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In this episode, I explain one of the most overlooked aspects of OCD: mental compulsions. While many people recognize compulsions as visible behaviors like checking, washing, or arranging things, mental compulsions happen internally and can be much harder to identify. These can include rumination, mental reviewing, counting, praying, catastrophizing, or repeatedly trying to figure something out in order to reduce anxiety, uncertainty, or discomfort.
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Summary: In this episode, I talk about how self-criticism can quietly interfere with recovery and healing. So many people believe being hard on themselves will motivate them to do better, but in reality, constant self-judgment often increases anxiety, lowers confidence, and makes it harder to move forward. I walk through some common signs of self-criticism, including harsh self-talk, perfectionism, difficulty accepting compliments, and feeling guilt or shame over even small setbacks.
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Summary: In this episode, I explain why your brain can get stuck replaying thoughts, searching for answers, and trying to feel certain before it can move on. So often, people think they have an overthinking problem, but the real issue is that the brain has learned that solving equals safety. Every time you analyze, replay, or try to "figure it out" to get relief, your brain learns to keep sending you back into the same cycle.
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Summary: In this episode, I talk about two very common mistakes anxious people make that actually keep anxiety cycles going stronger: responding with urgency and treating every thought, feeling, or sensation as incredibly important. I share a personal story from volunteering at a school bake sale, where I caught myself rushing, overperforming, and reacting as if everything was high stakes, even though there was no real danger present.
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In this episode, I talk about anticipatory anxiety, the intense fear or dread that shows up before something even happens. So often, the waiting, imagining, and "what if" spiral can feel worse than the actual event itself. I explain how this happens and why your brain reacts so strongly, even when there isn't a real threat in front of you.
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In this episode, I talk about why so many people struggle with sleep anxiety even when they're doing everything "right." You might be following all the sleep hygiene rules, no screens, consistent bedtime, calming routines, and still lying awake, wondering what's wrong. The truth is, for anxious brains, trying too hard to sleep can actually make it harder. Sleep is one of the few biological processes that resists effort, and the more pressure you put on it, the more alert your body becomes.
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In this episode, I talk about something that doesn't replace ERP, but actually makes it more effective: self-compassion. So many people worry that being kind to themselves will weaken recovery, let them off the hook, or make OCD worse. But the truth is that self-criticism often increases anxiety, reinforces the obsession cycle, and leads to more burnout and exhaustion.
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In this episode, I talk about what to do when your brain freezes in conversation and social anxiety suddenly takes over. So many people experience that moment where their mind goes blank and they immediately assume they've failed, but I want to help you understand that this is a freeze response, not a personal failure. When anxious brains feel pressure, freezing is a very common response.
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