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After decades of marriage, many people find themselves in a battle with their inner critic. I'm unhappy. Should I stay or should I leave my marriage? Sometimes, the decision ping pongs back and forth for months and even years, while life is suspended in veritable quicksand. We are held held hostage in our unhappiness and chained to inaction, unable to make a move in either direction. There are so many things to consider in that very difficult decision: money, the adult children, shared property, losing it all. What if you could go to someone who could aid you in discerning the best path forward for you? Join the Silver Divorce Podcast as Ellen Holtzman, a psychologist with more than 30 years of experience, shares how Discernment Counseling helps individuals and couples gain clarity around the decision to stay in the marriage or leave.
Ellen authored "Bouncing Back. How Women Lose and Find Themselves in Marriage and Divorce," which describes the painful journey many women experienced to find themselves and thrive again. It is a compelling narrative of strength and self-discovery shared through the eyes of three women. Her book can be purchased on Amazon, Barnes & Noble or Bookshop.org.
Produced by: Whitfield Media Group, Chattanooga, TN
Editing by: Tyler Owens
Facebook and Instagram @silverdivorcepodcast
Email: [email protected]
Brought to you by: Center for Sports Medicine and Orthopaedics www.sportmed.com and Medicare Misty www.MedicareMisty.com
Ellen Holtzman, Psy.D is a practicing psychologist and author. She has been helping individuals and couples for more than three decades and specializes in the treatment of women who are navigating divorce. www.ellenholtzman.com
If you are seeking help from a psychologist, visit www.psychologytoday.com for a searchable directory.
To listen to the episode on Managing Relationships with Adult Children with therapist Kimberly Mathis, go to Episode 8 of this podcast.
About your host: Lisa Mccluskey, MBA, experienced a high conflict divorce after a 34-year marriage. She founded this podcast to help others avoid the common divorce pitfalls and find a new life to love.
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In many marriages, women are not involved in the family finances and have no idea what is available in many different accounts. The prospect of divorce or leaving an unhappy marriage can fill them with dread and fear that this life transition may leave them without enough money to live on or they may lose what they worked to save. It is common to feel stressed about making the right financial decisions in the moment while wondering how to get from where you are to creating a secure life.
Join the Silver Divorce Podcast as Phil Weiss, founder of Apprise Wealth Management, discusses the E.V.O.K.E. financial life planning process, which walks women through a journey of self-discovery to plan for a more secure future while transitioning to a new single life. This holistic approach to financial planning helps women with the education and knowledge to feel confident and secure in their future.
Produced by: Whitfield Media Group, Chattanooga, TN
Editing by: Tyler Owens
Facebook and Instagram @silverdivorcepodcast
Email: [email protected]
Brought to you by: Center for Sports Medicine and Orthopaedics www.sportmed.com and Medicare Misty www.MedicareMisty.com
About Phil: Phil Weiss, CFA, CPA, and RLP, is the founder of Apprise Wealth Management, a firm dedicated to helping women flourish through life's transitions. www.apprisewealth.com
About Lisa: Lisa McCluskey, MBA is a retired healthcare executive who was blindsided by divorce after a 34-year marriage. This podcast is a labor of love as she brings experts to share knowledge and education to ease the divorce process for others.
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The Holiday Season is a joyful and beautiful time of year. When you are separated, divorced, or in the process of divorce, it can be an extremely painful and emotional time. There are so many questions to answer. Where are the kids going for each holiday and when? How do we split the family? Can we agree on spending limits for the kids or grandkids? What about traditional friend parties? Will we both attend? Will the girlfriend or boyfriend be there? How do the in-laws or grandparents fit in?
Listen as Pat Owens, a Divorce Care facilitator with decades of experience, shares strategies for coping with conflict and the emotional roller coaster during the holidays.
The key is to plan, plan, plan and communicate. It is not too early to think through all of the questions so you can have a more memorable holiday focused on the spirituality of the season.
Produced by: Whitfield Media Group, Chattanooga, TN
Editing by: Tyler Owens
Facebook and Instagram @silverdivorcepodcast
Email: [email protected]
Brought to you by: Center for Sports Medicine and Orthopaedics www.sportmed.com and Medicare Misty www.MedicareMisty.com.
About the guest: Pat Owens has been a Divorce Care facilitator for some 20 years and understands and guides people through the emotional cycles of divorce. She herself experienced a high conflict divorce after a long-term marriage and has a heart for helping others.
About your Host: Lisa McCluskey, MBA is a retired healthcare executive who was blindsided by divorce after a 34-year marriage. This podcast is a labor of love as she brings experts to share knowledge and education to ease the divorce process for others.
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If you are turning 64 and are confused by the maze of Medicare, or if you are 65 and need to know your options during annual open enrollment, this episode is for you. Join me as Misty Bolt, founder of Medicare Misty, the preeminent expert on Medicare, shares insight on the different Medicare products such as Medicare A, B, and drug plans, Medicare Advantage HMOs and PPOs, and Medicare supplements. With so many products in the market, it can be a confusing maze. Misty helps to demystify the terms and shares what you need to know if signing up for the first time. If you are already on Medicare, she shares your options and timeframe for changing plans for 2025.
Produced by: Whitfield Media Group, Chattanooga, TN
Editing: Tyler Owens
Facebook and Instagram: @silverdivorcepodcast
Emails: [email protected]
Brought to you by: Center or Sports Medicine and Orthopedics www.sportmed.com and MedicareMisty www.MedicareMisty.com
About Misty Bolt: Misty is the founder and owner of Medicare Misty. She is an independent insurance broker whose brand, MedicareMisty, is synonymous with Medicare insurance in Chattanooga, TN. She operates offices in the Chattanooga region and has agents in 43 states.
About your host: Lisa McCluskey, MBA is a retired healthcare executive who was blindsided by divorce after a 34-year marriage . She founded this podcast to share knowledge and education she gained, in order to help others avoid the pitfalls she fell into. This podcast is her mission and labor of love.
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Substance abuse is cited as the main factor in nearly 35 percent of divorces. Older adults are using opioids, alcohol, marijuana, and heroin at increasing rates. So much so, that it is being called the silent epidemic. Listen as Debbie Loudermilk, the Director of Outpatient Services for the Council for Alcohol and Drug Abuse Services, discusses why this is happening at increasing rates and who is most at risk.
Drug abuse among older adults is often hard to detect because the signs and symptoms mimic those of old age. Substance abuse can have a significant negative effect on diabetes, heart failure, and raise one's risk for heart attack.
Debbie shares the signals that someone is abusing drugs or alcohol, as well as how to go about discussing it with a loved one, if you suspect substance abuse is happening.
Produced by: Whitfield Media Group, Chattanooga, TN
Editing: Tyler Owens
Facebook and Instagram: @silverdivorcepodcast
Email: silverdivorcepodcast@ gmail.com
Brought to you by: Center for Sports Medicine and Orthopaedics www.sportmed.com and MedicareMisty www.MedicareMisty.com
About Debbie Loudermilk, LADAC-II, NCAC II: Debbie is the Director of Outpatient Services for the Council for Alcohol and Drug Abuse Services, the only non-profit treatment facility in the region. www.cadas.org.
About your Host: Lisa McCluskey, MBA is a retired healthcare executive who was blindsided by divorce after a 34-year marriage. She founded this podcast to share knowledge and education she gained, in order to help others avoid the pitfalls she fell into. This podcast is her mission and labor of love.
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Is it possible to create a life you will love as a single person after decades of marriage? While in the traumatic divorce legal process, it is hard to imagine the future. We often think we are too old to start over, we will never marry or find love again, and are doomed to a solitary, lonely life.
Join us as life coach Holly Holloway discusses a path forward to creating a new life after divorce. She shares strategies to stop the ruminating that keeps us firmly mired in the mud. Focusing on the future starts with allowing ourselves to feel our feelings and heal so we can begin to believe in ourselves and our capabilities.
Is abundance defined as a large house, luxury brand car and possessions? Perhaps freedom is abundance. Holly shares how she started her journey from receptionist to life coach that began after her divorce at age 61.
Produced by Whitfield Media Group, Chattanooga, TN
Editing by Tyler Owens
Facebook and Instagram @silverdivorcepodcast
Email: [email protected]
About Holly Holloway: Holly is a licensed life coach through Martha Beck's Wayfinder Life Coach Training and has made it her calling to help other women through divorce recovery and discover how incredible their lives can be. She divorced at age 61 after 30 years of marriage. www.hollyhollowaycoaching.com
About your host: Lisa McCluskey, MBA is a retired healthcare executive who was blindsided at age 66 after a 34-year marriage. She founded the podcast to share the knowledge and education she gained during the divorce process, in order to help others avoid the pitfalls she fell into. This podcast is a mission and labor of love.
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Can you recognize the symptoms of a fool? You may be married to a fool if:
he or she always puts you down has to be right in most all instances can be nice, when the intent is to manipulate, and you live in a honeymoon cycle. The honeymoon cycle begins with everything is fine, then minor irritations creep in, followed by fights, then a big blow up, and the honeymoon cycle begins all over again. You find yourself walking on eggshells to keep the spouse happy.Join us as author Jan Silvious discusses how to gain relational intelligence and recognize the characteristics of a troubled relationship with a fool. She gives insight into our most difficult relationships and provides new strategies for fighting old battles. Her goal is not making your fool into a better person, but to share the wisdom to help you become a healthy, fully functioning Godly person. With this wisdom and renewed faith in ourselves, we can confidently make the decision whether to let go and gain inner peace.
About the author: Jan Silvious has been helping people for more than 30 years as a life coach and author of 11 books. She was a contributor to a live call-in radio program, Midday Connection on Moody Radio and co-hosted the national radio program, Precept Live.
www.jansilvious.com
Produced by Whitfield Media Group, Chattanooga, TN
Editing by Tyler Owens
Facebook and Instagram: @silverdivorcepodcast
Email: [email protected]
About your host: Lisa McCluskey, MBA is a retired healthcare executive who was blindsided by divorce after a 34-year marriage. She founded the podcast to share the knowledge and education she gained during the divorce process, in order to help others avoid the pitfalls she fell into. This podcast is a mission and labor of love.
About your guest host: Pat Owens has been a Divorce Care facilitator for 20 years and understands and guides people through the emotional cycles of divorce. She has a heart for helping others.
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Lack of physical intimacy is cited as one of the top four factors in divorce. Oftentimes when one is coming out of a long term marriage where physical intimacy has been absent for a long time, many people make recapturing this a priority, perhaps before they have taken time to heal and know themselves.
Join me as Karisa Kaye, a certified sex therapist helps us to understand today's attitudes and norms concerning physical intimacy while dating.
In this episode, we'll discuss the dangers, especially for women, to casual sex. On the other hand, there are definite health benefits we'll talk about as well.
If you've jumped into the dating pool, how do you know when the time is right to be physically intimate? Having physical relations with someone new after being with the same partner for decades brings up its own set of anxieties and emotions.
The prevalence of the porn industry has shaped how men and women view physical intimacy. Karisa discusses this shift and how to handle situations where you might be asked to perform acts that make you uncomfortable.
Produced by Whitfield Media Group, Chattanooga, TN
Editing by Tyler Owens
Facebook and Instagram @silverdivorcepodcast
Email: [email protected]
About your host: Lisa McCluskey is a retired healthcare executive who was blindsided by divorce after a 34-year marriage. She founded the podcast to share the knowledge and education she gained during the process, in order to help others avoid the pitfalls she fell into. This podcast is a mission and labor of love.
About Karisa Kaye: Karisa earned a bachelor's degree in Interdisciplinary Studies from LeTourneau University, a master's in Marriage and Family Therapy from Richmond Graduate University and is a Ph.D candidate in Clinical Sexology at the Modern Sex Therapy Institute. She is a certified sex therapist, Christian Sex Therapist and Complex Trauma Counselor.
https://www.iloveusintimacy.com
Facebook and Instagram: ilurelationships
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Many people agonize over the decision to divorce because they reference the Bible, Malachi 2:16, which says, "For I hate divorce, says the Lord the God of Israel." They are compelled to stay in a marriage that is mentally and sometimes physically harmful for that reason. The first rule of scripture interpretation is context. Why did he say those words? Who ws he saying them to? What else did he say in that passage referencing divorce?
Join us as Betsy Kammerdiener, a pastor and ordained minister helps to unpack the meaning behind scripture. We'll also discuss why God doesn't seem to answer prayers to "fix my marriage."
In this episode, we discuss the church and divorce. Many churches seem to struggle with what to do about divorced couples. Why does it seem like the church keeps divorced people at arm's length?
Finally, if you are in the midst of divorce and struggling with your faith, Betsy has recommendations to help you mentally and spiritually.
Produced by: Whitfield Media Group, Chattanooga, TN
Editing by: Tyler Owens
Facebook and Instagram: @silverdivorcepodcast
Email: [email protected]
About your hosts: Lisa McCluskey is a retired healthcare executive who was blindsided by divorce after a 34-year marriage. She founded the podcast to share the knowledge and education she gained during the process, in order to help others avoid the pitfalls she fell into. This podcast is a labor of love.
Pat Owens has been a Divorce Care facilitator for some 20 years and understand and guides people through the emotional cycles of divorce. She herself experienced a high conflict divorce after a long-term marriage and has a heart for helping others.
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The hot topic on everyone's mind is dating after divorce. It comes as a shock to live alone when one has been married for decades. Many people start to think about dating before the divorce is finalized. What are the cautions to consider?
Divorce is the second most impactful stressful event you can go through. Jumping back into the dating pool before taking time to heal can add a new layer of stress.
What questions should you ask yourself before dating? How do you avoid dating the same type of person whom you just divorced? How will your children react to your dating? Will you be able to trust someone else again?
Finally, are you dating because you are lonely? Or missing physical intimacy? There is a lot to think about before jumping into the deep end of the dating pool.
Once you are ready, how do you go about finding someone to date when you are over age 50? It is a lot different from when you were in your 20s. Your life experience and what you use went through will shape the kind of partner you are looking for.
If you are considering online dating, there are apps that many seniors use and this episode provides tips on how to stay safe and recognize scams. We also give some insight into how to set up your online dating profile to generate sincere leads.
Produced by: Whitfield Media Group, Chattanooga, TN
Editing by: Tyler Owens
About your hosts: Lisa McCluskey is a retired healthcare executive who was blindsided by divorce after a 34-year marriage. She founded the podcast to share the knowledge and education she gained during the process, in order to help others avoid the pitfalls she fell into. This podcast is a labor of love.
Pat Owens has been a Divorce Care facilitator for some 20 years and understand and guides people through the emotional cycles of divorce. She herself experienced a high conflict divorce after a long-term marriage and has a heart for helping others.
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There are 31 million entrepreneurs in the US and 10 million self-employed adults. A divorce creates its own et of unique issues in the division of assets, especially if the husband and wife started the business together. A divorce can have a significant impact on operations and cash flow and can put the business at risk of losing employees. In this episode, Shannon Farr, CPA, ABV, CFF, of Elliott Davis, helps to unpack how to process valuing the business as part of a marital estate.
Shannon answers the main options for the business when a divorce happens, such as paying out the value of the business over a period of years.
What happens if one spouse is not involved in the business? Is there a consideration for the person who made the business their life's work?
What are the tax implications for transfer of property and are there options to mitigate?
In self-employment, oftentimes revenue is from cash and may be harder to track. Shannon shares how forensic accountants go about discovering hidden assets as well as determining what the expected revenue should be.
Guest: Shannon Welch Farr, CPA, AICPA, Elliott Davis. Contact: [email protected]
Facebook: @silverdivorcepodcast
Email: [email protected]
Produced by: Whitfield Media Group, Chattanooga, TN
Edited by: Tyler Owens
About your hosts: Lisa McCluskey is a retired healthcare executive who was blindsided with divorce after a 34-year marriage. She founded the podcast to share the knowledge and educations she gained during the process in order to help others avoid the pitfalls she fell into. This podcast is a labor of love.
Pat Owens has been a divorce Care facilitator for some 20 years and understands and guides people through the emotional cycles of divorce. She herself experienced a divorce after a long-term marriage and has a heart for helping others.
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In this episode, Kimberly Mathis, life coach, will explore the topic of managing your young children throughout the divorce process and share tips for co-parenting once the divorce is final.
Divorce has the biggest emotional impact on school-aged children between the ages of 5 and 13 with age 11 having the highest impact for emotional trauma. Some common impacts are:
* Emotional - with worry about what will happen to them.
* Behavioral - changes such s regression and acting out.
*Academic performance - a decline in school performance due to stress and anxiety.
Kimberly shares strategies for breaking the news to young children to lessen the emotional trauma and how to manage their feelings of blame.
We'll also discuss the issue of when divorce is caused by an affair and how and when to introduce the affair partner.
Produced by: Whitfield Media Group, Chattanooga TN
Editing by: Tyler Owens
About your hosts: Lisa McCluskey is a retired healthcare executive who was faced with divorce after a 34-year marriage. She founded the podcast to share the knowledge and education she gained during the process, in order to help others avoid the pitfalls she fell into. This podcast is a labor of love.
Patty Owens has been a Divorce Care facilitator for some 20 years and understands and guides people through the emotional cycles of divorce. She herself experienced a high conflict divorce after a long-term marriage and has a heart for helping others.
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Facing parents' divorce can be emotionally challenging for adult children, especially if it comes at a time when they are raising their own families and may have small children. Some adult children find they are forced to confront issues with relationships and families that they feel woefully unprepared to handle especially if they have a close relationship with one parent or still have unresolved issues stemming from their childhood or teen years. Join our conversation with Kimberly Mathis, therapist, as she helps us sort through the issue of adult children in divorce.
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Hiring a good attorney is important in divorce, but it can be a source of great anxiety. How do you go about finding an attorney? What's it going to cost? Listen as we help navigate how to hire a good attorney, and more importantly, how to work with your attorney so he or she can fight for you for the best outcome. And, this might save you a few dollars along the way.
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Divorce among people age 50 plus has a huge impact on their future retirement. Splitting nest eggs, losing half of their retirement accounts and suffering significantly reduced income comes at a time when they do not have enough working years ahead to make it up. Listen as we share strategies to manage your money as your are going through or after divorce.
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Are you a people pleaser or are you married to a narcissist? Setting boundaries during your divorce will allow you to clearly express your thoughts and feelings as you begin to trust yourself again. Listen in as we discuss Echoism, a personality trait that commonly attracts narcissists and learn how you can set boundaries and regain a sense of power.
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In this episode, we will continue with the legal process in Tennessee and also explore the topic of Sudden Divorce Syndrome. Have you been blindsided by divorce? You are not alone. Listen in as Lisa and Pat discuss part 2 of the legal process and the phenomenon of sudden divorce syndrome.
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A divorce after a long-term marriage can leave us wondering "who am I" and "what am I going to do with my life?" Join us as life coach Holly Holloway delves into the origins of the identity crisis and how we can begin to discover who we are and what we want to do in our next chapter.
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In this episode, we will explore how the legal process works in Tennessee. If you are considering divorce, this episode will give you insight on the nuts and bolts of filing and who should file first.
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Welcome to the Silver Divorce podcast where we offer stories, advice and support to people age 50 plus who are considering or facing divorce.
