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Often we think that if someone makes us mad we should withhold love from that person. When we withhold love from someone, the main person that suffers is us. Sometimes, they don’t even know we are upset.
We think we can make the other person suffer by withholding love and maybe even get them to change their behavior. Love is always a choice. It doesn’t make us permissive or weak, it is amazing.
We can choose to love people despite how they show up and behave. Choosing love makes us be the person we want to be.
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The moment we think someone should be different than they are, we end up feeling frustrated and then we show up in a way that we cannot listen, we are not patient, we are not the mom or the leader we want to be.
We create so much suffering in our lives by expecting others to be different. We have instruction manuals for how people should behave. Much to our disappointment, people are people and will do what they want. If you want to improve your relationships at work and home, learning how to let this expectation go is the key.
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We live in a world fraught with distractions. We are often multitasking and not being present in any of the tasks.
We go to meetings and on physically present but not mentally there. We are around our kids and family but aren't really connected in the moment.
Maya Angelo says, "people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
When I ask myself how I want to show up for people, it is around being present. I know I cannot directly control how I make people feel, since they have brains making up stories just like mine about other people and the world around us. But I do want to show up in a way where I am present, because then it is more likely that people feel connected, they get more of the best of me.
Learn how to practice being less distracted and more present.
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Many of us often struggle with feelings of inadequacy, believing we are not good enough, smart enough, or capable enough. Consequently, our minds search for proof to validate these insecurities. However, this is a thought error and not accurate.
The truth is, we are sufficient – good enough, smart enough, and capable enough. It's crucial to recognize these thought errors and look for the evidence that supports our worthiness. This evidence is always present because it reflects the truth. We are capable.
Our minds practice believing we are worthy. Developing this skillet helps us face challenges such as receiving criticism or failing.
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When you look at your calendar do you sigh with exhaustion? Do you feel dread when you see all the meetings ahead. We all need to be more conscious with our time and get to where we feel confident and committed when we see our calendar for the week. We disappoint ourselves all the time so we don’t disappoint others. We need to shift this so we are reliable to our own commitments. This build self trust.
Learning how to plan your week to be productive is a super power. Let's all move from being busy to being productive. You will be able to get more done than you think.
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Do you feel overwhelmed? Burned out? Too many meetings or things on your to-do list that never get done.
Time is the most precious resource we have and yet we often let others dicate how we use our time. Learning how to idenitfy all the ways we waste time is a huge step in learning how to manage your time to get everything you want done.
Listen in to part 1 or a two part series so you can stop feeling overwhelmed or burned out.
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Preparing for job interviews can be overwelming and unpleasant, but it doesn't have to be. Most of the time we update our resume with our list of all our projects and job titles, but we miss the most important part. We miss asking ourself why all those project and jobs mattered? What capability did we get out of those roles? What were the struggles and what did it teach us that helps make us an ideal candidate for this role?
Listen in for how to prepare for the interview and what to do when you are full of self doubt.
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We probably all want to be more self confident, but what does that actually mean and how do you get more self confidence?
Self confidence is made up of three parts: trusting yourself, being willing to experience any emotion (even the negative ones), and your opinion of yourself.
Listen in on how to practice being more self confident.
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When life gives you lemons, what do you do? Our default is to go into self pity and wallow. To blame others around us. Usually it looks like, "if only.........." things had been different or they had been different. And living from this place takes us away from being our best self. Learn how to catch yourself in self pity and stop missing out on life's opportunities to grow and be more of who we are.
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We are obsessed with labeling everything around as good or bad. We waste so much energy on this and it doesn't serve us as all. For example, people call us a name or are late for a meeting, we often make it mean, "this is bad" or "they are bad" when really it is just nuetral and we get to decide what we do about it. We get to choose our response.
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We waste a lot of time because we solve symptons of problems and not the root of a problem. To be more efficient with out time, we must ask better questions. Learn why we have lost the art of asking great questions, how to ask great questions, and why it matters.
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Book referenced in the podcast for great examples of questions by Warren Berger.
A More Beautiful Question
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So often we feel the need to come up with an excuse that is good enough to convince people so we can do what we really want. We worry so much about what others will think of us. We want them to like us, so we end up trying to do things or say things that please them. We end up being what other people want us to be instead of being our authentic self. FInd out how to stop people pleasing and how to no longer feel the need to give excuses.
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Most of us want to improve in our roles, yet actually getting good feedback is rare and when we do recieve feedback it can be terrifying.
How do we recieve feedback in a why that enables us to ask more questions?
How do we actually get quality feedback?
Listen and find out.
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We often dread having tough conversations, yet building up this skillset can save us time, energy, and build connection with others. Having a tough conversation requires us to check in with our reasons about why we want to have the conversation. Once you master this skillset you will have less conversations because you will realize how many conversations come from wanting to change someone so you feel better. And the conversations you do have, will build trust and connection.
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We all crave to feel better. We want more connection, more joy, more love in our lives but we are solving it backward. We end up creating more of what we do not want. Listen to hear how to feel better.
Download your worksheet here: https://theschoolofcourage.com/s/How-To-Feel-Better-Worksheet.pdf
Reach out if you want more help.
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Making decisions can be stressful. We often belive this lie that there is a "right decision" and a "wrong decision" which holds us back and wastes a bunch of our time. Find out how to make clean decisions by getting clear on your reasons, knowing what the feeling is behind your reason, and having your own back after you make the decision.
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As leaders and as parents we want to be more self-aware, but not one teaches us about how. Listen to find out how to practice becoming more self-aware through starting to understand about emotions. Emotions are our super power if we know how to use them.
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We often find ourselves very annoyed at others and wanting them to stop doing something or do something different. Listen to how you can stop being annoyed using curiosity.
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We have this false notion that we should never make mistakes or fail, so when we do fail, we beat ourselves up. Beating yourself is not helpful. It does not help you do better next time. It makes you withdraw and waste a lot of energy. To be our best self, we need to learn to talk to ourselves like someone we love.
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Being a mom is hard enough and then we go and add having a career on top of it all. We so often feel like we arent doing either one well. Listen today to hear about how to be both a great mom and have an impactful career.