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In this episode I share my personal experiences and insights on how and why ADHD can create challenges in maintaining interpersonal relationships.
Key Takeaways:
Friendships can evolve and change over time.It's important to communicate expectations in friendships.Emotional dysregulation can impact relationships.Honesty is crucial in neurodivergent friendships.Small gestures can have a big impact.Being late is a common understanding among friends.Neurodivergent friendships often lack judgement.Growth and change are natural in friendships.Have you got a story or topic you would like to share? Get in touch with me via Instagram, I’d love to chat and continue the conversation.Also, if you wish to show your support for the podcast, you can rate it on Spotify or leave a review on Apple Podcasts. This way more people can find us and our Divergent AF community can grow.
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In this solo episode I discuss the “Rat Park” experiments conducted by psychologist Bruce Alexander in the 1970’s and how the findings expanded traditional theories of drugs and causes of addictions.I draw parallels between the Rat Park findings and the challenges faced by neurodivergent individuals in a neurotypical world, emphasising the need for acceptance and social connection in order for us to thrive.
Key Takeaways:
Connecting with like-minded individuals alleviates feelings of isolation Neurodivergent individuals often feel out of place in society The Rat Park experiments illustrate the importance of the environment in addiction Addiction is influenced by social and environmental factors, not just chemicals Societal norms can create a 'neurodivergent prison' for individuals Connection and acceptance are vital for human well-being Education systems often fail to accommodate diverse learning styles Creating supportive environments can enhance the lives of neurodivergent individualsHave you got a story or topic you would like to share? Get in touch with me via Instagram, I’d love to chat and continue the conversation.
Also, if you wish to show your support for the podcast, you can rate it on Spotify or leave a review on Apple Podcasts. This way more people can find us and our Divergent AF community can grow.
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Resources Mentioned:
Johann Hari, Everything you think you know about addiction is wrong - see more HERE
Professor Bruce Alexander, Addiction: The View from Rat Park - see more HERE
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Join me for Part 2 of my chat with special guest Sociologist and fellow ADHD’er Dr. Natalie Mathews as we delve into the importance of normalising neurodivergent experiences and recognising the finite nature of human capacity.
Key Takeaways:
Understanding mental fatigue is crucial for managing daily life.
The pressure to be productive can be overwhelming.
Neurodivergent individuals often feel they haven't done enough.
Societal expectations can create a burden of productivity.
Understanding mental health requires acknowledging brain differences.
The quest for self-optimization is pervasive in society.
Acknowledging individual differences is often stigmatised.
The impact of executive function affects everyone, not just those with ADHD.
Have you got a story or topic you would like to share? Get in touch with me via Instagram, I’d love to chat and continue the conversation.
Also, if you wish to show your support for the podcast, you can rate it on Spotify or leave a review on Apple Podcasts. This way more people can find us and our Divergent AF community can grow.
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Join me as I welcome special guest Dr. Natalie Mathews, a Sociologist at Massey University and fellow ADHD’er. We discuss and explore the complexities of hermeneutics, identity, and the unique experiences of individuals.
Key Takeaways:
Hermeneutics is about how we make sense of the world
Our identity can be influenced by our interpretations of events and personal experiences
Neurodivergent individuals often perceive situations differently than neurotypical individuals
Executive function challenges are common among neurodivergent individuals
Traditional narratives often fail to capture the complexity of individual experiences
Task switching can be particularly challenging for parents with ADHD
Understanding mental fatigue is crucial for managing daily life
Neurodivergent individuals often feel they haven't done enough
Have you got a story or topic you would like to share? Get in touch with me via Instagram, I’d love to chat and continue the conversation.
Also, if you wish to show your support for the podcast, you can rate it on Spotify or leave a review on Apple Podcasts. This way more people can find us and our Divergent AF community can grow.
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Resources mentioned:
Thinking Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman
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In this episode I share my personal experience with PMDD (Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder). I discuss the symptoms of PMDD, how it exacerbates my ADHD, particularly in emotional regulation and cognitive function, and offer insights into coping strategies that have helped me manage these challenges. I touch on the importance of understanding medication management and the potential dangers of switching medications without proper guidance. I hope that sharing my story serves as a cautionary tale for others navigating similar mental health challenges.
Key Takeaways:
PMDD is an extreme form of PMS that can feel overwhelming PMDD symptoms include severe mood swings and emotional sensitivity PMDD exacerbates ADHD symptoms include severe mood swings and emotional dysregulation Cognitive fog and forgetfulness increase during PMDD phases RSD (Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria) worsens with PMDD It's important to recognize that PMDD is a common issue for women with ADHDHave you got a story or topic you would like to share? Get in touch with me via Instagram, I’d love to chat and continue the conversation.
Also, if you wish to show your support for the podcast, you can rate it on Spotify or leave a review on Apple Podcasts. This way more people can find us and our Divergent AF community can grow.
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In this episode I am joined by fashion vlogger and fellow ADHD’er Rochelle Gallagher @littleblackheartfashion as we discuss the topic of dopamine chasing. We talk about impulsive behaviours, the thrill of shopping, and the rush of starting new hobbies. Our conversation highlights the challenges and complexities of living with ADHD and the need for self-acceptance. Rochelle shares her personal experience with various dopamine chasing activities and both the positive and negative impacts these behaviours have had. We explore the judgement women face for their impulsive behaviour and the role of social media in seeking validation.
Key Takeaways:
Dopamine chasing behaviours can manifest in impulsive actions, such as excessive spending and starting new hobbies. These behaviours can provide a temporary rush of excitement and satisfaction, but may also lead to feelings of guilt or regret. Finding humour and camaraderie in shared experiences can help individuals with ADHD navigate the challenges of impulsivity and dopamine chasing. Self-acceptance and understanding one's own patterns of behaviour are important in managing the impact of dopamine chasing. Alcohol can be a harmful vice for individuals with ADHD, as it can exacerbate symptoms and lead to impulsive behaviour. Finding methods to avoid unhealthy vices is a personal journey, and it may involve different approaches for different activities.Women traditionally may face harsher judgement for their impulsive behaviour in comparison to men
Have you got a story or topic you would like to share? Get in touch with me via Instagram, I’d love to chat and continue the conversation.
Also, if you wish to show your support for the podcast, you can rate it on Spotify or leave a review on Apple Podcasts. This way more people can find us and our Divergent AF community can grow.
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Connect with Rochelle:
Instagram - @littleblackheartfashion
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In this episode, I share a personal story which highlights the strength of hyper-focus in individuals with ADHD. I emphasise that hyper-focus is an often overlooked and under appreciated aspect of neurodivergence. I recount my own experience of having a mystery illness in my child after a trip to Fiji, and the year-long journey to find a diagnosis. I explore the importance of sharing knowledge and experiences to help others in similar situations.
Key Takeaways:
Trust your parental intuition and advocate for your child's health Hyper-focus is a powerful strength of individuals with ADHD that is often overlooked Finding a diagnosis for a mystery illness can be a challenging and emotional journey. Don't be afraid to do your own research and present your findings to medical professionals Seek support and connect with others who may be going through similar experiences Celebrate the small wins and achievements in hyper-focusHave you gone through a similar journey or are wanting more information regarding this topic? Get in touch with me via Instagram, I’d love to chat and continue the conversation. Also, if you wish to show your support for the podcast, you can rate it on Spotify or leave a review on Apple Podcasts. This way more people can find us and our Divergent AF community can grow.
Resources mentioned:
Waikato Health Bulletin, February 2024 – see more HERE Typhoid and Paratyphoid Fever - Part of the Communicable Disease Control Manual - see more HERE.
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In this episode I share my surprise ADHD diagnosis story and the challenges I have faced post diagnosis. I discuss the impact of diagnosis on my identity and my personal difficulties of explaining this to loved ones. I explore the importance of unravelling one's authentic self and embracing who they are, rather than fighting against it.
Personal experience with ADHD diagnosis as a transformative experience ADHD diagnosis providing validation and answers to long-standing struggles Sharing personal experiences of ADHD by helping others recognise their own symptoms and seek diagnosis Unravelling one's identity and embracing their true self as an ongoing process post diagnosis
Key Takeaways:Have you gone through a similar journey or are considering seeking an ADHD diagnosis? Get in touch with me via Instagram, I’d love to chat and continue the conversation.
Also, if you wish to show your support for the podcast, you can rate it on Spotify or leave a review on Apple Podcasts. This way more people can find us and our Divergent AF community can grow.
A Radical Guide for Women with ADHD: Embrace Neurodiversity, Live Boldy, and Break Through Barriers by Sari Solden and Michelle Frank – see more HERE
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In this episode I navigate the raw reality of emotional regulation, especially in the context of ADHD. I open up about my personal battles with emotional spirals and the challenge of finding effective coping mechanisms during some tough nights. I explore the concept of "comfort corners", and how these safe spaces can aid in emotional recovery. I'll also share my experiences with various treatments and why I believe in the power of talking about our feelings.
Join me as I break down the cyclic struggle of managing emotions and seek understanding in our shared journeys.
Key Takeaways:
The impact of direct and hyper focused communication with others, often resulting in feelings of shame and social exclusion Challenges faced by neurodivergent individuals in maintaining surface-level conversations and consistent communication Effect of task-switching difficulties on communication and the potential for misunderstandings Exploration of unconventional love languages such as info dumping and sharing memes Differences in communication preferences between neurodivergent and neurotypical individuals and finding comfort in like-minded groupsHave you gone through similar emotional spirals? Get in touch with me via Instagram, I’d love to chat and continue the conversation. Also, if you wish to show your support for the podcast, you can rate it on Spotify or leave a review on Apple Podcasts. This way more people can find us and our Divergent AF community can grow.
Resources mentioned:
Dr. Russell A. Barkley, Ph.D, an internationally recognised authority on attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD/ADD) in children & adults – see more HERE.
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In this week's episode, I am so excited to be joined by blogger and proud ADHDer David (@DavidTalksADHD). Together we explore fears like scopophobia and social anxiety, and how they affect our daily lives. We also unpack experiences with public speaking, self-sabotage, and the overwhelming pressure of social norms.
From dramatic fainting during presentations to celebrating small victories like ordering pizza, we discuss it all. David also shares information on how certain medications can assist in managing anxiety, and the importance of embracing imperfection and open communication for mental health.
Join us as we explore the journey of overcoming challenges and growing through each experience.
Key Takeaways:
Understanding scopophobia and its impacts on social anxiety Personal experiences and techniques for managing public speaking and nervousness The benefits of certain ADHD medications and exposure therapy in emotional regulation Importance of open communication and accepting imperfections for better mental healthConnection between self-sabotage and perfectionism, and its roots in social differences and shame.
Want to reach out and connect with David or myself? Flick us a DM via the Instagram handles below, we would love to hear from you. Also, if you wish to show your support for the podcast, you can rate it on Spotify or leave a review on Apple Podcasts. This way more people can find us and our Divergent AF community can grow.
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This week I am talking about communication styles, specifically through the lens of neurodivergence. I explore how communication styles often expressed by neurodivergent people can sometimes cause misunderstandings and lead us to shame. You'll hear about my preference for voice messages over text, how I express love/my communication love languages, and the importance of finding people who understand and accept the way in which you communicate.
Join me as I shed light on the often-misunderstood ways we connect with one another.
Key Takeaways:
The impact of direct and hyper focused communication with others, often resulting in feelings of shame and social exclusion Challenges faced by neurodivergent individuals in maintaining surface-level conversations and consistent communication Effect of task-switching difficulties on communication and the potential for misunderstandings Exploration of unconventional love languages such as info dumping and sharing memes Differences in communication preferences between neurodivergent and neurotypical individuals and finding comfort in like-minded groupsDo you have any other communication styles or “love languages” that I didn’t touch on in this episode? Connect with me via my Instagram handle below. And to show your support for the podcast, you can rate it on Spotify or leave a review on Apple Podcasts. This way more people can find us and our Divergent AF community can grow.
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In this first episode of Divergent AF, I explore how chronic shame and society expectations have shaped my experiences. I share how valuable it has been for me to alleviate this shame by being around like minded people and opening up about our challenges. I share a relatable story about misinterpreting "pink shirt day" and how moments like these reveal the silent daily battles many of us face.
Join me as we navigate these complexities together and find strength in our shared experiences.
Key Takeaways:
Exploration of shame and its impact on neurodivergent individuals Personal and societal pressures contributing to chronic shame Importance of community and dialogue in alleviating feelings of shame Insights into dealing with perfectionism and frequent small mistakes Emotional toll of seemingly minor parenting errors and strategies for handling them with humourDid you enjoy this episode? Tune in every Thursday for more, and to show your support you can rate the podcast on Spotify or leave a review on Apple Podcasts. This way more people can find us and our Divergent AF community can grow.
Also, if you’ve got any topics that you would love to hear or overshare, please contact me so that I can cover these with future guests or in solo episodes.
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Welcome to the Divergent AF podcast — a place where you can come to feel seen, understood, and damn good about being yourself. Throughout the podcast, myself and guests will dive deep into the struggles and triumphs of living with neurodiversity. Join us as we explore the vital journey of self-acceptance, the power of connecting with others, and the freedom that comes from breaking societal constructs to overcome shame. You are not broken, you are f'ing brilliant!
