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In this episode I address the inevitable fears, doubts, and limiting beliefs that arise when stepping into a new life. I offer you strategies for overcoming self-doubt and building confidence in your abilities.
Key Points:
We talk about common fears and limiting beliefs (e.g., fear of failure, fear of judgment)I share tools to shift from self-doubt to self-belief (affirmations, mindset practices).And we will learn how taking action builds confidence and momentum.LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE:
The doors to THRIVE are open. Learn all that you need to know and join our healing journey starting on November 25th, 2025. https://www.theseparationclub.com/thriveOur next free Masterclass is Nov. 4th and I’ll be talking about how to let go of whatever you are hanging onto that is standing in the way of your healing and growth. It’s free to join us, just sign up to get all the details: https://www.theseparationclub.com/masterclass Join our 2025 retreat in Costa Rica, Feb. 22 - March 1, 2025 https://www.theseparationclub.com/costa-rica-retreat Our first retreat at Oodles Resort in Spain promises to be oodles of fun - sorry - couldn’t resist. But all that to say that this is one incredible beautiful place that I can’t wait to visit with.. You? And other Rising Moon Sisters. Link to book and learn more: https://www.theseparationclub.com/spain2025Kickstart your healing with the brand new JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journalI would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching You can also set up a discovery call with me. It's free and an opportunity for us to get to know each other. Here is a link to my Calendar so you can book something that is convenient for you: https://calendly.com/elisabethparsons/discovery-callAlso make sure to download the Free Separation Checklist: https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklistJoin the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce.And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444100th episode contest details:
Today is part 4/6 in a new series called From Healing to Thriving and creating a new life after Divorce.
During this 6 episode series, we will reflect on the healing process and how we can use this as a first step towards empowerment and creating a new life. We do have to move forward as part of our healing journey and in this series I encourage you to get curious about moving beyond healing and stepping into personal empowerment.
I am also kicking off a pre-100th episode celebration with this episode so make sure to listen to the end to get all the relevant details as there are giveaways, deals and fun to be had.
Here’s what you will have to do to enter:
Share this episode on Instagram. Tag and follow me @elisabethjoy444 and also use #ablessingindivorce so I can find your share and enter you.Leave a review on the podcast (and email me to let me know you have)Join our Thrive program and be entered in all the draws including a free program. Only those who purchase Thrive can be part of the draw for the free program.Some of the prizes:
The Joy JournalFree coachingFree Thrive programMeditation bundles and more.During the next 5 weeks there will be several opportunities to enter into this draw,
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During this 6 episode series, we will reflect on the healing process and how we can use this as a first step towards empowerment and creating a new life. We do have to move forward as part of our healing journey and in this series I encourage you to get curious about moving beyond healing and stepping into personal empowerment.
I am also kicking off a pre-100th episode celebration with this episode so make sure to listen to the end and read below to get all the relevant details as there are giveaways, deals, big prizes and fun to be had.
Today's Key Points:
The power of intentional living and goal-setting.How to set realistic, yet transformative, goals that align with your values.Breaking big goals into manageable steps (focus on balance between personal growth and external success).LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE
The doors to THRIVE are open. Learn all that you need to know and join our healing journey starting on November 25th, 2025. https://www.theseparationclub.com/thriveOur next free Masterclass is Nov. 4th and I’ll be talking about how to let go of whatever you are hanging onto that is standing in the way of your healing and growth. It’s free to join us, just sign up to get all the details: https://www.theseparationclub.com/masterclass Join our 2025 retreat in Costa Rica, Feb. 22 - March 1, 2025 https://www.theseparationclub.com/costa-rica-retreat Our first retreat at Oodles Resort in Spain promises to be oodles of fun - sorry - couldn’t resist. But all that to say that this is one incredible beautiful place that I can’t wait to visit with.. You? And other Rising Moon Sisters. Link to book and learn more: https://www.theseparationclub.com/spain2025Kickstart your healing with the brand new JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journalI would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching You can also set up a discovery call with me. It's free and an opportunity for us to get to know each other. Here is a link to my Calendar so you can book something that is convenient for you: https://calendly.com/elisabethparsons/discovery-callAlso make sure to download the Free Separation Checklist: https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklistJoin the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce.And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444100th episode contest details:
Here’s how to enter:
Share this, or one of the episodes in the series on Instagram. Tag and follow me @elisabethjoy444 and also use #ablessingindivorce so I can find your share and enter you.Leave a review on the podcast and email me a screenshot to let me know you have - [email protected] Join our Thrive program and be entered in all the draws including a FREE PROGRAM. Only those who purchase Thrive can be part of the draw for the free program.Some of the prizes:
The Joy JournalFree coachingFree Thrive programMeditation bundles and more.During the next 5 weeks there will be several opportunities to enter into this draw,
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After a major life transition, many people feel disconnected from their true identity. I’m talking about who you were before this relationship and potentially during. Also who you have put aside to be a wife, spouse, partner, parent, PTA member, kids sports coach etc. In this episode I would ike to guide you through a process of self-discovery, helping you reflect on who you are now and what values, passions, and strengths you want to cultivate moving forward.
Key Points:
Divorce or significant change often leads to identity loss.Finding alignment between your true self and the life you want to create.LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE
The doors to THRIVE are open. Learn all that you need to know and join our healing journey starting on November 25th, 2025. https://www.theseparationclub.com/thriveOur next free Masterclass is Nov. 4th and I’ll be talking about how to let go of whatever you are hanging onto that is standing in the way of your healing and growth. It’s free to join us, just sign up to get all the details: https://www.theseparationclub.com/masterclass Join our 2025 retreat in Costa Rica, Feb. 22 - March 1, 2025 https://www.theseparationclub.com/costa-rica-retreat Our first retreat at Oodles Resort in Spain promises to be oodles of fun - sorry - couldn’t resist. But all that to say that this is one incredible beautiful place that I can’t wait to visit with.. You? And other Rising Moon Sisters. Link to book and learn more: https://www.theseparationclub.com/spain2025Kickstart your healing with the brand new JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journalI would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching You can also set up a discovery call with me. It's free and an opportunity for us to get to know each other. Here is a link to my Calendar so you can book something that is convenient for you: https://calendly.com/elisabethparsons/discovery-callAlso make sure to download the Free Separation Checklist: https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklistJoin the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce.And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444100th episode contest details:
During this 6 episode series, we will reflect on the healing process and how we can use this as a first step towards empowerment and creating a new life. We do have to move forward as part of our healing journey and in this series I encourage you to get curious about moving beyond healing and stepping into personal empowerment.
I am also kicking off a pre-100th episode celebration with this episode so make sure to listen to the end to get all the relevant details as there are giveaways, deals and fun to be had.
Here’s what you will have to do to enter:
Share this episode on Instagram. Tag and follow me @elisabethjoy444 and also use #ablessingindivorce so I can find your share and enter you.Leave a review on the podcast (and email me to let me know you have)Join our Thrive program and be entered in all the draws including a free program. Only those who purchase Thrive can be part of the draw for the free program.Some of the prizes:
The Joy JournalFree coachingFree Thrive programMeditation bundles and more.During the next 5 weeks there will be several opportunities to enter into this draw.
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PART 1/6 IN A NEW SERIES called From Healing to Thriving and creating a new life after Divorce.
Today I’m inviting you on a journey. It's the first instalment in this new series.
During this 6 episode series, we will reflect on the healing process and how we can use this as a first step towards empowerment and creating a new life. We do have to move forward as part of our healing journey and in this series I encourage you to get curious about moving beyond healing and stepping into personal empowerment.
I am also kicking off a pre-100th episode celebration with this episode so make sure to listen to the end to get all the relevant details as there are giveaways, deals and fun to be had.
Here’s what you will have to do to enter:
Share this episode on Instagram. Tag and follow me @elisabethjoy444 and also use #ablessingindivorce so I can find your share and enter you.Leave a review on the podcast (and email me to let me know you have)Join our Thrive program and be entered in all the draws including a free program. Only those who purchase Thrive can be part of the draw for the free program.Some of the prizes:
The Joy JournalFree coachingFree Thrive programMeditation bundles and more.During the next 5 weeks there will be several opportunities to enter into this draw,
How healing creates the foundation for new opportunities.The importance of mindset shifts when stepping into a new chapter.How to begin thinking about what you want your "new life" to look like.
Today's Key Points:LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE
The doors to THRIVE are open. Learn all that you need to know and join our healing journey starting on November 25th, 2025. https://www.theseparationclub.com/yesJoin our 2025 retreat in Costa Rica, Feb. 22 - March 1, 2025 https://www.theseparationclub.com/costa-rica-retreat Our first retreat at Oodles Resort in Spain promises to be oodles of fun - sorry - couldn’t resist. But all that to say that this is one incredible beautiful place that I can’t wait to visit with.. You? And other Rising Moon Sisters. Link to book and learn more: https://www.theseparationclub.com/spain2025Kickstart your healing with the brand new JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journalI would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching You can also set up a discovery call with me. It's free and an opportunity for us to get to know each other. Here is a link to my Calendar so you can book something that is convenient for you: https://calendly.com/elisabethparsons/discovery-callAlso make sure to download the Free Separation Checklist: https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklistJoin the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce.And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444
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It’s been a long time since I’ve had a guest on the show and this is a guest I will be inviting back for sure. Join me for this conversation with Rachael Dunkel - Therapist turned Trauma informed Divorce Coach.
Today we talk about the healing journey when divorcing someone with a personality disorder.
People often attach labels to their exes describing them as toxic, narcissistic etc. And while of course there are some that this is appropriate for, these terms are being overused. And the danger is that we fall victim to the term and the narrative that goes with divorcing someone like that.
Ultimately our goal is healing and in order to do this in an effective way, we are better off focusing on the behaviours that we need to heal from. For example gaslighting and infidelity and other forms of betrayal. The label itself helps explain behaviour, but it is the behaviour we need to heal from.
Some of the questions I asked Rachael in the show today:
Difference between coach and therapist and how they can both be instrumental in the healing journey.Understanding the difference between focusing on the labels of high conflict and narcissistic exes versus the behaviour we need to heal from.LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE:
⭐️ Join our 2025 retreat in Costa Rica, Feb. 22 - March 1, 2025 https://www.theseparationclub.com/costa-rica-retreat
⭐️ Our first retreat at Oodles Resort in Spain promises to be oodles of fun - sorry - couldn’t resist. But all that to say that this is one incredible beautiful place that I can’t wait to visit with.. You? And other Rising Moon Sisters. Link to book and learn more: https://www.theseparationclub.com/spain2025
⭐️ Kickstart your healing with the brand new JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journal
⭐️ I would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching
⭐️ You can also set up a discovery call with me. It's free and an opportunity for us to get to know each other. Here is a link to my Calendar so you can book something that is convenient for you: https://calendly.com/elisabethparsons/discovery-call
⭐️ Also make sure to download the Free Separation Checklist: https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklist
⭐️ Join the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/
⭐️ You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce. And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444
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In this episode we exploring how connection can help us heal, grow and create the very life we dream of. This is a recap of how we explored this topic during the most recent Rising Moon Sisters Retreat.
Connection with Our BodiesOur bodies hold so much wisdom, but we are often too busy to listen. This weekend is an invitation to slow down and reconnect with the body’s natural rhythms, to listen to what it needs, and to embrace the healing power of presence within our own skin.Connection with Our Spirit and Soul In the noise of life, it’s easy to lose touch with our deeper selves—the part of us that craves peace, purpose, and alignment. Let this weekend be a chance to reconnect with our inner guidance, with the spirit that holds the key to our truest desires and dreams.Connection with Our HeartsWe carry so much in our hearts: joy, pain, hope, and longing. This is a space for us to open our hearts again—to feel deeply and to allow ourselves to be vulnerable. Connection with the heart is about cultivating compassion for ourselves and for others.Connection with Each Other We are not meant to go through life alone. Yet, so many of us feel isolated, even when surrounded by people. This weekend, let us drop the walls we’ve built and be open to truly seeing one another. The power of women gathering is immense. When we connect as sisters, we are stronger, wiser, and more grounded.Connection with Nature Nature has always been a teacher and a healer. Being in its presence reminds us of the interconnectedness of all things. We’ll take time to feel the earth beneath our feet, breathe in the fresh air, and remember that we are part of something much bigger than ourselves.Connection with Our CommunitiesAs we heal and reconnect with ourselves, we create a ripple effect that extends to our families, friends, and communities. The connection we cultivate here will not stay confined to this weekend. It will travel back with us, changing the way we show up in the world.LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE
Join our 2025 retreat in Costa Rica, Feb. 22 - March 1, 2025 https://www.theseparationclub.com/costa-rica-retreat Our first retreat at Oodles Resort in Spain promises to be oodles of fun - sorry - couldn’t resist. But all that to say that this is one incredible beautiful place that I can’t wait to visit with.. You? And other Rising Moon Sisters. Link to book and learn more: https://www.theseparationclub.com/spain2025Kickstart your healing with the brand new JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journalI would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching You can also set up a discovery call with me. It's free and an opportunity for us to get to know each other. Here is a link to my Calendar so you can book something that is convenient for you: https://calendly.com/elisabethparsons/discovery-callAlso make sure to download the Free Separation Checklist: https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklistJoin the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce.And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444 -
You might be thinking “I know who I am” and then realize maybe you don’t - and only because you haven’t really asked yourself or explored this lately.
You might be thinking - I have no idea who I am if I’m not “his wife” or a full time mom or something like that - I know I did.
The tools are radical honesty with yourself; self-reflection; counseling/coaching; self-compassion and forgiveness of self and others. And your reward is self-discovery and self-love, knowing your worth and that you are enough.
LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE
Join our 2025 retreat in Costa Rica, Feb. 22 - March 1, 2025 https://www.theseparationclub.com/costa-rica-retreat Kickstart your healing with the brand new JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journalI would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching You can also set up a discovery call with me. It's free and an opportunity for us to get to know each other. Here is a link to my Calendar so you can book something that is convenient for you: https://calendly.com/elisabethparsons/discovery-callAlso make sure to download the Free Separation Checklist: https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklistJoin the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce.And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444 -
This episode was inspired by mother's who contacted me in an effort to provide support to their children who are divorcing. They recognize that the issues are complex and that though they meant well they weren't always saying what was helpful.
I so appreciate their grace and compassion in wanting to be there for their children who are going through such a difficult time. Anyone would be lucky to have a parent who cares that much. This episode is for those parents, but also for you you as you go through this life challenge and want and need support from your parents but they might not be saying the things you need to hear or maybe they are saying just a bit too much. Either way - this episode can help you guide them in their support as much as it can help them. If nothing else you can send them the link.
Some of the highlights:
Become the best listener (by not talking)Show compassion (even when you don’t understand)Your opinions of their ex is irrelevant and negative comments often not helpful. Support, validate and elevateBe helpful and resourceful. Show up and do the things without being asked (unless being asked is a thing for your child). Don’t always make it about the divorce. Have “normal” conversation.If you are helping financially do so without interfering or imposing or controlling.Don’t make this about you.Don’t offer parenting advice or opinions unless asked.Be kind and accepting of ex’s role as parent to your grandchildren without being disloyal to your child.I am here to help and encourage you to set up a discovery call so we can figure out what would be the most supportive for you right now.
LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE
Join our 2025 retreat in Costa Rica, Feb. 22 - March 1, 2025 https://www.theseparationclub.com/costa-rica-retreat Kickstart your healing with the brand new JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journalI would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching You can also set up a discovery call with me. It's free and an opportunity for us to get to know each other. Here is a link to my Calendar so you can book something that is convenient for you: https://calendly.com/elisabethparsons/discovery-callAlso make sure to download the Free Separation Checklist: https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklistJoin the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce.And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444 -
This is it! Part 6 of the 6-part healing summer series here on A Blessing In Divorce. Create your own blessings by working through your healing with this series. 🤗💖
EP 83: An introduction to the series and the things that can speed up (or slow down) your healingEP 84: Understanding your pain story EP 85: The inward journey of healingEP 86: Overcome divorce griefEP 87: Recognizing and managing yours and others' expectations EP 88: Planning for the future EP 89: Releasing/Overcoming fear and not letting it paralyze your healingI would love to hear what you think of this series. It's been fun and will definitely do again. Until then make sure to jump into the new Rising Free divorce support community to learn the tools and discover who you are and the strategies for your healing while you create a beautiful life for yourself.
JOIN RISING FREE COMMUNITY TODAY: https://theseparationclub.com/risingfree
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RISING FREE Divorce Support Community - https://theseparationclub.com/risingfree Join our 2025 retreat in Costa Rica, Feb. 22 - March 1, 2025 https://www.theseparationclub.com/costa-rica-retreat BUY THE BRAND NEW JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journalI would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coachingAlso make sure to download the Free Separation Checklist: https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklistJoin the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce.And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444 -
Advanced planning isn’t always possible because if the decision to divorce wasn’t yours then you have had no time or opportunity to prepare. And this is true for so many of life’s challenges as these tend to land into our lives with us not being ready.
But that’s life right? As John Lennon said - Life is what happens while you are busy making other plans.
Today I want to talk about some of the specifics around planning around and preparing for your divorce, your healing and your new life.
You are here, so this is happening and whether you wanted it or not. Dwelling on that you didn’t want this is counterproductive. Understandable but not helpful. If you just want me to tell you that you don’t have to do anything then you have chosen the wrong episode.
Did you notice that I mentioned planning your divorce, your healing and your new life?
Yes - this is not just a financial and legal road map. It is important to focus on all areas of this journey. And while the financial and legal can feel the most daunting and also the most important - it is likely the easiest as there are so many who can help you and there are specific steps that need to be taken.
The scary factor is the unknown results, the potential emotional chaos and hostility and our own fear of working our way through these legal and financial avenues that most of us had no understanding of leading up to this time.
Let’s start with the financial and legal. If you are listening to this then you likely are going through or have gone through divorce. If you are done then you might want to skip ahead to the part about planning your healing and your new life starting at 16:50.
Legal and Financial Planning
Gather your team Learn as much as you can Become clear about what your best and worst outcome is and plan to land somewhere in the middle. Be fair Keep a level head (more on that in the healing planning) ** And join the Rising Free membershipPlan to heal
Gather your team and your people Be honest with yourself Lots of self-reflection, self-compassion, self-love and patience Learn who you are and what you want out of your life Spend time around people who lift you and don’t drag you down. Plan for this Expect healingPlan for your new life
The focus tends to be so heavy on the scary stuff and the negative things that happen and may happen. So few talk about the good. It’s like we are afraid to feel good or feel guilty feeling anything positive at all. Enough of that!
It’s time to map out a beautiful life for yourself and start making some plans to get you closer to that - Retreats, Vacations, time with people you love Work you find satisfying, and a home life that is balanced and easyThis is all within your control so make it happen.
LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE
💃🏼 RE-LAUNCH OF RISING FREE Divorce Support Community - Join the waitlist now to be the first to know about all the launch specials and events. www.theseparationclub.com/risingfree
💃🏼 Join our 2025 retreat in Costa Rica, Feb. 22 - March 1, 2025 https://www.theseparationclub.com/costa-rica-retreat
💃🏼 BUY THE BRAND NEW JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journal
💃🏼 I would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching
💃🏼 Also make sure to download the Free Separation Checklist: https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklist
💃🏼 Join the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub
💃🏼 You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce.
💃🏼 And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444
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There are many parts to a healing journey during and after separation and divorce. That's why I started this healing series and here is part 4. So manke sure to check out the previous 3 and the introduction to the series in episode 83. Having high or unrealistic expectations of ourselves and others can really get in the way of the healing journey because you are essentially giving your power (and peace of mind) away to the person you expect something from. And for self-expectations - they are often tied to how we want others to react based on our actions etc. All in all it's a messy business that can cause us a lot of pain. So let's dive into this together and as always I will have some great insights and tools for you.
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RE-LAUNCH OF RISING FREE Divorce Support Community - Join the waitlist now to be the first to know about all the launch specials and events.Join our 2025 retreat in Costa Rica, Feb. 22 - March 1, 2025 https://www.theseparationclub.com/costa-rica-retreat BUY THE BRAND NEW JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journalI would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coachingAlso make sure to download the Free Separation Checklist: https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklistJoin the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce.And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444 -
Grief after a divorce can be particularly intense and persistent, and many people find themselves stuck in their grief and ruminating on the past for several reasons.
Loss of IdentityEmotional AttachmentUnresolved IssuesFear of the FutureHabitual Thinking PatternsSocietal and Cultural InfluencesLINKS MENTIONED AND MORE
The Healing Heart: https://www.theseparationclub.com/healingheartJoin our 2025 retreat in Costa Rica, Feb. 22 - March 1, 2025 https://www.theseparationclub.com/costa-rica-retreat BUY THE JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journalI would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching Download the free Separation Checklist with all the important first steps as you embark on this journey https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklistJoin the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce.And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444 -
Last week I talked about understanding and healing our pain story. This week I am talking about the inward journey mentioned last week. It’s a journey that is crucial to our healing and self-discovery journey available to us during and after a divorce.
Healing after a divorce is a deeply personal and multifaceted journey that involves emotional, mental, and sometimes physical and spiritual practices. Here are several strategies and practices to help you turn inward and find healing:
Emotional healing and mental/cognitive healing are closely related but distinct aspects of overall psychological well-being. Understanding the differences between the two can help in addressing each area more effectively.
Emotional healing deals with processing and releasing emotional pain, while mental/cognitive healing focuses on reshaping thought patterns and improving mental clarity. Both are essential for overall psychological well-being, and integrating practices from both areas can lead to more effective and holistic healing.
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Sign up to be the first to know about the August 1st re-launch of the Rising Free divorce support community happening this summer www.theseparationclub.com/rfwaitlistThe Healing Heart: https://www.theseparationclub.com/healingheartJoin our 2025 retreat in Costa Rica, Feb. 22 - March 1, 2025 https://www.theseparationclub.com/costa-rica-retreat BUY THE JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journalI would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching Download the free Separation Checklist with all the important first steps as you embark on this journey https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklistJoin the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce.And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444 -
We all carry a painstory, a personal narrative shaped by our experiences of trauma, loss, and hardship. Understanding and acknowledging this painstory is crucial for healing after significant life events such as divorce, loss, or abuse. By exploring the origins and impact of our pain, we can begin to unravel the emotional knots that bind us to the past. This process of self-awareness allows us to identify patterns of suffering, recognize triggers, and gradually disempower the pain that has accumulated over time. Through compassionate self-reflection and acceptance, we can transform our painstory from a source of ongoing distress into a catalyst for growth and resilience, fostering a deeper sense of inner peace and emotional freedom.
Triggers of the Pain-Body:
Negative Thoughts and Emotions: Negative thoughts and emotions can feed the pain-body, causing it to grow stronger and more influential over an individual's state of mind and behavior.Relationships: Close relationships, particularly those involving conflict or intense emotional interactions, can activate the pain-body.Stressful Situations: High-stress circumstances or situations can trigger the pain-body, bringing old emotional wounds to the surface.Healing the Pain-Body:
Awareness and Presence: The first step to healing is to become aware of the pain-body's presence. Recognizing when it is active allows an individual to disidentify from it. Practicing presence and staying in the "now" reduces the pain-body's power.Observation Without Judgment: Observing the pain-body without judgment or reaction can weaken it. By acknowledging its presence without engaging with it emotionally, an individual can prevent it from gaining more energy.Acceptance: Accepting the pain and understanding it as a part of the human experience can help in the healing process. This acceptance involves not resisting or trying to escape the pain, but rather allowing it to be without feeding it further.Inner Body Awareness: Focusing on the physical sensations in the body can help in grounding and staying present. This practice can diminish the influence of the pain-body.LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE
Sign up to be the first to know about the August 1st re-launch of the Rising Free divorce support community happening this summer www.theseparationclub.com/rfwaitlistThe Healing Heart: https://www.theseparationclub.com/healingheartJoin our 2025 retreat in Costa Rica, Feb. 22 - March 1, 2025 https://www.theseparationclub.com/costa-rica-retreat BUY THE JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journalI would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching Download the free Separation Checklist with all the important first steps as you embark on this journey https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklistJoin the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce.And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444 -
**INTRODUCTION TO SUMMER HEALING SERIES**
I am really excited to bring you this healing series. I will be talking about what holds your healing back and what can make it happen faster. It's kind of the same thing. A true lesson in perspective.
So, join me for this illuminating, healing and potentially transformational summer series.
Today is the introduction to the series and I will be touching on the following six areas of discussion that are coming up.
Identifying with the pain story Grief/loss and ruminating on memoriesInward focus - A self-discovery journeyUnrealistic and unmet ExpectationsYour fear storyLack of planning for the futureI am also relaunching the Rising Free membership community. I took a hiatus and restructured to meet your needs better. I'm so excited to bring you a whole new experience and support opportunity as you navigate your separation and divorce.
The launch date is July 1st, but make sure to sign up for the waitlist (see below) so you will be the first to know about launch specials, discounts and other exciting events.
Also make sure to check out our upcoming retreats that also provide an opportunity to do this work in person with me and other women exactly like you. Something so powerful happens when women gather to do this work.
Upcoming retreats:
Umbria, Italy, June 22-29th, 2024 - https://www.theseparationclub.com/italy2024 Ontario, Canada, Sept. 12-15th, 2024 - https://theseparationclub.com/lake-retreat Nosara, Costa Rica - Feb. 22 - March 1, 2025 - https://www.theseparationclub.com/costa-rica-retreatUpcoming retreats:
🇮🇹 Umbria, Italy, June 22-29th, 2024 - https://www.theseparationclub.com/italy2024 🇨🇦 Ontario, Canada, Sept. 12-15th, 2024 - https://theseparationclub.com/lake-retreat 🇨🇷 Nosara, Costa Rica - Feb. 22 - March 1, 2025 - https://www.theseparationclub.com/costa-rica-retreat*JOIN THE RISING FREE WAITLIST* : https://www.theseparationclub.com/rfwaitlist
OTHER RESOURCES:
BUY THE BRAND NEW JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journalWork with me - https://www.theseparationclub.com/coachingFree Separation Checklist: https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklistJoin the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 and @thejoyjournal444 -
Getting through divorce without feeling like you’re losing your mind, sanity and self-respect
Stop caring what others thinkStop caring about whether others think you are right or justifiedFirst - We need to get solid with our core values.
What are our values?Are we making decisions that are aligned with them?Second - If you don’t feel good then you are out of alignment with your values, beliefs or boundaries
Values - example: integrity, kindnessBeliefs - What you have been taught to believe vs. what is real and what is fearBoundaries - what are your boundaries? Why are you reacting to this in this way? What feels wrong? DO NOT PLAY THIS DOWN AND MINIMIZEThen we need to stop caring what others think
Everyone walks through life with their own set of beliefs, values, issues, wounds, fears etc - we will call it our bag of goods.And then they impose their opinion based on this foundation or framework. The advise is always what “they would do” in your shoes. But first, they don’t know unless they have walked the same path. And second, they are giving advise based on their own personal bag of goods.When I became a parent which is often the first time we really start reaching out for advice - I made sure to ask someone who parented the way I would like to. Who had similar values and who cared about me from an unselfish place.The other thing to be mindful of is how you ask questions or what questions you ask.What would you do?Instead: What are some things you would suggest I consider?Knowing what you know about me and the situation, what stands out that I might not be seeing.In this way you are asking more general opinion questions that can help you with your decision instead of asking them “what you should do”.I found it the most helpful when I had friends who would let me unload my mind and vomit my thoughts and then maybe ask a few questions while I was still ruminating. Very often, more often than not, I would answer my own question by the time I was done talking or venting.And finally - stop caring about being right
Being right or wrong lives inside our ego identity. It’s us wanting the world to know the truth. We want to scream from the roof tops, yell on social media and tell everyoneAsk yourself why? Why does it matter that they “know the truth”? What is the real benefit in that? Who stands to gain from this knowledge?LIKS MENTIONED AND MORE
I would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coachingDON’T MISS THE ITALY RETREAT: Step into a dream and join us in Italy June 22-29th for a week of sisterhood, Italian wine and ancient towns with cobblestones and beautiful shops selling olive oil and pottery. It's the ultimate girls' trip https://www.theseparationclub.com/italy2024 EARLY BIRD PRICING IN EFFECT. Join our 2025 retreat in Costa Rica, Feb. 22 - March 1, 2025 https://www.theseparationclub.com/costa-rica-retreat BUY THE BRAND NEW JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journalAlso make sure to download the Free Separation Checklist: https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklistJoin the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce.And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444 -
Anger is a massive emotion that can take us over and make us do and say things we later regret. Most of us have also been subjected to other's angry outbursts. But anger can also be a productive and constructive emotion that can move your healing forward, empower you and help you gain confidence. Join this conversation to learn how.
You will also hear me talking about the upcoming group coaching experience that starts on May 13th. I am so excited to be running a course again as it has been almost a couple of years since the last one. This is different and has been created to embrace the new times that are present since the grip of Covid ended.
It's called THE HEALING HEART:
https://www.theseparationclub.com/healingheart
During the 6 weeks we will:
Understand the source of your pain - it might not be as obvious as it seemsConnect with your inner story and being honest about what we are saying to ourselvesThe biggest thing that holds us back is fear. We will work on letting go of fear and empower ourselves and each other to let go of our inner victim. We all have one.Now you are ready to let go of your inner victim and to release your old pain story.It’s time to rewrite the storyAnd then we celebrate and make plans.HOW?Mindfulness practices like meditation, visualization and pranayama (breathwork).Group conversations, Q&A and relevant exercises.Worksheets and other suggested "homework" activities.You will walk away from this experience feeling stronger, happier and more confident as you continue to navigate your divorce and life in general.
WHY GROUP COACHING?Some might feel hesitant to put themselves out in a group, but it is exactly the group dynamic that is so powerful. Knowing you are not alone, and having the support and friendship of others who are on the same journey is incredibly powerful.
We will put the techniques you learn into practice during group coaching sessions. This is a safe place where everyone is working on their own self-love journey.
AND JUST FOR THE NEXT 48 HOURS: Enhance your experience by having a coaching session with me before we get started (May 13th) so I can help set you up for success and hit the floor running.
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The Healing Heart: https://www.theseparationclub.com/healingheartDON’T MISS THE ITALY RETREAT: Step into a dream and join us in Italy June 22-29th for a week of sisterhood, Italian wine and ancient towns with cobblestones and beautiful shops selling olive oil and pottery. It's the ultimate girls' trip https://www.theseparationclub.com/italy2024 EARLY BIRD PRICING IN EFFECT. Join our 2025 retreat in Costa Rica, Feb. 22 - March 1, 2025 https://www.theseparationclub.com/costa-rica-retreat BUY THE BRAND NEW JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journalI would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coachingReceive our new and free Monthly Moon Journey Calendar showing you how to work with the phases of the moon and each phase’s unique energies to create the life you want. https://www.theseparationclub.com/moonAlso make sure to download the Free Separation Checklist: https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklistJoin the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce.And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444 -
Today I talk to you about the various wounds and pain we feel as a result of divorce. And more importantly I want to help you heal it and move forward.
Sometimes I feel like I shouldn’t talk about the pain because it keeps it alive, but I also know that it is alive and well in you and in order to get over it and move forward we do have to feel it. So let’s find a constructive way to deal with and understand what we are feeling so we can let go of feeling this way.
One of the traumas or challenges I have dealt with in my personal life is what has inspired this episode. It’s my own abandonment wound and I am going to start sharing more about this here with you because I believe so many of you also deal with this. And if you didn’t have it before your marriage then you likely do now. But I will say that in most cases it already existed prior to this relationship - so there’s that.
So join me for this new episode and important conversation about your healing regardless of whether it is from your divorce, family, and work relationships or any other relationships.
This episode is brought to you by a brand new course or program in The Separation Club - The Healing Heart
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The Healing Heart: https://www.theseparationclub.com/healingheartDON’T MISS THE ITALY RETREAT: Step into a dream and join us in Italy June 22-29th for a week of sisterhood, Italian wine and ancient towns with cobblestones and beautiful shops selling olive oil and pottery. It's the ultimate girls' trip https://www.theseparationclub.com/italy2024 EARLY BIRD PRICING IN EFFECT. Join our 2025 retreat in Costa Rica, Feb. 22 - March 1, 2025 https://www.theseparationclub.com/costa-rica-retreat BUY THE BRAND NEW JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journalI would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coachingAlso make sure to download the Free Separation Checklist: https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklistJoin the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce.And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444 -
LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE
ITALY RETREAT: Step into a dream and join us in Italy June 22-29th for a week of sisterhood, Italian wine and ancient towns with cobblestones and beautiful shops selling olive oil and pottery. It's the ultimate girls' trip https://www.theseparationclub.com/italy2024 EARLY BIRD PRICING IN EFFECT. Join our 2025 retreat in Costa Rica, Feb. 22 - March 1, 2025 https://www.theseparationclub.com/costa-rica-retreat BUY THE BRAND NEW JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journalI would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coachingReceive our new and free Monthly Moon Journey Calendar showing you how to work with the phases of the moon and each phase’s unique energies to create the life you want. https://www.theseparationclub.com/moonAlso make sure to download the Free Separation Checklist: https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklistJoin the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce.And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444 - Mostrar mais
