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In this episode, Dr. Talia and Doug tackle one of the most common relationship problems; mismatched sex drives. In many couples, there is one individual with a more robust libido, who feels enough burning desire for intimacy that they are the default initiator, often creating a pursuer and distancer dynamic, leaving one member of the couple feeling undesirable and rejected and the other member of the couple feeling overwhelmed, maybe even avoidant, and generally terrible that they are not able to satisfy their partner. We share 12 great conversations starters to connect with your partner around libido compatibility and sexual desires, and we go over many potential causes of the libido mismatch. Tune in to your one stop shop relationship meets mental health podcast, and thank you for tuning in every week!!
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In this episode, Doug and Dr. Talia share their 50 years of combined experience in the couples’ therapy room. Being married is hard, even if you’re married to someone fabulous. What are the signs that there are some dealbreaker red flags brewing in your marriage? Resentments building that can’t be undone, trusts broken that can’t be repaired, differences in values and dreams that can’t align without one of the partners feeling stifled. Tune in! We answer all of the questions you might be asking yourself!
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Meet Gao Motsemme, a Botswana born current resident of Germany, and mother of three from a long ancestral lineage of gifted intuitive healers. In this episode, Dr Talia and Doug sit with Gao as she takes us on her complex and unexpected mothering journey while needing to face her own mother wounds. “Why doesn’t my mother love me?” and “What is a mother without her children” are a few of the questions echoing throughout this episode. Every one of us can see ourselves in this episode, honoring the mother shaped hole, the insecurities and attachment issues that can arise in the wake of a primary caregiver that can not or will not meet your basic needs for love and belonging.
https://calendly.com/magneticleader/consultation
https://www.instagram.com/gaomotsemme.magneticconfidence?igsh=dmk0aWYwMzVuaHpw
She is offering a free 45 minute consultation and she invites people to schedule that on her Calendly link
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In this mailbag episode, Doug and Dr. Talia hear from two people completely fed up with their spouse and ready for a divorce, but we feel that their decisions might be premature! We share the ingredients necessary to determine whether or not it’s time to throw in the towel. Is there willingness on both sides to work through this issue? If so, divorce might be further down the list of solutions than you think.
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You know the saying that when you wear rose colored glasses, red flags just look like flags? Well, in this episode, Dr. Talia and Doug respond to listener voice notes about first date horror stories. These stories are full of cringe, red flags, and lewd tales of hook-ups and dates that have gone horribly wrong. Prepare yourself with a bowl of popcorn because you will be screaming NO! Run for the hills! Don’t do it! Enjoy at your own risk and not with your children or your grandma!
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In this episode, Doug and Dr Talia respond to two mailbags, both from people that explain why they have ghosted someone they cared about. And once you get inside the minds of the ghoster, you will see why they are disappearing, even if you could have sworn there was a connection and chemistry. Why oh why didn’t they just tell you the truth? It will all make sense, tune in!
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In this episode, Dr Talia and Doug talk to Minneapolis based, friendship-focused writer and podcaster, Nina Badzin. Your friend hurt you badly. Until now you have never needed to have a difficult conversation about your friendship, but if you don’t, the friendship won’t survive. What do you do? To determine whether your friendship is salvageable, think about these three things. How meaningful is this relationship to you, was the deep cut a sign of the person’s character or an off day, and how are they responding to you sharing your hurt? Romantic relationship betrayals are more obvious, and so are the dealbreakers. But when you can have many friends and don’t have to choose only one, we want to help you determine whether this friendship will continue to elevate your life or continue to hurt you. We know you have all experienced a painful rift in a friendship, let us help you navigate!
https://ninabadzin.com
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-nina-conversations-about-friendship/id1576473592
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In this episode Dr Talia and Doug look at two very relatable issues. In the first mailbag, a young father grieves his wife while his wife’s sister, who has been the greatest supporter to him and his kids, tried to sleep with him a month after his wife’s passing. And he hates the way he reacted. And in the second mailbag, a young man says he’s incredibly uncomfortable with the way his girlfriend presents herself on social media; bikini pictures that give thirsty and single. Can we help them address these delicate issues? Of course we can!
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In this episode, Doug and Dr. Talia tackle two heartfelt mailbags. In the first letter, a gentleman who has had no luck with women feels he did everything he could to revamp his look; fitness, wardrobe and haircut, check… but is still having no luck in the dating department. All of his friends tell him he just hasn’t met the right person but he is losing hope fast that he is anyone’s type. In the second mailbag, a young mother is struggling with resentment and anger towards her fiancé for wanting to help his sons’ mother financially. Is she being unreasonable?
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In this episode, Doug and Dr Talia talk to Andrew Davie, a true Renaissance man. He is an author of crime fiction novellas, short stories and memoirs about dating, managing OCD and recovering from his brain aneurysm. He is also a fellow podcaster as the cohost of happy hour with Heather. Join us for this fascinating conversation as Andrew shares his experience of surviving a ruptured brain aneurysm and subarachnoid hemorrhage in 2018. He was trying so hard to get back to himself and the future on which he needed to press pause that it took him quite some time to realize who he was post aneurysm, and that what he now wanted for his life was completely different.
Andrew-Davie.com
@adavieauthor
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Loneliness is a global health crisis. In this episode Dr Talia and Doug have a moving conversation with Anna Bonavita, a former physicist with a passion for culture, cuisine, and the natural environment. While grieving her beloved husband, and in the depths of loneliness and despair, she found comfort and community at a communal table in Italy and has brought this healing opportunity to one of the loneliest cities in the US. Listen to her story.
Born in a small Bulgarian village, educated in Russia, and a long-time resident of both Italy and the United States, she claims several countries as the source of her cultural identity. Bonavita is the founder and former president of the Italian Cultural Center as well as the Italian Film Festival of Minneapolis/St. Paul.
In 2018 she started Esperienza, an organization which celebrates and preserves culture in small Italian villages and towns through authentic immersion opportunities. She believes that away from the fast speed and superficiality of mass tourism, we can still unhurriedly appreciate the pleasures of the palate and the joy of Italian culture while giving back to local economies.
Her latest creation, the Communal Table, was recently featured in the Minneapolis Star Tribune, is a place where social connection is always possible amidst honest food, good company, and local creative talents.
Enjoy this touching conversation, WNF family, and you can find her here:
https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100069717574562
https://www.startribune.com/are-you-lonely-millions-are-in-fact-it-s-become-a-health-crisis-we-look-at-how-to-identify-and-address-loneliness/600339686/#comment
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In this episode, Doug and Dr. Talia talk to author and sex educator, Demi Wilde about hook up horror stories (Talia won worst story! Woot woot!) We discuss stigma, down low online exploration of sexuality, which apps produce which kind of connections, all the kinks and fetishes, and pitfalls and dangers of modern dating! As you can imagine, the middle aged straight lady asks a lot of embarrassing questions and the two gay men humor her while also sharing a lot of awkward pauses and nervous laughter, it was the absolute best! Join us!
Find Demi:
Podcast: Hook Up Horror Stories, and on YouTube as well.
Blog: The Deviant Diaries available on his website DemitriWylde.com
Insta: @DemitryWylde_
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In this episode, Dr. Talia and Doug have a lively conversation with Dr. Deb about how to deepen your apology after an affair. We explore the lack of resources available to the cheater, as most therapy, books and videos are geared towards helping the betrayed heal. Dr. Deb Miller's book More Than Sorry: 5 Steps to Deepen Your Apology After You Have Committed Infidelity helps those that have cheated to take an honest look at themselves, their relationship, own their choices and start their journey of insight and willingness to do their work. It's a must listen! Share this episode with a friend that needs to listen and read Dr Deb's book!
More Than Sorry: 5 Steps to Deepen Your Apology After You Have Committed Infidelity
https://a.co/d/8zdKLQA
https://drdebmiller.com/
@dotingdd
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In this episode Doug and Dr Talia tackle the scariest of all emotions; the contagious, heavy, and unmotivated wave of apathy. How to know if it’s a bad day or a bad decade, and how to infuse joy, motivation and passion back into your life. We’ve got your back!
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In this episode, Dr Talia and Doug speak with the enigmatic Hannah Spanke, who shares with us her rocky road from a toxic family into stripping and sex work by the age of 16. She wanted agency over her sexuality and thought of pursuing sex work as a sexual entrepreneur but ended up in a dark scary place ready to face her truth. And here she is, a truly enlightened young woman turning her pain to purpose and not only does she share her understanding of life’s purpose and sexuality as the portal to the divine, but she also teaches Doug and Dr Talia how to incorporate Tantra into their busy middle aged lifestyles! Need we say more?
Insta @hannahspanke
And in the link in her bio, she offers free monthly master classes, advice on break ups and creating a winning dating profile. Check her out!
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Fight, flight or freeze; what is your go to coping strategy? In this episode, Doug and Dr Talia tackle Anger vs Rage. We talk about our family of origin as the source of how we learn to regulate and express our emotions, and we teach you practical tips to express yourself without pushing people away. Don’t swallow it down, because rage turned inward becomes depression. Tune in to this week's episode to learn a different way of being in relation to your negative emotions!
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In this second live recording of our We’re Not Fine, Dr Talia and Doug dive deep into the experience of letting others in to the most vulnerable moments in our lives with Birth Doula Sarah Longacre and End of Life Doula Wendy Longacre-Brown. What if we did birth and death differently? What if we invited in skilled and compassionate navigators to be by our sides in these unfamiliar lands so the unknown doesn’t paralyze us with fear? What if instead of “I’m sorry for your loss” we said “I hope they lived a kick ass life”? Wendy and Sarah share with us their incredible experience sitting by their mother’s side as she voluntarily chose to stop eating and drinking (VSED) to hasten her dying process after a brutal Alzheimer’s diagnosis.
We invite you into this moving conversation about the circle of life, the heightened stress and magical beauty of bringing a new life into the world, of dying and sitting with the dying, of existential fear, of choices we have in hospice, loss, grief, death journals and death cafes.
Resources:
@chemindoula Wendy Longacre-Brown
@sarahlongacre
https://www.leg.mn.gov/cal?d1=01/25/2024
https://www.roguebuddha.com/death-cafe
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In this episode, Doug and Dr. Talia talk to Shanenn Bryant, host of the podcast Top Self, Jealousy and Insecurity expert and coach, and leader of the Facebook group Jealousy Junkies. We dive into how insecure attachment develops into unhealthy behavior patterns that threaten to destroy your relationships. Shanenn shares with us how to differentiate between trusting your gut versus acting out old trauma and creating the abandonment or betrayal you fear the most. Tune in to find out how to take back control over the insecurity and jealousy that might be hijacking the trust in your relationship.
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In this episode, Dr Talia and Doug take on a listener mailbag about division of labor in a household. Who does more? Why are they resentful? What exactly is invisible labor? Why does one person naturally step up while the other waits for the “honey-do” list? Inquiring minds want to know! We have so much to say, per usual, and let us give you the tips and tricks to manage your household with equality and love!
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In this episode, Kiki Joy Latham shares with us her incredible journey through physical and emotional abuse in her family of origin, betrayal after betrayal, from abandonment and heartbreak to the most profound love story. Not just with her partner, Jodi, but with herself. Kiki found herself/himself, and loves herself/himself with not just acceptance but with a deep appreciation of all of the intricacies. We talk sexuality, gender identity, and what it really takes to be at peace and love after abuse. As you can imagine, this vulnerable content might be disturbing to those of our viewers that have experienced similar trauma and abuse, we urge you to listen with your wellness in mind.
https://facebook.com/events/s/mr-miss-twin-cities-black-prid/1399809124223116/
@lovekikijoy on instagram
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