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About this Episode
Is sex in long-term relationships destined to fade into routine, become awkward, unsatisfying, or quietly avoided? Many couples find themselves sidestepping desire, making silent assumptions, or repeating the same old script while craving deeper connection and renewed excitement. The outcome is often sexual boredom, miscommunication, and a growing emotional distance that affects the entire relationship.
What if the key to lasting passion isn't just about technique? What if it lives in courageous, ongoing conversations about consent, desire, and our evolving needs?
In this episode, listeners are invited into a candid and creative exploration of sexual communication. Consent is reframed as more than a one-time agreement; it becomes a fluid and continuous dialogue that keeps intimacy alive. You'll discover how to make these conversations feel natural and exciting instead of awkward, how to face vulnerability and disappointment with compassion, and how to sustain erotic curiosity over time. Whether you're looking for fresh insight or practical tools to reignite intimacy, this episode offers both inspiration and guidance to help you co-create a relationship that grows with you.
Danielle Harel, Ph.D and Celeste Hirschman, M.A. are thought leaders in the intimate realm. As the founders of the Somatica® Institute of sex and relationship coaching, they have created experiential and relational teaching methods to revolutionize sex coaching and help people transform their sex lives and relationships forever. They are the authors of 3 books and the lead sexologists on a soon-to-be-released UK-based reality TV show. They will enliven and enlighten audiences with talks about everything in the realms of intimacy, sexuality and relationship as well as the power of vulnerable leadership in teaching, business, and in building community.
Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. Episode Highlights06:06 How curiosity, culture, and compatibility shape sexual expression.
10:00 Why a beginner’s mindset matters in long-term sexual relationships.
13:55 Consent beyond “yes” or “no”: Making communication part of attraction.
17:45 Creating safe spaces for sexual self-discovery.
20:23 Building safety when sharing desires.
25:25 Challenging assumptions and resentment in intimacy.
31:16 Discovering turn-ons: Moving past stereotypes to emotional and psychological arousal.
34:48 The power of curiosity, flirting, and non-judgment.
39:47 How to expand erotic menus and blueprints.
41:01 Finding the win-win: Bridging and turn-taking in sexual negotiation.
46:20 Learning to sit with disappointment—acceptance and the reality of relationships.
MentionedSomatica Coach Certification (Somatica Institute link)
Somatica® Sex & Relationship Coach Certification (Somatica Institute link)
Relationship Reboot (Somatica Institute link) (online class)
Making Love Real (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
Coming Together (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
Confidence (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
My Secret Garden (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
ERP 211: How To Get Rid of Shame to Increase Pleasure In The Bedroom – an Interview with Ian Ferguson
ERP 473: How to Experience More Embodied Pleasure Sexually – An Interview with Susan Taylor
Special offer for listeners: Use Empowered30 (gives $30 off Relationship Reboot)
Connect with Danielle Harel, Ph.D and Celeste Hirschman, M.AWebsites: celesteanddanielle.com | somaticainstitute.com
Facebook: facebook.com/somaticainstitute | facebook.com/celesteanddanielle
YouTube: youtube.com/@SomaticaInstitute
Instagram: instagram.com/somatica_institute
TikTok: tiktok.com/@somatica.institute
Connect with Dr. Jessica HigginsFacebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship
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Twitter: @DrJessHiggins
Website: drjessicahiggins.com
Email: [email protected]
If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.
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Ever feel like you and your partner are speaking different languages when it comes to what truly matters? Maybe that seemingly minor argument about weekend plans or household chores is actually a sign of deeper, hidden misalignments. In many relationships, conflicts arise not just because of surface-level disagreements, but also because we haven’t taken the time—or found the right language—to name and share our genuine priorities.
In this episode, you’ll discover practical tools and insightful strategies to help couples identify, understand, and communicate their individual and shared priorities. By exploring the difference between values and priorities, introducing a simple method to measure alignment, and breaking down actionable steps for regular check-ins, this conversation is packed with guidance for strengthening your partnership. Whether you’re seeking more harmony in daily life or aiming for lasting intimacy, this episode provides a roadmap for aligning on what matters most, together.
Nick Brancato is a seasoned personal development coach and educator with over 25 years of experience helping individuals and couples connect, communicate, and thrive. With a master’s degree in education and a background as a Microsoft systems engineer, Nick blends practical tools with data-driven frameworks to guide clients through life’s challenges, including career shifts, financial pressures, and personal growth.
Nick’s holistic process incorporates meditation, guided visualization, and hypnotherapy, emphasizing both emotional insight and actionable steps. By fostering deeper connections and mental clarity, Nick empowers couples to transform tension into trust and misalignment into mutual success, creating lasting, meaningful change in their relationships.
Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. Episode Highlights03:09 Nick Brancato’s journey to relationship coaching and the origins of "Prioritize Us".
06:50 The power of priority alignment and differentiating priorities from values.
10:35 Navigating conflict by understanding differences and looking beyond surface issues.
13:52 Practical tools for identifying, ranking, and comparing priorities in relationships.
17:14 How to use the Total Difference Score (TDS) and the ten core life priorities.
21:01 The importance of individual assessment before sharing priorities with your partner.
27:45 Shifting priorities together and supporting each other’s growth and change.
35:57 Fostering positive daily connection through small, medium, and large relationship check-ins.
39:01 Overcoming overwhelm with decision-making, clarity, and relationship scorekeeping.
43:08 The Swiss Cheese principle.
47:47 Key takeaways and available resources for couples.
MentionedPrioritize Us (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
ERP 243: How To Skillfully Engage In A Conversation To Overcome Conflict In Relationships – An Interview With Kenneth Cloke
Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love
Connect with Nick BrancatoWebsites: nickbrancato.com
Instagram: instagram.com/personaldevcoach
Connect with Dr. Jessica HigginsFacebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship
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Twitter: @DrJessHiggins
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Email: [email protected]
If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.
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What would happen to your family or loved ones if life threw an unexpected curveball tomorrow? Would they feel protected, supported, and prepared, or left to navigate a stressful maze of financial questions and paperwork on their own?
In a world where change is the only constant, financial preparedness is an act of love that too often gets pushed aside for another day. But when the unimaginable happens, being unprepared isn’t just stressful—it can have lasting effects on your sense of security, your relationships, and your peace of mind.
In this episode, you’ll discover how to take control and approach financial planning as a tool for caring for yourself and those you love. With honest stories from personal experience, practical checklists, and expert strategies for navigating life’s transitions like widowhood, blended families, and sudden loss, you’ll learn why clarity is the best gift you can give to your family. This episode offers actionable steps for organizing vital documents, starting tough conversations, and building the kind of foundation that keeps everyone cared for—no matter what the future holds.
Donna Jean Kendrick is a CERTIFIED FINANCIAL PLANNER™ practitioner and founder of Sephton Financial. After losing her first husband suddenly in 2013, Donna navigated widowhood with three young children, inspiring her to support families in transition through financial planning. She is the host of the Wisdom and Wealth Podcast and author of A Guide to Widowhood, and A Guide for Blended Families.
Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. Episode Highlights05:40 Navigating blended family dynamics and the process of adjustment.
13:25 How being financially organized eased the pain of loss.
14:38 The gift of clarity: Preparing financial documents for loved ones.
18:16 Facing the emotional side of financial planning in relationships.
21:57 Practical tips for document organization.
26:22 How to overcome overwhelm and take stock of your finances.
29:06 Building a financial foundation: Net worth, liabilities, and spending plans.
33:50 Finding your system: Partner roles and routines in managing finances.
36:00 Best practices for couples discussing and organizing their finances.
39:21 Joint vs. separate accounts: Customizing financial approaches for couples.
40:35 Planning for retirement and avoiding resentment.
46:07 Financial conversations for new couples and the value of prenuptial agreements.
MentionedA Guide for Blended Families (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
A Guide to Widowhood Workbook (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
Don’t Leave Your Loved Ones Without Answers (webinar link)
Annual Credit Report
Evolve in Love (program)
Connect with Donna Jean KendrickWebsites: donnajeankendrick.com
Facebook: facebook.com/DonnaJeanKendrick
YouTube: youtube.com/@donnajeankendrick
Instagram: instagram.com/donnajeankendrick
TikTok: tiktok.com/@donnajeankendrick
Podcast: open.spotify.com/show/27h7hxaS2YRb2JJz6R4K9I
Connect with Dr. Jessica HigginsFacebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship
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Twitter: @DrJessHiggins
Website: drjessicahiggins.com
Email: [email protected]
If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.
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When love turns toxic, it can be almost impossible to see clearly through the confusion, self-doubt, and emotional chaos that follow. If you've ever found yourself trapped in a cycle of hope, heartbreak, and uncertainty within a relationship, you’re not alone—and there’s a reason why breaking free can feel so overwhelming. The hidden dynamics of pathological partnerships and trauma bonds often keep people stuck, questioning their worth, and struggling to understand why things never seem to get better.
In this episode, listeners are offered insight and validation as the conversation unpacks the complex nature of trauma bonds and toxic relationships. You’ll discover how these destructive patterns form, what psychological traits might make someone more susceptible, and why distinguishing between harmful behaviors and truly pathological intentions is so important. With practical guidance and real-life examples, this episode shines a compassionate light on the path toward healing, empowerment, and, for those who need it most, a way out.
Affectionately known as Dr. Nae, Dr. Nadine Macaluso is a therapist specializing in trauma healing and personal transformation. Her life inspired the character Naomi Belfort in The Wolf of Wall Street. After overcoming personal challenges, she earned a Master's degree in counseling and a Ph.D. in Somatic Psychotherapy. Dr. Macaluso helps individuals recover from trauma bonds, C-PTSD, and shame. She is also the author of Run Like Hell: A Therapist's Guide to Recognizing, Escaping, and Healing From Trauma Bonds.
Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. Episode Highlights06:28 Dr. Nadine Macaluso’s personal journey and the roots of her work on trauma bonds.
09:49 Defining trauma bonds and the role of intermittent reinforcement in toxic relationships.
13:35 Intent, power imbalance, and the pathological partner in trauma bonds.
16:11 Pathological intent vs. reactive behaviors and repair.
19:20 Understanding Cluster B personality disorders and their impact on relationships.
21:23 Empowering the victim over diagnosing the pathological partner.
24:11 Who is most susceptible to trauma bonds?
28:16 Questioning labels: Codependency, attachment, and rethinking victim narratives.
32:34 Attachment styles, developmental trauma, and their role in toxic relationships.
34:31 Cultural myths about love, media influence, and the hope that keeps people stuck.
37:20 Reducing shame, cognitive dissonance, and reconnecting with self.
42:47 The process of leaving: Safety, planning, and overcoming guilt.
44:30 Post-traumatic growth: Finding strength, hope, and empowerment after leaving a toxic relationship.
MentionedRun Like Hell (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
Women Who Love Psychopaths (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
Big 5 Personality Quiz
Essentia’s website (*Affiliate link)
Stratami™ Organic Mattress (This is the mattress we purchased) (*Affiliate link)
Classic REM5 Active Mattress – (The mattress we wish we could have gotten for the cooling feature) (*Affiliate link)
Evolve in Love (program)
Evolve in Love – Next level – Book Your Discovery Call
Connect with Dr. Nadine MacalusoWebsites: drnae.com
Facebook: facebook.com/drnaelmft
X: x.com/i/flow/login?redirect_after_login=%2Ftherealdrnadine
YouTube: youtube.com/c/TheRealDrNadine
Instagram: instagram.com/therealdrnadine
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TikTok: tiktok.com/@drnaelmft
Connect with Dr. Jessica HigginsFacebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship
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Twitter: @DrJessHiggins
Website: drjessicahiggins.com
Email: [email protected]
If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.
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Are you truly alive in your relationships, or just going through the motions? In a world overflowing with distractions, many of us drift into autopilot—checking boxes, chasing benchmarks, and hoping real connection will fall into place. But without genuine presence and intention, lasting intimacy becomes elusive, leaving us depleted, disconnected, and wondering why meaningful fulfillment always seems out of reach.
In this episode, discover how the science of connection can transform the way you approach your closest bonds. Through a blend of psychological insight and practical wisdom, you’ll learn why authentic connection is at the heart of emotional well-being, how to bring mindfulness and curiosity into your daily interactions, and why appreciating yourself and those around you isn’t just nice but vital. Tune in for actionable strategies to break free from autopilot, nurture deeper intimacy, and truly feel alive while you’re living.
Adam Dorsay is a licensed psychologist and host of the notable podcast SuperPsyched. He recently released his book Super Psyched: Unleash the Power of the 4 Types of Connection and Live the Life You Love.
Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. Episode Highlights08:43 The essential role of connection: Defining disconnection in mental health.
11:58 Cultural distractors and the brain’s bias against authentic connection.
15:10 Making mindful choices: Savoring life’s simple moments.
17:31 Beginner’s mind in relationships: Staying curious with long-term partners.
22:18 Experiencing awe: microdosing wonder and expanding consciousness.
25:03 The power of appreciation: How gratitude fuels authentic connection.
27:21 Authenticity, integrity, and the impact on genuine presence.
33:12 The four circles of relating to self and others.
35:47 Aligning choices with your values.
37:39 Simple ways to reconnect with others.
41:26 Reclaiming joy and presence in everyday life.
MentionedSuperPsyched: Dr. Dorsay’s Award-Winning Podcast
Super Psyched (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
Super Psyched (book page)
Emotions: The Data Men Miss | Adam Dorsay | TEDxSantaClaraUniversity (YouTube link) (video)
Friendships in Adulthood: 5 Things to Know | Adam Dorsay | TEDxSanLuisObispo (YouTube link) (video)
How to Fall in Love with Questions (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
Evolve in Love – Next level – Book Your Discovery Call
Evolve in Love (program)
Essentia’s website (*Affiliate link)
Stratami™ Organic Mattress (This is the mattress we purchased) (*Affiliate link)
Classic REM5 Active Mattress – (The mattress we wish we could have gotten for the cooling feature) (*Affiliate link)
Connect with Dr. Adam DorsayWebsites: dradamdorsay.com
Instagram: instagram.com/dradamdorsay
Connect with Dr. Jessica HigginsFacebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship
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Twitter: @DrJessHiggins
Website: drjessicahiggins.com
Email: [email protected]
If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.
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Is your relationship quietly unraveling, and you’re not sure what to do next? Facing the possibility of divorce can feel like your world has been turned upside down, leaving you trapped between fear, uncertainty, and the heartbreak of not knowing what comes next. Too often, couples get lost in a whirlwind of painful emotions, making rushed decisions that can have long-term consequences for themselves, their children, and their extended families.
In this episode, you’ll discover practical tools and compassionate insights designed to support couples sitting at the crossroads of staying together or parting ways. Learn how to recognize the early warning signs of relationship distress, approach difficult conversations with honesty and courage, and understand the deep-seated reasons why so many people struggle to speak their truths. You’ll also find guidance on how to stabilize your emotions, slow down the decision-making process, and move forward, whether by rebuilding your connection or ending things as peacefully as possible. This episode offers hope, clarity, and a path to navigate one of life’s toughest transitions with greater awareness and intention.
Dr. Becky Whetstone is a writer, author, and marriage and family therapist obsessed with relationship dynamics since she was young. She writes in an entertaining and informative way, and after many of her life experiences, she wants to change how we handle marriage, separation, divorce, and post-divorce dynamics.
Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. Episode Highlights03:58 Becky’s story and why she cares about marriage crisis.
10:04 Why support is needed even when divorce is decided.
15:33 Why taking time to calm down matters.
20:19 Warning signs that a relationship is in trouble.
23:27 Hiding unhappiness can hurt a marriage.
25:24 Having hard conversations with your partner.
30:10 Why people avoid talking about problems.
32:49 Facing relationship problems like an adult.
36:20 How attachment styles affect marriage crisis.
39:29 The need for self-work and growing as a person.
42:06 How divorce affects everyone in the family.
46:58 Lessons learned from divorce.
51:01 Where to find help and resources.
MentionedI (Think) I Want Out (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
Uncoupling (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
Facing Codependence (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
ERP 373: How To Embrace Ambivalence When Making Big Relationship Decisions — An Interview With Rachel Zamore
Evolve in Love (program)
Evolve in Love – Next level – Book Your Discovery Call
Essentia’s website (*Affiliate link)
Stratami™ Organic Mattress (This is the mattress we purchased) (*Affiliate link)
Classic REM5 Active Mattress – (The mattress we wish we could have gotten for the cooling feature) (*Affiliate link)
Connect with Dr. Becky WhetstoneWebsites: MarriageCrisisManager.com
Facebook: facebook.com/relationshipcrisismanager
X: x.com/DoctorBecky
YouTube: youtube.com/channel/UCTB7JNDz6Uic8Xtdt_3YMhw
Instagram: instagram.com/doctorbecky/#
TikTok: tiktok.com/@drbeckyatgoodinside?lang=en
Threads: threads.com/@doctorbecky
Connect with Dr. Jessica HigginsFacebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship
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Twitter: @DrJessHiggins
Website: drjessicahiggins.com
Email: [email protected]
If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.
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Do you ever feel like intimacy and sexuality come with a set of rules no one can quite explain, and yet everyone expects you to follow? So many of us find ourselves struggling to meet society’s expectations around relationships, sex, and what it means to be fulfilled, only to discover that the realities of our experiences rarely match the myths we’ve been told. From changing hormones to evolving desires and the pressure to fit into cultural norms, finding authentic connection while honoring our true selves can feel overwhelming and, at times, isolating.
In this episode, we dive deep into the complexities of redefining intimacy and sexuality beyond outdated scripts and rigid expectations. The conversation explores how our needs and desires naturally shift over time, why it’s crucial to look inward and tune into our individual truths, and how to break free from patterns and pressures that simply don’t serve us. Through lived stories, practical insights, and compassionate guidance, listeners are invited to reflect, challenge ingrained beliefs, and embrace the freedom to write their own definitions of love, connection, and well-being, whatever stage of life or relationship they’re in.
Dr. Erika Schwartz is the founder of Evolved Science in New York City, specializing in bio-identical hormone therapy for health optimization, disease prevention, and longevity. With over 30 years of experience, she advocates for a holistic approach to wellness, linking hormones with diet, sleep, and stress management. A best-selling author and expert in functional medicine, Dr. Erika frequently appears in major media and hosts the Redefining Medicine podcast. She is committed to empowering patients and transforming healthcare.
Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. Episode Highlights04:43 The role of individual work in relationship dynamics.
08:06 Integrating holistic health and relationship well-being.
11:59 Challenging cultural myths about intimacy and sexuality.
15:03 Navigating life stages: hormones, relationships, and expectations.
19:48 Breaking away from conventional life paths.
21:06 Exploring sexual fluidity and honoring individual choices.
25:57 The importance of listening to your body and biology.
28:01 Complexities of tradition vs. authentic alignment.
34:59 Embracing change: Letting life and relationships evolve.
47:20 Rewriting relationship commitments and living authentically.
MentionedThe Intimacy Solution (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
The Hormone Solution (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
Redefining Medicine (podcast)
Evolve in Love – Next level – Book Your Discovery Call
Evolve in Love (program)
Essentia’s website (*Affiliate link)
Stratami™ Organic Mattress (This is the mattress we purchased) (*Affiliate link)
Classic REM5 Active Mattress - (The mattress we wish we could have gotten for the cooling feature) (*Affiliate link)
Connect with Dr. Erika SchwartzWebsites: drerika.com | eshealth.com
Facebook: facebook.com/drerika.schwartz | facebook.com/evolvedscience
X: twitter.com/drerika
YouTube: youtube.com/user/DrErika
Instagram: instagram.com/drerikaschwartz | instagram.com/eshealth
LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/erika-schwartz-md-987666 | linkedin.com/company/evolved-science
Connect with Dr. Jessica HigginsFacebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship
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Twitter: @DrJessHiggins
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Email: [email protected]
If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.
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Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.
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Conflict in relationships isn’t just inevitable—it’s normal, healthy, and, perhaps most importantly, an opportunity. Yet, the tension between wanting deep connection and authentic acceptance, while also holding onto individuality, can feel like a tightrope walk. How do couples move beyond judgment and misunderstanding to experience radical acceptance and true intimacy, especially when old patterns, unresolved hurts, and competing needs seem to pull them apart?
In this episode, listeners are guided through the complex terrain of navigating differences in long-term relationships. With practical strategies rooted in attachment science, trauma awareness, and mindful communication, this conversation dives into how curiosity, compassion, and proactive agreements can transform even the most challenging dynamics. Expect actionable insights on building repair after conflict, balancing “me” and “we,” and creating a thriving relationship where both partners—and the partnership itself—can grow. Whether you’re in the thick of recurring arguments or simply seeking a deeper, richer connection, this episode offers real tools to help you rediscover joy, security, and growth together.
Carolyn Sharp, LICSW, is an experienced couples therapist with 25 years of expertise in attachment, neuroscience, trauma, and mindfulness. She helps couples build vibrant, secure relationships through coaching, workshops, and retreats. Carolyn’s passion and extensive training inspire her work in creating joyful, healthy connections. She is the author of FIRE IT UP: Four Secrets to Reigniting Intimacy and Joy in Your Relationship.
Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. Episode Highlights06:14 How Carolyn Sharp found her calling in couples therapy.
09:25 The complexities of long-term relationships and the importance of learning healthy relationship skills.
12:16 Can couples truly grow together without losing themselves?
15:44 How curiosity becomes a secret weapon in relationships.
18:14 Navigating identity and boundaries: Individuality within relationships.
21:29 Understanding the origins of conflict: Attachment patterns and family system dynamics.
26:46 Proactive communication: The importance of planning and ‘owner’s manuals’ in relationships.
33:31 Relationship needs as a third entity: Maintaining the ‘us’ in times of stress.
35:41 Repairing relationship injuries
39:30 Recognizing and addressing unresolved hurt: Signs and solutions.
42:21 Learning how to apologize and repair: Overcoming childhood patterns and building new skills.
47:59 How tiny moments of repair lay the foundation for lasting trust.
MentionedFire It Up (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
Evolve in Love (program)
The Big Leap (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
Essentia’s website (*Affiliate link)
Stratami™ Organic Mattress (This is the mattress we purchased) (*Affiliate link)
Classic REM5 Active Mattress - (The mattress we wish we could have gotten for the cooling feature) (*Affiliate link)
Connect with Carolyn SharpWebsites: carolynsharp.com
Facebook: facebook.com/carolyn.sharp.528
Instagram: instagram.com/secureconnectionscoaching
LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/carolyn-sharp-2948407
TikTok: tiktok.com/@secureconnectionscoach
Connect with Dr. Jessica HigginsFacebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship
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Website: drjessicahiggins.com
Email: [email protected]
If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.
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Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.
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About this Episode
Can you really have it all—an ambitious, thriving career while also nurturing a deeply satisfying romantic relationship? Or does chasing professional success mean sacrificing love and connection at home? For many high achievers, pursuing career goals brings unexpected loneliness, relationship strain, and an exhausting sense of self-abandonment. The pressure to perform at work often leaves little time or energy for building intimacy, leading countless professionals to quietly wonder: Why does succeeding at work come so much easier than succeeding at love?
In this episode, listeners are invited to reexamine this all-too-common belief that career ambition and a fulfilling love life are mutually exclusive. Through frank discussion and real stories, this conversation unpacks the hidden patterns that cause us to disconnect from ourselves and our partners, amidst the demands of professional life. By exploring psychological frameworks, practical strategies, and embodied personal growth, the episode offers actionable insights to help you move beyond self-sabotage, redefine success, and create space for both professional achievement and authentic, secure relationships.
Katarina Polonska is a Science-Backed Relationship Coach, Published Gender Dynamics Social Scientist (University of Oxford M.St), Founder of the Successfully in Love® Method, ex-Regional VP of a global Behavioral Science Firm, and Podcast Host with guests like John Gray, of Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus, NY Times Bestseller Marci Shimoff, and Christina Tracy Stein, daughter of world-renowned Brian Tracy.
As an accredited coach since 2007, she helps ambitious professionals become Successfully in Love®.
Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. Episode Highlights08:35 How high achievers self-abandon for success.
14:42 Debunking the “either/or” myth for career and love.
19:05 Finding balance: Shifting from sacrifice to flow.
27:41 Katarina’s three pillars for relationship transformation.
36:48 Navigating growth: Solo vs. couples work.
43:47 Real-life example of creating change in marriage.
49:07 Resolving self-sabotage and expanding capacity.
MentionedHow to Go From Second-Guessing Yourself, Avoiding Hard Decisions, and Feeling Disconnected To Trusting Yourself, Knowing Exactly What You Want, and Creating Freedom, Trust, Intimacy, and Connection - In 90 Days (video)
Essentia’s website
Stratami™ Organic Mattress
Classic REM5 Active Mattress - (The mattress we wish we could have gotten for the cooling feature)
The SIL (Successfully in Love®) Podcast
The Big Leap (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
Evolve in Love (program)
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About this Episode
Ever feel like you’re going through life with an invisible weight holding you back—old hurts, unspoken fears, or emotional “constipation” clogging your sense of connection with yourself and others? Many of us are conditioned to avoid our discomfort, stuff down our feelings, or simply muscle through, only to discover that real joy and closeness remain just out of reach. The struggle to feel truly seen, cared for, and emotionally vibrant isn’t just personal—it’s a modern epidemic.
In this episode, you’ll discover how to build emotional health and resilience by learning to recognize, honor, and skillfully process your feelings. Through practical analogies—like emotional “potty training”—and grounded, compassionate guidance, you’ll explore why authentic emotional connection is the missing link to deeper relationships and personal well-being. Whether you’re seeking more intimacy, healing old scars, or just want to feel more fully alive, this conversation offers real-world tools and gentle permission to let your feelings move—and gently transform your life from the inside out.
Rachel Kaplan, MA, MFT, is a licensed psychotherapist and host of the acclaimed Healing Feeling Sh*t Show podcast. Kaplan has studied yoga, meditation, and hands-on healing practices in India and Nepal, earned a master’s degree in counseling psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies, and trained in cutting-edge trauma modalities such as EMDR. Her “Inner Talks That Heal” TEDx talk explores the internal relationship between our loving and wounded parts.
Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. Episode Highlights07:49 Rachel’s personal journey of healing.
15:42 Avoidance, dissociation, and the societal struggle to stay present.
17:46 The importance of feeling both pain and growth.
22:52 How to recognize, accept, and let go of your emotions in a healthy way, instead of suppressing or avoiding them.
24:00 How emotional constipation develops: Childhood, suppression, and the need for emotional movement.
30:18 Practical steps to reconnect with and care for hidden or neglected parts of yourself.
37:50 How unmet needs and hidden parts show up with partners.
41:49 Self-responsibility in emotional processing: Navigating attachment styles and reactions.
45:37 Vulnerability, repair, and building emotional resilience in relationships.
51:42 Further resources: Rachel’s book, podcast, and ways to continue learning.
MentionedAuthor Rachel Kaplan introduces FEEL, HEAL, AND LET THAT SH*T GO (*YouTube video)
Feel, Heal, and Let That Sh*t Go (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
The Power of Your Other Hand (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
ERP 346: Accessing Relatedness & The Priority Of Connection — An Interview With Gabriel Kram
ERP 423: How To Transcend Trauma (And The Effects Experience In Relationship) — An Interview With Dr. Frank Anderson
Evolve in Love (program)
Connect with Rachel KaplanWebsites: thefeelingsmovement.com
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About this Episode
Are you feeling disconnected from your own pleasure, physically present but emotionally absent during intimate moments? For many, the path to sexual fulfillment can feel blocked by a haze of stress, routine, numbness, or the pressure to reach a specific end goal. In a world where busyness and performance often take center stage, it’s all too easy to lose touch with the authentic, embodied experiences that deepen intimacy and bring lasting joy to our relationships.
In this episode, listeners are guided through the steps to rediscover and reclaim embodied pleasure in their sexual and relational lives. The conversation dives into practical, somatic approaches that help individuals and couples slow down, tune in, and get curious about what truly makes them feel alive—moving beyond goal-oriented sex to something richer and more connected. Expert insights and real-life stories illuminate how noticing sensations, embracing vulnerability, and practicing new skills can unlock not just sexual satisfaction but a greater sense of confidence, communication, and intimacy overall.
Susan Morgan Taylor, MA, is a leading somatic sex therapist who helps couples deepen their intimacy and create lasting, fulfilling connections. With over 25 years of experience in somatic healing, she developed The Pleasure Keys Process™, a powerful approach to reigniting sexual and emotional harmony in relationships. After a personal awakening from a sexless marriage, Susan became passionate about helping others remove obstacles to pleasure, love, and orgasm. She is also the creator of the Pleasure Keys Retreats and host of the Sex Talk Café Podcast. When not working, she enjoys hiking and singing karaoke in the mountains of Western North Carolina.
Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. Episode Highlights03:49 The role of somatic awareness in sexual connection.
09:18 Unlocking the first step toward pleasure.
13:53 Susan’s personal journey from sexless marriage to full-body orgasm.
19:13 Overcoming tension and numbness to rediscover sexual sensitivity.
22:55 Redefining orgasm: Moving beyond the goal-oriented experience.
27:11 Embracing discomfort and obstacles to deepen intimacy.
35:29 Notice, name, negotiate: a framework for couples facing sexual mismatch.
37:45 Radical accountability and communication in sexual relationships.
43:09 Prioritizing pleasure: initiation, desire, and direct versus indirect routes.
47:30 How direct pleasure sensitivity impacts every area of life.
52:01 Understanding polarity, giving and receiving, and closing reflections.
MentionedThe Pleasure Keys eBook (link) (ebook)
ERP 287: How To Engage In The Art Of Giving And Receiving: Using The Wheel Of Consent – An Interview With Dr. Betty Martin
Evolve in Love (program)
Connect with Susan TaylorWebsites: pathwaytopleasure.com
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Podcast: sextalkcafe.net
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About this Episode
In many relationships, there's an ongoing struggle to balance personal growth with relational harmony, often leaving couples feeling stuck and disconnected. The issue at hand is not just about communication or compatibility—it's about understanding and nurturing the deeper psycho-spiritual connection that binds two individuals.
In this episode, we dive into the essential pillars that can positively transform your relationship from a psycho-spiritual perspective. We'll explore how being responsible for your own happiness sets the stage for healthier dynamics, the importance of viewing friction as an opportunity for growth, and how prioritizing your relationship can foster a secure, joyful bond. Moreover, by examining the potential for purpose both individually and as a partnership, this discussion offers tangible insights and spiritual practices to help you create a more meaningful and fulfilling connection with your partner.
Rachel Glik is a licensed professional counselor with 30+ years as a couples and individual therapist in private practice. Since 2014, she has been a regular feature on the Fox 2 AM show in St. Louis as a relationship and mental health expert. She is the author of A Soulful Marriage: Healing Your Relationship With Responsibility, Growth, Priority, and Purpose.
Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. Episode Highlights03:40 Embracing personal growth and the role of spiritual guidance.
08:03 The four pillars framework: A path to self-relationship and personal responsibility.
12:18 Scientific meets spiritual: Harmonizing psychology and Kabbalah in relationships.
16:47 Unlocking personal power through vulnerability and self-awareness.
20:05 Exploring purpose and positive impact as a couple.
27:55 Spiritual practices and the journey towards Kabbalah.
30:39 Balancing personal growth with relational dynamics.
32:55 Creating a relational sanctuary: The art of sacred connection.
37:20 Transition from romance to synergy in long-term relationships.
39:21 Navigating threats and traumas by trust in relationships.
42:28 Destined growth and mutual support in spiritual partnerships.
MentionedA Soulful Marriage (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
Evolve in Love (program)
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About this Episode
Pelvic floor health is a topic that's often shrouded in mystery and silence, yet it is fundamentally linked to our overall well-being, affecting everything from incontinence to intimacy. Many individuals, particularly those with female bodies, face the challenges of pelvic floor dysfunction post-pregnancy, during menopause, or even as athletes, without realizing that it is common but not normal and certainly not something they have to live with. Ignoring pelvic floor care can lead not only to physical discomfort but also strain in relationships due to issues like pain during intimacy or a lack of awareness surrounding one's own body needs.
In this episode, we delve deep into the world of pelvic floor rehabilitation and prevention therapy to uncover the importance of addressing these issues head-on. Through holistic approaches, including exercises, education, and community support, listeners will learn about the often-overlooked muscles that play an important role in our bodily functions and intimate relationships. By shedding light on the resources and techniques available, listeners are encouraged to break the stigma, embrace their journey to healing, and ultimately improve their quality of life and connections with others.
Patricia Siegel is a German native and Sports Scientist specializing in pelvic floor rehabilitation and prevention therapy. A former semi-professional track athlete, she is now the STRONG Fitness expert columnist regarding pelvic floor health.
Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. Episode Highlights04:32 Understanding postpartum health: Pain, support, and recovery.
10:16 Hormone therapy alternatives during menopause.
11:45 Inspiring personal stories of fitness and overcoming challenges.
15:52 The benefits of regular exercise and fitness recommendations.
19:03 The role of breathing techniques in pelvic floor health.
20:27 Athletic performance and pelvic floor strength.
23:54 Navigating postpartum intimacy and emotional health.
29:12 Breaking the silence: Educating women on pelvic health.
32:56 Addressing trauma’s impact on pelvic floor health.
36:37 Communication’s role in postpartum relationships.
38:09 Developing a holistic program for pelvic health.
42:15 Promoting awareness and education on pelvic health issues.
46:52 Practical tips for maintaining pelvic floor health.
MentionedSquatty Potty
ERP 125: How Kindness Can Strengthen Your Love
The McKibbin Brothers (YouTube Channel)
ERP 071: How To Use Sexual Energy To Improve Your Health & Relationship – With Sarina Stone
A Beginner’s Guide to Mula Bandha (Root Lock)
ERP 459: How To Support Sexual Desire In Relationship – An Interview with Dr. Jenn Gunsaullus
Evolve in Love (program)
Connect with Patricia SiegelWebsites: thefitpelvicfloor.com
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About this Episode
One common struggle many face in a relationship is the challenge of getting off the emotional roller coaster. The highs and lows, misunderstandings, and unresolved conflicts can create a cycle of emotional upheaval, leaving partners feeling disconnected and frustrated. But what if we could find a way to smooth the ride and create deeper intimacy? If you've ever felt caught in a whirlwind of emotions in your relationships, you're not alone, and there are ways to navigate this complex terrain.
In this episode, we delve into strategies and insights aimed at helping listeners break free from these patterns. With expert guidance, the discussion illuminates ways couples can enhance their emotional intelligence, communication skills, and conflict resolution abilities. By exploring both the individual and relational aspects of these dynamics, the conversation provides tools for transforming the way partners interact with each other. This episode offers a chance to learn how to nurture a relationship's foundation while navigating life's inevitable challenges, ultimately creating a more harmonious and enduring partnership.
Susan Thau, Ph. D., Psy.D., a licensed clinical psychologist, psychoanalyst, wife, mother and grandmother treats individuals, couples and families, working intensively with emotional states. Along with Sondra Goldstein, Susan studied in a consultation group with Alan Schore, becoming interested in attachment and affect regulation. Dr Thau began as a parent educator, later Kaiser Permanente, and eventually private practice in Los Angeles where she specializes in Emotionally Focused Therapy.
Sondra is a licensed clinical psychologist in private practice for many years in Los Angeles. She is a former Clinical Associate Professor, UCLA Department of Psychology. Past study with Allan Shore, PhD, enhances her understanding of neuro-psychobiology in the processing of emotion in couples. Her study of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) helps in understanding emotional dynamics in couples therapy. Sondra is also a wife of 53 years, a mother, and a grandmother.
Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. Episode Highlights03:56 Understanding the framework of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT).
09:39 Meeting the authors: a journey of professional collaboration.
10:51 The power of vulnerability and emotional connection.
15:36 Coregulation and the impact of presence in therapy.
18:09 Navigating emotional triggers and attachment styles.
21:44 Challenges of vulnerability and the role of the therapist.
25:54 The importance of repair and building resilience.
28:30 Acknowledging individual differences in processing.
31:45 Demystifying therapy: The role of the therapist as a stranger attractor.
34:12 Developing a secure base: The journey of earned security.
39:20 Processing stress: Sensitive emotional and aggressive responses.
41:15 Dealing with differences and building a strong relationship foundation.
46:10 The role of curiosity and connection.
49:16 Resources and guidance for relationship growth.
MentionedLiving Love That Lasts (Youtube) (video)
The Roller Coaster of Emotion in Couples Therapy (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
Evolve in Love (program)
Connect with Drs. Susan Thau & Sondra GoldsteinWebsites: susanthauphd.com
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About this Episode
Struggling to find deep, lasting connection in your relationship? You're not alone. Many couples experience cycles of miscommunication and emotional distance, leading to frustration and loneliness. But what if these challenges could become stepping stones to greater intimacy and understanding? Unlock the potential for a more fulfilling partnership by exploring new dynamics that foster empathy, understanding, and emotional intelligence.
In this episode, we dive into the intricacies of intimate relating, exploring how individuals can develop new dynamics to nurture a lasting, caring relationship. You'll gain insights into recognizing and addressing underlying patterns and cycles that may be keeping you and your partner in a state of continuous conflict. With practical advice and expert guidance, this episode offers actionable steps to help you create a secure and supportive bond where both partners feel seen, heard, and valued. Join us as we explore the art of balancing individual growth with relational strength, paving the way for deeper connection and fulfillment.
Dr. Mark Gregory Karris is a licensed marriage and family therapist in full-time private practice in San Diego, California. He specializes in couples therapy, religious trauma, and men’s issues. He is a husband, father, and recording artist. Mark is also the author of the best-selling books Religious Refugees: (De)Constructing Toward Spiritual and Emotional Healing and Beyond Fairy Tales: A Couple's Guide to Finding Clarity, Doing the Work, and Building a Lasting Relationship.
Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. Episode Highlights04:46 Exploring the intersections of couples therapy and religious trauma.
10:40 Understanding the role of attachment styles in relationships.
14:07 Navigating the challenges of relationship cycles.
17:47 Differentiation and personal growth in partnerships.
20:51 The power of vulnerability in bridging connection.
23:06 Creating a safe space for open communication.
26:14 Embracing acceptance and grieving expectations.
31:19 Acknowledging community's role in relational support.
33:09 Balancing independence while fostering connection.
38:46 The importance of reflective empathy.
40:30 Caring for partner's unique needs and priorities.
43:23 Fostering intentional partnership practices.
46:30 Resources and insights for cultivating lasting relationships.
MentionedBeyond Fairy Tales (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
Free Chapter from Beyond Fairy Tales (pdf)
Finding Wholeness for an Integral Age
They're Not Gaslighting You (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
The Let Them Theory (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
Transformative Couples Therapy®
ERP 423: How To Transcend Trauma (And The Effects Experience In Relationship) — An Interview With Dr. Frank Anderson
ERP 372: How To Work Together In Relationship For A Strong, Secure Connection — An Interview With Dr. Stan Tatkin
ERP 323: One Of The Most Important Relationship Skills – Being Relational — An Interview With Terry Real
ERP 089: How to Use Love Languages to Strengthen Connection
RP 281: How To Use The 6th Love Language In Your Relationship
ERP 282: How To Use The 6th Love Language In Your Relationship – Part 2
Evolve in Love (program)
Connect Dr. Mark Gregory KarrisWebsite: markgregorykarris.com
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About this Episode
Every relationship experiences moments of disconnection. These instances, often referred to as ruptures, can feel alarming, especially when they seem to happen all too frequently. But what if conflict wasn't something to dread but rather an opportunity for growth and deeper connection? The problem many face is not the rupture itself but the lack of repair. Learning how to artfully navigate these reparative processes can transform conflicts from mounting resentment to meaningful growth. Are you ready to redefine how you view and handle conflicts in your relationships?
In this episode, we delve into the heart of using a trauma-informed approach to repair relationships. Through a blend of therapeutic insights and practical techniques, the conversation sheds light on the dynamics of conflict and the importance of repair to foster genuine connection and intimacy. By tapping into our own inner resources and acknowledging our shared vulnerabilities, listeners can learn to transform challenges into powerful moments of healing, growth, and reconnection.
Esin Pinarli is a holistic psychotherapist and relationship expert specializing in IMAGO therapy, brainspotting, Internal Family Systems (IFS), somatic practices, and psychodrama. Through an integrative experiential approach, she helps individuals and couples suffering from anxiety, depression, addiction, codependency, trauma, and relational attachment issues to navigate life's challenges so they can become fully alive, supported, and whole.
Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. Episode Highlights07:16 Understanding rupture and repair in relationships.
10:11 The role of conflict and repair in intimate connections.
13:38 Navigating disconnection using a trauma-informed approach.
17:06 Recognizing trauma response patterns in relationships.
23:28 Importance of reflecting and regulating responses.
25:43 Mirroring and attuning as steps in the repair process.
30:54 Nurturing vulnerability for deeper intimacy.
34:27 Cultivating empathy and understanding within partnerships.
35:24 Collaboration and accountability in healing relationship dynamics.
39:20 Handling simultaneous activation in partner dynamics.
42:47 Techniques for achieving regulation and calm.
45:56 Exploring creative solutions in conflict resolution.
MentionedHuberman Lab
ERP 276: Understanding The Need For Both Self-Regulation And Co-Regulation In Relationship – An interview With Deb Dana
Evolve in Love (program)
Connect with Esin PinarliWebsites: eternalwellnesscounseling.com
Instagram: instagram.com/esinpinarli_lcsw
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About this Episode
Are you finding it difficult to maintain a fulfilling and harmonious relationship amidst the daily hustle and bustle of life? It's a common struggle that many people face: balancing personal growth with the demands of nurturing long-term intimacy. How do we rise above the noise and negativity that often cloud our interactions, both with others and within ourselves?
In this episode, we delve into transformative strategies for enhancing your life's happiest moments and boosting the quality of your relationships using a Heliotropic Approach. This insightful conversation explores the power of being a more uplifting force—focusing on kindness, gratitude, and generating positivity. Stay tuned as Dr. Harry Cohen and Dr. Jessica Higgins break down simple yet profound practices to help you navigate challenges and transform them into opportunities for deepening intimacy and personal development. Join in as the conversation strives to create more positive, energizing connections in life and relationships.
Dr. Harry Cohen, Ph.D. Psychologist, Executive Coach, Restauranter and Author of Be The Sun, Not The Salt, a short, straightforward yet profound guide for being your best self, uplifting others, and behaving in a manner that draws others toward you and makes you happier and more effective.
Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. Episode Highlights06:16 Introducing Dr. Harry Cohen and his multidisciplinary background.
07:45 The heliotropic effect and embracing kindness.
12:46 Being present and heart-centered in interactions.
15:18 The power of words and self-reflection.
19:23 Feeding the right wolf: the power of choice.
21:40 Creating positive narratives in everyday life.
25:35 The impact of positivity on our relationships and environment.
26:44 Navigating negativity bias and fostering positivity.
31:48 The significance of gratitude and presence in practice.
34:54 Responding to crisis with grace and equanimity.
39:46 Lighting up relationships: deep listening and positive interactions.
44:57 The importance of acknowledgment in relationships.
46:06 Practical advice: apologizing and remembering who you are.
MentionedBe the Sun, Not the Salt (*Amazon Affiliate link) (audio book)
Breńe Brown
Ethan Kross
ERP 123: Forgive For Love With Dr. Fred Luskin
ERP 089: How to use Love Languages to strengthen connection
Evolve in Love (program)
Connect with Dr. Harry CohenWebsites: bethesunnotthesalt.com
Instagram: instagram.com/bethesunnotthesalt
Podcast: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/be-the-sun-not-the-salt/id1713906591
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If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.
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About this Episode
Is communication the roadblock in your intimate relationships? Misunderstandings, hurt feelings, and emotional escalations can often make navigating partnerships seem like a daunting task. The challenge lies in the fact that our lives are intertwined with others who have their own unique experiences and perspectives. What if embracing life's uncertainties and the practice of presence could transform these relational dynamics into something more harmonious and fulfilling?
In this episode, we explore the art of deep listening and presence as powerful tools to enhance your relationship dynamics. Through enriching conversations, we'll delve into practices that can help you reconnect not only with yourself but also with your significant other. You will gain insights into how embracing vulnerability, understanding emotional activations, and learning to listen deeply can open the door to more profound connections. Whether you're aiming to resolve conflict or simply want to deepen intimacy, this episode offers the guidance needed to transform challenges into opportunities for growth and connection.
Dr. Shahrzad Jalali, Psy.D., is a licensed clinical psychologist with expertise in trauma resolution, psychoanalysis, and relational dynamics. She guides clients in transforming emotional challenges into growth opportunities using a holistic approach that combines psychological, existential, and body-based techniques. Grounded in Jungian psychology, Dr. Jalali emphasizes cognitive restructuring and somatic healing to address trauma at its roots. Her upcoming 2025 book explores these themes, providing readers with practical insights into self-empowerment and resilience.
Dr. Shahrzad Jalali identifies as Iranian-American, with a cultural background that blends Persian heritage with American influences. Her work integrates multicultural perspectives, enriching her therapeutic approach and fostering a deep understanding of diverse cultural experiences.
Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. Episode Highlights05:44 How misunderstandings and emotional clashes in relationships often stem from individual differences in coping with life's challenges.
08:53 The importance of metacognition and shifting perspectives to help navigate difficulties and develop partnership resilience.
14:11 The cultural differences in emotional expression and the unrealistic societal expectation of constant happiness.
19:11 The art of truly listening to oneself and others as a crucial step toward emotional understanding and connection.
23:32 The illusory nature of control and how embracing vulnerability and curiosity can lead to deeper connections and personal growth.
32:32 The cultural and personal barriers that impede meaningful dialogue and how societal pressures influence our interactions.
36:10 Incorporating practices of emotional and psychological hygiene to navigate the complexities of daily life more effectively.
42:55 Recognizing and evaluating the personal and societal beliefs that shape our behavior and emotional responses.
44:22 Tools and approaches are discussed for identifying and reframing insecurities and fears to foster healthier relationships.
MentionedFrom Pain to Purpose (book) (*soon to be published)
Evolve in Love (program)
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About this Episode
Ever feel like your romantic relationship is a swirling mystery of emotions, expectations, and challenges? At the heart of every partnership lies the quest for acceptance—a profound sense of being valued and understood, just as you are. Yet, the path to achieving this in our closest relationships can often feel fraught with misunderstandings and unmet needs. How can we navigate these turbulent waters to foster deeper connection and a lasting bond?
In this episode, our experts delve into the transformative power of acceptance and its pivotal role in strengthening intimate relationships. With insights drawn from decades of experience in counseling and relationship coaching, this conversation explores how to break free from entrenched patterns and embrace acceptance as a cornerstone for emotional intimacy. Listeners will come away with practical strategies to rekindle their relationship's safety and vulnerability, ultimately leading to a more profound and enduring love.
Jon is the founder of Growing Love Network, a nonprofit dedicated to revolutionizing relationships for lifelong love. He has conducted more than 170 marriage intensives for struggling couples, and couples in crisis. He has worked directly with thousands of couples and individuals through counseling and therapy and trained hundreds to facilitate effective marriage courses. He has been married to his wife, Joanna, since 1985. They have 3 grown children and 6 grandchildren.
Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. Episode Highlights05:25 Acceptance and power: Roots of relationship dynamics
07:26 Maslow’s hierarchy of needs.
12:54 Building a foundation of acceptance in relationships.
14:14 The shallow end vs deep end dynamics in relationships.
17:45 Establishing safety in partnerships: Shallow-end conversations
21:47 Creating structured conversations for safety and acceptance.
24:38 The role of quality time and affirmations in building acceptance.
28:09 Effective listening: a key to acceptance.
32:27 Prioritizing goodwill and understanding in relationships.
34:48 The power of positive focus: Shifting perspectives in relationships.
40:10 Navigating conflicting perspectives: The cul-de-sac analogy.
44:08 Inching back to vulnerability: Steps from shallow to deep end.
47:45 The importance of day-to-day intimacy and acceptance.
49:06 Insight into couple intensives: Accelerated progress in relationship therapy.
MentionedThe Acceptance: What Brings And Keeps Lifelong Love (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
Evolve in Love (program)
Connect with Jon AndersonWebsites: GrowingLoveNetwork.org
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Email: [email protected]
If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.
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Conflict is an inevitable aspect of any relationship, but how we handle it can make all the difference in the world. Whether you're finding that your disagreements escalate quickly or that issues get swept under the rug and resurface later, understanding your and your partner's conflict style can be a game-changer. How do you transform these clashes into opportunities for growth and deeper connection? The key lies in recognizing the patterns and learning the skills to navigate through them effectively.
In this episode, we dive deep into the dynamics of different conflict styles—volatile, validating, and avoidant—and offer insights into how these patterns play out in relationships. You'll discover the importance of understanding not just your style but also your partner's, and how mismatched styles can be addressed for better harmony. With practical guidance and real-world examples, this discussion aims to equip you with the tools to foster a more resilient and connected relationship, even in the face of disagreements. Tune in to explore how you can create a new positive dynamic in your relationship by embracing and working with your unique conflict styles.
Dr. Don Cole is the Clinical Director of The Gottman Institute and a licensed mental health counselor in the state of Washington. Along with his wife, Dr. Carrie Cole, he founded The Center for Relationship Wellness. With over 30 years of experience, he has worked with individuals and couples in various areas, including marital therapy, affair recovery, depression, anxiety, trauma recovery, parenting, and personality disorders.
Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode05:55 The three conflict styles: volatile, validating, and avoidant.
14:38 Conflicts arise in mismatched styles: the validator vs. the avoidant.
17:17 Understanding conflict styles: it's not about maturity or emotional intelligence.
19:34 Examining the volatile style: comfort with high energy and emotions.
26:06 The validator style: problem-solving and seeking understanding.
33:56 Managing conflict with avoidant partners: strategies for understanding.
35:37 Using the Gottman Rapoport style for effective communication.
43:46 Tools and resources: books, workshops, and psychoeducational materials.
45:56 Normalizing conflict: learning to accept and grow through differences.
MentionedFight Right: How Successful Couples Turn Conflict Into Connection (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)
Evolve in Love (program)
Connect with Dr. Don ColeWebsites: centerforrelationshipwellness.com
Facebook: facebook.com/TheCenterForRelationshipWellness
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YouTube: youtube.com/channel/UCmdTIdlzy6gAz1j7f4ggk_A
LinkedIn: linkedin.com/company/center-for-relationship-wellness
Connect with Dr. Jessica HigginsFacebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship
Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins
Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/
Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation
LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins
Twitter: @DrJessHiggins
Website: drjessicahiggins.com
Email: [email protected]
If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.
Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.
Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.
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