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Repressing emotions is abuse.
Speaking with clinical psychologist Dr Nathan Baumann today we have a fascinating conversation about the psychology of emotions especially with men and boys.
He talks about how most emotions are not allowed and how that impacts society.
He also talks about what he feels about having no space for emotions like in a lot of boarding schools.
He feels it is emotional abuse.
A fascinating conversation. Very enlightening.
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Dr. Nathan Baumann is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist in Colorado. He has advanced specialization in integrated health care, health psychology, sleep disorders, substance abuse, and sports psychology. His research efforts have focused on health behavior changes over the lifespan and has advanced training in the interplay between physical health, mental health, and environmental factors.Question for Nathan:
I would love for you to share some of your journey. How did you get into the work you now do?The "boys will be boys" way of thinking about the behavior of young boys is holding them to a bar that is too low for them to grow. What needs to happen?Processing and expressing emotions. What can we do to start processing and expressing in a healthier way?
Learning how to process and express emotions is an important part of development - when we reduce boys to only a few emotions, this not only hurts their ability to get their needs met but also makes them less likely to be able to effectively participate in relationships and meet the needs of others. What if these children were told that no emotions were okay? What can we do as men to support boys?
Men are often the worst offenders when it comes to setting and maintaining low expectations for boys - traditional masculine values do not include emotional intelligence or empathy as cornerstones of manhood, so they are often seen as a bonus rather than a requirement. How do we hold men to a higher standard?
Holding men to a higher standard is not erasing masculinity - it is correcting it. It allows for a wider experience of emotions, fewer demonstrations of intimidating anger displays due to a higher tolerance for unpleasant emotions, and overall fewer instances of isolation and improved mental health. Other areas to talk about:FathersPTSD and Complex PTSDAnxietyStress managementDepressionMood disturbances.#mentalhealth #emotionalintelligence
For more information about Dr Baumann please visit: https://www.southpsychology.com/team/nathan-baumann%2C-phd
or email [email protected]
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Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems.
He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man.
He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1
For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross
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For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community
Many blessings,
Piers Cross
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Today I talk about our relationships to emotions at boarding school.
I talk about how we repress them. And the cost of this on our psyches.
I quote from the interview I did a couple of days ago with a clinical psychologist and Nick Duffell.
I also quote from Daniel Kupfermann's book Don't Be So Senstive.
The Emotion Feeling Wheel: https://www.davidhodder.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/10/Emotion-Feeling-Wheel-1-1.jpg
Podcast #97 with Dr Nathan Baumann goes live on Friday 21st June: https://youtu.be/qDmX4FfSF3U
Men's Circle: https://www.piers-cross.com/online-mens-circles---
Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems.
He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man.
He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1
For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross
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For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community
Many blessings,
Piers Cross
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Today I wanted to offer some reflections about emotional flashbacks.
Pete Walker talks about how these emotional triggers and reactions are a symptom of complext PTSD.
I used to struggle with emotional flashbacks regularly.
Today I talk about some of the examples from my own life.
I also talk about how to deal with these flashbacks and I link it to Pete Walker's 13 Ways of Dealing With Flashbacks:
http://pete-walker.com/pdf/13StepsManageFlashbacks.pdf
I also talk about Dr Claudia Gold's interview here:
https://youtu.be/3m2ZM5T0P_8?si=JWmL6MVm7IHrepXv
Take care,
Piers
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Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems.
He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man.
He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1
For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross
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For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community
Many blessings,
Piers Cross
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In today's video I talk about how important it was for us to be liked at boarding school.
If we weren't liked, we were often sent to coventry. We were banished.
Richard Beard in his book Sad Little Men, talks about how on any given year group there was alway one 'custos' - the outcast.
If you couldn't see the 'custos' then it was you.
I talk about compliers and people pleasers.
And how dangerous it was not to be liked at boarding school.
We couldn't just go home at the end of the day. If we weren't liked it followed us everywhere.
I talk about how controlling we can become as adults, following the rules that we learned at school.
If we are in politics or the bar or the corporate this often works as these systems were modelled on the boarding school world.
But in family life this can cause chaos.
I talk about what you can do to heal this.
Take care,
Piers
To support the new film: https://www.piers-cross.com/boarding-school-film
For the last podcast #96 about Trauma and Illness and the path to recovery: https://youtu.be/Uda5CTZTn1Q---
Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems.
He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man.
He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1
For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross
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For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community
Many blessings,
Piers Cross
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In today's episode I talk about fear and boarding school.
I talk about some of my own experiences of school and how I felt that I was in fear a lot of my time.
I talk about some of the fear-based beliefs I left boarding school with:
- Fear of making mistakes
- Fear of getting close to others
- Fear of being ostacized
- Fear of failure
I share some of Bear Gryll's experiences of fear at boarding school.
#trauma #hypervigilance #fear #beargrylls
Take care,
Piers---
Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems.
He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man.
He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1
For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross
For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic
For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community
Many blessings,
Piers Cross
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Today's fascinating episode is with Keith Day exploring trauma and how trauma can impact us physically.
Keith struggled with trauma as a child and got a diagnosis of neuropathy as an adult after suffering painful symptoms.
In this podcast Keith explores some of his journey through these physical illnesses and how he started to recover.
We also talk about mental resilience and how to cultivate mental strength.
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Keith Day is a dedicated thought leader with two decades of personal experience battling peripheral neuropathy. He is the founder of Neuropathy Truth and has spent ten years as a speaker, educating and consulting with medical providers and patients alike. He is an expert in trauma and how we recover.Questions for Keith:
Could you please talk about how you got into the work you are now doing?What is trauma? How does it effect us symptomatically?How does trauma impact health?Could you please talk about your own journey toward healing and growth?How did you develop mental strength and mental resilience?Anything you would like to share about trauma recovery?Could you please speak to post-traumatic growth?#neuropathy #physicalillness #trauma #postraumaticgrowth
To find out more about Keith please visit: https://www.linkedin.com/in/keith-day-b8a803279/
And his website: www.neuropathywarrior.com
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Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems.
He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man.
He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1
For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross
For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic
For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community
Many blessings,
Piers Cross
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I have felt pretty shocked listening to reports about the Blood Scandal.
I was horrified to hear what had happened at the boarding school, Treloar's where many people died.
It is another cover up.
Grenfell Tower, Windrush, Post Office Enquiry, Hillsborough...
Repeated calls for justice and recognition were ignored for years.
In today's podcast I talk about cover ups and the psychology of where many of our leaders learned to cover up, to hide, to mask the truth.
I draw upon the briliant work of Caroline Elkins and her book Legacy of Violence, about the British Empire, Nick Duffell's Wounded Leaders and Will Hutton.
Take care, Piers
hashtag#bloodscandal hashtag#coverup hashtag#boardingschool hashtag#colonialism---
Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems.
He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man.
He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1
For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross
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For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community
Many blessings,
Piers Cross
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What is the government doing regarding mandatory sexual reporting?
After £200 million spent on IICSA, Independent Inquiry into Child Sexual Abuse, what has been the outcome?
Today's conversation is with two of the leading voices campaigning against child sexual abuse.
Lawyer and partner, Dino Nocivelli and author, Alex Renton.
What does this new amendment mean?
And what can you do?
To find out more about Voices Unbound please visit: https://voicesunbound.org.uk/
And Mandate Now: https://mandatenow.org.uk/
For the lastest article from Mandate Now about the new legislation: https://mandatenow.org.uk/the-governments-useless-child-sexual-abuse-reporting-law/
And this is the letter/ press release that you can send to your local MP: https://voicesunbound.org.uk/current-campaigns/Alex Renton is a writer and journalist whose career has ranged from arts and food writing to politics and the investigation of child abuse. His career as a war reporter and development worker took him to the Middle East, Africa, East Asia and the Balkans. He has worked for The Independent, The Times, Newsweek, and the London Evening Standard and contributed to a host of other newspapers and magazines. He is also the author of the e-book Planet Carnivore: how cheap meat costs the earth (Guardian Shorts, 2015).
Dino Nocivelli is a partner in the abuse department at Leigh Day law firm and joined the company in 2022. Dino specialises in actions for child sexual abuse survivors. Dino has appeared in a significant number of media publications providing his expert opinion and commentary, including among others the BBC, ITV and the Guardian. He has also provided evidence to the Independent Inquiry into Child Sexual Abuse (IICSA).
Questions for Alex and Dino:
What's happening with regards the mandatory reporting, IICSA and the Criminal Justice Bill?
The government came out with the latest ruling regarding mandatory reporting last week. What was changed?Alexis Jay, the head of IICSA said that she was deeply disappointment by the new bill. Do you agree. If so why?“The measures are a sham – worse than useless: this legislation will put back the cause of getting good law in place to protect children today in any institution, from schools and care homes to hospitals and sports clubs.” Voices Unbound What can we do to turn this around? Who can we contact or speak to?---
Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems.
He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man.
He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1
For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross
For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic
For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community
Many blessings,
Piers Cross
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What does a trauma-informed healthcare system look like? Do we currently have that in the UK? And if not what can we do to start to implement this?
Today I am speaking with award winning clinical psychologist, Dr Karen Treisman about becoming trauma-informed not just in healthcare but also in the education system.
We talk candidly about her work with looked after children in care and fostering and the cross over to boarding school.
And how do we heal?
A fascinating and inspiring conversation.
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Dr Karen Treisman, MBE, is an award winning highly specialist clinical psychologist, organizational consultant, trainer, author, and trauma specialist who has worked in the NHS (National Health System) and children’s social services for several years.
Karen has also worked cross-culturally in both Africa and Asia with groups ranging from former child soldiers, asylum-seeking young people, to those living with HIV/AIDS, and to survivors of the Rwandan Genocide. She also is the bestselling author of several books and workbooks,
Questions for Dr Treisman:
How did you get into the work you now do?Could you please talk us through your new book about trauma-informed health care? What did you learn in writing it?Do you feel we currently have a trauma-informed health care system?And if not what do you feel needs to happen?In your book you talk about how “every interaction is an intervention”. Could you please explain what you mean? Could you please talk about parenting and caring for children. What are some of the traumas and attachment difficulties within educational settings?I would love to hear your clinical view of boarding schools?“The parent child connection is the most powerful mental health intervention known to mankind.” Dr Bessel Van Der Kolk. Could you please talk about some case studies where you have seen this.“What children really need is that they need to be held in safe hands, held in thinking minds and they need to be held in regulating bodies.” Could you please talk to this?Other potential areas to talk about:Parenting/caring, Self careRelational trauma requires relational repairOrganisational trauma and betrayal traumaCulturally/adversity/trauma-informed and responsive organisations.Working in Africa and Asia and what you have learnedIt takes a village to raise a child#traumainformed #childhoodtrauma #childparentconnection #boardingschooltrauma
To find out more about Dr Treisman's work please visit: http://www.safehandsthinkingminds.co.uk/
And to find her on social media: Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-karen-treisman-38aa8678/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/dr_treisman
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Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems.
He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man.
He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1
For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross
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For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community
Many blessings,
Piers Cross
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What is good leadership? What makes a great leader? What is a servant leader? And how does boarding school impact our leaders?
Today I am speaking with leadership expert, Zena Me who has worked for decades with CEOs and senior leaders.
She talks about the keys of great leadership: the importance of emotional and spiritual intelligence, humility and serving the wider system.
A really fascinating conversation.
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Zena works with senior leaders, coaches and constellators who want to transform social systems, making them more just, equitable and eco-conscious.
She is an experienced teacher, coach and constellator in the lost art of eldership and leads an online elders community, offering programmes for those who are trapped in mid-life and want to find their unique Eldership niche.
Questions for Zena:
How did you get into the work you now do?In your eyes what is good leadership?Could you please talk about eldership? What does that look like?What is the importance of service, humility, and vision in leadership?Could you please talk about the importance of emotional and spiritual intelligence in leadership?You have worked with many leaders who have been to boarding school. What is their leadership like?What does the future of leadership look like?Could you please talk about telling the truth. Why is this so important in leadership?Could you talk about how ancestral trauma/ the colonial system links into leadership?The importance of accountability.Can we change our leaders?Other areas to talk about:CommunityRites of passageVision13. How do people find out more about you?
#leadership #trauma #elders #wisdom #ritesofpassage #greatleadership #jackwelsh #GE
To find out more about Zena's work please visit: https://zename.co.uk/
And to find her on social media: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/zename/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/Zenamee
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Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems.
He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man.
He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1
For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross
For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic
For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community
Many blessings,
Piers Cross
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A video exploring why it is so important to explore our inner world.
What happens when we explore this unexamined life?
I talk about Pete Walker and his book Complex PTSD, and Robert Bly's Iron John.
Our wound becomes our gift.
Warm regards,
Piers---
Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems.
He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man.
He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1
For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross
For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic
For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community
Many blessings,
Piers Cross
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Following on from last week's video I thought that I would share some of the practices and exercises that bring me joy.
A subscriber commented on my last podcast: https://youtu.be/NGa-UoRhHWg
They mentioned that for some people thinking about what makes them joyful is stressful.
So today I share some of the practices that I have learned that have helped me to cultivate joy and happiness.
Warm regards, Piers---
Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems.
He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man.
He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1
For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross
For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic
For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community
Many blessings,
Piers Cross
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Today I talk about the importance of joy.
When we begin on the journey of childhood trauma healing it can become all consuming.
Life can become really hard - lots of tears, feeling pain.
It can feel overwhelming.
But part of the healing is to remember the joy.
So today I talk about the importance of remembering happiness, gratitude and joy.
Warm regards, Piers---
Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems.
He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man.
He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1
For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross
For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic
For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community
Many blessings,
Piers Cross
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Today I talk about workaholism and childhood trauma.
Why can't you stop working?
Especially if you had experiences of childhood trauma?
I also talk about the link to boarding school.
Why is that many who have been to boarding school are workaholics?
I talk about some of the techniques that we can use to start stopping.
Now.
Take care,
Piers---
Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems.
He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man.
He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1
For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross
For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic
For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community
Many blessings,
Piers Cross
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What is the power of grief?
What if you can't stop crying? Is this normal?
How important is grief on the path to healing?
Today I talk about tears and the importance of crying as we start to heal on the recovery journey.
I share from the work of Pete Walker and Complex PTSD and from Dr Judith Herman and her book, Trauma and Recovery.
Is it important to grieve?
Take care, Piers---
Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems.
He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man.
He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1
For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross
For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic
For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community
Many blessings,
Piers Cross
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Is it common for people who have been to boarding school to have suicidal ideation?
And how many people have actually attempted suicide or taken their own life while at boarding school?
Today I share stories from Richard Branson's autobiography Losing My Virginity, Sir Ranulph Fiennes' Mad, Bad and Dangerous to Know and Roald Dahl' biography.
I also share some quotes from Alex Renton and his book, Stiff Upper Lip and Pete Walker's book, Complex PTSD.
If you are feeling suicidal then please do contact Samaritans in the UK: https://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan/
Or in the US: https://afsp.org/im-having-thoughts-of-suicide/
And for my interview with Charles Spencer: https://youtu.be/NJBGrRdgKm8?si=tXZP5K7rhat1THu3
And for episode #91 with a paediatrician who I went to boarding school with: https://youtu.be/Aa8eicN-G0A?si=x4qbGcVmvcJI-wp6
Take care,
Piers---
Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems.
He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man.
He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1
For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross
For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic
For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community
Many blessings,
Piers Cross
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PLEASE NOTE: We talk about sexual abuse in this episode which some viewers may find triggering.
Today's episode is with author Charles Spencer.
As I was preparing for the interview a line in his book really jumped out: "many of us left Maidwell with demons sewn into the seams of our souls."
What a heart-breaking and powerful turn of phrase.
One that I can really resonate with.
Today he talks about his childhood sexual abuse at boarding school, bullying, his sister, Diana, going off to boarding school and the impact of boarding school on children.And what about the path of healing - what are the therapies and exercises that he has used to start healing? A very touching and powerful testimony to the legacy of boarding schools.
What does he think of under 13 boarding schools?
---Charles Spencer is an author, a broadcaster, a podcaster, a British peer and the younger brother of the late Diana, Princess of Wales. He has recently published a memoir about his time at boarding school called, A Very Private School.
Questions for Charles:
1. I would love for you to share what drew you to write your memoir? Why now?
2. When did you first start to realise the impact that your boarding school experiences had had on you?
3. When you think of Maidwell, what's the one word that comes to mind?
4. In your interview with Laura Kuenssberg you mentioned how your sister, Diana, said to your father when she was left at boarding school, “If you loved me, you wouldn't leave me here” How did your sister leaving for boarding school impact you?
5. “What we suffered was not just a separation from all that we knew and loved, but an
amputation. ...it lacked the most important quality of a home: it was without love.”(P.9)
How did it impact you, to be without love?
6. The physical violence. What went on at Maidwell regarding physical violence and
discipline? (P.68) (P.87)
7. “To keep his abusive system intact, Jack relied on concealment, collusion and cunning.” (P101) Could you please explain?
8. Bullying. Could you please talk us through some of the bullying you experienced and
witnessed? (P.189-199)
9. Sexual abuse. If you feel comfortable to share, what happened when you were 11? (P.206-216)
10. The political ramifications. How might the decision making of leaders who have been to these schools be affected?
11. “Fascinating aberration” (P.6) What do you feel about boarding now? Do we need to open a debate into this practice? Do we need to abolish early boarding? What are your thoughts?
12. Other topics to talk about:
1. Showing emotions or “blubbing” (P.62)
2. Abandonment (P.64)
3. “I had been sent away because I had somehow fallen short as a son.” (P.107)
4. Making yourself sick in order to get an adult to show me warmth and sympathy (P.108---
Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems.
He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man.
He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1
For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross
For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic
For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community
Many blessings,
Piers Cross
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Today I wanted to offer a review of Charles Spencer's new book, A Very Private School.
I spoke to Charles on Monday on my podcast which will be going live here on Friday: https://youtu.be/NJBGrRdgKm8
It was a really great conversation where Charles was very open about his boarding school experiences talking about sexual abuse, bullying, corporal punishment, his sister, Diana Princess of Wales and the ending of early boarding school.
Here I talk about some of the quotes and segments of the book that really stood out for me.
For last week's podcast with a paediatrician who I went to boarding school with please find it here: https://youtu.be/Aa8eicN-G0A
#charlesspencer #boardingschool #boardingschoolsyndrome #averyprivateschool
Take care, Piers---
Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems.
He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man.
He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1
For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross
For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic
For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community
Many blessings,
Piers Cross
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PLEASE NOTE: We talk about suicide and sexual abuse in this episode which some viewers may find triggering.
What was it like at Piers' boarding school? Today we talk to a man who lived in the same boarding house as Piers, the host of this podcast, for 7 years.
Today Dr William Verling, who is a consultant paediatrician, talks about what boarding school was like for him.
He also looks at it from his medical background – was there pastoral care, and safeguarding at this school?
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Dr William Verling is a consultant paediatrician who has worked as a doctor for over 20 years. He is the creator of a new app to improve patient experience, the founder of ParentMed, a training resource for new parents and the lead for Chill, Dorset, a not-for-profit organisation that uses cold water therapy to help people with anxiety and depression.
Some questions for Will:
I would love for you to share a little about what got you into the work you now do?You work as the safeguarding lead for your hospital. With the information you now know what is your honest opinion about our boarding school?If you were to sum up your boarding school experience in one word what would it be?Could you please talk about your experiences of boarding school. What was the food, and environment like?Could you please talk about the imposter syndrome. How does that relate to boarding school?How has boarding school impacted you as an adult?Others areas to talk about:Voldemort and the horcruxesSackler and the empire of painCH – death and griefCH – how emotions were receivedCH – bullyingDuplicityCH – Rick's death. What happened?Physical and emotional neglectCH – paedophilesLeadershipSelf-hatred#safeguarding #boardingschoolsyndrome #abuse #pastoralcare #boardingschool
To find out more about Will's work:
Parentmed: https://parentmed.co.uk/
Chill: https://chilluk.org/
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Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems.
He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man.
He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1
For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross
For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic
For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community
Many blessings,
Piers Cross
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Next week I am interviewing Charles Spencer on my podcast which I am really excited about.
Today I talk about the interview and his excellent new book, A Very Private School.
To purchase a copy please visit: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Audible-A-Very-Private-School/dp/B0CKWD9Z6M/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3V69A41C2I6FX&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.KaA-g5hp1wccFRcaTahrVm0PzjF8WjkORiLbDQLS7x_oEEqNtDhvQuMStb40qY6Km9SVXOSqLffeVOZbiknegzqzff4LnhjqqT54LsOyrmWdzYzvHXngOxwm3YJS5EuvoeIY9h1W6r5B3RSWEvIUVQ.7oesmfoNitXYIPxItTHs28QMgT0zTRdT6bLorSTjziA&dib_tag=se&keywords=charles+spencer+a+very+private+school&qid=1710925901&sprefix=char%2Caps%2C2312&sr=8-1
Warm regards,
Piers---
Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems.
He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man.
He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1
For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross
For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic
For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community
Many blessings,
Piers Cross
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