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Episode 17: In this episode, I welcome Coach Melissa to explore the powerful intersection of parts work and motherhood. Through our conversation, we dive into the common struggles working mothers face; from guilt and self-doubt to emotional conflicts, while highlighting how parts work can help integrate these complex feelings.
Stay tuned for a special live demonstration near the end of our conversation, where I step into the role of client. Melissa guides me through a powerful parts work session, revealing the dynamic between my achievement-oriented parts and nurturing mother self. Through this intimate window into the practice, listeners can witness how parts work transforms internal conflicts into understanding, offering practical insights for navigating the complex terrain of motherhood.
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Episode 16: In this episode, I have a fascinating conversation with Elle Dalebroux, a neurofeedback specialist and coach. We dive deep into the world of productivity and explore how our constant striving for "more" can actually backfire, impacting our brains and overall relationships. Elle sheds light on the science behind chronic productivity and how it can negatively rewire our brains. As an expert in neurofeedback, she explains how this rewiring can be addressed and reversed. We also discuss the often-overlooked power of lifestyle changes and creating a healthy balance.
Elle is a neurofeedback specialist and coach dedicated to helping high-achieving individuals with ADHD and anxiety break free from burnout and self-doubt. Through her virtual programs, she combines brain training with neuroscience-backed tools to create lasting, transformative results.
Find her at www.mastermindneuro.com and connect with her on social media: @master_your__mind to learn more about her programs and resources for intentional living and optimal brain health.
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Episode 15: In this episode, I sat down with Danielle, a somatic trauma coach and nervous system mentor, to explore how rest isn't just about recharging, it's about deepening our relationship with ourselves and others. As we discussed, when we're constantly doing, we miss the subtle moments of connection that make life meaningful.
In a world where "chronic doing is giving people chronic disease," we uncover why resting feels scary yet necessary. Through personal stories and honest reflections, Danielle shares how transforming our relationship with rest can revolutionize our connections, our presence, and ultimately, our whole lives.
Danielle Rubio has been helping women all over the world free their wild and harness their joy for over 16 years. After her own traumatic event seven years ago, she took her modalities even deeper and began training in neuro-Somatics, integrative somatic trauma therapy and other body oriented modalities. She went on the develop her own method, the EmbodiedLife Method weaving somatic trauma coaching with ancient eastern mindfulness practices. She awakens women to their own magic, beyond their limiting patterns and beliefs; their anxiety and depletion and guides them to become the best versions of themselves with unshakable ease.
Right now her 1:1 program is at 40% off only until 12/22!! For more info or to apply to work with her, you can find her on IG @awomanreclaimed and send a DM. Reclaim Your Power: Turn Your Chaos into Radiance, the 1:1 program to ditch anxiety and chronic stress for good and create unwavering Ease and joy without antidepressants https://www.danielle-rubio.com/reclaim-your-power For a free EmbodiedMind movement class to soothe your nervous system and restore calm https://www.danielle-rubio.com/free
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Episode 14: In this episode I sat down with Brialle, Somatic Coach and Breathwork Alchemist, to explore how healthy anger can transform your life and relationships. You'll discover how your nervous system responses shape your relationship with anger and learn practical ways to communicate your boundaries effectively. If you've ever struggled with destructive anger or suppressed emotions, this episode will help you understand why.
We unpack how your attachment style influences whether you express or suppress anger, and you'll learn valuable tools for co-regulating in relationships. Through real client stories, you'll see how practicing the 'sacred no' can prevent burnout and resentment. You'll understand that setting boundaries isn't just about saying no - it's about honoring your capacity. Brialle and I explore how embracing your anger, rather than fearing it, can lead to profound personal transformation and more authentic relationships.
Brialle Ringer is a breathwork alchemist, somatic coach, and wellness educator committed to helping change makers lead with greater ease and joy. As a former burnt-out social worker turned healer, Brialle intimately knows what it's like to feel overwhelmed by compassion fatigue, struggling to slow down and rest out of fear that the causes you care about will suffer. After a decade of decolonizing from grind culture, learning to listen to the language of her body, and guiding hundreds of others to do the same– she's a big believer that personal transformation is integral to collective liberation and teaches about the importance of radical self-care for sustainable advocacy. Being guided by Brialle, you can expect to shed the shackles of internalized oppression so you can feel FREE to embody your most loving, liberatory leadership (while having some fun along the way!).
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Episode 13: In this episode, I sat down with dating and relationship coach Liz Harrington to talk about what it means to be a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) in the dating world. If you're someone who feels emotions deeply and gets overwhelmed easily, this episode is for you! We dive into how to navigate dating apps without burning out, what secure love looks like when you're an HSP, and ways to handle conflict when you're sensitive to criticism. Plus, you'll learn the truth about rejection and why it might be protecting you.
Liz is a dating and relationship coach & hypnotist for Highly Sensitive People. She is certified in Integrative Attachment Theory as well as Hypnotherapy and uses subconscious reprogramming techniques to support HSPs in overcoming subconscious blocks so they can call in healthy, soul aligned love. To explore more of Liz’s work, connect with her on:
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Episode 12: In this episode, I explore the fascinating connection between your attachment patterns and your nervous system responses. I'll be discussing how your early experiences shape your relationship patterns – but importantly, these patterns aren't fixed. They're adaptations that helped you survive and connect in your early environments.
When you understand how our survival responses work – fight, flight, freeze, or fawn – you can better grasp why you react the way you do in relationships. For instance, those of us with anxious attachment tendencies might be exquisitely attuned to relationship dynamics, while those with avoidant patterns might instinctively create distance during stress. These aren't character flaws – they're intelligent adaptations your nervous system created to keep you safe.
I share how secure attachment allows for a natural flow of emotions and connection, while other patterns might emerge as protective mechanisms. The beauty is that when you understand these patterns, you can begin to work with them consciously.
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*Poole Heller, D. Healing Your Attachment Wounds. Sounds True.
*Fraley, R. C., Hudson, N. W., Heffernan, M. E., & Segal, N. (2015). Are Adult Attachment Styles Categorical or Dimensional? A Taxometric Analysis of General and Relationship-Specific Attachment Orientations. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 109(2), 354-368.
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Episode 11: In this episode, I sat down with Laura, an energy medicine practitioner and nurse practitioner, to explore the complex connections between energy healing, people pleasing, and setting healthy boundaries. We dove deep into how the energy imbalances we carry can often be traced back to childhood experiences and our tendency to put others' needs before our own.
Laura and I talked about how important it is to love ourselves and trust our gut feelings when it comes to creating boundaries. We also discussed some practical ways to get grounded and daily habits that can help us reconnect with our true selves and feel more in control of our lives.
Laura Rebecca Sanchez is an energy medicine practitioner and trauma-informed nurse practitioner based in Oakland, CA. She is dedicated to guiding others in lasting, holistic healing. Laura’s mission is to support heart-centered individuals in stepping into their power, cultivating inner peace, and reclaiming their unique voice. She is a graduate of UC Berkeley, UC San Francisco, the Academy of Intuition Medicine®, and is now studying sound healing at the Globe Institute. Laura integrates her education and experiences in Western medicine, energy healing, and modern-day mysticism into her writings, workshops, and 1:1 sessions. Follow her on Instagram at @laurarebeccaenergy and www.laurarsanchez.com
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Episode 10: In this episode of Embodied Hearts, I explore the intricate dance of push and pull dynamics in relationships, sharing vulnerable personal experiences and hard-won insights on how these patterns can shape our connections with others. Drawing from both scientific research and lived experience, I illustrate how relationships are an instinctive, often subconscious dance between partners. I stress the importance of both individuals committing to personal growth and mutual understanding, especially when navigating the turbulent waters of conflict and misalignment.
Key Takeaways:
Push and pull dynamics are common in relationships.Curiosity and awareness are key in navigating conflicts.Understanding nervous system responses can improve relationship communication.Relationships evolve and require adaptation over time.About The Self Paced Course Reconnect: Reconnect is my heartfelt creation - a course designed to be a nurturing space for attachment and nervous system healing. It's a digital sanctuary where participants learn the tools to rediscover what it means to feel safe in relationship. Through educational and experiential approaches, you'll gain a deep understanding of your body's signals and learn to build secure connections. This course is your pathway to creating healthy relationships built on trust, mutual understanding, and genuine connection.
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Episode 9: In this episode, I sit down with Robin Burgin, an expert in expressive arts and somatic experiencing. We explore the power of creative healing, diving into how somatics and artistic expression can lead to profound healing and stronger relationships. You will discover the importance of embodied practices, the value of gradual healing, and how understanding attachment styles can improve your connections with others. This conversation is essential for anyone looking to deepen their self-understanding and create more meaningful relationships in their lives. Robin also shares her insightful experience with my course Reconnect, offering a her unique perspective on the course's healing impact.
Robin Rene Burgin, is an Artist and dedicated Somatic Experiencing™ + Expressive Arts Practitioner, who is passionate about guiding holders of space (aka healers, coaches, business owners, directors, and creatives) to unlock the wisdom within their bodies. Through Somatic Experiencing and creative expression, Robin helps individuals break free from limiting patterns, behaviors, and beliefs, fostering a more authentic and fulfilling life. By empowering clients to rediscover their creative ‘voice’, childlike wonder, heal from past wounds, and embrace the full spectrum of human experience, Robin challenges the cultural narratives that often diminish the importance of art and creativity in adulthood. Her ultimate goal is to create a more compassionate, resilient, and vibrant society by fostering a greater appreciation for the transformative power of embodiment and creative expression.
About Reconnect: Reconnect is my heartfelt creation - a course designed to be a nurturing space for attachment and nervous system healing. It's a digital sanctuary where participants learn the tools to rediscover what it means to feel safe in relationship learning what is workable in partnership and what signifies when it's time to walk away. Robin generously shares her firsthand experience with Reconnect, painting a picture of its impact with vivid anecdotes and thoughtful reflections.
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Episode 8: In this episode of Embodied Hearts, I explore the concept of secure attachment, discussing its significance in childhood development and its manifestation in adulthood. I emphasize that secure attachment is innate within all individuals and is shaped by the environment and primary caregivers. The conversation dives into the conditions necessary for fostering secure attachment in children, such as attunement, support for exploration, and the role of parents as safe havens. I also address how secure attachment can be harnessed in adulthood, highlighting the importance of emotional regulation and awareness of one's own needs in relationships.
Key Takeaways:
Secure attachment is innate and shaped by our environment.Attunement to a child's needs is crucial for secure attachment.Repair strategies can foster secure attachment even if parents are inconsistent.Children need a secure base to explore and develop.Our attachment system is a threat response system.✨Let's stay connected:
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Episode 7: In this episode I bring in Hypnotist & Vedic Astrologer Brooke to explore the intricate connections between astrology, particularly Vedic astrology, and attachment styles. We discuss how birth charts can reveal insights into personal attachment systems, the influence of Saturn and the lunar nodes, and how different zodiac signs may exhibit varying attachment styles.
The conversation emphasizes the fluidity of attachment, the importance of communication in relationships, and the potential for healing through understanding one's astrological influences.
Brooke Underwood is a Subconscious Mentor, Hypnotist, and Vedic Astrologer for Visionary Entrepreneurs. She dedicates her life to uncovering what it means to live a superabundant life in alignment with your desires and Dharma (Purpose) while improving focus, willpower, and leadership. She offers rapid healing solutions via subconscious coaching, spiritual healing, and Vedic counseling to aid others in their path of prosperity and inner freedom. You can reach out to Brooke here: @brookeunderwoodenergy
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Episode 6: In this episode of Embodied Hearts, we dive into the complexities of disorganized attachment, a less-discussed attachment style that arises from inconsistent and unpredictable caregiving. I explain how this attachment type manifests in adulthood, highlighting the internal conflicts individuals face between the desire for closeness and the fear of intimacy.
I also explore the impact of childhood experiences on attachment adaptations, the role of the nervous system in emotional responses, and offers practical steps for individuals to reconnect with their bodies and emotions.
Key Takeaways:
Disorganized attachment is often overlooked in discussions about attachment styles.Childhood experiences significantly shape attachment styles, including the influence of fearful or dismissive caregivers.Perfectionism can be a coping mechanism for those with disorganized attachment.Disorganized attachment is not a fixed state; it can change based on relationships and experiences.✨Let's stay connected:
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Episode 5: In this episode, I bring in Relational Mystic Blaise to discuss the topic of conflict avoidance and its connection to attachment wounds.
Blaise possesses a unique talent for unveiling the unconscious, delving into the intricate web of the mind-body connection. Through her intuitive approach and unwavering passion, she empowers women to embark on a transformative journey towards healing and developing authentic, conscious connections in relationships. Her dedication stems from her own remarkable journey of healing, which fuels her passion to guide others on a similar path. You can message Blaise @blossomwithblaise or via email [email protected]
Blaise and I explore how childhood experiences shape how you approach conflict in adult relationships and the impact it has on your sense of self and feeling connected. We touch on the importance of bringing the body into the conversation and listening to its signals. We provide advice on how to navigate healthy conflict, including creating a daily practice of connecting with the body, setting boundaries, and taking pauses to check in with oneself.
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Episode 4: In this episode, I explore the avoidant attachment style adaptation. I discuss the characteristics of the dismissive avoidant and explain how childhood experiences contribute to this attachment style. I also highlight the role of eye contact and the lack of attunement - the ability to read emotions in avoidant individuals. I share personal examples and offer strategies for both avoidant individuals and their partners so they can create a sense of safety and connection.
Takeaways
Avoidant attachment is characterized by a preference for independence and a tendency to withdraw or shut down when feeling encroached upon.Childhood experiences of neglect, rejection, or task-focused parenting can contribute to the development of avoidant attachment.Avoidant individuals often struggle with eye contact and have difficulty identifying and expressing their needs.The concept of the relational field can help avoidant individuals become more aware of the importance of connection.Partners of avoidant individuals can support them by giving them space and time, and by gently orienting them to the relational field.✨Let's stay connected:
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Episode 3: In this episode, I bring in Licensed Therapist Cynthia Mach, LCSW, CLC to discuss toxic relationship patterns and how to recognize them in dating and relationships.
Cynthia Mach, LCSW, CLC is a therapist & coach helping millennial women heal to attract healthy love. She combines a solution-focused approach with somatic healing methods to help women become more securely attached & confident. She’s currently accepting new clients for psychotherapy (NJ/FL) and coaching worldwide. She also has a FREE weekly newsletter discussing all things psychology, relationships, dating & spirituality. You can check out her page @confidencewithcyn and website www.confidencewithcyn.com
Cynthia and I both work with clients who have anxious attachment styles and focus on helping them heal and feel more secure. We explore the importance of recognizing attachment wounds and how they manifest in relationships. We also touch on how EMDR and somatic experiencing can help clients work through these patterns. Together we point out the behaviors and signals that indicate someone may be avoidant or emotionally unavailable. We also explore why people often overlook red flags in relationships and how to differentiate between compromising and ignoring those red flags. Lastly, Cynthia emphasizes the importance of having a clear vision and list of non-negotiables when dating.
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Episode 2: In this episode, we explore the anxious attachment style adaptation. I discuss how anxious attachment is often misunderstood and pigeonholed as being needy and clingy. I talk about how anxious attachment stems from growing up in an inconsistent or unpredictable environment, which fuels the desire for external relief and regulation. It's vital to understand the connection between attachment and the nervous system, and how shifting mindset alone is not enough to change attachment patterns. In order to shift you have to start learning how to take in more good and learn how to become attuned to the body as a way to move from an anxious attached state to a secure attached state.
Takeaways
Anxious attachment is often misunderstood and labeled as being needy and clingy.Anxious attachment stems from growing up in an inconsistent or unpredictable environment.Understanding the connection between attachment and the nervous system is crucial for shifting attachment patterns.Taking in the good and becoming attuned to the body can help move from an anxious attached state to a secure attached state.✨Let's stay connected:
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Episode 1: Welcome to the first episode of Embodied Hearts! I'm your host, Rachel Staley, LCSW.
In this episode, I introduce myself and share the vision behind this podcast. As a licensed therapist specializing in relational trauma and attachment healing, I bring a rich background in mental health, using proven techniques in somatic experiencing and dynamic attachment repatterning. I also share my personal journey of healing and finding secure attachment, which has fueled my mission to break generational trauma for future generations.
This podcast is designed to help you learn the language of your nervous system so you can heal and begin rewriting the painful stories that impact your relationships. This episode sets the stage for future discussions on attachment styles, trauma, generational patterns, and boundaries, offering a fresh perspective that integrates the nervous system into the conversation about relationships.
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