe High Low add
In today's episode, we discuss that jacket worn by Melania Trump whilst visiting an immigrant children's camp in Texas; Lionel Shriver's follow-up to her anti-diversity rant; Johnny Depp's bonkers Rolling Stone interview; Dolly's new favourite podcast Dear Joan and Jericha; and why mindfulness should be less about emptying your mind - than filling it.
Also today, we host the Oscar-nominated actor, producer and now memoirist, Gabourey Sidibe. Her book, This Is Just My Face, Try Not To Stare is a hilarious and brutally honest account of her life, from working as a phone-sex operator, to her breakout role in Precious, via fat-shaming in Hollywood.
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This Is Just My Face, Try Not To Stare, by Gabourey Sidibe
The Economist Radio
On mindFULLness over mindfullness, by Laura Freeman for The Times
The Pisces, by Melissa Broder
Are plus-size clothes really making us put on weight? By Victoria Moss for The Telegraph
The diversity trap, by Lionel Shriver for The Spectator
On The (Nearly Lethal) Comforts Of A Luxury Cruise by David Foster Wallace: https://harpers.org/wp-content/uploads/2008/09/HarpersMagazine-1996-01-0007859.pdf