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As women, we often make parenting seem effortless, but it's not, not at all. There are things in our lives that we want to change and improve, maybe your co-parenting or how you show up as a mom. Perhaps you want to hit certain goals in your income, in your life, or in your health. I help people just like you implement change and growth in your life.
Where do I begin? How do I start creating change?We hear more and more about the way we believe, how we think, and our mindset. It already often feels challenging to begin implementing change, and there becomes the question of what's the best way to approach it. There are many ways to approach implementing change, and you have to find the best option for you.
Four Important Aspects of Implementing ChangeMindsetThe way we think about our lives creates our experiences. If we believe that we are not capable of doing a great job of raising our kids on our own, we will struggle more because we have that belief. The way we think about our life matters. We all have experiences. Our brain turns these experiences into thoughts that seem to be absolute beliefs that become mindsets. It just happens. Mindset is just one of the ways you can implement change. Making shifts in how we think, not in a rose-colored glasses way, but in ways that truly serve you and help you experience more ease in your life.
Awareness and attending to emotional needsBeing aware of your emotion set or the go-to emotions that you often experience. Understanding our go-to emotions sometimes allows a starting point for implementing change and cultivating a new emotion set that will feel and serve you better.
Being Aware of Your Nervous System ResponsesOur nervous system can have some pretty big responses at times. It's important to be aware of what your nervous system activation looks like. You may have some triggering experiences, and you immediately feel heightened when something happens. There is emotion there, but it is more of a triggered response where things in your body feel somewhat out of your control or very automatic. Being aware of these moments will give us a better opportunity to work towards processing these emotions.
Mikki GardnerMikki is a certified life coach who helps women become loving, strong, effective co-parents and create a life full of resilience, abundance and joy after divorce.
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What do you believe is missing for us as women in terms of understanding our connection with our sexuality?
There are two related pieces
A deeply embodied way of livingA true experience(not just an intellectual understanding of sexuality)Nature is the original temple, and the modern world has severed us from the natural world, creating an even bigger wedge between understanding and embracing our sexuality. It has become easier to take from the earth because we are more removed from it.
Trusting Our Intuition and reclaiming our sexualityThe female body has become fetishized, and women are shamed for their sexuality. We are taught not to live and trust our embodied knowing, intuition, and wisdom. These pieces are essential to reclaiming our sexual energy and embracing our sexuality.
Fearing the Embodied KnowingIn the past, women were trade healers and medicine keepers for their communities. This inherent knowing threatened the early inception of the church, which wanted to control the body. Midwives and healers became demonized and were even hung and burned.
But, there are pockets of opportunity to build self-trust in this space from which we have been taught to fear and push away.
As women, we have learned to fear our own pleasure. So many women feel embarrassed by their own pleasure, both sexual and sensual. Often, this fear comes from a radical unknowing, a radical discomfort with our pain. The practice of coming home to our pleasure and embracing our sexuality has so much to do with building a capacity.
Building a CapacityBuilding the capacity in the body to hold more pain and, ultimately, pleasure comes back to doing work with your nervous system. Our nervous systems are calibrated to what's familiar, even if it is unpleasant. When you tie in the longstanding ancient negativity bias, we tend to be a lot more comfortable with an amputated pleasure range. The gateway to expanding that pleasure range is through discomfort.
How can we sit with and cultivate the ability to be with discomfort? How do we feel clean pain without adding the story of dirty pain? How do we become present to the beautiful, tenderizing emotion of Greif? Grief is such a portal to pleasure. Grief, pleasure, and erotic potential are all interwoven because they all come down to building capacity in the body
Kirstin Hotelling ZonaKirstin Hotelling Zona, PhD, is a double-certified Life and Leadership Coach, Founder of Full Potential Coaching, LLC, and Trusted Advisor to conscious leaders and changemakers who yearn to feel fully alive. She is a trauma-informed Vitality Mentor and specializes in creating safe spaces in which her clients and students feel deeply seen, lovingly challenged, and profoundly empowered. Drawing on 25 years as an award-winning university professor, poet, and community builder, Kirstin brings a wealth of knowledge about human potential and the creative process to her passion for helping others thrive. Host of over 20 women’s retreats, Kirstin loves working with women in sacred community and holding space for transformation.
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A tax advisor offers strategic planning to maximize your financial success.
As the end of the year approaches, there are key things you can do with your coaching business that could have a pretty big impact on the taxes you pay this year. Having a handle on your numbers and knowing how to handle tax advantages means more money in your pocket and a better quality of life. This is where the expertise of a tax advisor comes in. They will help you be smarter with all the hard work you're putting into your coaching business.
Tax Advisor vs. Tax PreparerYou can go find someone to prepare your taxes. However, there is a big difference in your financial strategy between a tax preparer and a tax advisor. As a coach building your business, you wear so many hats! And there are far too many skills to learn at once. When it comes to being smart with your taxes and money, make sure to get the right help from the beginning.
Tax Preparer: They will take the information that you give them and prepare and file your taxes for you.Tax Advisor: They have a conversation with you to learn about your business and spending habits. They identify things in the tax code that are allowed based on your life and business activity and give you recommendations on what to invest in.When you work with a tax advisor, you are not only looking at this year's tax return but are setting long-term financial goals and putting strategies in place. We are always conscientious about what we are spending money on, and hiring a tax advisor can seem like another expense that is a nuisance. There’s great news for you! Sandy will evaluate if working together is really going to be a financial benefit before you hire her. Yes, that’s right - it’s a guaranteed return on the investment.
Bookkeeper vs. AccountantAs you build your coaching business, you’re likely tracking finances (or using a bookkeeping service to do so). Did you know that there is a significant difference between a bookkeeper and an accountant when it comes to building your financial strategy?
Bookkeeper: They are trained in how to use the software that tracks your expenses. They might manage billing and payroll.Accountant: Accountants, on the other hand, use bookkeeping records to provide in-depth financial analysis. They will check for errors to make sure that your financial statements are correct and can give you strategies about cash flow and where you can cut spending.While bookkeepers lay the foundation with meticulous record-keeping, accountants build on that to guide financial decision-making.
Sandy TapiaSandy Tapia is the founder of SPT Business Consulting LLC. She is a seasoned certified public accountant (CPA) and business professional with a strong academic background and over 20 years of hands-on experience in financial compliance, auditing, accounting, and tax reporting.
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What does it mean to you to be a “happy mom”? What about a confident mom? A consistent mom?
If you are struggling with worth or direction as a mom who is doing all the things, you don’t want to miss this episode.
Michelle GrosserMichelle is a pastor, Master Life Coach, wife and mama, nervous system nerd, podcaster, attorney and deep believer in curiosity and self compassion.
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In a recent episode of 'ADHD for Smart Ass Women,' I had the incredible opportunity to chat with host Tracy Otsuka about my journey of growing up with diagnosed ADHD and how that has shaped my life and my business. We dove into how my diagnosis at a younger age helped me understand myself better, how keeping a persistent mindset has helped me overcome many new challenges in my life, and how these obstacles have turned into stepping stones throughout my business and other areas of my life. Please don't let your current obstacles hold you back; you have a unique set of gifts to share.
Tracy OtsukaHi, I'm Tracy. I'm a mother, author, podcaster, certified ADHD coach, and lawyer committed to changing the conversation around ADHD.
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As I’ve been taking applications for Master Coach Training, I’ve been hearing from more than a few coaches (many of whom I love and adore), who are questioning their coaching path (and whether or not to continue. I’ve experienced much of what you have, more times than you might believe and I’ve got a message for you.
Dear Coach who wants to quit,
I understand how you feel.
Disheartened, discouraged, tired, maybe you’re just ready for a little reprieve.
I’ve been hearing from so many of you telling me that you’re really at a decision point as to whether you continue this coaching journey or not.
Many of you, I know. I see you - the go-getter who did all the things to succeed, only to encounter coaches and businesses who were unethical, less than honest, maybe even downright damaging to your psyche.
I see you - the hopeful enthusiast - you never let a doubt stop you from going after it! And yet, overtime, the major shifts in the Life Coach School community and the coaching industry have left you doing something you never wanted to do - questioning your path.
I see you - the heart-driven coach who is struggling to charge for your coaching. You’ve tried everything you know to do - thought work, emotion work, “pushing past fear,” and yet, you find yourself stuck in the rut, wondering if it will ever get better.
I see you, and I have a message for you today.
You came into this coaching path for a reason. I don’t know the reason and I won’t pretend that I do. Maybe it was for the impactful lessons you would learn. Perhaps it was a phase that taught you to hold to your priorities and values, no matter what was going on around you.
And for some of you, it may be that this path is meant for you now and forever and this is a moment in time that you will lean into that purpose.
I’ve wanted to quit more times than I can count. Failed launches, unethical coaching practices that made me cringe. Life circumstances that challenged me to my core and caused me to question everything about myself and my ability.
And as I look back on the worst of times within all of this, I’m thankful for the gifted coaches who have carried me through and (most importantly), helped me build the muscles that I needed to stay strong and grounded, no matter what.
Because of this, I won’t quit on the coaching industry. The work we have to do here is way too important and, personally, I know I am meant to be here.
If (and only if) this resonates with you, give yourself some time to pause within your doubt and confusion. Journal, meditate, pray, or connect with nature to access that knowing within you.
I don’t know the answer for you, but I do know that your purpose is great and YOU will know.
Please don’t allow bad coaching, unethical practices, or anything else you’ve experienced at the hand of others to keep you from following the course in life that is meant for you.
Believe in your gifts and abilities. Trust your path. Be courageous enough to look within to find the answer you’re seeking.
Much love to you!
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Molly
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Lydia's Journey to Confident Coaching though Master Coach Training
Explore Lydia Bai's inspiring transformation from uncertainty to confidence as she embraces advanced coaching techniques and personal growth through Master Coach Training.
Where were you at in your business, and how were you working with people before we first connected in Master Coach Training?When I first started Master Coach training, I had actually just finished the Create Your Killer Program. It was so life-changing because hearing you talk created so much value in my life: the coaching foundations, the thought work, everything. I didn't realize that even though I wanted to be successful in my business and be a better coach, thought work wasn't enough. I needed more.
At the beginning of Master Coach Training, my business had maybe three to four paying clients. I was having doubts; it was really hard to get clients. I gave myself until the end of the year, or I would go back to my previous job in finance.
What does Master Coach Training add to you as a coach and your coaching?The way that Master Coach Training is laid out is that while I'm learning concepts and tools for my clients, I am also learning them for myself. I am the biggest benefactor. I feel like I have become superhuman because of all the emotional work and how consistently Molly coaches.
Molly provides so much support in Master Coach Training, even outside of what we learn. I asked for help with consultation sessions, and Molly provided a framework for me to apply in my consultations that has really given me specifically what I needed to really lift off.
Using the framework, I can breathe and take the call wherever a client needs it, and I know what she needs because of the work from Master Coach Training.
I had the opportunity to go to a few networking events and moderated a panel in L.A. as a Stanford alumni. Before Master Coach Training, I would have gone into these events focused on meeting people and getting clients. But this time around, I went in loving myself and knowing that everything I did to prepare was more than enough and that I was going to have an amazing time. I didn't need to do more, be more, or add more pressure on myself.
And I had so much fun. I got four or five new consults, and after moderating the panel, people asked if I did this professionally because I was so good. I felt so relaxed and had a great time.
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As a coach and entrepreneur, creating adequate space for your business and family life is one of the most common challenges. In this bonus episode I sat down with my client Meg to work through her own dilemma with kids out of school on a work day.
One of the best things about this conversation is the reminder that YOU do have permission to make decisions that are best for you and your big picture goals. Yes, you can be clear on your personal life values and priorities. Yes, your business and personal aspirations are also allowed to take up space in your life. What if (are you ready for this), your life and your business are NOT in competition for your time? Maybe they actually work together. I hope you love this episode!
Master Coach TrainingMaster Coach Training provides a comprehensive approach to coaching by integrating knowledge of the nervous system, emotion-focused modalities, and advanced cognitive work. This training equips you with the tools to drive meaningful client transformation.
Tomorrow, Tuesday, November 12th, you have the chance to join a Master Coach Training Q&A call. It's the perfect opportunity to address any questions and learn more about what this transformative program can offer you. You can Register Here.
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As a coach building your business, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed with doubt and insecurity. If you ever feel stuck in inaction or consumed with self-doubt, this episode is for you! I’m coaching my client Marianne about the doubt and fears that keep arising. As you listen in, make sure to think of how all of this applies to you!
Master Coach Training is OpenI'm thrilled to announce that the Master Coach Training program is officially open for enrollment! The program kicks off in January, and now is the time to enroll if you are a coach who wants to be phenomenal at what you do.
Whether your interest lies in enhancing your cognitive techniques, mastering emotion work, or exploring somatic practices, this program is designed to equip you with the skills to work safely and effectively with your clients. If you're eager to gain a deeper understanding of the nervous system and refine your coaching methods, now is the time to seize this opportunity.
For those ready to take the next step, please submit your application through the link here. I am looking forward to welcoming you into this transformative journey and seeing you on a live call soon.
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On this week's episode of The Masterful Coach, Molly Claire interviews one of her Master Coach Trainees, Jackie Swainson, about her coaching experience before, during and after her time in Master Coach Training.
What compelled you to want to be a part of Master Coach Training and expand your training and knowledge?The previous trainings I had been in seemed like they were only touching the surface; you could tell there was more. I didn't really have the depth I wanted to go or help clients go to. I could feel in my body that something was missing. Having struggled with anxiety for years, I knew that it wasn't just in my head, that there was a physical response, a nervous system response. I wanted to somehow connect all of the pieces together. I did a lot of research and heard your name a lot. I thought this is a woman who can really teach me something. You can read all you want, but I love being taught.
So you came to Master Coach Training because you knew there was more; you could feel that some things were missing, and this was the place to get it. What is it like for you now as a coach in your sessions, having more of the skillset and having that whole-person view?I can see and hear and feel what my clients are saying, what they are telling me, and what they are meaning. It is like reading between the lines; you get this intuition, this sort of sense of where they are. And that helps me ask questions that will guide them where they may not want to go, but I can guide them gently. I can give them perspective and help them find a perspective that is different because I am looking not just at what they are telling me; I'm looking at them; I'm listening to them. I am able to help my clients get into their hearts. I am learning alongside my clients.
What are the top two or three things that you've either incorporated in our coaching because of Master Coach Training or what's really enhanced your ability to really serve your clients?What I learned the most is that I can trust myself. And if I can trust myself, other people can trust me. I am building that trust and personal connection. It is the foundation.
Guest BioJackie SwainsonJackie Swainson is a Master Certified Life Coach, and a woman of deep faith who has been able to help herself and dozens of women through midlife transitions to create a great life and celebrate who they are. For 3 years Jackie has had the privilege of coaching women to find joy joy in every day, even in midlife. She believes every midlife woman deserves a great life filled with joy, regardless of her circumstances. Her personal experiences have fueled her mission to help her clients create the changes they desire.
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[00:00:00] Molly: All right, coaches. I'm so thrilled to have one of my master coaches in training here and also advanced certified coach Midore Midore. Welcome. Thanks for being here.
[00:00:14] Midore: Thank you for letting me be here. I'm so excited to share my experience with you and your program.
[00:00:23] Molly: I know. I'm so glad to have you here because we've, we've worked together for a while now, and it's just been really fun to watch you.
Grow and evolve as a coach and just your expanded abilities. And of course, we'll talk about this more and get you all up to speed on what we're talking about. But, you know, Midore, as we're diving into this conversation, I'm thinking about some of our recent case study calls where. You're bringing a client situation and you're asking questions.
And it's just been so fun to see how, um, the way that you are understanding your clients and navigating the challenges that come up with them. It's almost like there is not only is there a greater skill level for you. But you have that confidence right alongside it, and you're able to see more things going on with your client more easily and more quickly, which is just really fun to have seen that all I'll come to light.
So, yeah, so glad to have you here. So tell, tell my audience, um, who are you as a coach? What do you do? Who do you focus on?
[00:01:38] Midore: Yeah, I am a holistic life coach, and I dedicated to empower purpose driven individual to expand their vision and achieve meaningful goals. And my focus is on helping clients deepen their self connection, manage their time and energy and establish boundaries that align with their core values.
So that it transform their obstacles into opportunities for lasting change.
[00:02:17] Molly: Yes. I love it. And I think, you know, as you were, as you were talking Midore, and I'm thinking about, I think this idea of being a holistic coach, a lot of people hear that word. And sometimes they think about holistic physical health.
They're thinking about supplements. And I think that, That's why it's really important, I think, as we're using this word to talk about what that means. And for you, it means this whole person approach, right? That we study and master coach training. And, um, and as I was listening to, to you share what you do and thinking about some of your clients that you are working with to achieve goals, it's so evident that.
You are taking the time to create that self connection with them. And you're really taking a, a big picture, look at what's lacking for them. And then you're really able to help them fill the gaps in all of those areas, which is much different than just having kind of one approach and one tool only that you can use with a client.
[00:03:19] Midore: I, um, myself being in your program and really understanding what my values are. And then when I really dialed in what they are, that decision making became so Much easier than ever before and ever since I have that tool I am able to Make a decision quickly. I am able to set the boundaries better and Communicate with the loved ones so much more effectively.
[00:04:02] Molly: Yeah. I love that you brought that up because, um, and in just a minute, I need to make sure to flag this in my mind as I'm, as I'm talking with all of you and having this conversation with Midore, because I want to tell you a little bit about how Midore, uh, first came to master coach training, but. You know, as you were talking Midore, I love that you brought up this key element of the self work in master coach training, because I talk a lot about the four components, which is safe and effective thought work, emotion focused work, the nervous system...
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Five Truths about the Life Coaching Industry in 2024
Have you heard whisperings that the coaching industry is overcrowded and that the "life coaching bubble has burst?" If so, you're not the only one hearing this rumor. Today, we are going to talk about what's really going on in the industry and what you should be focusing on as a coach in 2024.
The Booming Life Coaching MarketThe life coaching industry is booming! Yes, that's right. The US life coaching market was valued at $1.5 billion in 2022 and is expected to surpass $2.29 billion in 2032 (Vision research reports).
Also, the industry's revenue grew from $2.85 billion in 2019 to $4.65 billion in 2022, representing a 60% increase.
So why are some people concerned that it's become overcrowded, making it harder for coaches to succeed? Why are people worried that the so-called "life coaching bubble" has burst?
In this post, we'll explore five truths you need to know to understand the reality of life coaching today, including a few misconceptions that are perpetuating the rumors and fears.
Truth #1: Growing Demand for Personal DevelopmentThe demand for personal development services, including life coaching, is on the rise. With increased awareness around mental health, productivity, and holistic well-being, more people are seeking out life coaches.
The global coaching market was valued at over $2.85 billion in 2022, according to the International Coaching Federation (ICF), and has been growing steadily for years.
Think of the life coaching industry as the fitness industry. As more people become conscious of their health, the demand for personal trainers increases, even though there are more trainers entering the market. Similarly, as people prioritize their emotional, mental, and spiritual well-being, the need for coaches continues to grow.
Truth #2: Life Coaching Specialization is ThrivingWhile the term "life coach" might seem broad and crowded, specialization is where many coaches are finding success. Coaches who focus on niche areas such as executive coaching, relationship coaching, or mindset coaching are thriving. What I love about the work I do with my own Master coaches in training is that they are able to specialize and stand out as they create a program, but they are learning the fundamentals of a well-rounded approach. When you can have an understanding of the whole person in front of you and what they need from a mindset perspective, emotion work, action strategies that work, and even the nervous system - it allows you to dive deep into your chosen specialty and truly stand out with results.
According to a report by ICF, 62% of coaches now offer niche-specific services. This specialization allows coaches to differentiate themselves and serve specific client needs.
Consider the medical field: while there are many general practitioners, specialists like cardiologists or neurologists can focus on a particular area and are often in high demand. Life coaching works similarly, with niche coaches standing out and finding their market.
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Big Coaching Myths that are keeping you from highly effective coaching.
It is so important to have effective coaching. Of course, we want to help our clients, and that is why we are in the coaching business. Effective coaching also impacts your business's bottom line and is more impactful than you may have realized.
Effective Coaching: Results Get ReferralsAccording to a Nielsen Trust in Advertising Report, 92% of consumers trust recommendations from friends and family over any other form of advertising.
In order to grow your business, you do not need to be a master of marketing. Marketing is a very important part of the equation, but when you are providing truly effective coaching that is creating real change in your client's lives, it opens the door to more meaningful connections through referrals.
Effective Coaching: Results Get RenewalsPricewaterhouseCoopers (one of the largest professional services networks in the world) conducted a global study that found that 96% of clients are likely to repeat a coaching experience if they achieved positive results.
Not only does creating results for your current coaches open the door for new referrals, but when you are working with a coach and able to help make meaningful changes in one area of their business, they will likely not want to let your relationship go. They will want to continue your work together. And you get to continue to watch your coaches grow.
What is Coaching Effectiveness?There are many myths about how to gauge your effectiveness as a coach, which, if you are stuck in the cycle of believing, can actually prevent you from becoming a more highly skilled coach. Here are a few of these myths and how to break free of those thoughts.
Myth #1: You can't control your client's resultsTruth: You have more of an ability to influence your client's growth than you realize.
A Gallup study on workplace performance shows that 70% of the variance in team engagement is directly related to the quality of the manager or coach.
The more skilled you are as a coach, the more progress your clients will make. In turn, you will get more referrals and renewals.
Myth #2: Every problem is a thought problemTruth: Thought-work/mindset work used in isolation can be detrimental. (link to that previous blog post)
If you are only focused on thought work with a client, you are missing out on key information that will lead you to effective coaching. Being a safe and skilled coach requires you to look at the "whole person," taking into account your client's thoughts, emotions, nervous system, and behavior patterns and looking at how they all intersect. Looking at thought-work in isolation can be detrimental.
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Have you ever wondered why some clients are more difficult clients to coach?
Maybe you have that one difficult client who is so resistant, and no matter what work you do with them, they just don't seem to "get it."
You're not alone, and there are reasons for it! And within those reasons lie the answers.
Traits of difficult clients:
1. Resistant
2. Doesn't want to go deeper
3. Frustrated
4. Stuck in the same cycles
What makes a difficult client?Remember that many factors come into play when working with clients on behavior changes, mindset work, or transformations involving emotional components. Their current state is a reflection of conditioning, experiences, and behaviors that have been programmed into the nervous system to automate them.
Changing behavior patterns, re-programming thought patterns, and processing emotions takes time. It also takes skill and nuance with those skills as a coach. The best way to help your clients, even those who seem "difficult," is to understand the full picture of why they are behaving/thinking/feeling the way they do with a "whole person" approach.
Often, when you are working with "difficult" clients, what you're experiencing is the stress response in the nervous system. It's not that they are difficult at all, it's just that they have a body, brain, and nervous system that is working. As a coach, this is an opportunity for you to fill in the skill or knowledge gap for your client.
What makes this worse… is if you think of them as " difficult," which is most likely not helping the situation. Anticipating difficulty will put you in a tighter and closed emotional space, making it more likely that you will push them in ways that aren't helpful or be closed off from the wisdom of what they really need.
ResistanceWhen it comes to "resistance" with clients, while this can be one of the most frustrating things for many of my coaches, it's also the most magical thing to work through! Anytime there is resistance, there is something really important underneath it. When we can be willing to lean into the resistance and learn (with the skills to do so safely with our client), that's when we can unlock some of the things that our client needs to pay the most attention to.
Before I share a story, I'll preface this by saying that a client isn't always ready (or even emotionally equipped to) lean into it. This is why the skills to understand your client and all that's coming into play for them are vital as a coach.
A Case Study: My Resistant clientI had one client years ago who was particularly resistant, that could have been percieved as a difficult client. Together, we could see this pattern over and over again in our sessions. Even worse than the resistance - she was criticizing herself for it. We decided to make space for the resistance. We decided to acknowledge it in the "room" with us, and we allowed it to be okay. This was just the starting point, but as we looked at what was underneath it, this client experienced a softening of her resistance. The topics in our sessions became more relevant to what was really going on for her. And the best part was that we started to release some of the shame that kept her shut down and feeling fearful far too often.
This is just one example, but remember that resistance is real and has a reason. When resistance is present, we can be grateful that we know where to lean. There is fear associated with it, and as skilled coaches, we can treat that fear with care.
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The Dangers of a Thought-Work Only Approach in Coaching: My Story
This week on the podcast, I'm diving deep into a topic that's close to my heart—how a thought-work only approach to coaching can be not just limiting but downright detrimental. Trust me, I don't use the word "detrimental" lightly. It's a strong term, and I'm here to unpack why I believe it's crucial to broaden our understanding of transformation beyond mere thought management.
The most important message I can give to coaches about thought workTypically, I like to keep my energy positive, but today's message carries a weight that I can't ignore. Too many mindset coaches are feeling frustrated with their thoughts, emotionally activated, or caught in a cycle of self-criticism that no amount of "mind management" seems to alleviate. If you've ever sensed that something is missing in a thought-work-only approach—whether for yourself or your clients—you are sensing something important.
I've been in that dark place personally and coached dozens of people who found themselves there too. I've witnessed firsthand how an overly simplistic focus on thoughts can lead to critical self-judgment and emotional distress. While it's always been a priority for me to help my clients soften that harsh internal dialogue and create safe practices, I'm speaking out now more than ever about what every coach must know.
The Evolution of My UnderstandingWhile I've touched on elements of this topic in the past, this week, I'm taking a stand. If you believe that thoughts are everything when it comes to transformation, it's time to reconsider. Yes, changing your thoughts is powerful. But when we use thought work in isolation, it can also be damaging. This thought work only perspective neglects vital scientific insights about how our thoughts, emotions, and nervous systems interact.
If you're feeling a bit of resistance to what I'm saying, that's okay. I understand. I once fully embraced the notion that all problems stemmed from thoughts. While I saw incredible transformations during my early coaching years, it wasn't long before I began noticing adverse effects among my clients. At first, I attributed these to a "misuse" of thought work. But the reality was more complex.
Understanding the Whole Person vs. a Thought Work Only approachThe key takeaway here is simple yet profound: not all feelings arise from thoughts. Emotions have their own narratives and are often stored within our bodies, carrying important messages. The nervous system plays a crucial role in this interplay, and a "thoughts create feelings" perspective ignores that. In fact, 80% of messages travel from our bodies to our brains, not the other way around.
For example, a sympathetic nervous system response can hijack your thinking, shutting down your prefrontal cortex—the part of your brain responsible for rational thought. This is why relying solely on thought work can backfire. Ignoring the emotional and physiological aspects of our experiences can heighten trauma responses and create a cycle of cognitive bypassing.
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Redefining success is an empowering process that leads to genuine fulfillment. By embracing internal journeys, focusing on intrinsic motivations, and valuing inherent worth, individuals can break free from societal pressures and achieve a more balanced and meaningful life.
Redefining success begins with Unlocking ConfidenceConfidence is a cornerstone of personal and professional success, yet many struggle to define or cultivate it.
Confidence and success are two words often thrown around in the world of coaching and personal development. However, their true definitions go beyond surface-level interpretations. Delving deep into these concepts can reveal profound insights and strategies essential for coaches and their clients. This blog post encapsulates a recent enlightening conversation, providing valuable takeaways for those seeking to transform their approach to confidence and success.
What is True Confidence?Confidence often feels like an elusive quality that many strive to define and cultivate. Rachel Brooks says it's not just about exterior accomplishments or outward appearances. True confidence starts within.
Rachel elaborates that real confidence is about sifting through life experiences to discern what serves us in the present moment. It's about validating what's inherently valuable and beautiful within oneself, something easily dismissed in the rush of daily life.
The Journey WithinConfidence, like many admired traits, starts from within. This journey often involves rediscovering and nurturing an inner spark that life's challenges might have dimmed. Individuals can gradually transform their external realities by focusing on what's within.
The Power of StruggleThe butterfly's struggle to escape its cocoon is a perfect analogy. This struggle is not just a hardship but a necessary process that enables the butterfly to develop strength. Similarly, life's challenges, traumas, and societal pressures shape us as individuals and can lead us to evolve into more confident and capable versions of ourselves.
Redefining SuccessThe concept of success often correlates with achievements and external validation. However, we challenge you to redefine your definition of success and focus on the importance of fulfillment.
Fulfillment is subjective and varies from person to person. It's an art that requires introspection and alignment with one's core values and purpose. Rather than working to acquire accolades, focus on finding genuine fulfillment in your daily activities. Redefining success by focusing on what brings you joy is part of how you can uniquely bring your gifts to your coaching clients and others.
About Rachel BrooksRachel Brooks is a multi-passionate entrepreneur, speaker, author, and podcaster. She founded and created "The Confident Woman," a lifestyle and media brand focused on empowering and equipping women with the tools and resources they need to create lasting change from within. Her journey and expertise provide a solid foundation for her message: true confidence comes from within, and every woman has the potential to rediscover and amplify it.
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Empowering Coaches Through Emotional Resiliency and Nervous System Mastery
Coaches today face a unique challenge in balancing their passion for helping others with the pressures of managing a business and personal life. Emotional resiliency and nervous system regulation are vital in achieving sustainable success as a business coach and in your personal life.
Understanding the Importance of Emotional Resiliency in Your Nervous SystemEmotional resiliency is more than just a buzzword; it is the foundation of effective coaching and personal development. Coaches often operate under the assumption that sheer willpower and a positive mindset can overcome any obstacle. However, emotional resiliency involves a deeper connection to oneself, recognizing and managing emotions, and building the capacity to navigate highs and lows gracefully and efficiently.
The Journey from Law to CoachingMichelle transitioned from practicing law to becoming a master coach, a journey deeply influenced by her experience with burnout during the pandemic. Her story echoes the experiences of many coaches who find themselves overworked and seeking a more balanced, impactful approach to their careers. Michelle realized that serving others while neglecting her emotional and physical well-being was not sustainable. This pivotal moment led her to explore life coaching and develop a passion for helping moms regulate their nervous systems.
The Role of the Nervous System in CoachingThe nervous system is crucial to how individuals experience and respond to stress. Learning to regulate the nervous system can transform personal and professional lives. Coaches and their clients often operate from a place of survival brain—a state where stress and fear dominate decision-making processes. By focusing on regulating the nervous system, individuals can create a sense of safety, leading to more effective communication, better decision-making, and overall well-being.
Mirror Neurons and Emotional ConnectionMirror neurons are responsible for the subconscious imitative behavior seen in humans. For example, when a person smiles or nods, those observing are likely to mimic these actions without conscious thought. This phenomenon is particularly significant in coaching and parenting, where the emotional states of coaches and parents are mirrored and internalized by clients and children.
About MichelleHey Friend, I'm Michelle. Law professor turned master life coach and podcaster with big dreams, growing kiddos, and the world's sweetest husband. I'm passionate about teaching you how to regulate your nervous system. My Mission is to support women in overcoming anxiety, overwhelm, and burnout. So, kick that mom guilt to the curb. Say goodbye to the exhaustion and overwhelm. Learn how to unlock the stress cycle. This is about a better, healthier you.
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Additional ResourcesAre you curious about improving your leadership skills? Join the Coach Certification and Leadership Training Program and not only improve your skills, but start implementing effective, long lasting change.
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How your coaching program can increase results, sales, and profits.
Have you ever noticed that the coaching industry is like the wild-wild West?!
There are no rules, and no regulations, and things can get a little out of hand to be honest. In fact, just last week I saw a coach’s sales pitch that made me sick to my stomach. The promise? To heal deep emotional wounds in 90 days or less, discouraging people from doing EMDR and other therapeutic practices that are evidence-based.
Listen, coaches, this DOES NOT need to be discouraging. We can see this as an opportunity to rise and make the coaching industry better. Educate yourself, Learn all you can. Be a safe and ethical coach. There are good reasons that Master Coach Training (and every coach training and program that I offer) is holistic. This means we are taking into account the “whole person” view of your client. When you can understand more about the nervous system, emotional processing, and safe cognitive coaching practices- you can be incredibly effective and hold your head high.
Today’s post is focused on how your unique coaching program can bring a little structure to this wild-wild west. Your program can distinguish you from the work a therapist or other mental health professional does. It can also bring clarity to your potential clients as to how you help them. Many coaches have a more “open” process and struggle to define it with a program. If this applies to you, you might be surprised at how a structured approach can be more open than you realize, while creating phenomenal results.
What is a coaching program? Why is it important? How do you get started with creating it?
In one of my signature offers, Create Your Killer Program (CYKP), I walk my clients through the process step-by-step of creating a unique program. Creating a program is much simpler than you may realize, but when so much is unknown, it can be overwhelming. Let’s talk about 5 reasons you need a clear coaching program.
Most people don’t know what coaching is. “Coaching” is a catch-all term for various types of services. Consulting, business advice, emotional processing, and mindset work; are just a few categories within the coaching umbrella. While it’s becoming more popular, you must assume that most people don’t know what you do, and (more importantly), they don’t know what it means in practical terms for them. When people feel uncertain, they won’t buy. A clear, specific program with a strong marketing offer will communicate to people what results they will get from working with you. It will take what is vague and intangible, to something much more concrete. In CYKP my clients create a clear program, but also a clear marketing statement for it - it makes all the difference!
When you sell coaching, you are selling nothing. Few people are looking for coaching, many people are looking for help in solving their problems. When you have a clear coaching program set, it helps you define and refine how you speak to your ideal clients. With no clear program outlined, many coaches find themselves stumbling over their words to explain to people what they do. This breeds insecurity, imposter syndrome, and a pile of regret and embarrassment after a conversation. A clear program gives you words to speak and a plan that your clients can understand.
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The Benefit of Client Testimonials: Capturing and Leveraging Client Results
Client testimonials are a key component to coaching success. In the ever-evolving world of coaching, creating an impactful and successful practice requires more than just passion. It involves a strategic approach to capturing and leveraging client results. This conversation delves into actionable insights on how coaches can enhance their practice by focusing on client outcomes and continuous improvement.
Embracing the Power of Client ResultsSuccessful coaching hinges on helping clients achieve tangible results. By actively showcasing these results, coaches can attract more clients and reinforce the value of their services. This process begins with a deep belief in the coaching methodologies employed. It's crucial to constantly develop and test frameworks to ensure they deliver the promised outcomes.
The Importance of Client TestimonialsSome coaches might feel uncomfortable asking for testimonials, but it's a vital step in building credibility. Establishing a formal process for requesting feedback can make this easier. Coaches can gather detailed and authentic client testimonials by embedding feedback requests within the coaching timeline, particularly during high-momentum phases.
Highlighting client successes through testimonials, especially those acquired informally and authentically, can add significant weight to a coach's reputation. Real-time grabs from client interactions or direct feedback provide credible, relatable proof of impact.
Overcoming Common PitfallsA common misstep for new coaches is seeing the conclusion of a coaching container as the end of the relationship. Continuous engagement and nurturing relationships post-container are crucial. This includes discussing future work and potential renewals throughout the coaching period. By doing so, coaches can transform what might feel like an awkward ending into a seamless continuation of service.
Building a Framework for SuccessCreating a structured coaching framework is essential. Original and proprietary methodologies set coaches apart in a crowded market. Regularly testing and refining these frameworks with real clients ensures they remain relevant and effective.
Furthermore, sharing results within and outside the coaching community via newsletters, social media, and podcasts builds trust and showcases the coach's ability to drive transformations. Just as shoppers rely on Amazon reviews, potential clients look for social proof before committing.
About AmandaAmanda is a certified Master Coach and Framework Building “Ninja.” She helps coaches grow profitable coaching businesses and create their own proprietary framework so they can stand out in a crowded industry. She’s the host of the top-ranked “Best Damn Coach” Podcast and the creator of the Framework Builder Lab and Best Damn Coach community. She’s a mama of two, wife to a fellow entrepreneur, and loves to lift weights, run, watch sports, and take naps.
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Welcome to a deep dive into the world of emotional resilience and coaching.
The ability to navigate emotions effectively is the difference between thriving in relationships, overcoming setbacks in business, and fostering deep transformations in clients' lives.
Understanding Emotional ResilienceEmotional resilience is crucial for showing up in the best way in relationships and avoiding the rollercoaster of emotions that can strain connections. It empowers individuals to handle challenges in business, moving forward confidently instead of quitting when faced with setbacks. For coaches, it ensures the delivery of transformative changes that enhance clients' well-being across various aspects of their lives.
The Importance of Emotional Resilience in Coaching ProgramsEmotional resilience is a core component woven through various training programs, whether it's basic coach certification and leadership training or advanced holistic master coach training. As life presents significant challenges, understanding the interconnection between thought patterns, behaviors, and emotions becomes imperative.
Strategies to Build Emotional Resilience1. Recognizing and Naming Emotions: Notice emotions, write them down, and vocalize them. This practice helps increase emotional capacity.
2. Utilizing EFT/Tapping: Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT), or tapping, aids in managing emotions, allowing individuals to build emotional tolerance gradually.
3. Incremental Growth: Building emotional resilience is a gradual process. It involves committing to small steps daily to expand emotional muscles, supported by effective tools and guidance.
Case Study: Transformative Power of Emotional ResilienceOne client struggled with the emotional reactivity of her child, reflecting her lack of emotional support as a child. By increasing her emotional capacity, she found more patience and understanding, leading to improved relationships at home and enhanced focus in her business. This led to a profound sense of peace, reducing stress levels in both her personal and professional life.
Resources for Further LearningA recommended resource is the book "Running on Empty" by Dr. Jonice Webb, which addresses emotional neglect and provides insights into managing one's emotional world.
Commit to Building Emotional ResilienceEnhancing emotional capacity is essential for effective leadership, coaching, and personal development. Commit to small, consistent actions to develop resilience, fostering the ability to handle emotions and create lasting change. Emotional resilience is the foundation of effective, compassionate, and impactful personal and professional life. By integrating these strategies and committing to continuous growth, the journey toward resilience begins today.
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